The Hurt of Losing Friends | Asantewaa Boatemaa Abena Ofori-Amanfo

Host: Ursula Mariani │Instagram: / ursulamariani
Co-host: Bonga Botha │ / bonga.botha
Guest: Asantewaa Boatemaa Abena Ofori-Amanfo | Instagram: @bo.ofori
Co-producer: Sibonganjalo Bonga Botha │ Facebook: / bonga.botha
Co-producer: Babaland
Editor and Technical Director: Given Masilela │ Instagram / givenillustrative
Assistant Technical Director: Silosamanzi Boiboi

[@mamoruakgomomaota1854]

I broke up with my best friend , and it hurt more than losing a boyfriend. I felt so alone without her and there are times where I look at our pictures and videos, and genuinely miss her. But, I am glad I had her in my life. Wish her well.

[@mandisandlovu8914]

Didn’t actually realise how sensitive I was to this topic. Friendships are a different type of heartbreak especially when you know things could’ve been sorted out through honest communication, but pride gets in the way. I hope for friendships that allow freedom, raw honesty and growth ❤

[@ntandoyenkosi5741]

Today I’m assured that I’m not crazy for wanting healthy things for my self and being careful about my space!

[@TlaleLehong]

Friendship breakups hurt and take forever to heal but I have learned that sometimes it is nothing personal, people grow apart, and lifestyles and goals change. Sometimes the friendship has reached an expiry date, maybe their season in your life is over. They are not meant to go with you to the next level. I have lost a friend of 15 years over something so small, but as I said, it was time to move on. We served each other for 15 years, it was time to let go.

[@pumzamlondi8538]

This hurts worse than romantic break-ups.

[@yandiswaselemela9341]

The decent thing is to talk. Tell the person. A friend just left and to this day I still wonder what happened. And for me personally I had a friend who started becoming toxic and I addressed that and we parted ways but we maintaned contact and years later we reconnected and that talk actually preserved our friendship.

[@zamo_ma]

Can we also talk about friends assuming you have money, seeing the places your partner takes you.

[@oarabiletuelo2698]

Gosh! I'm unemployed and struggle with this a lot. I don't even know how I should address this matter with them

[@hlengiwedube1163]

I had a confusing friendship situation and found myself coming to this episode over and over. I realized that friendships aren't as simple. So much to learn.

[@tshepanni]

I was ghosted by a close friend who I actually considered as a sister 8 years ago. It actually affected my ability to form close friendships since then. I am only dealing with it now in therapy as I have deep rooted fear of that same abandonment but I am opening up and have a new close friend who is helping me heal through it. Lol well her and my therapist 😅. So yeah this thing can be damaging to be honest. Lovely conversation as always ladies🌸

[@thobie8]

The older I get the harder it is, for me, to make friends. I have a group of guy friends for 20 plus years that includes my twin brother... with them I am home, comfortable and always myself.. I never feel guilty about communicating how I feel or what I think....no anxiety or expectations

[@jeansophia2092]

Ursula your friend sound sweet 😊. If she was my friend I'd listen to her forever 😂

[@nkhen_c357]

This is one painful issue... Ahaaaaaa. And friendship breakup it is more painful than we think... I am mourning breakup of my two friendship but not going back shame.... Letting everyone be.

[@dudulanga19]

So glad I came across this topic, it's one of the most painful truths. Friendship breakups are super heavy😢 I'm tired.

[@Pamzii_]

Wish there was a part2 on this

[@yandiswaselemela9341]

That is so you. The more the merrier.

[@gugulethungwenya9111]

Yoooh friendships and money ne! I had a friend who would spend money 'recklessly' on nice life then come to ask for money later in the month for essentials

[@trixmoloto8585]

I have one who's also like that, I just never give her anything cos she posts status all about having fun and blowing the money.

[@luciamulopwe]

Friendships do evolve but coping with that is so daunting

[@redibonemohlamonyane6239]

I'm listening to this conversation for the second time, I loved it that much and well, it resonates with me at this moment. A friend of mine with whom we haven't spoken for the past 2 years recently texted me. I feel like I don't want to rekindle this friendship, do friendships get rekindled and live again?

[@leratonedz1370]

I wonder what sweetie you ate, the green tongue lightened the seriousness of the talk😂. On a serious note I’ve struggled with friendship my whole life and friendship breakup and toxic friendships are the growing pains of adulthood 😢

[@rebbekandahuma2173]

This year I have lost almost every varsity friend I’ve made…

[@Uayandaaa]

Why?

[@zingisamase]

Discovered this podcast yesterday and I love it so much already♥️

[@kealebogamokate1532]

Friendships break ups are the worst😢wow what a topic ❤❤❤

[@phophisinyosi3965]

this answered so many internal questions! I loved this!

[@happym3585]

A beautiful conversation, thank you 🙏🏻

[@puseletsoish]

What a beautiful conversation ladies 💛

[@lucasnkgabane7679]

Thank you guys for this conversation

[@ThabisoRatlou]

This episode really made me retrospect a lot, I struggle to make friendships work. I have friend whom we have become distant, on his birthday I send him a message to wish him a birthday but we hardly to nothing talk. I ask myself if I am a problem or the friendship has served it's purpose and I need to let go.

[@lucasnkgabane7679]

You can only do business with friends who can comprehend the risk that comes with doing business, cause everything can happen in business

[@zammyzee8073]

Enjoyed this because I love friendships and I’ve had so many of these experiences in different manners. On the money topic, I tend to use it as a loose character test. I help out and watch how you move upon receiving the help. Like, was it returned with the same urgency, why did you borrow it (real emergency or not), bank charges factored in (decency), etc.

[@EverHopeful555]

Ey friendship breakups hit different 💔

[@siphokaziluzipho4197]

So glad I watched this, I identify with the topic. I didn't know how to articulate my feelings. Hope to be a better friend as well, but let it go when it is time.

[@user-gh3dk7ij6u]

Morning thanks for a good show. Ursalu like the hair and new look

[@mpiletsom]

I am late to this podcast but I am loving all these topics. I especially love hearing other people's take on friendship break ups because they are so complex. I have learnt a great deal about myself and my own boundaries but overall I know that I am a true, genuine girlfriend and hope my girlfriends feel the same

[@bongiwemaqolo9194]

Also we dont give friends the same we give men

[@makgabokubjana7504]

I've finally had to learn to let go. It's funny how some people don't regard closeness as important as others and that's what really hurts. Letting go is so hard but it has to be done

[@jeansophia2092]

Gym tights and free t-shirt 👕 .. Ursula 😂🤣

[@sinegugudube4956]

Such a relevant topic, so true and honestly needed to be had. Thank you, this is the first video I've watched on your KZbin channel and honestly I'm sticking around to see more!!

[@kea_mpete]

I got so much trauma from friendships.Since 2019 I've never made friends,I am a lone ranger and I am happy with that. Watching this made me realise that I have healed,back then friendship talks would drain me so much

[@jaquelynlevandowski5428]

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