Therapist explains: Traits avoidants find attractive

[@WeepingWidowSueAna]

Also, you said you could "go on and on" about this topic, so I would LOVE to see another video on even more traits that Avoidants are attracted to. This is SO INTERESTING!!!!!

[@GuidedAwareness-n1d]

Yes, I will certainly make more videos about traits avoidants find attractive.

[@hfortenberry]

Same! Please go on and on. 😊

[@sahrishmansoor3858]

Please make a detailed video on HOW to NOT get triggered by their triggers as an anxious leaning secure?

[@GuidedAwareness-n1d]

@sahrishmansoor3858 I will certainly do that!

[@nellieshoals]

Subbed!! Thanks for the info! 😊😄

[@WeepingWidowSueAna]

God bless you for this. You explained this better than anyone ever has. I love the way you explain things - you make it easier for me to understand than anyone else ever has. THANK YOU for this! And it's encouraging as well, because so many people speak of Avoidants in such a negative and hopeless way. You give these suggestions with a hint of true hope that it will be a blessing to the avoidants in our lives. I will try to incorporate these things more often for the avoidants in my life.

[@GuidedAwareness-n1d]

I am so happy you are enjoying and learning from my videos. Yes, there is hope and not all relationships with DAs or FAs are bad. Some are very rewarding. It just is a learning curve, like all relationships.

[@EliseFern]

This was really insightful and helped articulate some of the things that I haven't been able to put into words. You should keep making videos like this!! Thank you

[@samphelps856]

This is really good! As good as any of the "top" channels. Thank you

[@CreeperShorts]

I thought I'm anxiously attached, but I match a lot of the traits in this video. The heck!? 😮

[@GuidedAwareness-n1d]

Some of these qualities are actually common with anxiously attached Individuals, which is why DAs & FAs tend to be attracted to the anxiously attached. :) Hope this helps!

[@relationships_and_psychology]

You are a really nice person. Accually،, i impliment some of these things and they really work with friends and family.more with friends . actually.

[@GuidedAwareness-n1d]

Ty and I am glad you feel this is helpful! :)

[@HeneryOrchard]

Re: attraction.... So, GAT (Guided Awareness Therapist.....I have to call you something), Can the avoidant (DA or FA) be re-attracted to the ex after a breakup (" I am not in love with you any more")? The avoidant confessed that all her breakups never re-attached with her (she initiated all previous breakups with exs). Out of all the exs I had the longest relationship with her (6 years). All traits listed in the video I displayed in the run of our relationship.

[@GuidedAwareness-n1d]

DA/FAs tend to operate in a state of denial in relationships. Sometimes, they are not fully aware of their own feelings and can be more understood with distance. It is not a healthy tactic and can create issues in the future if both partners are not willing to put in effort. Even still, some relationships end and that is the unfortunate truth. I have seen relationships reconcile and make it work so do not be discouraged. It is important to look after your own mental health. I am sorry for your break up. Yes, FA/DAs can be reattracted after a breakup.

[@robindellolio7782]

Would you be willing to take a client that is not avoidant to help them with approaching their avoidant person with explaining styles and what “help” is available?

[@GuidedAwareness-n1d]

Hello there. Unfortunately, my caseload is full. I will be expanding my practice in 2026 and will be accepting new patients at that time. In the meantime, I can make a video explaining ways to help the avoidant heal. Hopefully, this should help :)

[@robindellolio7782]

@ that would be amazing! I would greatly appreciate that. I’m not sure if my sp even knows he is one and we are in a limited contact time right now so looking for some help. Thank you so much!!!

[@sahrishmansoor3858]

In a similar predicament with my avoidant husband. If we could help them heal without dragging them to therapy and the usual confrontation.