How to Stop Worrying: The #1 Skill to Stop Anxiety & Master GAD 14/30

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In this video, individuals seeking to learn how to stop worrying and start living are offered a practical guide to differentiate between unproductive worry and constructive problem-solving. The video explains that worry is a natural but often maladaptive part of the brain's problem-solving process and suggests scheduled worry as a technique to help manage it. This involves setting aside a daily period to focus on worries, thereby confining them to a specific time and place, which is an exercise in how to stop worrying and start living. By practicing this technique, viewers are told they can expect to reduce their overall anxiety significantly, as it trains the brain to set boundaries on worry, leading to more worry-free moments throughout the day. The video aims to empower viewers with the skills to redirect their attention away from chronic worry and towards living a more engaged and fulfilling life, highlighting the journey of how to stop worrying and start living.
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[@sweetjane6506]

"Our brain is designed to keep us alive, not to make us happy."" 🙂Good point.

[@dotsona07]

This is a great quote, very true

[@tommac21]

Yes but doesn't mean you can stop it from. Worrying

[@pinkifloyd7867]

​@@tommac21 ..but I can question it and say: is it true? 😊

[@daikucoffee5316]

Then people wouldn’t kill themselves. Our brains are not made for this life.

[@ryank1273]

BUT SURVIVAL TRAINS MAKE ME TIRED! Dang Autism and ADHD. Been in the MENTAL TRAIN SHOP FOR TOO LONG! Don't mind me, I'm just a Unit/Manifest boi.

[@denisepiper3769]

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve worried about not worrying 😂

[@xangiexdx]

That moment when you get anxiety because you just realised you don't have anxiety that day 🤪

[@sweetsushanna-ahh]

​@@xangiexdx😅😢

[@kerigirl711]

Seriously THIS! It’s a miserable way to live to be constantly worried about everything, uncertainty, the future, anxiety, etc. I always tell myself I want my New Year’s resolution to be for me to be “more chill” and not take life too seriously. I am envious of people that can remain relaxed and not let little things get to them.

[@sweetsushanna-ahh]

@@kerigirl711 Today when it started, I jumped into the shower and made sure the water was cold. It helped....I’m currently using distraction techniques. When the brain says, hey let’s do some worrying....we do something else that is extremely distracting that takes the worry off the battle front as the main objective; till it becomes less of an importance till it fades in the background. It’s painful dealing with this thing daily but I hope we can all overcome. My brain was like: oh dear, you’re cold we need to get you warm and go back to worrying later maybe....lol.

[@rietzhu]

@@kerigirl711their called pot heads or drug addicts. Ie, they don’t care about their lives or their actions.. let’s not get that far gone, ok? 😅 lol

[@Differentmoons444]

I can’t even tell you, how many times I’ve panic logged onto KZbin and listened to your channel & by the time I’ve watched your videos, I feel instant calm and relief. Thank you for being who you are. Not all of us can afford therapy or are too nervous to try it, but your videos have truly helped me.

[@jaclyndavenport3917]

Her voice, face, and message are SO soothing for me. She heals my anxiety in multiple ways. Thank you so much for everything you do! We love you Emma🫶

[@Documentts]

That’s not very good. You are seeking reassurance which is part of the problem

[@ceooflonelinessinc.267]

But what should I do, if I am affected by circumstances, that makes you worry by default like poverty, mental healths issues and similar things?

[@libinjoseph3204]

11:08 Here you go

[@Sankalita723]

True.. but now and then we do need kind and hopeful words from a friend, at least I know I do :) She is amazing and when her instructions are followed perfectly, perhaps this little bit of distraction wouldn't be needed at all, but then we are all humans, to a lot of her viewers Emma is like the amazing friend they never had 😊​@@Documentts

[@ConnieKelsey]

I learned the "worry time" habit 40 years ago in Sexual Abuse Group Therapy. I chose 5pm to 5:05pm. Eventually, worrying became detached from emotion, got bored and went away. I still set the time aside, but I found I can take the emotion out of any new worry and figure out what to do about it. It's one of the best life skill to have. When people say that nothing phases me, I say, "Only from 5 to 5:05."

[@cecilesurier2977]

Thank you for this, I will try and implement it ❤

[@treesart6914]

Thank you, it's good to know it works.

[@moikmoik1182]

oh please ,some more info on that?

[@ConnieKelsey]

@@moikmoik1182 Thank you for your interest. Which part would you like info on?

[@User12345fan]

This advice goes against her advice in this video, as she is a distraction.

[@kittysassafras]

4:19 “Your brain subconsciously believes that worrying prevented bad things from happening.” I’ve been trying to overcome this exact false belief ever since I realized it was something I felt. The idea of letting go of certain worries scares me because then if the bad thing happens, I’m unprepared and unable to prevent it. It’s validating to know that this isn’t just me.

[@mariecarie1]

Lol my brain has subconsciously believed worrying prevents bad things from happening so much, I now CONSCIOUSLY worry to prevent bad things from happening! It’s a hard line for me to both be proactive and alert, but not to overthink or worry. You have to ride that line in the middle, and I wobble between the two very much.

[@JadeOvO]

This exactly. I know I am worrying in vain and overreacting and overthinking sometimes but when I consciously try to stop it and something bad happens and that bad thing mostly definitely does happen I feel guilty like why didn’t I worry so as not to make that thing happen like I was not prepared enough. I have started feeling like if I worry enough that bad thing doesn’t happen and I myself am exhausting myself and fueling my anxiety 😭😭😭

[@kimchareonbood]

@@JadeOvO I like to think the opposite: Why wasting energy and time to worry about something I don't know if it ever happens or not. If it happens, I trust that I can cope with the life skills I have (even though it might be really really hard and difficult). I think it's important to understand that it is good to think things through to be prepared, but that's not worrying, that's just thinking things through, but that's as much as you can do. I know this is easier said than done, but I very much hope that you will find a way to let go of the belief "If I worry, xy won't happen" or "If I don't worry, for sure xy will happen" (because that's what it is, a belief, not truth) and that you will find a way to let go of the over-worrying. 🙏🙏🙏

[@rf-g8684]

I've struggled SO much with this. One time I didn't do the things and something bad did happen (absolutely outside my control) and my brain has continued to use that as leverage.

[@JadeOvO]

@@kimchareonbood Thank you so much🙏. But yeah I just realized after this video that this kind of thinking was a symptom of anxiety and catastrophic thinking. It’s really hard for me to think positive sometimes especially when nothing positive is happening and being disappointed every time you think positive is harder and energy draining. I realize that this is still somehow my anxious self trying to be in control of the situation and giving me grief in return. I am trying to let the situation be but still it is really hard you know.

[@qstorm76]

I’ve had anxiety, the debilitating kind. I learned that labeling it generalized anxiety disorder was very counterproductive. Made me feel like I had a life sentence and I was permanently broken without any cure. Therapy, meds didn’t help because I identified as an anxious person. I ended up using the acceptance method and I gave my mind and body the time to recover. Eventually my intensity gradually decreased till I felt like myself again.

[@sneha-qn4jn]

What do you mean by acceptance method and giving body and mind to recover means what ?

[@bonganimathebula5780]

Worrying is one of the biggest challenges in my life, boy it takes so much energy, I'm always tired when I'm in that state, thank you very much for this video

[@Chris-fm5tn]

You are one of those rare, rare individuals who actually care about people and do this to help. You really are a role model. Smart, ethical, creative, natural, unique, calming, rational but empathetic. Congrats! ❤🎉

[@nalin12]

My therapist was great. She explained that worry is trying to solve hypothetical problems with hypothetical variables. This can be exhausting!! She said if the variables are real and now, then go ahead and solve the problem. But if the variables are hypothetical, don't attempt to solve the problem! I've been attempting to solve hypothetical problems for years and years and burned myself out! It's hard to stop this but she has given me some helpful strategies which I have to keep practising so I become better at not worrying.

[@treesart6914]

Yes, I've noticed this. When I don't worry for a moment, my brain will bring up things to worry about. I actually have urgent problems to worry about, believe me. But the anxiety keeps me from actually solving those problems because I'm afraid to face them. My brain thinks that I'll forget about them if I don't constantly worry and feel on edge, so in the end I stay in the anxiety all the time.

[@janicetribbiani7535]

I remember worrying all the time since I was very young in elementary school. I worried about getting in the wrong school bus line, missing the bus, getting on the wrong bus, missing my stop, not getting a seat, having to sit in the back, missing school, forgetting homework, losing my younger siblings, and the worries have grown the older I've gotten. I worry over things I have no control over and worry that maybe I should have control over them. It's so stressful~ I hope that these techniques can help me cope with being such a longtime worrywart.

[@shellibabick]

I’m right there with you!

[@ChrisFP2]

I can relate.

[@sugardaddy9992001]

Yep it has gotten worse for me over the years for some strange reason that I cannot figure out BUT I am working with a therapist to maybe find out steps to ease the pain of it. Worth the weight in solid GOLD.

[@Jana_PalmTree]

You can get better, practice diffusion. My daughter developed anxiety and worry after a traumatic childhood, totally debilitated by the time she was 21. She thought she had to worry, that she was controlling things. She ruminated endlessly. She went through treatment much like what Emma shared. She applied herself and worked hard, because she wanted to live (she had gotten hopeless and isolated.) Within 4 months she was functional again! Over the last 3 years she got married and is now pregnant. Things she thought would never be able to accomplish!

[@aluluthoqundani2120]

How are you doing now?

[@travisvanalst4698]

Going through a huge anxiety attack attack a week ago. I’ve barely slept. Thats what I worry about. Sleeping again. But this is teaching me to try to let go of that. After falling asleep nearly 30seconds after my brain would shoot awake. Hopefully with good sleep hygiene and schedule I can get my sleeping on track.

[@AlbinotheLightning77]

Yeah I have that too, your not alone buddy..

[@sabriellelunin9291]

I am so sorry, I also experienced this a lot. My dr took me off trazodone which was not working and replaced it with doxepin (an insomnia med) and things are much better. I really hope it improves for you soon

[@jaymekabelac602]

I'm a therapist and I love your videos. It's always great to get new analogies to help people understand their thoughts!

[@amyloufokkens]

Same! so helpful

[@hollybusey4671]

“Our brain is designed to keep us alive, not make us happy” is so powerful, and not something I’ve consciously realized before.

[@amirrichaun]

This seems really promising. I just set a reminder for every day, after school @2:40 and I labeled it “Ready. Set. WORRY! 🏁"

[@Rose80388]

I love this idea! Thanks!

[@popcornanytime7414]

I had to do this with grief. Grief was so overwhelming until a friend taught me this trick.

[@rijd2304]

I found out later in life that I had General Anxiety Disorder (GAD). When the doctor told me, I was actually relieved...because for much of my life I was blaming my self for worrying too much. I was on a mission then to become less anxious. Went to therapy, learned about boundaries...the hardest part was overcoming the anger I was having toward my family for putting me through experiences and environments that conditioned me for anxiety. "Don't worry. Take it easy"...looking back, I couldn't believe they said this while at the same time doing...well, I won't go there. Any way, therapy and things like mindfulness and self discovery have helped, but i take steps back at times unfortunately, the books 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels, Awareness by DeMello, and The Body Keeps the Score by Kolk...I like those. Journaling has also been a life saver when I get the motivation to do it.

[@ConnieKelsey]

Ditto! I wish you well!

[@laurak5196]

Art journaling may be easier to stick with, it helps me. Thanks for the book references. Good luck!

[@ponnu3]

Thanks for sharing your experiences . God bless you.

[@Sofiv3]

I have thoughts like that too: things are going so well, it’s bound to change soon.

[@JamesP44]

Yeah any calm I feel in just a day, my brain can't handle a full good day of everything being ok. No this brain of mine won't allow that so my brain goes to work against me at some point and gives me things to be disturbed or worried about and back to square 1 again. I've been listening to anxiety hypnosis videos on here by a guy called Andrew Major. He's very good sometimes they send me off to sleep lol.

[@Sofiv3]

@@JamesP44yes, that ‘this is too good to be true’ feeling lol

[@JamesP44]

@@Sofiv3 Yep even these small blessings are too good to be true so they don't last lol. Got to love it!

[@The_Emotion_Guy]

When I first started getting help for anxiety, I noticed 3 things. There was an involuntary/physical aspect, things in my past that contributed to it, and a habit that formed over time. When the involuntary part was helped by medication, I was able to see the habit and some underlying causes for the first time. It was like getting prescription glasses to see my anxiety! I also noticed when the involuntary anxiousness popped up, I'd find any justification for it. One time I blamed not making a sandwich fast enough for it and realized wow, I'd find any reasoning for the anxiousness! Eventually I learned to sit with the feeling which was extremely uncomfortable and to not reach for a reason. It broke the cycle of feeling anxious - justifying it, feeling anxious - justifying it again. I just wanted to say to anyone that needs to hear it, because it's overwhelming to deal with all aspects of anxiety at once. If you can give yourself some grace, take it one part at a time, you can make some big changes.

[@tallchick1966]

I mostly worry about losing my children (now adults) or my spouse. That’s the one thing I just don’t how in the world I could handle. I know they worrying about it won’t change the outcome! 😣

[@Akarsh-]

Even I worry about exactly the same, but not my spouse or something but a close friend.

[@jwalkinit]

I worry constantly. I feel tense and that my heart rate is elevated completely outside any context except the drama theater going on in my head. I can tell this is going to take practice, but I like the idea that I can exert some control over worrying and that that is probably going to help with anxiety. great info.

[@ceooflonelinessinc.267]

But what should I do, if I am affected by circumstances, that makes you worry by default like poverty, mental healths issues and similar things?

[@tommac21]

Don't believe a word of this.

[@jwalkinit]

@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 Those things are really hard. I don't know. I started meditating 20 minutes daily and have been doing it for a couple of months now, and it seems to help with a lot of things. I absolutely recommend it.

[@jwalkinit]

@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 My only advise is keep watching this channel, and try meditation and journaling. My best wishes for your mental health.

[@Franklin-j2024]

Im a veteran dealing with PTSD, GAD, and thank you. You vids are more helpful than the VA.

[@BlueAgaveStudios]

Thank you and stay well!

[@Peter-rg4ng]

Thank you immensely for your service🙏🏻

[@kieranoconnor333]

It has been 3 days of me doing this and it has already helped. In fact, when it comes to worry time, I get bored of worrying and have to make myself worry. It just shows how meaningless the worrying thought is, especially because as I’m willingly worrying, I can hear another voice in my head saying “You have no control over that, so let it go”, or “You can walk away from this thing if you want”, or “You’re not actually worried about that” I can’t wait to see how it progresses 3 weeks from now :) Thank you for this awesome exercise.

[@cheesychick66]

Wow!!! How interesting, you get bored of the worrying. Maybe that means worrying is really just a distraction or something. How did the 3 weeks go?

[@lilmizj9685]

How is ur progress?

[@wertuimusicart]

How are you doing with your worrying time? :)

[@dustypink4802]

I'm interested in how you're going too.

[@Akarsh-]

You there? How is your progress?

[@aamnahere6250]

It's so terribly difficult to explain to people how our brain often subconsciously believes worrying helps prevent disasters. I've had someone tell me it's impossible considering our brains are best designed to support us in a healthy way and they cannot miscalculate something that can have debilitating effects on our lives. It's extremely difficult to explain to people who agree that our brains are primarily equipped for survival but are unable to grasp this toxic loop that our brains end up engaging in for our survival that worrying prevents negative events from happening. Thank you for articulating this!

[@JGalegria]

Well there are a huge amount of threats to our health and worrying about it is useful if it's followed by actions that protect health and detect disease. The point of worry is to translate it into actions. It's not protective in and of itself.

[@Aklifedesign]

Thank you for genuinely caring about us. You make the difference in the world. I can’t thank you enough

[@maskeno]

I feel like this really deserves a comment. I have been doing this for one full week. What's really neat is, I have had one really pressing matter come up during this week where I worried and worried about it. I wrote down all the ways it could go wrong. It turned out the thing I was worried about was totally without merit. I've also had the ability to stop and say "this thing is irrational to worry about" and just move on from it. 7 days in and I'm starting to have trouble filling the whole 15 minute block with worries. I end up saying "oh I already worried about that and have nothing new to add. I can let that one go." I don't know if I can hold myself to stick to the habit, but the experience has certainly been interesting.

[@BobMinelli]

Thank you. As a single-father of two since 2005, over the years slowly i found myself becoming more of a worrisome father, than the "go-to guy" father. This past year I've been doing my best to work through and replace that bad-habit that has snuck up on me. My 23 year young son has no problem scolding me when i "get like that"...and i have no qualms about backing off. I take full responsibility. So again, thank you. Very insightful. Peace! ✌

[@ddphotoadventure2657]

HI- i am also a single dad and am in the same boat as you. As time goes on I worry about everything more and more..You are not alone.

[@pam164]

I was always a worrier, but 2 big tragedies happened to me when I was 17 /18 year old then when I was 27 another one, so that set me up to worry the rest of my life even more.

[@murmursmeglos]

Managing/critiquing worry and anxiety has definitely been useful. I even noticed myself that I may be addicted to anxiety rather than actually suffering from what I thought was causing it. I was worrying about big things, thinking all that time was useful, but then I'd suffer similar anxiety over much less meaningful stuff, making me realize that I just like to worry. But the part about worrying about not worrying really spoke to me. It's an odd feeling, kind of like the feeling of not studying for an exam. You think you should be ready for a problem at any moment, then you have moments of peace and non-awareness, before a feeling of dread comes on that you took your eye off the ball and things will go wrong because you let your concentration slip. It's a vicious cycle.

[@xlavahott4547]

My problem is events often support my worries. We went to Bahamas recently and we were considering taking a ride on sight-seeing boat, but I said better not, something bad could happen. A week latter, the boat sank and put 75 people into the sea and one died. Being right about one's worries just brings more worries.

[@kimchareonbood]

True. But when you were considering - on that day - it didn't happen. So technically speaking you were not right about your worry on that day. If you would have taken that ride on that day, nothing would have happened. I was in Bali eating in a restaurant that was bombed two weeks later. I was in Barcelona walking on the famous and busy La Ramblas Street when only four days later there was a guy driving into the people on that same street killing many people. I was walking on the sidewalk in my village when a car's two tyres burst, driving onto the sidewalk on the other side of the street and scratching along a wall exactly in the spot where I usually stop to cross the street when I come back from the lake. Now, if I would worry about all that, I would think: I can't go to Bali anymore because I might get into a bombing, same with the incident in Barcelona (maybe leading to believing that it's better to not travel at all). Or I would not go to that street anymore because next time, a car will maybe come crashing into me right at the time when I'm walking there. Better not walk on walkways ever again. Am just telling you these stories to tell you: Yes, you are right, events do support worry (happens to me too, and there were times where I would avoid going to concerts because of the fear of bombings; or there was a time I was really scared of driving a car - I drive now and still feel uncomfortable driving, and I actively have to work through worry thoughts of "I will might crash into a tree, or, oh my gosh, if there is no parking or a difficult parking situation, I'll be screwed...), but on the other side, we also have to be realistic about how often these things really happen? How often are we really screwed? And that is what I am telling myself: The risk is relatively low if I apply common sense (for example not going on a sightseeing boat that looks like it will break apart any soon) and that if something bad happens, it was really bad luck. And that I better focus on what is important to focus on in the present moment.

[@JGalegria]

Well you erred on the side of caution and it turned out your caution wasn't unfounded even though the boat didn't sink the day you would have been on it. Did you still enjoy your holiday without the boat trip?

[@ComplicatedSimplicite]

No you were wrong because the boat did not sink that day. You could say the same thing about cars and see a crash and say I knew it, driving is not safe.

[@xlavahott4547]

@@ComplicatedSimplicite No, you are wrong. I could see the boat in person and the sketchy people running the operation. And I don't know much about boats, but I do know how far I can swim in open seas is not great.

[@Tamizsaelvi]

Hi, extremely useful tip for chronic anxiety. I have my personal experience to share. When I suddenly lost my 19 yr old Nithin to a bike accident, I read about this type of scheduled grief meditation ,where i chose a closed room ,sat in a corner ,totally immersed in the way the I saw my son in the mortuary, assumed the accident scenario, imagined his last few hours with friends etc . Was drenched with torrential tears ,but took off to the present moment in 5 to 10 min. I did this 4 times a day for 15 days,then gradually reduced to 2 times a day. After a month, i started journalling regularly. I m so glad n feel proud for my healthy coping and now using the same stragegy for kindred grievers. Yes..i totally agree with you. Thank u for the nice video.

[@christinel2329]

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your path forward on your grief journey. It is very encouraging to hear.

[@gregzaks6649]

You should be so proud of yourself, you are so brave. I have lost my daughter in 2011, but still have not had courage to do what you did, well done for coping❤

[@crystalaustralia]

❤​@gregzaks6649 you'll get there. Make yourself take one step when you're ready

[@dennisswanberg1718]

Ok Im 66 years old but Rock.I will share this with a few people close to me. I will work on cognitive diffusion. Very cool.

[@princessbagley]

Thank you Emma for helping all of us for free through your videos. Happy Thanksgiving in advance to you and your Family. I’m so Grateful for you!!

[@catherinecarter4934]

Me too😊

[@harkica]

OMG! Every single word you say in this and your other videos is like describing me and my thoughts. Crazy! It’s like therapy just listening to you cuz u know how we feel and u r compassionate about it. I do feel blessed that I found this channel on KZbin. Life saver!

[@michaelcruver2762]

I have PTSD and when you said chronic worrying and chronic stress identified with that immediately as one of my symptoms thank you very much for what you do

[@Joey7321]

I just wanted to thank you for all fo your work on yt. You make a difference and are important to a lot of people. God bless you!

[@AudioTruyenLangQue]

I just love how they explain everything to us so we can understand them , and they make it fun so we don't get bored or distracted ( which happens to me very often) plus they are having fun to which is amazing. So thank you! You're amazing guys!

[@Rebecca4ever16]

I appreciate how clearly you explain these topics!

[@sharathrao9605]

Watched 2 of your videos. Almost 35 min, for first time in last 5 years, i was fully focused & engaged.

[@andreiandrew9953]

Thank you very much for making this content. I just wanted to say this because I went to therapy for generalized anxiety and I forgot some of the skills, your channel is a nice place to remind and grasp all the tools and skills required for handling different sorts of mental problems. Thank you again!

[@aaindtharivalan8720]

This method works for me to suppress the anxiety. The falconers keep their Raptors hooded, meaning they cover the bird's eyes with a leather blind when the bird is not flying. That's supposed to keep the bird calm and relaxed. So, I simply close my eyes whenever I can. For example if I get thirsty, I close my eyes and walk to kitchen and drink water and go back to my seat, all with eyes closed. Same thing when I am eating, taking a bath, etc. It works for me.

[@patrickwilburn7301]

I literally just typed in how to manage worrying and stress and i found this video and a few others from you. I immediately felt a sense of calming and i feel excited about training my mind to worry when it’s time to worry. Thank God i came across your content. 🙏🏽

[@marybellefleur]

Realizing that my daily journaling is scheduled worry makes me very happy. Thank you for this insight!

[@laurendawnnn]

your videos make me feel so much better about my thoughts process and gives me so many tips to use. i will definitely be setting a worry time in my day, to see how it changes my way of thinking. thank you!

[@lcolsen22]

I love that you shared the story about worrying God may send trials to you when life seems to peaceful. I've been so blessed in my life that I worry about the disparity. I see the trials that other people face and think it's not fair that they have to go through that when I don't. This of course snowballs into thinking that if we all face trials in this life then its only a matter of time before i have to face the same thing everyone else in the world does. I essentially put a ticking clock on every happy aspect of my life and i just sit an wait until the people and things that I love are taken away from me.

[@ponnu3]

You are a great soul. Pray for you to get over this and lead a blessed life.

[@lcolsen22]

@@ponnu3 thank you. I really needed kind words tonight.

[@blegh3481]

Aww me too 🧡You’re not alone. No one necessarily deserves the bad things life throws their way. But also you deserve to be happy and enjoy your happy life. Just because bad things happen it doesn’t mean you don’t deserve happy things happening to you. None of us can or should predict the future. It’s hard to just be happy and present but we can do it! I hope you can enjoy more moments without anxiety getting in the way!!

[@lcolsen22]

@@blegh3481 thank you so much for your kind words

[@briannabosworth9911]

this has been me every day for the last couple weeks. it has gotten out of control to where the worry is debilitating. have you gotten any treatment? i can’t live like this forever.

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[@Railfan-uf9mw]

Hey Emma how about do a video that will help me but all of us about the worry thoughts about the Israel war and worried what it may bring in the future because I want to find some closer and clarity in this ❤

[@tuubinator]

This really is so helpful and you can't imagine how much you're helping me! Thank you so much ❤

[@sandraoxford883]

I love this, I am currently on medication for anxiety but I am looking into more natural ways and this seems to be a good video to start with :) you have a great way with explaining things for me to understand. Your videos are very helpful!

[@leslieg5150]

I love your videos. You have such a calming presence for me. Thank you ❤

[@azurimoonofficial]

I’m paralyzed with anxiety right now. Thank you for your channel, 🙏

[@maruragone1917]

Loved this video! It helped me so much. I started doing the exercise today, but I found an interesting way to make it even better (at least for me). I sort of combined it with the exercise for regrets you give in one of your videos. So this is what I do: I set a time for worrying, I start writing down everything I am worrying about at the moment, I do this for 25 minutes, and at the end, I read them again and make a little box. On one side I write my REAL worries, for example: if i’m worrying about failing my exam for not studying enough because I struggle with discipline and organization etc, I know my real worry there, is not giving the best of me, so I write that down. And on the other side of the box, I write the VALUE behind that worry. In this case the value is hard-work and determination, and always trying to give my best! So I do that with everything, and I end up understanding myself so much more, and giving me compassion when I feel that again. And I choose to focus on the value behind all those worries, and start working from there! I put my energy in giving my best, in trying, and in working hard for what I want, instead of putting my energy in the fear of failing that exam!😂 and that helps so much more! I hope this helps someone too🩷

[@mj8495]

Best advice i ever got was to stop worrying about things you can't control 😊

[@plainjaneproud]

I love your channel and your videos have helped me more than many other things I've tried but I think this video might be your best video yet and I definitely connected with this one!

[@midlifemom5829]

I worry so much about my teen son who has struggled with mental health for the past 5yrs. Thru therapy , we are trying as a family to heal and vice fwd. But when he shows a pattern of unhealthy behavior , it takes me back to the worst period we had . My anxiety soars as I am left powerless to help

[@daniellecharland-gruhzit1177]

🙏💙🙏Saying a prayer for you and your son. ✝️🛐

[@krs1597]

You are not alone, I experience the same anxieties. We don’t go to therapy and my son is physically unable to speak to us…it’s now long term situation and I feel helpless. We’ve had traumatic situations that we’ve moved on from but I still have the high alert button on constantly. Keep hoping and loving x

[@midlifemom5829]

@@krs1597 I'm sorry to hear you are experiencing similar. If there is any possible way to seek therapy for your son or family( even online options) it would make a difference . Praying for you and your son

[@user-ui7oc1ow9m]

You are a treasure! I subscribed. Mental health is so important for being grounded. Lonliness, for me, can be a culprit.

[@harveysmith3738]

This is one of your greatest videos, imo. So helpful and pleasant to watch. Thank you.

[@chriswoodford4331]

The most helpful video I’ve seen. Thank you. My worry is about a specific situation and most videos never relate to it. This was general enough to include my worry.

[@deznoyer9673]

Emma is now added to the people I always wanted to have a beer with list.

[@herbjergens6350]

Amazing that this advice is free!! Thank you so much for sharing this with us, trying to help your fellow brother/sister. 💛💛😊

[@jessejones1102]

Thank you so, so much for the work you do. What to do to help with [enter problem here] is oftentimes way less important than why to do it. Nobody, and I mean nobody will do this practice for 3 weeks without knowing exactly WHY to do it. And this is in 99% of cases in therapy. Patient talks, therapist listens but do not educate why things are how they are. Most of that time ends eventually being time wasted. This video shows the way to do it. In twelve minutes you have informed me more than 6 years in therapy.

[@kimchimam1]

Im so glad i found a therapist on youtube ❤

[@truthsayer13]

Hi Emma, can you please do a series on ocd. You have a great, clear way of explaining things which I think would be helpful for people struggling with this commonly misunderstood anxiety disorder

[@tommac21]

She can't help with this. What makes you believe she can help that. You can onlybhelp yourself

[@archanadash2605]

Usually my ADHD symptoms don't allow me to watch ANY 'interesting video' for it's time span and I end up adding it to my 'watch latter's playlist. But your video was like mindful lecture that I enjoyed for 13:50 minutes. Thank you.

[@marycole434]

What a gift, the content you put out here to help us navigate our feelings. Thank you for sharing, please keep up the amazing work!

[@dee5356]

Thank you for this video Emma! I will try this.I think that it will be quite helpful.You and your channel are the best!

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

You're so welcome!

[@Grogz.]

i wish i could give you a hug, Thanks again Emma hope you're well

[@77dris]

I was literally going to go looking for a video about stopping my worry (which has crept up lately) and this popped up in my feed!

[@jackielearnsandteaches]

What if, instead of choosing a place for your planned worrying, you put on a specific hat just for worrying. That way, no part of your home becomes associated with the worrying - just the hat? Or particular bracelet, or something else that you can easily take on and off.

[@Liesandmanipulations]

You have the best channel on KZbin. Thank you!

[@bjc203]

Thank you for this helpful info and concrete steps to correct behaviors that are ineffective.

[@hangontofaith]

4:54 That’s me all the time but PTSD also triggers my G.A.D. I love this presentation. Much needed advice.

[@marticote3442]

Ohmigosh, I’m so glad I found you. I’ve been a life time worrier. In fact I had a friend who never worried, so I thought I had to worry for her. She called me her DW (designated worrier)! Thanks for all your advice and help!

[@bykarolproduction2732]

Your videos make me feel so seen understood and safe , thank you so much for that 🙏🏻❤️❤️

[@user-kf1st7vg4q]

Love this technique and how you have explained it so well! X

[@eatandexercise1]

Thank you for this, I needed it!

[@bernietmusic]

Thank you for another helpful video Emma!

[@jellejacobs]

I really appreciate the videos you make. Thank you so much!

[@MusicLover-ui9sm]

Listening to music blocks worrying Music 🎶 has and continues to make me happy I sang and listened to music 🎼 since I was 3 Music saved my life Music produces good chemicals in our brains

[@harleymonroe6018]

Thanks so much for this video. I’ve found it very helpful. I’m quite the Overthinker so I’m going to try these skills.

[@margotartner2380]

You have helfen me more in 3 days than in my long life so far. As I plan to live forever, it all comes in handy! Thank you!

[@PajakeJapat-qh6wc]

Thank you so much! Can't even express how much this helped me.

[@BlondiFilmProduktion]

my brain doesnt only think, it protects me, it actually protected me for many many years in my life

[@xiolaamapola3180]

This was sooo helpful!!! Thank you

[@maureentait6924]

So glad I’ve found this . Very grateful for all the advice 😊

[@KathleenRenninger]

Sounds like a sensible approach. Thanks for sharing it.

[@science2action693]

This is so helpful! Thank you Emma!

[@richguitarucci3193]

love your videos. Thank you for doing these!

[@ubiveritasetamor]

Doing this practice regularly has been super helpful. Actually helped me also clarify some underlying false beliefs that were fuelling worries. Thank you, Emma! ♥︎

[@sherylbeamer7189]

Great idea! I’m starting tonight before dinner🙏🏼💕 Many thanks and Happy Thanksgiving 🦃

[@clive3940]

This lesson on worry and the habit of ' worrying' was very well written and presented. Future video about Mindfulness( is the ability to manage your thinking) and mindfulness is a long term goal

[@Groundedsquirrel]

Thank you! I want to practice this!

[@MarrisaStrong]

I love the practical focus

[@iandalrymple7255]

Set boundaries in my brain. So true but made me chuckle all the same

[@markg.4246]

In the world of addiction recovery, we call "worry", "living in the wreckage of the future". It can be debilitating! The problem for me was that I lacked any spiritual connection to a power greater than myself. I don't attend church, I'm not a theologian, I don't proclaim to have all the answers, and I'm certainly not without fault. I do know this...even if I start from a place where I don't believe in anything, "Acting As If", allows me to live with much, much less stress! It has served me well on a daily basis for nearly 30 years! All the best...Mark

[@waronluke]

Omgs thank you so much. This has solved what has been happening to me for the past coupe of months! Will try this out, hope it works!

[@kaylaberry7983]

I have had that thought about being too happy too! It’s almost like I worry why I’m not worrying lol

[@BeeRich33]

I'm getting worrying during sleep. Can't control it, from what I know.

[@ameliasavage4307]

Thank you for the video it really help me ❤️ I have problem with worrying and worried i am always thinking about things .

[@krisleeh433]

Thank you for teaching!

[@mikeltolman7622]

I recently FINALLY found hope. After the first of the year, I discovered I have ADHD TYPE C, Also have been diagnosed with autism. wow! So now what? Well, thru proper medication, and therapy, my life has changed ! I have understood why I have been struggling MY WHOLE LIFE! And I'm 65 in May! I could have used this knowledge years ago!