5 THINGS CHRISTIAN WOMEN NEED TO STOP DOING…NOW!

[@thebeatagp]

Hey BEAT family! Today it’s time to talk to the ladies. In Tuesday’s video we talked about five things Christian men need to stop doing. Today I give you my personal list, emphasis on personal, the five things Christian women need to stop doing. Let me know your thoughts below. I hope you find this helpful.

[@RI.........]

Present 🤭. Let me listen to the teaching .

[@Grateful4BlessingsoftheLordGod]

Bro. Allen, some things are a tough pill to swallow. 🥴 Thank you for your courage. This is a Hebrews 12:11 video with great value. Blessings & peace upon you and yours.

[@anjeeabadmaitra6574]

Thanks brother.

[@loriehaisen9555]

Does a woman working outside the home "Blaspheme the word of God"? like the bible says? This is a great video, and very biblical. Thank you for making it. Women should not dress in a way that causes men to lust, that is another thing Christian women need to stop doing. Women need guidance from the bible on how to behave.

[@jayonnaj18]

I agree with you totally with the marriage thing, where so many Christian women don't wait on God for the right marriage partner and make the wrong choice! We all should "trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding! In ALL THY WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM (the Him is God) and He shall direct thy paths!" Please see Proverbs 3:5 - 6 KJV! I am an elderly widow now, and only knew ONE man, the man I married! I look sooo forward to seeing him again in Paradise with Jesus Christ!!! God has made you a blessing to us believers in Christ, dear Bro Allen!!!

[@ty-the-christian-guy589]

One thing I’ll add is stop gossiping or talking bad about people behind their backs. None of us are perfect.

[@williamgodfrey2534]

AMEN!!!

[@AbeVsTheWorld]

Indeed

[@salt6831]

Amen to that!

[@karlpoquiz451]

Gossiping brings destruction/division.

[@two-moonz2953]

Well said. This applies to both men and women.

[@abigaylemorgan1609]

I am guilty of demasculating my husband and speaking down to him and trying to control him and allowing my anger to devalue him. It's hard and I can see the negative effects of it immediately and lastingly. Thank you for sharing this; it convicted me and I too pray that the Spirit convicts me to be a gentle and quiet sprint. Thank you, brother.

[@slevinchannel7589]

MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. So, yeah, stopping to embarass oneself by denying Science and Evolution is obviously a Thing for the List of 'ALL Christians should now stop to do this'. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet? Yeah... stop being ignorant and arrogant to the point where you 'ignore' all Criticism and even just Questions who arent even Criticism. Duh.

[@minimalistdanse]

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[@cindeed4422]

Good points. Women don’t immerse yourself into a man or finding a husband that you lose who you are. Love yourself. Live your life single or not. Just serve God while you wait. Thank you.

[@maryshephard8190]

Well said!

[@christianhenry4173]

They also need to stop leading men on by friendzoning them too. If your not honest or upfront that's just as bad as having these bad habits. You don't have to meet a Chris woman to see this

[@archanasharon6065]

So true

[@christianhenry4173]

@@stairway8491 first off let me start by correcting and open rebuking your ideology of life. If God was to judge you right now he will open the books to what you just said! You do not have a right to be prideful on people's lustful problem who do you think you are? No disrespect to the truth your spreading but the same God who showed you grace and true love you need to pray for others because we were all a step away from hells kitchen if God didn't send Jesus.

[@jollygoodgordon5580]

@@stairway8491 can u keep it short dear? What’s ur point ?

[@iyonej2cor520]

I was def guilty of idolizing marriage! I thank God that He revealed that to me and I have since been delivered. I'm still single and I still desire marriage but I completely understand the importance of waiting on God now. Thank You Jesus!

[@christinacorpuz273]

One thing I would like to add is ladies, PLEASE teach these things to your daughters, nieces, and other young women in your life. Women should definitely example these behaviors, but also we are to teach these to other women because God commands it in His Word. Thank you for sharing God's truth.

[@rosiebarros8513]

Excellent point! Teach the up and coming generation of young girls and women to walk in the way of the Lord! Do not look to Celebrities/Hollywood for any validation but rather keep the Word of God near & dear to your hearts and minds and you will never stumble!

[@jonscott234]

You are so right, females of the secular world are so aggressive when it comes to teaching evil ways to younger girls. But sadly that fire is lacking when it comes to older Christian women teaching the younger ones

[@workemail7862]

Very true :) praise JESUS CHRIST!!!

[@1newearth]

The Son of man is the Lord of the sabbath day. He is not the lord of the first day (sunday). Satan and all the other angels were created on the first day of the week. Repent and stop worshipping Baal Satan every sunday, Easter and Christmas. Most people have the spiritual mark of the beast which has to do with worship. For about 2,000 years, people have been worshipping the dragon (Satan) and the Roman kingdom catholic (universal) church. The Roman emperors and papacy are the 4th beast kingdom of Daniel and 1st beast of Revelation 13. The sinning Roman church is the woman riding the beast and is the mother of harlots (every sundaykeeping church and those who keep the doctrine of men) and abominations of the earth (Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism, Sikhism, Bahaism, Atheism, etc.) We should worship God our Father and respect each holy day, each new moon, and each sabbath as written in Colossians 2:16, Isaiah 66:23, Ezekiel 46:3, Numbers 10:10, etc. If they say we cannot buy or sell without the vaccinejab, then that is the mark of the beast. Let us repent and have a good remnant of the year.

[@tekno7020]

Except number 4! So misunderstood.

[@livingforChrist]

Back in the day, before I gave my whole life and everything I am to Christ, I was so dead inside. I use to post pictures on my social media to make me feel better. I deleted all of them as soon as you spoke about the first point. I’m not that person anymore. And the only reason why I decided to keep Facebook (the only social media I have) is to preach the gospel to friends and family who live in Mexico. Thank you brother, from the bottom of my heart, for all your videos. They have thought me and continue to bless my life in different ways.

[@hannahmeansgrace.]

Amen sis!

[@samibrat12]

Amen sister! I am guilty of so much vanity. I know the Lord knows all and will convict me in my sin. It's a journey to change, and I seek deliverance. I thank you Jesus son of God for your strength. In Jesus mighty name Amen.

[@livingforChrist]

@@samibrat12 you are in my prayers. Know that you can you can do all things (for His Glory and according to His Will) through Jesus Christ who strengthens you- Philippians 4:13. Don’t give up in your faith and prayer. God bless you✨

[@samibrat12]

@@livingforChrist Amen, thank you, :') God be with you always.

[@Makingmoney4u]

yes lord 🙏 happy for u sista

[@danielledaniels9848]

This is very well said and clear. It is not blaming but simply informing! Well done, Pastor Allen!!!! Well done!

[@sisterdee3534]

Amen!

[@lydiarugh6471]

He does a great job!

[@jollygoodgordon5580]

Too be honest, women of today can’t be blamed for what they have not been thought 💭. BlessUP 🤍

[@slevinchannel7589]

MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA.

[@pietro4772]

@@slevinchannel7589 Proverbs 9:10 (KJV) The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.

[@billieduff8118]

I'm not settling for any man I do not need . A man to be happy. I'm finally happy.n.i feel free!!!!

[@sublyme2157]

This list confirmed I married right! Seven years in and my wife is AWESOME!

[@impreciousnhissight]

How refreshing to see a brother give props to his " good thing" as the Bible says. From one who is 30 plus " years in" may the Lord continue to bless you and your bride with a marriage that glorifies God

[@Lovelife2022-j6w]

Wow that’s beautiful!

[@repentnow993]

Praise God!

[@KshipsinKchups]

😂🤣❤️

[@MSBowen-pk6ww]

My mom and dad did too! :D She passed away in 2018 NOv 20th after I think they were married....38? years and my Dad is still in love with her! I am 40 and they got married about 1 year prior to my birth. So just do thye math! LOL :D They def married right! I thank God for that !

[@nathlete87]

This video is right on time. I have been dating and abstinent for 6 months now. Several men have wanted to move to a relationship and I have not felt enough attraction. Not having sex has really allowed me to discern and put my focus on finding compatible values, attraction and mutual interest.

[@rslocum17]

🙋‍♀️ it’s a daily struggle to find that gentle and quiet spirit in a broken world that doesn’t value it.

[@proverbs31university]

God values it and He’s all that matters

[@rslocum17]

True. Thank you 😊

[@slevinchannel7589]

​@@rslocum17 ...MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues... People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. So, yeah, stopping to embarass oneself by denying Science and Evolution is obviously a Thing for the List of 'ALL Christians should now stop to do this'. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet? Yeah... stop being ignorant and arrogant to the point where you 'ignore' all Criticism and even just Questions who arent even Criticism. Duh.

[@slevinchannel7589]

@Leah You are so used to imagining things that you literally have fantasy-dreams now? Wow, i dont know you, but with all respect: That sounds like you sink deeper and deeper into the rabbid-hole and get more and more out of reality.

[@onetallgirl1369]

I’m guilty of #2. I always thought I would be married by 30, but now I’m 31 and still very single. I struggle almost daily to stop idolizing marriage and just focus on God’s purpose on my life. My desire now is to enjoy my single season and glorify God with my life and career.

[@minimalistdanse]

When you stop thinking it will get better, and you'll be married in no time the problem we all need to work on is patience be blessed.

[@IslandMarigold]

For the other single ladies out there, I found great comfort in reading the book "The New Lady in Waiting" by Jackie Kendall. It made me feel at peace about my current single status. I still want to be married someday, sure, but I am not in any rush. Enjoying my single years growing my relationship with God. ♥️

[@jxslayz6663]

Is it a secular viewpoint or a christian one?

[@IROCKSF415]

@@jxslayz6663 Christian

[@rebekahguilder602]

Plus it looks like you have a pretty adorable dog to keep you company while you wait. ❤

[@IROCKSF415]

@David Voicecoil 1 Cor is Paul giving his reasoning as to what he wishes people would do, but it's not a command from God not to marry, nor is it for everyone. He states that because he has more time to serve God by being single, he sees threw benefit for the kingdom for people not to marry too. But he makes it clear that it's not the only option 👍🙏

[@levernis5753]

@@jxslayz6663 thanks for suggesting

[@Angelalex242]

Another thing I thought of: no man can make you happy. That is beyond the purview of human beings. Only God can make you happy. Don't try to make a man play God. We can't. Seek happiness above, not from a human.

[@meenamoon7930]

Exactly.

[@kressten]

Yeah I’m Christian woman and I approve of this message! Thank you Brother.

[@KrystleLaughter]

Wow! This is so on point. I have been guilty of most of these at some point. Married two toxic men, looked for validation in other people, thought I couldn’t be happy until I was married. Ladies, learn how to love yourself. The Bible tells us to live others the way we love ourselves.

[@melbee5767]

What about the single woman whose happy and content. Then falls in love and then hates herself.....sometimes sociopathic men come into I our lives as prince charming and only reveal themselves once we are hitched.

[@radioactive_baby]

I've never been in a relationship, but I have hoped to get married a lot. It's true that I want to get married one day, but you reminded me that I need to be patient.

[@bevelyn5088]

Same. We will one day. Pray and trust God!

[@radioactive_baby]

@@bevelyn5088 💛

[@sarahklunk5043]

@@radioactive_baby I am also guilty of number 2, it is exhausting when you keep worrying about who you are going to marry. But now I am learning to trust that Christ knows what best and I need to be patient and wait on the Lord!

[@evangelineisolde]

I am with you. May God bless you with a spouse. God bless

[@Kelle0284]

You should only get married once.

[@alyssawilliams7090]

Thank you for speaking on needing physical attraction to the man we will marry! It’s so important and cannot be overlooked

[@dlove9034]

Show can't

[@Mygardeofgrief1680]

Agreed!

[@michelletee1435]

I COMPLETELY agree!!!very informative👀 May God touch the hearts of the women who really needs to see this🙏🏿

[@butterflywings370]

Amen!

[@charmcharm2352]

And help us to honestly see, admit and accept where it applies to ourselves.

[@dotk3623]

Amen🙌🏾

[@1newearth]

God created the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. That does not mean we should eat from it. God created pork, shrimps, chicken but we don't eat them. We eat grasshopper, lamb, fish with fins and scales and all the clean beasts from time to time. I can see that thou hast not enough patience and has removed my ability to comment from the group. Baal did not create sunday (first day of the week). God created the first day and other days of the week but only blessed, sanctified and hallowed the seventh day sabbath. No one can keep sunday holy. Observing times like christmas, Easter and new year's is witchcraft and idolatry. Revelation 22:15 says that idolaters are without the city of the new Jerusalem and they shall have their part in the lake of fire. Have a good week.

[@ann-marierodney6387]

Bro Parr, you are right on every point. Self actualization is causing many women to not fulfill their God given purpose. I am always amazed when I see Christian women juggling so many different things for self actualization that the most important relationships gets left behind ie, with God, their spouse, their children, their families their relatives and their brethren in Christ.

[@kawannadixon4327]

All of these points are very helpful as believers and women of God this should help us to take inventory of our own life and examine ourselves the LORD chastens whom he loves thanks for sharing 👍🏾🙏🏾😊❤

[@speedy1406]

Very very true

[@williewilliams9034]

Amen!

[@milliekatttv]

I done got convicted the first 3 minutes of this video how could I not watch the entire video 🥹🔥🔥🔥💕🫶🏽 thank you! ✝️

[@angelamason9840]

Thank you! I never have been interested in sex, so I realized as a teen, that dating and marriage was not for me. A majority of my family urged me to date and marry, but I have been convinced I would not be able to fulfill the calling of a wife. Because of the continual pressure and nagging, I felt guilty for many years. So thankful that Jesus never left or forsaken me. I am at peace, because of Heavenly Father’s love.

[@reginagrobosz8807]

Girl... You would be better off if you cared for your own feelings more than for any god. Hope You can finally be at peace with Yourself 🍀❤️

[@heidiranger6106]

Angela, So glad you know how much Jesus loves you and that he will never leave you, nor forsake you. You should never feel guilty for not fulfilling Other people’s expectations for your life. God has a Special Plan for your life which is why your mind is stayed on Jesus. You truly are very blessed to be Christ Centered, instead of Self Centered. Just ask Jesus to reveal his plans and purpose for you and then walk life out with him. Then you will find peace and joy unspeakable! God bless!😊🙏💕

[@kat64470]

I wish I wasn't interested. I actually got into two bad marriages trying not to burn.

[@royalisrael7475]

@@reginagrobosz8807 She did say that she is at peace and note, at Peace and Love with TMH God Her Father. It would be a good thing if you find God to receive His peace.

[@royalisrael7475]

@@heidiranger6106 Very well said and great encouragement, but Angela did say that she have peace with the Father, that's the unspeakable joy that she has without saying. Blessings.

[@carlgrimeseyepatch27]

Guilty of idolizing marriage here! My biggest fear is never finding a spouse and having children.

[@aminamorrison3099]

I admit, guilty of #2. I'm almost 50, never been married and no children, and always wanted a family. It gets so discouraging seeing all my friends and cousins (especially the younger cousins I used to carry around as babies) all marry and have families and I sit single with no prospects. Even worse when people ask me what's wrong with me or what am I being punished for to still be single. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@barbarad.johnson-me7bc]

What about narcissists? They act like they are Christians in public, at home, they're only focused on their own needs.

[@samanthacarlson5519]

I never take selfies, but I found other young adults from my church and they act like models who love makeup and clothes and hair styling so I actually was just taking selfies because I felt like it was totally okay and normal because others do it. I felt convicted and then instead of praying, I escaped to KZbin and this is what I watched. Deleting my selfies, praying, and getting in my Bible NOW.

[@victoriairias7703]

yes! me too, i never liked photos and kinda was because i am just not photogenic but i am thankful because i quickly realized the vanity in it and that it is just not interesting for me or important for me to make people look at me, i never liked attention, but something that i also was convicted was with wearing tight clothes

[@AsToldByAWinner]

I don’t agree with posting pics of MYSELF on MY social media as just looking for affirmation from others or wrong. I don’t have any family (husband) or any kids so what else am I really going to post about other than when I feel cute today or like how my outfit looks or my personal accomplishments that I choose to share with others??? I post whether I will get likes or not. Coming from someone who would literally hide myself. Posting has helped me NOT care about what others think. Just my personal experience/opinion. Love your channel Thank you for all you do.

[@momsspaghetti3095]

These are very good. Especially the ones about social media. It’s called SOCIAL media, but actually most of what we post is just about ourselves. Maybe it should be called SELF MEDIA.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@joshipp761]

Most people use social media for selfish reasons, vanity, ego, & self-centeredness. As Christians we have to constantly check our motives

[@weirdgirl7475]

You're not wrong! Lol

[@AssuntaBrenewed]

I understand your perspective. I am a Christian woman and also a very popular social media Influencer so posting pictures of myself is actually my career. I pray that those who are in similar fields understand the difference

[@Sandrinarhonda]

There’s nobody wrong being worried about yourself and uplifting yourself.

[@sholaolokun7282]

Ohhhhh, you came for my neck today!!! Thank you for being honest and direct. Unfortunately, I've had to learn some of these truths the hard way, but God's grace still abounds.

[@elenaliz]

A gentle and quiet spirit should be the first adornment we ladies put on!

[@avaorpilla]

also tbf tho the first one- there’s nothing wrong with feeling good about yourself sharing it with your friends on instagram facebook etc. it when you idolize yourself and do it constantly which is what is bad

[@LadyNolaJ]

If women knew the power of a true (not pretended, not back-handed) gentle and quiet spirit, they’d be dancing for the next opportunity to trust God with their husband instead of trying to win them with words and “attitude”.

[@kathyandrien13]

Oh, I’m guilty of idolizing marriage… and I have been settling and my relationships have suffered.

[@christina4669]

"I hope that the Holy Spirit beats you up with that verse" 🤣🤣 This is good & so true, speaking as a woman who once struggled with 4 of 5 of these. I learned most of my lessons the hard way, but God is so good & merciful. Thank you for speaking on this!

[@lauracummings3437]

What wonderfully wise points Alan to bring us ladies attention. You definately nailed it. Very valuable. I am guilty . My flesh is at constant battle within me in this topic towards my husband. What a lovely reminder of how the Lord loves a gentle and quiet spirit. I often have to ask the Holy Spirit to help me to have the quiet and gentle nature. Submitting to my husband and ultimately to God is just so beautiful and I want to obey . I have no excusd when I dont it is a daily battle in my flesh. Thankyou for taking the time to do this video. Much love in Christ, from our home here in northern Ireland to yours Alan.

[@mburst71]

You are so right about idolizing marriage. I did that and married an unbeliever 20 years ago that still isn't saved. I honestly believe he will come around in God's time not my own.

[@Makingmoney4u]

yes that's my thing ! Many of us marry and have kids with unbelivers..

[@mburst71]

@@Makingmoney4u All glory to the most high God that both my adult boys are strong, bold, faithful believers!

[@minimalistdanse]

If God wants it! but keep praying its the only thing we can do.

[@loisleonard3055]

Wow excellent info

[@indiemeans9735]

I hope this reach a lot of women. Loved the “realness” of this video.

[@thebeatagp]

Thank you so much! We would appreciate it if you would share it with others! Just slide in their DMs or text messages! 😂 😂

[@Lovelife2022-j6w]

YES!

[@des711]

Your pic may be what he is talking about. You are showing cleavage in the picture. Christian women should be dressing modestly, not "showing a little". There is a big difference with showing cleavage and not showing cleavage. Why does it have to show?

[@indiemeans9735]

@@des711 ummm, you clearly did not watch Allen’s video and it shows. Most likely why you said “may”. You seriously passed judgement on someone that you don’t even know based on a cropped photo showing a “little” cleavage? Like, did you see the entire outfit? Nope, you didn’t. You just saw an opportunity to be negative and that is never a good look✌🏾.

[@runfast2457]

Great video!

[@Mayfieka]

This was on time. Yup!! I am guilty on a couple in my previous and current marriage. My husband and I talked about the disrespectful topic last night and I had to admit that I am way too bossy. Thank you Allen for speaking the truth to us in love!

[@TRU-TALK]

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[@MissHunterELA]

Heyyyyyy Karrin! Oh wow! Fancy seeing you on here.💕🥰

[@nostalgicbliss5547]

Most black woman always running their mouth! Some think it's cute to be disrespectful. Plus if you are a woman of God, won't you recognize that it is a terrible sin to divorce your first husband?

[@TRU-TALK]

@@nostalgicbliss5547 You Just WEAK AND CAN'T HANDLE Our WOMEN

[@teachermichelle9632]

Being teachable and able to receive correction is such a great trait.

[@salt1956]

Thank you, brother! That was excellent. You know, this is so badly needed in the church. I can tell you that my pastor wouldn't dare say anything to upset his wife or the women in the church.

[@maryguillory2187]

Some of these were a gut punch! Many of them from my past, but at least one still just won't seem to die! I know there's work to be done. Thanks for sharing!

[@slevinchannel7589]

MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet?

[@maryguillory2187]

@@slevinchannel7589Confused as to why this is a reply when it has nothing to with my comment... not interested in whatever you're selling.

[@slevinchannel7589]

@@maryguillory2187 I was speaking in General about this video here, dude. Amazing how you get confused about this simple act. So confused even you talk now about 'selling' and such. Wow?

[@slevinchannel7589]

@@maryguillory2187 So confused even you talk now about 'selling' and such. Wow?

[@Mygardeofgrief1680]

Agreed. Well said. It took me many years to grow into my relationship with Jesus and not look to my husband for affirmation.

[@JesusizmyLordandSavior]

I love both videos! Thank you! I was raised severely codependent and, praise God, He delivered me. My worth is not in how my husband or anyone treats me and I seek His opinion above all else. The Lord has led me to not tease or poke fun at my husband in public or private, also. Unfortunately, that is how I am treated by him and I began following suit. It matters more that I obey what the Lord is calling me to do and I pray my husband seeks His way, too...

[@snyder190]

Excellent! Excellent!

[@Imfrommars444]

A Christian woman dressing or posting inappropriate pictures and looking for attention from another woman or man is weird but also sad.

[@biellaspointofview2054]

*womAn* for singular. Sorry only pointed it out since you did it twice and I’m assuming it’s not a mistake.

[@Imfrommars444]

@@biellaspointofview2054 Fixed. It was a typo, it was a mistake. I didn't do it on purpose to offend women.

[@biellaspointofview2054]

@@Imfrommars444 oh nothing to do with offense :) it’s just I’ve seen it quite a lot in comments being misspelled and I just assumed it’s a learned spelling mistake people have.

[@misskim2058]

And creepy. From anyone. Man or woman. They both just look insecure and desperate. And all the worse if they have botox &/or other face adjustments, and in the case of women, fake boobs. And bit, fat, sharpie-drawn eyebrows. What’s up with that’s? It’s cartoonish. It all screams insecurity. What is more sad is that they actually think they look good, and even think people are jealous of them, when people just sheer pity them that they feel the need to do all that to look good. You are already beautiful, men, you are already handsome. Being yourself and having confidence in you as God made you, that is what is attractive. Not the phony stuff.

[@minimalistdanse]

Immature, childish maybe. I don't post any pics of myself cos I know that can turn me into an instant narcissist is NO!!

[@kennethw6962]

"You have shut the shop down…" - Alan parr

[@lelmo450]

This was good and shook me up. I had to examine myself. I’m guilty of talking down to my husband, expecting him to affirm me in place of God,

[@kaimybendecidayvictoriosa3683]

Me too

[@Mygardeofgrief1680]

Amen...you're not alone there

[@briannerobinson6810]

Number one..."STOP LOOKING FOR AFFIRMATION IN OTHER PLACES BESIDES GOD"....such a call out! I definitely struggle with this one.

[@cheryltolliver9750]

When you are over 50 and want to be married and can't find a good God fearing, equally yoked man is hard. Although I am divorced since 2000, men I have met who claim to be Christian run from me or laugh at me when they hear me say I'm a Christian and I don't believe in premarital sex. Am I right for that.

[@tmagaia]

You surely are right for following God's Word! And trust me, this is a beautiful example for us, young ones; to stay in The Word and follow God (no matter the age). And I'm sure that if it's God's will for you to be married again, you will be 🙏🏾 [with a God fearing man (in Jesus name!)]

[@lpl433]

Definitely premarital sex is a sin. And if it isnt taken lightly from him- run. I do believe though that some may not genuinely know and to set that example is a powerful thing. Some men may actually see an attraction to that.

[@gmohler]

Right on sister. Stay pure

[@misskim2058]

You are 100% right. And even if they do want to wait, as they should, don’t let them weigh too heavily on a decision to marry. It’s important, but it can be so rare that women (or men) overlook a whole slew of faults just because they’re willing to wait, even if they don’t realize they’re overlooking anything. A good rule of thumb I’ve learned is: Everyone has a dark side. Everyone has a whole bunch of faults and some emotional baggage to boot in some area, and the older people get, the more set in their ways they get. Knowing this, straight up look for those things. This is counterintuitive to all dating advice, and to Christian mentality sometimes. The religiosity mentality will tell you to just look for the good in others. That’s not actually a good idea, if that’s all you do. You should deliberately look for the absolute worst every person you date or even have as friends, and then decide if you can live with those traits, because YOU won’t be changing them at all. Too many people just look for the good, and if something does bother them they tell themselves that they will help that person fix those flaws. That is a huge self-deceit. Nope, you won’t be fixing or changing anyone, and an over-50 divorcée knows that well, or should, so stand firm, my sister and don’t give in, and while you’re at it, forget heady romance, get practical, and root out those flaws, decide if they’re tolerable and don’t lie to yourself about it. That’s why it’s important to date at least a year, so you see people in all seasons, sometimes people have a time of year where they are completely different, some trigger or holiday changes them, they may not even realize it. Plus. it can take that long for them to stop hiding their flaws from you, even if they’re not trying to hide them. And I would tell that to teenagers, the reason older people are telling them to wait and not jump into a relationship is because it’s just natural to suppress your flaws, and when they DO rear their ugly heads, you don’t want to be trapped in a committed relationship. Romance is great for books and movies, but a real romance takes the bull by the horns and not only expects them, seeks them out, but faces up to imperfections. And one good quick test to beat out the worst of the worst is to simply say no a few times, not just sex that’s an always-no, but to a request for a date or to help someone with something, and this is to determine how they handle being told no, and if they demand excuses or reasons, and they don’t just respect that you have a reason and you don’t owe them a reason, just run away from the get go. A mature person doesn’t need reasons, if they ask someone if they’re available to go out or to help or for whatever reason, and the person says no, then they should just counter and ask if there’s another time that they would be available, and go from there. If it’s a first date request and there’s no counter offer in return to the counter offer, then move on. If it’s a second date or beyond, then how they respond to you telling them no will tell you a lot about how they will treat you. Demanding to know what you’re doing or why you won’t is immaturity. Another good test is to go out somewhere and see how they treat a waiter or waitress, how they treat the homeless when you’re walking down the street what they say about them, and you never tell them you’re testing them. Do you want to know how they treat the most vulnerable living things, great staff, the homeless, the elderly, animals. Both of these tests (and others, definitely test them in stressful situations as well), are not assuring a good person if they pass, but for initial weeding out of people, or testing current relationships to see if they’re hiding basic lack of confidence/jealous/obsessive/invasive personalities and character flaws in demeaning others and even being abusive, they are a fast way to get rid of a person and spend no more time on ones that you don’t want as a friend or a spouse if they fail the tests. People can still cover through both of these test and still hide some very evil personalities that take time to uncover, but if they failed them outright, you’ve saved yourself a whole lot of time. A 50+ yr-old divorcée probably knows this, though some don’t, but this is here for teens, too, and anyone else who may be afraid to just take a realistic look at how they get into relationships. I’ve seen a lot of people get stuck right at these spots, and end up wasting years, when they could have avoided the problems that surfaced later altogether if they’d just paid attention to these little details. And if they gossip about others, they will gossip about you, too. And if they seek to get revenge on others, they will seek to get revenge on you one day as well. Just ditch these people and make no room for them.😊

[@misskim2058]

@@lpl433 If they claim to be Christian and don’t know that, run from them. They don’t know enough to call themselves a Christian. Get someone well-steeped in the Word.

[@aqueenfavored6165]

thanks for telling the truth Mr. Parr on both men and women!

[@malinda911]

"I said I'm fine" along with the facial expression and neck roll took me out. Lol. I felt that, brother Allen.

[@thebeatagp]

Lol!!! Yes Lawd!!! No more of that! Seriously.

[@lynnterrific]

😂😂😂

[@anjieobasa1871]

I don’t see how that deminishes a husband’s authority. You have a right to express your frustrations and anger. Maybe don’t bring your anger on others but not being able to speak that way to your husband sounds controlling and a little abusive.

[@ambomateijennifer7207]

Do you like when your husband raises his voice at you? Do you find it abusive and controlling when he responds to a simple question you ask in a disrespectful tone? I wish to know

[@anjieobasa1871]

@@ambomateijennifer7207 absolutely not. But the way Allen said how when you do that it sort of lessens his authority over you. I don’t think yelling like that is appropriate but it certainly shouldn’t lessen someone’s authority when we do that because we’re all human and sometimes wrongly snap at ppl. To put it in a better way when he said that it almost seems as if we as wives are never allowed to raise our voices towards our husbands even when they’re wrong. Or maybe I’m just reaching idk.

[@annettecortescains9020]

#3 is so true. It’s actually become the norm in the church for women to destroy their husbands in front of other people and behind their backs.

[@lameishawest2461]

You are on point with all of this!

[@nightskyshowers]

Thank you for point number three because it drives me nuts. Society is awful enough to our Men, we shouldn't be doing it to!

[@si_a_to2086]

Sometimes it is the people around us who idolize marriage and shame others who are not married and ask silly questions like - why are you single? When will you get married? Why are you not getting married? Don't don't me wrong marriage is good but getting married for a wrong reason is not good. Most men don't want to marry a housewife, marriage has become a business deal. If a woman wants to be a housewife and take care of her child then other people mock her and see her as a worthless person.

[@sarahcloud444]

Absolutely. It’s funny how things change over time. A while ago, women were encouraged to be housewives and take care of their families at home, but now women are harshly shamed and discouraged from being housewives. 🤔

[@vickialbertson4068]

Doesn't the Bible say we should be single? If you can't do single, how can you do married? My first marriage occurred 8 days after I graduated from high school. We were married for 22 years when our divorce became final. I was single for 6 years after. I held a job and paid for my car and medical. I remarried to a man I loved with all my heart. I believe he was sent by God. We were married for 13 years before he passed away. I am single again and not interestEd in getting married again.

[@ttiger86]

I feel like the world shames you for being married and having kids and not having a career. But the church shames you for NOT being married. I had a hard time when I was single because I was constantly asked by church people when I was going to get married and if I was seeing anybody. Now I’m married and asked when I’m going to have kids. Smh. It’s not anybody’s business but my husband’s and mine.

[@nathanieldaiken1064]

A "housewife" is actually a valueable person "in the Eyes of God"!

[@las8883]

@@ttiger86 very true!

[@thartwig26]

It’s so hard being a woman in this day and age. We were once told we could have it all… marriage, kids, career… etc. In actuality, it doesn’t work that way at all. My kids suffered a lot when I worked full time. Yet, I’ll be honest, I do miss working now that I stay home. I think when a mom stays at home, they sometimes feel neglected emotionally. We take care of kids, the house, the household errands, and often our hard work goes unnoticed. Often we don’t have conversations with other adults during the day too. So it makes it hard. I think we need to just keep our minds on God and do it unto Him who created us.

[@estherjoseph1415]

Amen This is one of the most accountable, HEALTHY, and logical info I heard on this subject matter !

[@marlainacerdas2569]

I got convicted by this. Thank you for posting this!

[@alainalueth9100]

Thank you for preaching truth Allen!

[@bubbaloo4424]

I often find other respectable leaders that label their sermons for women somehow always derail too much back to men's responsibility. This vid lovingly and practically stayed on point. Thanks.

[@ellej2861]

This was great! Thank you! From experience I would like to add that any disagreements should stay between husband and wife. We shouldn't be going to our mother,father,friend or even on social media laying out our dirty laundry. Asking for advice is much different than speaking negative about your spouse. It dishonors and disrespects not just your spouse but God. Put God first in all situations and everything will fall in place and God will change you.

[@Yuls777]

Beautifully done!

[@gabriellerodriguez140]

Great message. Definitely going to watch again. It was very convicting; especially about being driven by a career.

[@HighFashionJen]

Thank you! I needed to hear this............

[@MrCaribKaraoke]

Allen dropping Grown Christian Man bars

[@indriadrayton1132]

😁😁😁😁😁

[@marshalocke4434]

What does that mean

[@MrCaribKaraoke]

@@marshalocke4434 grown man bars...is something you gotta deal with....its a battle rap reference...said by battle rapper trex....then battle rapper loaded lux...popularized by Lupe fiasco... Just saying allen parr is saying spiritually mature things that Christians should deal with

[@CJoeD00D]

Bruh he killing it

[@slevinchannel7589]

MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet? Yeah, ignoring all valid Questions that Atheist-Channels ask all the time and never wanting to hear Criticism of any sort, form or shape, is more than unhealthy.

[@mitchhilton1669]

Stop idolizing marriage!!! Best video ever!!!!!!!!❤

[@SonicX6400]

All of these are so on point. I was guilty of not giving myself to my husband when I was married. He was a self-described sex addict and I was on the other end of the sex spectrum. We have been divorced for over 20 years, but I regret that I refrained from giving myself to him as I should have. We are friends and successfully co-parented our son, but I know that my divorce was not God-ordained. In fact, I don't think my marriage was God-ordained, I was 25 and desperate to get married. I've prayed and asked God's forgiveness for the errors in my marriage and pray that I will someday get another chance. I'm much wiser now.

[@honeysucklemoon6251]

Invaluable information!! These are such true points. I've been married for 22 years to a man I don't click with just because I wanted to be married. I was not the best wife because we were not like minded or spirituality connected. The last 2 years have been spent separated. We have recently been working on becoming friends again. I believe with God's intervention, anything is possible.

[@steelcity6420]

Thank you brother for sharing this video and the last one on men. Very Holy Spirit filled and a true blessing!

[@jessefoster2832]

FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE JOHN 3:16

[@STRENGTHFROMABOVE]

"Give, and it will be given to you. A good portion-packed down, firmly shaken, and overflowing-will fall into your lap. The portion you give will determine the portion you receive in return." - Luke 6:38 The Good News: You shouldn't be giving just because you expect things in return, but God does have a way of rewarding His followers.

[@samanthagraveswalters8443]

Convicted here for sure. Lately since I have turned 30 I have been posting more pics of me. Lying to myself saying I am just posting this just bc when really it’s not true. This is what I needed. Thank you. The only thing I disagree with is I don’t believe that Proverbs is referring to a career woman. I may be wrong. I can clement tomorrow and explain why when it’s not so late. God bless you Bro Allen.

[@SK-bw2cv]

Amen pastor! Your last few videos have been life changing.

[@deshaunhill7934]

I Am With You Always Matthew 28:20

[@donnarobinson9021]

Hey Allen, love the insight of truth that you are always providing. I agree with you about the job, because someone's value comes from their job, they better pray they never get fired. God places us here for His purpose, not to pursue a career. Love the T-Shirt.

[@jollygoodgordon5580]

No dear. Only a mans value comes from his job. Just think about it… women have always looked at men who are successful for example, as being able to be good providers. Marriage material/ husband material. But when have men ever looked at women who are successfully in their careers/jobs and be like “I want her cus she’s successful and cus of that she will be a great wife”? See, man and woman value different things in each other. What makes a man valuable in the eyes of a woman is not what makes a woman valuable in the eyes of a man. Let me give u an example of what man find valuable in a woman: Her beauty, Her weight, is she cooperative, is she friendly, submissive is she feminine ? These are some of the things overal that we men look at to determine if she will be a good wife. And off course you can never be 100% sure before marriage of that person will be a great spouse, but personality says a lot.

[@donnarobinson9021]

@@jollygoodgordon5580 What scripture states that a man or anyone's value comes from their job???

[@shannonstarr5758]

Bold! And so honest. I myself fell into some of these traps before I walked with God. Particularly neglecting my home and family to pursue a career. The results can be devastating.

[@niccole.m]

I was guilty of #2. I'd been dreaming of getting married since I was around 5 years old. The desire became more prominent in my teens and early 20s, yet it never happened. Now, in my 40s and still single, my desires have shifted. Be it spiritual growth and maturity or sacrificing that desire at the alter, I have accepted my singleness as something God is doing and wanting to do in my life. While marriage is still something I'd be open to if God so desires to give me a husband, I know marriage isn't the end all be all.

[@janice3086]

Yesssssssssssss!!! Definitely not a good look at all for Christian women! You’re preaching….thank you for addressing this trend! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@nightskyshowers]

As much as I struggle with with being single at times, I've learned the hard way not to settle. Sometimes my family acts like something is wrong because I've hardly dated. Marriage is very serious to me, and I cannot and will not date anyone again because I feel lonely. Yes, I have moments of weakness but I'm learning to call on God. Before I watched this video I started to realize how much I idolize marriage and partly it is because of how a former church emphasized marriage, even more so than the gospel. Going to a biblically sound church does make a difference. Edit: I feel the need to explain this, so I'm going to try. Physical attraction isn't high on my "list" of who I would marry, what attracts me to men isn't their looks, but how they treat those around them. Maybe I'm just weird lol.

[@deborahmichelle5698]

Hey Ash, I'm going through the same thing. Struggling to be single, yet I don't want to settle. I feel lonely, but I believe that this season of my life has purpose. God said when the time is right He will make it happen. Let's trust in the Lord our God and pray for patience as we wait.

[@Sunshine26762]

I can definitely relate! I’ve been tempted to settle but I know that it would be destructive in the long run.

[@GodsgirlJen]

Everything you said is true. But there are some things that prevent intimacy in the marriage bed that I think you need to consider. I was married for 18 years to an alcoholic who was verbally abusive to me and our kids and never brushed his teeth. The few times in the last three years I attempted to respond were immediately thwarted by his rotten breath and very little love beyond the physical.

[@SH-vj2ce]

If I was you he get no love either, sister. That's disgusting.

[@redhedhik-chik2510]

Genesis 3:15 tells it all: please read it because causing strife between you and your man is a sin. God caused my eyes to see this verse lately and it has changed me💕

[@vernicemansingh8172]

Great information, 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@las8883]

In my experience it’s married people who idolize marriage the most (saying this as a married woman lol)

[@lexie02jones25]

Yup

[@mackbartolazzi9323]

For sure GUILTY of the first - seeking and looking for attention/ affirmations from online and other men. I've been thinking it's harmless, on the surface but deep down knew it was wrong, but kept doing it. I had no idea I would see this video first thing in my feed... But I definitely needed to hear it.

[@shareenladd1048]

I’m so glad you pointed out that the man can be saved AND be physically attractive. I was just telling someone that I don’t have to settle just because he save. But if I’m not attractive to him, we won’t be able to “worship” naked and not ashamed! I’m just saying. Attraction is Important

[@slevinchannel7589]

MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. So, yeah, stopping to embarass oneself by denying Science and Evolution is obviously a Thing for the List of 'ALL Christians should now stop to do this'. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet? Yeah... stop being ignorant and arrogant to the point where you 'ignore' all Criticism and even just Questions who arent even Criticism. Duh.

[@adriennebryant2478]

Absolutely true! Thank you for sharing from a place of love and honesty!

[@jimbojackson4045]

In terms of demasculating and disrespecting your husband, are you doing this even he's not around? At work or with friends, are you complaining about your husband without the intention of seeking advice, but just to vent? Is that respectful, submissive, and loving?

[@eileenk.copeland2979]

I have to agree. I really try not to talk aboit my husband behind his back. I think he should be treated like anyone else. If I have a problem with him I should go to God first and then directly to him in a loving way to discuss. And in Proverbs it says that a fool vents his anger (dont know reference). So no, we don't need to vent to others. Beyond that Go to a pastor or wise Christian in private--someone you can trust not to gossip and who will give you an objective opinion, advice or outlook.

[@jimbojackson4045]

@@eileenk.copeland2979 Amen! We must go to God.

[@joshipp761]

I see so many women in public criticizing their man, I'm usually embarrassed for them

[@nostalgicbliss5547]

Lots of women do this shit. They constantly complain about their man, especially at work. Even to people that are no friends of theirs and will only use it against them in the future. Women in this society just don't know when to shut up. Talking non stop about everything. It really shows poor upbringing not knowing how to keep things between you and your partner.

[@honeywest39j95]

@@nostalgicbliss5547 it also demonstrates lack of proper boundaries; which you should definitely have when married.

[@Seanboogiefilms]

The little pop up "yes I just said that" is grace for sure it had me cracking up as the Lord was getting at me. 😂🙏

[@lisawilson9191]

That last point is so important. Because of finances both of my parents worked as I grew up and I spent a lot of time with my grandparents. I know now that my parents were doing what they had to do to keep us all safe and healthy, but as a child I felt unloved and as a young woman in my twenties I’m still dealing with the effects of that.

[@breejoh7994]

Wooh! This is too much for me! Like you just hit the nail on the head.....the first three points....!! Spoke to me a loud! Thanks for sharing.....

[@doughaynes1048]

I pray 🙏🏻 people find this video useful in their relationships with their partners and especially with their spiritual growth as a couple with God .

[@emilysmith3636]

Just found your channel and I know God lead me here. I’ll admit I always try to get attention from my husband because I am now a Christian and he is not, so because we are unevenly yoked I feel disconnected. SO thanks for the advice to pray for GOD to fill the void. Thanks 😊

[@kaleb8438]

been waiting for this video so I can send it to my girlfriend😭

[@BenjaminSam100]

😂😂

[@avaalford126]

You'd probably better send her the men's one too 😂

[@kaleb8438]

@@avaalford126 She can work with me and i can work with her😎😂

[@avaalford126]

@@kaleb8438 nice 👍

[@oldnurse]

I am guilty of neglecting my family for a job. I ruined my family and my life. You are so right. Women need to be better.

[@jordanromero8576]

#Affirmation I always feel like I need complements and words of encouragement, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. But I often seek affirmation from people over God.

[@kemi.a.2000]

Insecurity is loud, confidence is silent

[@livingunashamed4869]

Proverbs 31 woman wasn't a career woman, she worked a little but her home is where she spent most of her day. Taking care of the home is a full time job in itself.

[@redhedhik-chik2510]

She was a realtor and an entrepreneur. Hmmm...girlfriend HAD to work it. She definitely was not 'in the home' most of the time.

[@Yourbeautypantry]

She worked a lot

[@325Ray]

You really can't say that some woman like my mom have to work to support her family some woman would be stay at home Mom's if they could but cant

[@tandyrichae6194]

Proverbs 31 woman was not a real historical person. She was an idea

[@Yourbeautypantry]

Proverbs 31 woman is a template of what a Christian woman should look like. That was what King Lemuel mom told his son to look for in a woman