#TheLoveHour

[@feelingwill]

Please don’t end the Love Hour! You two have absolutely no idea how many marriages you are saving. Even if it’s once a month, y’all are a whole ministry that is desperately needed. I promise I’ll join Patreon.

[@daniellehacker]

“We protect those who don’t deserve protection.” -I felt that. That’s the Jesus way.

[@BosseLadi12]

This hit home

[@SD-hs2pk]

yes that s beautiful

[@NancyAh.]

So true!

[@avaholloway32]

Yes I felt that too and as @Tobe Nwigwe would said #OUU

[@ckfields7146]

My mother always says you don’t have to tell anybody your business for them to understand. I live by that. It keeps me looking young, sane and unbothered at all times.

[@kornandpeasandcarrot]

Yassss. We are staying moisturized and unbothered in 2021! Lol.

[@TWilliams88]

Preach!!!

[@droosyg252]

@@kornandpeasandcarrot #moisturizedandunbothered LOVE it! 😍

[@gracious2gf]

Kev: "We could clear our name and end the conversation, but we don't". Translation: Liss and I could air this whole thang out with receipts... But we tryna be cool 😂😂😂

[@teesherese7849]

To quote Liss herself: H E L L O.

[@CourtneyEmon]

Period!! Liss said don’t play with her she got the receipts 💪🏾🗣

[@teatean2972]

Correct

[@gracious2gf]

@Andrea C exactly. Now that's what I call grace and mercy 🙌🏾

[@mrsvr]

Can we do a video on top 5 things that are going well in marriage. Like maybe things you thought you would struggle with but you two do better together?

[@Juice-ig3jz]

That's a good idea!

[@tybooskie]

Thumbs this all the way up!!!

[@brittanyjackson1016]

Love!

[@judymwende8876]

Yes!

[@mozimama5144]

I love this!

[@soulfulki]

Liss and Angel have unlocked a new level in their friendship because that TRANSITION I was like okayyyy Lisss 😂😂😂

[@MizdeeLiving]

Lizzo was just saying this. It’s a whole different level of peace not hearing the mess! Someone said what you think about me is none of my business. PERIODT!

[@OurKindofEntertainment]

80k subscribers?! You're gonna be at 100k in no time :)

[@ebbypetes]

Kev we know you and liss are good good people. Those that have been following for a while understand that. I'm glad I didn't even know about no drama. I love yall tho. Keep the main thing, the main thing. ❤❤❤

[@afletcher257]

AMEN & AMEN 💕💕💕

[@trinawms3749]

This is the realest couple out there, I pray Jesus keep you in his perfect peace!

[@nichelleandrews1173]

This Love Hour has truly hit the nail in the head for me. I've just had/celebrated 26 yrs married, 28 yrs together. But these last 5yrs have been challenging for me. This discussion has put my feelings into words, I couldn't have said it better. I'll listen to this again, take note(points) that I need to talk with my husband with and do my part (to self-reflect). Thank you!

[@sheribarnes8737]

New levels, new devils Kev. Social media can be so ruthless sometimes 😔We know you ain’t operating on that wavelength…..praying God protects you from that energy and may His light shine through you and your content 🙏🏾🕉💜

[@1LocWonder]

Raise your hand if you like before watching a second…I’ll go first 🙋🏾‍♀️

[@Future-zx9ts]

When Kevin was talking about people “existing” in marriages and people saying “they should’ve gotten divorced 25 years ago”, it made me realize - those couples should’ve been in therapy 25 years ago. But it wasn’t readily available. Thank God that therapy is easier to access now than it ever has been. Of course, getting your spouse to go is another thing. But at least it’s available for individuals, so they can at least work through their own issues and decide the best course of action to take. The generations before us didn’t generally have that option, so we are blessed to hopefully make better and healthier decisions.

[@raisingaking9303]

My husband and I had a similar conversation a few months ago. For me, Articulation > Communication. My husband can be somewhat “wordy” and so sifting through the meaning sometimes is daunting. But when he takes a moment and really articulates what he means we have the most amazing conversations.

[@mschaneyful]

I go through this with my husband and sometimes find myself not paying attention anymore bc I'm waiting for all the filler to bypass and get to the meat and potatoes.

[@CherieButler]

Trials and tribulations got y'all out here preaching the best sermons ever. Seriously, this is some of the best advice ever and can be used in non-romantic relationships as well. Thank you for sharing and hooking us up even though you're exhausted from dealing with a bunch of mess.

[@fdoctor79]

Congrats on 80k subscribers, Liss. Just remember, "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; and small minds discuss people." - Eleanor Roosevelt

[@davidasmart1082]

"CORRECT" lol 🤣 gets me every time

[@kimberlybrown5594]

I’m in the 95% who had no clue until your video. I had to watch some bull videos just to make sense of your video. Now back to the app and patreon as per my regular schedule

[@robn314]

Right because I’m still lost

[@brangeeellis3083]

@@robn314 me too 🤷‍♀️

[@latoyataylor5382]

Been rocking since the beginning as well and am still confused! 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@yungJA30]

So what actually happened? Just so this episode makes more sense

[@1LocWonder]

@@robn314 Stay that way, it’s not helpful! Don’t investigate

[@christianwatkins7185]

Kev, stay up! If you don't have enemies, then you aint doing nothing! Also, this episode was great. Yes, Melissa, you have the teacher anointing!

[@LG-kx8xl]

Higher Levels, Higher devils & to some 👿 any attention is good attention when they don't have it on their own. Stay UP!

[@elektrasmagicalstorytime]

They def are anointed!

[@kellentraylor4949]

I love when Liss says "yassss" and "correct"

[@ATMM514]

You can’t stop people from believing what they want, but you can keep yourself from caring about it. Love your life and love well the ones that matter.

[@msfefeenicole8158]

I wish I could like this episode a million times. This episode has shed so much light on why my first marriage failed. We both had issues with communication, being vulnerable and transparent with each other. In my new relationship I will be implementing these aspects. I LOVE this episode so much

[@jessicakanwhen870]

This is, by far, the BEST definition of the word communication I have ever heard!! Communication is being honest, transparent, and vulnerable. Wow!! So good!! We’ve been married for 10 years and have been to numerous marriage conferences and marriage counselors and I’ve never heard communication defined so accurately and yet so simple. Love, love, love it!!

[@eritreangal]

Kev just want to say that we know who you are and the other ppl who I wont mention honestly a bunch of bitter bettys its so clear to see, its sad. Keep shining keep spreading joy and doing your thing!

[@beingmelisaann1728]

You are so right! A lot of our parents and grandparents stayed together bcuz it was socially unacceptable to divorce and the women couldn’t afford to leave. They didn’t do a lot of communicating, they did a lot of tolerating. Men had whole other families across town. I heard a therapist on Oprah years ago say “let’s stop celebrating time in the game”, let’s instead say “how’s that working for you”. The answer might surprise you.

[@coco698]

32:01 LOL.... Liss: "Oh, is that what you be doing?" Kev: No..😶

[@jaderichardson6353]

Melissa can write a book with all the gems she be dropping. This was a good episode!

[@jadaj.8275]

59:01, God gave you that revelation for me. I’m am in this moment literally reflecting on mine and others communication style. I literally shared this specific episode with 6 people! Wow!! When I ask God for signs/answer and he come through in the nik of time WOW! Thank you again

[@tybooskie]

I'm still laughing at someone telling KOS to call HBO. That took me out🤣🤣😂🤣😂😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂. Outside of something morally egregious Imma still watch. I have never come across any influencer that I haven't side eyed at least once.

[@dsanders401]

Im your youtube audience (and patreon) who has no idea what's going on. Just watching your videos and laughing 🤣

[@Teeville1]

Long live The Love hour!!!!!

[@vc9732]

Choosing to protect those who don’t deserve it. Man that’s my life Kev. Look. Keep doing what y’all doing which is uplifting and making us laugh smile And think. Classy Liss 💖

[@dinathadiva7981]

“Protecting those that don’t deserve protection” - I FELT THAT!!!!

[@steventhompson8333]

That’s a good Christian man right there. I would let the chopper spray…LOL. The Lord ain’t through with me yet.

[@afletcher257]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 It's the honesty & self awareness for me! 💕💕💕

[@ebonimccain6988]

I love that movie War of the Rose's and I think everyone should watch it because you can see key moments where they could've stopped and worked with each other or just not been together at all but they didn't so they just imploded.

[@mrs.jayallison4792]

This was a great episode! Honesty, Vulnerability and Transparency equals Effective Communication.

[@joyade8495]

I was literally re-watching last weeks episode and this just dropped! Look at God! 🙌🏿

[@kirky3051]

Kev came for everybody in the beginning even your grandma’s cooking 😂

[@dakaraijohnson4315]

He's right. KZbin is my only social media. So when the initial video came out I had to ask my daughters if they heard anything. Lol. Fan of 5 years or so.

[@Amber_AB_Boyd]

Using i-messages allows individuals to be honest, vulnerable and transparent. I am learning that it helps and I try to use it often!

[@Joce-bl7qi]

@boydab13 At first I thought you meant the Apple to Apple messaging system and I was so confused, like what’s the new feature that’s helping relationships lol

[@Joce-bl7qi]

@ boydab13 Oh… I hadn’t reached the point where she explained that yet lol

[@LG-kx8xl]

SILENCE speaks volumes AND you don't even have to repeat it for those in the back that didn't hear you Because it repeats on its own WITHOUT effort from you. Stay UP! 🙏

[@aleialaw]

I think the meanness comes from unresolved pain. And the bad part is that sometimes it may have NOTHING to do with your partner.

[@ChelsaSMoore]

Liss, I see books on your journey and marital guidance coming from YOU! Your revelation is God! Kev be dropping nuggets too. #WritetheBook

[@sramirez2583]

@MrsKevOnStage I hope the this show doesn't end any time soon. I absolutely love the open and sometimes very difficult topics you guys discuss. As a single woman who is still healing and learning to love herself 10 years after a very toxic and traumatic relationship these topics give me a totally different perspective. I won't say that you guys are relationship goals but I will say that I admire you and KevOnStage for being so open and transparent. Plus I'm learning so much about myself and what I think a healthy and loving relationship should look like.

[@MizdeeLiving]

Yes Liss! I call that EFFECTIVELY communicating. You can talk, say words and the communication not be effective.

[@nothks0]

We are in this until the end! #stagekrew ❤ your work speaks for itself.

[@karenm1965]

Amen. Love the staying out of drama & keeping focus on what you want to put out into world & protecting your peace. Love your channel!🙏🏽💕👏🏽 “put proverbial headphones on “ 🎧

[@1LocWonder]

That was a WORD!

[@daniellesullivan9560]

Love Melissa 2.0!!! I relate to this drive to find,embrace,and give yourself permission to love the person YOU want to be and not what the world thinks you should be or How you should act💕

[@VeeJL366]

Had this on last night while I was crafting. Had to listen to it again this morning to take notes. So many good gems!!!

[@MsFlipped365]

The love hour podcast!!!! I’ve been listen regularly since the 1st ep with Tab and Chance ❤️. Liss in unbelievably gorgeous!!!!!! 🥰

[@shonb989]

Me just coming back watching episodes ive missed.. and getting my HVT up in my single life now for when the marriage comes.. because That Vulnerability gets me every time. This was soooo Good!

[@val287]

And, Kev's & Lis's statement on their approach to this situation is one reason why I'm a supporter... they focus on and bring positivity. Onward and upward!

[@satarra2much547]

Child this was amazing. Not just good for couples that have been married for years but also for months. Plus @mrskevonstage the whites of your eyes are shining like diamonds only an MUA would notice that but I see you girl!!!

[@piqueny8872]

May god bless your marriage forever Y’all both are my free therapy thank you!

[@catjames]

The Krew knows the integrity of the Fredericks.

[@LadyPsalmist99]

Absolutely WE DO!!!🎬🎬

[@kayekaye08]

Period.

[@BridgettS]

We need to keep them lifted in prayer though because it has to be draining on the spirit.

[@LadyPsalmist99]

@@BridgettS definitely 💪🏾

[@UKLeonie]

@@BridgettS YEP YEP YEP YEP 🎬🎬🎬🎬

[@kayekaye08]

I love this conversation. I watch your videos and other couples with the hopes that it rubs off and I get my life partner one day & we can communicate this clearly & effectively.

[@feliciamayfield2375]

This was so good!! I’ve been married for 12 years and I’ve never been able to put words to these issues but you guys made it plain! I can’t wait to discuss this with my husband because I’m definitely guilty of not being vulnerable for fear of rejection and also creating the exact situation I was trying to avoid. Smh. Thank you for making it make sense!❤️

[@anai5563]

When you have to scroll back cos the transition into the ad was so good!! I mean good heavens Liss that 3rd love one was just waow!

[@peepieicu]

I need to start a tip jar so I can join all of the patreons … the perks! 🦋🦋🦋

[@shaniceledbetter9765]

Where is the Melissa Fredericks relationship book? I love the podcast but I would definitely buy your book or audible! ❤️ 📖

[@LifeWithAlliDaily]

This was good y'all. That whole part Liss broke down about Honesty, Vulnerability etc...was soooooo important!! I need a ho to list of ALL the podcasts She listens to. BC I cant keep up with books. I still be buying them... And finding it soooo much Harder to open them as LIFE goes!

[@theetravelhippie]

26:45 my dude and I have similar conversations like this all the time. What is the true test is taking all the concepts and using them in real life - not just looking back introspectively after you’ve done something wrong and seeing what you could have done better

[@sherondaness7505]

FACTS!!! Felt that deep "You create the environment you are trying to avoid"

[@alannathompson7977]

So glad the Love Hour is still here.

[@jadaj.8275]

Hello.Great video! This applies to friendships as well!!- WOW WOW WOW I feel so enlightened, seen and heard from this podcast. Thank you Melissa & Kevin.

[@elanc3264]

I just read Yvonne Orji's book (via Audible)! I'll have to join your book club discussion...her book is phenomenal!

[@DJ-wl9iw]

The gems dropped in this episode I’d venture to say also apply to sibling rivalry.

[@sshakiahh]

Y’all stay dropping gems! I’m 28 and haven’t really had a good example of what a marriage looks like and this is it! I love kev and liss

[@CiaoColeG]

Dr. Honda from Psychology in Seattle is incredibly well-informed about attachment styles

[@francares4utherapist504]

Yes! I have been listening to him since 2018.

[@CassidyGrace410]

Liss, I just want you to know that I'm a newlywed and I intentionally came back to rewatch The Love Hour to gain wisdom. Thank you for all of the seeds and the harvest that these seeds of wisdom will produce. I 'ppreciate ya! 🤎

[@charlseygibson1537]

This episode is the first one to make me cry. So much knowledge. So much truth. Will be sharing this with my partner in hopes it can revive our relationship. Thank you, both, for your vulnerability and honesty.

[@johannas.6434]

Perhaps you all can dig into defense mechanisms which are often unconscious behaviors. Therapy helps decode these things. But often we don't understand how we can simply be unaware of certain actions. When I learned them I looked at my professor side-eyed, but then I came to realize that they are very real because our emotional development has been stunted by so many factors. We live in armor the majority of our days because many people even institutions are not out for our good. And we've even been conditioned to believe that true love is a fairy tale. So even a good thing can't be that good. It's a sad state to live in. What's also true is that while we are unaware, it still gets expressed. That too is often decoded in therapy. To me this was one of the best episodes. Really breaking down communication tactically. I suggest the word intention instead of transparency. To me transparency is a part of vulnerability. I appreciate the both of you for presenting this together. Melissa I especially appreciate your interest in this area and your ability to perceive these concepts. Kevin I appreciate you being an example of a man that's not resistant to growing in this area and combating the stereotype.

[@BreRenee19]

Kev I’m gonna continue to watch and support but I’m still gone defend you like I defend Beyoncé 😏😏 because just like BEYONCÉ you you don’t bother nobody and stay in your lane. I love y’all

[@keeshajames5674]

Liss and Kev you guys are so great at this! Marriages will be saved

[@kajmylove4434]

That honesty transparency vulnerability, is so good

[@judymwende8876]

This conversation has really opened my eyes. Thank you. I have been toxic to myself by avoiding HVT!!!!!! Yikes!!!!!!

[@tamikalove2658]

YESSS the truth of the matter the true fans have no idea what your talking about...keep it positive and funny and I'll will continue to watch and ❤ you guys.😍

[@UKLeonie]

Maybe because I've been singing Evelyn from the internets "mind your business" all week, I've missed all the headache even in the live. SK4L 🎬🎬🎬🎬

[@tonyantoine5823]

Too much energy on something that doesn’t need energy! Keep it moving Kev, we appreciate you both.

[@abenak1309]

Melissa please don't ever stop love hour I look forward to this content every week as both you and Kev's insight is so valuable for my marriage. God bless you both ❤❤❤❤

[@diamondwilliams3320]

No idea what's happening , but I love yall!

[@ssme_]

He posted a video on his page. Last year he's talking about R&R ending

[@brangeeellis3083]

@@ssme_ oh goodness. Folks are STILL talking about R&R tom-foolery? Geez....

[@joannasaadati8810]

@@brangeeellis3083 it's about a few things but all of them are stupid 🤣🤣

[@MLisa90]

Whooo chile I loveeee The Hour. The gems that are dropped so effortlessly is a part of what what makes this podcast so amazing, in addition to the jokes and chemistry etc of course

[@meeche2287]

Kev and Melissa, this was an excellent talk. Thank you for teaching me some things and thank you sharing yourselves. Peace and Blessings.

[@Nettieboo1014]

This episode is all up in my business!!!!

[@TylerSamadya]

I genuinely love and appreciate the 'hvt' you guys have in your relationship 💓💓💓

[@suzanneclaiborne3265]

This is so great guys - I think emotional intelligence is so important sometimes we don’t even know how to identify and describe what you feel and want.

[@crelmcallister2588]

Lisa go on and get that degree. Giving out all this great advice and insight for free. 💗

[@TheDeltaCrafterYT]

So! Good!!! This was real talk about the struggles that can be lurking in the shadows that we don't even recognize. Great job! Please don't leave - these are some real life changing gems y'all are dropping!

[@TheRinn3453]

I’ve been loving the most recent episodes. More Melissa 2.0 please.

[@missjaime4386]

Mrs KevOnStage's skin looks amazing.. come on glow!

[@RachelfromDTC]

Thank you so much!! This really gave me some true revelations into some of my behaviors and miscommunications. Awesome podcast!! Keep doing what you do. You are really helping people.

[@kaimurimagu5804]

This is pure gold guys. Awesome!! Thank you so much for this, I am coming back to this over and over.

[@dorstew98]

HALLELUJAH!!! That was a WORD, Melissa! ABSOLUTELY love what came to you...HVT!! Wrote it down for constant reminding! Big ups to you both...all the best in the world on your journey!

[@tamikalove2658]

🗣TEACH TEACHER...H.V.T🙌🏿🙏🏾 THIS IS SO GOOOOD!

[@elektrasmagicalstorytime]

OMG! This video is so helpful,especially on the communication part, where I struggle. Thanks for the real life examples because i experience similar things with my hubby.Yall are showing me a better way to go about things and to keep our marriage going.

[@cifafs3]

Kev and Liss are booked and busy! No time and energy for nonsense.

[@1LocWonder]

[@avianajupiter7178]

I Love Every episode..but THIS one?! It blessed my soul. Thank you Kevin and Melissa!!!💜💜💜

[@tiffanykennedy2746]

We LOVE The Love Hour!! Great episode.