So yeah this is me. I most definitely am Autistic. I spent most of my life depressed and crying wondering what the hell was wrong with me. It really does feel better to know (now that I’m 42). I’m a PRO at masking unfortunately. I’ve done so my whole life.
@terrimeakin-rosario9189 Жыл бұрын
same.
@lindat7525 Жыл бұрын
Exactly the same, but for a couple decades longer. Masking nearly ended my life. Figuring out that I was autistic really saved me.
@libbylandscape3560 Жыл бұрын
Me too, I hit just about every one of the markers I’ve ever seen for women. At least I now know and understand why it’s been so difficult and can accept myself instead of worrying & thinking I’d done something wrong.
@hellequinm Жыл бұрын
Same, just found out recently at 35. When I started to have a feeling that it would be much easier to just not exist, always though it can't be this hard to live. I'm currently very well professionally, my boss likes my job, the company value me. But I just don't have a life outside work, because I can't function so much. I went to get assessment because it can't just be like this, regular people don't seem to struggle living as much as I do. I got my results and yes, I'm in the spectrum. I have very high IQ on functioning, execution is quick, that explains why I do perform very well at my job. But everything else is just a mess. Knowing that I'm in the spectrum I could finally breath, a huge weight was taken from my shoulders, I'm not a bad person, I'm just different and now I know what and how... It didn't make anything easier or better, but I just don't feel like a terrible human being anymore.
@eefgilbert9468 Жыл бұрын
I have had suspicions of being on the spectrum but always held off on getting an official diagnosis. Most of my resistance has to do with me not wanting to “have an excuse”. I mean does it really help to know? I can’t imagine it changing a thing about how I feel about myself or interact with the world.
@jennasink8743 Жыл бұрын
All very true! However, the eye contact is something that can be masked, often even subconsciously. I never thought eye contact was a problem for me, but it turns out I’ve been getting away with a lot less eye contact than is typical. I glance at the eyes and then look away, look at the nose or mouth, etc. You can fly under the radar as long as you’re meeting their eyes once in a while.
@denisetirs267 Жыл бұрын
That's how I do it as well. 😁
@libbylandscape3560 Жыл бұрын
Yep, except when I’m super ticked off at someone, then they get a stare so hard they look & back away.
@curiouscanuck Жыл бұрын
Four out of five are me. I have no problem making eye contact and have been accused of staring people down in an effort to figure them out or simply daydreaming. Love your channel.
@Agnethatheredhairkid Жыл бұрын
At 10, a child psychiatrist branded me 'idle and naughty'. Finally diagnosed at 57. The collecting and obsessive interest things really hit home. I collect cuddly toys, snowglobes and meerkat memorabilia. I am obsessed with pagodas and the Golden Gate Bridge but my chief obsession is the Swedish rock musician and singer Tomas Ledin.
@raniyuna2930 Жыл бұрын
More I watch your videos, more I have feeling that I am Asperger without official diagnosis. I always had extremely passion for breeding rats and people around felt tired, how I spoke hours about it. And then collcting...I collect stickers, gitters, feathers and then I use it on my art.😅 Friendships... I feel overhelmed by feelings if I am with people. And I don't know how to lead conversations about common stuff.
@TheAspieWorld Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the comment!
@Lady.Fern. Жыл бұрын
My parents started to accuse me of doing drugs because of how irritable and sleepy I was when I would get home from school. I would fall asleep on the recliner as soon as I got home only to be awoken to them scolding me about drugs and then I would obviously become super defensive and it would escalate quickly, was just a freaking mess.
@denisetirs267 Жыл бұрын
I really like you videos and presentation style. I am a self-diagnosed autistic female. I think I would be aspie if they hadn't merged it all in the DSM5. The traits I have that cause me the most trouble are being naive and believing pretty much whatever anyone says. Another issue is my ridiculously long emotional processing time. It can take me between hours and years for things to click into place. Until it clicks it all floats around in my head as unconnected bits of information, especially in relation to abusive incidents. Thanks for presenting this topic!
@NatAndKaii Жыл бұрын
i relate to this comment so much!!
@libbylandscape3560 Жыл бұрын
Me too, I’ve had a hard time training myself to not be so trusting.
@JasonNapalm72 Жыл бұрын
I am waiting on my Autism diagnosis aged 51 and it was shocking to be told I am highly likely to be on the spectrum but it has made sense and brought me some closure.
@sinead8416 Жыл бұрын
I laughed when you said obsessive interests and collections. Soooo me. Just got my pre assessment papers through
@death057 Жыл бұрын
yup this is me. obsessive about art and I collect everything that has to do with the art supplies that I would use for whatever kind of art that I am obsessed with.
@PutingPinoy Жыл бұрын
I am going in for my Intake for Autism evaluation! I am excited to get some answers. I have adhd
I went undiagnosed till 36 years young. When born they thought i had mental slowness but i was gifted and no one investigated further. I am also an empath and things are quite complex. I feel so much but dont always understand. Thanks for raising awareness! ASD is SO DIFFERENT in females! -Yes I collect animal bones, crystals, candles, and lace items! -So obsessed with astrology and magick -Master masker here, where is my academy award? Being an empath masking is easy but exhusts me after a week or day, I shut down. No one gets it.
@KCKmaltese Жыл бұрын
Same here! Hugs to you.
@libbylandscape3560 Жыл бұрын
Yep, is it them or me? Sometimes it’s hard to tell but over time it’s gotten easier to tell which energy isn’t mine. At this point in my life I prefer to avoid people unless I have to go out for some reason, just got tired of being around them for longer than 30-ish minutes…which I guess is my introvert re-charging time, I much prefer my quiet life at home.
@iceprincess2132 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this information. When I was 13, I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder, generalized anxiety, and possible Aspergers. It wasn't until I was 27 that I was officially diagnosed with high functioning ASD and dysthymia. More people need to be aware to help their loved ones and friends.
@xrdmx893 Жыл бұрын
Hey, just found your channel and am on the road to get some proper assessments. It’s 4/5 for me. I don’t think I have a problem with eye contact, in fact, I do remember classmates in elementary school getting mad at me for intensely staring at them for no apparent reason. I’m in my early 20’s and looking back at my childhood and adolescence through the autism lens is so obvious now. I still have my collection of the Diary of a Wimpy Kid & Dork Diaries book series, I had an intense obsession with One Direction in middle school which I faced tons of bullying for, and now that I’m in college, being there from 5-8h every weekday is immensely exhausting because of the unintentional masking. I’ve taken ASD/ADHD as my special interest now and have been researching nonstop so, thank you for this.
@tbombtv2988 Жыл бұрын
Yes! I still have all my stuffed animals from childhood. I collect bc rich guitars and basses, I’m an artist, I have like 1 immediate friend because all the others have fallen away for one reason or the other, I suck at relationships, I mask a lot. I prefer to be alone rather than in a company of 2 or more. I don’t like when others show up unannounced. Can’t stand intimacy. Severely dyslexic /dyscalculia, a.d.d., ocd to a point, I stim quite a bit. I’m newly diagnosed at age 46. I’ve had a rough life with it sort of in the sense, it’s hard to keep friends, lovers, and til recently, it was not acknowledged in girls, so I was just seen as having lots of “problems”. You know the list if you’re familiar with autism in girls. And the medications they had me on for so long. Smh.
@JasonNapalm72 Жыл бұрын
Since I learnt how to read body language and facial expressions, I have become more adept at looking at people on the face, but it is really uncomfortable and I only tend to do it if I am sussing a person out or trying to read their intentions or honesty.
@Daesma999 Жыл бұрын
Just today I finally called the psychiatrist, so I hope I'll get the diagnosis. You should see the amount of stones I have in my flat, haha.
@elizabethsullivan7176 Жыл бұрын
I used to go to the beach all of the time when I was a kid and at night we would go for walks along the shore. I always came home with all the beach rocks I could carry. Most of them are still in the back yard at my parents house.
@carlagcortes Жыл бұрын
i checked the 5 boxes. im aspie, i collect dolls since im a a baby, im obssessed with horror movies and black metal music, i have still my fav stuffed animals in the closet from my childhood and carry mi teddy bear everywhere i go in my purse, congrats Dan you rock man!
@NicoleMC2023 Жыл бұрын
My 8 year old daughter was just diagnosed a few weeks ago. I had been told she may not get the diagnosis till she was at least in middle school by doctors, but luckily, we got a great evaluator! All of these are definitely accurate for her, especially the collecting and masking!
@hannah51238 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, this is absolutely me. I can maintain eye contact for a bit, it also depends on what we're talking about and how intense the conversation is
@breezybee777 Жыл бұрын
Now I know that it doesn't have to be exact. I have a hard time making friends but I also have a group of friends since like elementary. I'm almost 23 and we are still going strong! I'm not sure if I'm autistic but all the other traits fit me very well.
@TheAspieWorld Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the comment!
@victoriam9337 Жыл бұрын
I’m 52, I was diagnosed about 10 years ago. I really enjoy the information in your videos and your presentation. Happy 2023!
@DemiAmucaArt Жыл бұрын
I rarely come across a video SOOOOOO relatable! I'm undiagnosed and since discovering your channel so much things in my life and about myself started to make way more sense and this video feels like a confirmation for me because I do and did all those 5 things! (I learned to mask less which really helps my energy levels) Guess I even had my psychologist fooled when I got treated for depression, she was supposedly a pro at female autism but never took my question about that seriously. The normie world really sucks most of the time.
@hafpipe Жыл бұрын
I'm autistic (diagnosed aspergers a few years ago in my late 30's). I can keep eye contact when someone is talking to me, but I have to look away when I start talking as my mind wouldn't be able to find the right words or think properly otherwise. Emotions: it's difficult for me to recognise or understand my own emotions. It can take months to understand what happened and how I felt about a difficult/emotional event.
@libbylandscape3560 Жыл бұрын
It took a therapist to help me to understand my emotions by helping me to name them. When something came up she asked me what the name of my emotion was but I drew a blank, so she’d toss out a few words and then I’d be able to pick the best that fit, and before long I was putting names to my emotions and by that action I was able to figure out & dive into how I felt about it. Over time it let me see & decide if I liked/didn’t like something, if it was abusive, or not, etc, instead of blindly going along just to avoid being punished, beaten, or losing my home (particularly traumatic to a small kid). She diagnosed me with PTSD because of the severe abuse in my first 24 yrs where I’d blocked all my feelings in order to survive. She used EMDR therapy if you’re interested, I forget what the letters stand for but it’s extremely effective, produces results in a shorter time than conventional therapy, and gave me lasting techniques that I still use today. It’s an easy web search, and Psychology Today has some nice articles on it. Good luck & take care.
@DHgirl Жыл бұрын
I check all 5 of these 100% I only just begain to examine myself and the more I learn the more my whole life makes sense. I want to get evaluated but I am also afraid too as well
@annadayknight Жыл бұрын
I used to have a collection of collections as a girl and became obsessed with getting over 100 collections, so yeah this reeeeeally resonates 😂
@libbylandscape3560 Жыл бұрын
Yep, same. I have to control myself and put a hard stop when I feel myself getting into that “want/Need!” frenzy because it fits into things that I have, and I’ve had to get rid of collections (do to circumstances outside my control) and accept it & learn to let it go mentally….then there are some things that I’ll probably never let go of, probably be buried with, probably have their neatly organized plastic cases crammed into my casket with me. 😂😂😂😂😂
@imtheeternalscholar Жыл бұрын
I’m extremely deaf, (30% total hearing, which I reckon is awesome! I can still hear!) so I lip read. I didn’t even know that I was autistic until my youngest was diagnosed with autism and ADHD and promptly told me that they got it from me! So I researched, researched, researched! No one tells me my child has something without me diving deep to understand what they mean. So then I researched what Autism was and came across tests for it. Turns out I too am on the spectrum. And ADHD as well!😳 It explained alot!
@lixjoonhoneymt7149 Жыл бұрын
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD as a older teen girl. My closest friend has ADHD, and through our conversations, i realized that some of my symptoms that i thought were a result of my ADHD weren’t relatable to my friend. I understand that that’s possible, not everyone has the same symptoms, but I still felt like something was off, after research of my own I learned that most of these were very big symptoms with Autism. I hope that I can get started on the process of possibly getting a diagnosis, because the more videos I watch, the more I realize that I most likely am on the Spectrum. 1. Lack of Eye Contact yes, just yes, since childhood I’ve struggled with eye contact, people don’t realize because I trained myself to look into eyes (i unfocus and zone out my eyes) because my parents don’t like it when i don’t make eye contact with them. 2. Issues with keeping friends I’ve struggled for a long time to keep friends, but it’s more keeping close friends. I have a few who understand me, but most people don’t relate to me on a closer level. 3. Collecting I’m poor so I can’t collect everything I want. But I try to. So i collect Art that I’ve made (even when i dislike my skills). Before we lost them when moving, I had a collection of dozens of stuffed animals that i had since childhood, I also have every single blanket that I have used since childhood. Books are also a huge collection of. Even if I don’t read them, I want every single in the the series before I start reading. 4. Obsessive Interest I have a few obsessive Interests, but most last for years. my bigs ones - Korean Culture - Photography and Art - Writing - Software and Computer Engineering 5. Masking Discovering this symptom is what triggered my thought thought that i probably have ASD, i mask too much to talk about my different examples i just registered that I probably overshared… but i don’t wanna delete what I wrote, so i’ll keep it. TLDR; I have ADHD, and I think I have Autism, my ADHD and possible ASD went rampant and i rambled about my examples of each behavior… yikes
@EliCrousey Жыл бұрын
ALLLLLL OF THE ABOVE!!! Finally figuring it out and learning my patterns of energy and burnout.
@relentlessrhythm2774 Жыл бұрын
I am a big time collector and I am glad this one got a mention!
@RandomH-xe5el Жыл бұрын
HIT THE NAIL DAN!!
@curiouskitteh8215 Жыл бұрын
This was great, it def has me wondering about myself. I do have adhd and know there are a few things in common w autism tho
@maggierestivo5256 Жыл бұрын
This is me. Would come home from school exhausted and moody. The eye thing is tricky and this is where I most likely did most of my masking, as I was brought up to be polite, as a child in the 60's and 70's, when people would become angry and say, "Look at me when I'm talking to you!!!". (Oddly, I am finding that I can become exhausted from Zoom meetings very quickly because of having to make eye contact and people constantly staring back at you.) Collecting? Yep. Obsessions? Yep. Everything on the list is me.
@Valeria-ct2vi Жыл бұрын
I haven’t been officially diagnosed with ASD, but these traits are the story of my life.
@nicolettehare3322 Жыл бұрын
My collections have been bottles, books, and fabric. I’m obsessed with earthquakes and volcanic eruptions related to solar radiation from the sun 😅I’m definitely a catastophizer. I’m social but then I’m exhausted. All the things while my ADHD makes my interests change a lot. But I do keep going back around to each interest so that’s good. I don’t think my ADHD/ASD is a superpower like some people claim. It’s hard on relationships. Between my husband (ADHD) and my girls- most same as me. I sound like a broken record when I write my responses. I keep repeating the same things but it’s just hard to adjust.
@LH-Oz Жыл бұрын
I only got diagnosed 3 years ago at 33 years old. My suspicions arose about myself when my son was diagnosed 10 years ago at age 3. I wish I knew earlier, it has completely and utterly changed my whole way of life. I have always struggled to keep friends growing up, always struggled to connect with other females (always had more guy friends) and I masked for so many years. But I’ve given up on masking now, I just flat out tell people when I’m not coping and it has made life a whole lot easier, because it means that my anxiety is kept better at bay. I feel so sorry for any young girls who are clearly on the spectrum but do not get diagnosed because of their parents naivety/ ignorance and denying that anything is “wrong” or “different” with their child. I am Australian and there is still strong prejudice against people with ASD because of a lack of education. It saddens me so much for all these children, especially girls who are better at hiding it and adults alike who go through life confused. After being witness to my son being bullied continuously from 3 years of age by his peers, it is heartbreaking as a parent, but also knowing that it is probably so much worse for those who don’t get diagnosed and get the help they need to fit better into society because of their parents.
@In_DEPPTH Жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing awareness my daughter has Asperger’s it took 13 years to diagnose
@TheAspieWorld Жыл бұрын
Oh no way!! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).
@In_DEPPTH Жыл бұрын
@@TheAspieWorld I have been subscribed on Facebook for a while now but just got in here
@eleanortaylor4785 Жыл бұрын
I love how u said we may collect all the books of twilight😂😂that’s exactly what I did even though I don’t read! Got the box set twice and I used to re watch a million times
@fullerexplanations7872 Жыл бұрын
You have a great channel! I am happy to see more of what I call "Healthy Autism Awareness" than the "Toxic" kind that I am starting to see pop up on Facebook forums. Facebook forums on this subject seem to be slowly dominated by people who do not like it when people use the term "spectrum" or "high functioning" because it can trigger or offend those whom are not or family members of those who are not "high functioning". There are some who are blending Autism with transgenderism (not that someone can not be both but they seem to connecting the two in extreme ways) and to join their Facebook forums there are so many rules they want you to agree to and follow. One group wants you to get permission to "like" something first before "liking" it! I understood the no "laughing" emoticon even if meant in good spirit because it could be taken the wrong way. But so many rules seem so extreme that honestly they were triggering me which it seems they are trying to avoid triggering everyone but people with my POV. So many of these forums seem to be hyper political also. It is a shame. Glad to see common sense POV of this topic presented on KZbin and hope to see more of this on Facebook as well.
@libbylandscape3560 Жыл бұрын
Wow. One of the reasons I left FB a few yrs ago. A big annoyance were that some groups, such as for empaths/sensitives, turned out to be highly regulated where posts were allowed only if they agreeable with the mods: favored their pov, were flattering to them, not that anyone wasn’t, but questioning them or not agreeing w/them was verboten…then suddenly the questioner’s posts would vanish, never be approved. Another big empath group turned out to be a happy point of sales for the owner/author for her books, papers, tours, events, etc. We were still active chatting, provided we stuck to her rules on allowed subjects…until the day I realized that the whole thing was cleverly crafted around us being exposed to and guided into the purchasing of her products. 😖
@fullerexplanations7872 Жыл бұрын
@@libbylandscape3560 A bit off topic but still adjacent to it lol is the fact that one group or I should say a series of groups that are supposed to be fans of the shows: Chicago Fire, Chicago PD, and Chicago MD are all just created by scammers with phishing posts that say something like "If you love your mother prove it, what's her birthday?" and another wanting to see if you remember the first car you ever drove and your favorite teacher and street you grew up on... all obvious questions one would find on a security question section by people's bank or investment institution etc. And I would warn people about this and they would thank me then a week or so later they would post answers to phishing questions again! They never learn and it is very irritating!
@booklover8546 Жыл бұрын
1. Yes 2. Yes 3. Yes 4. Yes 5. Yes Gonna get looking into getting assessed next week Update: getting looked into on 17th February 2023, so nervous x
@LunarCrystal07 Жыл бұрын
Been on this train for a few years now, with a big question mark above my head. Finally scheduled an official assessment for February. I finally hit my hardest wall last year, and it's time for some answers. Speaking on the collecting of things - I made sure to come home from school every day so I could hit record on the VCR for my favorite TV show. In sequential order. Neatly labeled and stored on a shelf in my room. 96 episodes 1 hr episodes, 5 on each tape. I was very proud of that collection. One of many, of course.
@WildBarfMan Жыл бұрын
My gf is an Aspie. It was really quite easy to see through her mask because I know what to look for. Also I could ask questions that gave the answers without her knowing what I was looking for. After a couple conversations, I asked what she knew about AS and told her what I suspected. She was quite relieved to know she was “broken” like me. ( Reference to Broken by Lovelytheband ) So it’s been a bumpy ride at times but we get along quite well for the most part. No manual for 2 Aspies but we learned to let out our disagreements and move on. Holding them in does no good. It’s a relief for both of us to be with someone that we can be who we are and not worry about it. Now she knows how to see through the masks too. She could hide her AS from experienced psychologists. As for learning, we relate to each other what we learn on top of what we learn on our own. Its so easy for us and damn difficult at times. Confused? Nah. It works for us. You can’t learn much about autism from NT’s.
@maevekennedy3909 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like me, except for the super focus on one thing. I tend to focus on multiple things-- virtually Everything is interesting.
@TheAspieWorld Жыл бұрын
Interesting! Thank you so much for the comment!
@tinawells2082 Жыл бұрын
Oh my stars, absolutely! I can relate to all of these. I have collections of collections and get totally obsessed with the stuff I'm interested it 😁 Eye contact, I have learnt to watch people's lips while they talk or I take masking to the extreme and stare at folk 😂 I'm very much a loner and don't get me started on number 5! 🤪
@sallyhamilton7202 Жыл бұрын
Collections! (Looks around room, sees about 600+ dog figurines. Goes in kitchens sees about 100+ chicken figurines. Goes in bathroom, sees about 50 frog figurines. Goes down hallway, sees about 2000 DVD's. Knows that upstairs is EVERY BOOK I've ever owned. Yeah... I may collect a few things. And I suspect I AM autistic!
@learning.7 Жыл бұрын
your videos are good. i am a older women, i go in feb for assesment. ive watched a few videos, which have helped over the last few months, im so Anxious about going.
@AnnafromHungarylvNW Жыл бұрын
Dan, you hit the nail on the head, I totally get what you're saying. This is my kid or this is me.
@JoshPhoenix11 Жыл бұрын
Why is the girl in the thumbnail image making the Illuminati/Freemason Hidden Eye hand pose?
@aBatwoman Жыл бұрын
Did he sell his soul?
@crystalsotelo9912 Жыл бұрын
Totally me! On all these… not diagnosed… need to be though!
@benicioaviles5040 Жыл бұрын
I have autistic male friends and female friends too.
@sueannevangalen5186 Жыл бұрын
🤣 I used to keep a scrapbook with all the magazine clippings and information I could find about Christian Slater. And I still know a lot of little facts about him to this day.
@kathleenadams4978 Жыл бұрын
With me, it's kangaroos. 🤦 I still like them, too. I know more than any non-professional needs to know about them.
@lucyburns7249 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely love this, I'm diagnosed & my collections is shoes & coats. Obsessive interest is crossfit, i absolutely love crossfit and all I talk about!
@stephenbell8755 Жыл бұрын
Losing friends and Obsessive Interest and Masking
@Blackpink_kpop_lover154 ай бұрын
1. Lack of eye contact 2. Issues keeping friends 3. Collecting things 4. Obsessive interests 5. Masking to overload
@louiseherron3644 Жыл бұрын
My insane rock collection makes so much more sense now. I have so much attachment to them
@territhomas16369 ай бұрын
I can see myself in all these traits you spoke about.
@kailajohnson2072 Жыл бұрын
I want to get a diagnosis so bad. I collect stuffed animals. I’m obsessed with learning about psychology, I’ve always struggled with keeping friends, and I get super drained after socialization. It’s so hard to cope with life these days. I really do think I have autism -
@norapetty3355 Жыл бұрын
4:43 Friday 13 Good-evening I am Nora age 48 from 🇺🇸 mother of a High Functioning Artistic, Thank You for your videos.
@TheAspieWorld Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@Wings91 Жыл бұрын
Excellent video, as always. Thank you❤️
@caitlinbickings4454 Жыл бұрын
So I am not a hoarder? Makes a whole lot more sense!
@kathymiller2551 Жыл бұрын
Yep that’s me. 72 yrs old.
@lindaversil1121 Жыл бұрын
I have all five. In the 1970’s all through my childhood and teens I was obsessed with Judy garland. Collected all her records and books about her and pictures of her New every detail of her life.
@laurahoman7083 Жыл бұрын
Oh yeah, that's me. When I was in junior high, I would come home from school and fall asleep every day because the masking added to the usual hormonal chaos of that age was so unbelievably exhausting. When I was 15, my mom took me to see a doctor, who decided I was lazy and said I needed to get a job -- so wrong, even for 1980. And SO MANY collections of SO MANY things.
@NerdyNanaSimulations Жыл бұрын
All 5 100% me, grew up thinking I was broken. Took me half my life to decide I was just going to be me and if no one liked me oh well. My longest lived friendships were with guys, female friendships were very short lived, longest was a year.. Just now figuring out why I was like this as when I was a kid Autism was boys who handflapped and were mostly non-verbal. At my age it makes no sense to pursue diagnosis but it's nice to know I was never broken, just different. Never knew the word masking, but I often referred to myself as a chameleon, never understood why I was exhausted all the time. I still do it when I work in a regular job so I work gig work whenever possible because I can control the environment most of the time. Another is hyper analyzing conversations, sometimes from years ago, trying to figure out what I could have said or done differently. Love your videos, you help a lot of people. Blessings
@eloisepharmacist Жыл бұрын
90' trolls 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Eye contact - no-one notices because I learnt to mask it by always lip reading!!
@tinawells2082 Жыл бұрын
I watch people's lips when they talk too 😁
@tjs0067 Жыл бұрын
I have masked most of life without knowing. I was diagnosed at 50. I can look unto people eyes, can hug people.
@stephenlane80 Жыл бұрын
My 6 yo daughter has been diagnosed with autism, she is obsessed with the encanto movie, we watch it every night together, it's very soothing, wait maybe I have autism too!
@shaybaby512 Жыл бұрын
wow I do a bit of this list... guess I have some question for therapy next.
@tammymarshall4898 Жыл бұрын
If I'm super over stimulated and have been out for 4 hours or more. When I come home I usually throw up. I don't drink so I know it's no that. Anxiety makes me sick 🤢
@roughroadstudio Жыл бұрын
Might be GERD, it's very common to have digestive disorders with autism. Something like Pepcid might help, but that drug has been found to have dangerous long term side effects. It could be used to see if stops the nausea. I'm sorry you have to suffer like that, I did too when younger. It might be a vasovagal response to anxiety. One thing that also helps me is those plastic wrist bands that have the button that goes over the acupressure point on the inside of your wrist. I wear those now when I have to travel and they help a LOT.
@tammymarshall4898 Жыл бұрын
@@roughroadstudio The throwing up is definitely from over stimulation. I can't even describe that part of it as anxiety. But alot of anxiety can also cause it. I have had stomach issues my whole life and I'm allergic or sensitive to foods. But that's a whole other issue.
@roughroadstudio Жыл бұрын
@Tammy Marshall Same here with food sensitivities. I hope you can figure out how best to support your body!
@tammymarshall4898 Жыл бұрын
@@roughroadstudio It took a long time to figure out. But with time and testing I have it figured out. Allergic to eggs whites and milk. Plus other sensitivities..Like Bananas , bell peppers and MSG.
@roughroadstudio Жыл бұрын
@Tammy Marshall Are we related?! Pretty much sane. If sensitive to eggs = maybe chicken too. Took me way too long to figure that out. 🤦♀️
@elizabethsullivan7176 Жыл бұрын
Collecting things (when I was little I loved collecting those little cups that the milk/cream comes in at restaurants), obsessively following pop stars (or in my case rock bands), uncomfortable with eye contact, yep, all me. I've never been very good with masking though, It is too exhausting to keep a mask on all day, so I don't bother. I don't have any friends, unless you count my husband and two daughters. I prefer to be at home with my computer and video games, listening to music. I believe one of my daughters is also autistic because she has a lot of these characteristics too, she gets obsessed with pop stars/actors, and likes to collect things, like magazines and make up. I feel so much better mentally since getting my diagnosis this past October.
@Stephanie-id7vr Жыл бұрын
Thank you Dan 💛
@DogLover1718 Жыл бұрын
Yes I love getting dog plushes and they just sit on my shelves 😂
@Emily-K1096 Жыл бұрын
Recently been thinking this could be me. A girl I know who’s diagnosed said I should look into it as I seem like I could be. I’ve always had trouble staying in contact with friends, I hate texting and phone calls, they make me so anxious, and this has definitely caused problems in the past. I don’t speak to anyone from high school and I only left 2 years ago. Looking back I’ve definitely been masking as in school I was always a bit of a people pleaser and acted very differently around different people. I struggle understanding social cues and never understand hidden meanings in words people say. I’m too literal for my own good 😅. I always tend to relate to neurodivergent people way more than neurotypicals as well. I’ve bitten my nails and picked the skin round my nails since I was a kid too, heard that was a trait too. I’m a picky eater, textures and strong smells bother me especially. Like I hate the texture of bananas but I like banana flavoured stuff. I hate eggs because I can’t stand the smell and it completely puts me off. I’ve collected 50p coins (UK has different designs, often made for special occasions like the Olympics or an anniversary of something) and so many book series. I’m often found repeating myself and telling people the same things about stuff I’m interested in and when people tell stories to me I end up telling them something similar I’ve done rather than relating to them or comforting them. Guess I’m gonna have to look into it more but honestly it won’t surprise if I am. Sorry for the very long post
@theoriginalpublicnewsense Жыл бұрын
Doesn't it depend on severity as to what traits they have?
@books_2_movies Жыл бұрын
Yep, this is me. Habitually duck eye contact; friends come and go but are never lost/forgotten; have over 300 bottles of nail polish, over 50 hair clips/ties/headbands; live and breathe Game of Thrones; masked my whole life and still do when the occasion calls for it, but mostly I'm too lonery to have to go to the trouble.
@booklover8546 Жыл бұрын
Literally me: I can’t hold eye contact coz it hurts, friends come and go too, I have collections of books and actually take pity on rubbish or anything with a face on it 😂 and collect so much stuff, live and breathe crime stuff whether it’s true or not and masked my whole life too.
@autistuck3688 Жыл бұрын
GoT!!!!!!!!🙌🫵 you are awesome whoever you are!!!!👏
@Sendloveinstead5 ай бұрын
I’m suprised you didn’t note that it’s also the same for the opposite. Meaning too much eye contact that makes someone uncomfortable also is an autism trait because a lot of us forced ourselves for so long
@zinzimashibini2949 Жыл бұрын
Yes, this is me.
@joleneescobar3811 Жыл бұрын
So if this is all correct, I might be on the spectrum. I have all 5.
@sandrinegowie6115 Жыл бұрын
It's me, my husband ans our son :D We are diagnosed since 2019 :)
@angelplaysyt3095 Жыл бұрын
My room is literally a time capsule. I still have most of the stuff I had when I was younger, even my blanket from before I was born xD Also, the rest is all there. My doctor won't believe me though. Immediately dismissed me. ☹️
@StrayKaths Жыл бұрын
100 % me. But I'm not autistic. "Just" an introvert who has ADHD.
@Earth_sign2722 Жыл бұрын
Does my box of birthday cards collected for the past 20 years count in that?
@4aneme8R Жыл бұрын
Autism is common in the Transgender community. One therapist I questioned at WPATH commented she felt that the incidence was 40 times the norm in the population particularly with the F to M.
@susanbennett9293 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for what you do. I have an adult son on the spectrum who is doing very. I believe my step daughter is on the spectrum as well but do you masking since she was a small child it’s been a difficult path. Any input or advice is welcomed on how to deal with her isolation and social anxiety.
@licoricesirrah1884 Жыл бұрын
This is soooo ME!!
@jasonclarke7422 Жыл бұрын
How is this different to the male Autism traits? Especially with men like myself that have had late a diagnosis of ASD in our 40s, as we had managed to mask it so well. I can relate to all the issues that you have mentioned in your video.
@beeasmr6235 Жыл бұрын
my mom sent me this (and another one) shout out mama
@katerinastrange1085 Жыл бұрын
My mom bribed me to take my medicine with a beanie baby. I had to do it all week or month to get it.
@Jamieleanne1985 Жыл бұрын
I collect hobbies!
@Diamondgirlz8 Жыл бұрын
I got told I might be autistic but it was a 5year waiting list to get diagnosed and I couldn’t be under the mental health team during that time? Why?
@openlybookish Жыл бұрын
I wonder if there is a connection between cerebral palsy and autism?
@dreaa29 Жыл бұрын
I have all of these traits my two daughters do as well I tried to get assessed the physiatrist told me I probably had autism as a child but he didn’t see it currently I don’t think it’s something that goes away
@pooru1231 Жыл бұрын
The first two are typical of strong introvert/memory types, I dont think it autism solely, they build their day to day functionality around memory stimulus so the psyche gets neglected, a fat psyche going to suck at making friends. In my teaching ill typically ignore any typical relational behaviors with introverts because how they got trauma attached to their psyche. Better to get them really confident in their memory side then they automatically try to be more relational and confront their truam attached to the psyche.
@terripruitte436 Жыл бұрын
i believe my daughter may be on the spectrum..I've brought this concern to her pediatrician but it seems to be dismissed what can I say to her Dr to get her to really look into this or should I maybe seek out a specialist
@AnonyMous-ny7lx Жыл бұрын
Like many others in the comments, I fit into the autism mold but am an adult who has never been diagnosed. So my question is this: is there a benefit to getting an official diagnosis? Does anything change? We already cope through masking and routine, so does a diagnosis change anything? Here in Canada, getting tested costs ~$3500+, so I’m curious if it is money well spent for an adult diagnosis. 🤷🏻♀️ I think an official diagnosis could’ve helped a lot earlier in life to help avoid abusive situations/people and assist in education, but not sure about now…
@ExcuseZero Жыл бұрын
Hey, do you think that the majority of Aspies end up with a majority of friends/lovers that are also on the spectrum? Because that seems to be my experience
@Shauna766 Жыл бұрын
Hey Dan , quick question, my son age 7 recently diagnosed with high functioning autism, dispraxia and sensory processing disorder but yet he has a lot of female symptoms masking been a huge one the explosive meltdowns at home, collecting cars and planes and constant obsessive interests my question is they are not just limited to females are they ? Because of his masking not a lot of people understand my struggle as a mam or assume he's not bad because he's high functioning. Sorry for the long comment
@tammypearce956 Жыл бұрын
My daughter has some of these traits if not all and has been diagnosed with ASHD. Both disorders have similar symptoms, how do I determine the difference so I can bring arguably evidence to her doctor to be tested.
@victoriam9337 Жыл бұрын
Say…..how are the numbers on autism and depression?
@bunkaique Жыл бұрын
damn bruh thats alot of disorders..
@bunkaique Жыл бұрын
not saying it isn’t possible, it’s just alot. surprisingly.