Therapist Breaks Down Love is Blind’s Zack, Bliss, & Irina | Why Zack Chose Irina

[@maggiegilbert412]

One of the best things for me was that Irena obviously got the "ick" when Zack sang, along with the majority of America. But there are videos on insta of Zack singing to Bliss and she just looks so enchanted and enamored by him. Bliss looks genuinely in love with him when he's singing (probably because she knows hes singing for her!). My favorite thing about them is that everything Irena disliked and said was a flaw (too much eye contact, awkwardness, nerdiness) were things that Bliss embraced. It makes you realize that aspects of personality aren't flaws per se, they just aren't for everyone. And there are Bliss like people out there who will love every bit of you

[@theorderofthebees7308]

Amen 🎉🎉🎉🎉 and that’s why being authentically you is a win

[@ashjade86]

You’re absolutely right!

[@jennal0ve]

So well said!!!!!!

[@alextroy9202]

is always about the RIGHT person

[@buffalo.blackk]

@@theorderofthebees7308It doesn’t matter if you’re authentically you if you choose the Irinas of the world instead of the Bliss’. Multiple guys chose the toxic, self-centered women over the higher quality choices that genuinely wanted them. Zach chose Irina instead of Bliss. Paul chose Micah over Amber. The Nigerian guy chose Micah over Chelsea. All these guys choosing toxic women they have to chase over women who validate them. Men should always choose the women that choose them. Especially in 2023. Women have so many options w/ IG and FB and dating apps in addition to irl, that a man needs to have a woman who pursues him to keep her interested. It’s the only way. Don’t pick women you have to chase.

[@tomcole3149]

When Zack broke up with Bliss, she didn’t vilify him. She accepted his choice even though she disagreed with it. That’s emotional maturity. When Irina thought Zack was going in a different direction, she threatened to leave the show. That’s emotional blackmail.

[@thewholeyou]

And Irina childish self only wanted him to stay on the show with her childish friend Micah who had just gotten choosen. She was playing with him the whole time. Irina was emotionally immature.

[@lovethatdirtywater78]

It reminds me of Josh's favorite line, "if it's not you, I'm packing my bags and leaving" that he said to two different women haha

[@meganquinones1271]

Yassss and she walked away KNOWING her worth!

[@jclyntoledo]

​@@lovethatdirtywater78 😂😂 I was thinking that too well Josh said that and Jackie wasn't mad about it. Although I guess she didn't know he said it to more than one person 😬😬.

[@pjai80]

And according to the reunion, she also sent Bliss a negative message about him when they went their separate ways.

[@meganchristinadunn]

This is the first time I’ve heard an explanation of why Zach chose Irina that made sense to me. Thank you Steph!!!

[@jeremysmith9694]

Yeah it was a smart analysis. Things I never considered at all.

[@BabyMarmelade]

Same!

[@mrighald]

I also feel that it was also because Bliss called him out on Irina. That likely took a hit on his ego.

[@caniyahwilliams5836]

Same thing I thought

[@aliciaaa6021]

@@mrighald yup with him also being insecure double whammy

[@JuliaMarieH]

I completely agree, from Zach’s perspective, he saw Bliss taking bad about Irina and Irina staying respectful of Bliss, so he interpreted Bliss as being the mean girl. I’m not at all surprised that he chose Irina.

[@preityb200]

The way Irina and mica were playing game....she easily fooled both.. Zack and bliss

[@WilliamsPinch]

He saw Irina as she was. He called her vicious and childish, but he’s used to redeeming people and he wanted to be the only who understood her.

[@preityb200]

@@WilliamsPinch so true...here is a woman on one side who is making cake for you ,talking mature stuff and one the other hand there is a woman who herself is saying she is mean to people.. and you are still choosing the mean girl. I mean bliss was not wrong when she said the kind of person you choose shows how good a judge you are of peoples charachter. Only benefit of doubt i can give to zack is that Irina was such a good player.

[@jakestroll6518]

It’s not any one thing. Your point contributed but ultimately it was his relational wounds that led him to Irina.

[@sa-maganz5526]

​@@preityb200 I personally think he was afraid, you can see his reaction to her saying her father was not liking her boyfriend's or something like he was judgmentally. He was judge his whole life so I think this was something really hard for him to go through. Also Irena had the bullying storey and all and giving ilhim the dream of liking him like he is no Mather was, especially that he knows she was not perfect( I mean nobody is perfect but Bliss you can only see the good side in the pods). I mean on the last part I understand him, I have my problems and far from perfect someone beiing like to good, and looking like he has all together I would feel insecure. I think it was something like this.( Hope is understandable, English is not my first language)

[@memistarot]

I think that for Irina, it was all about winning. I think it became a game to her and she just did and said whatever she felt she had to, to win.

[@rotcehsotomayor9195]

Agreed!!!

[@ima.m.1658]

Yes. I'm sure it's insecurities from her upbringing, she's just not mature yet

[@ashleyw.6702]

Yes... to win a free trip to Mexico. 🤭 Poor Zach.

[@brittc18]

I think it was just for clout that’s it

[@sheisthechurch.official]

Yes! 👏🏼

[@missyblissy90]

Bliss's emotional intelligence is awe inspiring. From recognising her needs, asserting boundaries and accepting Zack without apology is incredible. I hope her and Zack have an amazing life together!

[@nostalgiagatuna]

They have a girl on the way!! ❤

[@marymcphersonwilkins2897]

My biggest beef with Zach is how dismissive he was of Bliss' feelings when she was still feeling upset about being his second choice. I feel like he didn't earn her trust back enough.

[@AlwaysLisaLisa]

yes, not good,

[@meganchristinadunn]

Yes! It felt like such a missed opportunity to build back her trust that he never apologized (from what we saw on camera) for the emotional pain he caused her. He could have owned his poor choice and its effects on Bliss better, I think.

[@michellegirau8136]

I'm not a huge fan of Zack. I feel he used his trauma to win people over and it worked. There's plenty of people that have trauma but don't lead with it to get sympathy.

[@asiamwithraenetteleepodcast]

I agree with your analysis but then I remembered that they could’ve most likely talked more off camera bc what he said to her mother and sister was a lot more empathetic to the situation … bc I admit I was triggered 😂

[@tommysmith2719]

I feel like Zack owe her trust back

[@Grace_Zandile97]

Zach's decision to inform Bliss's family about his intentions to rekindle their relationship shows a level of emotional maturity. He understands that his actions in the past may have caused hurt and pain, and is willing to face any criticism from Bliss's family. This demonstrates his commitment to rebuilding trust and repairing the damage caused.

[@melanino]

I think that Zack has been hurt so much by words, that any type of affirmations will make him happy. So when Bliss is being harsher with her words but being honest, Zack only focused on her words but didnt realise how her actions showed how much she loved him. While Irena offered him empty words that he wants to hear, but his brain knew that she didn't actually give a shit about him.

[@Itsmysurf]

I was so upset when Zack broke up with Bliss not just bc it was tragic and clearly (to us) the wrong choice, but also because Bliss's response so whole heartedly proved that she was the one with love and maturity and ready for this process, in contrast to Irena who was immature as fuck, even if her words in the pods tricked Zack. It just made me want to rip my hair out for Bliss

[@Momo-po5tn]

Im like the point where they say Bliss knew she messed up by saying X about Irina....mmm what about the parts Zach messed up on? Bliss was right, it did show his judgement.

[@rotcehsotomayor9195]

Irina literally pined for Zack as if it was a competition and said yes just because she was able to “take him” from Bliss

[@beautyfullar2861]

Her and the other girl were the same way. Using “beating” another woman to pad their insecurities

[@Flowerchile444]

Bliss’s soul and her family are so warm and genuine, especially Bliss’s Mum. Amazing analysis too ♥️

[@zazalula9064]

When she puts that green pillow on her face you can see how he is realising that he made a mistake. He was already planning to go find Bliss 😂

[@ac70998]

It is ironic that Irina, as an alleged victim of bully, turns out to be a super mean girl towards others...

[@juliacmendes]

EXACTLY!!

[@peaceandquiet62]

That my be a lie to disarm people of her bullying evil ways. Like a sucker punch.

[@SoleilMagica]

I also think Micah manipulated her into doing most of the dirty work for her.

[@frizzyrascal1493]

I don‘t really buy her story. A real bullied victim wouldn‘t act the way she did.

[@justtryitlala]

Not an excuse and does not make it right - but hurt people, hurt people.

[@ness0388]

I had to mute it when you played Zack singing it. It literally hurts me. I yelled NO and muted it😂. Why'd you do me like that Steph?!

[@vroxxzz]

😭😭😭 Nooooo. Hahaha his singing IS exceptionally terrible but I'm sure Bliss doesn't mind and just appreciates him trying

[@marianbobian1308]

😂😂😂

[@doyoufeardeath666]

When I saw it the first time I skipped through it 😂 could not endure it

[@marianbobian1308]

The NO was exactly my internal emotion when I heard him singing. Lol

[@AnnelisR]

I LOVED every time Zach sang, tbh I couldn’t stop laughing 🙊

[@katielambie3116]

Can I just say that your intro song is always stuck in my head and I always sing it and my husband NEVER knows what I’m singing😂 But I love it!!

[@meganchristinadunn]

Same!!!

[@samanthamiller2412]

No matter what I’m doing when the intro song comes on, I HAVE to sing with it

[@Madellien]

Same here 😂

[@1manlone]

Right😂

[@donnabohanon1570]

Agree!

[@zoeziebee]

The thing you said about the guys generally saying that they love their partner because of how they made them feel struck a chord with me. One time for Valentine’s Day with my ex we wrote cards with lists of why we loved them to give to the other, and my boyfriend’s list was predominantly about how I made him feel. I remember being a bit upset by that because it felt like it was more about him than me

[@KitKatAttack817]

This therapist is spot on. Poverty connects people sometimes in a negative way. I’ve felt that way in the past and felt similar to Zack. I knew why he chose irina for being similar to his back story. It may also have been a self esteem thing too. Glad it worked out for them. L

[@dfromtheblock1537]

32:36 that moment literally made me cry for sure. I love bliss’ mom!💗

[@StephAnya]

An angel 😇

[@janellejimenez9448]

I feel like we can learn so much from Bliss in the season! She seems so emotionally mature and sure of herself! I need some of that in my own life lol

[@shandanan]

When I started watching your videos in January I ended up beginning my therapy journey in February. It has been a transforming process for me thus far, thank you so much. I am in a much healthier place and you have a hand in that. All the best for you and your future✨

[@theorderofthebees7308]

🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@xletragedyx]

I don't think Bliss messed up by talking about Irina; Zack messed up by not believing her. You're supposed to be able to confide in the person you're going to marry. Bliss tried to tread carefully, but I think she should have been *more* explicit about what was happening.

[@user-ix7rj3pc7r]

I don't know at this point if she was more explicit it might have looked like she really hates Irina and make her look bad. As opposed to Irina who in the pods didn't say anything overly negative about bliss. I think at the end of the day Irina just played the game better whilst Bliss was too honest. It worked against her in the pods.

[@incufriend]

@@user-ix7rj3pc7r Irina definitely was playing a game, and Bliss was trying to find love

[@automaticcaptions]

@@incufriendit’s hard to tell as a player tho. They only hear the voice, we see their actions

[@gracewheeler20]

I absolutely adored Bliss. She is amazing. So mature and warm♥️

[@bird_beak]

Absolutely loved this video and commentary. This was my favorite story of the series because it was by far the most genuine and realistic to me. Most of us will pick several “wrong” people before we pick the “right” one. Sometimes the wrong person becomes the right one. Most times the opposite happens, and we break up and grieve and move on to the next person, which is basically what happened here except on a much more accelerated timeline. In that sense, I do not think what happened is so unusual. I loved how all of Zack’s quirks and eccentricities that “gave the ick” to Irina were ultimately the things Bliss loved about him, and isn’t that what this is all about? Finding the person who understands your weirdness and loves you for it? So happy for them. I’m happy for Tiff and Brett and Lauren and Cam too, but they’re all the cool kids. It’s more heartwarming for me to see the nerds find each other and fall in love. I’m so glad Bliss didn’t let her pride get in the way of her happiness. As for topics for videos, I sometimes feel like my partner isn’t always very aware of his emotions and has trouble articulating them or even recognizing them, and have always wondered why that is and how he can improve at it. Sometimes I feel like I might have hurt him (unintentionally) but even if I ask directly he’ll deny it and blow it off. And maybe I’m wrong but his facial expression sure says otherwise.

[@Itsmysurf]

I don't care how Zack perceived it, when Bliss told Zack it was a red flag that he couldn't see what a shit person Irena was, I was 1000% on board with her. I dunno about yall, but I don't wanna spend the rest of my life with someone who puts me on the same par with an asshole and thinks we're equally worthy as a partner.

[@regularity2556]

Remember, he doesn't see the Irena that Bliss sees, she's in the pods with him, he sees a misunderstood girl, from the wrong side of the tracks, who grew up rough like he did

[@terickastidbits2342]

@@regularity2556 exactly! He got Irina’s representative and Bliss didn’t then she attacked his character for not agreeing that Irina was not a good person

[@Blahgirl283]

He no longer believed they were equally good partners once he saw for himself all the things Bliss and only the audience had. All he had to go off of was a pleasant voice telling him sweet nothings and Bliss telling him about stuff he hadn’t seen; there’s definitely validity in the fact that he should have taken Bliss’ word since she had already been showing she was of good character - but that would be hard to discern as different than Irina who was mostly just sweet - nothing-ing him / charming him to stay on the show.

[@Ola_Stawinska]

Let's imagine that we didn't see all the shitty thighs Irina was doing in the pods. The producers cut it out and we can only see nice Irina from thee pods. Then Bliss ccome with her comments about Irina being rude and mean. Would we just trust her words or think that she is trying to manipulate Zack to win him? I think that in general in this show, talking about other contestants is just bad taste and bad idea. It's all just gossip and can influence someone's choice.

[@Momo-po5tn]

​@@Ola_Stawinska ok but zach told Irina himself that she was a vicious person. And told others shes immature and plays girl games. To an extend he seen through the sweet facade, he just chose to ignore that.

[@Jennessssy]

I could not stop crying after reading Zach’s receipts. Once I read the line of how his mom wrote “somehow she found a little hope in her hopelessness” I just started to bawl. Life’s hardships can really take a toll and for his and his mom’s story to turn out so beautifully just made my heart so warm.

[@emilyhahn7925]

What I really noticed is the Zack seems like he's possibly neurodivergent. That would explain the interrupting, eccentric qualities, and awkward moments in conversations. I think Bliss really accepted and loved him for his authentic self. They remind me of my relationship with my neurodivergent partner (we both have autism and I have ADHD)

[@cardamom3804]

Possibly the staring too?

[@SleepingDreamer16]

I noticed that as well. I have ADHD and a lot of Zack's traits are stuff that I do. Even the sensitivity to rejection so I could see why he chose Irina initially. I remember being constantly called "awkward", "clumsy", "eccentric", "gullible", "blunt", "loud", "rude" etc., a lot of things I have seen people calling Zack. But this man is just neurodivergent and I'm glad he found someone who accepted him as is.

[@ashjade86]

💯

[@azellaneya]

i said the exact same thing, i’m the same way and i do it frequently even when i try not to

[@backupnameplease]

As another ND person, I totally related to all his 'weird' traits too 🙈 I thought he was adorable

[@beautyfullar2861]

“I thought it was interesting she referred to herself as a bombshell” so did we sis so did we lol

[@kathleengilroyart]

😂

[@jaxj968]

💀

[@sheisthechurch.official]

I appreciate these shows so much more after Steph breaks them down 👏🏼

[@amalahmed1008]

I loved your analysis on why Zach chose Irina at the beginning even though for us viewers, Bliss was obviously a better match for him. We often forget that the participants in the experience don't know how the others behave and act outside the pods. Subscribed ❤

[@lavinder11]

He didnt see Irina as the nice one. He called her vicious and childish when discussing his choices with one of the men. I think Bliss was what he wanted, but he had a major insecure moment.

[@Momo-po5tn]

Agreed

[@Crystal-wv9rg]

but I don't think he said this until she refused to kiss him at the reveal and after she started treating him like trash after they met.

[@jesscook]

Last season disturbed my soul also. It almost made me want to stop watching the series, but I'm glad I decided to keep going with it. Zack & Bliss are my new favorite couple!

[@marebear18373]

Since you asked! I would love it if you did more videos on relationship dynamics in families, friendships and romantic relationships. Selfishly I’d love takedowns of cultural norms that perpetuate unhealthy relationships. For example, rom coms always puts pursuer-distancer dynamics on a pedestal. You’re really good at breaking things down and balancing both theory and practicalities. Plus all your videos are rooted in strong values and heart. I love your content! Keep them coming.

[@BJ-uv1cf]

Steph that meeting between Zack and Bliss was about 2 hrs long and we only saw probably about 5 to 10 minutes of footage. Both Zack and Bliss said on a podcast. He said he did not go there to win her back. He went there to apologize and give her a gift, but there was so much chemistry between them that they couldn’t deny how they felt. Bliss said she had to fight hard to hold back her smile when she saw him. Zack said when he saw her he said to himself I’m in trouble. Waiting for the Micah and Paul video. Also to add perspective their pod dates were 5 or more hrs long and they had 2 dates per day, 1 day date and 1 night date. Remember when Irina said that he had 10 straight hours dating Bliss and she had been waiting to talk to him all day. So we miss a lot of conversations.

[@inspectorgadget247]

Are Z & B still married or engaged ?!!

[@AletheSnail7]

@@inspectorgadget247yes! A child on the way!

[@jaxj968]

@@inspectorgadget247yes still married!

[@Kat_kitty_katkat]

Thank you for sharing your insight! As an autistic person, I find it difficult to understand some behaviours etc and watching your videos helps:))

[@xletragedyx]

Don't worry, a lot of us neurotypical non-therapists are confused too! These videos are so helpful for us, too!

[@blufaerie]

I love that Bliss stood up to her father. Her father’s feelings were valid because this is a strange situation, but Bliss speaking up for herself was great.

[@isayhi72]

Ah! Your interpretation of Zack's initial choice of Irina makes so much sense!

[@typov604]

Another great analysis!!! Thank you! Also, I love your hair, you look beautiful

[@StephAnya]

Aw thank you so much!

[@blakeharrison3972]

I get that Zack’s mom has struggled, but I felt like he almost adopted it as a personality type, he always brought it up. I think she would be proud about how he and his sister turned out, but I feel like he just kept bringing it up as an issue

[@kaityparsons1212]

Well he was trying to get to know someone at an expedited speed. I'm sure it comes up a lot because it effects almost every area of his life.

[@peaceandquiet62]

I agree. I don't believe every negative detail about your past is anyone's business. He could have just said my Mom was a single parent, had to struggle for a living to make ends meet which resulted in an unstable, inconsistent upbringing.

[@Kimeesunshine]

With the way it literally killed some of his previous relationships, made it probably hard as a child and a teen, it is a big part of his life and quite important to inform the person who will share your life

[@supMELINA]

I have a hard time finishing videos without skipping around, your videos are the only ones I watch all the way through. The way you deliver your interpretations always help me dig deeper into my own thoughts. thank you❤

[@MamaCancer23]

I was happy that Zach & Bliss worked out 🥹❤️ I loved them two from the beginning. I didn’t think negatively of Bliss giving him a second chance, because people make wrong decisions sometimes & deserve forgiveness & to prove themselves 🤷🏾‍♀️ Bliss is such a sweetheart to me 🫶🏾 I learned so much from her as far as how to be vulnerable, go for what you want, not worrying about what others think & how to communicate when it comes to love/dating.

[@Sleezysnailz]

Irina is such a mean girl. Her lack of empathy is scary tbh.

[@AnimalsDressedasHumans]

Zack had mentioned he hadn’t told someone he loved them since he was 21. And I had gotten vibes all along like he hadn’t dated much, and this supposed traumatic event of being judged by another person’s family happened a long time ago at a younger age, such as a high school or college sweetheart. I wondered if his girlfriend at the time still lived with her parents and/or his mom was still in the picture. He definitely rubbed some women the wrong way with his little test, and maybe eliminated some he didn’t have to, though how fortunate he still found Bliss. But if things hadn’t worked out for him, he screamed someone needing therapy bc that is a long time to be holding onto to something that happened with a much younger person in probably much different circumstances.

[@kimmie91978]

From what I saw on TV, I feel like Zack exhibits behaviors of autism spectrum disorder. Obviously, I'm not diagnosing, but he's very similar to my child in the way he stares too long, is deemed "eccentric", interrupts and doesn't totally understand social cues (just keeps talking on a subject he loves). He also seemed genuine and thoughtful and just needed to find the right person who understood him and Bliss seemed unaffected and loved those qualities about him. I was unsure about Bliss and Zack at first, but in the end, I thought they were very real. It gave me hope that my child will find someone who loves and understands them for who they are!

[@wisehead1830]

You are so good at these breakdowns. I can tell you are a very good therapist.

[@CC12203]

No one is talking about this, but I happen to think that Zack’s choice of Irina may have been influenced by Paul and Micha. Since Paul and Zack were friends, I could see Paul getting intel from Micha about the girls and I could see Micha putting in a good word for Irina. That really could have played into his decision too.

[@Gloria-kt8yv]

when you were talking about the mirror with irina + Micah and bliss + Chelsea, I thought you meant physically LOL because what are the odds that they each look like each other too

[@elizabethchavez1345]

Love that we get insight into your notes as you watch show too. Your notes on Bliss are very insightful.

[@TrishtonCarroll]

I would love a video on ways to fix an avoidant attachment style. How to approach dating in the technology age with dating apps (something along those lines).

[@TrishtonCarroll]

Also, thank you for all the free content! It helps more than you know!!!

[@sweetpea92831]

Hi Steph! This is the first video I've watched of yours, and I wanted you to know how awesome you are. You are very well spoken and gave great insight. I appreciate your perspective. You've just gained a new follower! God bless! ❤

[@StephAnya]

Hi Patty! Aw thanks so much ♥️

[@soundscapes2146]

Wow, I really love the tv/movie breakdowns, I've learned alot and you've provided tools to handle these issues effectively. Other topics - 1. How to deal with a family that keeps turning a blind eye to toxic behavior in spouses/partners, 2. When to cut off family and not look back 3. Dealing with problematic office behavior at the upper management level

[@charity9660]

Yesss ma’am get all the videos you can up out this twisted show.

[@anneplemons]

I don’t know if you’ll ever see this comment and I never post on videos but just in case I wanted to say that you’re doing an awesome job! I wonder sometimes based on your words if it is disappointing that these love is blind videos are so popular when you have so much other content. From my perspective at least, the reason these are so popular is because it may be hard for the general public to relate to all of the videos such as the ones made for people who want to be a counselor, and those videos are awesome! I feel like these videos are a way of seeing through your eyes in a way that we can relate to you. The way you break down interactions is just *chef’s kiss* and you are extremely talented in the way that you relay your perspective to us. I think many if not most people are very curious about other’s behaviors and since we “know” these people too we can see the perspective of a counselor. It’s a great way to talk about mental health to the general public. I also love your content on personality disorders. Can’t wait to see more from you!

[@StephAnya]

Aw this is such a kind comment! I appreciate you. Thanks so much.

[@bodyodyody]

Bliss & Zack are twin flames 🔥

[@xletragedyx]

Regarding the parental approval...I think people who feel they are loved unconditionally by their parents feel comfortable disagreeing with them. Bliss knows if she does something her father doesn't like or approve of... he's still going to love her. He's still going to support her and be there for her. Yes, it's important to care what our families think, but for someone mature and responsible and experienced, like Bliss, your family's opinions shouldn't control your decisions.

[@tyarahernandez9291]

Your videos on this series have been so insightful and interesting! Outside of film and tv I’d love to see you talk about how to heal a relationship w a family member you used to be close to but became distant from for a long time.

[@MaggieT455]

Loved this breakdown. Thank you so much and can’t wait for more 🙏

[@mmellese]

Same way you admire Bliss, I admire you! You have such a positive and compassionate aura and I learn so much from you! For future video ideas can you consider the following please: emotional maturity and emotional intelligence 🙏There is a lot out there on how to heal from traumas and bad relationships but not a lot on how to have healthy relationships and what they look like. Maybe a some advice on living intuitively, green flags in relationships etc. Just share from your fountain of wisdom haha 😊PS have you seen love is blind Japan? The whole thing is so wholesome and they really take the time to find out if they are a good match and look at their potential partners capacity for kindness and how they care about taking others feelings into consideration. I found it quite beautiful. Thank you for your videos!

[@butterpecanrican_]

Zack and Bliss are my favorite LiB couple, hands down. They seem to fit perfectly with each other.

[@tommysmith2719]

I agree

[@xamie8257]

You should do personal stories where you advise people. For example people send you a their personal stories and you give them your opinion on the situation💕

[@TheGracefulGlowup]

Would love more content about attachment styles! Love your videos and your hair. It looks beautiful

[@1manlone]

This was an excellent analysis as always! You brought to light many great connections that well rounded the entirety of each relationship. I would love to here about Ginny and Georgia as far as Series… outside of series I’d love to hear about dealing with narcissistic parents, especially covert ones.

[@DarlingRenaissance]

I loved their story. It showed true maturity.

[@ruthannebrooks2826]

Would LOVE to see a collaboration with Dr. Honda from Psychology in Seattle!!!

[@BlackQueenA1825]

In the tv/film realm, I'd LOVE to see you react to the Queen Charlotte Bridgerton series. None of the therapists I follow have talked about it yet, particularly the struggle King George had with his mental health struggles. For non-tv based content, I'd love a video about how to positively nurture you mental health if you can't see a therapist or navigating difficult familial structures within a marriage. Fitting into an existing familial structure as a new person is tough, particularly when your in-laws may not be fully open to you. My husband and I also had different expectations about how family was supposed to fit into our lives. So how do you navigate that?

[@dontdropdajuice__6827]

Yes yes yes yes ! Because I was thinking the exact same thing !

[@Kristina-tm1hl]

I would love to see this too!

[@FefoLove100]

Can you do a video on LGBTQ+ and not getting parents approval? Navigating being newly LGBTQ+? You mentioned briefly people wanting parents approval and makes me think of my current situation where I know I won’t get it. I feel like that type of video would be extremely helpful to a lot of us out there suffering right now. Thank you for your content- you put a ton of hard work into these videos and it shows! ❤

[@shamiersettle332]

I absolutely LOVE your work! I learn so much from watching your videos. When you spoke on avoidant attachment people going for long distance or online relationships- that really resonated with me. I hope that you can host of the reunion of Love Is Blind- I would absolutely LOVE to see that. When you do it make sure it is not live so that you have enough time to drill down into responses! Have you ever watched Couples Therapy? Can you make your own show like that? Hahahhaa I’m just brainstorming career moves my b…❤❤❤

[@minyahbrown2929]

I love bliss. I think besides Lauren and Cameron... they are my 2nd favorite couple. I heard some people mention that they think that Bliss may get back at Zak, on the wedding day. That thought have never entered my mind. You can tell how she truly loved him from day one. You can tell how she was raised that she is not that type of person. Kiddos to her mom and dad for raising such a sweet person.

[@sunkissed_glam]

Irina manipulated Zack

[@lauc91]

she totally did

[@AlwaysLisaLisa]

To stay on the show

[@tamarawilliams2184]

Absolutely 💯

[@dfromtheblock1537]

Period!

[@heezypeasy8611]

She kinda manipulated every one!

[@cupofchi_]

I would like to nominate “Ready to Love” on OWN as one of the shows you break down!

[@sandracontla7509]

The wait is over! Love it :)

[@bryansl0587]

Your breakdown of how Bliss lost Zack piece by piece makes a lot of sense. I have a new appreciation for his potential thoughts.

[@Privyone]

This was such a great analysis!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you!!

[@aliyahmg]

I feel like irina played very well on her insecurities in the pods and was able to convince zack enough to choose her over bliss (in my opinion)

[@tamtai5824]

Excellent review Stephanie!! As usual❤ i loved this analysis, it was spot on. I do wish Bliss and Zack the best and that they dont end up like Jarett and Iyana who also felt like a second choice. I have to say that the moment when i really respected Zack was when Irina was clearly flirting with Paul and Zack just stands there and looks at her with understanding and absolutely no anger at all.... i dont think ive ever seen someone have that compassionate reaction before❤

[@habeashumor9814]

Great commentary as always. I wonder if Bliss had to agree in advance to accept Zack’s proposal in order for the production to allow her to swap in for Irina.

[@deconstruct.with.raejene]

I loved Zach & Bliss, so SO happy for them both! Irena gave mean girl vibes from the beginning. Rolled my eyes that whole reunion 🙄

[@rachelo4592]

I’d love to see a video where you talk about couple dynamics with your in-laws. For example, how to create boundaries, communicating frustrations with your partner, or having to hold your tongue because it’s not really your place to say something.

[@andreyamatthew2035]

Loved this video and how in depth you went with the footage we were shown.

[@Mailechannel]

I can hear you talking about them forever❤

[@bernadetteb8076]

This was so interesting! This therapist really knows what she’s talking about!

[@MarAnMon]

Love you steph, I only watch the show in order to understand and watch your videos lol🙊❤️

[@macymiller3417]

I agree!! Totally makes sense and I think Zack figured out nearly right away he fucked up. He didn’t know though!! It also made sense since he seemed to feel like he had more in common with Irina or could relate more plus.. why not take the easier road family wise and such? Bliss was a little too honest I think. The second she said nobody would ever be good enough he ran. I don’t see it that way I see it as.. a very protective father that would eventually come around for the right guy. I’m so so glad they got a second chance because I had a good feeling they’d work out tbh. He was worried Bliss would become his worst nightmare for his insecurities (money, not belonging, etc) but she ended up being the one!! So happy for them.

[@rogueally]

my bf and i were yelling at zack the whole time oh my goshhh he was so frustrating love bliss

[@Happyhungryhubby]

New fan !!!!! Love ya Steph !!!!

[@StephAnya]

Love you back!

[@lacasadelmango8712]

I love these breakdown videos! And your hair looks great!

[@StephAnya]

Aw thanks so much!

[@jodaliza13]

Love hearing your prospective on Love is Blind ❤❤❤ You asked about other topics and I would like to here your take on blended families. The dynamic of dating someone who has a child and entering that relationship in a healthy way. When would be a good time to meet the child? When would be a good time to meet the other parent? How to deal with a situation where the other parent doesn't have an interest in meeting you or has respect for the relationship? How should one handle a situation where the other parent uses the child as leverage (like you can't talk to your son if she's around (by she I mean the new girlfriend) ). Looking forward to the next video!

[@rubygreen1433]

I'm loving these analyses if Love in Blind. For non screen revuew content it would be interesting to hear you talk about the family dynamics of adoption (with parents/siblings) 😁

[@eternal_kg]

I'd like to see a divorce court type show or episode, I'm sure you can put your own twist on something like that

[@DSN430]

Can you do a video about learning to trust your judgement after being deceived for a long time (5+ years). Tools to open your heart and be confident about it after that kind of experience?

[@leslie257]

Two suggestions: 1) a video about an avoidant and anxious relationship where the anxious wants to get married and the avoidant is deflective and defensive when the marriage convo is brought up. 2) Vanderpump Rules review and commentary, their relationships are insane!

[@landuola]

thank you so much for pointing out that when the men say what they like about the women, it's all just focused on them! huge pet peeve of mine, absolutely drives me crazy

[@sophiebeilinson4658]

could you do a video on sex trauma and how to approach holding and maintaining a safe space between both people in a relationship? thank you for your videos, they help me to understand things so much.

[@xletragedyx]

I would really like this too

[@xoxomya8334]

i would love to see you review the relationships in queen charlotte! and i mean ALL of them! it was a great show and love and friendship! i would also love to hear what you have to say about dating in this climate and how to get back out there. i love your channel! ❤

[@FaithWalks]

I love what you said about choices. Zach made a choice not really knowing the character of who he was dealing with. Irina was a bad choice. It was clear Zach wasn’t pining over Irina but even still Bliss was the better choice. Sometimes it takes a minute or an experience to get to the right choice. I didn’t meet my second husband earlier but I think all the time about the circumstances around what cause me to choose my first husband, who was toxic. I made a bad choice but the experience taught me how to make better choices and now I’m with my hubby. I totally understand not being the second choice but I saw what Zach was saying even when he talked on some subreddits about it.

[@michaelscarnmanages]

Love your channel! Have been binge-watching ☺️

[@neptunenymph]

When I was watching Zach and Bliss on the show…all I kept saying was save Bliss over and over again…I hoped he picked Irina cause I thought Bliss was too precious and should be kept safe, but when I saw how Irina was to him…I regretted saying him and Bliss shouldn’t be together…I’m so glad they got back together though…they seem to know themselves and express that well and genuinely like/ love each other,they were so cute at the reunion coordinated and what not

[@dogsrule17]

Hey Steph, love your videos and always walk away with more knowledge as a counsellor. I would love to see a video on Internal Family Systems having read of its benefits in the Body Keeps the Score!

[@TheMoises1213]

Wow you are incredible. You really highlighted behaviors that I do which I shouldn’t do it’s so much but your so good. I could learn so much from this breakdown videos on how to be more accepting to emotion. How to grow and deal with insecurities and how to move in a more mature and positive manner. Your amazing

[@olgabahirkina1286]

I remember how Zack&Bliss had me rooting for them from the start. I went back now, to see the episodes after the Reunion. In one of them, Irina seemingly apologises to another member of the show for laughing at her feelings. She's actually fully smiling, almost laughing when she apologises, and then she doesn't even wait for the other person to confirm anything. When you feel sorry about your behaviour, like really sorry, smiling is not a factor. What you would feel in case of a true apology is shame, which doesn't really warrant a smile, unless you feel the other person is to be blamed just as much. She laughed at someone in tears and apologised about it with a very happy smile. It's great that both Zack and Bliss decided not to stir any drama whatsoever, said "We forgive you" without necessarily meaning it, and moved on. They definitely don't hold grudges and moved on with their lives.