Therapist answers commonly googled questions about therapy

[@drali]

Timestamps for this video... 0:13 - What is therapy like? 1:06 - Why is therapy so expensive? 5:04 - Do therapists make a lot of money? 6:11 - Do therapists go to therapy? 7:34 - Do therapists need a PhD? 8:49 - Why are therapists called shrinks? 9:31 - How do I know if my therapist is good? 9:31 - How do I know if my therapist Is helping me? 9:31 - How do I know if my therapist is right for me? 9:31 - How do I know if my therapist cares about me? 12:26 - What if my therapist doesn’t believe me? 13:39 - What if I tell my therapist I’m suicidal? 16:15 - What if my therapist sees my cuts? 16:59 - What if I see my therapist in public? 18:06 - Why does my therapist yawn? 18:47 - Why is my therapist always late? 19:39 - Why can’t I open up to my therapist? 20:57 - How do therapists diagnose? 21:45 - How do therapists engage difficult clients? 23:09 - Help my therapists is mad at me 24:02 - Help my therapist is an intern 25:39 - Help my therapist In love with me 27:16 - Can I be friends with my therapist?

[@FoolinTvv]

Do we get a email ahead of the day you're going to call us for your show?

[@drali]

I won’t be able to call everyone (a lot of people signed up) but will do my best to coordinate with people when possible.

[@lindadijoux3754]

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[@fimja]

As a fellow therapist, I REALLY appreciate your video. So so helpful.

[@kathleendoodles698]

"Why is therapy so expensive?" Your comments about insurance companies hit a little too close to home! 😂I used to work for a law firm, and we had to work with insurance companies a lot. They totally think they are doctors and try to find ways of avoiding paying for things. (They also don't seem to think mental health issues are that important IMHO.) 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@lindadijoux3754]

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[@NenaLavonne]

Brilliant theme for a video, and much appreciated! Wishing you all the best! ✨

[@drali]

Thank you! I’ve seen this format done by a lot of physicians but never saw a therapist do it so I figured I give it a try.

[@NenaLavonne]

The Psych Show great job!

[@matthewgreen90]

This guy definitely deserves more subscribers!

[@drali]

Thanks Matthew!

[@airpolygon2714]

Fantastic video! You really help me understand many things about therapy! sometimes there's no time with my therapist, and we can't really get into every subject, or sometimes I forget questions that I have. This is really helpful to understand, and to create specific questions that I can ask during my sessions!

[@drali]

That’s so awesome to hear! Glad it helped you and hope it leads to a great therapy session 👍🏽

[@dhruvivora9763]

It's great to have such informative videos back! I like the novices vs experts, it kind of balances off the differences and of course one's personal experience also counts in what they're contributing along with their knowledge.

[@reenavalecha159]

I have considering getting therapy for a long time now and I was really wondering how would I really know if it's gonna help.. this video debunked so many of my doubts . Thank you so much !! ❤️

[@Ureyeuh]

As of today (1/17/2021) Glassdoor supposedly hasn't had a SINGLE additional individual provide salary information to them. This video was released in Dec. 2019, and still, today, not a single additional person has provided their salary information with Glassdoor, yet the average base pay for a mental health therapist has declined??? This video reports 54,092 @2,793 salaries reported, but as of 1/5/2021, Glassdoor displays mental health therapists as making 48,905 @2,793 salaries reported. Nobody is going to see this comment, so I probably just wasted time writing this, but yeah, that's weird... This is such an overlooked part of this job for undergraduate students who want to pursue this occupation, and when they see it, it can shatter their dreams. For that reason, I am super happy to see you talking numbers. It helps students realize what they're going to make.

[@marjoleinvaningen7686]

Welp after the 2nd question I am happy that I live in the netherlands. I luckily never have to worry about paying my therapist! I pay 160 euro a month for healthcare and everything, including therapy, is covered.

[@eddiew2325]

Is that socialism?

[@fidgetykoala]

@@eddiew2325 nope it's taking care of their people I guess. A healthy society it's a more productive society, if you need to convert everything in remunative terms.

[@ashleyleblanc7140]

Love your videos so much! Thank you for sharing the realities and struggles of being a therapist. It's so insightful to me as an undergrad & such valuable and helpful information!

[@MusicalChelC]

So glad you're back with your awesome videos! I enjoyed the short clips from the TV shows you're doing but I love this kind of content so much!

[@nightangeldk8967]

I had a therapist who ignored my anxiety of getting hurt and not being good enough for my boyfriend, which tended to be irrational, because of trauma from a bad relationship, and just went to "Have you tried telling yourself that you trust him?"

[@nikitapandey_she_her3298]

I am so sorry you had to go through that and I understand it must have been hard trusting your therapist to tell them that, I hope you found your way through this....what I would suggest being a student of this field, is to tell your therapist that this exact thing happened and I feel that you ignored me, confront them and if you think that it is not working out you changing the therapist is always an option.... More power to you...

[@anastasiyatsoy844]

Great Job, Ali! Continue doing this, you rock!

[@drali]

Thank you!!!

[@alphadog3384]

To this day, l can not figure out why a former friend of mine would refuse therapy and would tell others l will just have my friends help me with all my issues (loss, deaths trauma, self image) my guess is, this person had undiagnosed borderline personality disorder, later in the relationship she started gossiping & making fun or comparison about people. Rather immature l would say. Especially gossiping about people. Sharing confidential information. She didn't validate me or others when suggestions were given about getting help. When l cut the relationship out "l got a letter that she was the victim." I unfortunately can't get closure l felt smoothed and invalidated in the relationship. Only old memories were acknowledged, more then present day. Finally l ended the relationship in anger. We knew each for 40 years plus. I knew that this was relationships was destructive for my own mental & physical wellness l had to move forward if l didn't get angry what choice would l have had. She was pushing me forward to anger.

[@MrHurrDurrDerp]

great content, keep it up! I'm a rising sophomore in college and trying to figure out a career path and i really appreciate how transparent you are.

[@RoliePole.e]

I really appreciate your time stamps would you mind kind of talking about if psychology can be a dangerous job like maybe if you want to do criminal or forensic psychology or even clinical , and also would you happen to know of any psychologist that work from home online or even have an office where their patients come to their homes if so can you tell us what that’s like .

[@bradleypetrich2946]

Dude....LOVE your youtube page!!!!!!

[@emiliam778]

Thanks, that is a very helpful video (as always)

[@drali]

So happy to hear it was helpful!

[@Fentonscooby]

Hi Dr. A I recently just swooped by your videos after searching up psych videos, and I have to say I’m happy to come across yours! I’m a psychology at my university and it’s teaching me so much! I was wondering if I could join your Patreon what kind of more content I could get! You are exactly how I imagine a psychologist should be!

[@drali]

Thanks for joining our community, Brandon! Glad to hear you’re enjoying the videos. I’m always evolving what I offer on Patreon and am trying to figure out what’s sustainable for me to create and valuable to patrons. Right now I give priority to patrons for my call in show, provide “full therapy” sessions of my Real Therapist / Fake Therapy series, and also provide behind the scenes updates.

[@catbiscuits2897]

@@drali i'm currently in grade 12 and have trouble choosing a career path for me. for one, I really want to be clinical psychologist for a while before going to med school. but as a person, being a physical therapist can help me as an aspiring athlete, as someone who have family member with stroke and an artist. what should I do?

[@joshuarhoden1194]

Hi Dr.Ali, love your videos! I would love to know if you think space psychology is an achievable goal as a career path? You did a video on the subject some time ago and i really liked the idea of it. Unfortunatly i can't seem to find many things online about what studies i should specialize in. Thank you for your time and keep up the great videos!

[@drali]

Thanks for your comment! I think it’s def a possible career path however there aren’t too many jobs available within it. Some of the folks I’ve met doing this work have a background in IO psychology and focus on the team aspect of space flight. Others have a background in human factors and focus more on human/machine interface.

[@McNuggetFiend]

First job was 30k a year...in 2012. Masters level therapist. Worked easily 50+ a week.

[@aspidoscelis]

Re. the feeling of not being believed-I've found this to be a barrier. Not necessarily not believing me about external events, not believing me in terms of my own experience and my understanding of myself. Presumably they believe that I believe what I'm saying, but I don't think they believe that I am correct-and my best guess is that this is a feature rather than a bug, that therapists aren't "supposed" to take reported self-understanding at face vallue.

[@aspidoscelis]

And presumably many people are going to therapists to gain insights into themselves that they would not have been able to arrive at themselves. Some of us aren't, though.

[@UHFStation1]

I think the term "shrink" specifically referred to psychiatrists. Like Freudian type stuff.

[@leerwesen]

9:44 it's on your left :) in case you want to know for sure next time!

[@drali]

Thank you!

[@toria1209]

This was such an interesting video! V. helpful!

[@drali]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@MistyFlyingCherryROR]

Hi! I've just discovered you recently. Like a couple hours ago. I think your videos are great! I like them :D If you are taking suggestions... could you pleas do a video about recomendation for movies with psychology topics (movies you think are good at presenting topics from psychology)? :D Please? Please, please, pleeeeeeeeeeeease :D

[@eagleeyemind4800]

One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest

[@eagleeyemind4800]

A Beautiful Mind

[@eagleeyemind4800]

Inside Out

[@eagleeyemind4800]

Good Will Hunting

[@Stanhope66]

Some awful movie with Barbara Streisand and Nick Nolte from the 80’s. Prince of Tides……

[@Haffina]

This was really interesting, even though things are a little different in Australia.

[@anoushkakumar3685]

How is it different? I’m looking to become a therapist in Australia

[@amaziarie8656]

I love your videos keep up the good work!

[@lucygoose6052]

Such great content! 💕

[@laceyluker8756]

Man!! I’d love to have you as a therapist

[@RainbowKid71]

I wish this guy was my psychiatrist 😞

[@MikMilman]

Another great video.

[@rishabhpandey6384]

As student of masters in psychology I am really egar to know what kind of plan you make Or therapy you provide to a patient who is thinking of suicide...

[@dravengore9475]

How can I practice psychology skills now, like self disciplines, or something that I can do in a everyday use. Hope that makes sense.

[@flvtterwonder]

I came to this video after a clerk told me i had to pay 1,412 dollars for a first appointment,,im a college student and dont want to burden my parents with having to pay so much. I guess I’ll just stick to watching videos on yt lol. It does help make the costs make sense, it’s still just a lot...I guess everyone gets screwed over.

[@proximareal]

Thank you!!

[@jessicasyms3899]

My major is Psychology. Do you have any advice about cognitive psychology. I find this class to be sooooooo hard.

[@PaulSimardPsychologie]

So good channel!!!!!

[@markrimiki33]

was listening to this and as Doc. explains thru 09:31 ,, I find it similar to the kind of things you share thru and help each other with in an actual relationship to make or break a strong bond,, nah,, maybe i'm just reading too much into it..

[@immortalsun]

_Definitely_ not stolen from Wired.

[@DASA-jh3su]

How about if the therapist cancel on the client multiple times?

[@nometoqueisloshuevos7544]

what if my therapist doesn’t believe me about my intentions on something? like, they are like “i was under the impression that you...” and then when you deny those being your intentions the therapist replies with “yeah, right...” in an obviously sarcastic way

[@vena.therapy]

I’m a therapist. If your therapist is treating you this way, find a new one. This is NOT good therapeutic practice.

[@partlyart]

Loved the video, but your subtitles could use some work. I really appreciate that you put them there, but they're chock full of mistakes and it can get really distracting.

[@toria1209]

If you could go back in time and be in college again, do you think you would pursue the same career?

[@drali]

Great question. I have two thoughts on this. The first is there’s no doubt that psychology was the right career path for me. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the field. Always have (once I encountered it in college) and always will. However, I sometimes wonder if I should have pursued industrial/organizational psychology instead of clinical psychology. IO psychologists focus on supporting teams of people in organizations instead of clinical psychologist who primarily focus on mental illness in individuals. I love IO because the scale of change is bigger. That’s one of the reasons I came to KZbin - big scalable impact appeals to me. So yes I’d do psychology again but unsure of the speciality.

[@vaishnavidang8864]

sir i have done masters in psychology from india... can you please suggest me some options(other than psyD or phd) to be a therapist in U.S.A or Canada.

[@juliaanimatesstuff7701]

you need to start running a therapy session in the comment section

[@AaaBbb-ok9ci]

You're a handsome dr😍😊😍❤️😘😍💋💋

[@B_27]

40 minutes is not "almost an hour", it is closer to half an hour 🙄. Sessions should be a minimum of 50 minutes.

[@byte2702]

Why can’t Google be my therapist? 😂

[@margaretcapers2368]

interesting most psychologist i ve met have been abusive ( especially men) and in fact, it made me worse ( the because they dont gets NVLD).

[@erdiergin2305]

Hi ıAM TURKISH

[@UHFStation1]

Any videos on Non-binary people? Is that an official designation or do some people just feel they are beyond having a gender?

[@eddiew2325]

theres two genders in life. theres no such thing as nonbinary

[@mdshahinhossen5218]

Y

[@ItsjustJoy99]

[@dildojizzbaggins6969]

*commonly-googled Shouldn't therapists be intelligent and good at grammar as well?

[@CorbinXbox]

I do not like vid and you shall be shamed because I am cool

[@billmeyer4665]

Does your advice that you give patience harmonize with the Bible.

[@Avidjupiter]

No, thankfully not.