How to be More Resilient - 6 Traits of Resilient People - Featuring Laura Kampf

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Resilience is a skill that can be learned, and I was watching a creator who totally embodies it, Laura Kampf, she’s such a great example of resilience.
When it comes to being more resilient a lot of people probably think that being more resilient means “Just try harder” “Suck it up” “Get over it” or “Just push through”. They think that the way to be more resilient, the way to overcome obstacles is to just force yourself to be motivated and keep going even if things aren’t working. And, while grit is a great characteristic, just forcing it can’t be your only tool. If you really want to be more resilient, you’ve got to have a toolbox of skills to rely upon when it all hits the fan.
So in this video you’ll learn 6 ways to be more resilient. And I’m going to give you lots of examples of how to be resilient from Laura’s channel. Let's get better at feeling.
Resilience means to bounce back. So for example, rubber is resilient. Resilience means getting back up just one time more than getting knocked down. I think some people think mental strength comes from just being super tough, super strong. But I would disagree. Ice is strong, but it’s not resilient. Resilience is a combination of toughness and flexibility.
It’s not just trying the same thing over and over again. It’s not just trying harder. It’s not just willpower. It’s trying something differently. So let's watch some an example of a resilient person:
00:00 Resilience is a skill that can be learned
01:09 What is resilience- Resilient people have 6 characteristics:
02:06 1. A belief that everything is Figure-out-able
05:21 2. Resilient people ask for help
07:14 3. Resilient people build skills to tolerate emotions
09:39 4. They focus on what they can control
11:27 5. Flexible thinking is a sign of resilience
13:55 6. Laughter and resilience
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[@ria1918]

1. Everything is figure-out-able 2. Looking for help 3. skills for tolerance, don't be ashamed of emotions, taking breaks 4. learn to focus on what you CAN control 5. flexible (mindset), accept failure 6. Laugh about it if sh*t hits the fan You're welcome. You got this!

[@Lynnzberry]

I used to have that resilient mindset. I always said " you just have to be smarter than the problem." And somewhere along the way I lost that. Thank you for this video ❤️ it was much needed.

[@stuartpemberton193]

For me, part one of resilience building is to understand and acknowledge your current resilience levels and tolerance

[@biancarowena9040]

My biggest pet peeve is everyone always saying “seek help from a professional.” That’s like saying “go to the moon.” Unless you have $200 to spend per hour of help, or even $100 or even $50, which takes many many sessions to really build a relationship with the counsellor and work on things, then it is not accessible. I am not ashamed or hiding a need for help. There is just no way to “seek professional help.” Anyway I do get good information online and your videos are super helpful and all of these online videos and articles are a blessing. I just wanted to say that professional help is not an option for most people

[@MikkiSylvester-mu8ng]

yes its like "hire a lawyer" Ok. right.

[@1browngirl29]

Sometimes the seek help from a professional means call a crisis line

[@clairec8496]

Someone once told me ‘failure is feedback’ Which gave me a whole new approach to my studies, and while I still don’t love when I have to repeat an assessment, I’m not so hard on myself about it now

[@bluecurlygirl]

I'm such a huge fan of Laura's. I honestly don't know how she faces the constant issues with such good attitude. I strive to be more like her. What an inspiration.

[@kendrarhodes6425]

True, but we also don’t see what’s off camera. That’s my thoughts.😅

[@12Wp909]

She is such an inspiration! I’ve followed her during the house renovation and I have been amazed how positive she remains and keeps on going!

[@curiousmind2457]

My favorite KZbin therapist made a video about my favorite KZbin maker. Pure happiness :)

[@ashlazdanovich8396]

This kind of mindset is very hard to train for me. But I’m making progress. I’m proud of that. I’m slowly becoming more and more resilient.

[@susanhenderson5001]

It is so cool that you are using Laura Kampf as an example of resilience. I love her videos and yours and am not afraid to tell people about both of you! So cool to see you two here. I bet Laura was chuffed about this too!

[@caiden2527]

Mr lady , you don't have idea how much peace you brings to my life, thanks a lot for everything ❤️❤️❤️

[@isabels6362]

This is so great! I really admire Laura and I’ve been waiting for someone to make a video about how she deals with failure and her general upbeat attitude during her builds. So cool!!

[@Maxhindle]

If we ask for resilience… expect struggles to come in order to build it… resilience is a skill and like any other skill it takes time to learn 🙏🏽😁

[@djbond6241]

Very GOOD

[@djbond6241]

Of COURSE STRUGGLING IS A PART OF OVER COMIN THE PROBLEM DUDE

[@djbond6241]

RESILIENCE IS A SKILL.... ALL ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS, DRUG ADDICTS, & MENTALLY ILL PEOPLE OF SICK PARENTS HAD TO DEVELOP TO SURVIVE THIS LONG ... ALMOST 60 YEARS ALIVE DRUG FREE, SOBER THIRTY YEARS, 1/2 MY LIFE... VERSES BOTH PARENTS DIED OF ACTIVE ALCOHOLISM ,& ADDICTION! NOW I WATCH MY BROTHER DIE TOO OF ACTIVE ALCOHOLISM AND DRUG ADDICTION AND GAMBLING ADDICTION TOO.... NARCISSISTIC ABUSER ON TOP OF HIS OTHER SEX OFFENDER ISSUES

[@SeaforgedArtifacts]

And expect for people to begin demanding it of you for the rest of your life.

[@kenhoover1639]

Just like some others have said, I really needed this today. I'm 65 years old and I have cerebral palsy. The older I get the more difficult things become. I need to start working out again to strengthen all my muscles, especially my legs. I'm in a bit of a catch-22 because how do you strengthen your muscles when you feel you are too tired and weak to workout? After watching your video, I am determined to find a way to start again and build on my progress. Maybe isometric exercise is the best way for me to resume my workouts. Thanks again!

[@cheerbeerification]

Do what you can. Only have enough energy to work out 2 minutes, then make the best of of those 2 minutes. 2 minutes is better than none and eventually you'll make it to a point where you can do more.

[@kenhoover1639]

@@cheerbeerification thanks!

[@Lillipea]

Little by little one day at a time x

[@charlieb9144]

Thanks for sharing Ken! 💙

[@kenhoover1639]

Your welcome Charlie

[@Swenners]

Thank you. Someone explaining how to develop resilience and guiding me on the how is so inspiring. You have made me realise how my reactions are sometimes repetitve and will not develop me.

[@Skyevans1]

OMG! learned about your channel by watching Laura talk about how you had used her videos! This was wonderful... I've been watching Laura for years. She's a kindred spirit and I love her beautiful approach to life. I didn't realize it was resilience. Yes! I really enjoyed this video and look forward to spending more time checking out Therapy in a Nutshell❤

[@09conrado]

Loved your video. I'm following Laura on KZbin and this is exactly why she is an inspiration. After a series of terrible events in South America (robbery, no money, no passport, trauma etc) I learned first-hand that the worst thing you can do to yourself is declaring yourself a victim. It takes away all your power. There are always more possibilities than the can think of. Next lesson was that help is always nearby, IF we open our eyes to it. And if we're prepared to take on the task at hand. No use crying for help when your car is stuck, start pushing.

[@MikkiSylvester-mu8ng]

but crying is okay because it allows you to feel imperfect. Then push lol!

[@lb5368]

I'm a huge fan of Laura Kampf, and every week she models how to human with grace, humility, and laughter ❤️💕

[@RichL_Arts]

Even Laura's surname shows she is a fighter 💪🏽

[@jackiesaylor2487]

I watch Laura and I agree. I love that she doesn't give up and figures it out and always laughs even when she might want to cry. This also made me wonder if I am resilient too because while I used to get depressed. I don't anymore. I thought I just grew up and decided to not give a flying .... Eff anymore. But I touched on at least three of those points. I'll have to check out your anxiety videos if you have any and send them to my daughter.

[@betho.3542]

This video was wonderful! What an excellent lesson that I needed to be reminded of during tough times. Thank you, Emma!

[@tyrsia]

I watched this video because I have been struggling lately and wish I was more resilient. What I realized is that I actually am pretty resilient, and doing research and asking for help is part of that. I’m down now, but I’m trying to get back up. Thanks for helping me feel a bit more positive about myself and reminding me that everything is figure-outable, even if I haven’t figured it out yet.

[@sheilasmith1109]

Thanks! I really needed this today! My resilience was seriously compromised from severe traumatic domestic violence and years of being forcibly held captive. It's a long and winding way back! I thought I'd bounce right back after I escaped him! Boy, was I wrong! I thank God there are people like you!!🙏💕❣️

[@laurasavage8661]

Oh no I'm a survivor of DV TOO BY TWO MEN X

[@light5869]

It takes time and that's okay..

[@seinfeldfan442]

I go for walks to help with trauma, I agree with Emma if you don't reach out it can get worse and possibly even be the end for you.

[@szilardhertelendi7417]

Thank you. I was thinking that I'm not resilient - almost - at all. But the renovation as an example made me rethink and gave a good example of the direction to develop.

[@nyashacarter7065]

Thank you for this! Been watching your videos to get through my bipolar symptoms and some resilience would be nice.

[@Hopkin_0012]

I’m glad to found this page today… you’re exactly the person I’m looking for, made my day.

[@shubhangijain98]

I've been wanting to build resilience for when I am overwhelmed and anxious, especially around my attachment issues. I was literally hoping to find content from you and opened KZbin and THIS is what I see 😍

[@lunakat__]

I was watching Laura's Lise Lotte series the other day and was just in awe of her resilience. I love her content so much.

[@connie10000]

It makes a HUGE difference if you have the finances in this case plus she has ppl willing to assist her. I have resiliency in general...yet there's only so many hard hits one person can handle at one time especially if there is not a strong support system as much as I keep assisting others. Where is the Pay It Forward program? We are all supposed to be in this world together... to make it a happier and smoother place for everyone❤

[@dfab2486]

I feel better just watching Laura. Thank you Emma♥️

[@mgr.christophersampson4754]

You have helped me so much with my anxiety! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

[@michaeldellaquila1467]

you are the only therapy channel I watch now, you are helping people more than you know... thank you for what you do !

[@teresataildashf]

Oh wow! I've recently discovered your amazing channel and have learned so much from you and to see one of my absolute favorite KZbinrs - Laura Kampf just made me happy. Worlds colliding.

[@kimhowland9862]

This is the video I needed right now!! Thank you!!

[@lakritzeslena]

😊 this made me so happy. Especially cause Laura is also often featured in the kids program "Sendung mit der Maus" (the show with the mouse) and she's my daughter's favorite, as she's the one that always finds creative ways to build interesting things. Such a good role model 🎉

[@tiffanyhau1254]

I really liked this video!! The structure and having Laura as the example was super helpful.

[@marybowman6500]

Thank you for these coaching along here. I am having the same issues going through a lot of troubles and I need to build that resilience and then thank you for being there

[@nikolaidimitrov1556]

Thank you alot for these videos of yours!

[@AmitSingh-re4te]

Congrats to Laura. Great way to live a life. Thank you for sharing.

[@tonym6920]

Excellent! Thank you so much!

[@mellowwatcher20]

Yes!! Laura is amazing! Never thought I'd get this beautiful crossover of two of my favorite KZbinrs who talk about such different subjects (or do they?).

[@vernonwaters5]

This is a wonderful video. Thank you so much Emma. Your videos have made me a better person and have helped me to deal with my mental health challenges with confidence.

[@gracens5548]

Yaaas! "Every defect gets respect" Laura Kampf

[@atidmess8371]

I Love this motion graphics , also recap at the end of the video is very helpful to recall the information and learn better. Thanks for your helpful content❤.

[@SuziQ-fg4ee]

I love your videos and your approach to life. This one just made me feel so upbeat. If asked before I watched it, I would have probably said that I was NOT resilient. But after watching I realise how resilient I actually am. The problems I have faced in life have left me with these tools I didn't recognise as resilience. So thank you 😊

[@hojo7241]

Thank you for making this video! It’s helped me so much already.

[@shanikapowell6672]

This was such a wonderful video! Thank you for making it.

[@FrogCities]

I’m here from Laura’s channel! This is such a great video and such an important topic✨ thanks for making this!

[@poephila]

Now that's a collab I wasn't expecting! Haha I love Laura and her channel!!

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Me too!!

[@naomi.montacre]

We are makers and longtime fans of Laura and love her channel, laughter and resilience, too! This video you made is such a treat and we're so happy to have discovered your channel through her, thank you! 💕

[@artistocracy]

Loved this, Emma! My resilience has given me the ability to bounce back from intnese suffering pretty quickly all my life. I think it's genetic as well as experiential. Both my British parents lived through WW2 and they taught me to be able to keep going after setbacks by their example, when I was growing up. I am Australian, btw.

[@donnagrant950]

Thank you. I needed this. Very helpful. 👍

[@tonydare7614]

Adversity is our greatest teacher, but it takes a real change in mindset to see it that way when in the midst, for me anyway. If we can distinguish minor setbacks from major ones, it's easy to get kicked to death by grasshoppers, as the Buddhists say!

[@kendrarhodes6425]

Working on building my resilience. “Fail forward” is a term I recently learned. When things go wrong it’s a redirection to the solution.

[@nancystehman8449]

I guess this video came up for me because I am subscribed to Laura. I enjoy her spunk!! Also my word for last year was Resilient. So your title doubly caught my eye. I really appreciate how you share Laura's perseverance and great attitude. She is a gem!

[@dee5356]

Thank you for this very excellent video!

[@paulstejskal]

This is a great video, probably one of the best ones yet from you. Thank you. I needed this and so did my wife. We both will benefit from it.

[@Mo-ws1fm]

I'm so impressed with these videos. Excellent, helpful information delivered with 100% authenticity, warmth and positivity. Thank you so so much

[@KawaiiPinkPunkStar]

Bless you for this video. Thank you.

[@zacharystrohschein6997]

I absolutely love this. 🎯

[@gretchendecot7140]

Laura sent me here, subscribed!

[@jennypc9515]

I really really appreciated this video. Using Laura’s video also showed resilience in real life. Big thank you. ❤

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Glad it was helpful!

[@ediedaley3701]

This video was great! It’s useful for everyone!

[@DesignedForHim]

Thank you for sharing this with us! I'm learning to sit with difficult emotions right now and it is both hard and helping me a lot. I'm going to try practicing /learning some of these other skills too. God bless you and keep you 🙌🏿💕🌿

[@bmbmbm1]

I like this video. You show simple examples of everyday people, not some athletes. It's more down-to-earth and seems more applicable to us

[@marianaoctubre]

Your videos are so good ❤ thank you so much!

[@meeemovement1191]

Thank you so much for your videos. They really help!

[@jbirdz3609]

I so really really needed this. Thank you 🙏

[@nicoleb4295]

I found this video helpful Emma. I really liked your analogies about building and renovating homes. I hope to buy a tiny home one day!

[@LK-ob5jc]

Amazing video, thank you

[@kadirvelp11]

Thank you so much for this video on Resilience.. it has great messages I need... - from India.

[@go_better]

Thanks a lot. These tips are very valuable actually. It's very important to know how to handle all this.

[@jmc8076]

Great info and so needed.

[@44wpwojtek44]

resilience is sometimes criticised as not being good enough, now it is better to be antifragile!

[@SCobb01]

Love Laura & your teaching through her vid.

[@chrispalmer3058]

This is such an amazing explanation of helpful approaches! I've watched all of Laura's videos about the house renovation/construction, and been baffled about how she manages to remain positive and navigate all of the issues. Now I feel like I have a how-to guide to do that myself. Thanks so much to both of you! PS. Found your channel through Laura's, and super excited to check out more of your videos!

[@DonkeyMom]

This is awesome!!!

[@paintwithpastels]

I loved this video and tips! Thank you! ♥️

[@juliehoot3916]

Great video! Thank you!

[@JBoy340a]

This is a great video. To me, #2 (asking for help) is the one of the keys. If you don't know how to do something, ask. Often, there are nice people willing to help and teach you. Then pay it forward by helping someone else.

[@micro_adVANtures]

Discovered your videos by accident. Love them.

[@80Vikram]

Great video thanks for sharing

[@TorringtonFernandopulle]

Love this video ❤, excellent approach used to explain. Perfectly and easily got the idea as you used real life examples to explain the theory...really admire the way you explain. Thank you so much 🙏, This is really helpful in life.

[@alvinagisborne3747]

Just saw can't wait to watch Awesome

[@dixielambrecht7009]

Thank you 😊

[@studiovoxlux]

I Love Laura Kampf, she's my hero!

[@marksandsmith6778]

This is great for young people. Not for post 60yo s facing no career and no money with 3 kids dependant.

[@SN-sz7kw]

Sounds like you’re in a hard spot. I am 60 with two dependent daughters. Things are tougher in many ways than when I was younger. And I get frustrated that life’s challenges never seem to stop. But I do find I have more wisdom & perspective on my side & that this helps to compensate for youthful energy. I rely a lot on dark humor just to keep laughing & try to find small ways to nurture myself every day - even a quiet moment with tea & toast & knitting or a hot shower. Cold showers give me an enormous boost as well. 😂 I want my girls to remember my example when they get to be my age - I hope it makes them smile. I hope you can find some comfort & inspiration somehow. 💗💗💗

[@marksandsmith6778]

@@SN-sz7kw Thanks for the kind words I need to pull myself together. Emma is only trying to help cheers M

[@amenhotep7704]

❤Thank you so much Emma🙏

[@le_th_]

You seem to have a glow to your skin and a sparkle in your eyes. You seem joyous. It's lovely to see, and I'm happy for you. Resilience can help, it's true, but it's a cure-all. For example, if your brain is traumatized by a same-species predator, or a horrific car accident, or even seen a horiffic accident where people are killed, resilience is NOT going to be enough to help cure your PTSD because your brain is in charge of your locus of control, and PTSD is your brain with a severe glitch keeping it stuck in a trauma/threat loop from which it can't emerge. Sometimes you need more than just "resilience" to get through things. Resilience is a great place to start, though, and building it is essential.

[@elizabeththomson5013]

Excellent advice! Thank you. ❤

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Glad it was helpful!

[@cassieoz1702]

Resilience = Adapt × Rebuild

[@danimolusco]

I’ve learnt a lot of these things from your channel! I just need to learn how to ask for help

[@pippipants]

Thanks Emma

[@shivanigoyal8640]

Best video ever!

[@kennym99]

Thank you ! You've helped me fill my bag of coping skills!!😂

[@mlouw8218]

Sweet video and definitely inspiring! Avoidance has becomes my go to tactic… and it’s not working too well. But I gave t completely lost my sense of humor, so maybe I can start with that 😅

[@wendypress227]

An interesting and helpful video. Although I think it's important to recognise our own limitations because we all have them. Becoming unwell with stress and depression can often be caused by not recognising or respecting these. We are generally not brought up to do so particularly at school. My life could have been so different if only I had known this.

[@HabitualLover]

I’m stuck early on in this vid. So renovating a house you could afford to buy and alter to your liking is on par with wading through problems like war, racism, and poverty, which harm specific people on a global scale? I’m honestly not trying to be one-track minded, but the level of concerns certain people have are like a thorn in the eyeball to people with literal life and death issues to navigate- daily.

[@adambeck369]

I appreciate your videos on mental health. I'm currently an intern getting my masters degree in counseling. I've shared your videos with several of my clients. I would just say. As a fellow therapist and former Mormon, I would really encourage you to examine your participation in the Mormon church. This organization has been on the wrong side of virtually every positive social change in history and they continue to actively work against the LGBTQIA community. The leaders are extremely dishonest about there finances as well as there history. I would just encourage you to examine if this organization really lines up with your values and who you are. Thank you again for the extremely helpful content.

[@danskdna8550]

Once you are an actual counselor, do you plan on calling out your clients on social media for beliefs that don't align with yours? I am going to hazard a guess that you would not. When you are a professional counselor, you know better.

[@ishwaritank]

Amazing video! Thank you for this. 🤗 It would have been an amazing Ted talk 😀