What is He HIDING? Body Language Analyst Reacts to Will Smith Interview on the Daily Show.

[@thomasrios3913]

Wow! This, for me is by far the best video you’ve ever made. I found myself constantly either agreeing with what you’re saying or being mind blown by something I hadn’t seen. The stuff about Trevor Noah’s reactions were incredible, there’s no unseeing it! This is also a great example of why you rise above your peers on KZbin. The research you provide, the interdisciplinary knowledge you have (persuasion and communication in this case) and above all the real world experience, you’re out there practicing what you preach every day. That Steve Harvey clip was incredible! Just one question: I love the way you handled that Apollo crowd, I watched that season of Showtime at The Apollo and noticed how performers’ demeanour towards the crowd made a huge difference. My question is, what do I do if I have nothing to compliment someone on early in the conversation. How does labeling work if there’s nothing to label? And also, is there such a thing as too much labelling? Thanks so much for this amazing video.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Thanks so much, glad you enjoyed it. And I love that question so much. Regarding labelling there is a method I teach in my seminars which is simply this. In most conversations our focus is inwards, how we’re coming off, what we should say, what we should do etc… by simply shifting the focus outwards, or towards the person we’re talking to, miracles can happen. I wouldn’t say keep flattering them constantly that’s really not the goal but whenever there’s an opportunity to sincerely show specific appreciation for something, take it. I’m very often saying things like “that’s a really great point” “thanks for showing me that, I can see how much work you put into it” “that’s so thoughtful of you, not everyone would do that and I appreciate it.” Sincere, specific and personal are very key! As for early labelling, don’t stress over it, if there’s nothing, don’t force it. The goal of labelling is not to look for things to label, it’s to point out things we appreciate when they do come up. This distinction is very important for me and makes the difference between the used car salesman vibe and authentic charisma.

[@emmasurf8768]

I'm no expert whatsoever but in dealing with my very challenging teen I was trying to find something every day to give a compliment or positive feedback. It was often extremely difficult but I took it as a challenge to look more deeply into actions I'd think should be a given but might be something that was a stretch for them.

[@kylepifer9509]

That’s the thing that puts people off or loses them in conversations ! If you take you out of the conversation and put them in it’s place conversations become a pleasure and interchange of thought or encouragement 😮!!

[@penelopefp]

@@TheBehavioralArts and @Thomas Rios I tried challenging myself to think of what I would say to a coworker I don't like and have no respect for. I thought about their desk covered in the little trinkets they make and realized I could say something like, "You are clearly creative," motion to things on desk, "I bet we could brainstorm some interesting ways to (solve xyz problem)." No butt kissing, just open to job focused collaboration. Spidey, your videos extend beyond entertainment and make the world a better place. 😊

[@thesnoopydance645]

@@TheBehavioralArts i love this response , Spidey. It's so true sometimes we need to take focus off ourselves and put our focus outwards. This is wonderful secret for introverts !! It is helpful to take your own ego out of the picture and acknowledge the other persons contributions.

[@remyd8767]

Will Smith just has to say this "I messed up. I let my emotions got the best of me. I was going through stuff inside, but that should in no way excuse me from that terrible act I did. I was 100% wrong and there's no way around that. end of story."

[@ivonned32]

Exactly! He is showing he is not brave enough to come clean to his fans. He thinks we are dumb and we dont see how much his wife controls him. 😢😅

[@NinStardust]

@@ivonned32 I think the real problem is that he’s not brave enough to own up to HIMSELF. I think there’s a deep-seated fear of “being his father’s son”. Will’s father had anger issues which sometimes manifested themselves through physical violence. I think that Will inherited some part of that behaviour but is disgusted by it and ashamed of it. Will hated and resented the way his father was and probably the fact that he has it in himself too. I think it just slipped out of him at the Oscars. It seems to me that instead of dealing with those impulses in a healthy manner, Will just pushed them down and bottled them up until the damn burst and the floodgates opened. Chris Rock’s joke was just the last straw. Will snapped and I don’t think he’s been able to put himself back together ever since because he’s still looking for someone else to take up the responsibility.

[@citizenjournalist2401]

And he won't.

[@Gorilla_warfare]

Yep. Had he unreservedly apologised we’d all have moved on by now, but in constantly trying to justify himself it still lives on. Like a Band-Aid - straight off!

[@danielschmaderer]

If he did that the night it happened…..hell even when he released his video, I think people would have forgiven and moved on. He didn’t truly own up to his actions, which says a lot.

[@grapelund]

“That was a horrific night!!!” So much that you still went up and accepted your award, got a standing ovation, laughed, joked and danced at parties afterward.

[@isitoveryet9525]

I’ll never get over that reaction from the audience 🙄 The same clowns who constantly lecture the masses about doing what’s right, saying no to violence & all the other cheap virtue signals they throw out, had the audacity to give that man a standing ovation after he physically assaulted a coworker. Beyond pathetic.

[@DepDawg]

Security should have instantly escorted him out and the police called for an assault. Chris Rock had a crime committed against him on live TV before millions of witnesses, and he was completely ignored while Will Smith was celebrated.

[@Poolberi88]

Chris should have brought a charge against him. Everyone is afraid in Tinsel Town. If Will was a man of character he would have then went straight to his bank manager and giving Chris a few million dollars. .privately of course with a contract that he will never reveal it. Will is sick and his wife too,.... and been good with people and in front of the camera does not make you a balanced human. Will is entitled man, no matter how nice he seems or comes across. The world centres around him, hes big on the screen and he thinks hes big in real life too. . He's a manipulater... dangerous if one has power and money. Everyone is nice to him. Noone should listen to what he has to say. He's an abuser and has the entitlement to abuse someone in public. Noone is saying what they feel about him in case it rebounds on them. There is no honesty.

[@eh1126]

@@Poolberi88Chris should have definitely brought up charges but the sad thing is that due to the toxic masculinity idea within the African American community he will never. He would be made fun of and would lose all respect for bringing charges over a “slap”. Not to mention the power that Will Smith has in the industry.

[@graciegolding9508]

Yeah if he lost his Oscar, would that not be more justified?

[@SousiQ]

When I heard the "I flew 36 hours just to see you," it took me back to a guy I was interested in dating who told me "I took time out of my very busy day just to call you." What was I supposed to say to that? "OMG! Thank you so much! I'm so honoured!" Not playing that game.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

What a terrific example of reciprocity used in an atrocious way lol. Like thanks Mr. President 😂

[@AnnAndNala]

I agree with you. That comment can come across as "I'm doing you a favor by merely paying attention to you." Gross.

[@mikahong]

Huge reason why I don't believe in and am quite against "If he/she wanted to, they would". No one should be entitled to how others manage their time, all we can do is be grateful to be chosen to being made time for.

[@SmokingDragon100]

You're completely taking it the wrong way. People will say something like that to show you how important you are to them. Its Not at all that they're doing you a favor

[@mikahong]

@@SmokingDragon100 I agree w this. Like I said in my previous comment, we should be grateful to be chosen, but if we werent that doesnt mean we should be selfish and think that only we are their priority.

[@JLer_OT5]

I think the reason why will's movements seem awkward is because for the first time in his life he feels he is now an outsider, he is no longer in total control of every situation. He probably thinks every place is hostile to him. It's like how you feel when you are invited to hang out with your friends even after you talked crap about them and you know they are upset with you.

[@Bevrast]

More like he does not have any control over his life anymore. He is controlled by a crazy woman day to day. He can't tell us because he is a hostage.

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@Bevrastthat’s nothing new tho. Jada has always been toxic & controlling….this isn’t something new that’s popped up outta nowhere.

[@stoutlawson1684]

Jada is toxic, Will did a bitch move. She has total control over him, that's probably the sadness part.

[@ellenicochea2255]

Each time I've heard Will Smith state in interviews "You never know what's going on", it is a backfire for me. It immediately takes my mind to Chris Rock. I think oh yeah? What if Chris had some major issue going on in HIS life when you slapped him? You ruined Chris's night and he'll always be the guy that Will slapped throughout his entire career. It just makes me angrier at Will. He is making an excuse and still not owning it! I'm not going to feel bad for Will. I wish he would just STOP!

[@TenTenJ]

It's simple. He's evasive because he's protecting his wife, who is a narcissist, and will punish him if he goes back to her. He's whipped by his wife. I'm a female, and I would never let my husband hang out to dry like she has. She could have said anything like he was just trying to stand up for me, and I'm really sorry for how that played out. Period. By the way, I'm not protecting him. He's totally wrong, end of story.

[@cheogt4623]

@@TenTenJ I think Will might be narcissist too, but it doesn't mean he can't be victime of narcissist abuse And this is what narcs do, they slowly dismantle you, make you do mistakes, and then enjoy the result of their power, of course with no regret. Also Will's actitud is suspicious.

[@tormxnta]

This is a reach because Chris Rock is known for so much more than that. And Chris himself doesnt think of himself as the victim. He understandably wants this whole incident to blow over.

[@iamdeedee6232]

He should have kept his wife’s name out of his mouth. That man made fun of his family every Oscars he presented and I don’t think it was out of the blue.

[@carlostejada1479]

What he did was wrong but it wasn't something that couldn't be fixed. Chris is alive and well. and btw, what if Will was forced to do it?? Don't forget Hollyweird is a mob... they can destroy anyone any second. How would be Will's reaction if this was the case?? pretty much what it's shown here and other videos. maybe he's not taking 100% responsability, cause he was forced to do it. The Oscars won a LOT of ratings after this. (they've already lost a lot since they bacame woke) So there's Will between the sword and the wall, in many ways

[@fledge1234]

Very guarded guy. Pretty much his entire career he was Tom Hanks-level untouchable in the likeability department. Then his bizarre marriage and family life, the affairs, etc., started coming to light. Then the slap. I'd be interested in seeing you do an analysis of his wife, and maybe her interactions with Will and their kids. What little I've been able to stomach of her "red table" show, she is incredibly domineering and Will seems almost afraid of her. The kids do, too.

[@fmcdomer]

I’m going to start sleeping with my sons friend and u are going to like it if u love me

[@beckyh224]

Will is dealing with being a cuckold.

[@aa.4639]

I get a strange feeling regarding Tom Hanks.. When Ricky Gervais was making jokes at the golden globes regarding Hollywood and all the weird stuff they do.. Tom made strange faces, rolled his eyes and not once laughed.

[@fledge1234]

@@aa.4639 Yes, I get the impression Tom's squeaky clean images is a front. For what, I don't know. He has a really wierd instagram account, or he used to, where he liked to post photos of single gloves, single shoes, etc. that supposedly he keeps finding lying around in the streets everywhere.

[@jphanks]

If I could talk to Will, and explain that if he got slapped for every fat joke he made over his career... he wouldn't have a face!

[@yvettebasson1243]

Lawyer here. Being kind and accommodating is one of the best negotiation tactics to use in many disputes. It shows our humanity and what our needs are, and this often 'softens' the other party and they will respond to our vulnerability and humanity.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Absolutely agreed! Always love hearing from the pros

[@yvettebasson1243]

@@TheBehavioralArts I don't know about being a pro, but thanks Spidey! Really enjoyed this one.

[@anamatovic5719]

I've always wondered how detectives, police officers, lawyers, can be as calm as they are while listening to a murderer lie. So only the kind ones can do that? :)

[@yvettebasson1243]

@@anamatovic5719 it's not about kindness in that situation, it's patience and training to hide your real feelings until you get the information you need.

[@anamatovic5719]

@@yvettebasson1243 Yeah, I know, I was just kidding :) But still, I could never do that. I would kill the killer while he's lying to me :)

[@videocat1366]

He seemed terrified. He was extremely guarded, verbally and physically. I think he was afraid he'd slip and say something that would make him vulnerable to public criticism, so he was tiptoeing in his head instead of freely saying what was on his mind. He got brutally dragged on social media after the Oscars. It must have really shaken him because his ego is built on his good-guy persona. I think he desperately wanted to avoid saying anything "wrong" to the point he was totally inhibited.

[@jaye8872]

in total agreement

[@marshawalker5273]

I think ur giving him 2 much credit. He is all bloated ego & no morals

[@mogznwaz]

I don’t see any real remorse there, only self preservation

[@sedaada]

I agree with everything except persona. He’s a good guy who did a bad thing. Calling it a persona makes it seem put on and fake

[@sedaada]

@@marshawalker5273 you are entitled to your opinion but all he’s ever done outside of this one incident in public is being a kind and patient person. His family attests to the same as do fans and his current and ex staff. Just because he is famous, doesn’t mean we should feel we know him personally enough to insult his entire being. He’s a real human with flaws and strengths. If you cant be compassionate to everything he has been through and the psychological effects of that, just wish him health. I don’t understand the need to comment negatively tearing someone down

[@laramarszewski-reeves8505]

Chris was physically assaulted on stage while playing HOST to an event viewed by MILLIONS. He had amazing restraint both in the moment and after by not playing it out on social media. I think addressing it on his special is totally appropriate. It was definitely harsh, but Will I think should have anticipated some kinda fallout. Further, if Will is truly sorry he will let it rest. He’ll take the “high road” now, like Chris did then, and let this be the end of it.

[@Fee212]

It's not for Smith to "take the high road." How about SHOWING us how sincerely sorry he is to an ex-friend for embarrassing his ex-friend in from of millions. If Frank Bruno had been presenting and not Chris Rock, Will would NEVER have done what he did. I won't be paying money to see any of his films again.... I feel that he's just an arrogant ass.

[@liziwood6370]

I agree - Chris came out as the professional on that night while W.S just looked like a hurt man/boy. I don't buy his excuses either, this guy has been in the entertainment field since he was a teen, he knows the game, how to play it & what the rules are having been near the top for many years. For him to do this during a live broadcast of the biggest award shows there is for the acting fraternity & where it's the norm to expect there will be some ribbing of the individual audience members is grossly inappropriate. I had to wonder if Ricky Gervais had made the same comment if his reaction would have been the same & I doubt it.

[@scottsmall9898]

Chris Rock showed why he is a GOAT. He took it and stood strong. I don't know many men that would have just stood there and kept quiet. Chris you are the MAN. 💯

[@davidmonroe2008]

You are a Good man sir!!

[@NicolaMaxwell]

I think Will Smith isn't sorry for his actions that night, he seems to justify it. But, I think he is very upset about the back lash. Will is a great communicator and the "kind Sir" struck me straight away as "be kind here with this situation, you're great and let's make this so nice and easy"

[@nancywenn1093]

I totally agree Nicola. That was my first thought - I don't think he's really sorry for what he did. I think he's sorry for loss of work or the bad press he received because of his actions. He IS a good actor and maybe he didn't have a 'script' for interviews, but I think he had possibly made notes on how to get sympathy from the crowd and answers to dodge direct questions. Maybe it is like a cookout to him, but it was a cookout attended by a world audience. He knew that getting dressed for the event, he knew that when he slapped Chris Rock, and he knew that when he 'cried' in his acceptance speech. Imho

[@NicolaMaxwell]

@Mike I actually agree, it's a great way to influence people but I think he is a great manipulator which is not someone I'd want in my life.

[@GATERISTIC]

You people are evil in its finest form.

[@NicolaMaxwell]

@@nancywenn1093 Absolutely agree! He put his life in the spotlight, he chose that. I think he was prepared and maybe coached for this type of interview. I turned the acceptance speech off. His acting in life makes him a good manipulator to draw people in.

[@Rhiannon310]

I agree!

[@Fern635]

"That's a really good point that I never considered until he said it" is a sentence that plays in my head almost every time I listen to Tevor Noah speak

[@laguvids]

Agreed

[@sunnyday3327]

Well, let’s be honest, no matter what Will Smith does or says, for the rest of his life, he’ll be known as the man who slapped Chris Rock. Will said “I flew 30 hours to be here with you.” He was indirectly saying, I went to a lot of trouble to be here, be nice to me & take me seriously. It was obvious when Will addressed Noah as ”Kind Sir” Will was planting a seed almost asking Noah to be kind and not rake him over the coals in regards to the slap and he used the word Sir to imply, I’m respecting you, so please respect me. I think every word Will said when he first sat down was 100% planned to make sure he received as little friction & embarrassment as possible.

[@triumphant5345]

You couldn’t have said it any better.

[@zoroasteriadog]

I think he emphasised on flying 30 hours because his eyes are constantly watering.. he didn’t want people to get the wrong idea.

[@godbyone]

The slap was scripted. Fake. They all did same skit in 1999. Watch. “ wAyans predict Chris slap 1999. Will Jada. P diddy front row. At awards. But pdiddy walked up same way and slapped. Exa ctly

[@sunnyday3327]

@@godbyone ?? The slap/hit wasn’t fake. Not a skit. You can tell from the way Will Smith has acted since then, and the embarrassed look in his eyes over time, that he will regret that night for the rest of his life. The whole world watched Will make the biggest mistake of his life which is kind of like punishment in itself. I’m sure Will has done a lot of soul-searching since he hit Chris and will never physically assault anyone again. You live and you learn.

[@godbyone]

@@sunnyday3327 it was 100 percent. Staged. I can easily prove it. Look up it’s in you tube. “”” wAyans predicted Chris slap 1999”””. In 1999 they did a skit. Same 4 people. In1999 Will Jada p diddy front row. At a awards show. Chris tells joke but p sdiddy walks up exactly like will. From the front row slaps Chris same exact way. Then 20 years later. Will Jada front row. Will slaps and p diddy hand s Will the award. Same 4 people same exact skit

[@tiffanyanderson9437]

Thank you for showing exactly why that interview felt off. I don’t think Will Smith will be able to repair his image until he gets honest with himself. I hope he’s in therapy. He also has a lot of entanglements - Jada & Will mirror each other. It’s amazing how much they try to protect themselves by using professionals, then put out an image of being people to be emulated, and still are unable to be authentic with themselves.

[@Serendipity7219]

There is NOTHING Will Smith can say in his defense of totally humiliating & stripping a person of their dignity on the world stage.

[@naomiwaetford2719]

He didn’t humiliate or strip Chris of his dignity instead HE SHOWED THAT CHRIS HAS THOSE QUALITIES while he himself has none.

[@lucarossi8442]

I would not say that, I think that Chris Rock was more weirded out than hurt from Will Smith slap, and actually his reaction in the immediate aftermath showed to whole world his class and his dignity.

[@mrs.h2725]

It’s the exact opposite. Rock showed maturity, class and dignity by immediately recognizing Smith was misdirecting rage he has over his toxic marriage. Smith destroyed his reputation and his family’s reputation and the public will never see him as a decent person again.

[@jeremyhahn2478]

The only person who lost any dignity was Will Smith. Chris Rock was pure class that night.

[@MessagesFromAurora]

​@@jeremyhahn2478 agree

[@kathleenmccrory9883]

Is it possible that Will Smith is in denial about his anger that night? It's like he knows he messed up, but somehow, if he takes personal responsibility for it, then he has to acknowledge the source of the anger, and he doesn't want to. Or perhaps he doesn't know how to? Just a thought..

[@harbyarby1347]

My ex would do that! And actually truly seemed to believe his own innocence…even if he had already acknowledged apologized, even if there was record, even if there were witnesses. Interesting for sure!

[@martimar7181]

Yes, I think it’s complete narcissistic behaviour.

[@dawnwesterbeck346]

Yes the source of his anger is his wife. It's so clear to me that he was trying to protect her and then she didn't even appreciate it! When he looked at her she was disgusted and he went up and smacked Chris Rock then when he got back to the seat she was like what the f*** did you do and he was just trying to stand up for her.

[@sengoma8638]

Yes. Good point.

[@godbyone]

It was scripted 100 percent. Same skit was done inn1999 on wAyans show. It’s on KZbin “”” wAyans predict Chris slsp1999””.

[@stacyr3743]

When my teenager is trying to manipulate me, usually because she doesn't want to take accountability of or wants to get out of something, she says, "you wouldn't understand." I think that's what Will Smith is doing to us.

[@paulacostescu1041]

He is still trying to justify it like a teenager one year later... wow

[@virtualwhispers]

@@paulacostescu1041 He didn't try to JUSTIFY anything - what are you talking about??

[@vivaciousautumn]

Kids don’t often have the ability to manipulate. We recognize it as manipulation because we FEEL like they are. Trying understanding that maybe she really feels like you wouldn’t understand because you haven’t be able to show her that you can understand her experiences and have empathy.

[@TicTahtToee]

I remember I often did that as a teenager and it was because I genuinely felt my parents wouldn’t understand. I was a text book neglected child so it’s not always manipulation with malicious intent

[@elizabethdevries8028]

There’s absolutely 0 excuse for physically assaulting someone for joking on stage. Rocks monologue was not degrading to narcissist Jada.

[@FlorianCalmer]

Yeah "I'm going through some stuff you wouldn't understand" isn't a good excuse. Even less so when you don't even clarify "the stuff" or show clear empathy about the damage you've caused. Trevor Noah should have called him out on this.

[@MisterFoxx]

@@FlorianCalmer why do you feel the need that he needs to dive into the “stuff” he’s dealing with? If he’s going to therapy or getting help from professionals then he doesn’t need to go into detail especially if that’s not what he’s there for and ready to unpack. He’s already apologized to Chris in public more than once, so this interview is not for a hundredth apology that Chris is not gonna acknowledge.

[@mikahong]

Rock has said "worse" things on stage and at his other Oscars appearances. For a society that measures what's worse than other things said anyway.

[@DNGR369]

She has Alopecia which is hair loss, and he made a joke about that. On the street this would be a slap, and Will thought it be okay to do this in front of the world. Clearly he's doesn't think things through

[@Rebecca-GLaines]

If you were doing a skit, would be a reason. He can't just come out and say it though. So there is zero amount of justifying it and I don't think he wants to come out and apologize because that would make him guilty, and psychologically, he knows he's not ACTUALLY guilty, so he has to create a reason

[@H87-u5o]

Just want to say this was amazing to watch. I’ve seen other people try to break down body language and none of them come close to you. Thank you for doing what you do!

[@icecreamgirlrockyroad3547]

He reminds me so much of my brother growing up ! so many ppl loved him but growing up with him was very much turmoil

[@satanxkxtten]

Just finished the video! That moment with Steve Harvey was absolutely amazing!

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Yeah lol. I fully believe that I would have been bludgeoned by that audience before I even got to my act if he wasn’t on my side. Lol

[@Auxius.]

Man, how hard is it to say; I fucked up, I ruined everyone’s night, my night and I’m utterly sorry. Me and my wife’s marital problems of which many of you know got me to get up there and do as stupid as I did. I haven’t known myself to be like this before, but as I grow I learn I hope i won’t lose control like that again. After, throw in a apology for Chris and there wouldn’t be much of an interview after that and he and all of us can move on.

[@lorellgingrich1334]

agree

[@jackieocean3511]

He already made a very public video apology. Chris refused to accept the apology. What else do you want him to do?

[@lorellgingrich1334]

@@jackieocean3511 Simply say, " I'm sorry it happened and it won't happen again. Next question." even if the issue keeps cropping up - which it will, for a long time, because it was so public.

[@Auxius.]

@@jackieocean3511 if that were sincere, why the backpedaling, vague statements, finger pointing? It serves no purpose.

[@jackieocean3511]

@@Auxius. At this point, this sounds like something personal in ur life, not about Will Smith. Hope you find peace. 🙏

[@Lizzypoohxo]

Not only does Spidey travel for his profession, but he does these elaborate videos, links all of the sources he mentions and keeps us all posted on what's going on via the community tab. I am impressed. Most creators don't bother with the community tab and their followers are left wondering what is going on when there's no uploads for a long period of time.

[@daleblundell9949]

If you watch his face touching. He was wiping tears from his eyes. You can see the tears in his eyes

[@sandyfika2201]

Reciprocity and respect ... I've understood these principles since childhood but have never heard them articulated so well. The way your videos show how you navigate the world is outstanding. You are bringing something so valuable and life changing to the world without a hint of ego, preaching or pomposity. I love what you do!!!!!

[@iloveGod1105]

This was great! My concern with the situation is that I still don't see any remorse for Chris! It's all remorse relative to the backlash Will is getting, and the lack of respect he's gained. But nowhere in there do I see remorse or sadness because of how he hurts someone else. It's more so sadness because of how it's tainted his own reputation.

[@craftilady]

Great point!

[@Spinko7128]

Exactly Any apology was pathetic on will s part

[@Spinko7128]

@@bmonster did u not see him laughing his head off at the joke initially?

[@ArielisisRuiz77]

@@Spinko7128 ​ Right until Jada looked very angry about the situation! She never had alopécica it was just plastic surgery or surgeries the scar on her head is liner straight across her head not alopécica at all just a lying narcissist for absolutely no reason at all except to be right and control all situations in her life.

[@Spinko7128]

@@bmonster r u seriously justifying his a actions?!?!?!

[@ejtappan1802]

Personally, I think he reacted solely in response to Jada's reaction to the joke. He initially laughed, she scowled, and he launched himself up onto the stage. I think he doesn't want to acknowledge or address that whole dynamic, and so is in 100% deflection and double-speak mode whenever that subject gets brought up.

[@RareInTheHistory]

I agree. There's something in his relationship with Jada that drive him up there. He was relaxed and laughing, while she's unhappy, and next thing you know he's charging up on stage. We know there's tense history with her infidelity that she reclassified as an "entanglement", but I definitely get the feeling she has a lot of manipulative behaviors.

[@bettinaschewe7641]

Agree

[@michele-kt]

Nuances and complexities are words his wife uses as a precursor to make an excuse or to dodge answering a question altogether. Amazing how he manages to avoid bringing his wife into the conversation when she was the reason he smacked the host in the first place!!

[@crazygemini82]

That was my exact thought when hearing him use those words. My head went right back to "entanglements".

[@michele-kt]

@@crazygemini82 Yes!

[@757Media]

You got a subscription from me. Your moments at the Apollo won me over. Thank you, can’t wait to see more great content from you.

[@Harleysport1999]

Kindness & respect! Yes!! Thank you.

[@TheMaskedChef7]

Spidey is always on point with his analysis! Will was definitely advised on how to speak in this interview with Trevor to get it as much of a positive outcome as possible. But it’s just very hard if not impossible to teach someone to develop a new baseline.

[@mariee.5912]

Agree. That visit to Trevor Noah was planned. I don't think he would be as comfortable as he was with Trevor Noah.

[@marshawalker5273]

Trevor's interview w.Smith will go down w. Oprah's of the Sussex's. It was a kiss-up , not worthy.

[@wearemany73]

There are no "nuances" to assaulting Chris Rock. No doubt his adulterous wife caused him some stress and embarrassment but there's no excuse for his violent behaviour. Any nuanced explanation, excuse or apology is wrong by default.

[@neva_nyx]

There's no need to call Jada names. What they do in their marriage is their business and we don't get to judge.

[@mariee.5912]

I would not judge a person who has publicly admitted to have trauma and that he's working on it. We're humans that make mistakes. I don't justify the slap.

[@nomeacaso4034]

People have "nuances". A lot. I have no trust in people who never make a mistake.

[@MichiaMakes]

How can you say apologies are wrong??? Hitting someone is wrong. Full stop. Apologies are right. Full stop. They are necessary for us to move on and grow.

[@glenpolen5562]

I agree with you, Cool Cat. I feel the same way. I no longer respect Will Smith, and I think he is a phony person. He is F.O.S. He is fake. His wife has made him less of a man. Neva Nyx, you can't tell someone what not to say and how to feel. Who are you? You dont know what has happened in Cool Cats' life to tell Cat how to feel and what to say. I know Nyx, you never thought badly about someone, and said anything negative about a persons comment. Because I am sure that you are doing that about me right now because of my comments. I like Spidey. I respect him. He knows his craft. He tells us a lot of things about what he notices in people.

[@syfrancomusic]

The first thing I noticed was, “Kind Sir.” And I instantly realized that Will Smith is still in survival mode. The first thing he does is try to control his environment. I am shocked at how painful it is to watch Will Smith be in pain. I grew up watching his show and his movies and I love what he has created. It saddens me to see him in this much pain all the time. Even the fake laughter seems painful.

[@grantc61]

He has easier access to better care than most. Save your tears for the powerless.

[@syfrancomusic]

@@grantc61 first of all, you’re being incredibly rude. Secondly, you have no idea what it is like to be him and you don’t know what else he is going through. I didn’t excuse his behavior I said it pains me to see him this broken. I will remind you that far too many famous men have taken their life recently (i.e. Twitch, Aaron Carter, Jason David Frank). By all means hold people accountable but don’t dismiss their pain.

[@wildflower1397]

Yes, it's really sad. He did something awful, and will most likely never be able to fix his reputation. It's clear he has been through a lot, and has hurt more than a slap ever will. It's been a year, so I feel like it's time to forgive and move on. I miss the happy he has always shared with all of us.

[@shecat1964]

Thank you for being one of the few who recognise this man as being a victim. He has been a victim for far too long and its going to take him a lifetime, to find who he is again, if he ever does. He may never figure out what part of the way he has acted in his life, was from himself and or the puppet he became. It has broken my heart to see and hear the way he is being talked about. Yet some of those same people saw through scamber, to see what she had done to JD. Jada is on a whole higher level of evil. Her monster is not in your face for all to see, she is cold and calculated like a snake. I would even go as far as to say she may be a psychopath. Even their own kids knew she did not love their dad.

[@christywallace7339]

@@syfrancomusic💜💜

[@siyabongakhumalo4492]

As a person who has watched tones of Will Smith interviews, he says "You know" a lot. Its part of him, everytime he gives philosophical advice and sometimes even in normal conversation, its just something he does as Will Smith. He says "you know" and when you watch all his interviews, you will see him say it. You know? 😂

[@kathymajr4778]

I ykyk

[@adamstheamazing]

Yes! I came here to say that. That is definitely his signature. His oldest son even does the same.

[@GreanyBeeny]

I LOVE that snippit at the end about the Apollow experience! Such an amazing example of mutual respect and genuine kindness being benificial to everyone involved. Love love love that!

[@SnippyKitty79]

Later during his speech Will reiterated what “D” said…. “At your highest moment the careful…that’s when the devil comes for you”. Will assumed that it was a comment of support, however I interpreted the biblical quote as a warning to calm down…calm the devil in his mind As always great job! My favorite channel and I’ve learned so much from you!!!😊

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Yep. Denzel wasn’t warning him of things to come. He was talking about what had already happened. I said that in my original analysis and then it was clear firmed the next day by Denzel on an interview

[@theConquerersMama]

I took it that way as well.

[@cdogthehedgehog6923]

Anyone but a narcissist would take it that way.

[@onmylastnerve282]

I love the way you used your personal experience at the Apollo to explain reciprocity, respect & kindness. We were apparently raised in exactly the same way. I can't express how educational your videos are to me. I'm very interested in reading body language, perhaps because I'm neurodivergent & often need more information when trying to read the social situations in which I find myself. My son is on the spectrum & I find the more I can teach him about how to interpret a social interaction the more confident he becomes. Your deep knowledge & the respect you demonstrate toward those whose behaviour you read has taught me more than I've learned anywhere else. I'm very grateful to you.

[@isaiahbryant1668]

Pretty sure Trevor’s just trying to not get slapped

[@sol.4622]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sol.4622]

as long as he doesn't mention jada hinting that she is not good as will is hipnotized to believe...

[@graciegolding9508]

🤣🤣

[@HurlingMongroach]

He might be afraid cuz he might try drugging him with that special k and get some cheek action

[@dalevintage]

I think will greeted Trevor I saw it as him subtly begging for mercy and feeling super grateful for the opportunity to do the interview.

[@hankman1023]

Love your content!!! Thank you for sharing this. Will knows he’s broken, but it seems like he doesn’t want to put the blame on himself and his so-called wife-he doesn’t want to look weak by saying: yes it’s my fault for letting my wife define how our marriage is going to be, yes I don’t like her arrangement, and yes my anger was deflected toward someone who I knew isn’t gonna fight back.

[@mogznwaz]

Spot on

[@greatsm2videl]

Good point.. if he’s actually been emotionally abused/degraded, him saying that his emotions got the best of him and owning up to that, would also mean him saying something against his abusive wife publicly, admitting that he wasn’t okay with it, admitting weakness, and admitting that he’s been faking being okay with the “entanglements” and everything else. He’d be admitting something a lot deeper and more vulnerable about himself and his circumstances.. so it’s easier to hide the truth from yourself and dance around the issue. Kind of sad really.

[@BeaIEngio]

I've always found Will an affectacious and repellent character. I'm not sure anything could convince me he's a genuine man.

[@dawnieb.7394]

I've followed him for decades and always found him to be charming, funny, and a genuinely nice guy. The Jada years, however, threw a wrench into things. I think she's an extremely problematic individual, and I have no doubt that their marriage is an unhealthy one. However, as much as I liked Will before, violence is where I draw the line. I hope he can get out of the toxic situation he's in.

[@fifi_le_fleur2010]

I've had a problem with both his talks regarding the incident, he really doesn't seem that sorry to Chris to mention he couldn't believe no one checked how he was on stage after getting slapped, why he chose to party straight after it? And I think the more worrying one for me is where does his son jaydan get the attitude of tweeting "and that's how we do it!" straight after the slap? doesn't really imply a peaceful home life or lifestyle, jeez will even having to warn jada God knows how many times to not film him at home is mad, feel so sorry for him begging his own wife for privacy in there home, something's mucked up behind closed doors.

[@grantc61]

Jaden's tweet says a lot about his parenting and the emotional tone of the family. Will Smith can't apologise because he doesn't know how.

[@paulacostescu1041]

One year later he is still trying to justify "the nuances"... wow

[@chelseasalmonstiles9471]

Biggest thing I took away was him not holding himself accountable. There's all these reasons we can't hear about but it's not his fault

[@marymotherofgod4861]

YES!!!

[@jmb-21]

Biggest thing I take from it is that people have an unfulfilled desire to watch others suffer. He messed up, has been punished by the academy, gave his little apology. There is NO reason that this many people should still be this concerned over a slap this long after it happened. I’m not defending him, I think it was a coward move because I can guarantee that nothing would have happened if it was The Rock telling that same joke, but a slap is so insignificant in my day to day life. I do believe that he was embarrassed after the whole “entanglement” drama and that joke was the straw that broke the camels back, but I also believe that people should get a life and let these people live theirs.

[@jackwhitbread4583]

​@@jmb-21 People are not punishing him because he messed up, he's not taking responsibility and is acting like he was the victim. It's infuriating that his stans can't even see how entitled and arrogant this man is .

[@terriwinquest8107]

It's pride. Will Smith has been soul searching through traveling and psychedelics, both of which force you to see your true self. Will knows why he hit Chris, he's done his Shadow Work. Never once has he said he had no idea what came over him. He doesn't divulge because whatever it is, its extremely private and his pride is not okay with sharing his findings. He also may be protecting face of others in his life on top of this. I'm not always okay with sharing the deepest darkest parts of myself with the one I love the most, let alone the entire world. He's giving as much info as his current level of healing allowed his ego to go. I'm still a fan. I'm only human, too.

[@mariacastillo3090]

Loved how well you described and interpreted their behaviors…thank you for explaining your theories so well.

[@lez0n]

I’ve noticed pretty much every member of the Smith family presents with a surface level charisma but no real accountability for much of anything. They all seem really self absorbed and present a carefully crafted image. They seem to be living in their private version of reality a bit.

[@sandracairney6007]

That would be in line with narcissistic family dynamics. Kids do as they see not as they are told by others. The arrogance, entitlement, gaslighting and never taking accountability will have been taught via the narcissistic mother and codependent doormat will. Will Smith just lost all my respect for him, he enables an abuser and abused a comedian and took no accountability with no genuine, authentic shame or regard for what he did. He embarrassed himself more by hitting Chris now continues to be a pathetic ass hole about it. Actors, practised liars.

[@AbelMusa]

They are all in a cult, never forget that.

[@karmennash7479]

Loved your, “what are you doing Friday?” And the Will word salad answer. LOL! Spot on. 👏

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Some people are thankful for your kind comment, some people are glad you enjoyed the video, some people are happy you like that observation…. …. K bye 😆

[@Maggies87]

@@TheBehavioralArts Yes!!!Appreciation by Proxy 😃

[@VivaCubaRoja]

I suspect the reason why Will Smith didn’t give a reason for slapping Chris Rock is he doesn’t want to throw Jada under the bus. He was initially laughing at the joke but, after seeing her rolling her eyes, he reacted and to explain that to the crowd would make people blame her and then he’d have to hear it from her when he gets home.

[@justineharper3346]

I think so I too

[@VivaCubaRoja]

@@allergictostupidpeople7893 I don’t know who you’re referring to nor do I see how that’s relevant.

[@suetv7084]

I will never see Will the same guy as before. I think this was the true self. He is so full of with himself.

[@rossanafernandez9596]

About that face he made when he mentions the stage, I’ve caught myself doing that while I remember an unpleasant memory, or a bad behavior from my part, or a come-back that could have been better. I felt he was on that exact same feeling, it’s a very unpleasant memory for him which he has had to go through so many times and it doesn’t get better, he clearly hasn’t gotten over it, so I think that’s that. Btw I love this channel, I found it recently and I can’t stop watching your videos! Extremely interesting, gotta say!

[@shelby4699]

Great video!! I was messing around with Chat GPT while watching this video and decided to ask the A.I. about this Will Smith situation and the answer really says it all. The A.I. program isn't aware of events after 2021 so I asked it in this way and the response says IT ALL 😂: "Why would an actor slap the host at the Oscar's after the host who is a comedian made a joke about the actor's wife?" "Such an incident would be highly unusual and likely result in significant public controversy and backlash. Physical violence or threats of violence are never appropriate responses to a joke, even if the joke is about someone close to you. In a professional setting, such as the Oscars, actors and other public figures are expected to maintain a high level of decorum and professionalism, even in the face of difficult or offensive situations. Responding with violence would likely result in serious consequences for the actor, including damage to their reputation, potential legal trouble, and harm to their career. It's important to remember that humor, especially in a public setting, can be subjective and often hits close to home for someone. However, it's always better to handle these situations with grace and diplomacy, and to avoid responding with violence. If someone is making jokes that are personally hurtful, it may be best to address the situation through private channels or to simply ignore it." WOW

[@kilahlipstick9687]

NO SUPER WOW. I just used Chat GPT to help me write some ad copy and that thing is scary amazing

[@AuntSnazzy]

Loved this analysis, Spidey! Trevor Noah protected Will Smith throughout this interview. I'm not sure if it's purely for PR like you mentioned could be a possibility, but I do wonder how much about the context of Smith's circumstances Noah is privy to. It makes the, "you know," even harder to swallow because I'm not sure even Noah knows. You pulled the perfect moment out when Noah was very quiet and blinking like a strobe light. It is clear there were moments when Noah asked for what I think could have been relatable elaboration, like the nephew story. Smith had already been trying to gain sympathy using very weak and inauthentic tactics, so Noah was attempting to give him an authentic moment. This story feels off to me. Either Smith doesn't want the audience knowing his response to his nephew or it never happened. Despite Noah's efforts, I think Smith blows this opportunity to take accountability. That moment of disgust, I think, comes from the fall out of the action and not the action itself. I wonder what the history is between Chris Rock and Will Smith and/or Jada Pinkett Smith. I think you had broken down a clip following her "entanglement," which made many people, including me, suspect she emotionally abused him. Are Will Smith's behaviors a sign of long-term psychological abuse by his wife? If a woman dehumanizes a man, tells him he's less of a man repeatedly for years, might he assert himself physically against another man to prove to her that his "manhood" is intact? What a mess.

[@michael-4k4000]

Yea Trevor did, Trevor didn't want to get smacked!

[@kendallneason3645]

I think you are close to the truth. Interesting observations.

[@laurenlaforest]

Distancing himself from the guilt... One thing that irks me is when people can't take accountability for their bad behavior/actions...

[@dawb86]

I remember Will making the comment in that video he put up on IG apologizing to Chris and everyone about that situation that he was in therapy and essentially not trying to allow himself to feel like he was a piece of shit for what transpired. I immediately thought to myself "..........but you WERE a piece of shit, in that particular moment."

[@greentone-io]

Oh man!! I have missed watching your body language videos so much. It’s been a while for me. I always learn so much; I feel like I’m back in university class, where I really love the subject and the teacher. Thoroughly enjoyed watching and learning! Thank you! 😊

[@enywong288]

Wow, Spidey! You got to perform at the Apollo! What an accomplishment! I'm always happy to see you pop up everywhere. I also want to thank you, decoding behavior has really helped me for the last few months to get out of a bad relationship before it got really, really bad. You are my hero.

[@scillataylor3883]

I’m interested how Will Smith was the perpetrator, and Chris the victim, and yet apparently it was a terrible night for Will!

[@beverlyastorga6825]

Right

[@dabsanyone3752]

Terrible night for will cause he blew up all his on going and potential movie deals

[@johnsykes3526]

I understand how you feel but celeb wise Will lost a lot of money with that slap and Chris made millions, his newest comedy tour was pretty good btw.

[@py528]

Yea Willy is full of crap!

[@itsspoodini]

​@johnsykes3526 seems to me they are both victims and Will's goddess is the perpetrator. She has him by the balls. She knows he's weak and will not stand up to her!

[@thesnoopydance645]

I'm so glad you make these videos, Spidey. Most of this stuff goes right over my head until you point it out. This is a needed education.

[@thomasrios3913]

Yeah. There were so so so many things in this video that made me go 😮😮😮.

[@miriammccaffety3821]

Will Smith using slavery to save himself. Sorry you brought it on yourself. Don't use people who did suffer, blacks and whites and other races, to cover for your disgraceful behavior. Disgusting. Your disgusting.

[@DuaneThomas1963]

My impression here is that Will Smith was trying to get back to what he was in most people's eyes before the Oscars incident. He's trying to use humor and his personal charisma to be the charming, likeable Will Smith that people knew (or thought they did) and loved. He understands, or at least believes, the only way through this is for him is to brazen it out. Whether that works for you is going to depend, in large part, on whether or not you see it as an attempt to avoid responsibility for his actions. "There's many nuances and complexities to it..." If your attitude is, "No, there's not. You physically assaulted another person for no good reason. Period," then you're not going to be impressed. The truth is, all he really had to say was, "I'm so sorry, that was wrong of me and I know it, that should never have happened." A sincere apology cuts a LOT of ice with people. But he doesn't apologize, because the truth is, he's not sorry. He still feels justified. On a positive note, we can say that at least he's not lying about it. He's not offering an insincere apology. Trevor Noah, with his "Part of me..." commentary, I think was, very kindly, trying to guide Will Smith toward an admission of wrongdoing, and an apology, that he knew would actually play well with people. It didn't work. The overwhelming sense I got of Trevor's attitude in this clip was *disappointment*. He's seeing that this man he previously admired is not who he thought he was. Will Smith is not a stand-up guy who takes responsibility for his actions. And that saddens Trevor.

[@ORVONTON64]

Nope, bridge burnt

[@jrow3101]

Much respect for performing at the Apollo I didn't know. You got a subscriber because you have guts.

[@ShepherdsCreek]

I'm a psychology student and I love that you talk about the stuff I've learned about in college :)

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Haha. My degree is in sociology so I learned alot of this stuff in school too 😊

[@ShepherdsCreek]

@TheBehavioralArts sociology is really interesting too! I've taken a few courses in it and it seems like there is a lot of overlap

[@TheBehavioralArts]

@@ShepherdsCreek definitely. I wanted to study psychology but I don’t really care about the parts of the brain and what they do I just wanted applied social psychology so I can be a better mentalist lol. So I studied sociology with a minor in psych so I can still get that psychology in there but be a little more selective 😊

[@ShepherdsCreek]

@TheBehavioralArts haha totally fair! The brain gets pretty complex! I'm hoping to end up with a PhD in school psychology and clinical psychology some day so I can help kids with learning and behavioral disorders to be more effective learners. I feel like the body language analysis you do would be super helpful for the clinical side.

[@TrentRidley]

@@ShepherdsCreek Very noble goals, I hope you achieve them.

[@ForgetTheHouse]

From what I’ve gathered of their relationship and my own experiences I feel like Jada fueled a lot of what happened that night… I feel like there’s a lot that goes on behind closed doors in their relationship and Will is trying his best not to fall apart at the seams. It may be why he is being so vague about his apology. He was not himself that night at all and to me it felt like if he didn’t react in a way jada “expected” that there would’ve been hell to pay when they got home. Whether it be more spiteful vindictive adultery from her or just an all out rage war.. these last few years I’ve seen Will struggling on the inside and it breaks my heart genuinely. I know the feelings he’s feeling and it can lead people to do things COMPLETELY out of character. It’s so subtle that most people don’t see it at all.. reasons why toxic relationships can go unnoticed for so long.. It’s not an excuse it’s just a reality of what toxic relationships can do to people.. and until you’ve been there you really have no clue what people in these situations go through. I feel for Will and I hope he can pull through for his own sanity.

[@rebalspirit]

While men may act like fools for the love of a woman, the only one responsible for such foolishness is that foolish man who stays to be made a fool of over and over and over again. I understand that leaving is not easy but that's only one option. Don't take sh>t from no one and no one will give you sh>t. Clearly Will thinks that taking sh>t from Jada is a good strategy. What a fool.

[@ForgetTheHouse]

@@rebalspirit I do agree. Hopefully he wakes up one day and realizes how much better off he would be. It truly is a breath of fresh air. 😮‍💨

[@twiceshy9773]

The fact that he was wiling to blow up his entire career says a lot...I guess we should be glad he did this instead of Chris Watting his entire family...but I will never be able to look at him the same way again- Chris Rock was the only true professional and adult on that Oscar stage and Will Smith is just a great big phony- and Jada reminds me of Amber Turd- gripping onto a weaker person and eating them alive

[@PriyaPans]

I didn't know much about will n Jada's relationship until the slap now ik about the strange arrangement (that jada can sleep around basically?) And also that jada, her mother and daughter all had a convo about steaming their vags. Why is any of this on the internet and why are people like this???

[@marshawalker5273]

He's a full grown man. If he acts under the influence of Jada then he's seriously damaged. He needs 2 go away & get treatment. His excuses makes him look worse.

[@bettinaschewe7641]

As usual, great analysis. And loved the final personal experience. Spidey's explanation to being respectful: "I was raised that way", is so important. We could change the world by raising our children right. (And he is Canadian, haha).

[@MissHellybaybee]

You know, I was thinking about that and I thought - yes that is respectful but also cultural. I'm from the UK and I don't think that's the way we really do things, I think it's very American (ie as a continent not just the US). I was trying to think how people would do those introductions over here and I'm not sure, probably 'pleased to meet you,' or something like that I don't really think we do 'mr' or 'ms' and 'ma'am' is for the queen... I think we just overly thank and apologise to people.

[@judycroteau482]

@@MissHellybaybee Hey, I am Canadian and am offended at being lumped in with the USA/Americans just because we share a continent. Trust me, to Canadians being American is a different culture and country. And usually not a good look!

[@michellethomas1500]

I really,really am learning a lot from you Spidey.Your explanations to everything is a lesson learned.

[@mattrobinson7968]

This was great! Just found ya and I’m glad I did

[@jooliagoolia9959]

Narcissist can't admit they were wrong.... They have to paint a picture of how they were forced into their words and actions...

[@Amanda-qt6lc]

I just finished his memoir. I don't see how anyone could read that and not see him as a narcissist after.

[@aliecat199]

Thanks Spidey for an informative reaction to this unique interview. Going forward always stick to your plan and discuss what you want on your channel. We’re here for you!! Keep up the amazing work Sir! ❤️

[@roblewis8227]

I have lost so much respect for him after all this. Not necessarily for the slap, I mean that's obviously bad but everyone makes mistakes. If he apologised for it, it would have ended there. What he's doing by calling it nuanced etc is refusing to apologise or acknowledge that he's even wrong. He should have been arrested, not given an award and a speech. I bet the guy that tried to slap the other comedian a few weeks later was arrested.

[@ArtbyL763]

I’ve always liked Will Smith. The way I saw the whole Oscar debacle was he was laughing, then he saw Jada’s face. Then he reacted. It seems to me she has some kind of control over him. He wants to please her so badly and she just dismisses every effort he makes. She enjoys making him feel ill at ease. It’s like he felt he had to do some gallant gesture just to get her to notice him, but nothing works. I honestly think for his own mental health he needs to leave. She is a tormentor.

[@XoXo475]

You nailed it .

[@b31cuzz]

💯

[@peekaboots01]

Yes but he won't. He says he'll never ever do it. He says he'll stand up and show up for Jada for his entire life, that she is his best friend and that there is absolutely nothing she can ever do that will make him stop loving her. He's a simp.

[@CelinaQ]

It's great to see snippets of your performances, @spidey!

[@KnitzyKitzy]

Great analysis. I found the sympathy through proxy to be very disingenuous. The look on his face during the first time when he addressed the audience reminded me of Jada’s face she pulls when she is being manipulative and refusing to take responsibility for her actions. It is very fake and makes me feel yucky. I feel like he has taken on a lot of her characteristics over the years and he has devolved into a less pleasant person. However, should he separate and surround himself with more positive people he would probably revert. It would be interesting to know what his first son has observed and thinks of his father.

[@Poetess2323]

He has always been unpleasant. Way back to his West Philly days. He's just been fortunate enough to have a good PR firm.

[@dawnieb.7394]

@@rosiereal8444 THIS. Mic drop.

[@maemae7497]

I don't understand why will smith hasn't just simply said the truth instead of making it complicated, " I was in a bad head space that night, I was offended and I reacted really really badly." I think he would get sympathy and understanding, and its the truth, no nuance no complications.

[@mirayoon1992]

cause he might not want to get in trouble from jada🤷‍♀️

[@Maya-sv1pz]

he's a sad man desperately trying to keep his marriage and career together.. except those two are opposing forces.

[@sarahbeee5240]

I think he's with a narcissist, if he shows weakness or vulnerability she will see him as even less than she does already. He can't emotionally handle that. He's holding onto it so tightly even to the detriment of his career.

[@maggiebeth5442]

For those that say we should move on from this event now, I think everybody will move on if Will ever gives a genuine apology or shows any real regret.

[@debbiereynolds2873]

Love you sharing everything with us. Of others and of yourself. Thanks Spidey!

[@DIYD]

You went up on stage at the Apollo ... Respect 💪🏾

[@harbyarby1347]

His non-answers to the Oscar night are a lot like the non-nswers Jada gave when they had that question session (when Will and Jada sat opposite each other) when she spoke of her affair. Just no accountability and lots of sympathy-by-whatever s/he could muster. Thank you Spidey for this and the other uploads!

[@cathryncharette1224]

Will loved when Trevor gave him the “no big deal” excuse for Oscar’s night. It delighted him, thanks for the perfect cover up and excuse.

[@laramccully3272]

As a Canadian, I am so proud that you represent us, Spidey. You are so good and kind and I hope you never change.❤️ I believe WS lost who he was a long time ago. Sadly, that often happens when people throw money and adoration at you. Trevor Noah is a soft and easy interview and tries to get Will to make sense of what happened for Will’s sake, but just can’t lead him there. He also tries to soften the severity of what Will did by the “cook out” comment. I’m sorry, but I have gone to church every Sunday since I was born. No matter how “familiar” people become with taking the Sacrament, it does not become a “cook-out” with friends. Certain things have meaning and are sacred. If these celebrities want to continue to be worshipped, they will have to treat these events with the respect and reverence they want us to believe they deserve.

[@saratonnan]

Spidey is Canadian? Me too. That's so cool to know he's from Canada, too. 😊🇨🇦

[@anamatovic5719]

@@saratonnan I would never thought he's Canadian ahahahah He doesn't sound like that. But I guess that's why he is so nice :)

[@NicolaMaxwell]

Yep he is Canadian ♥️

[@fencing_girl]

@@anamatovic5719: Like the US, people from different parts of Canada have different accents. Sometimes the accents are subtle, but there if you listen carefully. My husband's family in Alberta speak slightly different than my family in BC. Not something most people will notice, but it's there in the speech pattern and accent.

[@laramccully3272]

@@anamatovic5719 He has a slight French Canadian accent (not the stereo typical Canadian accent you’d assume we all speak because of T.V. Shows that make fun of us.)😉

[@darlene6766]

FASCINATING, great job. Please help us understand the political speeches and debates, THANK YOU.

[@trinajackson7946]

I'm in no way a behavior specialist, but I am a communications professor. No matter how communicative we perceive a person to be, sometimes it's a lack of vocabulary. Not that he didn't think he did anything horrific. In many instances people believe they have communicated a thought effectively when they have not. The same goes for his use of the words complex and nuanced. It's something to consider.

[@dvduadotcom]

Bedros, this was a fantastic video. I think Trevor talking about the cookout was a very compassionate "out" he's giving Will, it's offering him forgiveness and compassion, and Will is clearly very relieved and surprised I think to get it, but is of course, eager to take it by his response to it, and I think that was a very beautiful moment. That being said, overall, I felt Will doesn't feel bad for his behavior. He doesn't show (at least to me), any remorse for his treatment of Chris.

[@peachypandalove]

For someone so good at talking he just can’t seem to say the right thing. He can say he was going through stuff without elaborating, that’s fine. But then just apologize for the actions you took based on your emotions. Why do you think he can’t bring himself to admit he messed up? I feel like people would have more respect. I’m a fan and always have been and I do believe we saw a good guy do a bad thing. I just wish he would own it.

[@andRubymakes2]

I personally believe that the only apology that means anything is the one made straight away. Apologies later just look like you are sorry you got caught. He is sorry that his win is forgotten & people keep bringing that other thing up...🙄

[@novamarie2162]

This is really interesting. I am less likely to believe an apology made straight away. It would be empty and just a manipulation tactic to maintain someone's reputation. I would be more inclined to accept an apology much later, as it would have been thought over, weighed, and considered in such a way that they truly feel remorse.

[@andRubymakes2]

@@novamarie2162🤣😂 That is interesting, I wonder if it's cultural? I'm in the UK & was brought up being told early is better. 🤷 Or maybe generational? I was born in the 70's and my parents in the 30's...🤔 Or maybe my family is just weird! 😁👍

[@katarinaprnjak99]

When Will wiped off this tear (after talking about his nephew), he turned towards the crowd, which to me is unusual given that people usually want to hide their vulnerability and look down.. it's as if he wanted little bit more sympathy from the audience

[@michelewheldon7183]

Reminded me of Amber Heard looking at the jury to garner sympathy.

[@RenegadeJames]

​@@michelewheldon7183 Will Smith is not Amber Heard. Her situation was very different cause she was actually lying and defamed another innocent man. Will Smith has done way more good in his life than anything Amber Heard has done for others.

[@AV8R_1]

Travis Walton recently did an interview on The Joe Rogan Experience podcast. He also formerly did an interview a long time ago on Larry King. I would love to see a body language analysis on him during his interviews.

[@helenmerkis6420]

Yes, the Oscars might not be as big a deal for Will as for us watching, but THIS Oscars he was up for a major award. To Will it was just as big deal as it was for those watching. This was no cookout!

[@anamatovic5719]

If that hadn't happened, I wouldn't even have known that there was an Oscar ceremony.

[@GeoRedtick]

I think for a large number of Americans, me being one of them, the Oscars are of zero importance, so I am pretty sure they are a much bigger deal to Will than many of us. Because of Will’s slap that is the first Oscar in 20 years that I know anything about what happened other than occasional hearing what movie won best picture.

[@anamatovic5719]

@@GeoRedtick Yeah, but not just Americans, I'm from Serbia and we don't care about the Oscars anymore.

[@GeoRedtick]

@@anamatovic5719 yeah, I think actors are becoming more and more irrelevant to the masses. They continue to hype themselves and within their clic think they are important, but I wonder if they are starting to feel the shift to irrelevancy also.

[@anamatovic5719]

@@GeoRedtick I hope they do :) That's why I think this was staged, they had to do something, so that people could talk about. Even after this Body language analyses, that makes sense, I still think it's staged. People say: "Why would they stage that, what's the point?" The point is that nobody would even talk about the Oscars, at least not how they used to.

[@annoir]

Look at Trevor from 28:16 as Will turns to the audience and begins his "you never know what someone is going through" speech. Just like Will is an effective communicator, Trevor is a great listener.. Look at Trevor's face! He knows we are being "conned" by Will. And like you say, I don't know if Will is being purposeful, but he has not come to grips with what he has done to Chris, and so he is still doing his "Will Smith show". The audience also seems super quiet and I think they realize that Will is not being honest with them or himself. Edited to add that you addressed this in your video!

[@michelewheldon7183]

Gaslighting himself.

[@martimar7181]

Thank you for always teaching me something new, and for promoting respect and walking the talk. I love that you analyzed yourself at the end to tie in your theories. 🌟

[@anntahhan8930]

It's absolutely an amazing video. 👏 You explain everything so well. You caught my attention from beginning till end. Wish you could interview Will .

[@teriannebernal7780]

This played after something I was watching and I was hooked! I love the ending and this theory of reciprocity. Now I feel like deep diving and becoming a better human with these videos 😅 So cool.

[@zoeymichael3966]

OMG, that was amazing! 👏 Thanks so much for the body "translation" and explanation in general. Can't wait for your next video. You definitely deserve an 🏆 for this. Well done.

[@ShadowElen]

Great video again Spidey! I have been watching lots of criminal interrogation videos lately and I couldn't help but notice and comment on the interviewing tactics of Trevor Noah. This is obviously an interview for entertainment and media but there are so many similarities with how the criminal investigators do their interrogations with suspects of crimes. It is so interesting! What especially got my interest was when Noah tells about someone saying that the slap showed who Will Smith is like for real and then goes "No, if anything I feel like it was the opposite -- For ME it felt like---" and explains how Smith just "stood up for the wrong thing at the wrong time". Maybe he really feels this way, but it also reminded me of the tactic of the interrogation when the investigator tries to form a bond of trust and make the suspect feel he is on his side, and also give an ALTERNATIVE, more "morally acceptable" reason for the crime. And then tries to get the suspect to admit SOMETHING of the situation, by making the crime "more socially acceptable" (eg. I didn't shoot that man because he was being disrespectful towards me BUT because I believed he was going to attack me and kill me.) To me it seemed Noah was trying in a similar matter to get some information out of Smith by trying to make him feel that "dude, I am on your side. I totally get why you did it, you were just trying to be a good person and do the good thing, because I know you are not a bad person". I just found the similarities and techniques so fascinating!

[@Rhiannon310]

Horrific night? I saw pictures of him partying at an after party. If it was horrific you wouldn’t have wanted to go party after.

[@triumphant5345]

He’s only sorry when his fans showed their disgust

[@joannasimmonds3706]

Pretty horrific for Chris Rock and his family I should imagine

[@godbyone]

It was scripted Chris and Will were all in on it. They did same skit in 1999. It’s in KZbin. “” “wAyans predict Chris slap 1999””

[@dibryan5061]

You are brilliant. Love your work. Fascinating ❤❤❤

[@luminyam6145]

Wow, this was brilliant Spidey, thank you so much.

[@LadyLocks]

I'm obsessed with your channel but this is my first time commenting. I absolutely loved this analysis. I was watching with my husband and found myself guessing all the behaviors right before you would state them. Kind of pop quizzing myself on what I've learned so far. 😆 It jumped out at me after a few of my guesses that I have indeed learned so much from you in the short time I've been watching, it's shocking. On top of the knowledge you share with us, you're so kind and caring and I feel like you share that with us as well. Almost like you're spreading your kindness and light through your videos and really touching all of us. It's wonderful and I felt it was worth mentioning. Thank you for all you do and all you share with us! I can't wait for the next one!

[@MissWishes]

Smith got on stage and assaulted Rock. There’s no excuse. He should have been arrested!

[@dawnieb.7394]

At the absolute minimum, the Academy should have outsted him from the rest of the program. Allowing him to stay made it seem like silent approval of his actions - and then for the audience to give him a standing ovation for his Oscar was just nauseating. Not a display that should have happened.

[@thomasdevaul911]

Rules for thee but not for me!

[@anamatovic5719]

@@dawnieb.7394 Or maybe all was staged...

[@oghippiechick]

@@dawnieb.7394 THIS! I've lost all respect for the Oscars because of this.

[@debidehm9129]

@@dawnieb.7394 I agree. It just shows the approval of stars/public figures getting away with things the average Joe wouldn’t. It was an assault plain and simple. I used to be a big fan, but after that happened...not so much. I’ve lost lot of loss of respect for W.S. He seems be be in a terrible marriage, and it was Chris Rock that got Will Smiths anger for it. I totally believe W.S. actions were orchestrated (consciously or unconsciously) by his wife. This man has been publicly humiliated by his wife several times (Red Table talks). My thoughts are he’s a seriously unhappy man. He really needs to clean his house starting with his wife.

[@didiathome526]

Awesome recap as usual, Spidey! I disagree with Trevor's analogy of the cookout (which are typically of all known buddies, who are often equal in rank) and think that's aiming too low to reduce the importance. It would be more accurate to compare it to a company picnic or a corporate holiday party where you have vice presidents, president, etc. The presence of directors, producers, etc. that are all capable of hiring him / advancing his career would create more significance. It's called "Hollywood's biggest night" and the fact that his own wife wore a couture gown then and other actors have spent up to $4M on one gown for that night in the past - that's not just a cookout.

[@Tali.O]

It's crazy. When I watched this interview I kept asking myself why he kept saying "ya know" so much. It stood out to me the most.

[@laurahenriksen19]

Loved all this and the stories you delved into. Really informative. I usually forget to leave comments... But I remembered now! X