Filipinas Looking For Husbands - What Do They Have To Offer In Return?

#philippines #relationshipadvice #marryingafilipina ‪@TheFilipinaPea‬ ‪@LegionOfMenYT‬
Filipinas looking for husbands is nothing new - in our culture, marriage is still the gold standard for a happy life. But what do Filipinas have to offer a prospective husband, and what are the hidden problems you might not be aware of until it's too late? Well let's talk to local ladies, and find out exactly what they're looking for, compared to what they have to offer in return - is it enough to make marriage an attractive proposition?
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[@scottsdialyadventure1338]

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[@TheStygianKing]

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[@kerrymoss8722]

Ms. Pea if my memory serves me correctly only one of the women interviewed is ready for marriage.

[@tomstulc9143]

Pea as Traditional Roman Catholic man who comes from a close nit family of 12 I can confirmed these ladies have it about 80 %, correct. Close Familys can be a strong support mechanism. But you do not marry her family nor she yours. The church has always defined the properly ordered state of holy matrimony. You are to become one and you are looking after each other's best interests all the days of your life. I'm a traditional Latin right pre-vatican two Catholic Not a Novas Ordo Vatican Two false Church of sin. Contraception divorce fornication adultery sexual impurity in thoughts word or deed outside of or inside of the marriage is abomination. Strictly forbidden by God under the pain of eternal damnation. There's nothing wrong with a woman working and doing things to supplement the income and manage the household income and increase their family's well-being. A woman first job is being a mans help mate. She is the heart of the home. Cooperation is expected an disrespect not to be tolerated From either party. I do expect women to work and pay their own bills. But that doesn't need to be her first priority in the marriage state. If a woman wants to be a keep woman she can sign up for being a concubine. A wife is not a w**** Valid marriages in the authentic Roman Catholic tradition by a priest is an absolute necessity for two to live in a pleasing to God. A piece of paper at the courthouse is not marriage at best a very bad idea. God Bless

[@JoshuaPark505]

Not prioritizing your partner over your family would be a dealbreaker for me.

[@sethrolls6408]

That’s right brother it is a deal breather

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It would be for me as well 👍

[@John-or8ze]

I agree totally

[@donmartin4919]

That is true family is before anyone and you will sit there waiting until there done,been there did it.

[@fruitloops3718]

​@@donmartin4919that is sad but true. I basically had to wait until all the elders died. Then she turned into a total bitch. I told her to get lost and now she wants things to be the way they were before. Fat freaking chance of that happening as I put my best foot forward for years and now she has no one to run to. Lol.

[@richardguthrie6765]

Relationship between husband and wife is psychological. One is psycho, the other is logical. Don't try to figure out who is who.😂

[@whitewolf8458]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@patrickschiano345]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@mwenengofero]

So wrong! Yet so accurate..

[@MrRockus]

If only it wasn't true. 😊

[@MermanManly]

Bahahaaa, thanks for the laugh!

[@samuelaragon3465]

I was married for 32 years my wife had a lot of health problems she told me that when we met i told her I will never leave you she passed in 2022 marrage is you man up when times good or bad you don't leave ❤😢

[@samuelaragon3465]

Thank you

[@user-sm4ly8sx3r]

I personally will not tolerate being second nor being an ATM machine. Cost of living is cheap ladies are beautiful.

[@tonycollinsworth7393]

And she wants you to take care of her family, but not his family

[@robbleeker4777]

I've broken up with a woman because she did not wanna work and contribute to the finances,.

[@smferreiro2610]

These girls prove that the adage "always keep an island in between your wife and her family" is strongly valid!

[@tomster7574]

Yes, I agree completely. When you marry, your spouse comes first and your family is second. It says so in the bible even.

[@NYC-2-BKK]

@@tomster7574 true… I find it interesting how people can pick and choose what they want to believe or not believe in the Bible

[@2Rugrats9597]

Absolutely right, Pea. If my future woman doesn’t put me first, that’s a deal breaker. Also a Pre-nup is definitely a deal breaker for me as well. I can easily be faithful and love my woman till the day I die as long as she loves me, respects me, appreciates me and is 1000% loyal to me and in return I would give that and sooooo much more. She would always feel completely loved in every way!. That is what I seek

[@warrpedd]

Between a filipinas family or bible, the family will always win.

[@NYC-2-BKK]

There is a scripture in the Bible that addresses this: Matthew 10:37-39 Where Jesus says- “Whoever loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up his cross daily and follow me is not worthy of me.”

[@MaJieMao]

I loved how you crushed the first girl's world view by asking why her husband shouldn't just hire a nurse.

[@gumdeo]

A flawless victory for Pea.

[@robhernandez6105]

A wife can "take care" of his desires in ways a nurse will not. I think she was shy in saying it.

[@NYC-2-BKK]

I agree with you!

[@ppumpkin3282]

A girl friend can take care of a man better than wife or nurse. @@robhernandez6105

[@MrSean03839]

​@@robhernandez6105 Or just don't ever marry and have a GF.

[@billyray412]

I love my Filipina wife so much! She showers me with so much love and respect. No regrets coming here to the Philippines to find a wife. My family always compliments me on how happy I always look.

[@theodethomasa6358]

I agree! Mine even shower me. I'm slightly disabled. I can not use my left hand due to a stroke.

[@sagatuppercut2960]

Most married men have misery written all over their faces.

[@theodethomasa6358]

@@sagatuppercut2960 I had that look when I was married to an American woman. Thank God America allows divorce! My life is worth living now!!!

[@chrisl6630]

What if you're done having kids? Is that usually a deal breaker?

[@billyray412]

@@chrisl6630 I think that depends on the couple. You should be honest with each other about expectations from the beginning.

[@patriotallen9717]

The girl who said that being a virgin is the biggest gift she can give to her husband is 100% correct

[@Kevins-Philippine-Retirement]

Aimee is the winner. She answered that one most important question correctly; "..the two shall be as one flesh". They, the husband and wife come first, then the family.

[@edwardfrenze8314]

I agree with this as well. This is truly a traditional way of marriage. Parents will die off, siblings, & even children will move on in their own lives. In the end it is just the man & the woman. "Come What May!" As in the traditional christian vows -- "I do take thee for richer or poorer, in sickness & health. To love, respect, & care for one another until death do us part!" No thing in there about be a disposable or convenient relationship. As a father of four (4) I do be leave there a just causes for a divorce in extreme cases. Not as a matter on convenience... As so many are for... I know a guy that married a woman as they became pregnant & they did love eachother. Once married the woman refused love or any type of physical affection. After 12 year it led to the man finally giving in to temptation of another woman. They where both wrong. My opinion, both of the women were cause, and they, including the man, ended up in the wrong.

[@steved6269]

​@@edwardfrenze8314The guy was tortured

[@thomascanady6836]

Amen

[@tomstulc9143]

@@edwardfrenze8314 well that's what holy mother church teaches that you have conjugal rights. It's a mortal sin to withhold from your spouse. Although it is a mortal sin for a man to cheat on his wife it's a more damning in more harshly punishable sin in hell for her to cause him to cheat.n

[@kaijusushi8165]

My Filipina gf expected me to marry her, support her daughter from another man (who was not paying child support), have at least 2 more babies, provide financial support for her parents and siblings (who were not working), and buy her a home in the Philippines. Once all of her expectations became clear, the financial burden of what she was requiring of me outweighed all of the wonderful qualities (beauty, good personality, etc., etc.) that she brought to the table. I felt so much pressure that I ended the relationship.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Smart move 👍👍

[@PILearning2LiveAgain]

A wise move

[@jaderussell1908]

ohh hell no.

[@TheExSimp]

Good move

[@tomstulc9143]

Thank the Holy Ghost for enlightening your mind..

[@MichaelJohnson-eg4bj]

Should always put each other first because at the end of the day all you have is each other....the children and family will go there own way

[@rlh125]

Great interview questions. All of the girls were likable, but Aimee has the best understanding of what a marriage is about. A man isn't looking for a family to marry. He is looking for a woman to marry. And he doesn't want to be that woman's lowest priority while she expects to be his highest. It's sad that the Filipinas kept going back to housework as the reason a man should get married. As you said, a man can hire a maid...so "wife" and "maid" aren't the same thing. The right answer to the question of why a man and woman should marry is so that they can spend their whole lives with someone they love and who loves them, someone who will have their back and whose back they will have, someone who they can experience life with, someone who they can please sexually and who can please them sexually. Things like that. Not because of housework.

[@BrianSmith-zj7vn]

I liked Aimee's answers the best. My wife will always be my first priority and I want to mean the same to her... When we are married, everything begins with her and I. We are now one person in God's eyes so NOBODY can come between us for ANY reason. Everybody else comes after us (except God). This, in my opinion, is the best and only way to have a truly happy marriage. Everyone else in our lives is important as well ... Just not as important as us as a married couple.

[@Mr.ramonegibbs1350]

Agreed 😊

[@Mr.ramonegibbs1350]

Threefold cord: God, Husband and wife 😊

[@stolemycoconut5448]

Good wife indeed!

[@billable1861]

Brian you’ve got your head in straight. I agree Aimee answered all of them without hesitation too so I think it was genuine!

[@bobtompkins825]

I totally agree. I would never marry a woman that put her parents and siblings before her husband.

[@TimYong2]

Put your spouse first, especially if you hope, want or expect them to help provide for your family (and extended family).

[@putingpinoy7024]

Yes, this is what Filipina do not comprehend, if she put her spouse first like he does, he will be more open to helping and giving the whole family. If he feels he is second in her, all his giving will be forced. Not happy.

[@TatisRingwormCreme]

Aimee is a real life unicorn. protect her at all costs!

[@crsantin]

If you meet a good Filipina you’ve hit the jackpot. They are amazing.

[@youngbo13]

The sincerity of how the girl responded "Then I am gonna propose to him!" gave me a great laugh. Gotta love sweet people like that.

[@bm5906]

She was the only one worth considering for a wife. A woman's husband must be #1 in her eyes for a good marriage.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣👍

[@mesoanto1031]

She is amazing

[@carrybigspeaksoft1758]

The virgin was the only one seem worth it. She put her husband 1st

[@Cityb0y85]

I call bs on her virginity

[@jamalgreen3056]

@@Cityb0y85most Filipinas aren’t virgins but there are still some I know a few who are Filipina virgins but they aren’t easy to get.If meeting from online u will have to talk to her for months before she will even agree to meet up with you.And even after that it will be months to a year or so until yall actually get intimate with one another that’s if you are meant for each other.If not then it probably won’t happen at all.The Filipinas who are still virgins they have strict parents so it won’t be easy there family is more overprotective of them.

[@Cityb0y85]

@@jamalgreen3056 bullshi*!!

[@phoenixfox3379]

Its ok, you wont get any of them.

[@carrybigspeaksoft1758]

@@phoenixfox3379 ok simp

[@AnthonyImmel]

Not putting your husband first is a huge red flag and automatic deal breaker. Good luck ladies..

[@juddgoswick2024]

Everyone was very attractive, but Aimee was the highlight. She seems like she has a good heart and a great outlook.

[@glenproctor1999]

So interesting that even the younger Filipinas embrace the traditional view of a couple and expect the male partner to follow this too. One of the bigger attractions for men in the West for sure! Couple that with the sheer beauty of Filipinas and you have a knockout combination 🥰🙏🏻🌹

[@TheFilipinaPea]

If only you could get them to put you first 🤣👍

[@NYC-2-BKK]

@@TheFilipinaPea true. The man will need to be firm on this from the start of the relationship

[@samual3006]

​@@TheFilipinaPeaMission impossible lovely Pea,if only.😢

[@markporter8196]

​@@TheFilipinaPeaI agree with you. I'll consider my family of course, but if I'm to follow what God wants, I have to put my wife first. If she can't do the same then she's not the right woman for me.

[@glenproctor1999]

@@TheFilipinaPea I'm old so I'm used to the idea that her Mother is the boss anyway! 😂🤣

[@Brandon-yy5cc]

This is what I look forward to every Tuesday and Friday. Beautiful Pea interviewing beautiful Filipinas. ❤❤❤❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

As long as you watch ‘em, I’ll make ‘em 👍😊❤️

[@FlipandTheBlueMule]

FACT !

[@jeffwright584]

I’m 55. Never married. Have 30 yr old son. No way I’m getting married now.

[@LeeMinshih]

Nowadays its better To Hire Nurse and Go Around and Have Fun Than Getting Married. Men Getting Married have No Benefits WHATSOEVER . Its an Expensive Trade and Getting Married Also Doesnt Guarantee That She will be with You FOREVER.

[@3rdgentexan301]

Amen, after 38 years of marriage (2 sons & 2 daughters) and spot on - I married an extended family with all the pluses and minuses that go accompany a loving, faithful and committed wife.

[@2Rugrats9597]

I like Res a lot, she never hesitated when she said she would take care of her man, that was the second thing she mentioned. She articulates very well when she speaks and know what she wants.

[@sentinel80]

Totally agree. Just wish she was 10/15 years older and interested in me 😂

[@keithrogers9741]

I liked Res answers best, I,m curious her age as shes very mature

[@dimplypaprika7693]

Res has the beauty, but Aimee is marriage material. I'd take Aimee over Res any day!

[@lmcc0072]

@@dimplypaprika7693Aimee is what we should be looking for in a wife, but Res is what most of us will be chasing after.

[@heavymetal3668]

Dear Pea. I watched your videos for a while and I want you to know I met a Filipina who lives in Singapore. She’s an angel and I feel like this could be forever. Thank you for showing me that there are good women in this world. We had a great time in Singapore and Malaysia. I miss her like crazy already and just got back to the US today.

[@justingoodnow851]

Very good interviewer....not just ask and listen ..but actively draw out the answers. Love it.

[@gjmcginn]

I love the reaction of the couple sitting behind Res’ interview. On the first question the guy turned around to listen in and his girl went to smack him in the face. Guys are guys, worldwide!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I didn’t notice that! 🤣🤣🤣

[@billable1861]

The other one that made me laugh was the guy that tripped 17:38

[@samuelmendoza8585]

@@billable1861 good observation! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@JerryBellasFinalChapter-py2pu]

@@billable1861 Looked like he was drunk! lol

[@jc3113]

Here's the thing I noticed, they all led with the financial part of it. "Support the family financially." To me that would be where I walk away. If you ask them what the role of a husband is and they lead with money that's a major red flag. Love and commitment, supporting one another emotionally should be what is valued above it all. The financial part comes last, it has to be there yes but by putting it first that just tells me your focus is in the wrong place. A lot of foreign men are leaving their countries to get away from people who just use them as an ATM and this honestly sounds like more of the same, they just seem nicer about it.

[@joedoe7706]

I do agree that the things of the heart should be number 1! I think that's where some Filipinas could use some help in learning. But I guess you can say that about any race, honestly. Having said that, I think we have to have a little understanding on their answers about provision. I've been to the Philippines twice and have seen the poverty there. The things we take for granted here are luxuries to alot of Filipinas. I remember a Filipina telling me how much they love staying in a hotel because it has hot water, climate control, and comfort bed for a good rest. So with both those statements in mind, how do you mingle the 2: giving understanding but also the Filipina learning to prioritize the things of the heart. That's a tough question to answer.

[@afather.]

@@joedoe7706 Filipinos brought these issues in themselves, they have zero insight, poor judgement, don’t understand cause and effect, cannot prioritize. They have to many kids want all the little trinkets in life will sacrifice eating nutritionally to have a good time. In 1960 there were 30 million Filipinos now there over 120 million. I am married to a Filipina. I regret when we decided to get married in 1997 that I am the boss, they are required to ask me permission, they don’t make a purchase without my permission even if it is their money. Filipinos at best have the emotional growth of a young teenager in the west. They think their offspring owe them a living. They think a western man should support them. Me wife’s siblings did so many stupid things I told her we will send money for her single sister who took care of her parents. I also told them any disasters hospitalizations they can die. I am ready to tell my sister in law who wants to die how she can speed up the process

[@billgross176]

I’m not disagreeing with the general sentiment of you post, but I will say that ALL relationships are somewhat “transactional” - and it is naive to think otherwise. Next… any time I see the word “should” used in a statement my eyeballs roll. You do you - and I wish you well.

[@jc3113]

@@billgross176 Of course, I say in my original post that the money part comes into play. But what I'm saying is if their first thought is about money you know they are not the one. If you want to have any chance at a legit relationship you gotta find a woman who values the relationship over the money.

[@Sean-sk3nq]

If you want a traditional woman, then don't me surprised by a traditional answer. She wants to be a homemaker and someone has to work. I applaud the answer because I know what I'm getting. No lies. I may not want that specific woman, but I don't mind the answer. Better than a western woman who wants 2x her salary or 6 figures to even get a date.

[@SuccessiveApproximations-Intl]

Pea, you become more beautiful every time I see you, not just physically, but your personality shines so brightly. You're genuine, and helpful, and you have a heart of gold. You're always willing to make life better for your culture, and others as well. You're actually doing a public service by putting out these videos, so thank you very much. I'm happy to be a Patreon supporter.

[@memyself4ever1]

Now I'm stuck between settling in the Philippines, Thailand, Cambodia, and Malaysia! I'm falling in love with these ladies and their values! I am single, don't look my age (clean shaven lol!) childless, in decent shape. I can't wait to leave the states!😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@TheFilipinaPea]

At least visit here once 👍

[@jahzara6386]

Dear Filipina Pea, I recently watched your video on Filipinas searching for husbands, and I appreciate the insights you provided on several important issues. One such issue is how some Filipina families may view Western men primarily as sources of financial support, often likening them to ATMs. Another significant topic you addressed is marriage, especially concerning men in the United States nowadays. I'd like to share my perspective on these matters without inviting unnecessary negativity. Speaking from personal experience, I reside in Chicago. When I met my wife, who hails from Cebu, in 2007, I noticed that many Filipino women held prejudiced views about Black men, fueled by racially biased media portrayals. Unfortunately, my wife faced backlash from some of her coworkers for choosing to be with me. However, I'm glad to see that such misconceptions have been challenged, particularly in light of the recent surge in anti-Asian sentiments. Regarding familial expectations, both Black and Hispanic communities are accustomed to providing support to family members in need. As long as a Filipina's family isn't seeking to take advantage of her American husband, addressing this topic early on can foster understanding. Interestingly, based on my own observations, Caucasian husbands may struggle more with comprehending why Filipino families may request financial assistance. On June 8th, my wife and I will celebrate our 15th anniversary. Our daughter, who is 13 years old, will soon graduate. Despite the challenges, she has received an offer from one of the top-ranked high schools in Chicago, a testament to her academic achievements. For me, our daughter was a primary motivator in seeking a relationship with a Filipina woman. I wanted my child to have a mother I never needed to doubt about her dedication to our child and myself. It's worth noting that many Black men, including myself, have adopted more conservative views, and my wife's acceptance of my preference for non-physical discipline in parenting was crucial. In sharing my story, I hope to encourage Filipina women who may not have considered relationships with Black men to broaden their perspectives. In my wife's circle of friends, I'm one of ten Black men married to Filipina women, disproving stereotypes about Black men being unreliable partners. Additionally, my wife and I have a noticeable height difference-she stands at 4'11" while I'm 6'1". I also want to highlight positive examples like the women on Rivah TV and Melanie King, showcasing why Black men are increasingly drawn to the Philippines for meaningful relationships. Warm regards, Risteen Gates

[@TheFilipinaPea]

15th Anniversary? Congrats, my friend!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@dj4monie]

Mic 🎤 Drop Stay frosty #SYSBM and Congratulations on 15 years of marriage.

[@racebiketuner]

Respect.

[@rengoku1171]

You can really tell the difference between the ladies that have actually had these thoughts before and the ones who have never questioned their programming. Res seems to have a pretty good head on her shoulders though! ❤‍🔥

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, I think many of them have never considered things from a man’s perspective 😳👍

[@michaelboyle4111]

@@TheFilipinaPea That's understandable Pea, Western women never give a thought to a man's perspective either. It's more of a me, me, me look on their lives.

[@dzonsowskifamily]

After a 6 year relationship with my gf from Bulacan, we got married in February, in Quezon City.My new family is slightly overwhelming, but they are the best people ever....I am home 🇵🇭😍♥️

[@kbtred51]

You were having fun here - some beautiful moments. The format should be a monthly feature.

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

The main problem with marrying young Filipinas is they can still be very brainwashed by her parents to be a provider for them. It takes a few years for a Filipina working hard, sending all extra money home and seeing that money being used to make other people's lives better while she is taken for granted. Marrying a 30+ Filipina is more likely to be ready to understand "family" is what she can create with a man. Unfortunately by 30+ most (66%) of Filipinas already have kids so she has already created a dysfunctional family of her own. Fortunately there are options. Many more Filipinas willing to be a live-in housekeeper. So for $150-200/mo USD plus food the household is taken care of. Dating is also easy so that's taken care of and you get variety and as soon as a girlfriend creates drama you can easily move on.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yup, you’re right about filipinas working hard for years before we begin to question our programming 😳

[@Lawrencerice]

Pay attention to this Master Jedi guys. He'll save you a lot of heart ache.

[@robertmurray2843]

@@TheFilipinaPeasome of the most hard working people i know

[@Shanghaimagic]

I respectfully disagree with the first part. Most but not all of those over 30 already have someone else's children, are very jaded and are set in their ways. That said, it all depends on the person, young or old. Speaking from personal experience, my wife who is Filipino, has 7 siblings, neither of her parents ask her for money but we send some on birthdays etc. for the parents only. We lived together for 4 years before getting married and travel/worked all over the World due to my expatriate job. When we finally came to the USA after 6 years the first thing we did was to get her a good education with a job that has a future. She's now a dental hygienist and makes good money but still doesn't send money home because she knows she'll need it for her own future. Btw, she doesn't have kids, never did and doesn't want them either.

[@jacobac07]

Something definitely to keep in mind. Thanks for the food for thought @MrWaterbugdesign

[@darrellfarley1869]

Pea, here in the U S sometimes it takes both husband and wife to work and be successful. My Filipina wife has been a God Send! When we got married I was in good health. The last five years I’ve had some physical problems. Before that she had cancer and I took care of her during recovery, that’s what true love is about (in sickness and in health). We were both widowed (2 weeks apart half a world away) her son was 4 when his dad died and I’m the only father her remembers, I let him decide when he was old enough about adoption, I always made my feelings clear about it (that I wanted to be his father) even my 3 adult daughters call him their “Baby Brother” and my Grand kids call him “Uncle” ( my oldest grandson is 8 months younger and they are in the same grade in High School) My wife has been able to obtain a college degree and is working on a second. I love your videos and look forward to them every week.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Darrell! 👍😊

[@darrellfarley1869]

@@TheFilipinaPea from over 40 years ago half of the guys I was in the Marine Corps with have or had Filipina Brides!

[@Servant_of_Christ]

She expects me to pay for her family, and I'm the last one on her priority list, and she isn't even pure and untouched? I don't know, I'll rather be alone without the headaches, just sailing and fishing, because that's a raw deal if they don't even try living biblical, no thanks there is nothing in it for me, I know how to cook and clean myself, it's easy. I just changed my mind, I'm staying in Europe, fishing and sailing, being happy

[@sfactor7]

I'm still checking out the Philippines. But it's not as great as youtubers have made it out to be.

[@garybowen1942]

Women looking for atm to support their family.

[@user-hk9sb2qf4x]

Ms Pea I love that you said a verse from the Bible that a wife leaves her family and submit to her husband that was my problem my wife put her family before me and all he__ broke loose

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That’s the thing you really have to consider with a filipina 😳👍

[@user-hk9sb2qf4x]

@@TheFilipinaPea Ms Pea yes but my wife who left me was a western woman I understand about foreign ladies but my now x wife would just take the car and go to visit her family not parents but sisters, cousins, and friends which I didnt mind but she didnt come home before I had to go to work and we only had that one car so I was almost fired from my job of 38 years for calling of work without given a 48 hour notice

[@Lawrencerice]

Ultimately, that's what ended my marriage. I couldn't remain married to a woman who I would never come first for.

[@NYC-2-BKK]

@@user-hk9sb2qf4x wow that’s bad, sorry 😞

[@billable1861]

Technically the verse she’s referring is worded like it’s directed at the man. Matthew 19. I agree with the sentiment though.

[@isaiahbristol3776]

Great content. You are very knowledgable on both cultures. When u said there is really NO benefit of marriage for a guy that was beautiful because your sooo right 🤙🏾

[@TM-xz2kj]

I am of the opinion that: A woman marries into the man's family. While a man never marries out. However, both the man and woman should be respectful of eachother's relatives. If the relatives of either person are unaccepting of the person you want to be with, then be prepared for the difficulties that lay ahead. It may even lead to your eventual separation in the future.

[@Dutchy-1168]

Marriage is a “ give and take “ …. And it should be done as respectably as possible ! Mix it all up with many doses of love 💕 ❤

[@happywanderer5632]

The husband gives, the wife takes :)

[@AFMIL2862]

@@happywanderer5632 Hahaha…

[@johnlobley]

This is what Fridays were made for. ...and always let the ads play

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And Tuesdays too! 🤣🤣👍

[@smferreiro2610]

For sure you are not being served 45-minute-long ads of a distant cult... :-)

[@johnlobley]

@@smferreiro2610 For sure. Are you?

[@smferreiro2610]

@@johnlobley Yeah... today I skipped it, but used to leave them playing while I did something else. I'm starting to think that that is the reason why I'm getting them in the first place. KZbin must think I'm interested!

[@Billy_B_Goat]

@@smferreiro2610 Hahahaha, John it makes ya wonder what you must have done for AI to be targeting you with Mooney Ads.... lol

[@dans1741]

Pea,once again. Great video. It's refreshing to see real people being interviewed. And absolutely nothing wrong with the girls having strong family ties. That's a great quality.

[@kohbusinessservices2587]

Your videos are awesome Pea. So open and honest. Great stuff !!

[@willconnor9712]

Great job Pea. Aimie won the competition by a mile.

[@joedoe7706]

I agree 100%!!! If I met her in person, I would be pursuing her for sure and would not let her get away 😂

[@kranzonguam]

Fascinating stuff, Pea! I can already hear guys rationalizing- "but it will be different once she meets me."😢 A lot of guys need to learn to listen and believe. Take good care!😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, they really need to know the warning signs first 👍👍🤣

[@Guildofarcanelore]

I have an old friend who is married to a Pina...and all of her brothers, sisters and family. There is a constant parade of nieces, nephews and all manner of assorted relatives in their home in Canada. He seems to take it all in stride but I don’t know if he has ever tried to push back.

[@Kempe6116]

I died laughing at your question"what if he hires a nurse" her look had me rolling.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣

[@kimrosacay1292]

My thoughts about the question of What comes first the family or your Husband. For me, Once you decided to settle down your priority now after God is your Husband the family you're building together. Your family is secondary. Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husband, as to the Lord . For the husband is head of the wife, as also christ is head of the church.

[@spincube5734]

After getting hitched, too many men realize all the marriage jokes that exist......... are not jokes! Another good interview topic. Thanx Pea !!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@custardavenger]

Great questions Pea. You got the ladies thinking and brought up what is important to both men and women in a relationship.

[@zaidmohammad757]

My dear Miss Pea, marriage is a sacred and legal symbol of unbreakable bond between husband and wife, that is given more power and meaning in a country like the Philippines. It is also a message to your other half, when you propose marriage, you tell her that you will never leave her and this action speaks louder than any other declaration of loyalty. We all believe in God - marriage is a declaration of your undying love for your partner with Him as the Ultimate witness. That's the significance of marriage....

[@petermujica7866]

As always another Amazing video. Much love Pea! Have a great day!

[@NYC-2-BKK]

Hello Pea! Greetings from NYC - To me the first girl raised some red flags when she mentioned that she would choose her family over her husband and that she would leave him for her family. Then you followed up by quoting the Bible passage about the wife leaving her family and becoming one flesh with her husband was a great response. As a devout Christian myself this raised red flags for me as this is someone I could not fully trust to be committed to me and our family unit as a whole. If a wife puts her home family priority over her husband then I wonder what could go wrong if someday the family decides that they don’t agree with or like me? They will then have greater influence over her than her husband. So if I were just getting to know her I would just “friend zone” her.

[@Lawrencerice]

Welcome to the Philippines. Family, not you, will always come first. They will also loudly pronounce they believe in God, but being "Catholic" trumps the word of God. Not criticizing, but have seen a lot married to one over 30 years.

[@NYC-2-BKK]

@@Lawrencerice interesting points, oh well but this is a deal breaker for me.

[@davidschonhardt4958]

You are the BEST interviewer!! You ask the questions we want to know. Does taking care of your husband mean being enthusiastic about sex? I still think of the 6 story building and men not going past the 2nd floor.

[@wealthysecrets]

Do Filipinos not know that 2% of Priests are pedophiles? That's a fact according to the Pope himself@@Lawrencerice

[@DrDlane]

The Bible actually says that the man is to leave his mother and father to cleave to his wife. The purpose of cleaning is so no one can come between them as one flesh. This includes family and even children.

[@luthermcgee3767]

Pea, your women's logic is impeccable. With God almighty as my witness, if i had known this a mere 10 years ago, id have been living there long before now.. And when the interviewed said that she would sign a prenuptial agreement- that won my heart. Even though iwould probably not even suggest it.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

For your sake, PLEASE insist on a prenup 👍👍👍👍

[@luthermcgee3767]

@@TheFilipinaPea , Agreed. Thank you for your feedback.. I'm glad I was still surfing ( studying molecular biology) if I wasn't, I probably would've missed this now very important and specific suggestion. I will insist on it. Thanks again!

[@FlipandTheBlueMule]

Res seemed to have all the right answers ❤️🌹

[@FlipandTheBlueMule]

ROUND is a "shape" hahahaha

[@snowtwister9295]

I've watched a couple of your podcasts and you are "Wise beyond your years" bravo Miss Pea! Bravo !

[@charlesetienne6037]

I am married for 26 years I never stayed at my mother in law house or eat a meal in her house. I married my wife not her family this I made it clear with her. i think it will be difficult for me to get a wife in the Philippines.

[@cetilly]

What is the man’s role? To make money Which is most important, family or husband? Family What are the advantages for a man to marry? None Why should a man marry you? He shouldn’t!!! Very enlightening interviews

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I always try to highlight the bad along with the good, and this is stuff you western guys need to know 👍

[@Sean-sk3nq]

Be careful to not judge a young lady who only knows her family. These girls aren't reading vogue or going on 5 dates a week. Once she finds the right man the attitude changes and her husband will be #1. But she doesn't know that because her family has been everything to her. A western girl would say "she" comes first. Lol. So I will take a person who believes in family because one day I would be her family. As for money, they aren't saying 6 figures, just being a provider. I find that normal given it's been that way for thousands of years. A woman would never accept a suitors advances unless he could provide for her and their future kids. I like a person who is honest. How many western women say all the right things and then divorce you - at least 50%. And if you lose your job how many western women will stick it out - none! The west is actually a much better place for a broke guy. Just date a woman 20 yrs older and she will support you.

[@user-sq6rg9lq8m]

Great interviews Pea. Love the 'woman shall leave her family' families cause a lot of divorces her in America on both sides. My Filipina's Mama calls me 'son' even though she is younger than me. Makes me feel very welcome in her family. My traditional Filipina feels that she is to take care of me in every way first every thing else is second. As far as marriage- It's not just a piece of paper or rings. It's the unification of a man and woman in the eyes of God (after the consummation-wedding night) where then they become one.

[@jeffreystapleton2808]

Your channel is the realest thing I’ve encountered on KZbin, and in general, in a very long time! I haven’t been to the “PI” in many years, and you’ve got me really missing it! Keep the videos coming!!

[@bigchrissmusicguitarsenter22]

To any filipinas watching and reading, if you expect a man to step up and take care of you and give your dreams you really need a reality check. He will have expectations of his own. In a filipina wedding the man gives coins (symbolic) that he will provide, and the womans veil while still on her head is pinned to the mans shoulder symbolic that she will submit to him and his wishes. In short, he pays the bills, he comes first, and you are expected to take care of all his needs, and that includes in the bedroom. This is fact, i've been to many filipino weddings, you put your husband before everything because he is the one that provides for you.

[@everyonehasadream]

Many Filipinas suffer from ECD (Excessive Clan Devotion).

[@Bristecom]

Asians tend to be very collectivist whereas Whites tend to be very individualistic. The ideal is probably somewhere in the middle.

[@Xaviallin1]

@@BristecomI agree. The contrast between attitudes in the US and my home country is like night and day. People in the US find being away from family and on your own as the goal but in the Philippines, it is sticking with your family and helping them even if it sacrifices your mental well-being. I learn to want to practice a balance between those two mindsets

[@afather.]

@@Xaviallin1tell the males in the Philippines not to breed until they can support their children with proper nutrition, medical and dental care. Children are not the pension plan or IRA.

[@user-hf8zv7qw4l]

Asians are like that. Asians tend to have close family ties. For them, family is number 1 priority. They are very clannish. In contrast with westerners, they are very individualistic.

[@user-hf8zv7qw4l]

​@@Xaviallin1 Filipino families stick together because they dont have money and they always ask money from their breadwinners. Ganyan mga pinoy.

[@AFMIL2862]

Wow! Very interesting responses to who should be the priority, husband or wife’s family! It would’ve been even more interesting had you asked the ladies who should be the husband’s priority!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’ll do a sequel 👍😊

[@AFMIL2862]

@@TheFilipinaPea Sounds good!

[@faustinodibauda251]

Great questions and I'm glad you kind of stuck it to him when it came down to the real tough ones

[@RodgerRamjet]

having been married several times, i made sure that was plain upon trying to meet/chat with a Filipina.. and yes, some said "sorry,, no.." and you fully understand, since its illegal to divorce there, under anything but extremely rare circumstances.. i have my own feet in the fire with a much younger Filipina, and, will just see how this goes... either i am yet again the worlds biggest sucker... or she is genuine and i am simply doing what she could never possibly afford to do on her own.. namely travel here..(USA ) the women mostly seem to be the traditional housewife role models that are what many Men still hope to find. Husband is head of household. he takes care of the bills, roof, food, etc.. Wife, "runs" the household. and hopefully both dont just enjoy their roles as husband and wife, they delight in them.. good times and hard times, they face them together as one.. here ?? omg.. you would have Feminazis wanting to burn me alive for even thinking of a traditional wife..

[@wulfwalker2514]

I love your woman on the street's interviews. Stay awesome!!!

[@armtdawg99]

I really appreciate the wide variety of perspectives represented on your channel, Pea! Keep up the good work!

[@user-ui7zj2bp3u]

Wow you created a very helpful documentary! And you asked some great questions. I think you are also generous. Thank you

[@wraypetserson4304]

I definately don't want to be with a woman or marry a woman who won't put me first. I will put her first as I am her partner and she is mine. Thanks for the interviews.

[@Greg-fx8jf]

Good Evening Pea, Another great video! Have A great weekend! Thanks for your hard work each week.

[@erniebell1858]

If a Filipina wife wants to put her family first over her husband, then the husband should put his girlfriend first over his Filipina wife.

[@myseville1976]

I love how happy everyone is!

[@JohnArmwood]

Excellent video Ms. Pea. I agree with you 100%.

[@houseaccount3293]

I'll take 2 of Res please.. ;) Seriously though, there is nothing wrong with staying close to your family, however if you cant fully commit to your partner then what is the point, wither or not it is the husband or the wife, your SO has to be your main priority or a marriage will never truly be a successful one. If the men should provide then the women should answer "what I bring to the table is love, commitment, understanding, I bring being the best part and reason to come home too" just as a man should answer, "I will work and provide everything I can, to never let my family suffer as long as I am able to do it I will do it".

[@tomspriggs9478]

Well said.

[@Crazykid949]

Pea: Interesting interviews. Although most of the answers were similar the one that stood out to me was the one who agreed that there is no advantage for a man in a marriage. Some might think that marriage is nothing but a piece of paper, and others would think that it's more than just a contract to be together but an emotional bonding between two people. The sad reality is that when a man who has put his hand in the fire of marriage and gotten burned and then goes to a place like the Philippines, then finds a beautiful woman to have a relationship with but not want to get married, it's in his mind that he's going to get burned again, and some of these beautiful Filipinas don't see or understand the feeling of building wealth, having it all taken from you, then having to build it all up again just to enjoy the last years of your life with someone new that wants the same commitment as the one that broke him the first time. It's a good thing that none of them are scared to sign a prenup, because I think that for men who have already been burned once before would or should want one if they really are that pressured into marriage by their Filipina.

[@AxiomR-qy3oz]

Her hair is amazing!!! Btw guys I am gonna be a passport bro! I found my gorgeous Filipina.

[@ads211]

So much happiness and laughter! Very nice to see that kind of spirit still exist

[@jackwest3282]

Pea you not only bring humor and understanding to those outside the Philippines, you also help to provide thought provoking moments for your fellow Filipinos too. Slowly and surely with time and each interview I can see that you are changing hearts and minds in a positive way. God bless and keep you as you keep doing what you do! Cheers!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Jack - I sure am trying to get people to see the light 🤣👍

[@SonOfManHuestreets]

Your name is ringing in the black community ​@@TheFilipinaPea more and more of us are hearing about you through the passport bros videos

[@adamcharles7764]

I am continually entertained and impressed by how well thought out your insights are, not just regarding Filipinas, but for women in general! Thanks for what you do!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks for what you do too, Adam! If you didn’t watch, I couldn’t afford to make them 👍😊

[@alandoherty1332]

Great video Pea. Res,and farrah are cuties. Your interviewing style was perfectly balanced with humorous and thought provoking questions. Thanks. Well done.

[@johnv5156]

Women rarely think about what the man actually gets in a relationship across all cultures.

[@stefanhansen5882]

Great as always. Great questions, e.g. at 3:11. The silence was telling.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👍

[@PassportBrosBusinessClass]

All I need a woman for is loyal companionship. Apparently that’s hard to come by these days.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It can definitely be found here 👍😊

[@tomper2204]

@@TheFilipinaPea for a price

[@painter662]

Most Filipinas I have met or visited with have a reasonable perspective on family… but the bigger question is not how they value their family, it’s how the family values the Filipina. In a lot of cases she has had it drilled into her mind that she owes her family and they mean she owes them everything. Her life her family don’t mean anything. She was put on this planet to make her mother comfortable. And mom is never comfortable. But her a Toyota she wants a Lexus buy her a Lexus she wants a Mercedes… mean time husband goes broke and kids don’t matter. Just the other night I was talking to a Filipina who had spent 5 years working in Saudi Arabia so her kids could have a better life. She entrusted them to her parents while she was away. When she got back she found out the kids weren’t even getting regular meals, mom and dad had spent every dime sent in themselves. New house new car etc. as soon as she got home the kids were dumped on her doorstep before she even had an apartment for them. And grandma cussed her out for being so stupid to have kids. Her sister was working in Hong Kong at the time and mother was demanding so much money from her the sister was having trouble making ends meet in HongKong. Yes this was an extreme case… but treating a foreign husband this way is not uncommon. I dated a Filipina once whose mom was stealing from the college fund I sat up for her grandkids. And not tiny amounts, she was draining the dang thing. I and Filipina had a huge fight over the issue. I told her you made those kids it’s your duty to see they get the best chance at life they can have. She replied no my mom gave me life I owe her for that. It was the end of that relationship.

[@srwilliams1963]

I like that use humor to get ease your questions to your interviewers. I can see that they are actually thinking about posed questions without being intimated. I can also sense that they are trying to translate their thoughts into English. You also can translate in the editing. Great topics.

[@EricStegall72]

Great video nice way to bring a serious subject with some good light-hearted humor. very entertaining when you was able to stump them with the question about the husbands benefit of marrying them followed by a nice size pause. 😁 They all seemed like very nice women hopefully things workout for them and what they are looking for. Hopefully you have a great weekend.

[@shughl1]

Pea is so amazing and this channel is so solid. I love this channel!

[@DataHoarders]

Ugh…..the western world is starting to creep in. So sad.

[@pilotdrh]

You do a wonderful job as a vlogger Pea. I'm glad you're doing well at it. Don't forget the one about a relationship being based on trust and understanding....she doesn't trust him and he doesn't understand her. I still get a chuckle everytime I think of your handle "The Filipina Pea". Carry on girl.

[@tombkk1322]

Pea, I personally think these interview videos are some of your best! Can you please keep making more. 😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Tom - I will 👍👍

[@wildbill562]

I was married to a pinay in 1987. Biggest mistake of my life. She was always chatting about "kwarta" to her mother on the phone. Her evil mother even told her, "if he won't give US money, divorce him and find someone who will." It was a one way street. She expected me to make her happy, but saw no need to make me happy. Not only does her family of origin come before her slave (bana), so do her children, her friends, her pets, etc. The husband comes last and will only be treated nice when she wants something. I have been happily divorced since 2000 and live alone. Would never live with a female again. On a happier note, I liked RES at the 12:13ff mark. Cute and sweet.

[@cushingpushing]

Men love idealisticaly, women love opportunitistically.

[@malikon6953]

Pea comes across as so classy and demure, but beautiful and funny at the same time. I love the interviews. Thanks.

[@darrinelford1473]

I dont think she is that innocent

[@joedoe7706]

I agree! Pea is really excellent in her interviews and content. She knows how to bring things out in a way that communicates clearly to we foreigners And also knows how to handle the Filipinas to make them comfortable and get the most out of them. You're very talented at what you do Pea!

[@joedoe7706]

​@@darrinelford1473😂 you don't see her halo and angels wings??? 😮

[@darrinelford1473]

@@joedoe7706 No woman is an angel. Just an illusion they try to portray

[@UHATE4WHAT]

@@darrinelford1473 Aimee just might be the unicorn!!!

[@mitch1161]

Excellent video that proves once again, only women, children & dogs are loved unconditionally while men are loved only for what they can provide. I hope men are listening to what these women are saying. Basically, the man is in 4th or 5th place behind family, children & the woman. There is NO benefit to marriage for men unless he wants children. Aimee was the only lady in the video worth considering as wife material.

[@BitBoxTurbo]

North American westerner here - I have a friend who has been happily married to his Filipino wife for almost 10 years now. Watching this video kind of reinforces everything he says about Filipino women. I find it a bit mind-blowing honestly. I kind of assumed real women were a thing of the past...

[@TheFilipinaPea]

We’re still real 🤣👍👍👍

[@thepandolfster8510]

Another great episode. Very insightful.

[@marka.2798]

I noticed that when asked what is the role of a wife?, Their first duty is to the children, which may have come from a previous relationship. If she never dated or married a man for the rest of her life, wouldn't that be her automatic duty anyway? That is the role of a mother, not a wife per se. The question begs, what is the role of a wife that benefits her husband? And if her priority after saying the wedding vows is still her children even from previous relationships, didn't she just thwart the entire purpose and commitment of the wedding vows? This is exactly why single mothers here in the US are still largely single. If the man comes last in a woman's life and he is expected to pay for her children as a result of a marriage to a single mother, how will this work exactly to benefit a man? It because a situation where the man has all the responsibility but no authority over the children.

[@paulcanfield4157]

Very true, a man and woman putting their personal relationship before the children models how to have a healthy relationship. If two adults cannot communicate to one another how can they convey stability to children... What you described about the singles moms is women in survival mode. Their nature is to protect their offspring and will marry a man they do not love or desire to ensure security. This is why lately we see a lot of women leave men later in life after the children are grown, especially if they didn't have children together and she grows bored. 80%+ it's the woman leaving the man, so just another of the many reasons. Lesbian divorce rates are the highest and give the same exact reasons for divorce as the heterosexual marriages. So when men are completely removed from the equation we see the issues magnified.

[@rockdj63077]

I have this situation I sold everything to come here marry and b happy. Well that is far from true her 3 children from 3 guys and they come always before me. Then her family is next I finish last and any questions she will always choose them all before me. This is extremely disturbing because you finish last and any situation they just leave my wife has left 7 times to please her kids or family. Don't marry a woman who has children period. And live as far as you can from here family.

[@paulcanfield4157]

@@rockdj63077Of all the Filipinas you chose one with a proven track record of failure... your situation was of your own making. 3xs minimum when other men didn't choose her is ALL the proof you needed to know to leave her well enough alone. A man establishes how things will be in the home , if you're the last priority then that is your fault as well. Get the annulment, find better AFTER fixing yourself as a man. Most likely you suffer from low self esteem and you convinced yourself she was the best you could get. Most people do not realize that marriage only benefits those who have the same views and values and marriage is a SPIRITUAL covenant before God and not once did you mention God. If you're not a Christian why as a man would you marry any woman? There's zero benefit. Although by now you've probably twisted your fate together with her and at the mercy of her with the finances and more...