FEARFUL AVOIDANT: 11 Signs Your Attachment Trauma is Rooted in PARENTIFICATION

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

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[@kylahyland7048]

100% I find more purpose as a caretaker now. I was the oldest of 7, growing up, in a household of abuse, drugs, and alchole. Now, as an adult, I am still the sibling that is seen as the other mom, but I try my best to keep boundaries in place and don't allow my parents to make me the fixer. I also work as a support worker for the elderly, which I absolutely love!! All the FA traits I've become aware of over the past 5 years, all the tools and knowledge I have gained to become self aware, I place in myself as a support worker and I generally believe that my FA traits along with this knowledge and my empathy makes me a great person to work with the vulnerable ❤ I understand my FA tendencies will always be part of me, so I've taken control of them and use them in my life as a power. THANK YOU PDS, you have really helped me become a better woman over these years, and I am so excited to see where this path of self growth continues to take me ❤

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

It’s incredible how much self-awareness and strength you’ve developed through your journey. Thank you for sharing your inspiring story and for being such a compassionate person 💜

[@aliciacoleman3403]

this is my trauma as the only child of a mother who grew up with terrible abuse and had me young. This is incredibly helpful and I appreciate the wisdom ❤

[@regulator_3025]

I took screenshots of your slides. It's satisfying to see such messy feelings and behaviours i identify with so neatly and concisely written out. It's a lot to take in, but invaluable. Thank you, Thais, I appreciate your content.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

That’s so great to hear! So glad the content resonated with you and provided clarity. Thank you for your support!

[@Watchingyourvideos]

As an FA, being a childcare provider and daycare owner, has been the most rewarding and fitting for my attachment style. It has been very healing and I have learned how to provide that secure attachment, although I never had that growing up. I get to relive my childhood through them and create an environment that I had always wanted and needed growing up. ❤

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

That’s such a beautiful way to channel your experiences into something meaningful. It’s inspiring to see how you’re creating the secure environment you always wanted.

[@ansulahirwaransul5061]

there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Sounds like this book really resonated with you! It’s always exciting to find something that shifts your perspective in a powerful way.

[@alexisb.8965]

Thank you for talking about this. I didn't realize this was an issue I had until I started therapy a few years ago.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

It’s amazing that therapy has helped you identify and work through this. Wishing you continued growth on your journey 💜

[@PsychedToknow-qw7cb]

Wow, that was really informative! Very useful. I'm the sort of person who acts as if everything's OK when it isn't. I don't understand why I've been parentified, though because -- aa far as I'm aware -- I was never in a position where I had to look after either of my parents, and so it's a mystery to me. Thank you so much, Thais. 🌈

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Thank you for opening up and sharing your story. It’s wonderful to hear that the video resonated with you and provided some insights 💜

[@SpicyOatmilk]

Big thank you for this topic. I relate so much. You are a blessing, Thais.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Thank you for the kind words! We’re so glad this topic resonated with you.

[@Brinaweenahwoo]

Excellent video!

[@MsGuitars666]

This was incredibly helpful, insightful and informative. Thank you so much Thais!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Happy to hear you’ve found it helpful :)

[@blueberries9850]

I also have disorganized attachment, I am trying to figure out how to heal before getting into a relationship. I am also the middle child daughter who is only 1.5 years younger than my older sister who was also parentified until she stopped gaf as a teen and I had to step up. Sometimes I feel like the oldest. I never shared my feelings or emotions with my parents for a long time. Even now I share only what I think will not earn my negative reactions, even then my mom tends to take offense when I talk about my childhood trauma and hurt feelings. I try to explain that I don’t blame her and I know she did what she could but yeah I don’t want her to feel bad about herself so I tend to hold back. Emotionally I was always hyper independent. I relate to these signs and symptoms. I also have disassociation/freeze and avoidance/flee as my stress responses. I seriously need help. I once realized and caught myself, I tend to subconsciously or out of resentment punish myself for not being loved the way I wanted/needed to be. I wanted my mom who’s a hair stylist to blow dry my hair but she basically didn’t show up and forgot about me, I was so upset that I was like “if she doesn’t blow dry my hair then I’ll just leave it wet” and then I caught myself and I was like “wait why am I punishing myself because my mom neglected my request?” And then I dried my own hair to the best of my abilities.

[@alexs.8401]

ThIs has been very informative. I feel like I've been doing much of the introspection already, but I wasn't sure how or why to proceed.

[@itsshierlz]

This sounds like my mum 100%.