Before I die: a day with terminally ill patients | Death Land #2

[@lisacorreia7160]

That 92 year old man was so with it. Amazing!

[@breannedixon9712]

My grandma died at 102. A ton of pain, and she was bed bound but fully conscious and relatively happy. Never had Alzheimer’s or Cancer, she passed in her sleep. She was ready to die I think. That’s goals to me. He reminds me so much of her

[@lisacorreia7160]

Breanne Dixon ❤️

[@mamarobyn]

Luv him

[@petitehippie7064]

@keecefly Not 😢

[@cstotesberry572]

His smile was so sweet!

[@kabardinka1]

A doctor who genuinely RESPECTS her patients. No bs, just caring, straight talk. We all deserve physicians of her quality.

[@zixzizia1066]

And she’s Indian like you!

[@paulettemart]

I don’t agree. I think there is more compassionate way to make patients and their families understand what is coming their ways... I don’t think she is empathetic enough.

[@TA-jr5yg]

Paulette Martinez Hey Paulette, just genuinely curious... What part of her didn’t seem compassionate enough? Or at what part were you referring to? I always find other people’s perspectives interesting. Hope you don’t mind me asking.

[@icyliciousblue]

@@TA-jr5yg 6:50 here, I think she crossed the line here and it's breaking my heart seeing or hearing a doctor herself talk like this

[@all-gone]

She’s awesome!Others take notes

[@sululemon]

“I feel grateful for the fact that I wont be here forever because it forces me to make meaning of the time that I do have.” Well said

[@jkth4500]

Yes I loved that, I am a very spiritual person, I was sick from birth and almost passed away at fourteen and that completely changed my outlook on life, I love a laugh but I'm very serious too, if that makes sense! I now work for a consultant in a hospital and I absolutely love my job, I want to go in every day!!

[@jayhansen9705]

Struck me as well.

[@princessjazz5767]

Powerful!

[@fishythenothosaurus5938]

That time is waaay too looong.

[@57andstillkicking]

@SIG That is not true.

[@Cassytava]

The hardest part of being a nurse is taking care of patients who are actively dying but want to live. 15 years of nursing and it still affects me to my core.

[@breannedixon9712]

Yeah I agree. I see people who accept and are older, it’s very comforting. But talking to someone who is dying, and clearly hasn’t is beyond heartbreaking.

[@nitabonita86bg61]

Cassytava thank you for your service 🙏🏾

[@lealeak7458]

Cassytava it’s interesting because I volunteer for Hospice and from stories they have told me, it is exactly the opposite. By the time their actual body is actively dying, they are not aware enough to want to live.

[@slstuart519]

It is very hard. On the opposite spectrum, I find it so hard to take extreme measures and keep people alive on machines. Dying in a code is violent and intrusive. Please have these conversations with your loved ones.

[@paris6378]

Me too and 21 years of service but I love the patients, co-workers , job. Loving, understanding the dying needs.

[@chanchantorres]

" I feel grateful for the fact that I won't be here forever 'cause it forces me to make meaning of the time I do have... "

[@apolicum]

I would be even more grateful if i was to live for 10.000 years instead of 80 years. Still would force me to make meaning of the time i have, but at least i would have a decent amount of time.

[@phillipmitchell6184]

apolicum be grateful both ways this life is temporary

[@weatherlicious]

When she said this, it made really ponder on my life. Wow.

[@iliasrydlakowski1420]

Phillip Mitchell idc i want to Live forever

[@bbmeow2740]

So profound.

[@vtech920]

The 90+-year-old man lived life to the fullest and looked like he knew his time was to come and only embraced it with full acceptance. He was pleased to know that his time was up and he couldn't have shown it more.

[@MikeBarbarossa]

Most all of us won't see 90+ years. He knows he's blessed

[@ZyliceLiddell]

😊

[@medhatyassa39]

thank you

[@oppai9611]

Most people would be glad to die at 90

[@guineapigshavetakenovermyl6602]

he is super vivid at this age and functioning mentally. i admire his attitude and outlook on life and death

[@cofa4011]

"So at this point, i'm relatively calm and accepting." This is wisdom.

[@saragarofano9727]

Forced wisdom

[@thndr_5468]

I really hope I can be like that

[@dianeshelton9592]

And very common. Most of the dying know and accept the inevitability. It’s not unusual at all.

[@60secondpages]

We don't recall our time before life, why do people expect the experience to be tangible beyond life.

[@DOWNPOUR_]

@@60secondpages keep that mindset when you’re about to die. you’ll be begging for gods forgiveness

[@christypoos9728]

I have terminal Cancer taking Chemo. No family and alone. Thats the worse, having no one to care. But when I go home My Father and Savior will be with me forever. Ill never be alone again.

[@candicekoolmatrie2075]

Bless you x

[@janeysmagicalart]

I care . Sending you love hugs and prayers 💓🌹💝

[@aiyana_yk1557]

You are not alone we are all here for you and it's been almost a year I hope you are doing better now💖💖💖

[@Aditya-yl7fi]

Omae wa mou shindieru

[@lilialira930]

Prayers for you!!!

[@heathercameron1485]

"We will respect the limits that your body imposes because some of this has little to do with how hard we want to fight and so much to do with the limits of biology." Very gracefully and delicately put.

[@haleyes98]

I plan on becoming a nurse practitioner, and this is exactly the type of thing I want to incorporate into my vernacular. I 100% agree with her. It’s beautiful the way she put it. There’s a need to respect the body in order to respect the person inside of it, ya know?

[@deniskuhtiak2746]

It makes sense in this context but if the entire medical care was governed under this principal we would still see people dying from curable today illnesses. Even cancer , many people are in remission just because researchers and patients were brave on to take the fights . At those times even stage 1-2 was a life sentence but it’s not the case these days

[@jaylucas8352]

Heart attack and cancer kills more people than anything. Live healthy and maybe you live longer , sometimes it’s just bad luck.

[@miaa7968]

@@deniskuhtiak2746 Are you a healthcare worker? Incredibly curious to see how you'd approach this situation otherwise. My MD education always taught us breaking bad news involved realism and empowerment, which is what the phrasing achieves.

[@miaa7968]

@@jaylucas8352 If you live longer, your risk of cancer will increase exponentially as your cells age and degrade, because our telomeres can only shorten so much with each cell cycle before our DNA itself degrades. Literally if anyone lives long enough, they will develop some kind of cancer because it's unregulated cell growth and poor protein expression - things controlled by physiology that simply does degrade with age. Not to say don't live healthy, but let's not act like cancer can't happen to anyone.

[@briarrose5208]

My heart hurts for the 39-year-old mom who keeps fighting against all odds because she isn't ready to leave her kids...

[@footscorn]

My wife said exactly the same thing in her final couple of weeks. We had five children, the two youngest were 7 and eight. Take care of the children and look after the garden were the last words she spoke to me.

[@LykMike]

@@footscorn I’m sorry that you had to go through that you will be with her again one day...

[@kemeyartusniki842]

Most of us mom's would have given up a long time ago if it was not for the love we have for our children.

[@kapiljetwani3540]

@@footscorn 😢

[@Jesus-ub9yt]

What happened to her?

[@kcmn0089]

Damn, that doctor has to be incredibly strong for going through this everyday.

[@qjtvaddict]

This explains the high rates of suicide

[@soul76can]

kcmn00 Doctors are taught to detach from patients, as are nurses, paramedics, fire rescue and police officers. It doesn’t mean they don’t care, they are just trained to be able to detach. Otherwise, they would be unable to do their jobs as they all witness countless deaths during their careers.

[@naomivantonder1161]

@@soul76can i totally agree. We are taught as nurses to detach ourselves from people that are dying but it is soooo difficult. With oldr people you tend to accept it easier than with children and young people.

[@LuisanaMcbo]

That's why I never pursue my dream to be a doctor

[@brunopremoli6250]

kcmn00 someone has to do it & she signed up.. she has no choice .. I would look into being more spiritual and empathetic.. informative with knowledge of death to have that job

[@BeechHouse]

My wife's mother died today. No matter how or when, the pain is always real. Yvonne lived 91 years and even in her final hour she wanted to make sure all her children would be ok. Yvonne passed at 11:04 this morning.

[@colabama]

Sorry for your loss Ray.

[@visualhj2119]

I’m sorry for your loss, hope you’re doing well

[@elenadejesus7489]

May she rest in peace

[@bonnierobinson8684]

Bless you it must be so hard.

[@lilmeenga33]

I’m sorry for your loss

[@beeznest7679]

That lung cancer patient broke my heart💔 He was hanging on to any glimmer of hope...poor guy and so young too

[@icyliciousblue]

And the doctor wasn't helpful either

[@felixbrands9769]

I agree broke my heart

[@xoxomaja27xoxo]

icyliciousblue she was being truthful. No sugar coated false hope. She has fantastic bedside manner and delivers extremely news tailored to each patient. It’s horribly sad but sometimes there isn’t much you can do.

[@Екатерина-я3ь4ъ]

@@icyliciousblue If you know that - as far as medical knowledge goes today - there is no method to cure that patient - do you really think it would be better to let him hope for a long life even though you know it's probably gonna get worse and he's gonna die soon?

[@faviovid9718]

1000Melonen aus dem Schulbuch I think there are proper ways to express a patient with hope that he’s probably not gonna make it, without making him lose his hope

[@cookingandreviewswithdeb6311]

The 92 year old man accepted death and had a smile on his face like he knew when it was time then let it be

[@britiw]

Only if all of us had this option as granted

[@tomwallhead6950]

I dont want resus if i make it to 92 whats the point? Spend the money on the young not waste it on the old.

[@kimmiechen7189]

cooking and reviews with deb just so impressive

[@Nautilus1972]

92, he's looking forward to it.

[@NurseSnow2U]

A. Gomes yep it’s an entirely different thing. I lost my fiancé to COVID. He was 43. It just doesn’t seem right.

[@elainegoad9777]

When a person is alone ( no family or friends) and people say they're thinking of you or "thoughts and prayers" (UGH !) it means nothing. Just empty words. Being alone is the absolute worst !

[@kevinkim256]

This doctor was my young brothers palliative doctor before he died. She was compassionate and caring and I appreciate everything she’s done for us.

[@DefiantAngel87]

I'm so deeply sorry

[@lisamoroney3036]

That’s great ….

[@reginasecrets5493]

Condolences

[@kellydugas8214]

So sorry for your loss! The doctor's compassion shines through in this video!

[@Redgrave896]

That Midas ER

[@mwills464]

I used to be so frightened of death until my 29 year old son passed away almost 4 years ago. Knowing that I’ll see him again when I die took away any fear that I had.

[@F1SHB1TCH]

Meg Williams same here, I lost my mom 6 years ago to cancer and I almost feel peace with death now because I know she will be there to greet me with open arms

[@BrandoninOrlando]

That you will.

[@taurusgirl2238]

I'm so sorry for you both. Watch as many NDE's as you can. What hope it gives.

[@linushyatt5074]

@@BrandoninOrlando im sorry but you wont, once you die that's it. its a very nice thought though

[@shannondominguez9725]

linus Hyatt Why would you tell someone that they won’t see their loved one again ? If it gives this person comfort & peace then that’s what counts right ? You can believe whatever you want but plz don’t tell somebody something like that, it’s perfectly ok to believe that there’s more after we leave this Earth I myself believe there is a heaven; it’s fine to not share the same idea we all have our opinion.

[@Kikiconsilience]

As someone with a terminal stage of kidney failure in my 20s, I have an option of palliative care an certainly wanted to go that way. It’s the society that sees it as ‘giving up’ I see it as being brave

[@Josh-rn1em]

Do what's best for you. They don't have to live with it.

[@colabama]

Diana, If you read this, I am sending you a hug my dear.

[@macmarles3243]

Is a transplant not an option? Hugs and well wishes to you.

[@Kikiconsilience]

@@macmarles3243 sadly I have no donors. Due to my blood type the only way is to have a live donor.

[@ellajean.crafts]

Respect 💯, sending a fist bump and courage your way my dear

[@daleandrews9356]

That first guy - who was proud to be "90!" - was precious and oh so special. Very brave guy.

[@Inferiis]

according to my grandma, you accept death as you grow older. She's "only" 80 and relatively fine but she's not afraid (sometimes even annoying when she says "this might be my last birthday")

[@blaseblasebih5706]

@@Inferiis ohh wow! My grandma will be 82 next month, and boy does she ruin family dinners and with the "I don't know how much longer I'll be here" talks. Meanwhile she's walking around completely unassisted, driving, and has NO major health issues.

[@SamanthaD89]

Yup. He’s got the right mind set, everyone dies and there’s nothing he we can do about it. May he rest in peace

[@michaellake2359]

His smile was infectious.

[@patriciawilkes5079]

Man’s an absolute unit. His attitude is incredible.

[@LetsPartyOurFacesOff]

I’m a nurse working in Hospice. I don’t cry at work. I cry at home, in the secret moments when nobody is watching. It’s necessary for me cry. People say I’m emotionless but I’m not. It takes ALOT out of me to go to work and suck it up and be the strong one for my patients, so when they break down or their family does, I’ll be there.

[@universemilkshake7695]

I’m glad you take the time to let it out. Being strong for your patients is important but letting your emotions out is too c,: u are so smart

[@mwendabai]

I'm a nurse and midwife. I relate to your story too.

[@davidbernstein-realtor310]

You are a super strong woman

[@franciscoantunesantunes9248]

Im crying just to see this... Would never choose this work... Thanks for your support

[@StarLight-tu6ub]

On behalf of the patients & the families, thank you

[@oklahomaproud6665]

My heart breaks for the man who wanted to keep his relative on the machine until he passed, not realizing that the machine would be what was keeping him from passing

[@nenblom]

“No matter where you are in the process of dying, you’re still living.” Truer words have never been spoken.

[@aaronjames3228]

I'm not sure about that

[@dillo1594]

Yea we’ll have you ever heard of dying?

[@mysteryandmeaning297]

Need tell lady in video that think she doesn't get it

[@JarredChaisson]

Right... but sometimes just sometimes when your in so much pain it takes over your mind my friend and you eventually let go because of it...

[@elenadejesus7489]

@@JarredChaisson so true. The pain becomes too much to bear and we prefer the peace of death even though we don't know if there is peace after death or if we are aware at all. Pain can be so unbearable that we sometimes prefer the nothingness of death. It would be wonderful if we all know where we are going. Maybe for some because of how we lived our lives.

[@AmberU]

I can really appreciate how honest she is with her patients. I only wish we had conversations like this long before its a terminal situation.

[@theGuardian]

Thanks for your comment Amber

[@leishayoung4124]

It's a psychological process they take you through if they can, from diagnosis to 'that conversation', I think they do it on purpose so when the final diagnosis is given the blow isn't quite as huge for the patient or the family.

[@ohnoeswhatsthat1335]

I'm a neuropsychologist, I have worked in a hospital and am now working in nursing homes and homes for long time care. People can handle more than you think. Being direct gives space for the mourning process to start. And the earlier it starts, the better.

[@cyndimoring9389]

A month ago I said goodbye to my darling partner who was dying from a painful debilitating cancer. I took care of him for 5 months. I thought about death a lot. I was afraid and angry at death and at the end I prayed for it. It had come down to a battle between chemo and cancer and both were killing him in the meantime. We lived between hope and fear for years.

[@christophernewton7056]

Hello 👋 Cyndi

[@cyndimoring9389]

@@christophernewton7056 Look here, a parasite coming to take advantage of a bereaved woman. Go hit on some other emotionally weak and vulnerable woman. I'm bereaved I'm not lonely or desperate. Really Christopher, come here often?

[@nyancat8655]

If I may ask as someone who’s terrified of death.. did dying look scary? I’m so scared of dying. And losing myself. Please tell me the people around you make it easier

[@Crymeariver227]

@@nyancat8655It may help you to watch some of the video shorts a Hospice nurse named Julie does regularly on YT. She’s great at normalizing what the body does as it shuts down; she explains things that appear scary to us, but are natural in the process. It will calm your anxiety I’m sure. As someone living with a terminal disease, it is hugely beneficial for me.❤️

[@LaurenGarner-p5f]

My heart goes out to you. A most compassionate show of love to be there, side by side with your partner until the last breath. ❤

[@alexverdigris9939]

Pete McGrath, 92, and staring death in the eyes. He seems lucid, sharp and unafraid. His health is depleted, but not his courage reserves. That's how I'd want to face death. Edit: A word about Dr. Puri... the emotional strength needed to do full-time what she does is hard to even contemplate. Astonishing. I don't even have 2% of that. I'm shaken just by watching a short video about it.

[@maurizioarrivabene8182]

Shes not doing it full time. She is doing it 1.5x full time as a doctor

[@saragarofano9727]

When things are unclear it's worse. You are scared

[@atillagamercheto9132]

Well the 92 year old guy lived his life he could have lived for another 8 years but it's ok doesn't matter he seemed happy so just send him back home and let the man die in piece

[@amariliscatclaw142]

I just want to brace it and ask why it took so long...

[@slowclimbertothetop4572]

I am also shaken...she is brave. If i could go back would preffer such a career

[@bobuk161]

That doctor not only looks like an angel but has the heart of an angel. She is indeed a beautiful soul doing such wonderful work.

[@bwilburn542004]

Bob UK That wig though. Ugh!

[@bobuk161]

@@bwilburn542004 you think?

[@pandalilith3211]

What doctor ?

[@abcxyz3783]

@Bob UK perhaps it didn’t occur to you that she might be a cancer victim herself. Like my hospice nurse partner I job share with who also wears a wig

[@bobuk161]

@@abcxyz3783 I'm sure there could be any back story to anyone. Is there a point you are trying to make?

[@parisz]

The doctor is just next level. Bless her heart.

[@bryan_tang]

Pete passed away last year in October 17, 2019. He served in the U.S. Navy in World War II.

[@LifeOfJimbo]

That’s a year ago today - so sorry to learn of his passing

[@nikxmux8276]

May he rest in peace

[@brittneybrisbin744]

RIP

[@abhiramisubhash583]

Rest In Power, Pete ❤️

[@gregholtz1843]

May he live forever in heaven

[@katarzynakowalska4230]

I am a young doctor and I just found my idol. I want to be like her.

[@filmchick6389]

Bless you and thanks in advance for all the service and hope you will give and bring to others. Best of luck xx

[@ennieannie6027]

💪❤️

[@carlavv5302]

Go for it. We need kindness to deal with the hardest think on life

[@lauraa2385]

You’ll be better than her believe it.

[@everythingviral972]

I hope you aren't full of hubris and think you have nothing left to learn. This is the feeling I get from most young doctors I meet.

[@seokermom]

That wedding was so beautiful and brought tears to my eyes. I’m happy they got to experience that during his final days. What a beautiful memory. Props to this doctor, I love her approach so much.

[@jethrohick]

I’m terminally ill, I was scared of death at first. I guess knowing the unknown. Now I am ready and accepted eventually I will die.

[@nerdieone1]

Hugs

[@skye162]

I hope you’re doing ok!

[@undeterminedstudent3636]

Best wishes to you

[@rocoX1234]

when you face death. you might as well spit in is face and makr the ride fun dont you think?.

[@Hadda23]

I mean we will all die

[@healingv1sion]

The moment I held my mother's hand minutes after she had died, my fear of death completely left me. If death claimed the person I loved the most in this world, then it can't possibly be a bad thing. It's just another part of this reality we find ourselves in. Even stars die, so it can't be that big of a deal to die.

[@apolicum]

But it ís that big of a deal. It's the end of everything we have ever known and felt!

[@emelial.6251]

healingv1sion this is a beautiful way to think about it

[@thisorthat7626]

@@apolicum Personally, I don't believe that, nor do many others. Perhaps it is a begining, instead of an end. It all depends upon what we believe and what we are willing to accept. Peace.

[@thisorthat7626]

healingv1sion, your mother blessed you with an understanding about death that most people will not have. Thank you for sharing your story. It will help others.

[@sweetea3272]

As someone who has had a near death experience during an emergency surgery, I can tell you that death feels as natural as breathing. Truly. The moments leading up to it might feel scary but at the actual moment of it, you just think "ohh, yeah" like on a cellular level you "remember" this was all part of the deal.

[@juliosantana4368]

My Grandfather is 99 ...He's mom paased away at 100 and he's grandma past away at 105 ...He will be 100 in 2 months..he still walks by himself and and has a great memory...I sure hope he sticks around a little longer, Amazing guy..He has so many stories to share..

[@nyancat8655]

You guys are lucky you got strong genes

[@emmanuellafreeman7409]

My grandmother was 102 when she passed last November from lung cancer. My great-grandmother passed away in 2003 at the age of 115. Your grandfather sounds like he's doing just fine 🙂

[@nonenone2669]

This is a serious question.. Can you ask him if he and his parents did anything to live for so long? or is it just geentics.

[@xerriis]

@@nonenone2669 My Mexican great grandparents have lived to their 100s. My maternal great grandma is 98 and can still walk a mile all by herself with no pain (with the help of a cane). I really think it’s about the environment you live in, your diet, and routine. In mexico, there’s a lot of walking involved. They wear their sunscreen, sleeves, and hats to protect themselves from the sun. The diets are normally always homemade and from scratch so not a lot of processed foods. They also grow some of their stuff and raise animals for consumption (or used to). The place my great grandparents are from is in a tranquil and lively town. Apart from all that, I’m pretty sure my great grandparents hardly consumed any screen time since it was all about being with family, going outside, or getting lost in their hobbies. Hope that helped a bit 🙂.

[@nonenone2669]

@@xerriis sure did. thanks.

[@winstonmccurley9953]

That 92 year old man is the most precious individual I have ever seen in my entire life

[@janethoulette1802]

He drove himself home from his 90th birthday party.

[@wordofwisdom8376]

Her Spanish is amazing for someone who learnt it as another language.

[@CynthiasTikka]

Ikr! She barely has an accent as she speaks Spanish. She speaks Spanish more fluently than some Hispanics that i know (who were born in the U.S.)

[@iamaileen2312]

Her Spanish is way better than mine. Makes me feel ashamed LOL

[@blakaeg]

She may have grown up in an Hispanic household maybe.

[@user-xx3lc6zq1m]

@@blakaeg Her name sounds real indian, so maybe not? But either way, her Spanish was great

[@compilationsmania451]

@@user-xx3lc6zq1m her name is Indian, I know because I am too. She is an Indian American person, no doubt.

[@Radbrad869]

I love how she learned Spanish so thoroughly to better communicate with her patients.

[@jovitavillalpando2827]

She s Latin

[@ellejayqueue8494]

@@jovitavillalpando2827 She is of Indian origin, with her parents being from the north of India.

[@miaa7968]

@@jovitavillalpando2827 She literally has an Indian name and some of the most obvious South Asian features. I say this as a South Asian

[@Linus-tz2tk]

​@@jovitavillalpando2827No one is Latin nowdays. Its a dead language.

[@babenning]

I cried when the Lopez's got married. And Mrs. Lopez, she is a funny, sweet lady. The doctor is amazing. We need so many more of her.

[@Hossak]

Me too. Beautiful thing to happen, fantastic of the hospital and staff to organise that :)

[@BrendaAliciaLucioGonzalez]

I also cried Mr.Lopez looked so happy and handsome and Mrs.Lopez looked beautiful. But i could see in Mr. And Mrs.Lopez eyes that they knew he was gonna die soon. I wish i was their to give Mr and Mrs.Lopez a hug

[@quico522]

i cried too

[@arriarissa4157]

I effin balled my eyes out man 😔

[@TheCaptainLulz]

“I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.” Mark Twain. And I would add, why should it inconvenience you to go back to that state?

[@truthseeker7754]

You're not dead before you're born that doesn't even make sense you just haven't existed yet

[@bananahat3350]

See, I’m not scared of myself personally being dead. I’ll be dead so I won’t experience anything. What I’m scared about is when the people I love die. I’ll never be able to have one more conversation with my best friend, hug my parents one last time, etc.

[@voicesofww2]

@@truthseeker7754 You don't exist when you're dead either

[@user-dw5gr6js3d]

Because we are so attached to this world

[@Datsyukiandeke]

@@user-dw5gr6js3d exactly, we've developed attachments and loved ones in the world that we know we will have to leave and that they will have to go on without us.

[@emilywolf7720]

That bedside wedding was absolutely gorgeous. What a blessing to see that family share in the moment together.

[@tobarragl]

Great family. We always have to see the positive in everything.

[@rawrpunzel3826]

The little kiss she gave on her 'newly wedded' husband was so beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time :(

[@gassen.zalmani2680]

Tu bé hobe belak bé for tu ne mariage pas belak African famille bé usa ne amzig et African

[@katie6044]

I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer two years ago. They removed my pancreas, gallbladder, spleen, part of my stomach, and part of my intestines. I will not die of pancreatic cancer anymore. I've been in heart and kidney failure. I'm only 36 years old. I think I fought for my two kids and my family. I was ready to give up and pass on to whatever comes next.

[@bigmona2741]

Katie I’m a random black woman in south Louisiana, same age as you, and I’m praying for you and your children. 🙏🏽❤️

[@umaimauneeb]

I m same age, i also have health issues, i have kids too, just wonder how u managed

[@BestYear2016]

💪💪💪❤️

[@desertweasel6965]

@@bigmona2741 what difference does it make what color you are?

[@lisawines98]

@@desertweasel6965 because in today’s atmosphere what color you are seems to be the only thing. Big Mona was making a very beautiful statement by acknowledging that state of affairs, setting it aside, and wishing her well. Not caring what color you are is a wonderful thing. Asking that question in the snarky way you did is ignorant and rude. Shame on you for being a snob.

[@KA-mq4wj]

I’m balling my eyes out for these critical patients. Total respect for the medical professionals who have composure and honest conversations.

[@Fausto181818]

The doctor is the complete package, brains, love and passion for her patients, great attitude and btw and her spanish is perfect, she is an angel among us.

[@pc31754]

sus

[@lelandthacker8081]

@@pc31754 shut up

[@bababoiemate7062]

@@pc31754 amogus jokes are funny but have some respect dude

[@michaeluzumaki1762]

She must have come from that h1b1 visa from india. Her home country needs people like her more than already developed US

[@Bezoeker248]

@@michaeluzumaki1762 idk man she sounds like she's just raised in America, she's probably an American citizen

[@socrates5135]

The doctor has an excellent bedside manner with her patients. She is respectful, honest and professional with patients who are facing their mortality. We need more physicians like her.

[@altidareach5068]

She’s on video of course

[@socrates5135]

@@altidareach5068 I can infer from your comment that you believe she is disrespectful, dishonest and unprofessional with dying patients when the camera is off? Wow, that's cynicism writ large on an epic scale.

[@gretlit6055]

I am so impressed of the grace and communication skills of this palliative doctor. I am an Oncology educator and we see death almost every week and i have not seen anyone be so calm and composed until i saw this video. For what you do, thank you doctor!

[@novembercold21]

On the side of a family member who lost someone to cancer, I don't agree with her "skills."

[@thegreatselkie6009]

@@novembercold21 she’s being realistic. She didn’t give your family member cancer.

[@sophialeejhonson]

​@@novembercold21what do you mean?

[@arckocsog253]

4:15 is heartbreaking. She's only 39.

[@blakaeg]

Yeah it broke my heart when she said she isn’t ready to leave her kids.

[@JodiLeaSnakeQueen]

Yup

[@brittneybrisbin744]

"I'm not ready to leave my kids." That got me💔.

[@FirstLast-nz9vo]

No it’s not

[@Ganjatom420]

Mr. gates knows best! we could hire ten teachers instead of taking care of this...

[@GreginND]

"Without mortality, I don’t know what humanity would be." So profound.

[@dzejsenka]

This doctor is wonderful ... She has so much compassion, understanding and at the same time reality and respect for patients to whom she wants nothing but dignity in the end. Her words are full of comfort, she is like a soul helping us to leave this life, only in material form. Spirituality was given to her by Eastern philosophy. She is also an excellent psychologist. Fantastic woman.

[@kayokk-]

You're correct. Hinduism has a magnificent, all-encompassing, realistic, and fearless concept of death. Om shanti Om ॐ

[@donna25871]

The day before my grandmother died she was talking to her childhood best friend who died in a concentration camp in Yugoslavia during WWII. Death is just a part of life and we are never alone.

[@thisorthat7626]

Donna Ciancioski, what a wonderful story. Thank you for sharing it. I agree with you, we are surrounded by loving souls who are with us even if we don't realize it. Your Grandmother helped show us this aspect of life - and death. Blessings.

[@joshuagraham5422]

I had a near death experience. If the real death is actually similar to this, don't be afraid. It is very calm and comforting. I also believe that this life is not the end of everything. I wish you all the best. 😊

[@___moonlight___]

Thats so interesting... i'm surprised nobody asked you how your experience was so i'm asking: How was your experience? Can you tell me in detail please?

[@oleskool4908]

Please share your calming experience? What made it calming

[@slender1362]

Were you lit on fire and thrown into the Grand Canyon?

[@joshuagraham5422]

@@slender1362 In a world filled with misery and uncertainty, it is a great comfort to know that, in the end, there is light in the darkness.

[@stevenhensman2541]

My dear beautiful friend I am a near-death experience to he is going home that beautiful tunnel the white light

[@glortw]

My therapist told me to watch this series. I am terrified of losing people close to me. It's much worse since my dad, who was my best friend, died very suddenly in 2018. I am constantly worrying about people dying. The people in this video are brave. I can't imagine being in their position. This series is a wonderful idea but I just don't know how I can ever not be freaking out about death.

[@nakitapalmer656]

Same thing happened go me. I still can't believe he's gone!! I hope this helps.

[@joegeagea8097]

Did you do something that helped that get better

[@tenjangchup]

Try reading The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. It's a bestseller and it focuses on how to understand the true meaning of life, how to accept death, and how to help the dying, and the dead. Hope this helps!

[@KathleenMortensen]

The fall of Freddie the leaf. Perfect for all ages​@@joegeagea8097

[@TakiMomoify]

My auntie suddenly died in her sleep this morning. She wasn’t even 60 years old yet. The thought that it could happen to anyone at any time is unsettling. I’m not afraid of death, per se, but I’m terrified of leaving my family behind.

[@JustBeREAL1st]

KawaiiMaple Sorry for your loss🖤🖤🖤

[@alaysiabyers1135]

Sorry for your loss❣️

[@gigigonzalez8569]

My sincerest condolences to you and your family

[@MoWorld2003]

My condolences 🙏🏾

[@melindanash9990]

So sorry for your loss. My mom died 2 months ago. I still walk around in a daze. I was the one who discovered her. It wasn't a pretty sight, blood had poured out of her mouth. I cry often it hurts so bad.

[@yv7252]

He's 92 And has been blessed to reach his age being able to spek so well . He has lived his life and this shouldn't be sad but rather comforting

[@anabarnes4654]

Wow, that doctor is mind-blowing. What incredible strength and wisdom. Thank you everyone

[@f8ofk8]

As a former nurse, I was honored and blessed to attend these holy transitions out of this world . My own is coming soon.

[@f8ofk8]

@Ana Paula 💗

[@malenaqueteimporta5729]

I hope your transition is full of peace and joy for the long journey to the other side. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers when you get there. :)

[@LadyT06]

May you transition peacefully *BEARHUG*.

[@f8ofk8]

@@LadyT06 ❤

[@f8ofk8]

@@malenaqueteimporta5729 ❤

[@dondressel452]

I always have been a compassionate person always thinking of others I lost a wife to cancer 30 years ago to cancer Now 31 years later I’m faced with terminal cancer myself I’m amazed at how far our technology has come in treating cancer I’m 63 with prostate cancer that has advanced but the oncologist has told me it’s very treatable My heart goes out to these patients and hopefully they won’t suffer

[@DRW58]

Hi Don, I’m Dave 62 also with advanced prostate cancer, on treatment and doing ok for now. Take Care Stay Safe Dave 👍🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@dondressel452]

@@DRW58 thank you Are you on zytiga by chance?

[@DRW58]

@@dondressel452 Hi Don,I am indeed and also on Firmagon injections in my stomach every four weeks. It’s uncomfortable for a few days as there’s quite a bit of liquid injected but the combination is keeping my PSA down to an undetectable level, and me alive. I had no symptoms, but fell and broke my hip a year ago this month further investigations revealed a tumour on my hip and a diagnosis of prostate cancer which had metastasised into my bones, in various parts throughout my skeleton. But I’ve been fortunate it was found, and that despite COVID, the NHS in Scotland have been able to provide me with all the treatment and support I’ve needed. Like you I’m impressed with the advances in treatment and just hope I can hang about long enough for a major break through, mean time I’ll do my best to make other men aware of the risks and get themselves checked. How about you? Regards Dave

[@billytothe6thpower]

I hope you both are doing well,.Will keep you both in my thoughts.

[@slavsteve3049]

@@DRW58 Hi, I hope you doing well and wish you the best.

[@alexb7336]

This lady delivering news to patients and their families does a fantastic job. She’s honest. Sincere and so professional. Very well done. ❤

[@cherokeesfinestindian]

I believe everyone walking this earth is just one heartbeat away from death. The healthy and sick.

[@ventibreeze6648]

CHEROKEE'S FINEST INDIAN A very wise way of looking at life.

[@tracystarks1669]

That’s actually true. We all have to walk that long walk one day

[@kemeyartusniki842]

I agree

[@deantotheizzo]

I can attest to this. My dad is a healthy 69 year old who takes care of himself and goes to the gym daily. About a month ago, his aorta unexpectedly tore and was rushed into emergency open heart surgery. Thankfully with a lot of struggles along the way, he's home today and doing well in his rehab. The doctors gave him a 10% chance of living and we were preparing for bad news. You can LITERALLY BE FINE one second, and the next second, you can drop dead. We were talking about what we're getting for dinner 3 minutes prior, next thing he's fatally bleeding internally. I guess what I'm trying to say is go live life and enjoy it. Do what you wanna do. Don't let someone tell you how to do it. You can be gone in the next 5 minutes.

[@BenDover-wm7wf]

A lyric from a song that stuck with me: “There’s two kinds of trouble in this world: living and dying.”

[@jassylaquay]

Being killed is what scares me whether it’s accidental or intentional. Not natural death.

[@elizabethsalazar9979]

Mine is drowning or in a fire. The rest i dnt care

[@idk-ch7hj]

Carol Howard I have to agree with you. Drowning isn’t that terrifying. You usually have consciousness for a 2 minutes and pass out before any of the scary stuff happens - I remember drowning when I was young and the period of time when in the water is not a part of conscious memory.

[@dunno7399]

Id hate to get kidnapped and tortured. One of my biggest fears

[@freeunderratedmusic4273]

What scares me is if I reach old age and my fear of death is still present.

[@winthover]

@@AnHeC unfortunately the choice is not ours...

[@sandral8318]

The couple who got married made me bawl my eyes out. So precious that their love has lasted a lifetime

[@Macsimus75]

This doctor is truly kind and humane. If only all were like her.

[@dee-dees.3635]

Why do you posit this?

[@susancooper3210]

She is an amazing doctor - and this is reflected in her patients. And she is still only 39! Many more years ahead of accomplishments!

[@saltyassassin]

I actually died in combat. Only reason I’m still here is due to the amazing skills and determination of an outstanding US Army Special Forces Medic. It definitely changes ones view of life. It’s all gravy from here. I do NOT fear death. Never have

[@honestysession90]

What happened? Is there something on the other side?

[@alien-ann]

So....is there a jacuzzi over there if not im gonna real peeved

[@12yearssober]

@shaun I was thinking the same thing!!!😂😂

[@melaniefeltsfagan1227]

Thank you for your service ❤️

[@tottenhamhotspurish]

@shaun - He’s respawned.

[@lorlast5204]

the guy with lung cancer 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 breaks my heart..

[@TheLotussong]

Me too..... his silence spoke to me more than words

[@chocolateidol9040]

He just wanted so badly to live...poor guy😪

[@marinasolis9332]

He is n my prayer...

[@killacali138]

I started bawling my eyes out. I wish I could just hug him

[@katarzynakowalska5768]

Mine too....I started to cry 💔

[@markmaloney8154]

What we fear most, is how we die; then we fear the loss of our life; then we fear for the well being of our loved one’s and friends. On death’s doorstep, we realize that the most important possession of life is love. It is there that we measure the true value of our life…

[@beautifulbtunlucky]

keecefly hahaha me too. I wish spend to the last dime

[@jamilvance2438]

Excellent words

[@lisamilito3480]

Very well said ....

[@idk-ch7hj]

Incorrect. My biggest fear is death itself. I am terrified of nothing, eternal nothing, unconscious for the rest of eternity. Okay, I’m stopping here I am too scared.

[@markmaloney8154]

@@idk-ch7hj It is human to fear death; we all fear it...

[@Grabbearjet]

I'm 6 weeks away from graduating to be an RN. This video has made me reconsider working in palliative care. I cried through most of this video, but I know, I feel it in my soul, that I can help comfort people and their families during times like these. As hard as it might be to work in hospice care, I know I can make a difference and it would be rewarding and honorable to do so

[@kayrom1]

I hope you do consider palliative or hospice care. I lost my mother about six weeks ago, and the incredible work of the hospice nurses was unmatched. It's truly a gift to be one of these nurses.

[@mkfd4571]

@@kayrom1 I’m sorry for your loss, Kay…

[@brentj.peterson6070]

You'll do great in whatever you choose ❤️

[@jowannapoe]

Go for it. Compassion and comfort are needed for those who are releasing their spirit free from their bodies. I hope it is there for all of us.

[@mortalemily]

This is maybe a great sign that you’re perfect for it. I’m a hospice social worker and this video made me cry! Feeling deeply is part of our credentials.

[@jennjeffs4893]

My brother was told he had a year... he was gone within 4 months. I will never forget what he went through and what his situation has left behind....

[@berryberrykixx]

I am so sorry to hear about your brother. I completely understand as well. My friend Doug was told he would have a year at minimum, and he was gone within 2 months.

[@raindrops1942]

jenn jeffs So sorry for your loss. We can all hold onto the great memories of our loved ones. Wishing you and your family well.

[@nellievanellie9935]

jenn jeffs My brother thought he had two years when I knew it would be much sooner, he was gone in two weeks... and he wanted to live. It is still heart wrenching for me

[@nitabonita86bg61]

Doctors don’t know because their are so many people who’s bodies fight super hard yet. Some people naturally without saying it give up. My mom I feel she fought because she knew we were not but I knew this so I told my self let her go.

[@pativg3939]

Sorry to hear it. I think doctors say a much longer time just to let their patients go in peace. This 48yo didn’t looks like he was going to live even 1 more month.

[@alfredomanccini9786]

We all are going to die, but knowing your expiration date must be a unique experience

[@deanb4799]

I take life so for granted. That 39 yr old Mother. This documentary my have just fundamentally changed my life. Love and light friends.

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

I can tell this doctor isn’t in it for the money (not that I’ve met any doctors that are) but she genuinely cares about the feelings of each and every person she helps. That’s crazy respectable in my book.

[@bubbabiscuitcub]

Doctors aren't rich. They have HUGE amounts of student loans and they have licensing fees for tons of stuff that we don't even think about and have to travel all over the world to attend conferences and those costs aren't always covered 100%.

[@r4tato]

As someone also with extreme anxiety towards death, I really appreciate what palliative doctors, nurses and other healthcare workers do to make these people as comfortable as possible and try to make their last moments easy. There is no comfort towards death but they're trying their hardest to make these people feel okay.

[@laquishalida3569]

The ward is lucky to have a doctor like Dr Puri, patients need doctors like her especially in their last days, someone with a kind, calming and gentle voice that comes across as compassionate and understanding.

[@gills7215]

How can you not be touched by the beauty and dignity of this . What an amazing doctor

[@robrowboski3057]

I’m gonna be 24 this year. I’m aware how fast my life is fleeting and I’m scared of dying. So scared.

[@ntsoakimotapanyane5689]

I'm turning 24 this year too and I can't help but feel the same. I have always had anxiety about death.

[@xUzi786]

I turned 24 in october 2019.

[@snow90ify]

It’s the ultimate truth for all living beings my friend. Embrace it

[@igot5onit423]

Death is just sleep but your body forgot to wake up🤯

[@emili9715]

Same, 22 here. I want to accept death as soon as possible since this fear is paralizing me

[@Sheldon1411]

I really appreciate the way the doctor communicates with the patients. Her speech is not rushed, it's almost soothing.

[@jjmurphey88]

The doctor has a very calming voice, like an ASMR voice.

[@Moluccan56]

She does!

[@sylasviper715]

For any of you who are still scared by the end. I, when I was 14, died, my heart stopped. I had 20% body burns. My last thoughts before I lost consciousness weren't negative. I was at peace. Even at 14 I was comfortable with the idea. I felt, if there even is a way to describe dying, smooth like soft butter, precise and relieved almost. There was no pain in the end, even though most of the skin on my legs was ripped away, I felt calm and soft. I felt myself floating around in the most comfortable jacuzzi ever. That's about how I can describe it. The very end, is peaceful.

[@bordereau1]

That was my biggest fear......not ending......the pain that might be there

[@sylasviper715]

@@bordereau1 Oh. The pain is there. But it turns to relief a few seconds before you pass out. Thoughts of regret and fear assault you at first, but in the final seconds, that all goes away. Basically, you're aware of your condition, but it doesn't bother you.

[@tilsgee]

@@sylasviper715 so. How do you still alive?

[@bordereau1]

@@tilsgee I was trying to figure that out as well.

[@bordereau1]

@@sylasviper715 how do you know this? I received last rites three times but am still here. How do you know this?

[@Bubblesz2414]

This is genuinely, hands down, one of the most eloquent, empowering, compassionate palliative care doctors I have ever seen. You can tell the passion behind her words and eyes, just based off this small glimpse of what her everyday is. Thank you Doctor Puri and all of the staff there for everything you guys do.

[@leslynlacey]

My sister has ALS and came to visit were we grew up one last time. She talked about her funeral like what music she wanted played. She asked me to speak at her funeral. This didn’t seem real for me. As she has lost the ability to take care of herself reality has set in. My sister is young with 2 kids still in school. Please pray for my sister and her family.

[@sarahsnowden9945]

I sent a prayer and will continue to do so

[@leslynlacey]

@@sarahsnowden9945 Thank you dearly.

[@salfromoregon4369]

My deepest sympathy. ALS is a terrible disease.

[@leslynlacey]

@@salfromoregon4369 thank you.

[@samryon3615]

I see you commented this 1 yr ago. I pray your sister is still with you 🙏🙏

[@GlassOfWater87]

'We are all born and we die, sooner or later. Mine is a little sooner.. you know...'

[@user-hx9cc1qh3h]

The resignation in his voice... I would have started crying. He's so brave.

[@antidepressant11]

Above all this doctor was beyond impressive. "Sharing a sacred moment with a patient and moving on"....and "I grew up in a very spiritual family". People like this are so precious to the human race.

[@idoartandstuff_6924]

The couple getting married made me weep such a bitter sweet moment...

[@nophoazgurl]

I appreciate how beautifully this was done. This makes me feel so uncomfortable because my death anxiety is extremely severe , but Dr. Puri is incredible and makes powerful points. I hope someone like her is there if I get sick. I appreciate this entire documentary series. Processing this uncomfortably is the only way I will ever grow. A beautiful representation of how special and incredible each of our stories are no matter where we end up the journey is so precious. I appreciate this, this documentary series, everyone who participated in it and for people taking initiative to cope with their death anxiety.

[@theGuardian]

Thanks for your comment Marie! And hope you enjoy the rest of the series. LG x

[@everready2903]

Death is just lights out. At least on this plane. Nothing to be anxious about. Most NDE's experiencers don't feel any emotional tie to their body once they'll left it.

[@breannedixon9712]

Death Wish I’m more scared of the process of dying than death, if that makes sense

[@johnoakes4143]

Breanne Dixon depends on your age how u feel about death. I was always afraid prodably because there were so many young deaths when I was in my 20s. I am surprised I have lived to 77. I really have no fear of the end of my life and honestly feel our body eases unto the death process. Recently I was diagnosed with cancer and have no fear if this takes me. Were I in my 40s still I would be terrified. Eminent death is only a progression of life’s cycle.

[@everready2903]

@@johnoakes4143 I hope you beat that cancer John! But re death I agree. As it has been said before...... In a long enough timeline, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero.

[@bigal1863]

I try to remind myself daily of this, Everyone dies, but not everyone truly lives. Live your life like you don't have a tomorrow.

[@vanessa5721]

Well said Big Al!

[@nancyfahey7518]

Usually death is a relief. It's amazing how long the body hangs in there. I know we're going to a better place. I just don't want to go too early.

[@l.t.p933]

The endless void of death

[@aaronjames3228]

@@l.t.p933 lol exactly

[@aaronjames3228]

Uh no. It's just going to be nothingness

[@Zhongligeoarchon]

@@aaronjames3228 says who?

[@melanietoth1376]

It's an unknown. I'm ready to go where those before me have gone. Life is a gift and death is inevitable. I think its important to embrace both.

[@falanqeeye5106]

Why does youtube recommend me this when im scared of death everyday. Buh i accept bcoz everyone is going that road one day in their lives.

[@Iceis_Phoenix]

Don't fear death. Energy never dies.

[@nitabonita86bg61]

I also don’t fear death, I also fear the how my time will come. Since we live in a scary world.

[@marissalevine188]

@@nitabonita86bg61 yeah im scared it will be painful... if its painless then i'm fine

[@leishayoung4124]

Why are you scared of death?

[@leishayoung4124]

@@marissalevine188 It will be what it is, don't live in fear of it, just live your life and try and enjoy every moment. Put death out of your mind completely.

[@SunniHorizons1]

I don’t even know how I came upon this video, but it hit me hard. As an ICU Nurse that’s seen so many patients transition, I agree with the Doctor in the beauty of recognizing that I won’t be here forever. I’ve had several beautiful conversations with those passing, and I am no longer afraid of what comes next. Death is the single thing guaranteed to us all.

[@marsargoxmiso1695]

The 39 year old mum I lost it when she said she didn’t want to leave her kids so heartbreaking

[@khonkhosilelihle7414]

Indeed ey.

[@Austrian_Painter49]

Life must go on💪

[@lightninggaming016]

As a man that got to me the most because she seem so young and also has 3 children I teared a little

[@carabeeton6164]

What a brilliant doctor ❤️

[@theGuardian]

Isn't she amazing! Leah

[@marcaskew7846]

Can you tell me whats brilliant about the doctor

[@veniaminchira7740]

Echo 9970 She's SUPPOSED to do that! That's her job (in my opinion a lot more than a job); so, again, what's so special about her?

[@assjam3104]

Veniamin Chira Many doctors aren’t able to hold it in so strongly like her.

[@marisoto9873]

Veniamin Chira The thing is that many doctors don’t do that though. She has sympathy and is straight to the point.

[@95AlexKid]

"I feel grateful for the fact that I won't be here forever because it forces me to make meaning of the time I do have"..... that hit me hard

[@wakayama1991]

a really brilliant doctor, a true credit to her profession. Excellent, sensitive reporting too, well done and thank you.

[@ernurseashley]

Wow. Coming from a nurse, that end of life doctor was AMAZING! She truly cares so much about her patients and she so eloquently talks to the patients about their own death. It’s beautiful.

[@KM-nj3cm]

I'm 60 years old and relatively healthy. Death scares me the closer I get to it. Granted we can all go at any moment, I get anxiety at times. I've had a lot of death in my life. It never gets easier. I just hope I go suddenly. I'm a firm believer in the right to end ones life through euthanasia. I live in a right to die state. If I'm diagnosed with a terminal illness, I want to end it all before it gets really bad. I can't put my family through it. I've seen too much suffering.

[@ellenfisher6341]

Thank you for this kind & thoughtful documentary.. My sister is 8 years younger than me & is battling Renal Cell Carcinoma for the 3rd time. This time it is stage 4 . The Oncologist has stopped the Immunotherapy treatments for now , because it is destroying different systems in her body. She is a fighter & has deep faith . She was a Home Health Care nurse & dearly loved by all her patients, even the 'cranky' ones. So if that times comes, I pray she is cared for by a beautiful soul like this doctor.

[@slancha2557]

When the doctor assured the patient's wife that their current conversation wouldn't be their last, you can tell from the woman's smile that that was exactly what she needed to hear.

[@ashlid5653]

what a beautifully well spoken doctor. the 92 year old was adorable. he's so blessed. informative video

[@Mark-yb1sp]

Such a sweet man at 92 with a sweet smile. It made me smile just watching it.

[@jasperm.478]

She really threw me off when she took out the Spanish

[@rescuelegacy4506]

One of the most touching and necessary presentations about a dreaded subject we all must confront. So generous of the dying persons and their families to give us a window into their lives.

[@nepadron]

Someone I know was diagnosed with cervical cancer and given months to live. She is 32. I have followed her struggle and supported her -- she is scared to die, but also wants to get out of the painful life she is living now. No one can imagine the mental state until they go through it themselves...like every important step of life (including dying and death).

[@sandyyy83]

WOW 32 that is heartbreaking.. I couldn't imagine the fear of knowing I am at deaths door at such a young age.. Prayers for your friend!