How to Be More Assertive: 7 Tips

Learning how to be more assertive can massively improve your relationships and your overall confidence.
When you can express yourself assertively and speak up for yourself, other people respect you more. Even more importantly, you respect yourself.
In this video, I share 7 specific tips and techniques for how you can communicate more assertively...without being a jerk.
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[@softlk8810]

Its very hard to be assertive when your too nice. You feel bad when your assertive, even though one shouldn't.

[@pierce_grossman]

It is but I lately have been a little bit more direct and calm in some situations and I think it works, at least to a certain degree. I think you definitely should take baby steps since we, people pleasers, are so heavily conditioned by our past that we figuratively have to crawl back from our "just being kind and not problematic" hole.

[@notmyselfusee]

I think that’s the problem. You see not speaking up as kind. Being firm is not being rude. For example, a child told to play in the street is not rude or telling someone you are not interested is not unkind but leading them on could be.

[@denbootyroll2373]

I'm in the same boat! Got an interview for my next role up and been told they will ask about being assertive when needed

[@lorenastone6085]

I believe it's about how we speak. If your in the moment and all of sudden someone does something underhanded, your initial feeling is anger. If we knew what to say and how to say it, we wouldn't get angry.

[@jaredwilliams6853]

Idk why I’m watching this I have to take medicine to not get over angry with people just remember everyone is selfish and acting nice to get ahead and when they take advantage that’s their true colors then your capacity for anger will go up

[@jacquelinethereseplunkett221]

1. Get in touch with your own needs. Articulate. Minimum requirements. Boundaries. 2. Be confident if your ask is reasonable. 3. See the others point of view. Empathy for self interest. 4. Signal flexibility by giving options. 5. Keep your delivery calm. 6. Make yourself the scapegoat. It's about you anyway and not about arguing them through it. Use 'I have a policy ...' 7. Use the broken record technique. Repeat it.

[@madwilliamflint]

Nice, thanks o7. I just can't listen to this guy.

[@eli-ye9pg]

thanks soldier

[@jacquelinethereseplunkett221]

@@eli-ye9pg no worries mate

[@Nivo-power]

Thanks Jac, for giving me 10 min back of my life

[@justinedsouza1745]

1

[@drarrytrasher981]

21-year-old here dealing with a micro-manager who as of 01/01/2023 will now be a bully boss. I've always struggled to get my points across and to be heard. Recently I've managed to stand up for myself a bit more, finish my sentences and ignore when she buts in, keeping a steady tone and looking her in the eyes while calmly explaining myself. I've been on anxiety meds for years but I'm finally off them due to my progress, I won't let her or any other person make me feel as though I need them again. I will defend myself, I will say no, I will put myself first where necessary. It's all a work in progress but this is my mantra of sorts. My character growth! I deserve respect.

[@ieatcrayons3322]

🔥🔥🔥

[@serendipitysisters84]

Wow!!! That’s amazing!! 🎉🙌

[@drarrytrasher981]

@@serendipitysisters84 (back on the meds now oopsie) but the relationship between us seems to have improved mildly. Less arguing. And I would say I am more confident than I used to be :) I don't regret going back on the meds. 1 step back, 2 steps forward;) you have to have hope in this world. If nothing else^

[@divayanche1]

Needed this.....i'm too nice. Life is unfortunately making this out of me

[@DeeWoolridge]

There is nothing wrong with being nice. I'm nice too and people took advantage of my niceness until I was done with everyone. I got some coaching, read some books, found my voice and now and nice and ASSERTIVE. :-)

[@futuristiccat5636]

Suraj Kumar Singh thx, I’ve always thought it was my fault, the two friend groups I ever had, ive always been a pushover in them

[@santabanga]

@@DeeWoolridge can u recommend some books or podcast that helped you?

[@shamalik2641]

MercyJay i feel your pain

[@DiegoAravenaRamirez]

You're making it to yourself. Self-responsibility is the first step to assertiveness

[@LongAwaitedBaby]

It is good to be assertive. We should speak up if we cannot do something. Otherwise other people will step all over us and we will suffer in silence.

[@shalomangamaly]

Especially true if someone put high expectations and we can't meet it

[@attackscorpion5323]

Assertive people aren’t afraid to be wrong. If you don’t like something, speak up, you can apologize later. It’s ok to be wrong. Non assertive people spend a lot of energy making sure they are “in the right” so, when they do speak up that they are correct for doing so. This causes a lot of people to not speak up. It’s ok to be wrong, it’s not ok to let people walk all over you.

[@StephanieJ777]

I think a big in this is keeping it simple. Sometimes we try to reason with people and show them where they are wrong/ how they are mistreating you and this often makes people defensive and want to argue. We simply need to set a boundary with a simple “No” or “Stop” with no explanation. “Stop talking to me like that. I won’t speak to you when you’re speaking to me this way.” And walk away (if possible) if they don’t respect that boundary.

[@divayanche1]

💯💯💯💯

[@mithila115]

So well said 💯

[@Nekole1]

I use to be the type that always was a pushover and a "yes" person. To the point that I started realizing that people werent respecting me. You can be nice but still be assertive. I find that it all boils down to how you present yourself overall. If people feel they can get over on you, then they will. But if you from the beginning, come to the table meaning what you say then you will be taken seriously.

[@smoothcollision2997]

Same

[@flaviochavez1747]

If you feel upset when you speak, close your eyes, and count to 10, taking in and exhaling a breath for each count. I guarantee you that before I could not speak up for the life of me, if someone spoke to me a certain way, I’d get emotional. But I started practicing that when I felt like I was going to explode, and I’ve de escalated so many situations by doing it, the difference is night and day. It takes quite a lot of practice though, and it takes diligence.

[@PremiumFuelOnly]

I have developed a policy of: 1. Not letting people borrow my tools 2. Not helping people move 3. Not working on other peoples stuff

[@DanielGonzalez-gf3ou]

Premium fuel only do you just say no when they ask

[@ak-47intelligence75]

These are good tips.

[@bessiebritten3005]

@I I exactly it isn't

[@DrJonTam]

Timestamps 1:51 1- Get in touch with your own needs. 3:39 2- Be confident if your ask is reasonable. 5:38 3- See the other person’s point of view. 5:40 4- Signal flexibility by giving options. 7:02 5- Keep your delivery calm. 7:44 6- Make yourself the scapegoat. 9:31 7- Use the broken record technique.

[@creepshowcrate]

Try just saying, "No," and don't explain yourself. People just don't seem to know what to do with that, and they'll be much less likely to try and take advantage of your kindness again.

[@EmpressofChrist]

Exactly

[@jon_ovo3653]

Black Death 1347 like just say no and not explain why ? Just out right say nope?

[@DanielGonzalez-gf3ou]

Jon_ oVo yes

[@ankitshakarwal9995]

very well said

[@ralphschraven339]

@@jon_ovo3653 I teach some children once a week, and I must say discovering the power of brevity has been a great discovery at that. One time, I wanted to tell them to quiet down by saying something that tries to be "considerate", such as "Guys, I appreciate that you're enjoying yourselves, but you have to quiet down a bit." The tone of voice is everything here - the actual message is virtually irrelevant because children already know what's expected of them from years of classroom conditioning. When I firmly said, "guys", they all quieted down immediately. I was shocked! I've spent years explaining myself, thinking up the "right way" of saying something... All I needed to do was change how I say something, rather than what I'm saying. This is key to many assertive behaviors. Being able to speak with an assertive tone, rather than sounding timid or unconfident, is something anyone will immediately pick up on.

[@playswithsquirrels3799]

Key to assertiveness is recognizing false modesty as an injustice to all whom you meet

[@cynthiakk5966]

I used to be very kind and gentle nature. I avoid conflict and used to be people pleased. Then till, I meet with one group pr work bully and it give me long term psychological effect. From that point, I begin to learn and practise assertive skills. I still have fear when I face to so aggressive communication skills . But I think that I will practise everyday till one day, I can face to bully and say to them. " I didnt feel comfortable about what you did to me, you need stop all."

[@raiosha7]

Definitely needed this. I’ve struggled with being assertive from high school into adulthood. It’s taking a strain on relationships and my career now 👎🏽

[@carioca7684]

I still struggle with being assertive

[@internationaleden]

You can do it Cana!! God gave us a spirit of courage not timidness!! Will pray for you

[@c.juneau410]

As Law Enforcement Officer, I am typically a "nice guy". I am now a Supervisor and had to start being more Assertive. I do this by being more Direct, speak with a certain tone, and show other officers that I am "Not Scared"! I am willing to do anything with little help and most of the time, it comes across good.

[@MVPProductionsBeats]

Being assertive seems awesome but has anyone else confronted people who don’t respect being told nicely ? I have a co worker who only listens and respects me when I respond to him in an aggressive manner and laughs when I’m nice about things.

[@pierce_grossman]

That's the similar situation in my job, actually. I think assertiveness works to a certain degree. And for some people it's enough but not for everyone. The simple solution would be to change the department/job itself but most likely it's not really doable. Maybe trying to limit your interactions to just professional stuff will work? Or maybe he's going to crack eventually if you will keep calmly presenting your arguments etc. Personally I love to completely ignore people like that (some say these are toxic people) whenever I can. Just trying not to associate myself with behaviours that are not align with my liking.

[@07ikkin]

true, I dealt with this. Like he said in the beginning, a coworker wasn't pulling their own weight. I asked, and I was upset when I asked and Im sure it showed in my voice. Since then, he does what he's supposed to do. But this was after I started slacking off at work.

[@katetheaffiliatemomofficial]

I want to invite you to think about how you could say, "Hey Bob! I really enjoy working with you and I want to have more open communication. I don't necessarily like talking to you aggressively and I feel conversations are more effective when they come from a nice point of view. I want you to know that I appreciate everything you are doing here at our company and I don't want to be aggressive. How would you react if I were to tell you something that I felt needed to be changed or improved and instead of talking about it aggressively I would say, I'm serious about this topic and they you would know that is my sign to you signaling that I would talk aggressively about this but I don't want to do that. So when you hear those words that is what I am conveying. What are your thoughts on that?"

[@imogen206]

Yep different people react differently,you need to change your tactics

[@constantindenis8130]

Then be even more serious, not just calm. Like.. tell him straight to the face.

[@anaya1956]

I’ve been really nice too long, I have to go back to school assertive, I feel like I came off as weak, every time I spoke up for myself, people would always say I have anger issues or somethings wrong with me, I just want to be respected 😭

[@aaisha8312]

Same honestly

[@aaisha8312]

Whenever i speak up it always comes out as anger, so people always think im angry

[@udayyx]

trust me guys, if u just meditate even for 15min for a day, ur connecting ur mind with your heart, once that happens, you speak with ur mind and not with ur heart, this way u can be more clear and people will not try shame you, i myself m not a shrewd person but this has helped a lott!! Hope this helps ❤, ask if u have any questions

[@agentjordan605]

How is it working now

[@arthurfleck8681]

everyone shows their worse when you give them too much space

[@cjaytony9821]

Simply put, assertiveness Is a communication style/skill that can be learned and developed. The basic idea is for one to know how, & when to say YES and when to say NO and applying certain degree of courtesy while doing so.😄

[@rain_and_daisies]

I NEED THIS!!!!! "If you don't be speak up, you're screwed. If you do speak up, you're screwed." Yep. A million times yes.

[@lisachristine472]

I enjoyed this video and I'm a woman so thank you for the tips.

[@Thedistilledman1]

thanks Lisa! Glad you enjoyed it.

[@randominternetguy2960]

Wow... A real whamen...

[@randominternetguy2960]

If your late to the party it's not new for a woman to be in a man space or completely in the wrong areas.... Your a pos

[@user-se2nq6vo6j]

@@randominternetguy2960 What does that even mean?

[@benrussell727]

@@randominternetguy2960 *you're

[@beeznest7679]

I'm afraid of retaliation. I stood up for myself at work and got the silent treatment and I'm afraid it could escalate

[@r011ing_thunder6]

Speak up about it?

[@wolfthequarrelsome504]

@DonKingKong i agree with that. Don't be lazy about it either. Make a plan and get yourself into a better, more professional job.

[@Sponsi_PL]

I stood for myself and was asked for a personal talk to the chairman and my boss. The talk was like "why did you behave like that? this was not good", like they talked with a child. Not seeing my points, ignoring the fact that I am the expert in the area and other people just said BS. What then?

[@valvel4358]

This was written 10 months ago, now I am intrigued what happened!?

[@gbrieannful]

DonKingKong exactly I completely agree. The same thing happened to me. I stood up for myself, received the silent treatment for months the bully lied on me to the Superintendent, the Superintendent knows this person is a bully because people have reported this person to HR several times and nothing has been done about it. I finally left after 7 years.

[@brandonglenn4137]

This video has done a great job of clearly explaining and exemplifying what it means to be assertive and communicate assertively. A lot of other videos just put emphasis on describing and soothing "low self esteem", which is assumes that, A. That is the case & B. That the issue is simply "plug the square block I'm the square hole". Definitely with liking, saving, and taking notes.

[@StephanieJ777]

We all know how to speak up for ourselves, we just don’t know how to do with without inviting more abuse. That is the problem.

[@adingus9832]

then thats the problem, the abuse, don't allow it.

[@ebony9321]

I was kind of assertive today (I think) and now I'm fighting the worst anxiety 😂😥 I was at the deli counter and there was no tickets being called so I had a bunch of people push Infront of me I just smiled and waited too anxious to say "hey I was here first!" Anyways I finally get called and this lady confronted me and said she was next...the worker stood up for me and said I was here for a while she demanded to see my ticket (they just started calling numbers as a large influx of customers had lined up) I firmly told her I had been standing there for quite a while and I was infact next...I felt proud for a second and now I feel terrible for not just being quiet and letting her go before me 😫😅

[@icebyte3637]

Good for you, keep at it! I'm fighting anxiety for not standing up for myself. I know I won't repeat my mistake.

[@creepshowcrate]

@Ebony 93 Hell no, you did the right thing, and the fact that it made you feel good is proof of that. It doesn't mean you have to do it all the time, but when you're not feeling like taking any crap, nip it in the bud like you did. Pushy people usually aren't the badasses they pretend to be.

[@wasssup7573]

Great video and useful tips… I was raised to be a people pleaser by my parents (like a lot of us I think), in my case my mother was also a people pleaser and my father was soft to the outside world but insecure inside and he took it out on us with blind rage… (never physical just insults etc), my mother never defended us and told us to not talk back to keep the peace, hence why I never formed the ability to talk back and to walk away from conflicts because they scare me, and why I take more abuse then what’s healthy for me. I have good experiences in the past though with being assertive (being calm, telling them how it makes me feel, and then they would stop) but I also had a miserable experience which lasted for about 2 years (last job) where I received a lot of verbal abuse at work and always acted like I was ‘above it’ and like it didn’t touch me. I see my mother in my actions since I saw her also take verbal abuse at work and she just kept smiling and sucked it up (while becoming alcoholic, depressed and isolating herself from people, … I have a tendency for addiction too -stopped smoking weed though- but still feel depressed and I have always isolated myself from people because I feel like they eventually hurt me and like I’m too soft to deal with them). So it’s definitely not easy, I even changed work directions because of it, I went to become a truck driver (after having worked in the corporate sector, real estate), I will start work soon and since I will have contact with new people I’m pretty anxious about it and hope I don’t fall into my old habits. When I was young all I could do was either suck it up or become very mad, now I replaced that with being passive and distancing myself. Ahhh I know it’s all part of the journey but life seems like a never ending self help course sometimes, I’m jealous of people who come across like assholes and are respected, but each person has a path to follow and I guess this is mine.

[@accountname7385]

Stay at it. Best of luck 👍🏽

[@andrewreid9392]

How's it going?

[@carolkemp5935]

@@andrewreid9392 Well-said Andrew, I'd like to know, how's it going too. I'll be thinking about Wassup and wishing him good luck.👍 You to Andrew.

[@andrewreid9392]

@@carolkemp5935 🔥🔥🔥all love brother💪

[@muminabegum7466]

I definitely found this video very helpful. I sometimes feel too scared to speak up because I’m always worried about how the other person might react lol!

[@My_Secret_ArtSketchbook]

When was the last time u felt this and what was it about. What would you of said to the other person

[@chasemanhart]

As a teacher/instructor, being assertive can be one of the hardest things to do. Because you’re entire position is based on giving to students and letting them take (information, time, knowledge ect). Any tips for tough situations specifically pertaining to that position?

[@Thedistilledman1]

Hey Chase, being assertive isn't about putting walls and blocking people out. It's simply about being true to your own needs and boundaries. So in your case, perhaps it's about still giving the students an opportunity to soak up wisdom and information from you while also setting appropriate times and ways of doing that. I don't know the particulars of your situation, but perhaps you've found yourself getting burnt out at times when students aren't respectful of your time (either by requiring more hands-on time, or just by not being prepared). I think you have to step back and recognize that if you are constantly compromising your own needs, you won't be able to help your students as well as you can. But if you can assert your own needs and boundaries as a teacher, you'll be in a better position to serve them, but you'll also teach them some larger lessons about the importance of prioritization, time-management, and maybe even delayed gratification. In short, I think you should rethink the idea of writing your students a "blank check" with your time and energy. Again, I could be off the mark since I don't know the specifics for you, but I hope this helps a bit.

[@christophertaylor3150]

This is very helpful. I am trying to work on not being too nice and not being aggressive. May struggle is to not be verbally aggressive when I feel that someone has been deliberate and malicious in running over clearly stated boundaries.

[@Thedistilledman1]

thanks Chris! I'm glad you found it helpful

[@AdrianaGirdler]

Love your approach in setting ground rules for the future while still remaining flexible, available, respectful and approachable. Great tips, cheers!

[@jeanalexandre1105]

Here is one example and how to be assertive. When ordering food through the drive-thru. Don't say can I get a number one with a Sprite. Instead I would like a number one with a Sprite. When you use the word can I get. You asking for permission but when you say I would like, you are being Direct with what you want and how you want it.

[@tommy8353]

this video really helped me a lot! I've always thought that I am too soft and people just walk all over me. Now I can effectively help myself without sounding too harsh. Thanks a lot! You've earned a like and a subscribe!

[@racquelrobinson3030]

This video was really well done. You seemed confident and made valid points and was clear and concise. Great job.

[@sheepgray08]

Wow just discovered you. Loved this video...!!! I deffinetly need to work on keep my tone calmed. Ive done everything else but without being calmed it doesn't work at all.

[@prabhar5244]

This is one of the best video about Assertiveness I have seen so far. Clearly presented with practical examples.👍👏👏 Thanks for that!

[@wedge240]

Enjoy listening to you talk, thanks for the vid

[@zoeyoussef3589]

Helpful video! I’ve always struggled with being assertive and knowing my worth.

[@jane7758]

If you don't speak up you're screwed because you lose value and feel bad in the long run, if you do speak up you're screwed because you're difficult and people (both their allies and others) support and defend the person who stepped over your boundaries.

[@alivecertified]

I totally agree, I'm such a push over even apologise for things when I'm not in the wrong, just so I don't upset anyone and when I do occasionally try to stand up for myself it comes back at me, and I still end up feeling like I did something wrong, people lost interest if they had any to begin with and don't engage with me anymore, Damned if you do, damned if you don't for me and it makes me so depressed 😔

[@jane7758]

@@alivecertified Nice to hear, but also not nice to hear :/

[@a.k.3110]

Thank you. These inspirations are helpful.

[@ejm6122]

I really appreciate this topic. I really enjoyed the specific issues to speak on. Great references and useful suggestions.

[@NickShawnFX]

Great video man. Super practical. Appreciate you making it.

[@adam7802]

This is interesting... I didn't really think I was assertive at all, but listening to these pointers I am actually pretty assertive - most of this learnt through dealing with customers naturally, I guess it is because it's really good for getting lots of experience with conversating.

[@ripley541]

I am really grateful for these tips and I wrote them down. I have had a problem with being a door mat all my life. I am changing that. Thank you!

[@kroganoperator]

This was very helpful, thank you Chris Pine.

[@andreashorvath2896]

Great one, loved it thank you!

[@siddique9797]

just found this channel, the name is absolutely brilliant!!!

[@Angell_Lee]

Thank you so much for this video!

[@kellyarcher759]

As someone whose more passive and wants to be assertive, especially around assertive people - this video is perfect 🤩

[@toripines5439]

This was a very inspiring and enjoyable video to watch! Points were well defined. Overall video was direct and and non offensive (just like the subject matter at hand).

[@MrWesleysDad]

Thanks guy. I related to a lot of this, and my overly agreeableness needs to change to strengthen the relationships in my life. Appreciate the tips.

[@SmellMyKnee15]

2:50 yes!!!!!!! I was also a server for 3 years. At Applebee’s. Bad service gets me especially when I’m not the only one having the experience at the time. If you’re not mature enough to understand that whoever annoyed you already left, or if you don’t have the ability to leave your home life at home, you shouldn’t be in the restaurant/service industry 🤷🏽‍♀️ I also used to always tip because i know what it’s like to be under appreciated at work and it could make the persons day even worse if I’m not tipping on top of their bad mood, but fuck that. I don’t tip for horrible service. And i don’t feel bad for it at all. And I’ve gotten really good at letting it go, or just getting something for free if there’s outright disrespect. Then i feel better :)

[@My_Secret_ArtSketchbook]

Don't tip for bad service. You did the right thing

[@ivaniscool99]

I can definitely relate to this situation because I have a hard time telling people no. Thanks for making this video!

[@kellyarcher759]

Thanks for posting!!

[@shellyannweddingriley1935]

I like these tips, am going to try them

[@andreawindrim8235]

Thank you great advice.

[@Mary-rr1jm]

Interesting video.Will try some of these. Especially love the policy line.Find it triggering around very dominating people.My days of being pushed around need to come to an end but don't want to be aggressive get in arguments & put downs.Want to learn to be assertive & polite but firm.Am starting to set small boundaries with men recently while being friendly adding a smile & they have no comeback & I don't budge.Saying no without justifying or explaining is powerful too.Must practice this also as tired of some people's expectations especially after being rude to me.I struggle to speak up in the moment

[@saidfarid6382]

Hello professor Thank you so much for your help and advice. I really appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happiness under the sky of prosperity. All the best. Take care and have a good time. Your follower from Algeria

[@Alex-gf4iu]

Fantastic video. Really helpful

[@kyleighcooley8667]

I'm a lady but this has been a tremendous help to me. These techniques weren't even on my radar. I operate in a very indirect way and am overly accommodating to even strangers and then get upset when my efforts aren't recognized or returned. Idk why your explanation (s) finally made me get that it's on me how others treat me. Other interpretations of boundaries were just not landing but I feel like I get it now and I can stop being at the mercy of others at my own expense. Thank you 😌

[@YourBoyTommyboiii]

Very well spoken! Thank you!

[@fred3011]

Thank you! Very good advice 🤗

[@anime0ai]

I don’t know why this is only aimed at men! I’m a women and found it really helpful! Nice video :)

[@luisagreen8003]

Thank you, very informative ❤️

[@yellowzoiid]

This video gave me a lot of good tips. Well done.

[@abigailt9197]

This man looks like Chris Pine.

[@streb6]

Abig

[@christianjackson9298]

Sounds like him too. I take this man seriously, he reminds me of Captain Kirk..;)

[@ethanr8862]

my first thought.

[@jasonblack4208]

So I'm not the only one who thought so 😂

[@jerrysrockinphotos]

I was thinking Ryan Reynolds.

[@aanantharajaram8568]

Thank u , great tips !

[@Ujjwalanandeesh]

This is a gem 💎💎💎 Loved the video 👏🏼

[@veravera4742]

I love the vid and content, so useful and nice.

[@zcrewgreatnezz6649]

Assertive=Attraction+Attention+Attentiveness+Attitude+Confidence/Joy!

[@Javster]

Very good. Thanks!

[@thegreatestyoutuber413]

Thanks man!

[@brightphoebus]

"They're just being self-interested, not trying to screw you over." That's good advice cuz I distinctly feel screwed over quite often. Like when the jewelry store showed me manmade stones, when I wanted natural, and DIDNT TELL ME. Then they blamed me for not stating I wanted natural stones only (shakes head). There's a HUGE difference in value, and the prices they quoted me were in line with natural stones, I researched later. I was incensed!! They were trying to take advantage of me for sure. I blew my top at them. Hence why I'm watching this video.

[@MissKayeve]

This will help me survive my worklife- thanks for posting!

[@Thedistilledman1]

I'm so glad you found it helpful!

[@lalithajagannathan1707]

Very well articulated

[@reanapakourtelli5506]

Excellent. Helped me a lot in my life

[@StankPlanks]

Great tips here thanks mate!

[@Carla-hu5rh]

Thank you!!!

[@Mayrita77]

Wow. Great amazing tips!!

[@dalemcmillen5065]

All of this is so easily said

[@JesseNickelltheFourth]

Incredibly said. Super well articulated.

[@Thedistilledman1]

thanks Jesse!

[@LarryP248]

This content is a true masterpiece. A book I recently finished on the topic was a catalyst for change. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn

[@lopez0754]

I liked the techniques very much, will put them to use right away and see how they can become part of my normal being.. huge thanks

[@jasim2655]

Thank you

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Great video

[@southtoe3607]

"I have a policy" Needed that. Thank you!

[@SA-et1kt]

Very informative.

[@thefather757]

What a good video it was! Became a subscriber!

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Thanks.

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This was great.

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I loved this video

[@gregthomas3137]

Good stuff!

[@cospittner3526]

Can you do another part 2 on this topic? Or maybe one on negotiation in the workplace? Great content - thanks.

[@mynameisyamell187]

These are reasonable approaches. One thing I’ve noticed this past year is that, this not only applies to people who are “pushovers” but also people who tend to be “aggressive”.

[@traytray6819]

I'm all in for #6

[@letsgocountry1242]

Very good stuff.