How to Help a Child With Anxiety: A Parent-Centered Approach to Managing Children’s Anxiety Part 1/4

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OK, so you’ve got a kid with anxiety. They might struggle to go to school, or they’re shy, or maybe they’re dealing with stomach aches or headaches or other physical signs of anxiety. Maybe they throw a fit when it’s time to go to bed or they cry and cling to you when it’s time to leave. And it breaks your heart. You can see them suffering and you’d do anything to help them feel better. You worry that anxiety will plague them for the rest of their lives. Maybe you’re afraid that you gave them your crappy anxiety genes or you made them anxious somehow.
I really want to emphasize, it’s most likely not your fault that your child is anxious, there are a lot of factors that go into it, including personality and genetics. It’s not your fault, but there is something you can do about it. Anxiety is absolutely treatable.
And you probably want me to teach you skills for your child, but research shows that intervening with parents is more helpful than intervening with kids. There are literally hundreds of opportunities a week for you to show your kids how to manage anxiety. So in this video series I’m going to teach you how to change your mindset around anxiety, then in the next 3 videos I’m going to teach you practical things you can DO to help your child with anxiety.
So are you on board? Are you willing to change yourself and your framework in order to help your kid? Awesome! Let’s go. Here are 4 principles for helping your anxious kid.
00:00 How to help a child with anxiety
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02:24 1. It's more effective to help parents change their mindset around anxiety, than to only do therapy with a kid
06:57 2. Anxiety is not a "negative" emotion
11:41 3. Being sensitive is a neutral trait, not negative
15:32 4. The anxiety cycle, when we avoid anxiety, it grows
17:08 Anxiety disorders in children are absolutely treatable
18:17 Summary of how to help an anxious child
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[@Queenie-the-genie]

My mother was the cause of my anxiety. Now at 78 I finally realised that she was a prescription drug addict. In the 50’s doctors were freely prescribing sleeping pills(Seconal) tranquilizers, and worst of all dexadrine (speed). She also had lived throught the Great Depression, lost her first love in the Second World War & Catholicism, while also living through all those years & suffered parental abuse herself. Total forgiveness now.

[@betho.3542]

When my kids were little and I needed to drop them off at school, they'd say "Aren't you going to miss me?" (Because they were going to miss ME.) My answer was always "Yes! In a HAPPY way! Because I know you're going to have a great day and be with friends and learn new things!

[@eli8379]

I recently realized I suffered with anxiety my entire childhood and no one (including me) realized, I hope other kids get the help they need :/ 💔

[@SuperCrueda]

I am currently 23 and have been experiencing really severe anxiety for as long as i can remember. I no longer blame my parents or hold any anger towards them, but they definitely did not support me or help in the way i believe a parent should help their child manage their anxiety. In fact, they often rejected me, told me i was stupid, and said to stop bothering them (my anxiety usually surfaced at night.) They actually used to threaten me and say "ILL SEND YOU TO THERAPY IF YOU DONT STOP ACTING LIKE SUCH A BRAT". I wish they had. Years later, im still struggling with managing my own anxiety. I experience it every day and it causes so much pain and distress. Anyway, Im on the journey by myself now and am working towards becoming a parenting researcher/advisor. Thank you so much for your content, its been teaching me so much!❤

[@dameazize]

I'm a fairly anxious person, and I can say for certain my parents never "gave it to me". They have always been not only loving and supporting, but always emphasized that hard work in more important than, like, how I am doing in class or what job I have or whatever. But I grew up chronically ill and in really competitive environments, and I think I am also just way more physically predisposed to it. I see my parents struggling to help me because, while they have their own stuff including times of depression, they just don't have the same episodes of anxiety I have and there is always going to be a disconnect their. One of the most helpful things I have found for myself is to let myself be anxious in the moment, accept that I will feel bad right now, but pull back as hard as I can from letting that spill over into thoughts about the future.

[@SuzyQT]

I can’t thank you enough for this video.I’m currently trapped in a cycle of anxiety. I’ve closed myself off & my world has gotten very small in the last 5+ years. I want to stop allowing anxiety to run my life but have been unsure how to get there. I know I must change stop this cycle before I miss out on even more. I keep asking myself how I got here? My child isn’t like me, but I’m concerned that it will effect her negatively if I don’t get my own anxiety under control. I will continue your series on this topic.

[@SuzyQT]

@@amenhotep7704 thank you, I will check it out this evening

[@GossamerWaits]

Hey Angie! I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety a while and I know that feeling of being trapped in that cycle. With my world becoming so small. I ended up reading the book the DARE Response by Barry McDonagh and it changed my life. I can't recommend it enough! I hope that if you do read it that it will help you the way it helped me.

[@DisposedJeans]

Currently trying to help my 19 yr old with newly onset anxiety. Thanks for this!

[@earthzeroapothecary]

Look into adaptogenic herbs!! They're specific plants meant to help our body adapt to stress and they've been instrumental in my experience with anxiety.

[@EMunaBee]

Breathing exercises is the most helpful tool - learn to properly breathe, deep into the belly, expanding on inhales, deflating on exhales - there are plenty of ways to count the amount of time to breathe in and out or even hold in the middle - the most important part is getting in air the right way, into the belly, not high in the chest, relaxing, breathing out, learning to control breath, not hyperventilating. Meditation Quiet time when needed Ashwaganda and other herbs, as long as it's not interacting with anything or a health risk, is helpful Bach flower remedy Soothing rituals like a cup of warm tea, warm soup, shower or bath, aromatherapy or soothing scents like lavender, beginning the day with a smile and saying or writing what's good... anything that suits them. Music Journaling Dancing Moving the body in any way Healthy food Delicious food - it can be healthy or indulgent Be careful not to have much or any caffeine and have limited processed sugar Keep hydrated Get sunshine and vitamin D Take B vitamins, B complex and B12 Take Omega three and eat foods rich in it (Get a blood panel to find all levels of vitamins in the body) Make sure hormones are balanced - see a doctor for this, it's saved many Find the root cause of the anxiety of possible and work on that with a therapist, life coach, mentor, family, friends or in solitude Make sure they have kind, loving, understanding people who listen and understand Let the child navigate and have autonomy while knowing you and others are there Working on goals is helpful Healthy distractions are great Knowledge that it's not a life sentence or life ender is a game changer Don't let it define them, for you, anyone or them.

[@dawnbradbury9059]

@@earthzeroapothecary Thank you!

[@dawnbradbury9059]

@@EMunaBee Thank you so much!

[@beyourownhappiness8521]

Is there any tactic you do to help your child because my mom does not understand what I go through because she is a social butterfly. It makes me angry and frustrated to not be understood and I just want to know what she could do in professional words to help me because she doesn’t listen to me

[@plantyfan]

I call my sensitive child my "tender heart" ❤️

[@claremiller9979]

This is so timely. My eldest is getting more and more anxious, and dealing with my own anxiety, stress and depression is making it really hard for me to come close to modelling good coping.

[@now591]

parents need to find out what they are being taught in school these days. There are things that they'd be too embarrassed to talk about..porn, masturbation, multiple genders, sodomy etc

[@sacerdotisamillennial5057]

Bless your sweet heart 💓

[@Chee235]

Thank you. I’m hopeful. My child is nonverbal autistic. I hope I can help her.

[@phoebe2234]

My own child is autistic verbal but highly anxious. He's now a teenager and recently I'm dealing with school refusal . I'm hopeful Emma can help as she has in the past

[@er6730]

My middle child seems really prone to anxiety. She's more sensitive in general, both in good and bad ways. I have a hard time relating because my pain point is boredom rather than bridges or water slides or spiders, and I can't think of anything physical like that that scares me so my impulse is to roll my eyes, but I try to be kind instead of dismissive, and at the same time not treat it very seriously. Like, hugs and deep breathing, and then we go over the bridge because we don't have teleportation powers to get to the other side without the bridge and I'm not that good at swimming, but she can close her eyes and I'll walk beside her and guide her if she doesn't want to see. I think it's pretty successful, as her worries don't usually take her over. She still is very rigid and freaked out about certain things, though. I'm pretty sure there are sensory issues in there, too. Humour tends to help her, as long as she doesn't feel mocked. If she feels afraid but also knows that really there's no good reason for it, she can laugh, cry, shake, laugh, and it doesn't progress into a meltdown. (Humour like, "I'd gladly swim you across but I forgot my swimsuit") And also low pressure whenever possible. If she declares that she's NEVER going to go in the pool because she's going to get her face splashed, I just shrug, "you don't have to. If you do come in just to your waist, you probably won't get splashed." And then 10 minutes later she's accidentally gotten a snootful of water while wildly playing and is freaking out, and I lead her to her towel and she dries her face and jumps back into the game. She's still kind of anxious around sensory issues in general, but can still participate in life. If I help her see that things aren't really as big a deal as she's imagining, without belittling her, it helps. During a nosebleed, I help her get set up and then distract with stories about when I was a kid and always got nosebleeds and all the strange remedies that people suggested. Or if she dumped her water, "well it's a blessing really. The floor needed a rinse. That's not usually the way I like to wash the socks, but it's good to try new things, eh?" I've been a bit concerned that I'm not doing anything to help her with her anxiety like finding therapy or talking about it with her a lot, but this video was reassuring. I read a book about anxious children where it says to "be the calm chicken", because chickens look at other chickens to see how to react to loud noises. So I mustn't look to my child for what to be scared of, but rather be the calm chicken for her to look at. "It's okay to feel anxious, but you can choose what you will do" is a good phrase, I'll try that on her.

[@TM15HAKRN]

Well writ!!!! Thanks... For solutions! 💖😊😎🎊

[@er6730]

Update two months later: I figured out why she's scared of bridges! A bridge collapsed with a dump truck on it several years ago, and it was BIG news in my rural area. Everyone was talking about it, and photos in the newspaper, and I didn't think that it was anything to shield the kids from, as they did get the driver to safety after trying a couple of things. I saw it as an adventure story, but my daughter was about 5 at the time and I think it really stuck with her. A few weeks ago, I suddenly had this lightbulb moment where I said, "I know why you're scared of bridges!" And we talked about it. She had forgotten the story, and I explained what happened again, and as a ten year old she took it much more logically, and ever since then, while she still mutters a bit while crossing a bridge, I think it's more habit than anything. She's willing to give up the fear, which is AWESOME, and then she'll know that it's possible to do. I'm excited, and thought I'd share. 😆

[@freshlimejuice]

This resonates so much. I don't have any kids and I'm in my 40s l, but my parents allowed me to avoid uncomfortable situations as a child. I don't fault them at all for that as like you said, they experienced stuffing down their emotions when they were kids. Thank you for your amazing content, it helps me have a better understanding of myself.

[@ravireddyism]

Would you regret not having kids??

[@plantyfan]

I have been learning so much about myself so I can teach my kids. So grateful! It's also been really great for my mental health and other relationships.

[@BSG0005]

Wow, I learned more in these 4 videos than any of my own classes, groups, or therapy. Now I can better help my child & myself as well!

[@jackie6509]

Thank you for this series. I have 17 yr old dealing with anxiety, panic attacks, and clinical depression. She has therapist and psychiatrist. This helps me dealing with her as I am quite frustrated. She won't even go to school.

[@bridgetmolteni657]

My Son is in the same position, he has severe anxiety and struggles to go to college, he frequently freezes and can't move getting out of the car, I hope things improved for your daughter

[@skrefurbishedinteriors]

​@@bridgetmolteni657What's their Diet like? Hopefully they are not vigan! sleep, mindful ness/affirmations are so important! Check vitamin D and magnesium levels.

[@WiLdTiger-kz3xb]

I was a child with anxiety, and at the age of 71, I still have anxiety disorder. At this point, I believe it is hard wired in my brain.

[@Yellow-Rose]

Prescriptions like propranolol can help when you're nervous system sporadically fires up.

[@Claws_on_paws364]

I searched this up for myself because I'm not really. Comfortable telling somebody about my feelings I can't open up to anybody because I feel like they'll have to call help and then I'm going to have to go into a mental hospital or something... but thank you for helping, but I still have depression and anxiety, but this helped a little bit

[@tinalapoint9294]

I'm 50 and you helped me more, than my therapist

[@ljc9337]

I am currently reading a book about childhood emotional neglect. Coming from a family of 10 with my youngest sibling having Downs Syndrome, I realize even though I know my parents loved me they really did not have a whole lot of time for me and my struggles with anxiety. I never knew what anxiety was or why I had those feelings. Thanks for these videos.

[@jeanettekvinlaug2772]

Thank you so much! I actually " saved" my hild from a uncomfortable situation today... I asked her after i had been watching this video, and she said "I did not think so much about it before you said we should go home. Then I understood it was really bad."

[@TheGamePlanEduSolutions]

As an educator, this is extremely helpful given the students we work with. I have always emphasized to the teachers I mentor the importance of modeling healthy emotional processing so our students can hopefully follow suit. Thank you for making this video that supports what I've been advocating for all along! 💓

[@patm_]

Thank you so much for your time and efforts to make the videos about this subject. I have a 10 years old daughter that has anxiety/selective mutism and she is struggling a lot since pandemic. I really appreciate that you are sharing your knowledge with us. God bless you.

[@philthyrich1433]

GOOD STUFF 👍 KEEP EM COMING COACH

[@markahearne3280]

Have dealt with anxiety since a very young age. No one listened or understood. Missed alot of school. Alot of stomach issues and diarrhea was the norm

[@rachaelgalvez435]

This video is very helpful to me with my own anxiety, as well as giving me parenting ideas. Thanks!

[@leesmindfuljourney]

My son has autism and has a lot of emotions and frustrations, I have anxiety too and I feel like I can understand him better

[@marielmirsky2362]

Quiet, the highly sensitive kids and good inside

[@yvettrae]

I needed this so much, thank you! Can’t wait for the next video.

[@rose8968]

How is this not going viral? Such an amazing video! I’m glad I found this channel.

[@iamthelightarts]

I now know I was an extremely anxious child and my parents didn’t have the tools or knowledge to help me. Only a few years ago when my anxiety was trigger by other life events and thanks to my therapist I realised it all started as a kid. Watching these videos help me understand myself as a child and heal that little girl. I work in re parenting myself and tell her she’s safe and love and protected. ❤Thank you for this series.

[@divinelyguided1144]

Great information thank you 🙏🏾

[@justangel2014]

Thank you for this ❤

[@allier.9193]

Thank you so much for making this. Been waiting for it ❤

[@cynthiabotsko2449]

My children have always been my greatest teachers❤️♾️❤️ However, being aware of the patterns & traits, etc has only got me so far. Thank you for your videos! You've equipped me with perspectives & steps to actually move forward🙌

[@melindacraig87]

Thank you for the time you give and putting this content up. I stumbled on your channel a week or so ago and am so grateful for the tips and advice. Love the book recommendations and will be checking those out at the library!

[@MindfulMaryAlice]

Loved this! Thank you! Can’t wait for the next videos!

[@Melissa-hx3ye]

Thank you so much.

[@dee5356]

Thank you for this very excellent video!

[@lauramoore8823]

I was a child with really intense anxiety and I see the same coming up in my daughter. My parents let me skip the things I was afraid of and it took years to undo that work in my nervous system, but I did it! I am hoping I can start my little off with the right tools to understand that her body may be highly sensitive (like mine) but that doesn't mean she can't do what she wants to do or is important to do, even when it's hard. She's only two, but we've recently transitioned to daycare and I've come back to watch this video twice to remind myself that it's okay to leave her when she's scared or sad or angry. That going to school is important and I trust her to be strong and I can teach her that she's safe in those situations.

[@paramedicchrisbookseries]

Thank you for this, really helpful.

[@TrialTappersMentalHealthTips]

I love it! Leaning into anxiety makes us stronger.

[@avagrego3195]

Looking forward to part 3 & 4.

[@ladysaffire4006]

I am learning from you. Thanks 🙏🏻

[@llmiller23]

Thank you for posting this!!! My little guy has struggled with anxiety since he was 3.

[@Rizko505]

Hey I just wanted to say thank you for everything you do. I'm at a better place finally again after all those years of darkness. And your videos and you as a person was like a beautiful light for me that i could follow through this darkness. You gave me a sense of hope, of love and calmness that really helped me find my way out. So really from the bottom of my heart i thank you for everything that you do, your are a wonderful human being 🤗 I want to become a light for others too now, a little guidance of love that can make such a difference! I hope you have a wonderful life and God bless you and your family 😊

[@SuziQ-fg4ee]

What a fantastic series. I am really looking forward to the next one. Thank you 😊

[@dixielambrecht7009]

God bless you Emma.

[@gigib4076]

Really helpful, thank you!

[@purrsephone2904]

Excellent! I'll need to watch this again :)

[@lilyneva]

Lovely video, thank you Emma! Also, your hair looks especially lovely and curly at the moment. This video made me think about emotional intelligence and sensitivity. I have thought of them as not necessarily the same. I also thought about that with teaching your children not to avoid, it is very important that the parent support their children as they learn this. As a child I was forced and pushed to do things I feared all the time and it was very scary and lonely, and if anything I think it made me more anxious and nervous as an adult.

[@Nat-mk7gb]

I am so grateful for your videos and information. I am only at the beginning of the journey to help my child, and only just started watching your videos but already I find it really enlightening. In fact I started changing my own reaction to it ❤

[@valxntinaflorxs]

Thank you from a teacher! Love this video! So much helpful information to share with children’s families

[@elizabethinman6902]

Thank you so much!!!

[@vitaliyapsychologist556]

Great video! Educational and on point 👍🏻

[@YasuTaniina]

I've been waiting for this one. My oldest who's 5 has moderate anxiety

[@eternity-vr]

Well said! You helped me shift my mindset about anxiety which really changes the way I can relate to, and talk about it. As an elementary mathematics educator, this gives insight into how some children relate to math and anxiety. When they avoid it over the years it just gets worse but providing positive experiences and talking about it directly with kids can support them in create positive math identities. Thank you!

[@amenhotep7704]

Thank you so much beautiful.

[@YourHealthCheerleader]

Thanks!

[@crystali3375]

Thank you for this. I don’t have kids but this helps my inner child❤ looking forward to this series!

[@user-gs1mu8ro9e]

Hi Emma. Thank you so much for your wonderful video. It not only helped me understand how I could have dealt with my children's anxiety, it helped me understand myself better. Would you ever do a video on 'only child syndrome'?

[@louern123]

honestly i think the most important thing society needs to understand is why anxiety wasn’t a thing when i was 20 and why it’s so viral now .

[@sarthakshubham1832]

Thanks from India 🙏

[@alejandrotoledo7732]

thank you for this!!!

[@rebeccawhite6620]

I love your videos ❤ thank you

[@SerendipityTink]

OMG thank you so much for creating this content ❤❤❤❤

[@vikramingleshwar5732]

Please add links to part 2, 3 and 4 in the description section as it will be easier to find content. Thanks for your amazing efforts, god bless you.

[@Starmielax]

I’m so excited for this topic! This made me feel like I’m doing ok with day to day things. My child has some anxiety about existential stuff at age 7/8 but we’re getting through it. Off topic but you look amazing in that green. Light/bright/warm colors are totally right! 🤗

[@Starmielax]

The existential/rare/unknown stuff is like storms, what happens when we die, what if I get stuck in the bathroom stall, bee stings, bugs, car crashes, or losing a loved one or pet. I don’t always know how to help with those worries.

[@mstone5579]

Your hair is so pretty! Never knew it was curly

[@JN-go2yq]

I learnt heaps❤

[@lilyneva]

6:05 This is a little confusing to me. I understand this idea of course but my instinctive, automatic response is to exaggerate my display of concern and care if a child falls or a friend hurts herself, etc. I am trying to change this because, of course, I can see how it could create in a child or a friend more anxiety or the impression that I don’t think they can handle a difficult situation. But even though I cognitively understand why I am showing more support by joining in in their anxiety less, part of me still finds it hard to distinguish between showing loving concern and displaying trust in the child’s or friend’s ability to handle a situation. How do I know I don’t make the child or friend feel as though I don’t care about them?

[@petulaturner4222]

WOW! You are Good! 👏👏👍👍

[@Star-dj1kw]

❤ great video

[@The_Apollo_Show]

Amazing !! Thank you !!! Please do a video about helping children with anger !!! ❤❤

[@LG-uw9vh]

Thank you for all your amazing videos. I have a question. My teenage son just started therapy for health anxiety. The therapist has seen him twice. This has been through my work EAP benefits. Is it typical for the therapist to want to recommend a teen get a diagnosis after seeing him twice?

[@odalesaylor]

Just watched four minutes, but I wanted to leave a comment. Isn't looking forward to Christmas a kind of anxiety. A GOOD ONE, perhaps? Maybe this is a good reason why we should not fear anxiety. Not all of it is negative.

[@leonieaugustine7746]

I'd say that looking forward to Christmas is more excitement? They are both "charged up" emotions😊 And yes, Anxiety, along with fear are our most primitive emotions that evolved with us for our protection and survival. They are not "bad", they are necessary, and learning to work through them is part of living a rich, fulfilling life.😊😊😊

[@AleneRay]

Would you advise any different for neurodivergent children or when trauma is involved?

[@thelightstillshines2476]

The site is great but also watch the anxiety guy he's good also

[@ashleychamp1544]

Does anxiety feel different to neurodivergent children?

[@mariecarie1]

I don’t know about different, but (as someone with ADHD and OCD) it might be more intense, or seem “blown out of proportion” to the situation. They might have lower thresholds for stress, and react more strongly to stress than neurotypical kids. As a neurodivergent adult, these techniques Emma has been showing has been extremely beneficial in helping me come to terms with my anxiety and learn that it’s okay to feel that way, even if it’s uncomfortable. I think teaching your child to not fear the feeling of anxiety is vital, especially for neurodivergent kiddos who feel much bigger emotions and don’t know what to do with them.

[@GKEK]

What age range does this apply to? How long can you employ these strategies? As you have older children, do the strategies change?

[@bobjones3573]

Having met people with extremely anxious parents and how they pass their fears on to their children, especially the paranoia, the need to protect, it destroys lives, a woman had two kids, seven year old boy and eleven year old daughter, just the way she conversed with them, it wasn't conversational, it was dictatorial, constantly barking instructions at them both, neither of them had the slightest gram of self confidence, couldn't even order their own food in the takeaway, no friends outside of school, just the complete opposite of what kids that age should be. I baby sat one night, and took them out and gave them no reins, let the do what ever they wanted to under supervision. They've had fun and posted all their adventures on socials. Mommy found out, and boom that was me done, enemy number one, to say the next time I sat them was a little different would be an understatement. The worst thing was she knew exactly what she was doing to her kids, she almost used her own fear and anxiety like she thought it was a superpower, a method of control, so much so that the same psychological methods of oppression and control she used on them, they have then tried using on me. So she had been told that what she was doing was not only OK, it was a superpower and could be used to control others, and was now teaching her kids the same. Give you one guess how those kids end up. I couldn't even stay friends with her, for me it was child abuse. Literally nurturing her own children to hate. Future haters already among us.

[@TM15HAKRN]

Topic Most welcome

[@azeemnawaz8418]

Nice from uthal, Pakistan

[@plantyfan]

I want to change the world too!! 😭😭

[@DeeneMuada]

can you give kids phosphatidylserine to lower cortisol and rhodiola rosea for reducing stress or something like SAMe instead of these 2 things? could this harm kids?

[@louern123]

as for saying that anxiety isn’t the problem , i’m pretty sure that one of the biggest causes of modern day anxiety is anxiety over anxiety

[@travisbartholomay]

Intuition is a emotional tool in communication with your nervous system. The nervous system responds to all vibration frequency. Intuition is a positive and negative energy reader. They the feeling of knowing but not knowing way. Gut feeling. How to upgrade intuition to explanation You get a feeling you do not understand You then sit down with thoughts and emotions. Then thoughts ask emotions what are you feeling Is it fear or happy based emotions Once the frequency is determined You then play imagination overthinking With ideas that lead into possibilities Of outcome. Playing with causes and effects You can watch Body movement Voice tone Words being used The movement of the surroundings You use awareness to observe everything. You create a spider web from roll playing multiple options and scenario. You can ask a person a question Get a answer. And you naturally come up with a processes of agreeing or disagreeing I believe that is the process of intuition Allowing yourself to know what you need to know before you knew you needed to know. Turning gut feeling with plausible answers. Intuition is assumption judgment calls Pick all your best guesses and choose one. I use my intuition to read people For instance. Employees comfortability around the boss or other coworkers. Will explain how well the boss can communicate and teaches. And the communication between employees. the employee response Is it in confidence or is there any self-doubt. Which emotion is in operation. A Intuition test the boss's knowledge And patience. Boss will explain With many descriptions of the path. The employee asks the question. The way the boss responds will tell you if they even know what they are talking about. How much respect they have for you. Does the boss get defensive and say I just explained all this. or does the boss get deeper into explanation. Intuition can also be used to show you The level of the inner work they have done on there own emotions. Because the easiest way to learn intuition is to studying your past And play What happens if I change this response to the response then following the path of imagination creation. What would the out come be if I where to do this and not this Where does that lead me. To travel with imagination creates the spider web effect or like the family tree branch. One turns into two Two turns into four Four turns into eight And so on Doing this in imagination It becomes very difficult to continue the story line. The grow of options becomes harder to see all the paths But the more you do it The greater the creativity becomes. You can get serious and start maping The possibilities outcomes. Intuition be the teacher to your imagination. They say imagin from your minds eye. Now you have a formula To play with cause and effect Manifestation genius genie habit creating machine. With that intuition radar Guiding you straight to your Greatness Any obstacles in your way No big deal because you have created spider web of choices Plus you can vibration frequency jump. To go around a situation that you know your skills are not that great to defeat that challenge Or gives you multiple options to defeat that challenge.

[@katiedean9572]

Where can I find part 2 please

[@jaynepictures9846]

Where are the other parts please?

[@AlainMillercom]

What about generalized anxiety? I think all of this works for occasional, situational anxiety, but not for generalized anxiety

[@louern123]

i never did dangerous things as a kid but i didn’t need anxiety to make that decision, my brain knew it wasn’t safe that’s all

[@lilipotgieter6263]

Hallo. Is there a way to listen without the background music?

[@Nkhf-233-xzqwr]

How i can find the part 2 ?

[@karissad7382]

Excellent☉~Thank you~~~~~>💓°•○☆💕

[@jasonp7333]

Where are the next 3 videos?

[@ChadwickVonGriffindorIII]

168 hours, ÷ 2 children, - 40 hours at work, - 90 minute drive, - 6 hours a day of sleep, - school, etc.

[@jennifer7685]

“I want you to know that it’s not your fault” “Step 1: it’s probably your fault and you taught them fear when they were toddlers.” Drat.

[@louern123]

anxiety isn’t an emotion, it’s a neurological response

[@inanitas]

I actually don't have a child but I wanna try doing this for myself kinda like I am my child. Idk. I'm pretty high so I will see if I remember this tomorrow haha

[@mrs.potter3526]

My son was entering 1st grade (Fall of 2020) when we realized he needed some help, and that therapist told us, “sounds like classic anxiety!” So for about 3 years now, I’ve been trying to learn and help him with anxiety. But I’m watching this video and pondering, and I feel like the description of anxiety doesn’t fit. My kid isn’t shy, nervous, or timid when he’s put in an anxious situation. He’s explosive, yells at me and shakes his body. So angry. Hates himself and says the worst things to himself and me. He can’t perform under pressure and then gives up. Community, help me out. Do you think he could have a different mental health issue? Does anyone else get angry or start to be obnoxious when they feel anxious???

[@victoriahuyck4949]

This sounds just like my son. It seems like at the drop of a hat he can turn from the sweetest little boy to a violent, angry, out of control kid. I haven't take him in for a diagnosis, but just know you aren't alone!

[@mrs.potter3526]

@@victoriahuyck4949 Thank you for commenting!

[@Dietconsulting]

It sounds like he has issues around sensory regulation. Get a psychologist or occupational therapist rather than a therapist to evaluate.

[@sarac.3259]

In answer to your last sentence/question - YES! Definitely. Exactly that. My father was like this. I am like it. My husband is too. No surprise - so is our teenage daughter, but we are all working on it. Husband gets angry if he drops something (because he feels silly), I get grumpy if I have to go to some party or event I really don't want to go to (usually I like socialising but it might be people I have nothing in common with etc). Daughter gets angry and snappy when she has an event she is worried about or before the new term etc. I try not to correct her and we talk in a softly-softly way about things. I let quite a lot go because I know she is usually more polite etc. My view is - if you can't be yourself in your home, where can you be? I find the best approach is keep calm, let them be (up to a point - no throwing stuff or destruction) and some hours later, or even following day, talk in a supportive way about what happened and why, how to approach and prepare next time. All in a "how we can tackle this" way, not a telling off way.

[@hejhej821]

I dont understand the part about anxiety not being damaging. Isnt anxiety a form of stress that should be able to cause stress damage if it goes on too long.