How Do I Find A Girl That Isn’t Just After My Money

[@jay.san1]

My man called to flaunt and get his ego massaged and instead got roasted by Ramsey and Friends lol 😆

[@Tehui1974]

Yep, most likely.

[@dianemora3602]

I get the feeling this guy called mainly so the hosts would tell him how wonderful and successful he is, not because he wanted his "question" answered.

[@garrenshot]

This guy is so fuckin full of it lmao

[@IrishMexican]

This guy basically said “I’m hot stuff. Only benefit my ex’s offered was sex. How do I keep away from gold diggers because I’m hot stuff?”

[@sidehustlevikki1066]

This is a huge problem in modern dating. Men think that just because they feel they make more than the average Joe that a woman is after them especially if the woman has standards. The woman he is looking for would be turned off by his attitude. Dont flaunt what you have an ppl wont know to come after you.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Yup. He called into the show just to brag. That's not a trait women will find attractive. If all he has is a little money, the he most likely lacks in other areas women find attractive. He has self overinflated his worth in the dating market

[@ndub4014]

Meanwhile all kids of guys getting taken to the cleaners but feemale only interested in leveling up at his expense. Anyone ever heard of a starter marriage?

[@HairyTornado]

This dude thinks he’s a multi-millionaire. 😂 $130k per year isn’t THAT much money, and a potential partner wondering if you could provide for them in the future is not problematic. She’s looking out for herself, as she should.

[@armywithbanners2458]

She should look out for herself for sure, but if she won't give back to her man a female equivalent of what she's looking for, then she's selfish. Relationships r a give n take..

[@carterdoering3789]

Only 10% of men earn more than $100k a year. The fact that you think this is normal is part of problem in today's dating market.

[@newsflash7609]

@@carterdoering3789 based on some googling ("income for men percentile"), it appears to be 25% of men earning over 100K. 32% of men earn over 100K, if you focus on those working full-time.

[@adjpro]

everyone should provide for themselves, she is not a baby. in that case no man should not be dating a woman that is not making as much as he is. We equal now, this is not the 1960's, she need to be able to provide for me just like I provide for her. To say a man should provide is sexist, just like if men say a woman should be in the kitchen cooking and washing his clothes is considered to be.

[@JR-rm3hz]

@@carterdoering3789 Not true! You can't believe the statistics you see on the internet.

[@DrewLeyMusic]

This call was hilarious 😂

[@triplebbb291]

This guy doesn’t understand wealth. He might have had a few good years of income. That’s it. Also, he clearly leads with his income as being his personality. And he openly says he gets “physical” benefits from it. Wow. If you seek the right things you will find it.

[@JewelBlueIbanez]

I’m a woman who is low income. I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with him because he comes across as full of himself. I don’t want his money. I don’t have a lot, but God is providing for my needs.

[@aphysique]

​@JewelBlueIbanez Amen, .. Wish more woman thought this way!! Blessings 🙌

[@vanesslifeygo]

why do I think he is seeking the same girls that are on OF except not on OF

[@davidrobertson606]

The advice I gave my daughter when she said she was going to get married I told her to ask him 3 questions. What do you owe, What do you make, What are you worth. My daughter was 22, owned a house, had a 60K job in 2003, and only debt was a 130K mortgage.

[@0num4]

How did that work out, 20+ years later?

[@greggpurviance7252]

Guy calls in and brags about his income & wealth, which isn't really that much. Asks about how to find a woman that is not about his arrogant self. To any women... Run

[@lordsteez2064]

Damn they shit all over dude. Compared to other 25 year olds, he’s super up. And these women nowadays have no shame in straight up asking, and will ask early. Just gotta have more discernment and be steadfast with saying no.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Yup, he isn't exactly rich, but he is talking like he is. He must be leading with money, which means he lacks in other areas women find attractive. This guy has totally self overinflated his worth on the dating market. Hjs whoke point in calling up here was to brag.

[@JesusIsTheway81]

😂😅😂

[@Gastyz]

Maybe the question for him should have been why he thinks a woman will notice only his (not even that large) wallet. If women only talk to you because you show off money, the problem is not the money but that you lack any other quality that can attract a nice woman, like being honest, funny, a good friend, respectful, honest, etc.

[@songindarkness]

So true. Bring more to the table, don’t just flash some cash. Boy is putting out all the wrong vibes.

[@Jane-rh7tc]

100% agree, this boy most likely has no true personality except showing off his wealth to everyone around him. I know a lot of ppl don't like Ken from Ramsey personalities, but he is right in this case, this boy is hanging out in the wrong pool, he probably gets his self-validation from flaunting around his so-called wealth all the time, most likely choosing to hang out with ppl who are financially not so well off so he can feel more successful. And he wonder why he only attracts gold diggers?

[@tequisaholloway1738]

I love this comment, my thoughts exactly​@@Jane-rh7tc

[@ecclairmayo4153]

He is leading with his money, which means he is lacking in other areas. He sounds silly, because he isn't exactly a millionaire. He is overinflating his worth on the dating market.

[@mattzilla331]

Your money is part of what you bring to the table. It will ALWAYS be a factor in how attracted a woman is. It's in her best interest to find a great provider.

[@plasmaarmelund]

Men and wom3n are equal now so we're all going 50/50.

[@Jane-rh7tc]

well nowadays this question goes to the women too, with how bad the inflation is often both adults have to work to provide for the family. Both my husband and I work full time, and we can't provide for the family with any of our income alone

[@nailatiyllufm7325]

I don’t understand it it’s like saying how do I find someone who doesn’t care how I look or about my personality

[@nicole09999]

💯

[@ering7733]

The woman who dated this guy for 3 months and then asked about children etc. is a wise woman not a gold digger. She knows she doesn’t want to waste her or his time dating if they don’t have the same goals. She liked you and wanted to know do you want children,do you want a stay at home mom or working mom, do you have goals or will she be carrying the entire marriage. The best thing he can do is use discernment when dating. What are his goals. Marriage,kids,etc. If he’s dating someone and she’s asking for him to go to 5 star restaurants, buy expensive gifts, dresses in name brand clothing but doesn’t have her own income, stays at the nail salon,shops constantly then she prob won’t line up with his financial priorities.

[@JoeRNNE1]

Well said. She asked about those things after three months, not a couple dates. If he had some humility (and he doesn't) he might see that she saved him a bunch of wasted time and effort by talking with him about these things.

[@bellavida8846]

Lmao…”you are not in a place to worry about gold diggers” I would be so embarrassed 😂

[@spiritualmeli5014]

😂😂😂😂

[@James_Hough]

It's one thing for a woman to only care about the money. It's quite another thing to expect a woman to not care about your work ethic, earning potential and how you handle money. I would fully EXPECT a woman to care about those things and would not consider one who didn't care. My wife wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. That's what we both wanted. Therefore, my ability to make $$ (eventually) was important. She was not able to stay at home until almost 6 years into the marriage and a year after our first child was born, but she hasn't looked back since.

[@ppoppoiop6375]

Well said. A woman is not evil for wanting a man who can provide for a family, nor is a man evil for wanting a woman who is loving, beautiful, kind, etc.

[@rockandfashion7207]

It’s not lost on me that men can want a woman who cooks (1 thing), cleans (2 things), births multiple kids (at least three things), maintains weight post pregnancy (4 things), drives the kids to all their school, sport and doctor appointments (at least 5 things), does the shopping for in-house hold items whether it be food, snacks, sanitary items, back to school shopping (6 things), is ready to have s3x whenever he wants it despite women generally having lower libidos on average (7 things), but whenever women want a man who provides (1 thing) with people act like they are demon spawns. Too many dudes feel entitled to take from women without giving anything in return. Even in the first reply they named 1 thing for men (providing) and three things for women (loving, beautiful, kind). Ngl it generally makes it hard for me to feel sorry for men sometimes, especially when they go around proclaiming that women are only good for one thing and they expire.

[@carpediem6431]

Time more men started to think about those things as well with women.

[@nsoso6696]

You are all blessed to have each other

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Bingo. This is a healthy way to think about it.

[@Coolbeanzies124]

125k and he's worried about gold diggers? Dog they won't come near you unless you're pulling in over a million/yr

[@Shortballa11]

that's false. goldiggers come at many different levels of income. They will use and abuse a man making 60K and leave when he has nor more resources.

[@ricksanchezsflask8794]

They'll come to you if you make 50k/yr. Not enough six figs guys to satisfy them all.

[@Coolbeanzies124]

@@ricksanchezsflask8794 maybe in middle america, certainly not in big cities on either coast. That's the price to have a roof over your head lol

[@inthebooks3947]

Lies if you met a women and she makes 23-40k a year she will DEFINITELY try to get at you if she knows you got a lot more

[@Shortballa11]

@ any woman that makes 70k or less tbh

[@MegaEing]

Find someone who will stick with you through high times and low times. My wife and i have been through alot financially, both high and low, and we enjoy a great time now

[@Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries]

People need money to live, to eat and to play. A potential dating partner is going to be evaluating you and what you bring to the table because that's how the world works. If she can't take care of herself, run. Simple. Caretaking is for when you're married and have health issues. And don't waste your time and get physical with them early on because that just clouds your judgment if you're a normal (not narcissistic) person.

[@joannaa.5101]

I think he's fallen into his own snare. He's not worked it out to date and find real compatibility first.

[@dec1slh]

You dont have to be in extreme poverty to be a gold digger

[@napoleonbonaparte7204]

No, you right..The upper ones are actually the more worrisome...They already know good life and they might feel entitled....😂

[@paulaqueirosz]

True, but dude is middle class

[@dec1slh]

@@paulaqueirosz I was referring to how Ken kept saying extreme poverty, like it was enlightening, it was not. It showed his lack of understanding of what the caller was asking. Yeah the caller was dalulu

[@Jane-rh7tc]

⁠@@napoleonbonaparte7204 if upper ones are already self-providers, then there's nothing wrong with wanting that. They already have the ability to get the income that can provide the life style they want. You can't expect all the ppl with high income to be willing to live much below their means. Not everyone is Warren Buffet.

[@krobdawg]

Valid concern but he called the wrong show

[@reese85]

It’s a valid concern but not as of now. He has the trajectory of being very successful but as of now. He’s doin well for his age but he’s only making $130k and unless he plans of getting married or being in a serious relationship. He doesn’t have to worry about anyone using him for his money

[@lombardo141]

It is but he has to ask questions but he is a little too cocky. He can find woman that don’t need his money, but if he leads with it every time he will attract the wrong ones.

[@kliegl8613]

@@reese85 what's good money now? Women used to be six pack, six inches, six figures, but apparently 100k income means you're poor now?

[@reese85]

@@kliegl8613 it’s 2024 $100k ain’t nearly what it used to be, it’s just decent but to me. Good money is $250k plus

[@reese85]

@kliegl8613 it’s 2024 $100k ain’t nearly what it used to be, it’s just decent but to me. Good money is $250k plus

[@charlottepeukert9095]

I don't understand this guy. He isn't rich. He's doing o.k. What's he thinking? He makes 130 000 $ before taxes with his business. He's no where near millionaire status. He needs to invest his money. If he finds a decent woman, who's raising his children, he should be glad. If she's telling him, she wants a family, what's wrong with that? Children are expensive, they need a loving home. If she wants a gift, that's all right as well. Is he stingy?

[@yulia300]

Well said💪🏻

[@armywithbanners2458]

U don't understand, the guy is having issues because, the women in his life they r so busy demanding what they want from him n yet they won't give back anything in return,in a way that makes sense to him .seems to me like an unfair situation.why should u be the one to benefit from me,n I get nothing from u. .. I don't like the guys answering the questions,I don't think they have enough wisdom to handle those kind of matters,they could not see the problem at hand,just like u guys, n so they couldn't give an appropriate solution,they rather shamed him..

[@garrenshot]

How'd he buy his house off 130k, crazy

[@Tashas_Travels]

He probably doesn't stop talking about how much money he has or makes 😂😂😂. Coz people wouldn't want things you don't share. Men with huge egos are something else.

[@karltinson5327]

The dude host is spot on! Great comments and awesome advice…for the caller’s situation and for life. Bravo

[@christianakungu6344]

“how do i avoid gold diggers with no gold to dig” 😭

[@Myraisins1]

The manosphere ideology has these men in a chokehold.

[@MrFrankielee1992]

25 year old with a business making 130k. To a 25 year old and younger he is the prime rib. At the route he is taking gold is in sight much more than his peers and the women see that. Its a valid concern for a young man with that much money.

[@christianakungu6344]

@@Myraisins1 literally

[@_nibabaisme]

@@MrFrankielee1992 130k is on the low end for college grad (21-24yos) in tech. That's poverty here LMAO

[@christianakungu6344]

@@MrFrankielee1992 i’m a 25yr and this is NOT prime rib lol. most of my friends make near this amount of money and unless he’s bragging about it no one would know he makes that much. his sense of self is definitely inflated you can hear it in how he talks. now if this was after 10 years of making this much and he had a solid net worth maybe. he has probably only made this in the last year and wants to have these problems.

[@MaineGirlOutdoors]

He sounds kind of arrogant and immature to me. I'm glad he's doing well at 25 financially, but maybe need a little humility.

[@filip1979]

I recommend everyone to find the book titled The Elite Society's Money Manifestation, It changed my life.

[@sw6155]

“Manifestation” 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@1jw298]

Nope 👎 I’ll take prayer and a relationship with Jesus Christ.

[@MegaMarVerde]

Scam

[@itchyisvegeta]

Take her on dinner dates at the Costco food court a few times, say you are sticking to a budget. If she wants something fancier, make sandwiches at home, place in a basket, and go on a nice picnic. If she sticks around, she's yours. If she bolts, it was never meant to be.

[@rosesandsand]

130k a year? Before or after taxes? Sir needs to simmer down because that’s barely middle class these days. As a man he shouldn’t be surprised that he is dating a women that is asking questions like, “how would you provide for children? What will our life look like?” That’s not a gold digger at all! That’s a woman filtering out the men from the boys.

[@commonenglishmistakes4360]

So no strong independant women that would work. Just a housewife from the 50s. Did I just dream the equality movement?

[@bvoyelr]

#1 - Augusta, Maine. $130,000 per year is absolutely a wealthy income in that area. #2 - if you can't manage a middle class lifestyle in virtually any area in the US outside of a few urban centers with that salary, that's a you problem. $130k is easily upper middle class, *particularly* at 25 years old. Agree with the rest of the post, though. It's absolutely fair game for women to want to know they'll have a stable income when they're knocked out of the working world by way of children.

[@rosesandsand]

@@bvoyelr in the part of California I live in, 130k is almost what you pay just to live. In my area rent for something average is $4,100 a month, plus the cost of everything else and when you at kids into the mix it really adds up. So where I live $130k is nothing to brag about. Well, at least it’s not big money in my area.

[@rosesandsand]

@@commonenglishmistakes4360 why does every women need to work for a man to value them? Women naturally have different roles in life and there’s nothing wrong about that. If a woman is looking to have a more traditional lifestyle that is definitely her choice and if she wants that she has every right to ask the questions that pertain to her wants. Dave Ramsey himself has said that his wife Sharon has not worked and she’s been a stay at home wife. Are you saying that she’s less of a wife because she does not work?

[@pistachiosandpopcorn7146]

@@bvoyelrjust because a lot don’t make that much…doesn’t mean he lives comfortably on it. 130 is middle class now with the way prices are rising. I’m guessing he is good cause he has parents with money or grandparents he inherited his house from or something similar. If you have to live on 130 with house payments and food and all of that…you absolutely not find that wealthy. You might call it good enough but in no way is that comfortable anymore…even in ga it’s not. But if you have a house and car all paid for..yeah it’s good…don’t get me wrong.

[@rebelwithacause2229]

He has elevated himself in his own mind.

[@anannnd-um7jt]

He wants to save himself from people like you

[@zunedog31]

He's absolutely killing it for 25

[@AlexMathersFilms]

Not true. This guy is crushing it for his age.

[@pistachiosandpopcorn7146]

No kidding. If we wanna act as snobby as this call was…100 k is now middle class. It ain’t rich . It’s only gonna get worse so he better get a raise yesterday.

[@pistachiosandpopcorn7146]

@@AlexMathersFilmsyes but not like he thinks he is

[@davesrvchannel4717]

VERY IMPORTANT FOR YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN! All the good ones get snatched up in their 20’s. Many times those good ones get cheated on and hurt in their 30’s, and now they have kids. In their 40’s they are “finding themselves.” In their 50’s they decided they don’t need anyone. In their 60’s they are lonely and realizing death is a decade or 2 away, and don’t want to die alone. My point is in your 20’s you need to focus on finding the right one, not finding one for right now. Your partner is WAY more important than getting college degree, the perfect job, etc. the right partner will make your life picture perfect, the wrong one can give you herpes from cheating on you, bankrupt you in divorce and keep you from seeing your children. Choose wisely. Your partner is THE most important decision you will make in your life

[@firstnamelastname6520]

While I agree wholeheartedly with this sentiment. Focusing on your future is very important. People change, especially young people. I agree it’s important to find your “soulmate” it is equally as important to keep improving yourself. If you don’t love yourself how can expect someone else to.

[@DaGn0528]

I really wish someone told me this ages ago. I'm 26 and still single; I've been focused professionally my whole life and now I'm lonely AF. Never been good at seeing the right signals and too anxious to put myself out there. Knowing my right pool is closing in slowly but surely isn't helping either. Knowing it's not too late is the only thing keeping me sane and knowing I'll soon finally be in a "steady-state" with everything I need and a + NW following DR and others' principles. I'm starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel to get myself out there and succeed far more than just professional/overall wealth.

[@davesrvchannel4717]

@@firstnamelastname6520 I don’t disagree, need to find balance, but nobody is talking about importance of finding a mate while young

[@firstnamelastname6520]

@@DaGn0528 hey man it’s never too late

[@jacquelineazalegue2658]

​@DaGn0528 Don't rush you are just 26.

[@larsonabilla5066]

They roasted this man lol

[@plasmaarmelund]

A lot of people have no clue what "net worth" actually means.

[@AccidentalCarnivore-ul3kg]

Don’t tell her that you have money! Act poor! Don’t lead with your wallet!

[@newsflash7609]

Exactly. This guy is doing well, but he's not rolling in it. If he's attracting nothing but gold diggers, then he probably actually living beyond his means, because a 130K income shouldn't look so flashy to attract gold diggers. Basically, he's creating his own problems. Honestly just sounds like him bragging.

[@reese85]

He’s doin well for his age but $130k ain’t no crazy super income

[@amadeus6312]

@@reese85 are completely delusional........

[@juniorgod321]

Or just pretend to want to have a serious relationship with them and just pump and dump:)

[@1_knicks]

Facts

[@Xanatos_Clutch]

He called Dave Ramsey for a question more suited for Andrew Tate.

[@v_DICE_v]

People acting as though gold diggers won't target a guy earning $130k.

[@JustinCase780]

Caller: Hey look at me and my success! Girl: Here I am looking. Caller: Stop trying to rob me!

[@edmax2819]

😂😂😂

[@theresa7044]

Exactly. Being a good provider is part of what a man has to offer.

[@IrishFrank22]

A woman must cook, clean, have a hymen before marriage and take of the children as that is what a woman should bring to the table.​@@theresa7044

[@kbanghart]

​@@theresa7044And a woman

[@Black_Jesus3005]

Dude is delusional.

[@sharonbland9061]

There is nothing more off putting to me, when a man thinks hes gods gift. He needs to learn love and respect for others, its not all about him, which seems to the case. He doesnt sound that good of a catch to me.

[@mikeconley_1]

I'm forever Glad!!! Hit 3500k today. Thank you for all the knowledge and nuggets you had thrown my way over the last months. Started with 14k last year 2023, God bless America ❤️🇺🇲

[@caringCarol]

Excuse me for real?, how is that possible I have struggling financially, how was that possible?

[@mikeconley_1]

Thanks to my co-worker whom God used to give a great opportunity of crossing paths with 'Mrs KATE ELIZABETH BECHERER'.

[@mikeconley_1]

She's a licensed broker here in the states🇺🇲 and finance advisor.

[@BridgetCharles-s2s]

YES!!! That's exactly her name (Kate Elizabeth Becherer) so many people have recommended highly about her and am just starting with her Brisbane Australia🇭🇲

[@jenhalle363]

I have heard a lot of wonderful things about Kate Elizabeth Becherer on the news but didn't believe it until now. I'm definitely trying her out

[@GAFB1122]

Some of these comments primarily from men are just laughable and as a college educated white-collar professional in accounting and finance, they don't represent my lived experience. My career has spanned over 20 years since graduating from college in 2002. And in that time, I have worked with amazing, intelligent, college educated women who earn anywhere between $70,000 - $200,000+, which is more than many of you. If you are a high achiever, seek other high achievers. It is really that simple. And high achievers don't want yours, they take pride in their own accomplishments and their own money. The idea that there aren't woman out there who are high achievers and earn good coin is just ludicrous and wrong!

[@Shortballa11]

Agreed completely. I am a high achiever in life, but probably a mid- income achiever at 32 (80K) and my wife is a lower income achiever bt high achiever when it comes to life. It works out as we both work hard on our marriage, health, and all the other things that come with life.

[@GAFB1122]

​@@Shortballa11 I replied to you elsewhere but unlike many men on here, I am not and cannot be misogynistic or sexist on these topics and I'll tell you why. Because of the above comment. The benefit of having a career where I have worked with so many women is, I have encountered many women who are as smart or smarter than I am, who earn as much or more than I do, who have a sense of pride in their own accomplishments, etc. But then I come to sites like this, and it is one negative generalization after another! And even saying what I did would garner insults for claiming that any woman may be smarter than a me a man because you know, it is impossible for a woman to be smarter than a man.

[@cashway0420]

Nobody is saying there aren't successful women out there. The reality is though, most people aren't like that, most people grow up with struggles and not the sheltered/academic environment you did. There are TONS of people out there who don't have their shit together and will do just about anything for financial gain including dating someone for financial support.

[@GAFB1122]

​@@cashway0420 Your comment is so funny because you have no idea who you are talking to. I have other comments on here and that will give you an idea. #1 - I am a guy. #2 - I don't have a beef or grudge against women as so many on here do. #3 - My upbringing was hard, and I barely graduated high school. But after serving in the military and utilizing the GI Bill I earned a bachelor's degree in accounting and finance from a major state university and life has been good. #4 - My experiences with high achieving women in college and the workplace are real and if you look for them, they are out there, and you can find them!

[@GAFB1122]

@@cashway0420 I am a guy just so you know. And sheltered, hardly. I served in the military before going to college.

[@emoney1231]

I thinking asking "What are your professional goals?" is perfect to discern what type of person they are. If they have goals and talk passionately, they are probably career-driven. If they mention work-life balance or being able to earn enough to support a family, they are probably family-driven, but not afraid of work. If their avoid the question or mention other life goals apart from their career, they have no interest in working and would rather stay at home while you provide monetary support for the family. None of these are wrong. But just straight-up ask and most people are going to be honest.

[@USMC6976]

Date like you are poor. Drive a beater, go to McDonalds for dinner. Wear jeans with a hold in the knee. Do things that make people think you're broke.

[@outsidethebox262]

The greatest advice from a divorce lawyer: live your truth. If you like a girl and she likes your money for a sense of security, then so be it. Dont go around looking for a girl who can take care of the kids and provide everything needed by herself. Just make sure she is responsible with her money and not asking you for stuff beyond her means.

[@Michael-vc2cs]

This was horribly unhelpful! It is a huge problem today! No matter your net worth as a man, there are many women who really don’t care about the romantic part of a relationship. They just want provision. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel secure or wanting provision. But there’s a TON wrong with choosing a man solely for that purpose. They missed a giant opportunity here to talk about how to navigate the dating landscape regardless of net wealth and make sure you find a good woman who truly loves you for more than what you can ‘provide’ financially. For women, it’s about finding a man who loves you for more than looks. For men, it’s about finding a woman who loves you for more than what you provide financially. Both are reasonable expectations. But they are not the priorities.

[@David-wo9un]

I was hoping Jade would be the perfect Ramsey personality for this question(she normally is)! Ken is out to lunch not understanding he wants advice on finding someone wanting him for him and not his money!

[@strangeroamer3219]

It was Subway day. He was getting the tuna.

[@octavia307]

He needed to call a dating podcast. He seemed to not know how to discern a gold digger from a traditional wife/mother. How could they even help him with that?!

[@AllynHin]

The caller isn't all that yet. The hosts never asked how much debt he has to have all his bragging points. He wants to know how to find a woman who wants him for him and not for his money. My guess is he's flaunting his perceived wealth; he's driving a flashy car (probably with a payment); he owns a house (with a mortgage); and talking about how well he's doing in business (probably with a lot of debt). If he dials it back, stops talking about his wealth and his business success and drive an ordinary car, that'll attract women who like him and not be gold-diggers. He only makes $130k, which is nice for his age, but he's not a millionaire. It sounds like he's just full of himself.

[@aaronalquiza9680]

The first example, i dont think asking the man what he can provide is considered gold digging. most of the time, that's just someone who's forward thinking in life. Asking for A LOT of materialistic things and MONEY makes someone a gold digger.

[@kbanghart]

Yeah, there's 3 possibilities: 1) she used just about literally the words he said, and she's merely being direct by asking it that way, or 2) he's reading into it and getting scared and cutting bait b 4 things get too serious, or 3) she's a golddigger. Either way, we don't know enough from the call.

[@Blissedx]

130k? You’re safe, trust me. Call back in 20 years..by then you won’t even care though 😂

[@FMD70757]

It sounds like this kid thinks that his money is the only thing that he has going for himself.

[@JesusIsLordJ3.16]

He called the wrong show, they aren’t the right ones to answer that question. The Young man is doing well at 25 years old.

[@14elvira14]

He has a lot of maturing to do 😂🙄

[@kypl1910]

Bro think he's the main character 😂

[@kbanghart]

​@@kypl1910he'll stay single, or get married and then divorced.

[@cashway0420]

Lol are you serious? You don't think picking the wrong female can lead to a lot of problems? You must've grown up sheltered...

[@coriemmett1363]

Clearly yes 😅

[@armywithbanners2458]

If the person he's with is not thinking of how she's going to reciprocate the value given to her by her man, then the person that needs to mature is the female not the man. She can demand whatever she wants, but is she's unwilling to match that energy nobody will take her seriously..

[@smeadows021]

You're asking people who met their partners YEARS ago. They have no clue about the current dating market 😂That's like Netflix asking Blockbuster how to attract customers. Lead w/ your personality, not your wallet. Be a gentleman & pay of course, but if you're really that concerned, drive a beater to the first few dates. If she's still interested, you're good.

[@queen.kristal8395]

Honestly just date around nothing serious until you know she is the right one to talk about money too

[@Lousybarber]

Run away from; Substance abuse problems. Single mom that hangs out with deadbeats. Divorced and complains endlessly about the ex. Posts nonsense on social media. Car interior is trashed. Home full of stuff from junk retailers. Credit card is maxed out. A fan of the Kardashians. Did I miss anything?

[@MelsDiner115]

Lol The ego and arrogance of this kid probably inherited the house and made some money and thinking he's a billionaire..lol.😂😂 though i wouldn't be surprised if this guy is actually 35, claiming to be 25.

[@durayenterprisesllc4440]

I wonder if everyone will be giggling so patronizingly in 7 years when she takes his kids and he has to pay her half the value of the construction business.

[@JIMDAVIS-z2h]

I live in Maine too. 130k is 3 times the per capita median income

[@pompeiyous2138]

To find a woman who is not after your money, Find a woman who you're not just after for what's under her clothes.

[@parkertowles2401]

They didn’t even try to find out his net worth. How much equity does he have in house? How much does he have in retirement? How much is his business worth?

[@Scarface_445]

He coulda answered instantly if he actually had a large NW. the guys values himself on the business, meaning his NW is either substantially inflated or under true value. Literally almost any financial person would tell you business valuation is highly subjective, ESPECIALLY something like a small business. It’s not a public company it’s a private small construction firm. Meaning I can pull 10M outta my ass and say it’s worth that much. Highly doubt anyone would pay that much for it.

[@nikanio4875]

Look within yourself, you attract your own kind. If all you can think of is make money, then you will attract women that only want money. You have to differentiate your business from personal life, majority of men/women can’t do that, they like to mix it up. When it come to your business focus on numbers, when it comes to your personal life focus on how you feel about the person and do things that make each other feel good. Don’t overthink, if you’re wrong let it be wrong…..

[@JoseLopez-jd6kt]

Essentially date within your league

[@georgem2315]

Not big fan of Ken, but he took the words of my mouth… If you can’t answer that question you don’t have that big of a net worth, buddy! I always hate people like the caller, you are not wealthy, yes, you work hard for your money, no doubt, but I have a feeling women aren’t dating because of your personality…

[@GAFB1122]

It's real simple, FIND AN EQUAL AND THEY ARE OUT THERE! If the gold diggers just pop up as the caller says, that tells me you are looking in the wrong areas. I am a man; I make low 6 figures. My direct manager is a female, and she makes more than I do. The head of the department is also a female is in her 40s, married with kids and she makes more than both of us do. I have this sinking suspicion that this guy is finding women who are waitressing for example. Not that I am knocking the service industry, but I THINK THE CALLER IS THE PROBLEM!

[@catherinewilke5583]

Yes, there are many financially independent women. But they don’t have fake boobs and fake eyelashes. Try harder bud 😂

[@Ka_Gg]

"an equal". If you think the only thing that makes someone an equal is how much they make....smh The problem isn't him dating somebody simple like a waitress that doesn't make a lot of money. His problem is that he seems to flaunt how well he is doing which will then attract a certain type of person. Also just because you found someone that makes the same or more than you doesn't mean it is better for you. Hell, look at Ben Affleck and JLo. She makes more than him and wants like half of his money in divorce. Again, it comes down to the type of people that you attract. You can have money, attract a nice girl that makes little money and her not be a gold digger.

[@eddtoon]

so your solution is that he date women that are over 1-2 decades older than him....

[@GAFB1122]

@@Ka_Gg Correct an equal is not just about money but it is partly about money. It is also about values and one value is being a high achiever. If you are a high achiever in whatever you do, maybe you should seek another high achiever.

[@GAFB1122]

@@eddtoon Funny, and typical. I expect you are blue collar.

[@John3.36]

He won't find a good one, because he is prioritizing the cash.

[@UTBanjo]

It's super easy. Buy an old beater Civic to take on dates. Dates should be free or really cheap. Never go back to your place. You are "in construction" when they ask what you do. After you have done this for 3-6 months you can start to open it up a little at a time.

[@ricksanchezsflask8794]

"In construction" but he wears a suit to work everyday.

[@UTBanjo]

@@ricksanchezsflask8794I know 3 guys who own construction companies, and they all wear jeans to work.

[@bvoyelr]

I don't love the derision of calling a grown man who's clearly way ahead of the game financially "kid," but other than that I can't find all that much fault with your advice. He's doing extremely well by any measure, but not so well that he's gotta worry about gold diggers.

[@FARHAN0179]

Dude calling in like he has a NW of a couple of million dollars 💀😂

[@Chad-qe6yv]

How do we know what it is they cut him off before he answered.

[@kbanghart]

​@@Chad-qe6yvThey asked him early on about his net worth, he couldn't even answer that 😂

[@Scarface_445]

@@Chad-qe6yvHe danced around the question. Someone with wealth almost instantly knows the answer. And DOES not start with “my business NW”. Dudes company is worth a million, maybe. His alone definitely is not. He gross is $130 running the ENTIRE Company. Meaning dude makes just as much as a regular employee being at a well established firm after like 5 years.

[@Chad-qe6yv]

@@kbanghart they cut him off

[@Chad-qe6yv]

@@Scarface_445 I wouldn't call 10 seconds dancing around the question

[@kaylasunshine5407]

Her concerns were valid 🤷🏾‍♀️ what your spouse earn is directly related to comfort level in life! Why are so many men confused by this most basic need!? Yes if you build your self up you make yourself a better catch 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@VictoriaInamorati1]

This guy sounds like he doesn't have anything to offer besides his money. People with crap personalities aren't going to attract good people. He needs to quit worrying about his money and work on himself or get a hobby.

[@DivestedConfessions]

He sounds like a smug immature male.

[@ElverGalarga88]

Homeboy makes 130k a year and he thinks he’s Jeff Bazos 😂😂😂….chill out dawg

[@alhajituray1093]

Most men deep down don’t want laid back women .The problem is the guys are chasing the women who are not on the same social bus and going through their fun phase.Just go to environments where toxicity is slim.

[@rachelabate2401]

Best advice. There should be 👍 likes on your comment

[@Ka_Gg]

Lmao you clearly have no idea what a man wants. Every guy I know that finds a good girl that is laid-back brags about her like crazy. Oftentimes it's one of the first things that he will say

[@alhajituray1093]

@ Lol you reading too deeply into this.Yes some guys do want laid back women .But most don’t if we going to tell the truth your people are a exception to the rule

[@Ka_Gg]

@@alhajituray1093 most actually do want laid back women. They are the most desired. You don't know how men think. Take the same girl and clone her. Make one of them high maintenance and high strung. Make the other girl low maintenance and laid-back. The laid back one will have far more men than take her serious and want to be with her. I assume you are not a man.

[@FMD70757]

Correct. They consider laid back as “boring”.

[@jackieepstein13]

He’s 25… I don’t know many 25-year-olds who are making over six figures… and building businesses…so great job! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 The average income in the United States is $60,000… So this young man is killing it and he doesn’t want to end up with a gold digger or someone with different values/ morals, and spending habits so he just has to be selective with his choice of lady who’s not all into superficial material Things like the majority of people are… I hope he keeps searching and finds the right girl he’ll be able to tell by what she’s doing with her life… Where she comes from is irrelevant… It’s her work ethic, her determination, her mindset, and her future goals… If she has a poverty, mindset or gold digger mindset well that’s not his girl

[@texasindy2193]

Why do some men think women are always after their money. You are what you attract.

[@Chet_24]

Because most of them are

[@ghostbird92]

Right? There are plenty of women out there who would prefer a man who makes less money but is kind, compassionate, loving, etc. Plus, women aren't always obsessed with extravagant lifestyles (mansions, designer clothes, sports cars, luxurious vacations, etc.) Some prefer a more simple, stable lifestyle.

[@Ka_Gg]

A lot of women are mainly after money and things. I've seen far too many guys get divorced and what happens in divorce. Now, there are also a lot of girls that are not after the money. It's easy to find gold diggers when you are showing off your gold

[@jaengen]

Because they always are. All women are gold diggers.

[@Shortballa11]

most women arent just looking for men with money, but a man not having money is a deal breaker if that makes sense. He just needs to find a hardworking woman, and she won't be reliant on his hardwork.

[@sheryl7837]

This call is hysterical!

[@christopherpope444]

Lmao my boy is a 5 lb goldfish and a 3 foot pool. You ain’t balling like you think you are. I know a few younger twenties earning that personally. They are doing very well but 130k annually ain’t a meal ticket.

[@yambagnelson9987]

average per capita income in augusta Maine is $34k. He is making several times that at 25. He is killing it.

[@MARINEJONFIT]

I know people who make $500k monthly lol -so, yeah you right. 130k definitely not a meal ticket lol

[@shaunhenderson2071]

$130k isn’t bad at all for 25, but the thing I didn’t like was he never got a chance to say what his net worth was. He could be a trust fund baby, but he just enjoys what he does.

[@privacyplease1556]

$130k? Buddy no one is dating you for money lol

[@lauramaluta867]

Ummmmmmm......worried about a gold digger? You sound like an average dude.

[@handleyobusiness]

CEO’s and a McDonald’s server can still be taken advantage of by greedy women.

[@sasha1yr]

6 figure 25 year old isn’t average

[@eg513]

I am watching , just bc of her !! She soo nice to look 👀 at !! Her hair is beautiful

[@jimmymcgill6778]

So a woman was asking about what she's looking for. And he considered her as after his money? She was just saying what she is looking for in life.

[@armywithbanners2458]

I guess u dint hear the part where, the woman won't reciprocate the value given to her by her man? You'd be ok, with tht arrangements right?

[@jimmymcgill6778]

@@armywithbanners2458 We don't know what he means by reciprocate.

[@TheKingofAndrosica]

It's amazing that I was recommended this video on the one year anniversary of dumping my gold digger girlfriend!

[@RobertJhonny-r1m]

LOL why not just throw some crypto into the Elizzarda? I’m pulling daily returns without sweating the market swings.

[@teceyS3]

I think he has a "proclivity" to date women that are outside of his "league" 🤣🤣

[@grettalemabouchou6779]

Keep your financial blessings to yourself......after a while, you will have gotten to know her and if you wish to continue the relationship, maybe in a few months......tell her about it.😊

[@Steve-lk1eb]

This right here…it’s so obvious. But he wasn’t here to find that out, he was here to flex and it backfired and I’m here for it.

[@Trapezius_God]

Sorry brother - No romance without finance

[@eddtoon]

i like how this guy basically got gaslit by telling him golddggers dont exist

[@kbanghart]

When did they tell him gold diggers don't exist?

[@eddtoon]

@kbanghart when they told him "hey maybe it was a communication issue" when trying to backtrack on his lived experiences with them

[@ering7733]

@@eddtoonYou mean when the woman he dated for 3 months wanted his thoughts on children and financial future?

[@eddtoon]

@@ering7733 yeah...3 months in and youre asking the guy about how HE is going to provide for you financially not as a joint effort even

[@kheldaryt]

agree OP, people might not like the way he asked the question but it's a legit question and lame response by host

[@memeworld7800]

This guy clearly grew up in a poor area where $130k is a LOT of money so hes flaunting it and getting chased by desperate people. Its simple man. Dont lead with your wallet. Have and show good character. Your "wealth" is something to slowly inteoduce over time, not on day 1.

[@swampcrawlerls1267]

This guy is gunna miss out on all the fun and the life lessons of losing half his stuff in divorce court.

[@pdxmusl1510]

😂😂😂😂 For real. And loose his kids he will rarely ever see cause of court rulings. And be called a dead beat dad because he's never there. Something all guys aspire too.

[@EverElia]

🤣🤣🤣 LOL

[@serenepeacefulrelaxingmusi3874]

If you are a transactional person, you might decide to look for someone who has as much money as you so you won't resent them. If you find value in other qualities that can't be bought, that is when your money won't matter. You should find a woman whose qualities are not transactional. She probably would prefer a guy who will actually love her instead of buy her things. Gifts are nice, but if they are given with resentment, they are worthless no matter how much you paid. I hope you understand what I am talking about. It really is the thought that counts! That is still true, even if the person receiving it was not worthy of the gift. There is also more happiness in giving than there is in receiving. Try giving with no expectation of receiving in return sometime.

[@cashway0420]

This guy is actually smart, have you been around 25 year olds these days? I know 35 year olds who haven't moved out of the house, we're not living in the old days where it way normal to have your shit together by 25, you would be amazed how childish modern young adults are. Ask them how much money they make and even see if they have any life goals before letting them into your life. Building a successful construction company by 25 is a huge accomplishment and don't let just anybody into your life have high standards. Like Ken said don't be hanging out at the trailer park or meeting randoms online. They're trying to clown him but I guarantee none of theses 2 had any success at his age, they don't even have their own business now...

[@golferpro1241]

Truth

[@allisonwelton5926]

Date a woman who’s working towards their own goals and would rather support themselves

[@TexasRanchu]

Simple drive hoopty.., not fancy cars

[@PinkMama-b7b]

LOL! 1st off, to live comfortably in 2024, in major US city, you'll need to make as individual: $96,500 per year, Household of 2 adults and 2 children: $235,000 per year. You make average $...If you want a girl that isn't in it for money, DONT BRING IT UP until things start to get serious. Men, should offer to pay for dates, unless she wants to. If you get serious, you discuss what your future holds. This guys frontal lobe hasn't developed yet.

[@moviedeeva]

Talk about your common interests... not your $$. Save the money talk for later!

[@ninapage8498]

Find an independent ambitious woman that wants her own.

[@aminakizenga6523]

Him: I am calling to brag about the money that I make a year. Them: Are you a millionaire? Him:😑?

[@NickRaeff]

Josh, if you read this, call Anthony O’Neil! He used to work for Dave Ramsey and had a great gold digger story. AO should’ve taken this call.

[@Steve-lk1eb]

Lmao dude came to flex hard and got told chill out lil boy you ain’t sheeeet.

[@SuperChambala]

This is very interesting. He feels attracted to women that look like gold diggers , obviously but he doesnt want it at the same time. My question: are you interested in real women or in thophies? Obviously he is not saying: I want to fall i'm love with a great woman. So, his real question would be: how do I choose a woman who is not a lovely woman but a woman that looks like a gold diggerr so that she fits with my business visión?

[@sasha1yr]

Don’t get married and don’t live together. Get established and go over seas.

[@Chet_24]

Best advice on here, by far!

[@tylersanders2388]

It’s not as hard as people seem to think. I’ll give you my biggest tip on how to get there: -make sure you aren’t behaving with money in a different way than you normally do with money to get women. Don’t buy extravagant gifts that are out of your day to day purchasing range and don’t go around in a Rolex unless that’s what you do every day. That sets the expectations in reality and you find people who are in reality that way

[@ETAonTheEUC]

It would be one thing if you're rich and you ask that, but 130K, is decent, but not rich. Real gold diggers will go after millionaires. So, I probably wouldn't concern yourself too much with that

[@Chet_24]

He owns his home, too. It isnt just his salary.

[@Shortballa11]

I'd say 130k is a lot for a 25 year old. Golddiggers will you and abuse someone at 60k and leave. They surely will use and abuse a 25 year old at his income level.

[@TheTricky44]

“If you can’t tell us how much you’re worth you’re not that wealthy” 😂