THE JOYRIDE EP 9|| Major announcement/ why traditional roles don’t work for us

Hey Guys,
This episode is all about gender roles and also by popular demand we’ve decided to move the JoyRide live experience to a larger venue, so we can have more of you there, We're at Nairobi Cinema. Get your tickets for the JoyRide Live Experience here; mtickets.com/b... or dial the USSD code *229*91#
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[@BenCyco]

Thank you guys for watching this episode, always appreciated 🙏🏽 I would also kindly request we keep our comments respectful and allow everyone to have their opinions without getting agitated, see you next week😊

[@wangarinyambura9797]

three things 1. Ben's outfit is on point 2. I applaud your consistency 3. Your choice of topics and questions is usually very well thought out, I always answer with you guys and learn so much about myself in the process keep up guys

[@joy2271]

I actually agree with Ben. You're supposed to support your partner in public even when he/she is wrong alafu you'll go figure it out later. Don't let them look stupid alone, look stupid together.. That's the whole point of being partners

[@sindiekamweti7855]

I second this.Support him in public but when you get home tell him where and why he went wrong.

[@laureenogada23]

Ben arudishe cyco podcast ..and bring back nyawira to the conversations🙄😊 huko cyco podcast those episodes were👌👌👌👌👌

[@thesoundgirlpod]

Ile confidence Ben anakuanga nayo is very underrated..😂🤣 He assured us he knows the difference between roles and responsibilities only for him to define them in the same exact words. 😂🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@jesintahwanjiku2412]

😂😂😂😂

[@joymbithe4052]

😂😂😂 I don't see why people should get agitated. I found it funny and interesting. Just because they're Infront of the camera doesn't mean they're experts, just like everyone else they're learning and growing 🤷🏽‍♀️ I'm here for it all.

[@imungukalevera8671]

This was clearly an interesting but difficult topic to discuss for you both. I could sense that but thanks for letting us into your lives. Great learning tool

[@emilymaranga7365]

I noticed too. They struggled on this one.

[@Beautifulkhaleesi]

It’s really the honesty for me. I’m always learning so much in these podcasts. This one was the funniest to me yet. I literally choked on tea laughing at Ben saying english is not so hard for him but inalemea Wanjiru. Wah! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Keep up the amazing work! Ben, if I may offer free unsolicited advice, if after the 2 satos your perspective and answer haven’t changed, please “perspect” until they do.

[@denisnzuka2788]

Ben ameanza kutoka kwa shell sasa😂...The Tension on this episode.

[@justherke]

The compensation is not for giving birth, its for the fact that they stop their life to primarily take care of the child...while yours doesn't stop. I don't think your partner expects a Lamborghini or a big house, because its not a push present. Its acknowledging that them taking on the role of primary care affects other aspects of their life more than it does yours. A good trade off would be, she does the first three months of maternity, then you do the next three months. You sleep with the baby and do the night feeding etc. as the primary parent and even stay home and do parent things while she goes out to work. You do the diaper work, hiring and firing nannies, run the home (plan for meals etc), buy the child clothes and all the things that mums do... Again its perspective

[@evelyneserro]

You sum it up very well. No matter how present the husband/partner is, the mental load is ALWAYS heavier on the mom. It can never be 50/50. It's not a competition.

[@michellekijedi3436]

Well structured👌

[@WachuiDeborah]

I think the issue is with the wording.. "compensation" makes it seem so materialized. Like you've birthed our child now I have to pay you.. Which honestly you really can't do. The woman obviously will do most of the work but it's not right to now expect to be "compensated" for giving birth. What she needs is support from the partner to ease her load. But It'll never be 50/50.

[@lornambeyu]

I'm probably late but better late than never....I've gone through the comments and wow only the "OG joyriders" will understand that we love the rawness...We're all here for the fun and to learn from each other...Ben & Wanjiru are just being authentic just got into a new marriage after being in a relationship so I don't think it's anyone's place to judge them according to this small snippet of their life that they chose to share with us! Let's enjoy content and learn to respect boundaries at the end of the day "you can't assess someone's character based on a KZbin video guys cmon! "

[@ruthnjoroge2492]

Cooking and cleaning are basic life skills not gender roles. Otherwise enjoying the joyride podcast very much, never missing an episode ❤️

[@SeanEditz6000]

Would you say the same about Providing and protecting? Aren't they also life skills?

[@G_dan]

So is paying bills, fixing things in the house,etc.

[@Habibtay]

Do you give birth? Do you breastfeed? Providing and paying bills is an ABSOLUTE BARE MINIMUM. Maybe go through a whole pregnancy first then revist the topic of provision and protection.

[@thatgirlnjesh]

I hope that in the future when you look back at these videos, that you will not regret anything you said about/to your partner. Some of these questions seem very difficult to answer on air...like the compensation one...

[@kimmyWams]

Insightful Conversation💯 I think it’s beautiful how you guys express independent thinking…Loyalty to yourselves and your families and accountability in a marriage setting💯💯. Awesome! Awesome!

[@monicahneemax4495]

"Mzee wangu mimi hapa sikuelewa hii swala " 😀😀😀😀 Another lit episode ! Ben & Wanjiru have two strong personalities 💥💥

[@annelynnahmaish5414]

I related with Ben so much especially about answering questions that you had not gone through prior...hadi naombanga watu wasifikirie Mimi ni mjinga😂😂😂😂

[@irenengige832]

Ben si utabebea wanjiru hio juice kwa live recording 😂😂 But anyway you guys have amazing amazing content 💕

[@terryannenkatha9942]

Love love this episode guys,❤️❤️ hee wanjiru is boiling ben ako tu kutumia so many words to explain himself Ben please sijui ulilala wapi hio siku😂😂😂😂 also will you guys be bringing in guestssssss both married and single depending on the topics i hope that for season two

[@roselynewanjikuofficial5491]

Every time I'm watching these episodes its like going through premarital honestly. Love it love it

[@joycemwangi6768]

As always (that is all your episodes), number 1 is for Wanjiru and number 7 for Ben. I think it shows just how the universe has both your backs. You guys are really in sink (yin and yang). I love that for you guys!!!!!!

[@juliemugure8318]

This was a very difficult conversation, that most couples are not able to have, especially in public. Well done guys

[@joywairimu8002]

Ben, you're podcast has helped me through so much, ever since I discovered it, I just couldn't stop watching your videos. Congratulations on your new podcast The Joy Ride. I love viewing your content so much❤❤

[@jordanpickering5557]

I love your podcast so much. What software do you use to edit your videos? Your editing skills are on another level.

[@suewayesu5908]

This is the most authentic channels in KZbin, people where are you??! Let's get to 50k by the live recording priiiis, I'll be there with all my relas lol

[@junemureithi3680]

The one who edits though 😅😅👏👏... Aaaah this podcast 😍

[@laurynkj8120]

Aaaaiii Ben. Hiyo ya kuanua nguo zii. Kwani ulikuwa uanue zako uache za Wanjiru 😂😂 every man for himself. hiyo ni BM ya ukweli. anyway good episode.

[@thesoundgirlpod]

It's the way Wanjiru keeps asking about Cyco Podcast na yeye style channel yake alituabandon aki. 😭😅😅 Loved the content as always! 🤗

[@chelseamwaura6310]

me at 12am laughing watching you guys .you really inspire me .Nawapenda bure

[@annetteannette6978]

So proud of you guys 👏. Get it going gang

[@manallove1]

i would love to see you as guests in "over 25 channel" or may be you doing a video with over 25 crew cz i love such more like podcast converstions about relationship and marriage.

[@amproductions.2286]

This Episode was moto sana, So Many insights, But I felt the pressure that came with the topic as well. Really Really Interesting!!!

[@_milliemoney]

Eish Ben kwani how often does the car need fixing? Also, how often do you eat? Hapo kwa kitchen na hapo kwa not compensating your wife for getting babies.... Nope, Wanjiru is right, get perspective 😂😂 I enjoyed the episode however

[@justherke]

I have been wondering the same thing

[@laurawaithira15]

Loved this episode!!! On to the next 💕💕

[@mwanjeri737]

ben was clear at first partner, family n friends its a no brainer

[@joydavis274]

Wanjiru's points are fire... I like to see how Ben waits for an explanation....Yo not the best at organising but yo the best at cleaning...

[@martinmutuku8722]

What's the story behind this shared juice on the pod,ama ni ile Ben alipewa on the first breakup 😂😂

[@jesintahwanjiku2412]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@angelasabinawanjiku2206]

😂😂😂😂Omg

[@danjarts254]

Lol😂

[@manallove1]

aii i think this is the kind of channels i should follow i love loved everything talked about in this specific video..and for that i subscribe.

[@milkahwaithira5223]

It's wanjiru for me , asking the past😁😁😁, and Ben telling 🤣, aaaaa relating this , I love you people

[@furahathestar]

Yeeeey👏🎉🎉🎉Another episode

[@gracethuku4555]

Mmh this episode must have been a hard one for you. I kept going back to hear the words again..from this, we learn that it is okay to have different perspectives in a relationship as long as you disagree healthily

[@karrey2706]

Yeah. Wajuru's response about Loyalty, that was def a politically correct answer 😂😂😂

[@jesintahwanjiku2412]

I would probably support my husband in public even if he is in wrong or stay quiet then go home correct him ain't no way am bringing him down with people

[@NthenyaKimeu1805]

Ben’s outfit is giving🔥🔥

[@_rose.mutua_]

So that's how it feels getting a shout-out on radio(I☺️☺️☺️) 😂😂jokes aside though. Great conversation as usual. Well structured questions and responses!!And if we are still toying around with who to pass the questions I'm down🤪😂😂 ! So much love for The Joyride❤️❤️

[@mylittlechannelthatcould..1410]

Hii stori ya Kupika tuambiwe kwa live recording

[@nellygrace373]

People! Marriages work differently, there’s no manual for all. What both Ben and Wanjiru are comfortable doing in theirs,if you’re are not or wouldn’t be,it’s fine,curate a “manual” that would work for you or follow traditions,et al.

[@estherwanjiku2290]

Wanjiku njiru is something else.

[@wanjohikim3836]

Ben, hiyo swali umepewa assignment kujia leakage. Great episode as always.

[@Karey_Mwangi]

Yaaaaaay...I will make it to this one. Nairobi cinema it is

[@patriciahnditu2190]

Ben should have a whole episode of reading the comments,, hehehe kila mtu anataka kujiskia akitajwa,,,,,

[@cielobreezeofficial7535]

Your consistency is to die for There's no episode I miss and I love y'all

[@dylarrennjeri8262]

Wow,umepotelea wapi cielo

[@Sharon_Njoki.M]

I demand an answer to question 13, why was it edited out?

[@akinyishazron]

Me too

[@bmwangi2617]

me too. why did they edit that part?

[@Hot_PlateMeals]

You must support your hubby,hata akinyamba in public..you say..waah! I think umekula bad food,...am gonna try cook healthy foods..😁

[@winniewangui9661]

I love love your podcast ,that question about maternity is a sensitive topic looking forward as disect it, I'm learning a lot from you two keep up with the good job

[@sophyokeyo1283]

I believe everyone should be whole as they enter the relationship ,otherwise getting someone so they can do the things you don't like or want to do is just unfair.Personally if you don't show me that you'd do something for yourself,don't expect me to do it for you.Na maneno ya weaponised incompetency....we can all do better.

[@faithwndr8]

Wanjiru whispering 🤣🤣🤣 @49:39

[@fancychepkorir5095]

Favs💖💖

[@G_dan]

Where do we draw the line? What makes these roles traditional? What are the modern roles? Do we make a duty roster? Do we share all the bills in half?

[@TheJoyridepod]

We do what works best for each couple. Every partnership is so different from the other and there is no right way or wrong way. We can only share from personal experiences and what works for us, but ultimately what's important is doing what's best for each relationship.

[@G_dan]

@@TheJoyridepod on that we agree, but my point of contention is that we are slowly demonizing gender roles. As much as we are working towards gender equality, we honestly need to distinguish the two and appreciate that they can co-exist. Men tend to be interested in things and women tend to interested in people. For example, we have more men than women who are engineers and more women than men who are nurses. Men tend to be providers and protectors and women tend to be nurturers and caretakers. There's nothing wrong with that and it doesn't mean we are not equal.

[@kkiesh19]

With you in this point, Dan w. I think there are some wrong ways to split responsibilities, inasmuch as relationship circumstances are different. I think on the whole most relationships are more alike than different.

[@WachuiDeborah]

I'm many households these days women also contribute financially to the household. Gender based roles were there kitambo because women only gave birth and stayed in the house. We are now empowered and get to sit in board rooms as well. So expecting a woman to have a career, contribute to the home financially, birth kids and take care of them and cook all at the same time is a belief that should not serve us anymore in this age. We should learn to evolve with the times not just have that one belief from 1954 and stick with it in 2022. Times are different, households are different

[@Mildred23908]

Wait what did those words that were said with M7 mean. Much love from kampala!

[@annemwaura3910]

Another episode 🥳🥳🤗

[@wanguimeega2915]

Ben amesema ascending onda😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@edinahkendi9871]

Live recording hatutakuchekaa ben juu haujuii meaning ya words🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@fridanjeru8384]

Watu wa runyenjes we coming 😂

[@zenakashitsa]

Your sign to subscribe to this channel and like this video 🤗.The Joy Ride is such a vibe,I love it here 💃.

[@sarahndungu1606]

Bens outfit is fire

[@ElsieMagu]

Is there parking at Nairobi Cinema?

[@sheexndirangu]

Following too....

[@okakafelix3644]

You can park at agakhan walk parking

[@marynjonjo8161]

Poor Ben , wish he knows!

[@faithngatia5378]

Ben ambia Wanjiru correcting grammar is siding with the colonialists😂

[@estherwanjiku2290]

Ben cyco jitayarishe kuwa mboch because traditional roles are there for a reason. You can't be expected to provide and still get home, cook, fold your clothes. Wow. Marriage is hard.

[@jacqueskarani]

watching 10 months later 😂😂,anything "controversial" on Ben ,Wanjiru presses him to answer but anything "controversial" on Wanjiru ,she gives that look that says "No,No,No"😂😂😂

[@patrawanjiru4704]

She should genuinely wear Maua stuff. I mean what’s a better marketing platform☺️

[@magmag9425]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭 this was interesting.

[@rebeccaadeli6124]

Ben always gets number 7 😂

[@EveGem]

Yaani Ben created his own planet on earth 😂😂😂 anaishi venye anataka

[@katepetals]

I love this couple.. as much as the topic is sensitive, not downplaying the fact that putting your personal lives out here isn't easy. I come in peace, but wanjiru is sort of dismissive of Ben that it feels disturbing to watch wanjiru respond each time Ben makes his point.

[@CuguwaMichaelnaNyawi]

Imagine sio lazima uwatch. Kama unaskia ako dismissive anza show yako ukue unafanya vile unatAka.

[@katepetals]

@@CuguwaMichaelnaNyawi we are not doing this here. Your choice of words is disgusting. Stick to kilimani mums where you belong.. If you read my comment again, I've respectfully given an opinion. Grow up woman

[@kategitau3028]

@@CuguwaMichaelnaNyawi that's kinda mean Wanjugo..she said I come in peace..having a different opinion is not a bad thing

[@kkiesh19]

She does come in peace. They put their relationship in PUBLIC (for better, or worse) so it's fair to make PUBLIC observations, in a kind manner. This celeb life is hard.

[@dylarrennjeri8262]

I think everyone once gave a partner more privileges than they deserved

[@Young_Techiez]

I like Wanjiru's response to the giving birth thing. She was like 'I'm not dealing with this' And Ben neutralises it with humor.

[@I_Marwa]

Hio VVIP tuambiwe price mapema tuongezee on whatever we've paid for early bird.

[@simonkihara1789]

I have keenly followed you guys for a while, and watched you transition from dating to marriage. I think marriage is not as easy as we may presume, It needs work. That said, i feel like Ben is losing his frame by trying to be politically correct and "woke" Stick out your guns

[@foodiek.6836]

Ben focus on your music, stop this nonsense. We don't want to hear about your relationship. Keep that to yourself.