How to Do Self-Care and 3 Dumb Reasons People Don't Do Self-Care

[@Amber-wy9om]

Link to self care video?

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

The rest of the videos in this series are in my intensive 2 hour course: therapyinanutshell.teachable.com/p/coping-skills-and-self-care-for-mental-health Use the code NUTSHELL for 25% off!

[@Amber-wy9om]

@@TherapyinaNutshell Thanks!

[@pauladams1915]

@@TherapyinaNutshell I wish I could afford this course. So disappointed that I can't. From what I've seen of you on KZbin I know it would be awesome. Take care

[@anontill5302]

@@TherapyinaNutshell Hi Emma. What's the difference berween the Udemy course and the one in Teachable? Udemy is only $11 Australian.

[@louisehorsfall9400]

After watching this (and crying) I bought the course. I also bought 5 others last night! I've been finding your content excellent and sharing it widely. I wish all this was taught in schools.

[@CatLadyKorea]

When I feel I need to do more, I need to ask myself whether it's from my misguided belief that my self worth is determined by others approval and acknowledgement, which often lead to unreasonable expectations on other people and disappointments, falling into exhaustion and self pity in the end. Watching Emma's videos is one of my ways to care about myself. Thank you always.

[@jessiew4103]

I literally ruined my engine 4 months ago because I didn't get oil changes or change the filter and bits of metal got into the engine, just like in your example. As you can probably imagine, I also struggle with self neglect! In fact, neglecting my car is a form of self neglect too. I'm not sure how I didn't see the parallel before.

[@sapphireblue9209]

This channel needs so much more views and subscribers! One of the most informative and helpful channels on KZbin. Thank you so much for your insights.

[@VampiraVonGhoulscout]

Number 4: Self loathing. My body: "I need self care" My mind: "Why tf should I help you? You're always hurting me. I hate you."

[@cosarara1312]

lol same, and then the body goes "well take some more pain here" and so on.. hahah

[@lynxthewise7233]

Gods this has been me for years. Even just intentional stretching helps a lot with this ( and is easier to do before the overthinking takes over ).

[@julsca3738]

This. Not exactly the same. My mind says “I don’t care” why bother.

[@GodHelpMe369]

I'm reminding myself that I am safe on the path. Part of it is also connected to being able to feel the emotions that the ancestors held back. I am feeling the energy shift right now and breathing through. The ancestors gave me permission to end the suffering. My inner child recently told me she wants her voice to be heard. My gift was not valuable in order to be in survival mode. Yesterday my dragon FINALLY got unleashed. Grieving this old version of myself. Loving her so much and so much gratitude towards how difficult this path has been. And taking ownership that I have been creating this reality. It feels like this needs to be voiced in order to alchemize it. I unleash myself. There is some sort of presence that believes that my spirit is so big it will be impossible to find matches. Community. Others who can hold as much space for me as I do. Here I sit feeling it and crying it out. Watching it leave. Sending it home. Letting it go. Declaring that I will not chose to go there anymore. It is not welcome in the home that I create. I command light to fill this space. I am the keeper of the gate. I love you I love you, you served a purpose that was great. Our temple is being built, we wake up again and again. The whole time I allowed myself to feel through this I checked into my womb and heart and they were so solid and supportive. I knew this was a mind virus incorporated into someone in my lineage way back. I have been using my voice to sing, cry, scream, move. I sing to my body when I don't know what to say. I howl at the moon when I don't know what to pray. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@conscious__livingg]

Hey Emma, I would like to thank you for ur content. I believed I've watched all of ur playlist and they helps me a lot! My most recent ones were the topics about emotional safety and I love it!

[@jessitabonita]

Thank you immensely for this reminder to stop neglecting my vehicle’s maintenance and neglecting myself (since I believed the selfish and scarcity lies.)

[@tic857]

Well that was a different analogy than I usually hear. "Sharpen your axe." I'd love to hear that more often "What are you doing?" "Sharpening my metaphorical axe."

[@sterlingsilver5937]

💯

[@cosarara1312]

Your content is great, thank you so much for creating it! Lately nothing has been feeling good anymore, I don't take care of myself at all. And I have more then enough time, I don't believe it's selfish and sadly I also know what I need to actually feel better. But it's like I won't give that to myself? It's weird because I know it would help but at the same time I can't find the will or discipline to go back to taking care of my mind and body.. I'll do my best to stomp it into my head that I deserve to take care of myself ahhah lots of love

[@chezza2116]

I have such bad anger issues .. I'm scared.. I have been through years of stress..due to messed up relationships.. all I wanted was to be trained how I treat others... yet I get walked over constantly.. I do everything for everyone but me.. I don't want to be here son days . I'm exhausted 😢

[@barbiekat6352]

@therapy in a nutshell Every video you post is full of pearls of wisdom and such practical advice! Side note: I have always wanted to do metal detecting. Please share some pointers 🤗

[@Bob-B-.]

I needed you to tell me that self care isn't selfish.

[@toni2309]

I find your comment on 'you've created a mindset of scarcity' a bit odd... Like, what are the people with chronic illnesses or similar supposed to do, juat ignore their very real limils? My personal obstacle is that I find self-care to be overwheming. It's so much stuff, so much different stuff to think about and do.

[@chellesama8256]

You do what you can in your limits. Even people who can't do much can create scarcity.

[@toothovam9660]

Imagine there is a lot of stuff to think about you dont like or even hate and have to do them anyway. Isnt it great that self care is a lot of things that make you feel better and can be pleasent. Compare it

[@toni2309]

@@toothovam9660 This makes no sense to me.

[@Rishro29]

Totally agree with you. I have multiple chronic illnesses so I have less resources to spend than someone without. That's the part I have trouble balancing, is my health with my work, which then in turn severely affects my mental health.

[@saturnsbogbook]

🙄 lacking insight into how stressed brain can process this overload.

[@maryamtajeri4446]

4. We don't have enough money

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

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[@tinapiper7934]

I'm trying to learn how to self care, but what do I do if I don't care about myself?

[@sabrinaalexandra9902]

This is exactly how I feel 😭

[@mercedesd236]

I feel the same way. The depression is crippling me...

[@meanderingwithmuddypaw]

Therapy. It works. Brainspotting works even better.

[@Kabitzba]

​@@meanderingwithmuddypawIdk what brainspotting is but I did CBT/talk therapy for 20 yrs and I'd leave worse than when I went in.

[@delyta.]

Love this. Practical and encouraging. Thank you.

[@larsulle3842]

2: "You need to check your perceptions." Yeah I'm totally gonna steal that one

[@dlhfixermd6584]

Great talk! Thanks for the videos. I think you are helping a lot of people.

[@GeorgeStro]

💙 your video's helped me alot in hard times ..thanks alot.

[@1951split]

0:28 No... Cars can't drive 100 miles without oil. Withoutengine oil the bearings in the engine will run dry, thus friction increases, which creates heat that melts your crankshaft bearings. Without oil, your engine is toast within a few minutes. Driving without oil is really bad advice, fortunately this channel isn't about car maintenance... ;)

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Yes! Good thing I’m not a mechanic!

[@mishawnroberts141]

I dont have the energy and I see it as a chore. How can I overcome that?

[@mf_rat]

Why should I practice this if I don't deserve any of those things?

[@thinkingbout]

Just because you think you don't deserve any of these things doesn't mean it is true. Those are thoughts, really convincing sounding thoughts but that doesn't make them more true. Even if it doesn't feel like you deserve it right now, you do deserve it, because of the inherent worth you have as a living being, don't let anybody not even yourself tell you otherwise! I wish you a lot of strenght and that you'll find a way to see the great person you are and that you are deserving of love, selfcare and happiness as much as everyone else does! Take care.

[@buddhaneosiddhananda8499]

"... the rubble over which you are stumbling.... just isn't that hard..." Michael Penn

[@unclesroise]

I don't think it's dumb because I have chronic major depression disorder, and it takes a lot to even shower. I suppose you should re-word the title

[@cassieoz1702]

"Sharpen the saw"

[@sterlingsilver5937]

Thank you so much for sharing this!

[@mercedesblanco7470]

Wise words! Thanks for sharing🍃

[@buddhaneosiddhananda8499]

A saint has a very different perspective... to a worldly person... "Surely the greatest miracle... is that an ordinary person... can become a saint..." The Buddha

[@Little45light._]

Thank you ❤

[@julsca3738]

Either I don’t care and sometimes I even don’t know how anymore.

[@sonatak304]

So glad I found your videos!

[@angelavanzandt8106]

Love the therapy

[@Lisa-pe6dl]

Thank you Emma 😊

[@jenajune]

Thank you for sharing this! :-)

[@kritikapoudel8470]

You are so good!!Thank youuuuu

[@Christ13Jesus]

Help me get a hold of Keanu Reeves

[@rrodriguez0085]

Had to subscribe 👏

[@vinlpaul3]

Excellent!!!

[@bettiesnyder8393]

HA HA HA! Loved your thumbnail, it’s hilarious!

[@shiyas908]

Thank you ✌✌✌

[@rachelbalow4967]

Hi Emma, Thank you so much fordoing ehat you do. We appreciate you. In a different video you had said that if we wanted to take your Udemy class for free to send you a private message... I just realized private messages are no longer available, so I’m commenting here and asking if you could help me take it for free? I have struggled with feelings of anxiousness often and in the past week, uncomfortable and sometimes paniful pelvic floor tension has been a struggle. I really appreciate your help videos, and would appreciate being able to take the class ❤️.

[@deloresgillard3942]

Hello Emma I wonder if you hve ever had anxiety?

[@einatliberman4186]

I don't have money for self care.

[@toddboothbee1361]

Do you ever watch The Detectorists?

[@kritikapoudel8470]

Please can you make some vids on ocd pleaseeeeee

[@pokebronyborn]

i have no reason to take care if myself

[@sherrysunshinefreeman3434]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@buddhaneosiddhananda8499]

If your child is drowning you don't stop to see if your hair is okay... same with self care...

[@TJ-kk5zf]

fewer trees