The Cyberbullying Disaster! Body Language Analyst REACTS to Taylor Lautner Video.

Taylor Lautner recently posted a video addressing some negative comments about his appearance. The actor known for his roles in "Twilight" and "The Adventures of Sharkboy and Lavagirl"opened up about how cyberbullying used to affect him and how he deals with it now. But what does his body language reveal about how he's really feeling? And what does the research tell us about cyberbullies?
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TIMESTAMPS
00:55 Taylor Lautner Body Language
07:50 What is Taylor Lautner Not Saying?
24:40 Why Did This Happen?
27:40 Cyberbullying
#bodylanguage #behavioralpsychology #psychology #thebehavioralarts #howtoreadbodylanguage #liedetection #howtoreadpeople #taylorlautner #cyberbullying #cyberbully #mentalhealth

[@TheBehavioralArts]

All revenue from this video is going to charity! I’ve been getting a bunch of messages and comments from some of you telling me to what extent cyberbullying has devastated the lives of your loved ones. Some of you have experienced really heart breaking results of this cruel phenomenon. As a result, I have made a big decision on behalf of all of us, The Behavioral Arts family: 100% of the revenue from this weekend’s video and 100% of this month’s membership revenue will be donated to CyberSmile(​⁠@CybersmileOfficial ), a non profit organization dedicated to fight cyberbullying and its consequences. So here’s how it will work. In a month from today, I will look at the revenue this video made. I will add to it 100% of what the entire channel made in membership fees (even from existing members) and whatever that total amount is, it will be donated to CyberSmile. How you can help: - Share this video as much as you can, the more views it gets, the more awareness we create and the more ad revenue we get to donate. - If you want to add to the total, leave a super thanks comment on the video, all revenue from super thanks will also be added to the total - If you’ve been thinking about becoming a member of the channel, now might be a great time because that membership fee will go straight to CyberSmile (if you’re already a member, you’re all set, I’m donating all membership revenue not just new members) This is just the first step of what I want for this community. I intend on doing this move often with various subjects and charities that relate to what we cover. ❤️

[@LoveLeeAsAlways]

You're awesome Spidey. So proud to be a member of this community!

[@Lmapmpmfa]

What a beautiful heart you have, Spidey ❤️

[@CancerKicker98]

The eyebrow flash when he said 10 years ago could have been saying it could have been or possibly 10 years ago.

[@MellaMostess]

You are an inspiration man. Where do I find people like you IRL . ❤

[@Katie-qg7xz]

This made me tear up. Thank you.

[@justanumber9053]

I thought he looked great. Not sure why the keyboard warriors were saying he didn’t age well? Jealousy perhaps!

[@kellikrueger7685]

Or people projecting their own insecurities. I agree with you, I think he looks great. I truly just do not understand how/why people can be so rude.

[@crazyibel]

I thought the same, I think he looks amazing, maybe even more handsome than 10 years ago. I kinda think the same about spidey 🤭

[@RaeAnn_1202]

I felt he looks like he hasn’t really aged but looks more handsome, if that makes sense. Not that he wasn’t handsome before. Bullying always comes from a place of insecurity. Often it is if I cut you down I will bring myself up … which is completely backwards thinking. I truly believe if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing. At the same time I feel if you have something honest that is nice that it should be voiced. I admire Taylor for being so open about his struggles and how he is doing now. I admire Spidey for helping bring this to light and for the donations to charity to do something to help.

[@Seven-poet-poetry]

It’s easier to make a person upset than it is to make a person happy. So people who make negative comments in my opinion are just being cheap because it doesn’t take a lot of effort to think negatively.

[@cjdflkj]

For real. He’s a supermodel basically. I hardly ever find anyone unattractive, and usually you can make even the roughest people attractive in the right context. Have you ever seen those are see photos of people who had a hard life at first black and white, they all look gorgeous.

[@jenniferconley3396]

I think the “10 years ago” is because 10 years ago he had just recently ended his “Twilight” era and was arguably at the height of his career and for being known for being the “shirtless hot guy”. So I am sure he was being very critical about his physical appearance. He also was told that in order to keep his part in Twilight he had to “bulk up” and so he had went through an incredibly structured food and training schedule so that he could keep the part. That had to mess with his head a lot at his age. I am glad that he spoke up about this, has found self love, and his Just Be Nice at the end was great!! ❤ Thank you for covering this!!!❤

[@penelopepalm]

Yes he actually has said the scrutiny at that time was very difficult for him - like he didn’t want to leave his house. He’s noting it because it was an important time to him as he reflects on his growth in dealing with it.

[@WispsandWool]

This is where my mind went, too!

[@lizgander9172]

I honestly think he looks better now. Not that it matters to his message. He looks healthy and he has a glow. It’s very attractive.

[@Anniesaurus_]

I agree, it is a reference to Twilight and what was happening in his life at that time.

[@KSDVLmom]

Exactly what I came to post

[@JudithWilder-e5b]

I was bullied as a child. I think it’s harder on people now because there are more invasive platforms and the bullying can follow you into your safe places. Thank you for what you’ve doing here.

[@osirismaximus2787]

I honestly don't know who he is, but clearly he is an unbelievably handsome man. If I was half as attractive as him I'd be happy. People criticizing his looks are just rediculous.

[@kylaluv8453]

He is most famous for playing Jacob on Twightlight series. The werewolf love interest of the main character, Bella. But she went for the stalker vampire instead.

[@cjdflkj]

@@kylaluv8453 the stalker, vampire who is several hundred years old, seeking out highschoolers. Think about that a minute. Like why did they have to keep going to high school? They were written nobody would question them. So bizarre.

[@resilientjourneys8117]

I am always Team Jacob due to his genuineness.

[@ZaZaRaZarah]

He used to date Taylor Swift and us Swifties absolutely LOVE this man...🥰 He is a wonderful man and just as handsome as he was when he was younger... I don't understand some people. I really want to see their picture...😅

[@PerpetualJoy]

I think a lot of these comments are from people who perhaps originally didn't like him BECAUSE he was so popular from Twilight. Like I imagine if he became famous from something else he wouldn't receive half as many negative comments about his looks

[@estrellasyfrases]

Taylor Lautner is completely gorgeous - I don't know what universe those people are living in. Also, I geeked out over your analysis of the verb tense changes, from past to past continuous. I love grammar and didn't realize you paid such close attention to things like that. Great video, as always. I was personally having a bad morning, and your video got me back in the present moment and feeling a little better because your analysis is so engaging, educational, and positive. Thank you.

[@sydneyelizabeth98]

Even more so than his looks, how he's remained humble and gracious in his celebrity is astounding and how he treats his wife. My 13-year-old self would be proud of who she picked as her celebrity crush

[@Lmapmpmfa]

I love that he ends with a full summary statement for his message “Just be nice!” He sounds a little choked up again on that ending, and his eyebrows along with the rest of his body language say this is the single most important thing a person can do.

[@josee123]

I don't understand why people feel the need to put their negativity onto others. Thanks for doing this!

[@pamsbirding]

I'm grateful he tackled this topic. The negativity out there is why I got off Instagram and Facebook and I don't miss either one.

[@DaeronRT]

I think it has to do with the sense of security from anonymity, where they believe their actions won't have consequences. While I understand the appeal of anonymity on the internet, I don't think it should extend to social media and gaming. Personally, I feel that implementing a verification method for creating social media/gaming accounts linked with something like ID it's ok for this cases, allowing only one account per individual, could make people take their actions and consequences more seriously. I'm curious about what everyne thiks about this

[@josee123]

@@DaeronRT I think it would definitely make a difference!

[@rossanafernandez9596]

I do admit to not being the most careful commenter when I see videos of people bullying animals for content. I don’t care what you do with your life, just stay away from animals! And even when I’m being as polite as possible and merely try to point out that the animal is not having a great time, you wouldn’t believe the amount of people who attack me for defending the animals. It’s just mind blowing…

[@ehici514]

thats a complicated issue people could write endless master thesis on

[@RaeAnn_1202]

He seems like a genuinely thoughtful, caring person. I admire him for being so candid about his struggles and journey to where he is now. His plea for people to be kind is simple and important. Thank you so much for this informative and important video. Also, thank you for what you are doing to raise funding to help combat the problem. It’s nice to be nice. 😊

[@forrest1979]

As my mom often says (and we repeat back to each other from time to time), being kind is rarely the wrong move. The world can be a harsh place to navigate and there are difficult people. But often they are hurting, and it doesn't cost anything to be kind to them.

[@BrooksMoses]

Absolutely agreed.

[@Vegan4Life1202]

@@forrest1979 definitely. Everyone has struggles and pain. Sometimes a seemingly small, kind comment can completely turn their day around. What a wonderful power we all have - to make someone smile and feel better, even for a short while.

[@dcarter455]

People did the same thing to Michael Jackson and he wasn’t able to recover this well. It’s awful that people expect others to never age. Some people are just despicable and nasty to their core🙄

[@michellekirby5050]

Spidey, thank you for your kindness and thoughtfulness in your reviews!! 💙 I was bullied relentlessly in highschool, and bullying can and does affect people for years after it occurs. I have not been to a single reunion in the 40 years since graduation, and I still occasionally hear those words again. The best thing we can do is to live a happy, productive life in spite of those who would tear us down. Thanks again for all you do! ☺️

[@nancythomas1954]

This was very good. I am 69 and my mother taught me and I taught my children and grandchildren "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." Nuff said. I like your channel kiddo, keep up the good work!

[@cjani1387]

I feel like a lot of people have forgotten this.

[@LoveLeeAsAlways]

My gut is telling me, about the eyebrow thing.. he's still in the early stages of this emotional development and confidence. It's like he's convincing himself it doesn't hurt, it's not a reflection. We should know and be better by now but it still hurts. He's just in a place where he knows these comments do not define him. That is his truth and I'm so proud of him for getting there. I can't imagine the pressure in the lime light. I myself struggle with standing in confidence and feeling, almost like an imposter, when I am trying to convince someone I'm not bothered by insults. Because of course I'm bothered. But still I know, it does not define me. I hope that makes sense!

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Yeah I understand that distinction, I think to a certain degree almost anyone in the public eye has to go through that transformation because the alternative is not manageable. Letting it continue to have an effect is just not feasible.

[@Lmapmpmfa]

Completely makes sense! Even Taylor says it bothers him, it just no longer defines him. ❤

[@Tsvkiii]

EXACTLY

[@alisonaltidor433]

This might be partly a stretch and partly inaccurate, but...could it be that ten years ago, the Twilight Saga movies for which he was well-known as Jacob Black wrapped up filming release and promotion? Both the intense spotlight and the pressure of the aftermath of the success of these movies probably affected him deeply. Therefore, the eyebrow flash at *ten years ago* might be a way of connecting to the "team Jacob" Fandom who would understand the reference to that time in his life.

[@forrest1979]

@@alisonaltidor433 piggybacking on what you said, it could also be partly "you should have SEEN how this affected me ten years ago, it was so extreme."

[@ShepherdsCreek]

I don't understand how so many people missed the message that if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all...

[@mlove.1376]

I have seen people speaking in self help groups that eyebrow flash in surprise of where they were ten years ago and what they have learned help themselves. Like a progress, I've come this far, surprise as they are speaking. That was my take. Thanks for this and it's a piece on a well needed topic.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Oh that’s interesting. Like surprise of how far they’ve come. Nice

[@TheMaskedChef7]

@@TheBehavioralArts We need the congressional UFO hearing analysis please Spidey 🙏🏼

[@HappyAirHomestead]

🎉

[@katfromthekong414]

Interesting, I had the same take on the eyebrow flash. Like it was more internal than for the audience

[@melissam6320]

My first thought too. I think many people when asked to quick, think back to yourself 5-10-15 years ago, many will brow flash, phew, that was a wild quick trip! And I think in some cases people can be frightened by what they know would be the case if they did not change from what they were in the past.

[@pinkgorilla99]

I’m so glad you are covering this subject. I’m older (52yrs) so I don’t have much social media, but it hurts my heart to see how this effects so many people (especially younger ones). I LOVE your channel! I think you are fantastic! Love your knowledge, humor and just your overall presence! You are looking great! And helping so many people thru your videos. I always click on immediately when I see one if your videos and hit “like 👍” before I even watch, because you are just That Good 😀❤

[@kathrynregier_kind1maui]

Thanks! Interesting insightful analysis as usual Spidey. I didn't know who this young man was. I was stunned to see the comment he hasn't aged well. WHAT?! He's 30! No matter what age 'mean' hurts. There will always be insecure immature unenlightened people. Your reminder about consider the source is a good one. More KINDNESS needed! ❤️

[@kristen_1107]

Generous donation ❤

[@TheBehavioralArts]

100% agreed, glad you enjoyed the video. Thank you for the contribution!

[@georgetsipas49]

2:31 seconds into the video, just after reading the comments. What are these people talking about? He is a good looking lad with a kind demeanor. Clear complexion, great teeth. He went for a run and should feel good about himself! Giddy up to you. There will always be haters who live and breathe to hate. And they will definitely not age well. Ignore the hate my friend. Keep on walking. I’m not on instagram so had to enter this here.

[@ShepherdsCreek]

I really like when you show the person doing the action you're talking about as you're talking about it. Often in your videos, you show the clip then talk about it so it's not always easy to see. I'd love to see you show it at the same time more :)

[@tlcrobles]

Yes! It’s so much easier to see the example as it’s talked about. As opposed to scrolling back through the clip to see it then scrolling forward again to resume the video.

[@Fire-Queen]

Learning more about the epistemic shrug, was very interesting 🤔👀✅ Another insightful analysis. I don't know this guy, other than hes an actor from the Twilight series. Whoever it is, doesn't matter, its clear that he was affected by bullying. Most people can relate with that, so I'm glad you showcased it, and analysed this video, thank you for your insights again. 😊

[@TheBehavioralArts]

My pleasure! Glad you enjoyed it. It almost didn’t matter who he is for me, his message spoke to me 😊

[@Fire-Queen]

@@TheBehavioralArts I'm glad I saw this video via your channel and analysis, I most likely would t have otherwise. He seems like a down to earth guy, that's still processing and growing. The message is good for everyone.

[@Kurami_702]

As someone who was bullied by my own parents, I simply cannot emphasize how important it truly is to speak only kindness into this world. Harsh words are not going to change anything, they are only going to distance you from one another.

[@Lmapmpmfa]

Very happy you decided to go ahead with this video❤

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Thanks 😊

[@Lmapmpmfa]

@@TheBehavioralArts ❤️👍

[@Michaela_Ish]

Spidey, thank you so much for covering this and bringing awareness to important issues with your platform.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

My pleasure! Thanks so much for your continued support as a member and your contribution to this cause! ❤️

[@viewer80]

The eye brow flash with "ten years ago...", the vibe I get is he's come a long way from where he was ten years ago. I think it emphasises his growth from where he was to where he is now. Part of me feels he was remembering for a brief moment, what he felt when reading those negatives comments 10 or so years ago. Tells me he has a stronger mind-set, greater resilience & I'm glad to hear that he doesn't let these negative comments bother him as much as they used to. Cheers for the great video Spidey.

[@bettinaschewe7641]

Another great analysis! Thank you, Spidey! I once got into an argument with s.o. online where he got really nasty expressing something like only an idiot could think like I did. I just responded "I love you too" although it was just a random person on a comment section. This is a typical response for me, I used it when my children had a meltdown over something they couldn't have. His demeanor changed immediately, he was very surprised, laughed and actually made a nice comment. Sometimes you can change a conversation by giving a little love...

[@ErinAllen-qe7fy]

I agree! I have found that can be such a simple yet effective tactic to prevent a disagreement and bring a loved one back to a more content mood/POV. 😊👍

[@christinaharrington5459]

My entire life my sister was cruel to me. When we were young, when she was mean to me, I would give her a hug. She hated it so much that she would leave me alone for hours or sometimes the rest of the day! Now that we are middle aged, maybe I should do it again since things haven't changed much! Lol!

[@LoveLeeAsAlways]

Thanks for bringing light to areas of darkness!

[@kristen_1107]

Generous donation ❤

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Thanks for your continued support and your donation to this effort! 🤗

[@NothingByHalves]

I am glad you posted this one - Cyberbullying is such an important subject to discuss. Re: your offer of donating to CyberSmile - this is no surprise and speaks volumes to who you are. Bless you. I can sometimes get caught up in a judgement in my head over something I see or hear, but recognise that this comes from a place of feeling "less than" myself. It's not an unusual thing (our thoughts towards ourselves are usually the worst) and when analysed it's quite interesting to see what is behind it. If you're writing something from a place of anger, defensiveness, upset, judgement, write it in draft and wait three days. Then see how you feel. With personal opinions, ask yourself: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? If the answer is no to any of these, stop.

[@justshay]

Poor guy! I think he looks great!! I hope he is feeling better about himself and doesnt go and ruin his kooks with unneeded surgeries and such!

[@Evanthebat15]

Hey Spidey, I just wanted to thank you for covering such an important topic. Something else I found interesting is how the cadence of his voice changes when he says "Just be NICE..JUST be nice....Just BE nice." The first one, his voice cracks and it feels like he's literally choking back emotions, the second his voice is still quivering but its like he's trying to calm himself down and the third its like a tired acceptance. For me, I got severely bullied offline for being different and socially awkward while online I could hide who I was, what I looked like, my personality and everything else. Like Tom Holland said in his interview, if they ain't got his personal phone number to text...then their comment is irrelevant. An update on this story which I found interesting and connects to your computer case that you talked about, some of the usernames who had made comments that hurt his feelings, commented on the video apologizing for what they did and forgetting that he was also a human just like them or admitting that it was due to their own difficulty. I think its important and it happened since he was kind about it, he didn't curse them out, try to shame them like "Look at these terrible, evil people! Shame on them." But acted more like a disappointed friend while trying to hold a space of forgiveness and kindness.

[@katyarb5745]

Thanks for donating to cyber-bullying!!

[@kristen_1107]

Thanks for your generous donation as well ❤

[@TheBehavioralArts]

My pleasure! Thanks for the contribution 😊

[@amelguoc4682]

PS: Excellent wisdom given regarding how to deal with negative comments. You're right, I hadn't thought of that. We DO teens to imagine that everyone commenting is a healthy, intellectual,balanced person. And that does sting!! To shift that thought process to consider that the person commenting is likely NOT that, is excellent and practical advice. Thank you so much for that! This is one of my favorite videos which you have created. I like them all, but this one stands out to me personally,. Thank you again!

[@GmmBeast]

You talking about the computer lecture reminded me of something I did recently. It's not the same but it just reminded me of this. So, about a week or so ago, I went to the doctors for an annual checkup. They just started using a new system where you answer questions on a tablet rather than to the doctor (the doctor leaves the room). And these questions are pretty personal. They were the depression, anxiety, and suicide questions. Now, I am always very honest when doctors ask me questions. There's no point in lying. However, I know a lot of people are scared or uncomfortable answering these types of questions to another person. I told the doctor that I think this new system is AWESOME. I believe that we're more truthful when there is no risk of being judged by another person, especially face-to-face. I also told the doctor that I really hope the company who is supplying the questionnaire also includes questions about alcohol consumption, drug use, and sexual activity in the future.

[@BioSimone2915]

"Ten years ago" was one year after the last twilight movie premiere. He had trouble with the dwindling fame and struggled a lot with imposter syndrome. So his confidence was low and, as he mentioned in this video, he valued the wrong things. I think mentioning exactly 10 years was no coincidence, and he put emphasis on those years because they were particularly difficult. But I'm not a big fan, so this is just what I found in other interviews. Thanks for this video I've enjoyed it a lot and I think it's really helpful.

[@amkhanson1]

Yes, and they were all talked up as the next big stars in Hollywood, with huge careers ahead of them. His following films were considered flops. So, it's understandable how he wouldn't have been in a great headspace back then.

[@Carrie-sgda]

I loved your comments on cyber bullying, you came across very sincere, wise, clear, understanding and humble.

[@missfletcher24]

I hate that some people find so much joy in making others feel small. It's awful.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Agreed. I never understood what anyone has to gain from such behavior. I like to think of ways to build people up, not knock them down.

[@karolespencer]

The eyebrow flash when he says “10 years ago” might be like “wow, what an ordeal that was” kind of a memory. I think my eyebrows do that when I talk about my nasty divorce 20 years ago. Everyone that knows me knows that’s a huge topic for me. Maybe 10 years ago was huge for him.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

That makes sense given how he was thriving then. Great theory

[@Melly01]

I'm here because I'm always here for whatever you put out. I waited to join til this vid, though, to support it, specifically. I usually don't comment, but I'm commenting for the analytics. 😉 As always, much ❤ for your heart, your emotional capacity for people, and your content. Please keep doing what you're doing, and thanks for this.

[@user-ll7mo6yd7x]

Hello! Great post! I feel like it could possibly be related to Twilight saga the reason he stated 10 years that was the release date of Twilight Saga and if I remember correctly there was a lot of back-and-forth comments about him. Also if I recall there was also an article posted about him that stated that he had disappeared shortly after and went off grid. I'm not really familiar with Taylor however I vaguely remember this. My feeling is that all the comments at that time affected him. And possibly that's when he went of grid like when he was talking about staying in the house maybe that's when he did it. These are just theories and my opinion and take on what you had asked us to give you our input on. Spidey I feel you are an amazing content creator and I thank you for your time and knowledge that you have shared with us. Its always fun and educational !

[@tinawhite8835]

I think the time line of 10 years ago, when he was at the height of his fame at an incredibly young age, this type of criticism/bullying would have been, and probably was, devastating. Remembering back to the Twilight frenzy, it was divided into two factions: Team Edward and Team Jacob(who Lautner played). While each character was incredibly popular within their own fan base, they would be reffered to in very derogatory terms by those who cheered the other character, and it became quite vicious as the promoters of the film really played this competition up. The characters in the book were contentious, and both vying over the same girl. All three actors have spoken in depth about how damaging this attention was to them at their age(all were teenagers). It has had a huge impact on each of their careers and how they have dealth with their fame. The other two actors in this triangle are Kristin Steward and Robert Pattinson, and all three are known for their strong desire to stay out of the limelight, and it all goes back to the horrendous things they all went through when making and promoting the Twilight movies. It's obvious they all suffer a great deal of anxiety, still.

[@alejandrocordobas]

This reminds me of Kristen Kreuk, who played lana lang in Smallville and said she started to feel very allergic to love triangles in her jobs because it was really hard for them how the fans of Chloe or Lana treated the other. We need to learn as a culture to not take these stories to heart, especially to not harm the actors in the process.

[@delphiniumdolphin2902]

Glad you covered this. I was told once ‘What other people think of you is none of your business’ and so began a change in my self-esteem, instead of worrying what other people thought, I concerned myself with own reflections. The next big phrase to hit home was ‘Don’t accept criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from’. Great to hear you add in the section about anonymity even (particularly?!) in reference to computer feedback. As if the world weren’t difficult enough, more generations grow up with globalised opinions weighing on their every action. In reference to the ‘ten year’ comment, my recollection is TL had to prove his worth to keep the role as Jacob, bulk-out, thick-soled shoes for height. Even at the peak of Twilight he had to fight to prove he was good enough…that has to hurt a young human. Nice insight, decent human being, poignant topic.

[@chrissyscholl816]

Yess. The first time I heard that too I wanted to argue that it was... but I couldn't and it gave me so much peace of mind! What other people think (or of me or in general) is not my business. So I won't put my energy into it. My own thoughts matter to me.

[@sixxygrrl]

I furrow my brow when I am confused. Like when someone tells me something that makes me think "Wait, What? I don't remember that" or "That doesn't sound right" or "When did THAT happen" He might be furrowing, too, because he was kind of upset at the idea that he had been feeling good about himself, and it was spoiled by the comments.

[@lizblock9593]

Love your kindness! People who make mean comments live or on line are only revealing their own insecurities. I have a funny thing to add about unconsciously reacting to a computer as a person. When I play a phone game against a program-generated opponent, and I see a good move when it is their turn, I look away from the move so as not to draw their attention to the move. Cracks me up that I'm treating the program as conscious.

[@chrisjcichocki]

This is GREAT content and your insight into cyberbullying is spot on. The distinction you make between people of good character and those who make negative comments is one I hadn't thought of, but intuitively it makes complete sense. Our emotions fire so quickly and, left unchecked, they can lead us to internalize the negativity we're seeing and hearing. It's those kinds of comments that really "flip the switch" and help me see things in the right perspective. I have loved watching your videos, but your comments at the end have made this my favorite one yet. Keep up the amazing work!!

[@sassymom4260]

Thank You so much for doing this video! I think the "10 years ago" eyebrow flash is him expressing the unhealthy mental state he was in 10 years ago, probably even a little before Twilight. I say that because of him saying where he places "Value", 10 years ago he might have placed "value" in others opinions/feelings/thoughts towards him, if you don't have a good support group you heavily regard what others say. So now I'm sure he has a better a support group so his "value" is on himself and the support group. The eyebrow flash was just him expressing and also remembering that not so great headspace, but this is just my opinion..........thanks again for the video

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Oh wow. Great theory. So almost a bit of surprise as to how long he’s come. I like it! Thanks for your contribution 😊

[@bodyofhope]

I have family members who used to be actors/performers, and the industry really messed with their self esteem. Even a decade after leaving, they base all of their value on their appearance (and other's value on their appearance as well). We all age and become less conventionally attractive over time, so they're struggling with their worth, even though they're amazing ppl, incredibly talented, and have so much to give... the industry taught them they're nothing more than their face & body. I can see how Taylor would take those comments to heart, but I hope he continues healing and knows his worth.

[@samanthaxnicole]

I think the eyebrow flash on "10 years" is in reference to how surprised he is that it has been over 10 years since the last Twilight movie would have been released. I just looked up the series to confirm this. Since the comments are in reference to how he has aged, emphasis here is almost like saying "It's been ten years guys, don't be surprised I look different now". In addition to that, it emphasizes that this is something he struggled with 10 years ago, basically at the end of his career's peak. This would have been a critical time for him as he would be now looking for new projects and it's likely he was typecasted because of his role in Twilight. I only saw the first movie so I don't know how his character progressed, but in that one I remember he was a love interest of the female protagonist who did not even choose him. He did not win the girl even with his striking looks, which were a main focus his role. So it makes sense that a lot of his identity was tied to his looks at that time. He also basically entered adulthood throughout the filming of the series, I think he was like 15 or 16 when the first film was shot despite the fact he looked like a fully developed man. But remember *eyebrow flash* That was 10 years ago.

[@jelyfisher]

So per the eyebrow flash... Ten years ago, he'd just finished the Twilight saga and his next big role was Abduction, which he was universally and, I'd even say, abusively criticized for. Many would say it killed his acting career. So when I first heard him say "If this had happened to me ten years ago...", I immediately wondered if he'd been dealing with ideas of self harm. He was in a painful place back then. I can even hear it in his voice. So to me, that eyebrow flash is emphasis, and maybe even surprise that he lived through that. He was in a dark place, and comments like this might have killed him.

[@marydodsonmt]

Oh, that's interesting! I was thinking that he may have gotten misplaced criticism about that disturbing plot twist in Breaking Dawn, but I wouldn't be surprised if you're right and he was thinking about the response to Abduction.

[@rook3504]

I wanted to say I am not Team Jacob, I am Team TAYLOR. The real man is so much more important than a brief role momentarily assumed for his career. (As for younger versions of himself on screen, I clearly remember Sharkboy.) It is heartening to watch him grow up, and navigate the rough waters of Hollywood. Go Taylor!

[@colleen2978]

Great job, Spivey! So appreciate you covering this.

[@pamelac.3241]

It sure is hard when it's negative text messages from your family. I went to bed with a headache, and I'm waking up with one.

[@RaeAnn_1202]

I am really sorry. Family can be so complex. Take deep breaths, do something that helps you relax - take a walk, listen to pretty music, talk with a dear friend - and I hope your headache goes away and day improves.

[@malgorzataczarnik-bradford5768]

That was great Spidey, as always! And how interesting that computer study was👀, will show that part to my daughter ( no social media yet but good to know), cyber bullying is rampant and all we can do really is to learn that such comments will usually only have impact on us if we let it❤ So important to know your own value and that's what I'm trying to instill in my daughter as she grows and her interaction with the world becomes wider.. As to Taylor's exression of about 10 years ago..would it be that around then he was at the peak of his career, young, vulnerable and easily impressionable?..🤔And such comments would no doubt have affected him in a much serious way? And maybe he had a really hard time with them then?😢 Thanks for the video Spidey❤❤❤

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Yeah, that’s a great theory, like emphasizing the importance of that specific time of his life as it was more “important” than other times. Glad you enjoyed the video and have some stuff to talk to your little one about! ❤️

[@LoudNProud-cn7tf]

Another great analysis Spidey. I feel like the part that you were talking about where he says" if this had happened ten years ago", I feel as though he were picturing himself 10 years ago, knowing the place he was in at that time & it may be a recollection of a very difficult time for him. That's what I felt like listening to him. That's how I took it. Always interesting seeing your videos Spidey, thanks for sharing!

[@Schonemann]

Impressively informative, interesting and important video. I love your work❤️

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Thank you 😊 glad you enjoyed it!

[@angelicanavarro5311]

I told myself that if I was going to comment something that it should always be something positive, and if I don’t have anything nice to say, I keep it to myself. I know when people want to express an opinion they tend to get very defensive about it, myself included. But like you said, if I don’t like or agree with something I just scroll on because there’s no point in starting an argument with a stranger. We are in a point in time where everyone feels like their opinion is the most important one-it’s insane. But I’m glad Taylor used his platform to promote a self love message and a be kind message (at least that’s what I got out of it). P.S. I love the amount of detail you put attention to Spidey. I feel like you always have a great insight and I thank you for sharing what you know and observe.

[@bythealphabet]

Shift your perception, care about the opinions of people you respect. ignore the negativity. That's the part I liked the most. Great video, Thank you.

[@otterotterottercid]

Thank you for this video! This is exactly the reason, why I stopped opening comments on instagram reels. I used to find a funny or interesting video and check the comments to see what other people think about it. But these days you WILL NOT find any comment sections of "viral" reels that aren't full of shit talking. People value their 5 minutes of fame more than other people's emotions. It means more to them to receive fictional likes for a joke on someone else's expense than not hurting someone. It makes me really frustrated any time I read comment sections, so as a defense mechanism for my own mental health I stopped opening them. And these comments aren't even targeted at me. I can't imagine how painful and traumatizing it must be to have all these comments targeted at you.

[@akabutu7565]

I think he looks really good, it would be horrible to be compared to your younger self all the time. Yes he looked great when he was a teenager working out every day for a movie character....now he's a very handsome man!

[@K-OticKrafting]

So grateful for this video and imo it should be shared everywhere for everyone to watch and listen too. I really think this should be shown in schools especially so our young ones can have the answer to why this happens and given tools to deal with the constant cyber bullying that they deal with. Thank you!

[@svoboda7466]

Have you ever seen the video on FB where the dogs are viciously barking at each other through a closed gate. Then the gate starts slowly opening and as it opens more and more, all the dogs slowly end up face to face and as they do they stop barking and eventually all turn around and go back to their houses. This is exactly what social media is. I always remember this video whenever I am reading any social media comments.

[@TheAmarelita]

Thank you so much for sharing your positivity with us!!!

[@christinaharrington5459]

The way you spoke about bullying was very thought provoking and helpful to someone, like me, who has a very difficult time dealing with people who are unkind. You are absolutely correct in what you said. I am going to try to implement that in my own life. Thank you.

[@michaelharig6506]

“Ten years ago” was a significant time in his life… 2010 ranked second on Glamour's "The 50 Sexiest Men of 2010" list, and fourth on People's "Most Amazing Bodies" list…2008-2012 significant role in the Twilight Saga… i’m guessing the eyebrows reflect his perception of significance on what his career and fame was “ten years ago”

[@karenlodge197]

I brought my children up with a quote from Thumper; “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all “ !!

[@Lmapmpmfa]

The video is not inverted. You can tell by the direction his shirt buttons. Men’s shirts button to the right, with the left side up and the openings facing right. This is because in the past, you were made and/or taught rigidly to be right handed. So, you would wear your sword on the left side of your body to be able to draw easily with your right hand. So, you would also need to have your jacket openings positioned so they wouldn’t interfere with your weapon as you drew it. Taylor’s buttons pare in the correct direction if you were actually standing in front of him. His buttons are underneath and that side of the shirt flaps to his left. His button holes are on top and that edge of the shirt faces to his right.

[@mercedesveronica]

Whoa! Great call! I forgot all about men's buttons and the side they're on!! I always get confused on what's inverted or not. Granted, not every video has a dude with a button-down shirt. But I love that you pointed this out and gave the history behind it!

[@Lmapmpmfa]

@@mercedesveronica ❤️

[@DJ-ti2vg]

Thanks for another great and interesting video Spidey. As an aside, I would like to say that your facial expression examples of the body language movement you are describing are always exactly on point. I find myself constantly thinking "yes, that's exactly right" to what you are saying. I just wanted to say that, even though it's quite trivial when you're talking about such a serious topic...

[@volleyballboy36]

Hi Spidey, regarding discussion at 27:16, I wonder if raised eyebrows emphasizing "10 years ago" reflects a "personal celebration" of how much work he has done over 10 years to feel stronger, where negative criticism now doesn't affect him as much as 10 years ago.

[@ChrisPTY507]

This video reminds me the reason why I deleted my social media 3 years ago. The toxicity spewed by random, faceless people on the internet becomes mentally draining after a while. Also the people living fake lives, living on appearances and doing whatever it takes to get just a bit of attention and validation made by unknown, random folks. Honestly idk who this guy is, but it’s a friendly reminder on how social media is a cesspool of negativity. Pretty sure those faceless haters wouldn’t say anything if they had that guy on their faces IRL. As Mike Tyson said: Social media made people way too comfortable on being edgy online and not getting punched in the face for it.

[@FeschaRocka]

I absolutely love your background setup! I like the way the eyes can wander around while listening. I hope you will never change it 🥰

[@Mchelle021]

Thank you for your message on cyberbullying, Spidey. It is useful to be reminded of the mindset of bullies, those encountered IRL as well. I hope your message has a positive impact for all of your viewers. It was helpful for me.

[@arinlilevjen6114]

Love this. Your positivity and desire to spread positivity is something we need more of in this world.

[@rickylein1581]

Great video as always but especially thank you for the last part and you thoughtful, compassionate and overall great words at the end! I never thought about it this way and will definitely do so from now on, even if i am not a public person - i think you can apply this to any type of bully! Also I might continue your personal "study" about negative comments by people you respect, just to really implement this information into myself that intelligent, respectful people don't behave in such ways!

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Glad that resonated with you. That shit in thinking has really helped me. Not everyone with internet access is someone who’s opinion should matter to me or you. 🤗

[@lorrainedrohan23]

Thank you for your great intelligent and unbiased observations. You help me to be more observant with others and this allows me to be more compassionate and less likely to judge negatively. Have a miraculous day. Infinite Angel Blessings

[@spiraldown2710]

The scrutiny on those three after Twilight was insanity. I was genuinely worried for Taylor. I was bullied at school, but not by an entire nation. I’m glad to see he ended up in a good place… and he’s even more handsome nowadays! I think the “10 years ago” eyebrow flash was social. I think it’s a bit of embarrassment and acknowledgement of the height of his bullying.

[@peachypandalove]

I love you so much and the energy and compassion you put out into the world! The little pep talk at the end actually had me tear up a little. I struggled with self esteem so much when I was younger and I’m so glad you’re donating to charity and it really restores hope hearing you say what you have said. The world needs more people like you. People need friends and family like you in their lives. I hope you feel the love and joy you give out to people in your own heart cause it’s overflowing! ❤

[@lillaraczszabo6720]

Thank you for this video, I think the message that I received through this was deeper than I initially thought it would be. You've added a lot of value by taking a step further going into the explanation. Thanks again!

[@loveabundance1111]

I LOOOOOOOVE your videos! I learn so much from them, and I find so much value in them!!! When I watch your videos, I literally always verbally yell out, "I love this video!!!" because your videos are so interesting and educational, and I can apply what I'm learning to my daily life. Thank you so much for your work and your art.

[@ricanhavoc9965]

First of all, Taylor looks great. I think when people make mean comments, they feel crappy in their own life and the possibility of bringing someone else down empowers them. I like his message. "You find value where you put it."❤

[@annacav7653]

Raised eyebrows on when he said "10 years ago" showed me that it's important that it did effect and hurt him then. That's what I'm getting from that.

[@PerpetualJoy]

Excellent video as always! Loved the "PSA" at the end as well.

[@kimfinnagan5809]

As always your perspective truly adds to the world. So happy for your success.

[@DahrienD]

That extra eyebrow shrug you are referencing feels like an “in the moment” reflection. Recognition of I’m stronger now and back then maybe I wasn’t as strong. Emphasizing, his strength and confidence now.

[@juliegibson-2020]

It's so sad that some people appear to believe that, by belittling or criticizing others, they'll feel better about themselves and their own insecurities. I always just try to be nice - one smile at someone might change their ENTIRE outlook that day, week, or whatever. Hold a door, hold an elevator, etc. Just be nice...

[@mandyfoster8084]

100%. I don't understand what happened to the life lessons taught to us as kids, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all. It had become so bad, i truly wish that people would remember that it takes one simple act of kindness to change someones day and it has a ripple effect

[@NovaCelestia]

Long story short, I've been a mental health and bullying advocate my whole life. People are struggling (more than we can imagine), and that's why I always recommend taking breaks from social media and such. Do not let other people's opinions define you or bring you down. You matter. I care. 💜

[@arriellenic]

I think that the emphasis on the "ten years ago" brow flash is because I think he was involuntarily emphasizing a memory from that time period. 10 years ago was around the height of his career during his twilight press run and he was definitely doing alot of interviews and he was considered to be "very hot at that time" where he placed his value in his looks heavily. Maybe that's where the fans are drawing the comparison from because he was a super big deal at that time in his career and then kind of went silent after the twilight saga and he really struggled to have another big role. I think this whole message was basically from a standpoint of the fans being obsessed with how he used to look and them not understanding that people age and that yes, he look different now, but be nice.

[@dandan89ful]

Regarding the eyebrows flush: I think He was trying to emphasize the change he gone through, It also connects to the previous context (how he used to fell why he avoids looking at comments) your video 01:54 : "I'm in a different place now." BTW after continuing the video. I do agree with you, the second time he was flushing eyebrows for those 2 reasons. (I think) (sorry for bad ENG, its not my native lang). Thank you for the wonderful content, keep it going ;-)

[@Lexi_Con]

Great analysis, Spidey! You're awesome for showing this & covering a topic that affects so many people these days. Super kind & generous of you to support a charity that helps with cyberbullying issues. People have gotten way out of line on the internet! Too much immaturity, ignorance, & hateful behavior. I think the keyboard gives those types of people an artificial power they wouldn't have in real life. Definitely stems from low self-esteem/insecurity & lack of empathy... perhaps a release of anger & frustration, loneliness with no coping skills. Nor social skills, apparently.

[@tamarahoward6409]

I’m on the autism spectrum, I avoid eye contact, I’ll look at the corner of someone’s eye to be polite. Unless you make me angry. I won’t look someone in the eye

[@claireabellhayward2400]

Same

[@robynsmith4164]

Taylor looks really great for his age! He’s in his early 30’s and could easily pass for 25 imo. The haters are definitely jealous of his good looks now and how he looked during the making of the Twilight movies!

[@rachelkelley884]

27:33 I think the eyebrow flash is happening when he says “10 years ago”, because 10 years ago is around when the Twilight movies were out. (Breaking Dawn part 2 was released in 2012). Obviously his role in this series is one of his most known. He was clearly very in shape for this role in those films and he was 19 or 20 at the time. I think he’s emphasizing that at that time (when he was 19) comments about his body would have affected him differently than they do now, 10 or so years later.

[@Dylan-go5iv]

I saw another commenter mention this reason and I pretty strongly agree: 10 years ago was during the period of his career when he was still working in the Twilight movies. In a way, I'd say this is a combination of social approval and attention. I think it's similar to a situation like this: you're out in public with a friend and somebody mentions something that immediately brings up a memory - one that you know was a shared experience between you and your friend - so you look over at the friend and raise your eyebrows like "I know you're thinking what I'm thinking right now". Another possibility, I think, is that it's a non-verbal way of adding in some verbal fluff, like "ya know" or something along those lines. If you think about it, that line of thinking lines up pretty well with the previous point, but obviously both are just guesses so I'm not saying that necessarily "confirms" anything.

[@stephanievelte8533]

Love your videos…I learn so much about human behavior but more importantly, I always love your emphasis on remaining objective, avoiding absolutes, and human decency ❤️

[@ryanleevandesandt3184]

HEY! Thanks for another great video I learned a lot as I always do. It's crazy how we put so much weight on bad remarks. People we don't even know take a huge effect on self thought. Great video. Thank you. Hopefully Taylor watched this and it helped.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

I honestly think Taylor is fine, I think even his video was to inspire others to ignore the haters. Glad you enjoyed it 😊

[@alexnavarro9285]

His “10 years ago” brow-flash is him overemphasizing that his “previouse insecure self” was bullyable, but NOW (10 yrs later) he has the upperhand on the bullying, because hes evolved.

[@alexnavarro9285]

Hes almost “steepling” against the petty people

[@mucurly4]

Love your “rant” about cyber bullying at the end. Those people who say mean things just to be mean are just cowards hiding behind their devices.

[@nikkib8811]

I don't know the person in the video but I'd say he looks great. Whether he does or not however, I'll never understand people who make unkind comments about others, thinking that it doesn't matter because it's online, and forgetting that the recipients are real people with real feelings. It really is an important subject as social media is endemic to our way of lives. Fantastic that you are putting a spotlight on it Spidey, and even more so, offering financial support to.tackle these issues.

[@beeloved1273]

I think he's saying what he wished he could've said 10 years ago, and mourning the pain of what happened then. Thank you Spidey for being intentional about developing a community of kindness and compassion. This was a good one!

[@a.a.2936]

Great vid Spidey, I especially liked the insight on cyberbullying at the end. On a different note, I hope you're going to analyse the recent UAP/UFO disclosure testimony. Probably too much to cover in one video, but a 3 part series (one for each witness) would be fascinating.

[@SpadeD1omonds]

Your a beast bro. I’ve learned life times of information watching your work. Very grateful to have you, can’t wait for what’s next!

[@svoboda7466]

Ok so I did not recognize him at first. When I started watching this video, I thought that he was a good looking young man. I finally recognized his voice and realized that this is Jacob from Twilight. I don't know why he got so many troll messages on his post. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him and in my opinion he aged quite well.

[@squarepeg9546]

Thank you for making the point of the assumption of the cyber bully just being a well adjusted we meet in the world. That was a great way to put it.

[@kirstenwallace2732]

I loved what you said at the end of your video. I'm trying to get published as an author and I'm terrified about the comments I know I will receive. Your video will help me put it in perspective. Thank you!