The No.1 Menopause Doctor: They’re Lying To You About Menopause! Mary Claire Haver

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

This is a conversation, both men and women NEED to listen to! Can I ask you all a favour? If you enjoy this episode, could you please hit the like button 👍🏾 it helps us massively. Appreciate you all! 🙏🏽

[@Fulfilled-leaders]

Just did💫👌😊

[@kittydeleo4043]

Agree! Thank you for doing this podcast!

[@froufou100]

Oh wow, I never thought you would discuss such a subject. Thank you. I am going through peri-menopause, and it's pure hell even with HRT and anti-depressant...

[@carnivoreheals]

Hey, Steven, I would love it if you would interview Dr. Ken Berry and/or Dr. Anthony Chaffee on the carnivore diet. I’m in a group with Dr. Berry that has thousands of members. We are getting our health back at all ages beyond our wildest dreams. This could help so many people in your audience. Thank you!

[@aj68725]

Thank you again for another great interview. I really appreciate the fact that you do your homework and read the material related to your guests. There’s nothing worse than interviewing knowledgeable guests without proper preparation- makes you look like an incompetent idiot. (Unfortunately, there are a few KZbinrs whom you’ve interviewed 🙄who make this elementary mistake 😐).

[@villagefarang]

My wife is 49 and perimenopausal but doing all the right things to deal with it, exercise, diet, sleep, hormones. We talk about it a lot and even discussed this podcast while soaking in the tub together this evening. It is hard to know if you are doing everything you can but we talk and I do my best to support her. Guys need to step up and be more supportive and understanding. Thanks for discussing this topic.

[@NBnNC]

Your wife is blessed to have you!

[@squirrelboss7067]

lol

[@tarawiselove]

Thank you for posting. You describe what a husband does... He husbands.

[@ladybug3380]

You’re a great husband 🤗I hope she appreciates you.

[@brightspacebabe]

She is blessed to have you as a husband!!Menopause symptoms come on fast, are worrying and frustrating, and cannot be “cured” with A magic pill or HRT. God bless and much more success with her knowledge and healing and your patience ❤❤❤

[@jeaniebritz4587]

I started menopause at 53 and did it without any supplements. I fasted often. I was also very aware not to fan myself when having hot flashes - especially in the corporate environment where I worked (also with family) because of the stigma. I was told at 56 that I am getting too old to be promoted. Started my own companies at 59😊 healthy and energetic at 61 and going strong.

[@annielin2894]

I agree I am 49 I fasted too frequently! This allow me to slow my menopause!

[@workhardplayharderx2]

Everyone has diff. symptoms, I was at my BEST at 49.... 52 has been a struggle with insomnia@@annielin2894

[@vchgs2872]

Too old to be promoted 💔 Things women have to contend with. I'm so happy you started your own company. That's where I'm headed too, 51, and I no longer have the patience for corporate stuff and performance reviews 😅 All the best to you.

[@gardyloo3093]

I'm the same! I'm 60 now, and had the symptoms at age 56-57. Fasting got rid of it. Also a healthy lifestyle. Menopause is a natural transition. Our bodies were perfectly designed to go through it all without taking artificial hormones.

[@gardyloo3093]

@@vchgs2872 I think men in their 50's get just as discriminated against as we do. Ageism sees no gender.

[@christineebbinghaus9433]

When I was going through menopause, my husband told me to "fix it" and to "stop making excuses" , that "other women" didn't experience the same things that I was experiencing. There was no compassion or empathy no matter how much I tried to explain what was happening inside of me. We are no longer married. Maybe if I told him it was the equivalent of his testicles shrinking to nothing, he would have been more receptive.

[@melanatedandlovingit1305]

Shocking behaviour from these neanderthal men. Ewwww... glad u got rid

[@susanbowman3865]

Feel free to add to his “testicles shrinking to nothing” that he stops ejaculating. Since we lose the ability to make babies why shouldn’t they. That’ll get their attention and quick.

[@hope4truthlight162]

Same. Mine told me I was making it all up so I didn’t have to go get a job. It came on just as the last children were leaving homeschool. I’d have divorced him too, God took him away. But it hurt at the time. Grateful to have moved beyond. I’ve reprogrammed my mind. I got you.

[@MariaRomero-wf6kc]

I am sorry. Thank you for sharing. At least I don’t feel alone now. I am still trying to figure this out and try different hormone therapy. I am sorry. hang in there. 🙏🏻

[@Waya420]

with the way he sounds he would have most likely said you are overreacting my ex was the same way. just horrible people.

[@donnawesthead2846]

Good to see a male influential podcaster covering women’s health issues and encouraging men to engage in the conversation 😊

[@michellev5458]

Wow After hearing this I realized all the symptom she spoke about I have all of them but my doctor did not let me know any of this. I will be contacting my doctor about HRT. I am 59, have sleep apnea, frozen shoulders, night sweat, have High blood, pressure, and been through depression. I have been taking 10000 ui of vit D, stop all seed oil, eating better you but still have very low libido and now I will be contacting my doctor for HRT. Thank you very much!!!!!❤️👍🤸🏽🌺

[@samdung5630]

Yes!

[@samdung5630]

My Dr wasn't very helpful. You may have to shop doctors and educate yourself a lot about it.

[@perculiar_daughter]

I started perimenopause at 37, then like a text book countdown I started dropping one menstrual cycle a year for ten years. 47 was apparently "early" to be fully in menopause and my doc recommended a bone scan as it could increase my risk of osteoporosis. Interestingly, my bones were strong and perfectly fine and the lady who did the scan told me she sees this in many overweight women like me, and its one of the very few advantages to being heavier. Basically, we are constantly weight lifting due to the excess body mass we carry, so our bones are stronger. Im carrying an excess of around 30lbs. Im now 52, and have suffered what I would call challenging, but not crippling symptoms. I have never felt the need to take HRT as I didnt ever feel that debilitated by menopause. I had almost every "symptom" but luckily to a lesser degree than some ladies who I know struggle terribly. I feel absolutely fabulous at 52, most symptoms have now left and Im loving this new phase. I have made a few lifestyle and nutritional changes that Im happy to share if it helps others..... Vit D daily - 4000iu Marine collagen suppliment in my morning coffee - this has had a very beneficial impact of the aches and pains for sure. Stopped using so many chemicals on my body, quit dying my hair and went silver and started making my own organic soaps as a hobby. I use the 16.8 fasting routine which has helped my gut massively. Daily serving of blueberries and apple with a good prebiotic natural yoghurt. Eat good quality meats and make a lot of bone broth and collegen based soups from organic animal joints. Grow my own veg - (I dont have a huge space but I try my best) Walk at least 30 mins a day, mostly more than that with my dog. Limit alcohol for special occasions, also watch caffine intake. Drink enough water (this makes such a difference to my mental clarity) Get a good night's sleep, have a good sleep routine (I dont have a TV in my bedroom) Dont watch the news - its always bad and depressing. Practice gratitude, count your blessings in life. Get out with friends, laugh, and certainly NEVER say "Im getting old" Most of all ladies, keep a positive mindset as much as you can, we can often talk ourselves into feeling low by our attitudes to what we are facing. Im here as proof that there is a fabulous life after menopause, its not a "decline" , its a freedom!!

[@carliebeau5329]

Congratulations on you. But the point is that is your body . It's very personal as your story tells. Your advice because your body succeeded will not help another women's body as we are all made different . But enjoy. It's a crap shoot

[@porshacohen7941]

Thank you for this comprehensive list of recommendations ❤

[@Elena-fe3os]

After 35, realized I do not tolerate the hair colour..stopped and for a while I just have highlights. I had some problems with a knee, felt tired, stressed, had delays in period..I ignored most of the things , did not give importance, did not thought much about them. Then , around 40 gained a lot of weight. 60lbs, along a year.. thought is the change in lifestyle, a more sedentary life. 2022 started gym again, abandoned. Beginning of 2023 , so, 3 years overweight, went again , lost weight , lifting weights, gained strength. .. discovered that I am less tolerant to people, started to cut many from my life, changed a lot, had hot flushes, for a bone graft had some blood tests and had vit D very low..then , I realized that my period is gone.. missing for months. Only then I put all together , thought about menopause and realized that I knew nothing , I was not ready.. I entered in another stage of my life and had no clue. 44 . Thank you for your advice. Will make bone broth and seek collagen powder ...bought vitamins . I think the face saw major changes and do not think is from losing weight..but, loss of collagen and estrogen.. I woke up looking to an older self, overnight.

[@elisabeth-vallee]

Your bones are good because your extra adipose tissue produces estrone.

[@lajohnson1967]

@@carliebeau5329-I think if women would actually DO the things this woman is doing they too would feel better. Most just are complaining because they don’t want to change their lives to handle it.

[@meganbaldwin1699]

Had I not found these videos I would be convinced that I was dying. Heart palpitations, migraines, itchy skin, insomnia, pure rage, crying spells, the list goes on and on! I’m 43 and I literally do not recognize myself. Thank God for KZbin… because the 800.00 a month that I pay for health insurance is absolutely USELESS! My husband needs to watch this with me. I think he thinks I’m crazy 😌

[@KS-un3pi]

The insurance game is busted!! I hate insurance controls how your visit is coded, if they will pay for it and that goes for medicine/supplements too. Seems the only reason to have it is for meds and catastrophic events. Otherwise it is a bust.

[@vickywitton1008]

❤❤❤

[@DetroitKim]

I've had multiple issues related to endometriosis and perimenopause - nearly everything that helped or fixed issue was not covered by insurance - in many ways insurance is a big fat scam imo

[@Linesthat-defineMe]

Also My husband thinks I am crazy , nobody is there to tolerate you.

[@jennihinrichsen5190]

Try a fruit only diet for a month and see the difference in EVERYTHING in your life - look for Dr Michael Morse ( you tube shut him down - look for Aunothen on KZbin - when I did this health cleanse with fruit only it was the 1st symptom to go - basically after a month on just fruits u can eat add salads veg etc - main thing is to eat everything raw - nuts an hour or 2 apart from the above - don't mix fruit and veg eat an hour apart too - u can eat as much fruit as is needed to satisfy u - look them up great info - great longevity etc ❤

[@procrastnwriter]

My spouse and I are separating after 25 years of marriage and 28 years together. Why? I boil it down to menopause. I helped him through a decade of Lyme Disease issues; I was his "patient advocate" to the point that doctors and I emailed each other to help with his care, from fitness, diet, and naturopath to specialists. I'm a year into menopause, and I'm "too much." It breaks my heart.

[@sarahclement3679]

So sorry

[@1STLUCKYB]

I can't take drugs, highly reactive but I have been using bio identical progesterone from wellsprings. USA company. Not licensed in UK been available over 30years no side effects. It's given me a bit of life back. Also a estrogen progesterone version.

[@nmartins7714]

Forget about that trash man. And learn a lesson from all of this. 1st The person has to think about herself and then about the other.

[@GermanShepherdDaphne]

I’m so sorry. You deserve better

[@joincoffee9383]

Most marriages are like that. That’s why in some places in the world girls started not getting into marriages or partnerships cause they foresee the end.

[@lisasnaddon9461]

My work invited a menopause specialist to come and talk to us and it changed my life. We now have a menopause group at work. We come together once a quarter and share our experiences. It’s a game changer. Women all going through the same thing makes you feel so normal and understood.

[@attesmatte]

Wow, that's amazing! ❤️ What kind of employer is that? Do you work in health care?

[@OxyRay-ms8bm]

I'm a 47 year old woman and I've never cried so hard watching a podcast. All of the unnecessary confusion, pain, isolation, cruelty, it's criminal. Thank you, both of you, for raising the bar. ❤

[@aprilkitten]

I agree. Its time that we all wake up to the truth and realize that our government and our medical system was not designed to keep us happy or healthy or to protect us from unnecessary suffering unless they could profit by doing so. Hiding the truth and causing suffering is essential for their business to be successful. The system is rigged so that they can profit off of our ignorance. None of this was a mistake, no, it was all intentional. I'm 66 a nutritionist and just retired from the UC Hospital's Center for Women's Health and have been watching this happen for decades. We can't depend on MDs anymore, except to provide catastrophic care, or the government. We can only depend on ourselves and therefore we must educate ourselves and our children extremely well. There's a lot of good books out there and a lot of educational material including alternative options for health and happiness including the infinite power of our consciousness. They do not want you to know the the truth or to find the answers, but all the answers are out there, you just need to know where to look and many of those wonderful healers are right here on KZbin! I wish you well & encourage much reading! 🤗🌸🌿

[@innagotavita6117]

47? I was swinging off chandeliers! It was the best time in my life. This woman is way too dramatic

[@helenalovelock1030]

@@innagotavita6117 no she’s not she’s a professional in the field so she sees thousands of women. I’m pretty sure she knows a lot more than you do. You clearly were lucky swinging from your chandelier and not having problems but many women don’t just sail through it

[@redlady3123]

@@innagotavita6117 Be thankful and less judgy. Your experience is just that. Yours. This woman is now validated. You can’t take that away from her.

[@fifitheflowerpot]

​@@innagotavita6117😂I was playing football and men of my age were looking like What 😮did she really kick the ball over that big high wall. At 47 I was fit slim sexy as hell 😅

[@brandinshaeffer8970]

Pretty freakin cool that a young man is doing a deep dive on an issue that touches the life of every woman in her 40's & 50's.

[@lorrainefryer]

@decimustv4257I also love this guy, we are all entitled to our own thoughts and opinions, please remember that.

[@gilliandowney5225]

30s 40s and 50s

[@dBarb1999]

I’m not impressed at all. This interview could’ve been so much better if it were conducted by a middle aged woman.

[@Myspiritrejoices]

@@dBarb1999there is one - Mel Robbins does an interview with Dr Mary Claire Haver. We can still appreciate that a guy is trying to help men understand this without having to be rude.

[@userxyz64]

​@@dBarb1999it's his podcast!

[@lenoraKQ]

“Are we not as important as we were when we were fertile? Do our lives not matter?” THANK YOU for asking these questions! ❤

[@lilianawebb8687]

😊 I was so happy when my period left. We are all different. Thank you for taking about it And for the good advise.

[@annehathaway2107]

Not acvording to mothetnatire your purpose is ovet..sigh

[@random1-c4y]

No you are not, the same thing applies to men, there is a physical and cognitive decline in men, and eventually they no longer are part of the workforce.

[@kellyprice1024]

​@@lilianawebb8687 I was too. It was the best part. 😊

[@nmartins7714]

seWhen I heard this question coming from a doctor, I even thought it was strange, since the issue is not that women matter during their childbearing years. If they undergo fertility treatments, they are not or are not. But the real issue isn't even the person, it's the money. So, no, it doesn't matter at any age. The way any crime against women is not even taken into account shows this.

[@hotdot10]

I was so emotional thinking of my grandmothers who already had such traumatic lives filled with hardship & to think they suffered thru all of this without conversation let alone support. I am blessed to be in a generation where information, dialogue & support are available so I can prepare 🙏 ❤

[@deborahdehaan6114]

That was also my first thought

[@ItsJustMeOnYouTube]

Many of us still lack support

[@hotdot10]

@ItsJustMeOnKZbin yes but it is comforting to know we are more privileged than our ancestors, particularly those of us who live in the west 👍

[@priscillaakhaze4139]

❤

[@judithgallegos1748]

I had only one symptom of menopause and that is my periods simply stopped. My doctor did blood tests and asked me if I wanted hormones. I said, "No". I was around 51years old. To this day, I have never had a hot flash or any other problems. I just turned 80 years old.

[@HannahPartington-lu9bn]

My mum had a bad menopause , heart palpitations, anxiety, but she declined HRT . Mum is 86 now and very healthy ( on no medication for anything )

[@PeaceIsJesusChrist]

@@Judith, what is your diet? Do you eat lots of animal fats? That’s supposed to really help. ​ The carnivore women are sailing through menopause _without_ any HRT! I recommend everyone listen to Elizabeth Bright and Lisa Wiedeman (carnivore Doctor). They recommend LOTS of saturated animals fats-like the equivalent of 1-2 sticks of butter a day. Your adrenals, thyroid and hormones all need saturated fat!s ❤ EDIT: I no longer think low carb is good for older women!! And too much fat will make you fat even if low carb. Look into bioenergetics.

[@judithgallegos1748]

@@PeaceIsJesusChrist I have skipped breakfast since I was a child, except for one cup of coffee, a sandwich for lunch and a dinner from scratch. I eat meat, but prefer fish. Lots of olive oil. My family is from Spain and I tend to prepare foods from Spain. Also, my favorite food is chocolate!

[@PeaceIsJesusChrist]

@@judithgallegos1748 That’s awesome! Thank you!! ❤️

[@TheSimaralynn]

Que suerte la suya. Que bueno

[@trudigalbraith2379]

Peri menopause was hell on earth for me. Insomnia, chronic fatigue, extreme brain fog, body aches and pains, inability to regulate my mood, anxiety attacks, suicidal thoughts to name a few. I was utterly terrified as I had no idea what was going on. It was a psychologist who said to me you are at the severe end of peri menopause. Get on HRT now. HRT has been a total game changer. I only wish I had gone on it when my symptoms started at around 46. It wasn’t until I could barely function and was ready to end it all that I went on HRT at 49. And then I felt so ignorant about not knowing what was going on in my body. Thank you so much for speaking out on this issue. One thing find quite upsetting is that it’s not just men who don’t understand or support. Some of the harshest judgement and dismissal has come from women who had an easier journey through peri menopause / menopause. Not everyone has the same experience.

[@annatetiad.4991]

HRT does not work for everyone. I gained 10 kilos in one week on it. Needed to stop it immediately.

[@ZSC92]

Women are our worst enemies, those smug, judgemental ribs of their (usually cheating) men.

[@emilypeppers748]

I'm so glad you found your way but yeah, it's brutal. Strength to you and all going through this process!!

[@fingerprint5511]

@@emilypeppers748 Brutal is an understatement :/

[@katiegirl33]

Thank you for sharing so openly 🤍

[@natasha09179]

It’s refreshing to see a show hosted by a man in his youth with this as the focal topic. I salute you.

[@wannabrew8718]

It's on purpose

[@mojo2679]

He's 31

[@Stopthechaosnow2025]

Me too. I’m impressed. Kudos to him!

[@AAnnamakes]

yes he is young @@mojo2679

[@lizakroberts]

Yes 👍

[@kathrynprice]

I'm here to bring hope. I'm now 60 and out the other side of menopause. My mother-in-law told me, "When menopause is over, life is really good". She was right. Now that I'm done with menopause life is so much better in every way.

[@momsmushroomsjodyfoster5786]

I came here because I turned 58 yesterday. I am at the height of my misery with menopause. But instead of the symptoms diminishing, they continue to get worse. This started already 14 years ago with missed periods. Now I can’t sleep for more than three hours at a time because of the Inferno that breaks out inside when I try. I sweat so hard some nights. I change pajamas three times. Even my socks and my pillow are soaked. I have always been denied estrogenbecause I have a heart condition. But now I’m demanding it. I’m going to die from the sleep loss if something else doesn’t get me first. Please pray for me I can’t stop crying.

[@mjbreeze]

Me too !!!

[@knyghtsword]

Have you tried wild yam? It's a progesterone cream. Research the benefits of it. You may find relief by going to natural sources.

[@nancydennis_wright8342]

Hush Mama,there's something called soursop leaves and molasses. Maybe u could try some

[@DarkAngel2512]

Oh sweetheart. Im so sorry. Ive had insomnia that bad but Im not meno yet so dreading it if my sleep will get worse. Pls dont leave it even if youre too tired to follow up doc app. As youre putting your heart under pressure if you dont sleep well. I hope everything works out for you xx

[@momsmushroomsjodyfoster5786]

@@DarkAngel2512 thx 🙏 I see the cardiologist this week. I’ll also be starting estrogen this week. Fingers crossed it’ll stop the inferno

[@jeffl8725]

My wife asked me to listen to this podcast. I am glad I did. I will do what I can to be more supportive of her but I hope the medical industry does the same.

[@JubeeBijou]

I just sent it to my husband.

[@Elhastezy888]

Thank you sir 🤍 for posting and for trying. Wishing you both many many blessings

[@tdmccoy1211]

I know my husband wouldn't 😢

[@SANNAsewglam]

That is the Best Gift you could give to your wife! Listening to the podcast. My husband watched a Dr Phil episode on menopause. I believe it's saving our marriage. When I told my husband buckle up...we're in for a bumpy ride😅 He looked at me with fear. The toughest part for me is the anxiety that he doesn't love me....but then he does something sweet and with empathy and my world is back to normal.

[@Elhastezy888]

@@tdmccoy1211 hope/pray/wish somehow that changes..... whether through his kindness/understanding or your getting relief...... somehow 💕

[@heddamobetta704]

I’m so thankful for this video. I turned 45 this year and peri-menopause hit me like a brick. Starting in January was my first menstrual cycle change after being like clockwork my whole life. Starting the end of February I started to bleed - then I kept bleeding. I gained like 40lbs, can’t sleep, digestion was crap, felt like crap, and quite honestly felt more mentally out of sorts. In total this year I’ve spent 9 months with no break of menstruation. By April I went in to my OB for my Pap smear with the thought they were going to check my hormones at the visit as I specifically noted on the appointment of my never ending period. During that visit they weren’t even going to do it!! I’m like, are you kidding? This is not normal and something is wrong. I forced them begrudgingly to order the labs, while being brushed off to be told “well your heading in to menopause and this is just what happens”. Such horse shit that I have to advocate for myself to get care. Wouldn’t you know it, I have extremely high estrogen (which, I know is opposite of menopause) but maybe someone else has gone through what I’m still going through. Basically to sum up my entire year: I’ve had multiple biopsies and ultrasounds, I have/had polyps in my endometrial lining of my uterus, I’ve had one procedure to have it all cleaned out, they put me on 10mg of progesterone, and all of that didn’t do crap. I’ve been in at least 5 times this year and every time they say my only option is bloody birth control or having a hysterectomy. I tried to ask them about some sort of hormone therapy or if they even checked to see if my testosterone is out of whack with the rest. I’m changing my provider in the new year since Kaiser has epically let me down. The audacity of any doctor telling me that my condition is just something I’ll have to deal with until I hit actual menopause? Bleeding every fucking day for like the next 5-10 years? Or having my uterus removed? Are you fucking kidding me? The medical profession is beyond letting us down, demand for your self ladies, don’t let them sell you on that “well it’s just apart of you getting older” b.s.

[@lollian2782]

I hear you. It's almost as though if the computer says you're fine, despite all evidence to the contrary, medics say you're fine.

[@utualan]

😢well your insistence on treatment has worked. Traditional medicine has its limitations but the medical profession also needs to wake up.

[@sunmoonstars3879]

I’ve come to the realisation that main stream medicine is utterly clueless when it comes to women’s hormones. In fact I think it scares most doctors. You have to self advocate and on many occasions self prescribe. Thank god for the internet.

[@denisea.9033]

Good for you for not letting up 👏🏼. I went with similar symptoms to my doctor 3 yrs ago and she said my only options were birth control, uterine ablation or hysterectomy. I thought, surely those are not my ONLY options - she also didn’t test my hormones or even ask about my diet & lifestyle. I left disgusted in the medical system once again. I’ve since been researching a lot on my own and just trying things to see what might help, so far finally finding some relief this year of many symptoms with a low carb/high fat & protein, meat heavy, whole food animal based diet - will continue to advocate for myself and experiment on myself - I won’t settle for their “only options”.

[@tresjolieme81]

Weird Kaiser saved me they ran an FSH and that's all it took for the meds.

[@erinmorrison9070]

Peri menopause has stolen the last few years of my life - I tried EVERYTHING (diet, exercise, cold showers, CBT, acupuncture, psychedelics, breath work, tms....) to battle the anxiety, depression, physical pain, brain fog, insomnia, etc. - the answer from the medical system was a heavy dose of Ativan and anti-depressants which I didn't want. I lost my social life and couldn't function at work and cried constantly. Thanks to reading Dr. Havers book, I've started on HRT and I am starting to feel like I'm getting back to myself for the first time in years. I am furious that the system wasn't equipped to help me sooner but am so hopeful for the future . Thank you Stephen for using your platform to shine a spotlight on this issue and thank you Dr Haver for arming me with the information I needed to advocate for myself!

[@ebonynerd]

So glad to here that you found relief! How is the HRT process going?

[@ritalawson7020]

Carnivore helps too

[@TheMrsndozier]

I'm so happy you are doing better. I pray this continues.

[@robinmarberry7198]

Who knew that the only thing worse than having a period is NOT having a period? Thank you for the interesting podcast.

[@fostertheweekend]

this

[@ivalani]

Well said!👍👍👍

[@tamasynclare913]

This made me laugh out loud. It's hilariously true!

[@lolaispure4296]

Right?

[@emh8861]

I miss my period. 🤣

[@kayjay1551]

Summary: HRT, vitamin d, fasting (16:8), fibre, protein, creatine, strength training. What a great Dr and Stephen thank you for such an informative chat

[@TheWBWoman]

Thanks!

[@annehathaway2107]

If you take hrt do you have to take it for life? Otherwise all symptoms come back again surely?

[@lucillesmith3798]

​@@annehathaway2107apparently it doesn't work like that. But also many people chose to stay on HRT long term

[@shaunalarrabee2372]

Just want to mention that fasting is not a good idea for those of us with gallbaldder issues. Made mine worse.

[@klarap.7260]

Was ist HRT?

[@crepesuzette5540]

Dr. Haver: For the last couple of years, I’ve been telling my male doctors that if their testicles just dried up over night, they would also feel very ill physically & emotionally. Meno is precisely that. I’m glad you put that out there on this interview because it is 100% true!

[@bushkarogfa]

💛💛💛

[@SusannMarieDye]

Amen to that! I know two men that have gone through prostate cancer treatment that are experiencing basically menopause and/or post menopause. They get hot flashes because they are on hormone suppressant drugs to ward of reoccurring cancer. They also feel weaker and have lost muscle mass just like women do when not on hormone therapy. The men you are speaking of should connect with a man that has survived prostate cancer and they will have a better understanding of what we go through as women if our health is neglected and marginalized over the duration of our lives starting with perimenopause onward by the health care community. I assure you survivors of prostate cancer wish they could have their hormones back.

[@brandywilleford9157]

Yes!! By all means call out the military funding!!!😂😂😂 It's not fair......and damn it this viagra is bull crap!!

[@lisar3944]

yeah but it's not "male" docs who are the only problem. In fact some of them are very clued in - I was "saved" by a male gynecologist after endless rounds with my primary doc and seeing two female docs (one was an endocrinologist!) who were apparently clueless, too. It's a crapshoot ime.

[@WithAnEss]

​@@SusannMarieDye truth! A male friend went through prostrate cancer treatment and experienced menopausal symptoms. His empathy was off the charts when we discussed the [same] symptoms.

[@73starrdiva]

I’m actually laying down watching this on the January 1, 2025(2 days before my 52nd birthday) and currently in menopause. I had a hysterectomy when I was 37/38. She named ALL of my main symptoms 😢, and frozen shoulder pain is sooo bad. Had it on one side then 2 years later it began on the other. PT has been a part of my life for so long, it’s a like a 2nd job. The vertigo, the brain fog, diabetes, RA… dominoes that just started falling one after the other. It all makes sense. It wasn’t and IS NOT “all in my head”. Loved this deep dive. Thank you, thank you 🥹🥹🙏🏾💝

[@spiffy74]

Complete stranger here, I know - I just found this channel by this video, its 01/06/2025 - I'm bawling as well...I'll be 51 in March & I'm right there w/you w/how all these things she's touching on, I'm experiencing. I never had to have a hysterectomy, however, so I'm sure that adds extra things to you, & for that I am so sorry. I also wanted to wish you a Happy Belated Birthday! I hope it was nice, & I hope you are able to get through this a bit better now that you've seen this video. Please take care of yourself!

[@Paru-si5wr]

Doesn't periods stop after hysterectomy?

[@laisa.]

​@@Paru-si5wryes but hormones are made in the ovaries, they are not always removed. Also removing ovaries / hormones is crash menopause. Hormones are such a driver, the body is only a shell....

[@Paru-si5wr]

@laisa. Ohh..but without uterus how can there be periods..that was my doubt..

[@beverlyfrancis5538]

I've been having the shoulder pains on and off, and no doctor ever told me it was a menopause symptom. I thought I was getting a stroke.

[@amandasearson2309]

The whole "Whining Woman" thing really struck a chord with me. As I hit the menopause I also started to suffer with the symptoms of a Phaeochromocytoma (an adrenal tumour) so my body no longer felt like my own. My GP definitely labelled me as a whiner, I had to have my heart almost stop from the effects of Beta blockers before anyone took me seriously. Doctors need to learn that most women know their own bodies better than them!

[@elizabethabbott2982]

Gosh Amanda what an ordeal; bad enuf to be ill and then endure mockery. Glad you shared and it proves that it does pay to do ones own research and shop round for a better doc if the current one is brushing you off. My Mother went through years of distress before a new doc found out she was allergic to eggs. A huge change for the better.

[@xannaz9226]

Yeah, I won't forget WW. Chilling.

[@lola.t.6399]

Thanks for sharing this information. It’s still startling how little MDs know about this. They still quote that stupid “evidence” that HRT causes cancer.

[@HappyCat1111]

I’m so sorry you went through that. Sadly it’s so common. Medical gaslighting is terrible. I went through gaslighting when I had breast cancer at 46. No woman should be brushed off or labeled for wanting her best health.

[@debrandw246]

Oh yes. Same here. Absolutely

[@outlinehappiness]

I’m 37 and trying to get a doctor to take me seriously when I talk about the incredible pain in my back and elbows and wrists which started happening a year ago during my period. And the sudden acne when I’ve not had it all my life. The incredible wave of emotion I feel the week before my period. Every time I’ve seen a doctor in the UK I feel like I’m being gaslighted and condemned for wasting their time with my appointment.

[@youngwt1]

Sad to say it but I’ve had a much better experience with private healthcare. My wife uses a private menopause clinic and they have been wonderful, maybe if you can afford it start there and get some tests?

[@melissaw815]

I'm in the same situation in the U.S. healthcare system.

[@24galia]

You are not alone. It's not just in UK like that. And we live in western Europe! Imagine elsewhere!

[@kellibodony1077]

I had no mental changes but physically I would never let my husband touch me again due to pain. Are we both supposed to live our life like that when BIOIDENTICAL HRT can correct it??!! I ended up going to Carnivore (eating only animal products and dairy) and my hormones corrected so I no longer need HRT. It may not work for everyone AND the elites don't want us eating meat. I wonder why?!!🤔 I also no longer need any meds and my arthritis, anklyosing spondylitis, joint pain, Ulcerative colitis and psoriasis has all cleared. That's a huge money loss to the pharmaceutical companies and to doctors.🤔 Follow the money!!💰 My husband also joined me on the Carnivore WOE (way of eating). We both got super trim and have more muscle than we did 10 years ago. We are 57 & 58. A friend in my neighborhood went Carnivore and he is fit, no longer a diabetic and no longer needs blood pressure meds!! 😁💪

[@NxtGenRev]

I was on Prozac for ten years for panic attacks ,zanex , wine whatever now on patches and pregablin ; most of the time all ok but still not great

[@sorscha1308]

My mum started acting like a bear with a sore head and was in her late 40s at the time. My dad and i took it for as long as we could, thinking it might just be SAD (it was during the winter months) but eventually it was clear something was seriously wrong and we had to stage a kind of 'intervention' and make her go to the doctors. I'm sure she was peri-menopausal too but this was her thyroid and she was VERY deficient. There are so many things that can hit you at this time of life, like a brick. Be nice to middle aged ladies. They are probably hanging on by a thread for one reason or another.

[@heatherhall3452]

SAD as in sudden adult death syndrome - like sudden infant death syndrome ❓ and you can’t connect the dots 🤯💉💉💉⚰️🕳️🪦 💐 ever heard of a Lie ?

[@FebbieG]

​@@heatherhall3452Seasonal Affective Disorder. People get it during the winter when the sun isn't up as much and they stay inside more. Some people in really hot places can get it in the summer if they get reclusive to stay out of the heat.

[@kernow1273]

Well done you! I was the same. I think I wad peri menopausal for a decade. My poor family🫣

[@MoonPhaze5]

​@@FebbieGI get that. 😳 it's horrible.

[@jlf6803]

Yay for your intervention and you didn't just leave like others.

[@SharonsElderCare]

I went to my doctor and told him my long list of symptoms everything from hot flashes to severe muscle and joint pain. His suggestion was antidepressant and when I mentioned I would like to try HRT he said none of that stuff works, then I asked about supplements and got the same answer. I have been living with such severe symptoms for over a year now and at times I actually thought how can I do another day with no sleep and joint pain. I am now seeing a Nurse Practitioner who is getting me back on track.

[@arethagrassi6420]

I started menopause at 45. I have been fit and in good shape and health all of my life before menopause. Life has been a downhill battle since menopause, I have had every symptom that was mentioned in this program so far. I literally thought I was going crazy and everyone else thought I was making it up. Thanks for shining some light on the elephant in the room.

[@nouchthom9546]

what were the symtoms you had that made you feel like you were going crazy ?

[@beckyfrechette4439]

When you say you “started menopause” do you mean at 45 you went a year without a period?

[@arethagrassi6420]

@@beckyfrechette4439 yes.

[@arethagrassi6420]

@@nouchthom9546 mostly the depression, migraine, joint pain, lack of energy, frozen shoulder, teeth and gum problems.

[@woundedhealer999]

That early? I'm really terrified of it. I'm 38.

[@Flemsplort]

As a 34 year old woman going through peri-menopause (brought on early due to chemotherapy 10 years ago) I appreciate this so much. This year has been the hardest of my life and every day is a fight against my own mind to just stay alive. Thank you for seeing the importance of this EXTREMELY necessary conversation. It literally saves lives to talk about it

[@youngwt1]

Are you in the uk? I couldn’t recommend newsom health enough, they’ve been fantastic to my wife it’s a shame so much health care is private these days but that’s the way the world is turning

[@upendasana7857]

@@youngwt1 NO its not inevitable that there is thsi private/public healthcare two tier system,we need to fight for our NHS and make sure we don't end up with an American type healthcare system.If you are happy with that then think about all those who fought for the NHS and trained in the NHS,without the NHS we do not have a functioning society and go back to Victorian England...are you really happy with that !!!

[@libertyrose92]

I can relate to this too, I'm 31 and also went through chemo 10 years ago. I was told I'd likely go through menopause around the age of 30, I brushed it off and didn't think it would be that bad. I completely underestimated just how difficult it would be! I hope you're doing okay ❤

[@stevejenson2161]

would it be fair to say that you were on hormonal birth control for many years prior to all these problems?

[@ChristinaBastilla-yx3hj]

My mom had breast cancer and chemotherapy put her into early menopause too.

[@tamelashawn]

I am a 52 year old black female who has been going through this since my early 40s. No one (doctors) has ever thought to ask about my hormones. Yes, my current physician (who is a white female) said I could be going through menopause, but she didn't know much about HRT to advise me. You have no idea how much this interview has helped me to put the puzzle pieces into place! Thank you for this. I am going to share it with my physician, and hopefully we can get me back to my normal self again.

[@Tracey66]

Same experience for me - at 57, I have various menopausal symptoms, but my doctor never asks about them, and has never suggested hormones.

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

Susun Weed has a podcast and books..she specializes in safe, simple herbs for women. For example: I make, and use, motherwort tincture and it stops sweats for months at a time, it also helps me deal with deep emotional changes (rage, sorrow, etc). HRT is a bandaid. There are herbs that truly help, and I don't mean black cohosh or crap in the store.

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

How the human immune system works is still largely a mystery. Doctors aren't entirely evil or stupid. They just don't understand. Constant pharmaceuticals are not the answer but it's what everyone always wants. We are responsible for our health.

[@Tracey66]

@@RunninUpThatHillh It's even more of a mystery about women's health, because so few people place any importance on it and research it. :(

[@MyLifeInTheDesert]

I am 46 but I am taking oral birth control pills that are probably preventing me from feeling a lot of these symptoms. Once I am 50 I plan on transitioning to HRT.

[@Angel-O0127]

I lost my sister who was 51 in 2022 then my brother 8 months later he was 50 I’m 55. I thought I was losing my mind this on top of menopause 😢 losing two younger siblings changed me forever. I’m now in the second year of my nursing student degree. I helped my sister through her palliative care also. My sister told me to finish my nursing degree, which I’m doing 🙏🏼 I have two beautiful grandchildren so bring it on menopause 💪🏼 😅

[@uschicamamaluv1]

I'm so sorry for your losses! May God bless & keep you!

[@blossom6473]

This is sad I hope you're ok ❤

[@Angel-O0127]

@@uschicamamaluv1 thank you 🫶🏼

[@Angel-O0127]

@@blossom6473 I’m doing ok thank you. Life throws all sorts at you and you have to keep going don’t you. 🫶🏼

[@marials9245]

I’m 54 and just about one year ago I looked for a new obgyn because the one I had before didn’t listen and didn’t help with all my struggles with menopause. My new doctor prescribed me HRT and my life has changed dramatically for the better. It’s absolutely frustrating the amount of doctors who know nothing about menopause and who gaslight women about it’s symptoms. Enough is enough. Amazing interview, thanks!!

[@sharonconner8648]

It is the blind leading the blind….find a new doctor that knows about hrt treatment. Balance is the answer!

[@tametra_lasha]

​@@jenniferfortin4657 Do you think an older female OBGYN will better understand?

[@ubermoc]

This is why my wife and I only see women doctors who are competent. Women get treated like animals by most male doctors. Like we want to help you but not put too much effort into it. It passed me off when my wife would go to the er, and they wouldn't listen to her if I'm not there to speak up for her. We all have mothers, and most of us have daughters, so why don't we treat women like equals? It is mind-blowing.

[@sandye6278]

@@sharonconner8648 Not everyone can take HRT. Esp those who had cancer. Theres not enough research done on any of it.

[@Livetoeat171]

The problem with HRT is that it has a high risk of breast cancer. I'd rather go through menopause.

[@rizzart66]

I'm in tears. My mother died of breast cancer and I have been terrified of HRT for this reason. My meno smptoms are all over the place. Still have not passed the one year no period mark. I've blamed myself for my weight gain, depression, mood swings since the pandemic. My first call after the holidays will be to find a provider who specializes in menopause.

[@dragonfly1430]

My mother died in 2014 from uterine cancer believed to be caused by HRT. She basically made me swear on her death bed I would not take hormones. So went through it all natural. I suffered through perimenopause and now have been in full menopause now at 58. I spent years of horrible sleep, weight gain, skin issues, etc. I still have symptoms. I wish I knew more.

[@avril.227]

BioIdentical hormones. Natural hormone therapy doesn’t have the same risks

[@margaretqueenofscots9450]

@@avril.227Yeah, not all hormones are equal

[@PeggyMitchell64]

Just go carnivore, your body knows what to do to heal

[@thelikomagallery5080]

I honestly wouldnt take this doctor's advice. HRT is not healthy for you at all. I would try whatever natural method is out there. My mom is 65 and doesnt take any of these HRT stuff and she is doing just fine. I am 39 and i know menopause is around the corner maybe and i plan to start working on myself now

[@sistergamingchannel3844]

Just amazing that a man on a leading podcast is talking about this I absolutely love Stephen for this because I'm sure a lot of his core audience aren't very interested in this topic so it was very brave of him. As a 48 year old woman this was truly a fantastic episode for me ❤❤❤❤

[@alliecravulz]

That is sad if it is the case. His audience has mothers, grandmothers, aunts... everyone should care to an extent

[@bigblue2019]

thinking the same!

[@KN-ms4xk]

Couldn't agree more❤ Thank you Stephen!!!

[@loveschile7339]

Agreed! I was shocked to see this topic. Amazing man.

[@horsenaturalbaby]

Carnivore diet has been so helpful in perimenopause

[@everlastingpeaceinyeshua]

Oh gosh, I suffered through menopause with no family support. Not their fault, they didn’t know. I didn’t even support myself because I thought I was just being a horrible wife, mother etc because I couldn’t be there for everyone like I used to be without getting exhausted from lack of sleep, hot flashes, mood swings etc. I noticed all these things were exacerbated by excess carbs. Then I started taking less carbs more protein and fiber (veg), fasting and strength training. Changed my life! I feel better than before I went through menopause. I do one 36 hr fast and two 24 hr fasts each week. Even lost the excess weight that just wouldn’t budge after menopause. Thank you Jesus for the gift of knowledge.

[@elizabethterblans6198]

May I ask if you had difficulty in your profession, and how did you deal with it

[@everlastingpeaceinyeshua]

@@elizabethterblans6198 Yes, my executive function was way off. I used to be able to multitask with a mega list, then I started struggling to complete even one task. I wish I could give a simple or easy answer. I threw a lot at it but it came down to me finding less stressful work, delegating tasks to family, etc. I sort of took a hiatus to focus on the health of my mind, body and spirit. If I had to do it over, I would narrow it down to getting really good sleep (non-negotiable), nutrition (more protein, fasting, weights and less carbs) and lots of alone time in prayer and meditation. I also shrunk my to-do list to include only a couple of ‘need to do’ tasks a day. Finally, I give myself grace. These things helped me restructure myself and my executive function started to recover. I’ve been reading quite a bit about citicoline choline for additional mental support. Supposed to help with focus and concentration. Only been taking it for a week or so but it seems to help. However, I’ll never pick up the mega list and run about-ism again. It’s not worth the stress. I’m in a good place, so I’m going to nurture my new self. Everyone won’t like the new you and you may even think they need you… but you need you more.

[@everlastingpeaceinyeshua]

@ Yes, my executive function was way off. I used to be able to multitask with a mega list, then I started struggling to complete even one task and was forgetful. My route… prayer and fasting. I initially threw a lot at it but through prayer I was led to prioritize my life around good sleep, nutrition and alone time. I changed course. I was blessed with less stressful work, started delegating tasks to others, and shrunk my to-do list to include only a couple of ‘must do’ tasks a day. Finally, I give myself grace. I’m in a good place, so everyday I nurture my new self and sit with the Lord to direct my path. I’m more focused and productive. Psalm 127

[@leighrogers1383]

I am now 57. I haven’t felt the same since I went through the menopause. The hot flashes were uncomfortable but bearable…but I suffered from 2 to 3 years of terrible insomnia…crippling anxiety attacks that would happen just as I was falling asleep…a black hole of loneliness, no joy in life, brain fog….and I was teaching and felt like I was too busy to look after myself. I didn’t talk to my husband about the depression and loneliness because I didn’t want to worry him…and I knew it was because of hormone changes and would pass…if I could ride it out. My sympathies with anyone struggling with peri menopause/menopause.

[@kristingoettlicher3503]

This is very relatable. I am 41.

[@Gigithehippie]

I'm right there with you and understand my journey started at 45, then around 55 got worse, now I'm 57, weight gain, insomnia anxiety depression, I do fast but because I'm diabetic, it xan be tough Migraines have increased body aches, joints I just feel less of a human For those who had mild to no problems God bless you, this has been a very tough journey for me.. God bless those who are being tormented by this change in our lives, my heart goes out to you all..

[@leighrogers1383]

@@Gigithehippie yep…exactly.

[@tigerspiritjourney]

I have found that taking magnesium really helps with the anxiety. 🤗

[@leighrogers1383]

@@tigerspiritjourney thanks for that…I strongly suspect that some supplements would help.

[@withurshield931]

Sweating I can deal with, hot flashes I can deal with. What I can’t deal with is the paralyzing fear, anxiety, depression, and fatigue.

[@susandixon8778]

I went through it all. It was absolutely horrible! Thank God for HRT!!

[@taliadavis4297]

I understand.

[@canuckflxnfly]

The fear and anxiety hit me and I have always had nerves of steel. Especially with driving. It went away after a couple of years. Magnesium tablets and topical magnesium helped and still help now. Takes the edge off.

[@Callitout-kl1uq]

I didn’t realize how much menopause had negatively impacted my ability to manage stress and my emotions until I went on HRT for temp regulation and sleep issues. It’s been amazingly helpful.

[@withurshield931]

@@Callitout-kl1uq I’m a bit weary on the HRT. I’ve heard more negatives than positives. Also concerned it may aggravate my NF1

[@lilianpeliello8111]

As a dermatologist, I can honestly say that this is one of THE BEST interviews I have seen in the past year! Congratulations!

[@kaishallyaviles1333]

Hearing this make me sad because I remember going to my doctor with all my symptoms and she send me to get mental therapy because she thought I was going crazy .because after running many labs and finding nothing alarming she thought it was all in my head . I would go home crying and frustrated not knowing what I was going thru until I started doing my research and find out I was going thru perimenopause.

[@EleanorPearson-lk4sn]

When I first hit menopause, I actually gained 18 lbs and couldn't lose it for the longest time. Tried pills, vitamins, and just made things worse. Now, I'm using the Aspect Health sensor, watching my diet, keeping tabs on my hormones, and even doing a bit of exercise, even though I'm already 53 yo

[@angeliadelossantos88]

Six months ago I began seeing a functional medicine doc and it has been a game changer. Finally someone taking me seriously and Im now on HRT! Of course, the expensive health insurance I pay a premium on every month will not cover my doc visits. Proof that the current system wants us drug dependent and chronically ill.

[@annelbeab8124]

.... "even doing a bit of exercise". I can only recommend resistance training with weights (can easily be done at home) and walks. Both changed my life.

[@suzh4187]

@@angeliadelossantos88wow…but viagra for men is paid by insurance. 🙄

[@DNACHOST]

Go exercise and stop taking pills

[@a.leehilliard4716]

Ramp up the exercise. It will make a big difference.

[@ssmith5127]

After simply watching the opening moments - I want to scream thank you! Do you have any idea what it means to an aging female to see a young man such as yourself give this topic the attention it deserves? Especially after watching the women I've loved throughout my lifetime struggle without understanding or adequate support. Women have been dying (literally) waiting for this level of acknowledgement, attention, understanding and support.

[@alypat3443]

Well said, Totally agree 👍

[@DoraDAN-c9u]

YeS!!! I have been commenting for some time requesting for Steve to get someone on to talk about Menopause because he has such a huge following and these individuals whom are taking to media platforms to get the subject of menopause and hrt and how it impacts relationships aren't getting the exposure they so desperately need!!!. I almost cried with tears of joy when I saw this video today. THANK YOU STEVE!!!!

[@MartheMostervik]

well said, 100% concur

[@dianebell8677]

Hallelujah, men should understand that it affects all the people around us , not just us . I have been chatting to my son , making him aware for the future , for the lovely lady in his life . I sometimes think I’m going mad ! It’s really frightening.i am on a strict healthy diet , exercise down the gym most days go to bed early , HRT and I still feel I’m treading water .The worse is when I go away and I can’t do these things so much , the wrong food , not so much exercise , any alcohol and interrupted sleep.My irritability returns , lose confidence in myself and lack positivity. It does impact my new relationship, as my partner doesn’t understand what’s going on and I’m quite good at explaining to him what I’m going through .But unfortunately his a different generation and thinks it’s a Womens problem , keep it to yourself .iv even promised not to talk about it any more , to keep the peace .I am sure my divorce had something to do with the menopause and I’m trying my best to not let it affect this new 7 year relationship . Big Thank you Steve ❤️ a very mature conversation,I take my hat off to you . Good luck lady’s your going to need it ❤️❤️🙏 xxxx

[@gloriakummer5357]

I wonder if it translates into his personal life though…

[@seneca132]

I "muscled" through 2 yrs of symptoms before deciding to ask for HRT. 7 months after started and about 60-70% of my symptoms gone, I switched insurance companies. Saw a female doctor who said "I don't practice medicine like that" when I told her I still wanted medicine regardless of the "risks" she was so concerned about. It was insane to hear. Her comments made me feel like I was asking for euthanasia and her "beliefs" were to save me by lengthening my life. I told her I choose quality over quantity. Anyway, I ended up getting a second opinion and will continue my HRT treatment. Doctors are NOT listening to patients. Advocating for ourselves is an uphill battle. Thanks so much for this video!❤

[@Scor-ah]

ME TOO, I finally got HRT from Alloy an online team of Drs that will treat you and get you the therapy you need. I am 3 months into HRT at age 67 and I feel like I am 35 again. Running, cycling, weight lifting, building bone mass and sleeping through the night. Plus I feel like having sex again with my very patient husband.

[@Dian-gk4us]

the thing is, every provider have the right to practice "by the book" and the right to deny treatment, you just have to find the one who's in agreement with you

[@nownowbrowncow52]

Your telling my story.

[@Truthstrangerthanfict.]

That’s because HRT can cause cancer. My mom stopped taking it years ago because of this 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Scor-ah]

That theory has been proven wrong quite a long time ago@@Truthstrangerthanfict.

[@achyshaff5653]

I’m writing this with tears. I’m 52 and feel like I’m dying. I’ve gained weight, suddenly told I have high cholesterol and need a statin, have aches everywhere , moods are up and down, blurry vision, night sweats when I do sleep, horrible brain fog, zero energy and I told my Dr that I feel like my skin is too tight for my body😢it’s like I’m puffed up with fluid. I was always thin and never had cholesterol issues . The blood work showed no estrogen or progesterone . She ordered me a compound of estrogen and progesterone to rub on the thighs but it’s $400 a month for both😔 I just cry! My mom was on Prempro hormone replacement back in the day and it saved her life . I don’t know how long I can deal with this. I want to Thank you for speaking out, and thank all the women who are posting about their symptoms . What a great support . It would be wonderful if a support group could be started in conjunction with this podcast. Much luck to all of you and may the hormone gods be with you!

[@Crechino]

Please dear be brave God will reward u smile smile and smile ❤

[@daciabrown6157]

Hush my dear it rough but we can get help

[@lisar3944]

it sounds like your doc put you on some kind of "compounded" hormone treatment? You might need to find a different doc but you can get very good results using topical estrogen (either patch or gel) + micronized progesterone. Both are "body identical" and don't carry the risks associated with old fashioned oral treatments (eg premarin or prempro - these are the riskiest forms of hormone therapy). The standard estrogel + prometrium combination (for example) should be less expensive than anything that comes from a compounding pharmacy, too. Compounded hrt really isn't necessary - any doc who pushes these is highly suspect!

[@jennifervalencia3812]

Check your thyroid and parathyroid...maybe the adrenals too.

[@myhanhtran1193]

I am a pharmacist and specialize in HRT compound. Our average for monthly for estrogen and progesterone is around $65 for both. I am in Tampa Florida

[@LostNFoundASMR]

I hit post-menopause at age 39- Im 41 now. I missed my pre menopause stage as far as knowing that’s what was happening to me because no doctors would check my hormones - they refused to believe it was hormone related at my age. I was told my brain fog and feeling hot (like I was going to pass out) was just me having anxiety. Thanks to them I almost lost all bone density in my left leg and I got lost trying to find my way home one day. Oh and one summer I felt like I was having a stroke episode which prompted me to finally demand testing. I suffered for four years before I was able to get someone to listen to me. I would write. A book if I told you the thing va my body went through. It was pure misery- I told my doctor that I didn’t want to live anymore because I had no quality fo life. I was mocked by nurses and doctors when I would describe my symptoms. It was horrible. Four years of misery that I can’t get back. I could have just been on the estrogen and progesterone and be doing fine. I feel great now with it. If I miss a day or two I will feel it almost instantly. The medication literally keeps my body in line. People need to stop diagnosing females as mentally unstable every time we have a concern.

[@lisasargent2841]

This 87

[@Elena-fe3os]

I did not recognized my symptoms. Only when my period stopped,months ago, I put all together. I was not prepared, nor informed

[@LG-oq4dy]

I'm done with male doctors due to the way I've been treated by so so many. Been yelled at, laughed at abilled with 0 treatment, just for going in over symptoms. My mom used to talk about how horrible she was getting treated after a certain age, getting called hypochondriac. I didn't get it, and now I'm 49 and have experienced it myself. Not saying all male docs are like this but I'm not willing to go to any more.

[@Duchess-of-Camelot]

This sounds just like my experience.

[@katiegirl33]

Thank you for this. You just described me to a T… thank you 🙏🏽

[@menouthis]

A huge THANK YOU to this young man for not shying away from this conversation! Thank you for discussing this topic! You really have no idea how much this means to your female viewers!

[@GenerationJonesi]

I went into menopause at 44, I'm 61 now. Went to my doc, they did a test, I was told I'm in menopause & that was it. No info, counselling, discussion about the effects, nada. Didn't even discuss HRT, which I didn't even know was a thing until years later. I've suffered mental health problems my entire life & I can say that menopause does make it worse, at times. It's like a freaking rollercoaster!

[@RedNicole22]

Same here. Perimenopause increased my anxiety and fear to new levels that I thought weren’t even possible. It was debilitating. Thank God, I discovered some herbals that have put me in a great place. I just wish I had found them in 2015 when I thought life was a slow death experience.

[@Mar-dm5hq]

@@RedNicole22hi what herbs helped you ?

[@esterbengoa6077]

I didn't know all those raw emotions were due to menopause. The crying, the unbearable sadness. I was relieved when I found out as I thought I was losing my mind.

[@nicholabradbury7643]

Not too late for HRT...despite what the medical people say. ❤

[@sagapoetic8990]

What herbs helped you?

[@ellebellebehring5329]

HRT is fabulous. I’m in the best shape. I feel 30 again. I’m building muscle again, I’m sleeping, my skin is better, I have less inflammation. I’m happy and I feel powerful. I love it!

[@HajerArj]

What is HRT

[@magnetchick1]

@@HajerArj Hormone replacement therapy

[@magnetchick1]

What products are you using? Have you tried the pellets?

[@zahiaiad5751]

Hrt stopped my hot flushes and skin dryness.However , did not do much with brain fog and hair falling.

[@l.chillc.3758]

Where do u get it at??

[@merakiwellbeing6955]

I’m almost 41 and feel totally different to how I did 2 years ago. I don’t recognise myself, wake up early hours, skin changes, joint bursitis after intense exercise, sore feet, fatigue, lack of desire to do anything, heavier/weight gain, irritability, paranoia, anxiety all of which worsen in the days leading to a period. I don’t feel youthful like I did, I don’t have the same energy and light that I did. It’s hard and it’s emotional.

[@shin-ishikiri-no]

Ah, the humble transition to old hag. Beautiful. It reminds me of why men with money play with younger women instead.

[@cdawnd1672]

I feel for you. I had a panic attack out of no where over a year ago that jump started all of those symptoms for me. I now take a plethora of supplements. Magnesium glycinate which has helped the anxiety, heart palpitations, vitamin d3 & k2 to get the calcium into my bones, ashwagandha for stress, and others for overall health. What I recently found that has helped my sleep and well being is melatonin before bed and maca root to balance my hormones and help with hot flashes. And I am strength training. I really hope you get the help to feel better.

[@shin-ishikiri-no]

@@cdawnd1672 Magnesium isn't enough to defend you from the wall.

[@kellibodony1077]

I had no mental changes but physically I would never let my husband touch me again due to pain. Are we both supposed to live our life like that when BIOIDENTICAL HRT can correct it??!! I ended up going to Carnivore (eating only animal products and dairy) and my hormones corrected so I no longer need HRT. It may not work for everyone AND the elites don't want us eating meat. I wonder why?!!🤔 I also no longer need any meds and my arthritis, anklyosing spondylitis, joint pain, Ulcerative colitis and psoriasis has all cleared. That's a huge money loss to the pharmaceutical companies and to doctors.🤔 Follow the money!!💰 My husband joined me on Carnivore and we are both trim and have more muscle than we did 10 years ago. We have a neighbor that went Carnivore about 4 years ago who is also trim and no longer a diabetic and no longer needs blood pressure meds!! 😊💪

[@merakiwellbeing6955]

Thank you, that’s super helpful!

[@maximusmom5015]

I am one suffering in silence. Divorced and scared to start a relationship with a great man because I'm afraid of all my menopause baggage. Thinning hair, hot flash, low libido, night sweats, brain fog etc etc etc. It is truly depressing. Great interview. Thanks for helping share the light on this.

[@nolamama3558]

Girl. Don't do that! Let this be your moment to take care of YOU! This video made me finally look for a doctor who specializes in HRT. Appointment is up-coming, but I am now actually hopeful for the first time in years. Please, don't let one more day go by without looking into it. It's so hard to take time to focus on ourselves, I know. I see your username says mom, so as one mom to another, you can't take care of everyone else the way you want to unless you are in a good place yourself. I wish I could reach out and hug you. You are NOT alone.

[@maribenevidess]

A woman at any age can have health issues that can affect relationships. If you a have a great men that wants to start something with you just go for it. Life is just too short to be losing those chances. Start your treatments, take care of yourself and enjoy the new guy.

[@rosegomez6591]

Hi, don't suffer for now until you look into a HRT try this natural Therapy Hormones Estradiol, and progesterone is what I start with and a form of omega, a vitamin, D, C your magnesium a good quality pillow. Brisk walks and eat small meals through day. , I promise it will help you. I know how you are feeling, and I care. I was there. DR, PLATT wellness center. you can buy his hormone therapy online and its natural helps 100 percent. I plan to try HRT but for now this is a great start. Water aerobics in the summer. Its ok not to be okay

[@travelpro23]

@@maribenevidesslove this advice. ❤

[@mypointofview1111]

Get a cat not a man. They're loving, loyal and don't demand sex when you're not in the mood

[@maystar2366]

I am 39 and have been suffering since I was 35. I cannot describe how bad I have felt for the last 4 years. I finally found a doctor to take me seriously and have been diagnosed with primary ovary insufficiency. I kept being told I was too young but I knew something wasn’t right. I am now taking HRT and I feel like myself again (almost) after only a month. Please don’t suffer. Find a doctor who will listen. ❤

[@jessicatassell331]

I'm going through this ATM I'm being told I'm too young I'm 37 it started at 35 too

[@ashleypaul6326]

Ive felt crappy since 35. Should i get hrt despite my cycles only fluctuating +/- 4-5 days? Probably . Im convinced it low key starts at 35

[@ashleypaul6326]

@@jessicatassell331same

[@Katie-jm2bs]

I go diagnosed as perimenopausal at the age of 36. Here are my symptoms (which might be helpful for some) erratic periods (start early, start late, skipped). Anxiety, heart palpitations, mood swings (one day feeling really low, another day feeling fine, quick to snap, irritable), hot flashes, cold flashes, night sweats, waking up randomly at 3am, itchy skin - including in the ear canals, weight gain around the stomach area, hand tingling, joints and muscle aches, low sex drive, hair growth around chin, neck and upper lip, white noise/ringing in ears, dry or watery eyes, fatigue, insomnia, headaches, migraines, brain fog, forgetfulness, constipation and diarrhea. HRT is optional - but you should take it if your symptoms are debilitating or you’re self destructive.

[@CherylBerryl]

Bio-identical hormones.

[@charlottebruce979]

See, this is why it terrifies me. How are you still alive and functioning, you obviously did and as billions of women before you you survived!!

[@qqrq]

​@@CherylBerryl could you please say more about these?❤❤❤thank you

[@punkowl00]

You just described all my symptoms. I also started at 36

[@SingleHotWitch]

Right there with you. My GP is slowly starting to listen but I was also offered anti depressants as a first point of call. There's nothing wrong with my seretonin so it's a totally inappropriate treatment. I tried to buy HRT from boots online but they insist on doctor referral if you are under 45. It's a joke. I'm literally showing up on their door every month until they treat me appropriately. I'm also doing all the holistic stuff, diet and exercise. Thank goodness this information is being shared more!

[@user-xc7iq4cm8t]

Menopause was DEVASTATING for me. You’re SO right - NO ONE talks about it!

[@Alien_at_Large]

I had NO IDEA it would be this bad. If I had known how I would be feeling, I would have started HRT ten years ago. I have become a "hypochondriac".

[@carolynkeller8888]

Same

[@Jooney0347]

😢 Going through this right now. I've been searching for the right help and my world has been upside down due to parimenopause. Thank you so much for this informative video. ❤❤❤

[@Joanna7428]

I've been going through it since I was around 45 and I'm nearly 50 now. It is and has been horrendous! Mood swings, low mood off the scale, hot flushes, cold sweats, weight gain. As you say, no one talks to us about it and no one warns us of what is coming.

[@jeffbrooks1513]

my mental health and overall general health took a toll. being treated has made such the difference for me!

[@joanofarcxxi]

It's about time this conversation was had. Women do suffer in silence. This issue is more taboo than being Republican, gay, and into S&M. So tired of women being shamed for being women. So tired of women being shamed for ageing. To the interviewer: thank you so much for being bold and brave, diving into this thought provoking topic, and asking poignant questions. To the doctor: you are a heroine ❤️.

[@homemade6950]

No one needs to know any of that information. What is wrong with ppl?!

[@kathleenking47]

Not all women have these symptoms..my periods just STOPPED

[@zofiajaneczek184]

It’s the USA where aging is pretty much a disease and not a normal part of life. There’s a double standard out there in work places too, as older women are more apt to be dismissed from jobs compared to men. The issue is with a youth, looks, and money obsessed society. You must create your own value as you age in this nation in order to get any respect!

[@kathleenking47]

@@zofiajaneczek184 there are herbs which work with menses/menopause as well

[@jennifermoffitt7294]

well you don't have the protection of estrogen but your husband does.. That ok w you?@@kathleenking47

[@CJBroonie]

Thank you, Steven, for asking great questions and letting Dr. Mary talk without interruption; and thank you both for giving a platform to one of the most critical issues for women. It’s vital to change the framework around menopause and give women the dignity of real, informed treatment.

[@lizrock1442]

I'm 63 and i've been doing intermittent fasting, 18-6- 4 days/week. Lowered carbs, quit sugar and up protein and fiber and good fats changed everything. No brain fog, more energy, many inflammatory issues gone, and lost 40 pounds. It was too late for me to take HRT (60 yo when I inquired), I knew nutrition and supplementation would help. Thank you for caring for the "forgotten" no more fertile women!

[@magsgil8181]

Look into bio identical hormones. So much better and for any age. I’m 63 and take them as a crème. Have a google

[@lizrock1442]

@@magsgil8181 Oh, i did inquire for bio identical and was told it was too late unless I would've start taking them before 60. I'll ask again! Thanks!

[@violetgc6049]

@@lizrock1442 You can use the bio-identical creams at any stage, and for the rest of your life! They are plant-based and it's lovely.

[@yonash6469]

So you are on a semi keto diet?

[@lisahuala102]

@lizrock1442 that's bullshit. If BHRT products make you feel better, use them. I found a great product which is OTC bhrt cream called Ostaderm. I don't take as much as the label says---I take just enough to be able to sleep well and not have black depression and extreme fatigue. It literally gave me my life back. Lately added 2 pea sized dabs of lowest dose DHEA cream I could find. DHEA is a precursor to lots of hormones including testosterone. Turns out that dry eye is related to loss of testosterone. That also helped considerably. I can see again! Without feeling like i have rocks in my eyes or them being goopy and runny and red and light sensitive.

[@TordeanRivera]

I’m a man and I really appreciate you sharing this. My wife is going through a lot of these changes and I am really trying to help her. Thanks soooooooooo much

[@dsddala467]

Love to you, dude for being one of the good ones.

[@nadinesmith-coke641]

So beautiful of you.

[@fyahchile]

I watch this in tears. It hurts so bad. At 45 my cycle gets worst, every symptom, just worst. I walk around feeling horrible and having to smile so the world don't see a erratic person blowing in the breeze. I'm TAKING this help

[@hmh3808]

I’m so glad you are !….honestly HRT made me feel like my old self again ….that I wasn’t crazy, that I hadn’t lost 30 IQ points and that I wasn’t imagining the multitude of symptoms I had when I went into early menopause after surgery at 46 ! you CAN get your life, your mind and your body back ….it may take a while to find the right balance for you- SO don’t give up you’ll feel like your old self again when you find the right support! HRT is such low dose today -the side effects, if any, are so minor in comparison to the psychological and emotional HELL that menopause can be for some people….! So so worth it for me and anecdotally, I can say 95% of the women I know my age.

[@lisafolks47]

​@hmh3808 if you don't mind me asking what kind of surgery was it?

[@amberjohnston586]

I know… I had to take matters into my own hands. I looked up a bhrt doc in my city, got an appointment and then he explained all the stuff I needed and why….omg! What a difference it makes when you are balanced again!!!❤❤

[@nicholeh1280]

My cycles were bad and bleeding got worse when I was forced to take a daily blood thinner. I got a mirena iud and it's been a blessing.

[@rosegomez6591]

Doctor Platt wellness Center Natural Hormone replacement therapy I started with the omega, vitamin d, your magnesium. It saved me from so much pain. I know the pain both mentally, physically, emotionally. Regular doctors and even some to claim to be specialist let me down. I kept searching I found Dr Platt a blessing. I'm not a salesperson. I am someone he helped and can help you. I promise. God Bless

[@suzannearoshas-fischer8443]

Thank you sooo much for this! I am 50 years old. I began HRT 3 months ago. It has helped me sooo much! In addition, open conversation with my husband has helped too. Love him for it! ❤ I have managed to talk about it with humour! I look in the mirror and smile!! Lots of affirmations. Again, thank you for this.

[@kathleenyonce2556]

Excellent content. I’m 54 and literally was made to feel dumb by my OBGYN said “calories in calories out period. There are no exceptions” when I told her I keep expanding with weight but have made no changes. I’m glad this conversation is changing so we can find the right answers

[@juliewright1895]

She’ll get it someday when she hits menopause. Sorry you were told that!!

[@DebbieDooo]

That is why when I sought out a new Gyno, my list of specs consisted of being female, being close to my age and specialized in menopause symptoms and treatments. I am very happy with my choice. She gets it!

[@keralee]

The "calories in calories out" model is sooo obsolete and any doc saying that is the ignoramus...not you! Far too many have not got the sense to realize that the body is an incredibly intricate feedback system that constantly adapts and changes. Sadly, they lack the humility to admit that they dont know how it all works...

[@baronvonhoughton]

So you can break the laws of thermodynamics? Fascinating. Your Dr is absolutely correct of course.

[@Js9534a]

Find a new doctor? And watch your carbs. 😊

[@Hope-uq1vn]

So pleased people are speaking out about menopause, I literally thought I was losing my mind.

[@user-xc7iq4cm8t]

Exactly!! We’ve been suffering unnecessary for decades. I asked my dr about HRT years ago. Was dismissed immediately.

[@bridgetc.marinaccio8024]

Me too! I was losing myself, I feel tremendously better.

[@patriciamharris5664]

I think I m going through this..61 yrs old. Insomnia, flushing, osteopena, depression....

[@blacksongbird100]

I think we all do. People act like we are. The doctors act like we are. And people who have been through it tend to stay quiet like it's a secret. When I asked my mom about it she responded like she didn't have any symptoms. 🤷🏿‍♀️ So, I have to figure it without her help.

[@user-xc7iq4cm8t]

@@blacksongbird100 Exactly! My mom never spoke about it

[@audreychristine58]

I'm 55 and i went through menopause at 51. I gained 40 lbs, mental health went down the tube, horrible hot flashes and so much more. My doctor told me to take antidepressants to feel better. I said :I've been on antidepressants since I was 16, I want something for menopause!" I had to fight with the doctors until I found a doctor who was willing to give me the patch and a progesterone pill. As soon as I started on those, I immediately improved and soon felt like my old self. The weight hasn't come off. I know I need to do some strength training. Menopause really needs to be talked about. Thank you for this video!

[@dianafox7188]

Thank you for sharing. 13 years ago while pregnant I felt not like myself. Kinda sad not really wanting to do anything. Go see obstetrician. She wanted to put me on antidepressants. She said let's nip this in the bud before it turns into post partum. I was like, what!? But I'm not depressed. Left, talked to my friend. She mentioned vitamin D deficiency. So went to see another obstetrician. She checked my d levels. They were very low. She put me on a high dose prescribed Vitamin D. Bam!! I was fixed & started feeling better in no time. I'll never forget that. It's like she was selling antidepressants or She wasn't educated enough or something. Just wanted to share that. And now menopause & the same feeling again.. ugh!

[@design401]

The weight gain is more about eating carbs…. Like white rice, potatoes, flour and sugary snacks. Plus sugar is in everything in America…I’m no doctor but I did the Whole 30 diet. …try it. It’s all online… Trust me it will change how you see your health. Plus you’ll see weight loss.

[@myriamblancquaert3991]

Meno at 43 now 62.with hrt never gained any weight no cancers better skin and bones compared to my even younger sisters..better sexlife than before.no mood swings no flushes etc. Why i.the hell would you go into antidepressant remedies which are often suicidal never heard a gynecologist give this advice..

[@dianad1639]

Same and if you go through her Info. This is the doctors process. 1st antidepressants. 2nd cholesterol meds cos your cholesterol sky rockets with no dietary changes. Systemic issue with doctors who have no training

[@Miracles999]

Change your diet to Keto or Carnivore, you can come off antidepressants. I am on HRT but my mental health only improved when I changed my diet.

[@Sunmoonstars976]

I'm commenting for the algorithm. Everybody needs to see this! I feel like I've been suffering needlessly for years!

[@evelyn4050]

I’ve been a nurse for 12 years and she’s right…most providers are clueless on this topic, which is why I’m here listening with all of you. God bless this woman and God bless my husband for putting up with my MAN-O-pause (zero desire).

[@stj971]

Most providers are clueless, period.

[@lisalebeau2684]

The nurses are the backbone and the brains in so many offices. I love you peeps

[@paulmuaddib3470]

I believe my wife 47 has been going through this for a about 6 months now, we have be very close and married for nearly 25 years, we now are like strangers she hardly looks at me and I'm sleeping on the sofa, my frustration and lack of connection makes makes me angry anxious and I actually cried at work a few days ago, I'm a stand up man but my best friend and life partner is 99% gone , I'm trying very hard to understand buying her roses telling her I'm here for her etc but she's not even interested in going for a coffee with me, I'm trying hard to control the resentment of detachment but its extremely powerful mix of emotions from my end, I love and miss my best friend the mother of my children my wife, I'm on my own with this in real pain, it seems selfish but the effect of this seems to be hurting me more . My beautiful wife has lost who she was , its like her shine has gone for me only and work etc she is her normal self, We used to spend every single minute after work together loving our bubble just us even holding hand feeling blessed for what we have, she struggles to even make eye contact now I feel iv lost my wife .

[@kellythyben3984]

Do we really trust the medical system? Ummm NO!!! I woke up when they murdered people in the hospital for “COVID”!!!!!!! I do everything the opposite the medical system says!!! I don’t trust doctors it’s protocol medicine!!!

[@ieeshas4898]

DYING...That's literally what I was mentally preparing myself for. Every single symptom mentioned, I have it... Back and forth to the er with dizziness, palpitations and fatigue that just appeared!!! And no one to explain why/what it's from! Every test.... Negative. From echocardiograms to brain scans!!! Negative. Never even heard of brain fog...Everyday bodyaches with very little relief from OTC's. I've been in the medical field for 30 years and over half was in an OBGYN office, yet the only thing you hear when the word menopause is mentioned is hot flashes, absolutely nothing else!!! Until this video, I felt I was losing my mind. I can't even watch it in its entirety because I get overwhelmed that there is an answer, and I keep choking up! I hope it's not to late for me as its been 2 years of misery!! Thank you for this from the bottom of my ❤️

[@ck868ck]

It's not too late! It's been three years for me. I'm only 41 but my aunt and my grandma hit perimenopause in their mid thirties. It's been five days and I feel so much better it feels like a literal miracle. I cry when I think about how much I suffered and it feels good to cry because I'm experiencing a clear emotion. I really thought I was actually going crazy and that was so depressing. I felt so lost and I feel so much better now. It's not too late.

[@jessicamack4442]

I too have been suffering for 4 yrs I have no life with these symptoms. I feel like I’m losing my mind and I’m not getting any help from my doctors

[@MAGATriumph]

I do hope you have had no vaccines. God bless

[@silviak.s.8236]

It‘s not too late. I can deeply related to your story. We are in this route right now, yes, changing what we can. Better days are coming 🌿🌷

[@Thecatladybooknook_PennyD]

​@@jessicamack4442 Find another Dr. I searched the many many Dr's in my area through their websites and found a female Gyn who specializes in HRT. I prepared myself by reading studies and listening to Dr Tabatha here on KZbin. Thankfully I started HRT last week and it's been great!! Go advocate for yourself

[@sallyarmbrecht2215]

I started crying at minute 2 hearing a young man talk about how important it is for all of us to understand menopause and what women are experiencing. I’ve never seen your interviews but you now got my attention. I’m a big fan of DR Haver! Thank you for this interview and your thoughtfulness as a man! ❤

[@Yellow-oc4sl]

And I have made the choice to start some kind of birth control to help me through this it's terrible hormones every where up down , smh hopefully it will be soon

[@bijals2]

Thank you for making and sharing this conversation. It’s much needed, spot on and sadly highlighting problems in our society. One request is that please don’t judge women on their ability to handle all these symptoms. They/we are not weak. We all suffering at different levels and have our own way of handling it. Nothing to do with our resilience and strength to cope.

[@carleerundell-gordon6903]

I’m crying watching this. It’s been such a long, hard road. It’s left me suffering and lonely, with no help in sight. Best thing I did was get divorced, but that left me going through menopause as a single mum with young children. So disappointed in my (woman) doctor.

[@jenjen836]

I hope you get the support you need and deserve.

[@blandinalamare9775]

It's true it's like hell when no one understand you and give you support when needed have to bear all alone in silence.

[@Stopthechaosnow2025]

Don’t give up. Give this information to your doctor. I suffered so much and doctors weren’t listening to me either… but I demanded HRT. This was many years ago and I made it through, but there were times I thought I was going completely crazy and nobody cared or listened..

[@bobbystrainovic9444]

My partner, sister and sister in law used, Organic Sulphur MSM Crystals/ coarse flakes, Organic acerola cherry powder (vitamin C), Organic ashwagandha root powder. Organic RED maca root powder. For 6-8 weeks and All the menopause symptoms STOPPED 100%. Let me know if you want more details.

[@auroravenancio8346]

​@@bobbystrainovic9444would love to read some more details 🤗

[@francinegravel6198]

I really liked when she said "it maybe contributing to increase of divorce rate but in a good way". My thought exactly! I thank the universe for having these 5 years of menopause symptoms that no doctor associated with menopause (still mad at the doctors). I was able to confirm that I was living with a very bad partner who did not care for me at all. Just separated 4 months ago and now taking care of my menaupose.

[@rosemarymontero7891]

I’m going through this one separated recently I’m in my 40s it’s funny how you’re there for a person but when it’s rivers, the same treatment it’s not given . So now it’s time to take care of myself.

[@rosegomez6591]

HI, I went through the exact same thing as you stated above. The doctors and family made a mockery out of me. Now I see who cares about me and that is God , Myself and my dog.

[@taliasavva_life]

I’m convinced I started peri menopause in my mid-late 30’s . The worst feeling is being told it’s in your head/ you’re too young!!! This conversation is so important ♥️ thank you.

[@robertaanderson6229]

Same here. Not supportive surroundings. I thought I was losing my mind, and people took advantage. After I dumped my man, my job, and certain friends and family. I was able to get my mind and body under control. For now, that is. 54. Fingers crossed.

[@AllYouJesusAmy]

People are telling me that I am to young to have pre menopause. I am started treating pre menopause with 4 moringa everyday, early in the morning. I am happily married, despite of dealing with pre menopause symptoms everyday. I heard moringa can help me with hot flashes and other symptoms with pre menopause. My hubby is so understanding and supportive bout me dealing with pre menopause symptoms. I am still waiting for the benefits if moringa to kick in my body soon. I keep thinking I shouldn't be happily married, due to my pre menopause symptoms. My hubby and I chose to stay married until we both die. My hubby and I keep our marriage vows everyday, despite of the pre menopause symptoms that I deal with. I have been dealing with hot flashes, after I turned 30 years old, now I am alittle older than 40 years old. My name is Amy. Morninga started to cool me down for most of the day today.

[@SharonRasco]

Dr. Louise Newson in the UK is also a brilliant resource ❤️

[@bostongirl0305]

I was told the same thing in my early to mid-thirty's. You feel disrespected in a way for not being taken seriously.

[@rachelr9272]

I started perimenopause in my mid 30’s. Had my last period at 45. I seriously thought I was going crazy, not to mention both of my daughters were going thru puberty at the same time. Thank God I got thru it. My husband was so supportive and empathetic to all of us during that time.

[@amynesbitt4667]

At age 48-49, my male OBGYN told me "you're not old enough" when I asked if some of my symptoms could be parimenopause. I am 53 and have been in full menopause for 2 years now. I have a female doctor who is also in menopause and didn't dismiss my issues. I have been on HRT for 8 months and although I am not back to 100%, it has changed my life for the better in every way. I just found this show and wanted to thank you and Dr. Haven for talking about this...I wish I had heard it 5 years ago, when I was really struggling and not getting any help. I am a believer that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. This should not be a taboo topic and women shouldn't be made to feel like they are crazy for experiencing the symptoms of menopause.

[@kimberlym-67]

Hated when doctors usually male doctor's would dismiss me like this. Finally changed over to a female doctor and it helped a little bit I also found getting a doctor at least my age was way better. In the end I only had one doctor ever listen and I'm 57 now. It's incredibly hard to find a doctor who is your age or older when you're older too and all the doctors are so young.

[@danifrade1403]

I am not sure when my menopause started, but I think it was around the age of 44, or 45. I am now 49; I have been on HRT on and off for almost 2 years. Some of the symptoms eased, like my endless night sweats and hot flushes, but I have a plethora of other ones: aches and pains, terrible brain fog, gastrointestinal issues, bladder issues, and tiredness because I can't sleep properly. But above all, I am constantly irritable. Anything and everyone annoys me. I turned into a different person, one that I don't recognise and don't like. I feel like my old self has gone and someone else has taken over my body and my soul. I hate every single minute of menopause.

[@fiesta5840]

Me too. I am 47. Not sure it's perimenopause as my periods are still regular but all symptoms I have

[@brmcnallen]

Did your HRT include testosterone?

[@danifrade1403]

@@brmcnallen I don’t think so; I use Evorel sequi patches

[@amyschiavo215]

I was on HRT for a few years and found that my body was not absorbing them. I switched to bio identical hormones and I feel way better. I also got on testosterone which I wasn’t on before and it changed my life. My libido is way better, I have more energy, I feel stronger! Currently I get the estrodial and testosterone pellets and take progesterone by mouth. Find a good hormone doc and get some current bloodwork done to determine what you need. I’m sorry you’re struggling. It is not easy to figure out at first. Don’t give up! You might just need to change up your treatment that works better for your body.

[@danifrade1403]

@@amyschiavo215 thank you! what are bio identical hormones? Out of curiosity, are you in the UK?

[@Laugregall]

My 92 year old nanny mae took HRT until she was 71 and says this is way she is still thriving and out walking every day and has all her mental faculties ✨

[@Davina29080]

When did your nanny Mae start taking HRT?

[@keekeemyfirstcat8410]

I started at surgical menospause, age 43. I am 69 now and will not quit HRT.

[@Melh05]

@@keekeemyfirstcat8410 What type of HRT are you taking? My Ob-Gyn just prescribed me oral Estradiol and progesterone. I’m a little concerned about blood clots although I’m not a smoker, 55 and in good health

[@growthrulove]

What is hrt?

[@keekeemyfirstcat8410]

@@growthrulove Hormone Therapy

[@tiffanylbacon]

As I listen to this podcast I am infuriated. For 12 years I have suffered a litany of symptoms that doctors claimed were in my head. I have been told nothing is wrong with me, that I eat too much, that I don’t exercise enough, that I had bipolar disorder. I have been dismissed by over 50 doctors. And all along I have been suffering with perimenopause. My marriage has suffered and my quality of life has been sub par. I sit here and think that if one of these doctors listened to me I could have gotten HRT and my life would be oh so different. I’m with Dr. Mary Claire Haver with this needs to change. I’m on board with this movement!

[@randl7423]

I'm so sorry you've been on such a frustrating journey. Being diagnosed with bipolar isn't something insulting or negative, though - BP meds changed my life for the better. That may not be the case for you; I assume there are plenty of reasons you disagree with the diagnosis. And hormone imbalance may in fact be all that's going on for you. But I just wanted to weigh in that an accurate bipolar diagnosis can be an amazing gateway to a better life, for some.

[@jotift2709]

Sadly you can't rely on Dr's anymore my hubby had lung cancer but was told it was in his head he died in 2018

[@tiffanylbacon]

@@jotift2709 that is so sad 😞. I’m truly sorry for your loss.

[@IBS-remedies]

imagine when the doctors think you're nuts and he's the big nut😅

[@Bianca-f1l]

Same I've been put in the mental clinic 5 times once for 2 months doing electro convolsive therapy 😢nothing worked I no longer leave the house I barely even leave the bed I have to be forced to take a shower I'm so very sad and have so much anxiety that I feel like I'm allergic to myself 😢 just want to die at this point can't handle ir but will give this a go the drs better give it to me

[@victoriaburleigh869]

I'm crying watching this. I've been trying to get help lately. Even went to a neurologist. My primary doctor, female, knows I'm menopausal, and I went to jer the other day, EXTREME INCREASE in my depression, anxiety that i can barely cope. My cholesterol skyrocketed the last year and all of a sudden joint pain. She tested me for RA, lupus, Lyme disease ...but not ONCE mentioned me being in menopause...THANK YOU for making this video

[@preciousmocha78]

This young man is remarkable. My hat is off to you for having this conversation and bringing this conversation to the forefront. This needs to be shared and spoken.

[@tamarahaskins2774]

I totally agree! He's asking her all the right questions too!

[@DrYouMrTube]

As a man who knows a lot about hormones. this is GOLD. everyone, and I mean EVERYONE over the age of 30 should listen to this doctor and watch it a few times.

[@SharonRasco]

Also Dr. Louise Newman in the UK. She's brilliant and doing so much to inform people around this significant topic. See her website, podcasts, instagram lives etc 🌟

[@eggandchips4t]

​@@SharonRascothank you for the information x

[@currypowder15]

I've educated my daughters and told them not to wait until menopause, start before. Diet, exercise and vitamins.

[@princesslola9449]

I love that example “it’s like if your testicles shrivelled up and died at 51”! Omg that is how I explained having a hysterectomy ie having your testicles removed and most people looked at me with shock. It’s how it literally feels to me. I’m so thankful I found this podcast. It explains everything I feel and so strange I hadn’t put it together because I have an interest in this area and helped my mum when she started having symptoms.

[@Lafra-z6z]

But most men don't have that problem... men are lucky to not go through it... but feminists always working on hurting men

[@wendycarty6958]

I had my womb removed because of f fibroids. A good thing my overies and fallopian tubes are healthy. I had this done two years ago . I dont have any horror symptoms untill now. I dont take any hormone treatment.

[@zenzmaj]

I appreciate this video. I have a lot of young men and middle aged men ask questions about menopause because they want to learn how to support women better but they often say they get nervous asking questions and getting attacked for their ignorance. This video.i feel will really help not only women understand but men as well who want to know and afraid to ask. I

[@wendyrancourt1993]

I'm 60 and have been on HRT for 15 years. I will NEVER voluntarily go off it. I also strength train and eat a clean, high-protein diet. But without the hrt it wouldn't make much difference. Without it, I suffered every symptom on the list, on a scale of 11 out of 10. I educated myself when I was going through this and I have advocated for myself with a long line of (sometimes really ignorant) doctors. I live in fear that I will be unable to keep finding doctors willing to prescribe, or that the hormones will no longer be available- because the pharma companies by and large have stopped making them. They want us to be on a whole list of meds for each separate symptom, rather t han just one or two that ABSOLUTELY FIXED EVERYTHING. Women- and everyone who loves a woman going through this- need to kick up a fuss about this and not take no for an answer. It's life or death. Literally. Without my hrt I would have no interest in living. Go back to that hell? Never. Society DOES not value post-fertile women, so we HAVE to value ourselves.

[@nosebot]

Do you get your HRT through your doctor or do you use an online service? Also do you use bio-identical hormones or synthetic hormones? I’m trying to figure out my own path here because what you’ve gone through with menopause describes my current experience.

[@alignedalchemist]

100% women put way too much faith in "drs." and allow them to push them over. that is part of the problem.

[@alcyone-rising]

@@nosebotI get bioidentical testosterone gel and progesterone which is bioidentical. I’ve only been on it 6 weeks at a low dose and it’s making such a difference. I have all of the symptoms and I am watching them diminish

[@nosebot]

@@alcyone-rising Are you getting those via your regular doctor or an online provider?

[@wendyrancourt1993]

So far I've been able to find drs (ob-gyns) to prescribe, and it's been the regular pharma version not the bioidentical because no drs in my area prescribe those. I've been extrememly happy- and healthy- on the hrt I'm taking. @@nosebot

[@lilyshah4608]

I’m married to a gynecologist and I had do advocate for myself both to him and my endocrinologist. I found myself apologizing for my moods when I could physiologically not control how my body was reacting to my environment. Finally went to a woman clinic and HRT is awesome

[@crystalmasters8582]

Sad that men in the field married to women can't or won't help them.

[@dsddala467]

@@crystalmasters8582 Most male doctors egos get in the way of them being good doctors. I only go to female doctors at this point in my life. Not all women are good doctors, but it's much easier to find a smart, motivated, good listening female doctor than a male one.

[@kassistwisted]

When I was 51, I moved to the Netherlands, and my GP told me he could not renew my birth control prescription because it was contraindicated for women my age. They gave me a brochure on menopause that told me barely anything. My US GYN was continuing my BC prescription to effect a "soft-landing menopause". Suddenly I was thrown into a world with no hormone support. But I figured the docs knew what they were doing. There are so many healthy older people in the Netherlands. But it was not so. Within a year, I had a hugely heavy period, and six weeks later, my left shoulder froze. Luckily I had an excellent fysio who worked with me until my shoulder was back at 95% (and I am a hypermobile dancer, so that was a long road). The good news is that my headaches and my Ulcerative Colitis went away. But I still wake up in the middle of the night sweating. And just last year, my teeth started aching and I've been having dizzy spells that my NL doctors have just given up on. Your video has made me insist on an appointment with a menopause specialist. I'm going to get the help I need and I'm not going to allow them to ignore my symptoms.

[@starlight5322]

She can help you,

[@fortheloveofmoon]

Hi Kassie I’m perimenopausel and started experience headaches. Have you experience week long headaches or head pain?

[@kassistwisted]

@@fortheloveofmoon I had terrible headaches all my life and they got less bad in perimenopause. So your experience and mine are different. But I bet there is a hormonal link. Talk to your OBGYN.

[@kassistwisted]

@@starlight5322 Yes, but she doesn't take overseas patients. I am going to press my GP to send me to a menopause specialist.

[@christinemott8799]

My teeth!!!! Noones ever said this My.teeth Hurt. The gumsike.imside my teeth hurt Yes.

[@thecrazybananalady]

I loved menopause. Hot flashes were no big deal only lasting a couple of minutes. I noticed that if I didn’t have caffeine then hot flashes were much mellower. I didn’t notice any other symptoms. Self confidence exploded and I became fearless. It is so nice not having a period. Menopause was such a great experience for me.

[@zofiajaneczek184]

As a poor, low income, working class woman I have been let down by the medical community multiple times throughout my life. I’ve been uninsured the majority of my life due to lack of money. I’ve been forced to take my medical care into my own hands. I’ve been forced to educate myself and go the natural route. Low cost and free medical care doesn’t work, access to it is difficult when you don’t have a living wage income. You become invisible as a woman as you age in this nation and disregarded medically too. I’m surviving and not because I’ve gotten any tangible help. The information is out there to help with many issues but you have to want to find it and learn on your own. I have a regimen now that I’ve figured out for myself. WOMEN BECOME INVISIBLE AS THEY AGE in this nation. This is for everything! YOU must take things into your own hands. As a lower income woman, you matter even less in this society. Especially if you have no family, few friends, and a threadbare support system.

[@ct2co2AZ]

You are so correct. It’s a good thing you are intelligent enough to do the research and take charge. It’s a sad state of affairs

[@carliebeau5329]

I have government health care. It's excellent. Better then regular health care. So I think it's a personal choice to say your invisible

[@LGee-ue1rq]

Just listen to the lady for a change and stop being so judgmental! You seem to be a great gaslighter towards people you don’t quite understand! Just chill and become a better listener!!!

[@GLifestyle50]

Very sad and so true…the health care system in this country is broken.😞

[@thenextcountry]

@@carliebeau5329 What a terrible thing to say to someone. Not everyone is qualified or has enough funds to get on "government health care".

[@welshie2007]

I started at 40, but I "manned" through it with no help. At 47, I am finally out of the bad parts, but I have aged so much. I never knew menopause sucked the energy out of you. No one talks about it. I feel kinda robbed at a young age. I felt like my body started dying around me.

[@karynnotkaren693]

You can still get hrt. It can help your skin, bones, heart which would help with feeling low energy. I would talk to a doctor to find out the options. Good luck 🍀

[@MrsShimmyOnDown]

Did you get the Covid jabs? Because if you did, your experience may be stemming from adverse effects of these.

[@-Free.Spirit-]

I started at 42. Doctor didnt even consider it to be "early" menopause and offered me nothing. But I didnt need anything. Menstruation simply stopped. I had little to no issues at all, just the odd "hot flush". Guess I am one of the lucky ones. I do wonder if THE PILL interferes with the female hormones and I was hardly ever on the pill since I had one son when 25 an left his dad when he was 6 and have been on my own ever since, mostly sex free so didnt need to be on that poison that fks with your hormones. Am in my 50s now so well past it all.

[@CarolinaCarolina-ph9mx]

@@-Free.Spirit- I didn't do the pill for more than a few weeks because it caused me to have pretty serious depression in a very short time, so I said forget it to that stuff, so I may be a good counter to your experience to say, at least not in all cases, having taken the pill may not be the problem in menopause. Maybe, I don't know. But my time with it was so short as to be a nonuser, and when menopause hit me at about 47-48 years of age, it hit hard. I had the worst hot flashes for years, and 8 years later, I still deal with them on occasion. I would get a hot flash at night when I was trying to sleep, I'd push the covers off of me until I finally cooled off, then, as I was pulling the covers back up, just that little activity would cause me to have another one! Forget turning - guaranteed hot flash. I had really horrible myclonus start around that time, so turned to taking some CBD and THC to get sleep, and was surprised to see that they helped with the hot flashes, so I kept doing them for a while. They knocked them back to where I could function somewhat, and after a while, I was grateful I was able to stop taking the supplements. I appreciated this doctor's talk, and definitely want to look into HRT and other supplements now.

[@sunnievictoria9917]

lol@@MrsShimmyOnDown

[@dietzyfly]

At 51 I literally thought I was going insane----couldn't sleep. Hot flashes woke me up constantly, anxiety, strange sensations in my body, and I was exhausted so I couldn't exercise. My mental health began to deteriorate. Could barely hold down my job working in healthcare....it was all so insidious and weird. I felt so scared that it would be the rest of my life. After about a year of suffering, my gyno finally convinced me to go on HRT. It has been miraculous!! It infuriates me that there are so many jokes in our culture about women going through this time in life---particularly about hot flashes. It is such a disturbing feeling and not funny at all.

[@Cristina-p2z]

Try evening, prime rose oil…amazing

[@dietzyfly]

@lombmusic07 Estrogen patches and progesterone pills. ... you have to play with dosages until you get it right

[@leadbelly1495]

I found HRT to be miraculous although I have been without for the last 6 weeks due to massive shortage because of the transgender takeover…I’m in U.K.

[@Imlivinginmypurpose]

I got perimenopause at 17 years old. During that time, I was going to a traditional health clinic and no one wanted to help me. At this time, I’m an post menopausal and I’m only 39. And I wish someone cared enough to find out what was wrong with my body. I’m glad that she came on your show because I need this information as so many women out here that are struggling with menopause at such an early age. Some of us didn’t want to have children, and we didn’t have that same luxury.

[@Paru-si5wr]

At 17??

[@lightbodyvehicle]

I gained 30 pounds, night sweats, depression, anxiety, hair loss, lack of motivation, lack of energy. nightmare scenario. doctors gave me anti depressants, and anti anxiety meds. never helped me with hormones. it ruined my life. family thought I was crazy. this should not have to happen in the 21st century.

[@redrock740]

The only thing that has helped me was weekly fasting along with daily yoga and meditation. I have learned to accept I'm getting older and will have to be more careful with my lifestyle.

[@fingerprint5511]

Its because its women and the Patriarchal Capitalist isn't supportive of women.

[@zamev]

I hope you were able to get HRT. I did and gave my life back.

[@TiffanyHarry-n2o]

I read HRT causes cancer and eating aorganiccarrot adayhelpswithhormones??

[@pamhenderson3850]

Same but I've gained 50lbs since I hit menopause at 50 yrs old and now turning 60 in a few months...drs treat, you like your crazy and want to give you antidepressants and anxiety meds or I know women told they needed anti psychotic meds...it's awful! Not sleeping sweats, weight gain , extreme fatigue, brain fog, body pain on and on

[@sjones9271]

I’m 50 and was in the medical field for 20 years. I agree with doctor. There is no education on perimenopause or menopause. I have hypothyroid and autoimmune and I’m now realizing I have been suffering with perimenopause and thought it was my other conditions. Watching this video has been life changing. I’m now open to discuss HRT with my healthcare provider and put more emphasis on strength training. I have learned so much from Dr. Haver. Thank you for helping 1.2 billion suffering women.

[@conniejohnson9121]

The hormones must be bioidentical

[@fehmidamohammedy4258]

Thank you so much for discussing Menopause. I am in my 50s now. I started my premenopause at 36. My GP did not know what to do with me. He consulted with his colleagues and started me on anti-depressants. At 43, I stopped my periods. The severity of physical and psychological suffering was unexplainable. I didn't know what was happening to my body and suffered a mental breakdown. Vitamin D level was dangerously low. I had Vit D injections for 6 months. I was lucky that my GP was caring and willing to help with whatever knowledge he had. He did not think HRT would benefit me in the long run. Therefore, he advised against it. We didn't have access to information as we have it now. I have weight gain, which I have accepted now. I tried to eat healthy, some form of exercise every day. I am in a better place now. This is my story, and I thought I should share it here. I know I am not the only one....... Take good care of yourselves

[@Selene_777]

thank you so much for sharing ❤️

[@meleenabradley3017]

Hugs

[@Knowledge-College]

Are you taking any progesterone or anything else?

[@toria-j]

Mid thirties peri here too. After several years, was told I still had 'plenty of eggs' even though my periods kept stopping. I had all the symptoms and more mentioned here. Couldn't even sit on my bike without wincing, for years. I had my last period at 42, now I'm 46 and ONLY NOW are the doctors suggesting some of my unconnected symptoms are due to the menopause, and they won't contemplate anything else. I am so furious about how no one acknowledged what I was going through, or even checked, until it was over.

[@Moonscafe7]

The hardest part about reading your comment, is that I went to my GP, in a very similar state to what you describe, and he put me back on the contraceptive pill - and, bam, all symptoms were gone. It was that easy. I stopped the contraceptive pill in my 30's because the internet says we shouldn't be taking it as we get older. But that's just wrong and no one seems to be talking about how simple and accessible the solution is. The combined contraceptive pill will work as hrt.

[@kateglastic9826]

I'm 53. Had a hysterectomy at 44. Started HRT around 50. Saved my life. Patches and Ovestin cream internally.

[@beatriceameh]

Can you help me? I am in Cameroon. Thanks.

[@ashleypaul6326]

Did they give you testosterone too?

[@AJA-ie5uu]

I am so impressed with Steven and his channel. He is a wonderful example of a “modern man”. This IS such an important topic for all of us women and for the men who support us through this inevitable life stage.

[@n54ll64]

We are being lied to about everything. Everyone has their own opinions on certain things. Best way to navigate life is to be aware of everything and to use your own discernment. Different strokes for different folks.

[@elizabethabbott2982]

we really need to; I have seen some real medical goof-ups

[@hello3146]

I must disagree with that advice. Yes, there are medical screwups, corrupt studies and strong medicines can have side effects etc. BUT our bodies are very complex and even with many years of training, MD’s (and clinical studies) disagree. The responsibility for your health is yours but you must rely on their knowledge to guide you in decision making. Not only do you not have their knowledge, emotional factors like fear,denial and bargaining, magical thinking, & rebellion against authority figures,for example,and human tendencies to rely on anecdotal “evidence” rather than huge studies and statistics can interfere with making the right choices. You are a babe in the woods when your health is at risk so ask questions but follow the numbers and hope for the best. I have seen people die regretting ignoring medical advice and handling things on their own. Medicine is not perfect but it is what we have.

[@melle7972]

I can't thank you enough for doing this episode. I'm 46 and have felt alone and ashamed for all of the symptoms I've been experiencing. Perimenopause has made me feel less mentally capable at work, emotionally overwhelmed in life, and betrayed by my body due to the physical changes.I feel like I've been doing battle on multiple fronts and this discussion gives me hope that it could be manageable.

[@naomigreasley7280]

Yup I’m 46 and very peri menopausal, mainly the brain fog is unbelievable. I have heard women talk about the brain fog and I thought nothing of it. Now I have it I can’t believe how awful it is!

[@michellelottie2853]

Same at 54! I was going through all sorts of crazy in my Mid 40’s just finding out that I was in Peri . Now I just sit in my bed in pain! Headache, Chest and Breast pain, Rib cage pain, feels like gall stones, numbness in my hands and legs, ears ringing, dry eyes, bowel changes, can’t focus, feel just defeated at times. Body Aches that feels like I’m dying on top of Fibromyalgia. I say Lord Jesus touch us all and bring healing and comfort.

[@thenonexistinghero]

With the little bit I read about it, I have trouble believing periminopausing is an actual thing. Most of the symtoms are issues that pop up as a result of a lifestyle that isn't healthy for the body and mind, resulting in physical problems that resemble the menopause. But the definition is so damn vague that almost every adult falls in it. This muddles actual science and actual problems. It's merely going to give people an excuse to blame it on a disease and then take some magical pills to 'fix' it (which may relieve symptoms somewhat, but utlimately results in actually making things worse along with causing various other issues).

[@kristinrobinson996]

I've been feeling the same exact way.

[@kristinrobinson996]

​@@michellelottie2853yes that's me right now I'm 43

[@EdgarsKitchen]

This kind of information should be taught in public school. What are we doing. If we teach this to our kids this is how we save marriages and strengthen our families.

[@tosha904]

As a Family Practice NP this was INSANELY helpful. Ive run from prescribing HRT because of that flawed study. I will be changing how I do things to help my patients! Thank you for this!

[@elouise5593]

I wish you were MY doctor! You are willing to listen to other ideas!

[@thetotalpackage2005]

My gyne gave me an ablation so that .y bleeding could be less. Lots of scar tissue from what he did and he told.me.i need a hysterectomy or ill die. He referred me to.someone else whom did soeak.as ignorant but not far from it. I asked him could it be hormones. I develop a grapefruit size cyst on my ovary and. Lemon sized on the right. All of this because of this dr. Looking to make.money.. haven't been able to.find anyone to help me. Had a saplingectomy. I have crazy periods and I dont want to.take BC. Still.no one knows what to do.

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

Shepards purse herb tincture. I'm telling you it works. Come summer, you can make a jug of it for $10 and it'll last you a few years.

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

You can also do castor oil hot packs on your abdomen. Chickweed tincture internally, over months..will shrink cysts. I know I sound like a weirdo but these things work and many women swear by it. I never see a doctor for woman's change symptoms.

[@lifenotbills]

@@RunninUpThatHillh you sound like you’ve been listening to Susun Weed. :) yes chickeed for the cysts. Is shepherds purse primarily for heavy bleeding? I have a quart of it somewhere around here. I also like your Kate Bush screen name reference.

[@k8marlowe]

After years of trying to conceive and being on the verge of giving up, I had my only child at 36 years old. I had one menstrual cycle after he was born and was then blindsided when my doctor confirmed at my next annual appointment that I was, in fact, post-menopausal at 37. Since then, I feel like my body is falling apart, literally. I’m so glad I discovered this video! Thank you for caring.

[@michellelottie2853]

Hang in there beautiful. There is an amazing Perimenopause Group called Perry! Please join it. I am a Minister and I never thought that I would have the thoughts I do and feel so defeated by Perimenopause. We are in this together. 🙏🏽❤️

[@analisaazzopardi9383]

Thank you …

[@lifenotbills]

You are not alone. Also feel like body has been falling apart for years.

[@sweetaddis8120]

Something after I have my child my cycle is stopped. First year I thought because I am breastfeed, then 2yrs,3yrs.......

[@yvettepugin4035]

Does that mean you were menopausal in your early thirties already? That's insane and must have been so traumatic. Mine started at 45 after a full hysterectomy and at 60 I still have extreme symptoms, especially the tummy fat, but also the brain fog, and bone density loss. It's frustrating that physicians know so little to be effective in treatment.

[@thetechgorilla]

00:00 🌡 85% of women experience menopausal symptoms, but only 10.5% receive treatment. 01:12 💪 Strength training can help counteract muscle mass loss during menopause. 08:24 🔄 Perimenopause can start 7-10 years before menopause, affecting women in their 30s. 21:49 💔 Menopause can increase the risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and various health issues. 22:28 💪 Frozen shoulder is common during menopause and may take about 2 years of therapy to improve due to estrogen level drops. 24:05 🌼 Starting hormone replacement therapy (HRT) during perimenopause or within 10 years of menopause reduces diabetes, cardiovascular disease, and dementia risks. 30:07 💔 Menopause research is underfunded, leaving 1.2 billion women with inadequate support. 36:22 🥦 A diet rich in fiber, vitamin D, and magnesium can reduce inflammation during menopause; fasting may benefit inflammation and neuroinflammation. 45:10 💔 Hip fractures during menopause can lead to severe consequences, but preventive measures can help. 46:05 🩺 The Women's Health Initiative study initially suggested hormone replacement therapy might increase breast cancer risk, but it's been reevaluated. 50:54 💊 Hormone replacement therapy can include various forms like gels, creams, patches, and pills, with different considerations for each. 01:05:16 🩺 Menopausal women are often prescribed antidepressants over hormone therapy due to medical training and unfounded fears. 01:05:59 🧘 Meditation apps can help alleviate mental side effects of menopause. 01:07:21 😴 Sleep disruption is significant during perimenopause and menopause, affecting overall health.

[@VBoo459]

This is so handy, thanks.

[@janeevans1859]

Love this summary, thank you.

[@christinak3338]

Very much appreciated 😊

[@1mochadelightable]

Jesus Christ thank you😂

[@lizbertify]

Thank you!

[@inloveandlight4706]

1:05:47 - 1:07:19 MEDITATION & GRATITUDE Glad to hear they got a mention. HAPPINESS didn’t get an explicit mention, but can definitely help 💛