RELATIONSHIP COMMUNICATION HACKS FOR HIM | South African Couple YouTubers

[@carenm4331]

The portion of this conversation about the character of a person struck me. I appreciate these discussions...from Philadelphia, USA...shout me out!!!

[@katlegomolokoe4437]

"Love is not easily angered (1 Corinthians 13:1-...)". Sometimes we get caught up in our offenses...but may the Holy Spirit help us to learn to communicate and overlook an offense (Proverbs 19:11) in love and through Grace and to humbly apologize even if one may not be wrong. Grace in love is the foundation 🙌

[@sanelemjoli4877]

Phethola you married well la "Lerato". The man is wise. In fact you guys are so wise, I just love your humility and your sacrificial love for one another. Qhubekani, ngithi qhubekani. The Great I AM loves you

[@viwengcwangu8091]

I think also “Not being able to say sorry” comes from brokenness, thus saying sorry in that instance feels like losing something rather than being empowered.

[@TheMakhs]

This is so good! So profound!

[@lindomhlungu8158]

"Being able to love even when THEY making it hard to love them." A real test. I love how you always base it on yourselves and not make it a fairytale❤

[@teemakara3183]

“Our relationship is in grade 8” 😂😂

[@reformedyeah92]

AH bra ya ka, yoooh🤦. O pressitse dibuttons tse di serious, yesses. Mo o bolela le nna straight. Sorry e boima my bra, ho nore sorry banna. Thankyou for changing my life by sharing this wisdom.I am commiting to practice apologizing verbally and learning to walk away. My life will never be the same👊👊. Definitely gonna share this with my friends and fam. #SERVANT LEADERSHIP #Character is KING #Young FAN.

[@buyisilemohale2881]

Oh! I loved this! I don't know how many times I've listened to Lerato unpacking on what the real FEAR is! Because quite frankly I can't control my spouse's behavior...but what I've control of is ME! Very enlightening even to me as a woman...profound! THANK YOU

[@lindomhlungu8158]

"Your partner is on your side" mind blown! God is working wonders through the two of you. Guys please consider being mentors/mediators!? You might not see yourselves as such but I know i'm not the only one yerning for that from the two of you. Much love❤❤❤

[@thatokholoane1655]

Lerato and Phetola, you two are such a blessing. Thank you for letting God use you.

[@zamamtumtum9934]

Saze sasebenza kwa marriage sibancane. Thank you guys for being vulnerable with us

[@10khours]

"I hear you" - hubby and I have also adopted this phrase when we "hear" but don't necessarily understand the other's view point - it helps us "chew over" an issue, search our hearts and when we address it later - the situation is usually diffused and we can then hear AND understand each other... Really goes a long way in adding good building blocks in this thing called marriage...

[@katlegomolokoe4437]

Totally agree Abuti Lerato, how we feel or how we even regulate our thoughts is also a choice.

[@nashiehun9141]

What Lerato is saying is very deep and true wisdom. It is not a man thing but a human thing and I believe we ladies are capable of also doing with the help of the Holy Spirit

[@yolandafolotsi9998]

True hey

[@kundaikoti9701]

"Feelings are neither right or wrong." Deep stuff right there, gets one thinking....

[@TheMakhs]

Me Makhs dropping some pearls!🙌🏾🙌🏾♥️

[@balukhoza9795]

"Your partner is on your side, Figure out what the real issue is" 📌🖤

[@leratoranamane9529]

Mr Makhs is so wise yho 👌🏾🔥🙌🏾 Angifuni ungasho. Ke kopa a hoste "Men's conference" this year 🤧😅😂 His wisdom is needed 💯

[@msjay6780]

😂😂😂 Phetola "Yhoo babes I'm glad u speaking to men"

[@katlegomolokoe4437]

"Get perspective to get over offense" 🙌🙌

[@mukololo_Lorna]

Aa 👏.. I stumbled upon your channel this past week, and I must say Uri I'm hooked.. I'm loving all your conversations, very profound. I'm here to stay shem

[@abigailnemukongwe4495]

Iv had my comment section open for a while....but I'm so taken by so much that is said....that I dont know which part to comment on... @Mr Lerato.....you have unpacked and taught me so much on how to deal with self #choosepeace❤

[@veronicachirombe7617]

You guys never cease to amaze me!! Yoh - so real and honest. Sooo many lessons in this conversation. Love you guys❤

[@vuyomtshali]

Yhooo🤭🤭 guys I wish I could listen to you the whole day and I'm really glad to be part of this family especially now that I just got married. I'm learning a lot, this came at the right time ❤️❤️❤️.

[@mathebek659]

Ntate Makhetha....you hear the respect in my tone!!!it's because of what you said about letting fear take over us.i have, for a long time come to accept that love will never work for me because I have been done wrong. And I won't walk that path again

[@semakanesebola7870]

This installment just made me think of a verse in the Bible that says man shall not live on bread alone. The wisdom here. God bless you. "Get over the offense to get perspective" says Lerato

[@akhonatshangela2069]

This was communication hacks for him but yhoo it spoke to me so much. Yazi ndiguqukile😅

[@royaaltyatwork7218]

thank you Ausi le Abuti, watching your show always helpful may God continue to bless you

[@zaneleluhabe8863]

Dear God bless Lerato&Phetulo 🙌.You guys are true servants....

[@nomsa06]

Hi consistent fam. Location SILAAAAAAAAH ☺️.

[@nonjabuloshongwe1212]

Hi Makhs. As I’m watching the last part and the last point that Lerato was making I started getting the feeling that sure these conversations that you are having with us must be very therapeutic for you both. Surely your relationship&/ marriage is getting stronger has entered a new dimension of greatness. I love this for you guys. God works in mysterious ways. You have these conversations with us (your audience in my mind) so give us content but I Imagine and I’m actually convinced that God is healing old wounds, strengthening your current position in your marriage ,blessing your family and moving in your marriage in a way that you never imagined. Thank you for sharing yourselves with us, Thank you for allowing God to minister to us through you. My prayer is for the enemy to fail dismally in all his attempts to attack marriages in this country because this what you are doing is God covering and protecting yours and other marriages in the world.

[@royaleventsventure]

Keep doing this, the impact is huge, more grace... Your vulnerability is on another level and makes your content relatable

[@Nhle27]

Lots of love ❤ watching from Thailand 😘

[@marvelousmbali8002]

Wow I’m loving this 🙌🏾🔥 so profound and fruitful

[@TheMakhs]

Fam!!♥️♥️♥️

[@temalangenimachethe6944]

Ow man. Communication is so key to get right to maintain a healthy relationship

[@sofiasmith4083]

I love watching you two learn from each other. The idea of not going to bed angry fits here though. It doesn’t mean not to go to bed without resolution… it just means do not be angry. In other words, choose to still be loving and respectful of your partner before you go to bed, but also realizing that a conclusion doesn’t have to be reached tonight.

[@KhanyisileDlamini23]

This was so deep yhuu.When Mr Makhs said "Learn to say I'm sorry sincerely especially when you're right."😭❤thank you so much for this we truly learnt alot🤗

[@LM-he7eb]

I really agree with tip2. For both platonic relationships & otherwise. Don't rush solutions. Allow yourself to be in better space, to step out of defence mode, to think about what your partner is saying

[@TheMakhs]

💯💯💯🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@boitumelobaloyi8361]

🙈 love this, am told I love to argue. Isn't argument when two are Exchanging words. An I so don't want to go to bed nothing being sorted or not being said.. Tomorrow it's a new day new marcy. New day how do ask about yesterday

[@daphneymashao]

The fear explaining part reminded me soo much of the bible verse "perfect love casts out fear"... fear prevents us from loving fully

[@zinhlewanda9146]

I get excited everytime I see a new upload🤗.

[@unathisamulela4245]

Love there way you are so real with us. Keep it up.

[@Kuhle23]

There by the last point, PREACH Lerato! !!🙌🙌🙆

[@ThisIzKena]

PASS DA COLLECTION PLATE!!! Lerato gave us a WORD! 🔥🔥

[@brigettebond6088]

Oh well Mr Makhs all I can say today is definitely a better man than most. I take my hat off to you. Phetola you are a lucky lady. Loved this installment

[@joykabagenyi1181]

Wowwww you guys! The way you talk about stuff is raw. In a nice way

[@myriamcajuste1194]

OMG this installment is everything 👏👏👏👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@masabathamhlongo6378]

These 2 installments are very powerful Thank you guys, and I love the real life examples you make, we all go through the same (1 year married )! Thanks again!❤️❤️

[@mtzwane2697]

Wow 👌 👏 Mr M you are preaching right at me the whole part of not choosing peace, joy and forgiveness because they might hurt me again 😢 💔..I struggle with they I choose walking away instead but what am I going to do when I'm married. I need to ask God to help me. 🙏 thank you fam

[@livingfully_podcast]

This episode was mind blowing and transforming guys. Its the "fear" neh..!! You are so right, letting it go helps us not get "stuck in offense". Thank you for taking time to share. Modimo a le hlohonolofatse

[@sharonjohns1686]

You guys are a high level couple... This is precious. The highest level couple I have come across

[@belindatshetsha8539]

Dream team u guys are blessed with the fruits of the spirit.... Most of them all is peace that you maintaining in every situation love you fam🥰

[@sanelemtetwa4331]

This is definitely helpful...thank you soo much!!

[@maipelosentle1302]

So profound Dreams Team... Thank you

[@ordinarykindoflove5052]

We early I love this channel, the fruits of the mind I get here

[@Mbalings]

“Feelings are neither wrong nor right” -this really resonated with me so much even in friendship and family. I really need my feelings acknowledged, whether warranted or not, because they’re real. ❤️ Thank you so much! This is truly appreciated🙏 -Will be watching with my partner and sharing with friends because everyone needs these hacks 👏🏼🔥

[@TheMakhs]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾♥️♥️

[@katlegomalate1286]

Wow 😮 Lerato. Just brilliant

[@marvelousmbali8002]

So true because I struggle as well when it comes to choosing I think because of fear

[@leraydoo1]

Sooo relatable!! Very insightful, thank you for being so vulnerable and helping so many couples out there. May God continue to bless you so that you may continue to be a blessing to others.

[@nomondekhanyile5489]

We are here!!❤

[@katlegopru]

Ohh bless yall. ❤❤❤❤

[@queenria-thesidegigsavage4738]

Was looking forward to this next installment 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@TheMakhs]

🎉🎉🎉♥️♥️♥️

[@georginahkhesa7822]

But you know what would be nice sis Pheto le abuti Lerato, if you could list the points in the description because sometimes I'll want to unpack the things you said later or just remind myself what you said and then I need short notes. So it would be really lovely if you write those points you read from your phones in the description if that's possible

[@lengwebobo7418]

Another riveting installment 🎉

[@karabonkadimeng9576]

A content I signed up for 💃💃💃💃💃💃hey faves❤️

[@TheMakhs]

♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@MaBhanya]

Hayi bo! Do we even deserve Mr Makhs' wisdom?

[@edgylee977]

Among the first. Love from Kenya.

[@nomvuselelomatsebula4822]

👏👏👏👏👏👏I love you guys.

[@annatsilo5757]

So good guys you helping us

[@tabbywaithera9112]

Today ....Lerato didn't come to play:(.. learning Aaaalot tho👌

[@siyamtolo6733]

Better late than never! How did I miss this? ❤️❤️❤️

[@gabrielmbundu1022]

Another heat session.. M

[@viwengcwangu8091]

Love Language guys 😭😭😭 Pray for my man kubi 😩😩😩😩

[@siyahloks]

Our relationship is in grade 8🤣🤣🤣 I love it hear❤ this episode makes me think that life is not always black and white and we will forever learn each other as human beings hence we need the Holy Spirit always

[@palesatheactress]

Everytime Lerato speaks, he reminds us of the book "7 habits of highly effective people"

[@tetolesole6742]

i love the sound, so perfect

[@marvelousmbali8002]

First one 🙈😍♥️

[@sandyleputu8258]

This is very profound. Thank you guys for sharing

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for watching ♥️♥️♥️

[@zizibellewakenny6683]

You guys 😭😍😇ni powerful maaan🤞❤

[@timbasibongile]

This was wholesome as always loved it🔥👍🏾 we need a here is a thought and our love journey podcast 😌 this combination 🔥 I pray it happens some day #Dreamteam

[@siyamtolo6733]

Yho that part about fear!😭😭😭

[@kabelopreciousmachethe6906]

Have been waiting for this 💪

[@marvelousmbali8002]

So when you go away and think about it do you guys then act normal after the conversation or that tension energies are still around and you guys give each other space

[@TheMakhs]

It really depends on the heaviness of the situations. Sometimes we are able to carry on while we digest the issue. Other times we give each other space (but not for too long). We try not to drag issues.

[@jayabellamy581]

Now this is a good topic! One thing I've mastered in my relationship with my boyfriend is learning to apologize! Whether being wrong or right! After watching this I know now to walk away, even if I don't agree with something or just sleep on it. I like to talk about my problem right then and there, but you guys helped me to find a better way to communicate. My boyfriend and I are 3 months in and we feel like we've been together forever. We've learned what we like and don't like. We've learned so much through you guys and our own experiences. Thank you so much for the Love Trivia questions by the way! Him and I aren't perfect, but through prayer him and I are willing to keep going and stay strong!

[@vanessakhanya1707]

Amen to the conversation Came at the ✅ time 😘😘😘

[@zizibellewakenny6683]

You guy speak sense🤞

[@Lizorlose]

This is golden

[@theeiconicbonel9532]

Lots of love ❤❤

[@tsebedaphney2678]

You guys never disappoint 👌❤️

[@georginahkhesa7822]

First point, just the first point and I sent this to my partner!!😂😂

[@nandifro]

Fam im loving these communication hack

[@LM-he7eb]

I think it is "I hear you. But, I don't understand right now, so I can't agree right now. And, I realise we won't reach an understanding right now"

[@sandyleputu8258]

Hi dream team, we are listening

[@LM-he7eb]

Mara why Phetho a tsosa Lerato?

[@samanthamhlanga756]

stop it, l like it....this was amazing.

[@TheMakhs]

Yaaay!! So glad you enjoyed it♥️♥️♥️

[@LethoHali]

This was wholesome 💝. So very profound! Thanks Mr Makhs! God bless your union and your girls guys!

[@katlegomolokoe4437]

👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@mathapelomonnakgotla7395]

Hello dream team!sila!

[@marvelousmbali8002]

Helloooo Fam si la location 📍

[@TheMakhs]

Heeeelllooo!!!♥️♥️♥️

[@tshepisompala2236]

Hey dream team 🥰

[@LM-he7eb]

So rather "I hear you. But, I won't reach an understanding right now. So, let's park this" NOT "Sure, No problem"