Therapist Breaks Down The Hunger Games | Emotionally Immature Parents

[@StephAnya]

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[@victoriaduncan9516]

Jonathan Decker has a great quote, I think, on the healthiness of self-sacrifice (especially as it pertains to relationships): "Putting someone else ahead of yourself can be beautiful, putting them instead of yourself can be dangerous."

[@elphabaoftheopera]

Ooooooh I LOVE this. That sums it up beautifully.

[@brittanyb6889]

Love this topic as someone who has been parentfied. I’m actually curious if you could do a series on parentification and how those childhood patterns affect adults in their relationships (romantic or platonic)

[@StephAnya]

Oh that's a GREAT idea!! Thank you, Brittany.

[@amandagfuller]

I came here to say the same thing. I'm not in therapy, and this video definitely made me feel called out. 😬

[@MissLaadyG]

Same!!! I don't know what I want for myself, I'm only good at fulfilling others' needs & dreams. How to get over it?

[@otherworldlyfiction]

I look forward to a Hunger Games series, but would love one on parentification as well.

[@FreckleFinance]

I'm just commenting as a divorced parentified person. After my divorce I date this guy (who parted ways amicably because we wouldn't work long term) and it took me a solid 3 months to be like.. wait I think he actually like and respects me. I was just dating assuming everyone was using me but I was "testing" out my theories. I learned so much from that and now dating my boyfriend who has a lot of similar qualities.

[@amandagfuller]

I would love to see a video on Gale. Ive always wondered what a relationship between him and Katniss would have looked like if the games had not intervened. In the beginning they seem so similar, but by the end they seem so vastly different it's hard to even imagine them together.

[@StephAnya]

Yes, I've been wondering this too! Sometimes two similar people can be a disaster as well especially since both of them are in acute survival mode and don't seem to let their guard down often.

[@MissWhispers]

Yes please do this!! Would love

[@katyy102]

Would love to see a breakdown of Katniss and Peeta's relationship. How it starts, grows, what they learn from each other and especially how it's impacted in Mockingjay. Haymitch is also such an interesting study!

[@StephAnya]

I would love to do that!

[@LivMD]

Analysis of Peeta would be great. Peeta has so many admirable characteristics. He seems to be a great role model (and the opposite of toxic masculinity).

[@clover2739]

His parents interest me too, I know we basically never really see them. But book wise we know his mother is very horrible and abusive, and his dad is nice and quiet but he seems more passive as well. It was always interesting to me, that after they won the first games Peeta lived in that victors village house alone whereas Katniss lived with her family. I wondered why, because even if it’s about working at the bakery, you’d think that surely someone would be willing to stay with him so he’s not alone after all the trauma he went through and also losing a leg and becoming an amputee as well.

[@ToriTellEmm]

I'd love one about Haymitch! I just re-read this series as an adult and I absolutely loved it. The characters are so compelling

[@StephAnya]

He's so well-written! I really wish that we would've gotten a prequel for him instead of Snow.

[@noemipomerleau8219]

​@@StephAnyaThey've already announced that the Haymitch prequel is coming next year! So maybe hold off on your video on him until next March!

[@StephAnya]

Yesss!!! Thank you!

[@reginageorge5409]

Haymitch is one of my favorite characters ❤

[@Septic-Hearts]

Katniss is one of my favourite characters in fiction. She's flawed and tries to find content despite her trauma, instead of getting some magical fix that gets rid of or 'fixes' it. I liked to see how trauma has shaped her life, affects her choices and relationships, and directly influenced her beliefs. I love that she doesn't get a picture perfect happily ever after, and that she is as frustrating and emotionally guarded as her upbringing forced her to be. Also I love that despite her walls, survival mode, and general desensitisation, she remains empathetic. Also, the moment I started liking Katniss was from the first book. When Effie made comments about how uncouth near-emaciated children were to eat food with their hands, and Katniss was so pissed off that she ate with her hands and wiped her fingers on the table cloth. I knew from then on that this was a character I could get behind.

[@Schu0086]

Would love to see an examination of how people can become desensitized to violent media or othering & the way even characters in the Capitol who are portrayed positively are participating in the structure of the Hunger Games spectacle.

[@StephAnya]

Ohhh that's a super interesting idea! Thank you!!

[@susanjeffries5108]

I'd also love a video about this!

[@kristinbruton2640]

Im a parentified child with a disengaged mother and an absent father. I was the only one to feed, bathe, dress, play with and generally look after my little sister. Its been 15 years since i moved out of my parents' house. I've got my own daughter, and I regularly catch myself calling her by my sister's name because my role in their lives was/is so similar. I was 11 when my sister was born, and 18 when i moved out of the house. I still have a guilty concience for the poor childhood i gave my sister and the guilt of moving out and leaving her behind. She had thoughts of ending her own life as a teen when i wasnt around. (I studied abroad) She had no one and suffered from neglect her entire life. Now I give up so much of myself to please others, especially my sister and daughter. I'd love a video about how to find a balance between self love and sharing love ❤️ also on how to forgive my parents. They ruined our childhoods I struggle to show them any affection or spend any extended time with them. I moved 6 hours away from all of my family and friends just to avoid them. My sister moved with me, but our parents dont understand why and want to keep in contact. Especially after my daughter was born 😅

[@michelle-leebell8373]

omg this happened to me. I'm married now with my own family and I constantly call my daughter my little sister's name. I never heard someone else say this.

[@lifewithangelina92]

I would like to point out you didn’t give your sister a poor childhood, your parents did.

[@yourlovelybabe1]

our lives on paper seem very similar, praying for you ❤praying for us all, parents included ❤

[@JamaicaZ160R1793010A]

You don't need to forgive your parents if you can't. You can resent or hate them for what they did and it's fine.

[@otherworldlyfiction]

I'd love to see a breakdown on Katniss after the games too, especially the signs of PTSD she's exhibiting during the third novel. Any of the other tributes would offer a lot to talk about - Joanna, Annie, Finnick, Haymitch and Peeta all have a lot of traumas to unpack. Peeta's psychology in the third novel would be interesting to discuss, but even someone like Snow has a psychology worth exploring. In some ways, Katniss and Snow have common ground but, where Katniss learned empathy from experiencing poverty, Snow learned self-preservation and sought power, at all costs, so he'd never have to experience want again. I look forward to future Hunger Games videos, whether you focus on the books, the characters, or some mixture of the two. I loved your Twilight series, and couldn't click fast enough when I saw you'd done a Hunger Games video.

[@pinky.promiseme]

I've been reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents so the timing of this video is serendipitous. It must be a sign that I need to join your bookclub 😊

[@StephAnya]

We'd loveee to have you!

[@Toccup1]

Can I have the name of the author? I would love to read it too.

[@pinky.promiseme]

@@Toccup1 the author is Lindsay Gibson

[@Joannachin]

A video on how every Hunger Games champion deals with surviving the games would be awesome. In the second book/movie

[@StephAnya]

Super cool idea! Thanks!!

[@pallas1411]

I would love an analysis of Cinna. Considering how Katina’s reacts to him like immediately she has the sense that they have an understanding of each other, see eye to eye, and mutual respect for each others values as well as “this person is a good ally to have”. She immediately pins cinna as someone who has stuff figured out and would be a good ally and friend to have. And Cinna very obviously derives great inspiration from her and how powerful she could embody rebellion that he leans towards.

[@terraniciaa]

I remember loving Katniss in the books and the movies and watching this showed me just how many qualities we have in common, especially being parentified older sisters who are super protective of our younger sisters. And being a parent to your mom on top of that? Exhausting! Seeing this was a great reminder for me to stop internalizing so much. Overall, I loved this video and analysis!! I think an analysis of President Snow could be interesting, especially since we get more of his back story in the recent prequel. He's an obvious villain in the book, but I'd love to see how you'd talk about him as a therapist.

[@tianabclewis]

I’m listening to you, breakdown Katniss, and thinking in my head “Why is she coming for me like this?!” 😅 This was me for years, and after several years of therapy, I am so much better, but still struggle at times with putting everyone else first and neglecting myself to the point where it starts to do harm to me.

[@StephAnya]

🤣 It's never intentional!! I'm so glad that you're evolving into caring for yourself too!

[@emerson1998]

on the topic of being self sacrificing, I truly think it's such a detriment to both ourselves and to the people we love. when we ignore our own needs and prioritise the needs of those around us, we don't allow those people to 1. learn how to take care of their own needs, and in turn are doing them a disservice in the long run and 2. are setting that relationship up to fail, because it's not a sustainable dynamic. you will eventually fail to meet everyone else's needs, and they can take that as a sign that you no longer care/are punishing them. there's also an element of condescension in assuming that people cannot take care of themselves, and that they need you to do it for them. you also are not letting the people you love actually love you in return. you cannot allow people to love you if you don't let them be there for you. not allowing the people close to you to actually support you is as unfair to them as it is to yourself. especially in romantic relationships, I think it's really important to have a foundation where we both can meet our own individual needs, and that we don't rely on our partners to fulfill those needs. it is not your partner's job to meet your needs, its your job to prioritise and meet your own needs. anything extra that they bring to your life is just that, an extra, a bonus, not something you need to survive. sorry for the long winded message! as the eldest child of an emotionally immature parent, I definitely learned to ignore my own needs and prioritise those around me. this meant that I spent a long time in a relationship where we prioritised each other's needs and happiness over our own, and it only led to resentment and dependance. I fully believe that we would have worked out in the long run if we had known how to properly care for ourselves and not be so self-sacrificing. love this channel! and love the Hunger Games

[@kristenbarho7463]

14:42 this part right here gave me SUCH a lightbulb moment for understanding myself as a client and counselor in training, thank you! I think this is why person-centered therapy calls to me so much

[@StephAnya]

🥰 I love this so much

[@mariannetfinches]

So much this!

[@cierraking7953]

I’d love to talk about Rue and Katniss and how that parallels to her relationship with Prim ❤

[@Tina-pw7ey]

Love this video and your hair is GORGEOUS! I literally can't stop staring at it

[@StephAnya]

You're so sweet! Thank you, Tina!

[@NDOvert]

Yay! You did The Hunger Games! Now I need to finish reading Catching Fire 😅

[@StephAnya]

You do!!!

[@Tecknoc]

Your video brought me to tears. I'm grateful to hear someone so eloquently explain exactly what this all feels like. Regarding your question, I don't think it's good to celebrate self sacrifice as much as we currently do. For the most part, people do it because it gives them an easy way out. They don't have to get their lives in order because someone else will make the sacrifices necessary to fix the problem. And when people are no longer willing to make those sacrifices, they are attacked mercilessly and trapped in a dynamic where they are only worthwhile when they give more than they can afford.

[@StrayMind]

Being a self sacrificing person in my opinion is a bad quality. As someone who has been parentified and had to make sacrifices for my family, most of my friends and roommates have taken advantage of that trait. Everyone loves someone that is willing to help them but will not do the same in return. It would be a good trait if you could guarantee that you have good people in your life but that has not been my experience.

[@javanjunkindahouse6625]

Ugh over and over again. I used to assume people would reciprocate because that’s how I am. News flash, most don’t and I needed to understand people aren’t the same lol - so much given including time, emotion, money. Not happening anymore

[@myriam3029]

Please please please talk about Pita ♥️ This video made me cry a lot. I identify a lot with Katniss' self-sacrificing qualities, and seeing you analyze her hit so hard

[@paulanicole4786]

i lovedddd those books so much as a preteen, it is crazy to hear your breakdown of it and to realize in a deeper way perhaps why I resonated so much with Katniss as a heroine. suzanne collins really did something with these books! great video! i would personally love an analysis of effie as she is my favorite character from the series.

[@msmonti011]

I love your perspective and breakdown of Katniss. I didn’t realize how much I related to the character and her traits until seeing this. Parentification really takes a toll on child development and it’s really good to see this breakdown in relations to media. I think you should do a blind reaction to the movie and do further breakdowns of other characters.

[@ashleypanzica2696]

Hey Steph, I just finished my second watch of your Twilight videos, and I loved them! I actually recently read the hunger games books for the first time and it's certainly easy for me to see why Katniss is so bitter towards her mom. I'm pretty sure you can't really help being depressed (without medication that is), and I cannot imagine the pain of losing the love of your life, but Katniss's mom definitely should've/could've been there for her kids. It's great that she's making an effort by the time we the viewer read the first few chapters of the hunger games, but by that time Prim is so used to Katniss being the caretaker, that she goes to her to comfort her after a nightmare and not her mom. Katniss *does* recognize the fact that her mom's trying, but she's been the caretaker for so long, along with her having to constantly be on guard considering where she lives, that it's really difficult for her to just step back into the role of big sister. There's a show on Netflix, Manifest, that I think did a great job of showing a child starting to be parentified but thankfully didn't have to be. For people who don't know, in the beginning of the series, there's a family that gets separated and the mom and her daughter think their husband and brother have died. Like Katniss's mom, the mom here falls into a depression, but once she notices her daughter got hurt making breakfast for her, she pulls herself out of her depressed state telling herself that she still needs to be there for her daughter. Anyways, personally I'd love for you to go over Haymitch he's such an interesting character!

[@katiekasunick8293]

This analysis hit home. I was not expecting to cry watching this breakdown. Maybe it’s time I talk to a professional. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for watching ♥️ I’m glad that it gave you some insight

[@arenerys]

Wow. What a great video. I have recently read the books and watched the movies again. It's interesting to see how my perspectives changed on the dynamics, relationships, and characters of the story, compared to when I was in my early teens. I think before, I interpreted Katniss reluctance to have/show romantic feelings towards Peeta as her possibly being asexual. Whether it be Wattpad, bookclub, etc, a lot of fandoms heavily focused on sexuality, and I was no exception to contributing to that discourse. But I as read the books as someone in my early 20s, I can see someone that was dealing with emotional wounds, parentification, and overall lack of physical/emotional safety. Coming from a household that she had to run because her mom was emotionally disengaged, a district that was in poverty and severe food scarcity, and having to basically go through combat with no formal training with odds of winning was slim to none, then after winning, being the poster child for an ongoing rebellion (something she did not want in the first place), and having to go back into the games as punishment by the President, all while suffering from PTSD. And this isn't even half of the stuff she has endured. We need to give her more props for what she and all the other tributes, district members, etc have gone through. She's a multilayered character that despite everything, was able to have and experience love and a life of her own at the end. (PS , as you can tell , THG is my favorite series)

[@StephAnya]

I'm so curious about how my thoughts would have changed if I read it as a teen first. I love hearing your new perspective and your original perspective as well. Thanks for sharing!

[@elphabaoftheopera]

I loved your food for thought about people who are "self-sacrificing" to a fault like Katniss. I of course think that caring for others and serving others is admirable, but I think a balance definitely has to be struck. I have a strong sense of empathy and a lesson I've been learning in my own therapy sessions is making sure my own cup is filled before I try to pour into anyone else. This has helped me set and keep boundaries in my relationships and has also made me feel more present and motivated to help/be there for the people I care about. It also makes me feel sad when people (either in life or after they passed) are only praised for how much they gave to others. Being "selfless" was the best or only notable thing about them. Were they funny? Were they smart? Were they creative? I think being caring and compassionate is the best thing someone can be, but it should not be the ONLY thing that some is. If that makes any sense. Your videos always feel so insightful, no matter what you're covering! I enjoy every single one.

[@secretlyadragon4723]

Oh, when you talked about the frustration you had with Katniss over her just not being able to comprehend that Peeta could actually love her because she hasn't worked for it so why would he... *clinches fists* I felt that. It's been a while since I read the books but I remembered having that exact feeling. Also it would be nice to have an actual therapist breakdown Gale. People hate on him way too much because he's the 'other' love interest but dude has his own trauma, albeit more subtle than Katniss or Peteta's, that I believe dictated a lot of his reactions and actions towards Katniss and the war. I would really like to get a different perspective on him.

[@SophiaMarie1456]

There is no way you posted this, around a couple of days ago I discovered my parents are emotionally immature as I moved back in with them to afford college. This was so helpful! Thank you so much ❤

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that it was helpful!

[@christinacampbell8585]

I would love for you to talk about each of them!!! Can you do a video for each character AFTER you finish Mockingjay? Then you can talk about each character and their character arc/development and growth. I’d love a deep dive on Haymitch, Gale, Effie, Snow. And then maybe one video touching on Prim, Gale, Finnick, Johanna Mason, Coin, Plutarch

[@G.likeGinger]

My only regret is being 47 minutes late to this video!!!

[@StephAnya]

Haha you're never late! I actually didn't do this one as a premiere, so that everyone can watch it at their own pace. Thank you so much for watching!

[@SIMMIS_0316]

The hunger games is a great series, but thinking about it as an adult, (still pretty young but adult) I have a different outlook in Katniss' relationship with Peeta. We all know she wasn't in love in the first book, and in the second book, I feel like it's some type of co-dependence, trauma bond, type thing for the second and third books. I'm now of the opinion that Katniss never truly fell in love until after the third book, before the epilogue. I would really appreciate a professional opinion on this.

[@TBaby4561]

Just wanted to say thank you for your videos and keep them coming. So many in people in my MFT exam prep group talk about how your videos helped them pass the exam!!! Thank you!!!

[@readingbythequire]

Seconding those who requested a video about Katniss and Peeta! I found their relationship so compelling back when I first read the books as a teenager and would love to hear your take on them vs on Katniss' potential relationship with Gale.

[@_justyessyy_]

So happy you’re doing this series! I think videos breaking down the different attachment styles in the books would be interesting, or a break down by book like you did with twilight would also be a great watch.

[@StephAnya]

Noted! Thanks for watching!!

[@mangantasy289]

As a parentified of a mentally ill mother, it was really interesting to listen to your ideas. (My parents divorced when I was 15, but I was parentified by my mother long before that. My father was uninvested) The more I took over, the less she seemed to care/be able to do herself. "Funny" enough, I had one sibling, a sister by 1 1/2 year older than me. She was no big help. On the contrary, talking about houesehold shores, I had to do hers as well. She was frankly a little tyrant and it was just safer not to chellenge her. Also when she went to University first it was even harder to take care" of my mother. I have severe mental health issues, including cPTSD. So much weight on my shoulders, besides having mental health issues myself, Anorexia, and having to perform well at (the highest branch) of shool. When I followed studying, my mother completely lost it. I never knew in which state I would find her (and the apartment) when I came back for a weekend or so. Sometimes I wonder how I "survived" all of that.

[@lindsey8998]

I would personally be very curious about your thoughts on Gale. Never fully read the books, and struggled to pin him down in the movies.

[@rinaantler4790]

I would love to see a character analisy of Peeta. When people talk about him it's always about his relationship with Katniss, but I think it would be intresting to hear how his household and his life shaped his personality.

[@StephAnya]

That's so true!

[@Kathryn.X]

Thanks for posting, I missed your content. The topic of parentified children and hyper-independence reminded me of a related issue. It would be interesting to hear your perspective on how these behaviors often manifest in individuals from marginalized communities.

[@StephAnya]

I missed posting! Thanks for being patient. That’s a very important population to address because of the impact of systemic inequality which contributes to less access to resources for help and can lead to relying on children for work that would be outsourced in other populations. This is great suggestion! Thank you.

[@christian8156]

I love this seies so much im glad youre talking about it! Honestly each character is strong enough for their own discussions.

[@Joannachin]

StephAnya Just keeps bringing us entertainment, intelligence, and grace, time after time. Cheers

[@StephAnya]

You’re so kind, Joanna! Thank you so much 🫶🏽

[@Taewills]

So interesting! Great coverage on parentification with Katniss. As a single mom of grown daughters I see myself in Katniss & a bit of her mother when it comes to feeling relief when my kids were finally old enough to do many things on their own. I still feel shame to admit I did have moments of resignation adding pressure to my oldest child’s role to take on more. It’s so subtle and unspoken but every now & then I let her take charge. Whew I’ve def apologized to her for that & other things as we go through therapy (individually) and periods of self discovery. And she’s so gracious, so self sacrificing that it breaks my heart. At 43 I’m doing my best to make her feel safe. She’s only 24 so she can definitely rely on me.

[@StephAnya]

I love that you’ve been able to recognize it, apologize, and work on it. I so rarely see that with parents.

[@JustaMomThatSims]

Great video! I have been waiting for your Hunger Games break down because you always come with a very unique perspective. I really enjoyed it

[@hp6964]

Yay!!! Such a good series 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💞. Glad you are finally covering it. Scythe, 5th Wave and Maze Runners are also some of my favorites

[@joythe1wakeni]

The internalizer and self sacrificing traits are a painful existence because it is rare that people match that energy back

[@minashahyarasr9709]

I would really really really love to see a breakdown of the limited series "Big Little Lies". I loved this series and I think it has a lot of levels of physiological and relationship complications.

[@Secret413]

Great video. I would a video on Peeta especially how he survives his kidnapping/torture and trying to regain his life after trauma.

[@MochaLatteMilkChocolate]

Your videos are such a bright spot for me and even more of a treat when it’s about topics like this that I LOVE. Viewing some of these concepts through the lens of a story I’m familiar with really helps all of it be more digestible for someone who isn’t dealing with these terms and concepts day in and day out! ❤

[@StephAnya]

Aw, that makes me so happy! Also, I love your name on here!

[@shelbysingleton1287]

Speaking of a parentified child and self sacrifice, you should watch Arcane and speak on the character Vi. It’s an animated show where the focus is on two sisters. It’s a GREAT show!!!

[@StephAnya]

Thanks for the rec, Shelby!!

[@amandagfuller]

One of my favorite shows ever! You can tell the writers put extra time into creating a background for each character that would be psychologically believable and would make sense. Did I agree with every characters decision? Absolutely not. Did I question "why" any character made the choices they made? Nope. Not once. Arcane may be one of the craziest lessons in empathy that a person can ever learn.

[@dienazday81]

Loved Arcane so much! would love to see this show talked about! ❤

[@shelbysingleton1287]

@@amandagfullerI totally agree! The writers did such an amazing job and I can’t wait for season 2!!

[@kweaver12]

Definitely would love a character analysis!

[@MaddiGirl16]

Love the video! I think we definitely need an analysis on Haymitch. Unfortunately the films don’t give ton of background but I’ve heard the books do? I never read any though because I didn’t wanna be that person that gets upset when they take things out of the film vs the book😂😅

[@ceceliam9014]

Omg, yay! Sooo excited to hear your thoughts on this series. I'm not sure about the format, but maybe reaction videos watching through the films with pausing to reflect on the characters and the scenes you're seeing would be a great way to prompt thoughts on the series overall. Honestly, I'd also love prepared videos like these on whichever dynamics and characters you found most interesting. Can't wait for more content from you on this series! I love your insights, and the characters in Hunger Games are so dynamic and well written.

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for the ideas, Ceceliia! Yes, there are sooo many approaches to this series because Suzanne Collins covers so much!

[@ceceliam9014]

​​@@StephAnyaFor sure, Suzanne Collins writes trauma incredibly well. Which is sad in a lot of ways, but also can be so helpful to have representation like this (even if the metaphor is extreme, I think these characters are relatable to so many). And P.S. this video was definitely not too long. I wish it were double this length, lol 😁

[@Nat-bn4op]

I would love more of these videos. Specifically on Haymitch, Finnick and Snow😊

[@Goaddichnixan]

Great analysis. Helped me to understand Katniss' behaviour a bit better. Just watched the movie and found the relationship with Petaaa a bit confusing. About your question at the end: I do not think putting the needs of others before your own is a good quality if you endanger yourself in the process. Because if you do not take care of yourself, your loved ones need to watch how you hurt yourself and that is horrible as well. So people will worry about you and feel helpless. There needs to be a balance. You should be aware of your own needs as well of the needs of others and be mindful of both. And sometimes you put yourself first, because you are worth it and need it. And sometimes you help someone out because you know you can. But if you give you should also get enough back in order to recharge and be able to help other people in the long run.

[@jenniferharper2119]

Love hearing your thoughts about this series! please make all the videos suggested! 😅THG was my fav

[@StephAnya]

I can understand why! It's so good, and I was so late to the party.

[@chellychels4356]

I honestly had never thought about how much I related to Katniss until hearing you talk about her. Have you ever considered doing a video on the difference between someone raised on survival versus someone raised on love, and the effects this has in adulthood/relationships.

[@chellychels4356]

I personally grew up with a mom who was emotionally dependent, and a dad who was emotionally unavailable. The combination of the two has always caused a lot of conflict in my emotional processing.

[@ms.tinygiant]

When you’re done with the Hunger Games PLEASE do one on the new Hunger Games: The Ballad on Songbirds & Snakes!!! 🤍

[@rmy_Youtube]

I absolutely loved this video! I was very much into Hunger Games when the book first came out

[@StephAnya]

It's so good!

[@hannahhenkel9074]

I would love to her your thoughts on Peeta, he is my probably my favourite character, not just in the Hunger Games series. What I find most fascinating about Peeta is his moral compass. What makes Katniss a great protagonist is that she isn't the stereotypical heroine. Peeta on the other hand shows more of those stereotypically heroic traits, at least when it comes to his mindset. I often think about how the unsafe environment that Katniss grew up in didn't allow her to think about something as abstract as morality. Peeta on the other hand, while still having a hard life in District 12, seemed to have had his basic needs met in a way that allowed him to do so. I am wondering how this relates to concepts like Maslows Hirarchy of Needs. Peetas kindness towards Katniss especially in Catching Fire never ceases to amaze me. Despite everything that happend he cares for her so deeply and actively takes care of her. What I find so refreshing to see is that his care seems truely genuine and he never expects her to feel the same way. I admire those qualitys about him especially considering how young he is and that his upbringing was also far from ideal, as far as we know. His mom was emtionally and physically abusive and he doesn't seem to be particularly close to his family, to the extent where they are barely mentioned beyond the first book.

[@nicolekujan6453]

I'd love to hear your perspective on how Katniss was affected by her emotional and physical trauma from the Hunger Games - her head injury, PTSD, and eventual emotional breakdown at the end of Mockingjay.

[@bruh666]

About the praising of self sacrificing character traits: I honestly think our society is actually so individualistic (to a point where it costs us a sense of community), people overcompensate by praising and valueing explicit self sacrifice, because they fail to see the middle ground of working together as a community. Like, people in a neighborhood coming together to install a curb for safety doesnt cross anyone's mind, but a man pushing a child out of the way of a car is a hero , even if the accident could have been prevented by community intervention

[@emilyk5168]

I'm not sure I'd call Mrs Everdeen "emotionally immature". I mean, maybe. I just feel bad because she obviously has catatonic depression (same we later see in Katniss in "Mockingjay"), and no medication available to her. So it's not really her fault. But it is true that she doesn't take accountability and is very passive. In the first book she is like, "i was sick, I could maybe treat myself now!" And it's like, girl, you have dried flowers and shit. You need some benzodiazepines. Regarding the final question about if it is good that Katniss is so willing to sacrifice herself. In some ways, I think it might be good for her that Prim died? (I can only say this because she's fictional and not real but it's still hard because she's just a kid.) But I think Katniss really does need to learn how to live for herself. Although I suppose it would be better if Prim just... moved away and got a job or something normal.

[@Crystal0139]

Wow this is so well done. I love this. Also I relate a little because growing up low income with my mom being a single mom, I got a job young and paid for my own things to help out…. And caught myself parenting my sister lol.

[@StephAnya]

I'm so glad that you think so! Thank you! I think it's natural to take on some responsibilities as you get older as long as you don't feel like you have more responsibility than or equal responsibility to your parent.

[@butterflybri3168]

Wowwwwww not me finding out I love Katness so much because I also grew up with a passive parent 😅

[@StephAnya]

😅

[@munaahmed4070]

Can you do a video on parentified child who’s parents are against therapy in the fear of “ sharing personal lives with strangers/outsider and shaming them”

[@hp6964]

Definitely gotta talk more about Peeta and Katniss’ relationship and how long it took for them to get to the place they are because of all of Katniss’ trauma. I also wanna hear your take on Snow (idk if you read or watched the prequel yet but that might help too). Like do you think he was always destined to become that way or did the society he was in mold him into a sociopath?

[@Rhenadhis]

I watched the Hunger Games a long time ago so the plot is not as fresh in my mind but i absolutely loved the insight igained from it both as a Psychology student and as one who was parentified. I would loooove to hear your thoughts on Anne with an E please please please

[@mikchik00]

Snow!! Please I need to know the words to describe that kind of character. Thank you

[@RivyO]

I think it’s an important quality for a parent! To do anything to protect their children. It’s super important

[@sunny-pe2uo]

Love this series ty!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for watching! (& being the first to comment 🤗)

[@fellowhuman557]

I would love to see you discuss Peeta ❤ I need some Peeta appreciation!

[@JJ-qy6gb]

When are you releasing your Love is blind UK analysis? 😅 The wait is killing me

[@StephAnya]

Todayyyy!!! Thanks for being patient!

[@sarahstephens2002]

I loved watching this!! I'd love to watch a video on President Snow or Lucy Gray! ❤

[@StephAnya]

Lucy has my heart ♥️

[@sarahstephens2002]

@StephAnya Yes, mine, too! She inspired me so much, our grey great dane baby is named Lucy Gray 🩶

[@susanjeffries5108]

I'd love to hear about the character arcs of Elizabeth Banks and Stanley Tucci's characters. They became sympathetic characters while in part supporting the franchise of the hunger games and I thought they were fascinating characters.

[@maryanderson9397]

I think self-sacrifice can be good depending on the situation you are in and if the person is an adult or not. It also depends if they are still able to have healthy relationships and be able to take care of themselves.

[@StephAnya]

That's fair!

[@mydreamsarefunny]

I love this! ❤

[@beatrizyukie2789]

Omg I would LOVE to see you commenting on daishun's relationship from The boyfriend on netflix 😭😭😭

[@telareign2260]

Hey Steph!! Not sure if you’ve seen the new Bel Air but would love to see an analysis!

[@Heychula]

I think Haymitch is fascinating, going from being in the games during the second quarter quell to hating and giving up on their society and turning to drinking.

[@StephAnya]

Haymitch is incredibly well written!

[@greeeneyes91]

Next Peeta pls, also the relationship with Katniss 😊😊😊 love your analysis!

[@mayaya1613]

I watched hunger games for the first time this year & I really enjoyed this video!!

[@StephAnya]

Thanks, Amy! I still have to watch the other 3 movies. It makes me want to reread the books.

[@BladeX11883]

@@StephAnya Jenniffer Lawerence acting for mocking jay part 1 and part 2 is fantastic to what is going on inside her head and her reactions to the world around her, it would be great when you get there to talk about her reactions from the aftermath of book 1 and book 2, in the mocking jay video and how it will impact moving forward

[@christaggart5687]

Ok.. but why does that intro song hit so hard?

[@StephAnya]

Welp, you've officially made my day. Thank you!!!

[@christaggart5687]

@@StephAnya btw. Another therapist here. :-). Great content.

[@marianadelosangelescolmena94]

Any video about the hunger games I’ll be SEATED 😫

[@blueblack3591]

I thaught more likely that her mother was suffering from depression

[@StephAnya]

She was absolutely grieving and depressed, but so were her children.

[@hurricane.andrea]

I can’t wait for you to talk about The Ballad of Songbirds & Snakes ☺️

[@brunavargasdeoliveira516]

Hii, sorry to comment in a video that's not about it, but do you plan on breaking down LIB UK? Love the series. Much love ❤

[@StephAnya]

Definitely! I'm halfway through the edit of the first video of that series

[@olyashalnova4562]

I was always curious about the scene where Katniss kissed gale and he said that she was tender with him only when he was sad and in trouble

[@ptrookie]

Thank you

[@StephAnya]

Thank YOU!

[@VolleyballLover03]

Are you doing love is blind uk??? I live for your videos

[@Stephanie-ux7ym]

@StephAnya , what recommendations would you make for an "internalizer" entering into the dating scene to encourage a healthy and meaningful dating experience?

[@darlss1]

PLSSS do a video on snow🙏🏾

[@mellody540]

Clicked this so fast ! ❤

[@StephAnya]

Thank youuu!!

[@mzsarcastic90210]

9:20 got me… 😮‍💨

[@jend7390]

I see Katniss in my older siblings, and close friends. The question of whether selflessness is a good thing or not is tough. Personally, I try to balance myself, but I have a passion for watching out for others ~ guess who I am 😅

[@livelovely4681]

I find the parentified siblings to often be female rather fictional or not. Very interesting analysis!

[@jayceemindeman270]

Girl!! Court of thorns and roses 🥀

[@elizae2528]

Ooooouuuuu lady! You know your stuff! Someone called me Katniss once... You breakking this down 😮😅😢 allowed me to see why