"There's Something Wrong with Never-Married Men in their 40's"

The common refrain "there's something wrong with a man who's never been married by 40" is one used by increasing number of women who are rejected by them. A deeper look at "men never married by 40" shows, yes, some may be nerds, but most are just fiscally and morally responsible. And we don't want none of THAT now do we?
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[@IslandStyle123]

38 years old. 1 six figure job. 1 Beamer. 1 Harley. 90 countries traveled to. 0 marriages. 0 divorces. 0 illegitimate children. 1 big smile :)

[@laundrybasket2689]

And I bet you ruined a lot of women’s’ lives and broken their hearts in the process haven’t you? Probably 90% of trauma therapy patients are women who were dating guys just like you. 🙄

[@hominem3731]

“How dare you not be a cog in the machine”. Stay free gentlemen.

[@skylinefever]

@@laundrybasket2689 Reeee! Men that I want won't do the things that I want!

[@jbdmb]

@@laundrybasket2689 really? Lol

[@likewise4Gaming]

Good man!

[@GhostRider-870]

I am 43 years old, single no kids, own a 4 brdrm home, retired at 43 and own a 2016 SUV. No consumer debt and no woman telling me what to do. I think Im doing okay...

[@robyn9513]

Kevin Walton but yet, something brought you here. Cheers to being,"Okay".

[@GhostRider-870]

Robyn Newberry lol and what exactly brought you here?

[@donchillamentechillamente7565]

Kevin D Props to that brother 👍

[@careyparker2673]

Tough love/sensible advice brought him here. giving it all away is so pre 2000.

[@davegriffin9083]

Having tried both, an SUV is much more enjoyable, and fufilling to have around than most women.

[@slocum3577]

A bachelor is a guy who hasn't made the same mistake once.

[@hobgoblin9146]

I would rather be single for the rest of my life than take care of someone else's kids.

[@nauxsi]

what about your own?

[@n.b.l.5709]

my father helped raise 3 step daughters 2 step grand kids and it lead to them doing and getting him nothing at old age, the 2 i mentioned i had to help get them the h out of his place, freeloading and bringing bf and gf's behind his back, mind u he is elderly with alzheimers, i will never. 39 no kids single veteran college grad..still looking to get my pot of gold and all that has been taken from me or blocked from me...

[@laundrybasket2689]

So would we, women!

[@thomasshort1784]

@@nauxsi I know you're not asking me personally but, when you DON'T have any, why worry!?

[@nauxsi]

@@thomasshort1784 there is that :D.. Life is chilled with no kids. Lots of other things to replace that. Unless of course you had wanted a child.

[@christiangoett3014]

In 1985, when I was 10 years old, I realized that 10 out of 10 divorces start in marriage.

[@n.b.l.5709]

lol

[@jaykay2218]

You’re so smart

[@mikedee8876]

almost 70, never married, retired, own home, 14yo truck paid for cash , 80's motorcycle....no known kids...and if there is something wrong with me....I'm too old to give a shit and lovin it...........when I discovered MGTOW 2 years ago, a warm smile formed on my face and I said ...'well, I'll be damned'

[@ghenulo]

There are plenty of things wrong with me. I've gone through a lot of therapy to be comfortable with that.

[@mikedee8876]

@@lowsi3153 that would be your problem....heh

[@thomasshort1784]

@mike dee You were probably just ahead of the curve.

[@NoName-to5xl]

Hey man, im 45 and im headed your way. I want a family though. Got money, zero debt, payed off houses (plural). Im not compromising, its cool to know you can be happy if things continue like they are going... May i ask.. how do you fill up your days?

[@hillsideonly]

@@NoName-to5xl I think you need to take up new hobbies, find something that excites you.

[@workingshlub8861]

a guy in his 40 who is not married..... is called a smart man who knows the game is rigged against him.

[@Shajijr7898]

i dont knwo why tthese public are so sick with men who turned 40 and still single typical streotypical people

[@philfelix9764]

@@Shajijr7898 they are upset that they can't get at our resources and actually see through the bullshit system.

[@ghenulo]

I'm 40 and have never even been on a date. I know there are many things wrong with me, but at least I have the courtesy never to impose myself on others like that.

[@stephengreico2810]

Oh rigged it is my friend...oh how it is

[@Profitglutton90]

A guy in his 40s who is not married is called a man whose cheated a woman out of a divorce.

[@JohnSmith-pp9ot]

LMAO, a single mother, who's son joined the military because she couldn't afford to pay for his college, called me irresponsible for not marrying and shitting out offspring. Do women EVER listen to themselves?

[@allend433]

+The Florida Lifestyle when you think with emotions, it curtails reading comprehension i think. His post was about assessing which actions are responsible and which are not. A woman, who created a child she could not afford, is lobbing the descriptor irresponsible onto someone who did not have kids they cant afford to raise. Does it really not register with you that a person should take responsible actions in their own lives before they start calling others irresponsible? It takes two people to make a baby, but that point is irrelevant here. Here we are discussing 1 person who had a baby and another person who did not.

[@allend433]

Your cynicism is just a cop out. From my comments and the OP comments, there are 2 logical conclusions. Conclusion A, if you are going to be irresponsible, don't call other people irresponsible when in reality, they are being responsible. Or Conclusion B, don't be irresponsible. No one said women shouldn't have children. But introducing a life into the world at a disadvantage just to satisfy ones own emptiness or perhaps sex drive, that is an epic fail.

[@AlfieTank]

+The Florida Lifestyle there's you problem. Thinking with your feelings not logic. You missed the point completely and ended up somewhere in Jupiter. This furthers stereotypical women logic, extreme reactions to valid points.

[@AlfieTank]

+The Florida Lifestyle the point is WOMEN DON'T MAKE BABIES ALONE EXCEPT WHEN A DIVORCE HAPPENS THEN CHILD SUPPORT AND CUSTODY BECOMES A PRIORITY. Then its not Our kids its MY kids and My Kids Lend to you Twice every 2 weeks. Men have no rights when it comes to marriage.

[@ArcticSnorlax100]

Single mothers are cancer.

[@Worldtravelerr78]

39, unmarried and MGTOW. I have no problems with love, monogamy, or even having kids, I just won't invite the state into my relationships. Be with someone if your happy, leave if you're not. The only difference is weather you legally promised a "cashout" to your spouse. There really is no benefit to men in marriage.

[@Bavariandecent322]

On a guys trip I had two girls start talking to me. Mind you, they started talking to me... i was more than happy to drink my beer and relax with my friends. The one grabbed my hand and looked at my ring finger and said " did you take that off " I said no... I am not married. Their next response was " how old are you ? " I said 40... they both said ohhhhh thats a big red flag for us. I laughed and said how bout u2 ? One was divorced twice the other on her first divorce...I literally laughed so hard my stomach cramped.... and walked away !

[@chrisisnothere8548]

LMAOOOOO

[@saifshaikh3191]

Lol

[@garyschreckengost2925]

Just more trash can women. You got lucky.

[@JustinFH]

Oh the irony!

[@e52n]

hilarious

[@jerrybruckhart1807]

51, never married, no children, and I just smile when they try their shaming tactics.

[@adrianabednarczyk6544]

Now you 54 soon you gonna be very old, in this age you should have grand kids. But when you be more older you finsh in kind of house for old ppl and nobody gonna visiting you and give cup of tea. Nobody gonna crying after you die. Thats the reality.

[@thoughtaddict2739]

@@adrianabednarczyk6544 true, but at that point it's not worth living and your making assumptions about this person. Some people have high (health spans =measurement of how healthy you are throughout your life,). As an example I know a guy who is 55 with 6 pack abs. He can still do push ups, sit ups with my astonishment. You just gotta be as healthy as possible and when you do reach this state it's possible to die decently healthy. Though it would still get miserable when you reach older age though. That doesn't always mean the person will be in buildings with a wheelchair. Just most people are for many reasons. You can have a high healthspan with low life span or the other way around. You just gotta study on what habits are unhealthy for you and find habits that promote healthy body. Some are obvious others not so obvious. Many are doing unhealthy habits wheather they realize it or not.

[@TNAROHfan]

@@thoughtaddict2739 Don't try to reason with her or let her fool you. Every other old man rotting away lonely in the nursing home is "happily married". So much so that I no longer feel sorry for old women doing the same, because chances are, she put her dear hubby there 10-20 years earlier, when he was becoming a burden and she was still able to run around hot to trot. What goes around comes around and everyone dies alone.

[@gsxr1189]

Having children to increase your social circle is poor thinking. My father worked his way through college in a Nursing Home after he got out of 1st Group Special Forces in the Army. The truth is that most of the time the kids don't really come and see these people very often and in most cases they rarely if ever visit. The social circle of the residents in a Nursing Home is made up of the other residents and the sites medical staff.

[@sisigs4820]

@@adrianabednarczyk6544 Well I'm not gonna have kids just so they can take care of me when I'm old, I'm not gonna have kids just to raise my status in a messed up society, I'm not gonna have kids because I want my legacy to live on either. Notice how all these reasons are selfish and they are the most common reasons why people throughout history have kids and never think about how the kid will feel in life.

[@gimmelyod]

If you're a man in your 40's and unmarried then there IS a likely explanation: Your intellect & reason won out over your hormones. Congrats. I have a family member who got married about 15 years ago. I didn't attend. The fact I didn't attend was an "issue" at the time. 15 years later, - he's newly divorced and has said (& I quote him): "Marrying her was the biggest mistake I ever made". Yeah. I had the same sentiment 15 years ago... Now who's smirking?

[@bicitaja]

That is why I refuse to attend weddings.

[@gsxr1189]

@@lowsi3153 Hey if women are so fk'n great then why do we need so many natural hormones to find them attractive?

[@gsxr1189]

@@lowsi3153 Exactly.

[@n.thadddeusmcthaddeus5416]

@@gsxr1189 that’s the thing, isn’t it. Before puberty, you probably didn’t care about the female specimens. Then your brain suddenly gets drowned in testosterone and you can’t help but wanting them. It sucks. Testosterone is double-edged sword: it’s a good measure for mental and physical wellbeing, but it creates this urge at the same time.

[@sisigs4820]

@@n.thadddeusmcthaddeus5416 I wish I was a kid again and never gave a damn about women but human nature have to screw me over.

[@rollingdudes8859]

I am 46 years old and NEVER MARRIED with NO KIDS!!! College Degree, NO DEBT, and NEVER HAVE TO WORK AGAIN!!! I LOVE seeing women my age who OWNED us in our 20s turn into OLD, FAT, WRINKLED, and DRIED UP WOMEN that are IRRELEVANT and NO ONE WANTS... it is FREAKING SWEET!!!

[@PlasmaMongoose]

What's wrong with Never-Married Men in their 40s? They're not wasting their hard earned money and emptying their savings into the wants and needs of women like the good little disposable utilities that society want men to be.

[@randominternetprofile8270]

I like you

[@markquazar5135]

Then just ignore them.

[@coachb2766]

selfish? No. Smart yes. if your heart aint into kids or marriage .

[@michaelpirruccio2295]

Connie B. No, they think you're independent.

[@texresident7026]

Or you don't mind being by yourself. I'm in love with peace and quiet.

[@OUigot]

in 1998, I was 30 yrs old, I was police escorted out of my home in handcuffs because my ex falsely accused me of beating her. That was the last time I ever lived with a woman. Charges were dropped and she got away scott free from the crime she committed. After that, I dove head first into my work and worked my ass off for the next 12 years, my career took off, promotion after promotion, travel, I mastered my trade, developed a side business which started as a hobby. In my early 40's, I was living the life of luxury, luxury car, food, two story executive apartment, of course I had girlfriends, but the law was "this is my home, your home is your home, and it's staying that way." I will never be falsely taken out of my home in handcuffs again........Then I met my last girlfriend, she was a seductress and I allowed myself to obsess over her, I lost focus, and eventually I lost everything, including my career. She never moved in with me but she helped clean out my bank accounts. It was all my fault and I take full responsibility that it was my foolish decisions that got me where I am today. I'm now 52, she ceased contact with me 3 yrs ago because I "had nothing more to offer her", now I'm climbing out of the hole I had dug myself into, focusing again, building again, and no woman will ever sink her hooks into me like that again. I now know the meaning of the ancient saying; "a woman can crush a mans empire." She does it by removing his focus off his empire and on to her.

[@757Watson]

You'll get it back bro.

[@arthurdirindinjr1792]

Thanks for sharing It couldn't have been easy to do. I will take a screen shot of your story and show it to my sons to aid them in learning about women I use to think men were more evil then women in life's relationships But now I know women are immeasurably more evil than men because for the vast majority of the evil they commit against men they face essentially no risk whatsoever of conciquenses and in fact more often than not are handsomely rewarded and KNOW this fact all to well where as men even if we do nothing wrong whatsoever in starkest of contrasts face nothing but conciquenses in all relationships with women

[@MrDjordje25]

wow

[@gamintrucker1016]

I'm 33 years old. I have no dept, never married, and no kids. I'm a truck driver that plays with expensive gaming PCs on the side and I'm loving it.

[@dragonchr15]

William Varner living the dream, brother!

[@fancyaristocrat7450]

BADASS!

[@barbarajcogar]

William Varner Goodluck with that!!!

[@jimmymax8014]

Read about Islam My friend...it has the cure to all of our heart diseases.

[@abramlittle7102]

oh how we love the simple life.

[@mtpatton1846]

I'm 55, single and Loving it! My parents taught me what NOT to do!

[@sarahbucket8037]

haha same.. we are such fucking losers lol :P

[@mtpatton1846]

The losers are the ones who bought into the delusional lie of the happy married life. You can't be happy in the west, it would kill the economy. You don't earn enough, your house isn't nice enough, not to mention the fact it's not big enough. Your husband's wallet isn't bid enough among other things. And on and on the never ending shit list goes....but hey, a new husband and a face lift will fix everything because the grass is always greener just over there.

[@sarahbucket8037]

Mark Patton lmao.. I know, I was just being sarcastic :P

[@zachdonaldson4848]

56 here! Still single myself. And loving it!

[@b5kalad]

Same here, I turn 51 next Feb but my parent never forgave me for NOT giving them grandchildren. No skin off my nose.

[@jay-shredds]

46 never been married, never had more money and time for myself, became a great guitarist, instead of a good one, and i have never been happier, im alone, but im not lonely, not at all. play an instrument, and you will understand, you do not need any human being for acceptance, i could give two shits about what any other human being thinks. and btw, no kids, fucking amazing, got to spend all that money on my gear.

[@wanderingman8921]

As a general rule, it's a good idea to have good self esteem based on what YOU think of yourself, not others.

[@hallaballa814]

+Tatiana Sirbu bravo draga

[@mikedonovan4768]

I am 46, no kids, never married. I own my house, car, no debts, in shape with regular exercise etc....... I used to feel sorry for myself thinking I wish i could meet the right person etc, but as the years go by I am feeling more and more content. I am open to meet the "right" person, but not having that desperation is so liberating. At this age kids is a def no no (like I am going to give up my freedom ? lol !) and I feel grateful to be in this position. I feel as if I have dodged a bullet. There are no rules ! You need to follow your own path and to hell with conventions.

[@tubekxb]

Agree - my 20s and 30s being alone were not easy. Constant rejection making me question my worth as a man. But, once I crossed 40 - I took stock. I got my finances in order, enough that I could finally replace my 17 year old car. Should be debt free in about a year. I still help out family, so I am hardly being selfish. But I will not take on any additional burdens in middle aged when I did not get to enjoy my youth.

[@JulioLopez-xz5kx]

Mike Donovan Well said. I'm 37 and this describes me exactly. Not caring about having to find "the one" allows piece of mind and gives me the freedom to live life on my terms.

[@Diddy1970AD]

Exactly the same as me. I used to want to get married now I'm glad I didn't, I'm in charge of my own destiny and I normally make the right decisions.

[@arl3575]

Mike Donovan not giving up freedom to raise a child and dodged a bullet huh?thinking positive after not getting what you wanted.good for you!

[@paullemiremusic3101]

Mike, sounds familiar. I'm living just about the same life, other than I'm still trying like hell to find a suitable companion. Wish I could get over that hump. If I did, as you have, I feel like perhaps she'd find me. Good talk. ;)

[@JayLookie]

I’m 45, never married, no kids, living by myself, making my own money and enjoying life that way I want to enjoy life. Marriage and having having kids is not for everybody.

[@ztuedeutz]

Marrying a woman who has already been with who knows how many guys is a huge turn off. That is almost all of them.

[@fartingpickle7255]

David D I’ll admit that I’ve never been with a woman, but it is disgusting that probably over 95% have been with multiple guys throughout their teens. I want nothing to do with that. Even if they claim to be virgins, I don’t believe them.

[@TrakSpock1]

Growing up overweight was the best thing that ever happened to me. I learned to judge people accurately and, because women didn't want to date me, I saved and invested most of my money. Now in my 40's, I have no debt, huge house, 5 cars, snowmobiles, own land, stocks, and thousands of dollars in the bank. I lost weight in my late 30's, got engaged, and was lucky to get out before we got married when all the red flags started popping up. The sad thing is, women are not anything like we were taught. Women cannot think rationally and make poor life decisions. At this point in my life I cannot risk losing everything I've worked for in a divorce. It's just not worth it.

[@glevando]

Congratulations on "escaping" in time and all your other success!

[@rollingdudes8859]

YOU ARE A GENIUS!!!

[@devilsoffspring5519]

As a never-married guy who's 43, I can attest that babies and home decor don't interest me enough to spend my entire life working like a dog just to pay for it all. That leaves women who aren't interested in marrying enough money to get babies and real estate. They're all clubbing chicks, and they're of no interest to me either, any more than I'm interesting to them. So, I'm a never-married guy in his 40s :) Fair enough, since women in their 40s are no more attractive than most men in their 40s, including myself, so why the hell would I marry one? :)

[@bigmitch9487]

age 57, never married, don't want be married, no kids, no debt, learning photography on internet, peace of mind, no women, telling me what to do, love my life....I wouldn't change it...to be married...NEVER...Single for life...

[@dogiedaddy3067]

Love your definition of an American. I have another one: American's are people who buy things they don't need with money they don't have to impress people they don't even like.

[@danhammond9066]

Yep and then we rent a storage locker to keep all our shit in.

[@humbertoduran8664]

dogie daddy Fight Club?

[@bananian]

Dan Hammond Or go to some pretentious place like New Zealand.

[@bobjacobson858]

@@bananian New Zealand isn't pretentious---the people seem very genuine. People are law-abiding and orderly. At least when I was last there I didn't see the graffiti and litter I see over most of the US.

[@sussexseaangler1858]

Yes i get paid to help people put stuff they don't need, but haven't got space for , into storage and pay to keep it. The storage companies just collect the money and continue to exand their businesses. Sitting on their butts.

[@n1c704]

I was the boring choice that most of them weren’t interested in and was told “women want guys like you when we’re done having fun”.

[@hellotcautiver]

I’d rather die than play second string lol

[@bluffem]

I'm 29 w a six figure gig, never married, no kids... My friend, you give me hope for the future.

[@onezerotwofour184]

Bluff Em' I want to be in the spot you described one day. Any career recommendations?

[@ivanthelion2829]

Im introvert that sucks at math and essays so any other suggestions?🙏🙏

[@SD-ty4mo]

@@ivanthelion2829 How old r u?

[@ticks4ticks4]

Suggestion: "KhanAcademy"?? Ghostwriters??

[@samo6401]

@@ivanthelion2829 get good at math? Good things in life take effort. Understand that life is going to be fairly difficult no matter what (at least for a while) and, either, you go through the mentally intensive and strenuous route, or youll be strained by the challenge of things not going your way and all kinds of inconveniences That said, I recommend some form of digital marketing, as its not too difficult of a gig and, if youre good at it, youll always be a needed/beneficial part of a team and will always have a job. If you dont like that, basically just look for any skill that has a lot of demand and not a ton of supply, and learn that. (A large amount of them involve math because most people dont like learning math/arent good at it)

[@anthonylarocco573]

I know a guy who is over 40 but looks younger. He claims that part of his energy is not getting married.

[@Corkfish1]

I'm in my 50's and never married. I actually feel like it's become a status symbol. I brag about it to my married friends and they are definitely jealous.

[@JamesBond-uz2dm]

I knew this by age twenty-five. Never, never marry a single mom. The ingratitude. deception, another man in your marriage, betrayal and financial ruin are inevitable. Misery loves company; do not be the companion.

[@blackfeathermgtow9430]

Excellent advice !

[@skylinefever]

Yes. This is one reason I like the Tom Leykis show. He and his fans know all the reasons for avoiding single moms like the plague.

[@n.b.l.5709]

my father smh helped raise 3 step daughters and 2 step grand kids smh moms still with him but oh man, is she really all for them more than us per se smh

[@hillsideonly]

@@n.b.l.5709 Sad.

[@n.b.l.5709]

@@hillsideonly very much, now guess who after my dad just died in dec, grabbed power of attorney behind me n my dads back, power of attorney of my mom who still has bank accounts w my dad? One of her daughters...now i gotta get thst shit off... Rip pops...no way ima let that ho run off with my parents money if my mom dies soom

[@skylinefever]

Never married men in their 40s are considered "Wrong" because they piss off the tax man. Since they aren't paying for a wife, kids, and a McMansion, they don't have to work such long hours at such stressful jobs. That means they can do less work and be in a lower income tax bracket. Also, they end up paying less in sales tax and property tax because they often buy less stuff, and either live in a small house or rent a small apartment. Since working stressful jobs can cause an early death, less stressed men may live longer and collect more in social security and pensions if they take care of their health. Even when some tax exemptions are made towards having children, getting married, and and having a house, the unmarried man in his 40s is still paying less in tax than the married man.

[@adriennemuhammad2807]

I applaud you men. Taking an objective viewpoint of what current mainstream society "requires" of men, I understand your point of view. As a divorced woman (no children or dependents) , who cured herself 20 years ago of unnecessary material consumption, I concur the freedom from typical American encumbrances (mortgage, 2 or 3 car notes, children's maintenance and so on). I've entered the lower end of home health care; I work just enough to ensure the low consumption lifestyle I want now and for the rest of my days, which allows for travel, personal development, sufficient health care maintenance, financial investments and a little extra for small indulgences. It's a good feel! So, I raise a glass to you men! CHEERS AND CONTINUED CONTENTMENT!

[@Super-yw7ss]

Am a male in my 40's, fit, handsome, career-minded, etc., and not stupid.

[@yipster0290]

Lots of guys in their 40's saw their poor dads raked over the coals when their parents got divorced when they were kids.

[@MrLuckytrucker21]

+Phil McCracken so true, i was one of those kids in the 80s, and saw my dad get raped in family courts. because of this i have never been, and never will marry.

[@yipster0290]

Yup!! Thats a familiar story! Been there, done that, just like you. Amazing how so many Fathers worked hard, paid child support and were always treated like criminals by the Courts.

[@ghenulo]

My parents are still together, but I remember as a kid, I wished that my parents would get a divorce, to get away from my father.

[@ctb1977]

I'm in my 20s and my step dad was a really nice guy, he looked out for me and my sibling, I could feel he genuinely loved us all. But after 10 years of marriage "the spark had gone" so goodbye to half his house, his wife, and pretty much his entire life. Now he has to start again from 54 years old. I'll learn from his mistake, poor guy 😰

[@lucascoelho1995]

True I was one of these guys too

[@robbyrob8349]

I was never married and I'm 42 years old. I don't want to get married. There's no benefit in it for me. I'm very happy being single. No alimony, no debt, no drama, save lots of money. I can go wherever I want whenever I want. I don't to worry about losing everything I have. I'm able to accomplish all of my lifetime goals. I have total freedom.

[@Rambo-lv9hu]

im almost there, 35, been single all my life, never been in a relationship, no kids, see no reason to get into a relationship what so ever!

[@StephenGriffinsmartguy2000]

Glad I'm not alone in being that age and never having a relationship

[@Wipeout6546]

+Big D shit! potential serial killers haha! ;-))))))))))

[@DeepVerma728]

+Bart Bartolo Actually serial killers are very charming and good looking like Ted Bundy.

[@iateyursandwiches]

Naw, you sound like a lonely nerd with social anxiety but hey at least you know not to get married or have kids when it probably wouldn't work out.

[@Rambo-lv9hu]

iateyursandwiches lonely nerd? i do earn a 6figure salary, have sex with 2/3 different girls every week. is that what a lonely nerd does?

[@johnd4348]

I was a millionaire and debt free and not married at 40 , self made. Not interested in marriage. Saw what an anchor marriage was to getting ahead and living a life of freedom. I'm a total loser in most people eyes. Heard it all my life. What's wrong with you, why aren't you married. My answer is because I'm INTELLEGENT

[@RJ-qs6nm]

I'm 22 and I'm getting a vasectomy soon

[@RJ-qs6nm]

Abba Okoro uhhh....no. lol. I'm making sure I never make the mistake of having children.

[@RJ-qs6nm]

I'm in the Marine Corps and get my bachelors in May. My ultimate goal is to be a professor. I'll be able to have most of my grad school paid for. Look man, I've seen a lot of my friends' lives ruined by havibg children/getting married. I want no part of it. I've had this viewpoint my whole life and everyone said I'd grow out of it but it just gets stronger each day. My minor in college is marriage and family therapy (since i can have an objective point of view since I'm not married myself) and every professor I've talked to about this says the same thing. Some peoples' braind are literally not wired to desire to have children. It's a small amount of people but I definately fit into that population. In fact i get somewhat sick even thinking about having a child. It's not for me and im proud to say i know it never will be. And if i ever think i want kids decades from now, my vasectomy will be there to remind me what sanity feels like.

[@RJ-qs6nm]

Btw sorry for the typos, my phone is broken and can't see half the fuckin screen lol

[@RJ-qs6nm]

.....that's cool information....but i fail to see what this has to do with me getting a vasectomy lol

[@RJ-qs6nm]

Children is not a temporary problem. Getting a vasectomy is a permanent solution to a permanent problem. I get what you're saying, but altering your body to never be able to have kids is not equivalent to suicide as you eluded to before.

I'm 53, no kids, never been married, and I'm the happiest - and the HEALTHIEST - one of all my peers. You should take a look at THEIR life to understand what REGRET really looks like.

[@mark01ization]

I don't care if everyone says there is something wrong with me cause I'm never getting (legally) married. I worked way to hard to risk losing it in a divorce.

[@FrankCastle-tq9bz]

Of course there's something wrong with us - we aren't willing to become servants of the establishment, take on many extra work hours for our wives to spend our hard-eared cash away and we aren't producing new tax slaves for the state!

[@ghenulo]

That's an anti-Establishment take I've never seen before. I'm guessing you're a libertarian. :)

[@namtar55br]

Starting a family is not only about having money, but also about what kind of woman is available to you, when you have money. And that's why, even the guys who in fact have enough money to start a family, won't do it.

[@Mr_Spock512]

Women fall in love with your wallet ... never forget this.

[@saifshaikh3191]

This is so true. The problem is good wife material feminine women are available to you in your 20s but you don't have the money to even support yourself. Once you make enough money that you can take responsibility of marriage, you are in your late 30s even 40s and till that time only damage goods or single mothers are available.

[@damndisplace07]

I'm near 40, and I'm constantly getting chastised by family about marriage. They asked why I never been married, I simply said "because I never proposed to a chick". I travel every year, got a good savings account, and hang with awesome friends. If I got married, all that would go away.

[@gybx4094]

Ok, 60, always rejected by women, so...no divorce costs, no kids, no debt, own a big home on 25 beautiful acres, 3 cars, big $aving$ accounts, great health, free to do as I choose, content with what I have, no one to boss me around, can break even on minimum wage if necessary, not lonely anymore, glad women rejected me!!!!!!!

[@racheelle1140]

Haha funny

[@muffs55mercury61]

There are blessings in disguise in this world. Looks like you had one. 63 here and feeling great, same situation as you.

[@mikecrawford4966]

45 years of age. Retired. Never married and have no children. Started a successful oil field drilling service business. Sold it for a lot of money. Also invested my money wisely in a well planned financial portfolio, including Bitcoin, Ethereum and the stock market. Moving to Alaska in August and I'm going to spend my days doing what I love most. Fishing, hunting and ATV 4 wheeling. Living in a $2 million dollar home over looking the mountains and lakes. I don't want to be married, because I don't need to be married.

[@Whatisright]

Imagine enjoying your view, or kicking up dirt in the ATV and then someone killing your vibe because of some bullshit.

[@jeckardbicuralden]

I'm 38 Been voluntary single for most of my life Many friends with benefits and one night stands and long weekend stands I've only had four girlfriends And I'm including highschool years As an adult Ive always prefered being free and single I am worried about loneliness I'm not gonna lie But 98 percent of me is completely at peace

[@aaronfitzgerald9109]

Me too, but the issue I have is that I really want my own kids

[@CaptainSpalding72]

46, never married. I tell people and they always look at me and say, "good for you. "

[@AHAYAH88]

I'm 51 years old and I never married and from what I see in society today, thank you GOD for saving me from all the bullshit!!!

[@FinnicPagan]

I'm 40, no kids, no relationships, just doing whatever I want. While the women that I know of my age are basically all divorced, single mothers.

[@yamidgaray9074]

I'm 29 turning 30 soon, i have no interest getting marry and having kids. Love my freedom and been debt free. Great video.

[@gordongekko2781]

My first love dumped me after 2 1/2 years for a guy who earned twice what I did. That was excruciating. Now, they have 2 kids and a mortgage on a 5 bedroom home. Meanwhile, I have saved and invested my money. Now I have: my own business, no kids, no (ex)wife, no non-business related loans, and my freedom. MGTOW.

[@bananian]

Marriage is a trap! Yes! Women like them would fight over money with whomever they marry. It's inevitable.

[@davidalexander422]

Rejection, in the long run, only improves a guy's situation. It makes him into the man he is today. That's why it's important to put your needs first.

[@norbertsiewert3917]

Whatever happened to the sweet young things that love you unconditionally, enjoy your company, are not overbearing, realize you cannot have everything, and do not dump you when things get tough. I believe that feminism is the main culprit. Smart men think with their brains, not with their hormones. A side benefit: The surplus population will be held to a minimum. Of course, we may be seeing the beginning of Idiocray becoming reality!

[@muffs55mercury61]

The opinion of that traditional marriage and kids is becoming outdated has gained a lot of steam in the past 10 years.

[@sisigs4820]

Feminism, and social media an entertainment raising standards.

[@665Kattt]

A man in his 40's who's never been married is a damn genius.

[@Barada73]

I’m about to turn 48 and have never been married. I simply watched too many of my friends and family members have their “happy” marriages fall apart in the worst ways imaginable almost overnight. It’s not for me.

[@jaykay2218]

If you lose some weight, you’ll get a wife.

[@Barada73]

@@jaykay2218 what, I’ll just get issued one like a rucksack in the Army? That’s a pretty good argument for staying fat, then. Seriously though, I know several guys a lot heavier than me who are married or at least have steady girlfriends. If the plan is to just latch on to anyone out of fear of being alone, then there are plenty of land whales out there to choose from. However, I don’t fear being alone. In fact, I prefer it most of the time.

[@jaykay2218]

@@Barada73 well then you seem anti-social. Humans have evolved to be social with other humans, and if you prefer solitude, there probably is something wrong with you…

[@jaykay2218]

@@Barada73 also, I don’t think fat women would marry fat guys tbh.

[@Barada73]

@@jaykay2218 oh no, some rando on the internet thinks there is something wrong with me. Time to re-evaluate my entire life. :) Seriously though, there is nothing wrong with preferring solitude. In fact, I would say that it’s more likely there is something wrong with people who are so afraid of being alone that they will stay in bad relationships. And my experience is that fat girls are more than happy to marry fat guys. I see it over and over again with my friends and coworkers.

[@mr.worldfree3333]

I go through this crap everyday. This is one of the reason why I had to stop going to church and stop going around family members.

[@gardensofthegods]

Mr. World Free-Man Oh my God, yes.... Churces are one of the worst places to be a single man... because they want you to be married and have a lot of kids so you can add to their army and bring in more churchgoers.

[@JustIn-sr1xe]

I avoid Church in general. I didn't need them harassing me to get married and help crap out a few more sheep for them to program, too.

[@bobjacobson858]

@@gardensofthegods ...and they try to pair you with either a fat, ugly woman, someone who already has kids, or someone having a weird attitude.

[@robertbruce7772]

You are over 35 and basically it is over to find someone that doesn't fit the women you describe that goes to church. Usually women that are older than say 20 that go to church are divorced with kids and looking for a nice guy to saver her(them).

[@muffs55mercury61]

@@JustIn-sr1xe If I were there and they brought the subject up I'd remind them that Jesus had no children.

[@pitbullpappa]

Preach it brother... preach it!! Ok... 45 years old... never been married and never had kids. Yeah I have some debt to pay down, but I also have savings, investment vehicles I can borrow from/cash out in an emergency situation, steadily employed in the medical field for twenty plus years and have the freedom to do as I wish whenever I wish. I know many guys my age who are divorced, no money, no custody of the kids, no investments to fall back on, most of the money they make goes to child support, are miserable as shit and have told me I'm the smart one. I'd much rather be an educated never was married single financially stable guy in his fourties "with something wrong with him" than a single never been married mother living on government assistance with multiple babies daddies with no financial wisdom what so ever.

[@davester1970]

I am a 46 year old single guy with no children. The shamers are right. This is something wrong with me. It is called being being socially and financially smart. If you can't afford a wife and children, then don't get a wife and children. If a woman can't be content on enjoying my company, then I will happily find someone else.

[@johnjohn-kd7fl]

29, single, no kids. I've lived with several women and have decided freedom>feeling needed (which is all I can see marriage/relationships to be good for). Spent a lot of time and money chasing/dating women and what did I get from it? Self respect makes you realize you don't need anyone. Remember, everyone dies alone. Why do you need someone to watch you do it?

[@povnw8985]

When they say, "Man up.", All I hear is," Why don't you want to come pay all my bills and raise these kids I shit out because I was too irresponsible to use birth control?" Uhh... No thanks lady.

[@muffs55mercury61]

63, never married, no kids and not rich but comfortably retired with two collector cars, a truck and two cats and house paid for. And above all stayed away from single moms which are a huge money pit. Seeing all the guys over the years raked over the coals due to divorce and kids discouraged me for good. You speak your dialogue quite well so I watched this twice.

[@thegenxgamerguy6562]

40 years old, never married, no kids - and I'm fine, especially when contrasted with both the married couch potatoes who have to do what their wives tell them and also with the victims of divorce who work like idiots so they can pay money to their ex-wife and ex-kids.

[@dagoelius]

100% spot on. Was never a party go-er in my younger years or felt the need to socialize, I always felt drawn towards spending my time and effort learning to paint and sculpting. It was always more important and necessary to me (in my own mind) than chasing women and starting a family. As Aaron pointed out many parents struggled to provide for their kids, I had little means (money, car) to take a girl out in my teen years and in my 20s too embarrassed to bring anyone over to my dingy cheap apartment in a rough neighbourhood. I was never in a position financially, to support the idea of starting a family until i was in my late 30s. Many friends ask me if am I lonely or feel I missed my chance to have a family, but to be honest I'm debt free and spend my time how I choose, most of my married friends cannot say the same.

[@ThrowItOnTheGrill]

I'm in my 40's. This video is pretty much on, except I had a good family life. We weren't poor, but we weren't well-off either. I learned to appreciate what you have and don't spend outside of your means. My parents were happily married. What kept me from getting married and having kids, were my friends. They'd get married and the women would just decimate them. They get divorced and instantly, half of what you have is hers, and what is hers, is still hers. Then if you have kids, you're on the hook for that too. My one buddy got married/divorced. He told her that if she needed anything, to just let him know. That wasn't enough for her, so she sued him in divorce court for so much, he had to sell his house, and move in with his parents. Screw that. Women shame me all the time for being in my 40's and haven't been married and not have kids. I just think, "Well, I'm glad I didn't try to talk to her." I had a serious girlfriend try to extort me into marriage, for God's sake. "I should do the manly thing and marry her, since we've "already" been together for a year." I nearly lost my mind. Within a month, we were apart. Screw that.

[@s.s.ss.4848]

Choose better then. You're just expired and mad that you couldn't use the next girl and marry her and keep her on gf status. Take the L and do better.

[@ThrowItOnTheGrill]

@@s.s.ss.4848 You're replying to a six year-old post. I probably posted this when you were in middle school.

[@jasonsmith8210]

38. Did have 1 kid. Never married. Learned spanish. Lived in different cities. Started a biz. Started world travelling. Negotiating executive level roles now. Learned to race sail boats. Played in a symphony.

[@chicomalo991]

You summed up my life. My dad grew up poor. He married my mom and became rich. My dad died when i was 13. My mom had to raise me. We were poor. Being raised by a widow/single mom showed me how bitter women can be. I am approaching 40 and not married. I have not made much money with my mba. I did pay off 35k of student loan debt off. I regret my mba. I am going back to school for a computer science degree. I was lied to my whole life. I was never lucky with women. But avoided getting anyone pregnant. I grew up poor so i knew i could not afford a wife.

[@akeeperofoddknowledge4956]

I'm 63 and never married and am retired on a MODEST VA pension. Something I did not plan on. I was 34 before I started earning enough to pay my rent and monthly bills ( just electric/ utilities, car insurance. NO credit card debt) and have enough money left over to have regular meals. All the while I had worked full time, responsible jobs that didn't pay that great. I was 38 before I could finally live without roommates and 40 before I could actually start buying " stuff". I basically lived ( and still do) like a monk. I worked rotating shifts, never had the time to " play the field" and by this point in life- was totally loving my debt- free, Independant life. Still do.

[@GearsDemon]

Im 24, working in IT and have like 20 grand & no debt. I learned that my co worker who is 21 already has a paid off condo because he has been working since he was 13. Really made me feel like shit. However my minimalist lifestyle is saving me a lot and im gaining money fast. I hope I can have the debtless life like aaron is talking about all the time. Guys I graduated school with already have kids and are going bald from stress, fuck all that noise.

[@Maniac1607]

Quit comparing yourself to others. There are lots of people out there who'd kill to have 20 grand in disposable income.

[@thepinkcarousel]

You're still young. You have all the time in the world to save up.

[@kevinharvey8971]

GearsDemon good goals the best way to save for me is to go single

[@kevinharvey8971]

GearsDemon sorry pushed wrong button single zero on taxes u will get a lot at the end of year. Plus if u can save money that's better

[@Worldtravelerr78]

Get ready to lose your ass financially once you want to be with a women. She will insist you get married and will dump her unpaid student loans and credit card debts on you to pay. Once she knows your in IT/engineering, she will be chasing after that beta male provider lifestyle.

[@briantoblerone9625]

So true... if I don't mind saying so myself. I'm 51, never married and no kids. My main philosophy was life is to be lived with the least amount of stress as possible. Unfortunately, every woman that I dated added stress to my life. I knew having kids would not be fair to my kids and was a virtual trap to be stressed and attached to a crazy women for damn near ever. Women have to realize that there are a lot of men smart enough to know what I have just pointed out. They have to shake their head and realize that not everyone buys into the feminist mantra that says women are the prize. Women might have to start to up their game to attract decent men.

[@patrickp992]

Totally agree with you on the "life is to be lived with the least amount of stress as possible" philosophy. Women sure add stress in life. Always!

[@Quincy82AAC]

I am a childfree man at 39 who is going to be 40 years old in early June 2022 and I have never been married and I am debt free with 2 University business degrees 😎

[@Williameagleblanket]

I am 53, retired disabled combat military veteran after 25 years. I got out when I was 45. I deployed all over the world and have no regrets on raising a Family. It was my choice. I still travel from time to time and do what the hell I want to do. Infantry Leads the Way.

[@shoominati23]

Yep. And all the people that rushed into marrying back when we were in our 20s and kept asking when I would do the same are now, divorced, can't stand the sight of each other's face, The one's that are still married, seem to spend as much time as possible away from each other, and out of the ones who had children, there is only one that are still together. After seeing this video, I now feel alot better though. But always thought I wasn't missing out on as much as other people were making out.

[@Plagius8]

Im 40 and yes black. No kids. Ive been in my house 18 months which my father never owned and is bigger than all my uncles aunts grandparents and cousins except for 3 of them. Theres a pool table a 55 in in the basement and a Challenger in the garage. Ofcourse I want a woman. But when I do the math a woman especially with kids would have to contribute $333 a month and not give me any trouble to offset the rooms I rent out to 2 women and 1 man for 1350 a month. If you build it they will come and bring their problems. Lol. I had to kick 2 chicks out my old apartment while another left because I said I was moving to a cheaper apt to save for a house in 2017. I don't want to be ok. I want to be well off by the time im 50. The sad thing is a few of my exs have or is taking care of a dude. Working and paying all the bills. This happends a lot in the black community believe me...."BELIEVE ME". Sometimes I get lonely as we all do, when that happened I just remember that I didn't cheat anyone... Hell I was cheated on on sexually and financially but still managed to make it. So to all my young men who think sex is the most important thing. I say, don't let it guide you off a cliff and though it most extremely important thing you can ever learn in life is to MANAGE YOUR MONEY!!!!!!!!!

[@workingshlub8861]

my parents have been married 50 years...back when marriage meant something and men got some respect. my dad understands 100% why i dont want to get married...he sees how woman are today.

[@jnorb8633]

46 single and no kids. Own 2 rental properties and have my own mortgage free house. Even though I love woman, they don't genuinely love their husbands from what I've seen. They base marriage on money and a guy with a large package. I'm speaking the truth here. I've course that's not all woman but generally speaking.

[@richardherrington2852]

I am 75 years old, never married, no kids. I think about getting married someday but after about 10 seconds of thinking about it... I dismiss it completely and just enjoy the peace & solitude of being single, with no obligations, no responsibilities & a life with no bull shit or a nagging, fat ass wife that is never satisfied and that pisses off money on total junk. I could go on and on but I think you have the picture. Marriage for a man totally sucks. I would rather spend my time enjoying my money... enjoying Freedom... and going caming & fishing.

[@gatesmw50]

40? Heck, I'm in my 60 s and never married! No debt, good health, now retired, what more do I need LOL!

[@harvestingseason2725]

Do u have kids?

[@slchance8839]

48 here. never married, no kids. vasectomy. good job, started jujitsu (proud white belt!) , gym membership. lots of friends and parties. self-employed so I avoid the "why arent you married questions, most of the time). i'd love a vintage car....but at this point...i could take it or leave it. I might just rent one on my birthdays and random weekends. only down side for me is that when I travel, i'd love a travel companion. I'm considering just finding an arrangement when I pay for the girl for the trip and then be done with her. Little pricey, but that's what the money is for. We'll see. what a great post. nice to see so many other brothers on here living the same life.

[@deborahjohnson7040]

Being single has its advantages.

[@100mphFastball]

I'm 42 never married, no kids, dodged a few bullets.

[@MrNckissfan]

52 years old, never married, no children and as a result, I’m often told how I look 10-12 years younger.

[@francoispalay6423]

40, no kids, never married and almost debt free. Published author and respected teacher. I would say I never liked the idea of going through a divorce, it's a hellish ordeal from I've witnessed. I am open to meeting a partner and there is no 'timeline' to do that.

[@charlesrandolph8441]

IT'S CALLED BEING 'SMART'! AND WOMEN WON'T BE TAKING US FOR A RIDE INTO HELL! MEN,SAY 'NO' TO THE MARRIAGE BULLSHIT! STAY FREE!!

[@Doorknobs11]

A year later, Forbes posts an article about how being single makes you more successful. They basically said it's because you'll have more time. You nailed that and the fact that it fuckin costs money to support a family.

[@CvnDqnrU]

A friend impregnated a random woman he knew a few months before, now he's married and barely has enough money or time, "what a great man" is what the women on her family said in his wedding. I congratulated him of course.

[@Whatisright]

Hope you had a drink in his memory at the wedding.

[@hillsideonly]

I'm gonna screenshot and put it somewhere I can see it easily.

[@erakkovaatainen148]

27, no marriage, MGTOW! I don't have time for girls. All time I have, is for me. Listening music, listening videos like this, learning something from KZbin about MGTOW, science or something, walking and mountain biking. I rent cheap, have only four bills after my rent. I am living, instead of working to please other people. I love, not just like, this MGTOW lifestyle. I've been in short relationship at age of around 15 - I realised then to never want marriage or any other relationship. I hate Tinder and I don't like people asking why I am still single. I need no one but me to live. I don't need a so called "wife" to clean my house or make me food. I can do any of that and more on my own. Feminism is destroying women!

[@nauxsi]

You're a human being. Human beings are social creatures, you need to for your well-being. But kudos on keeping your expenses low. That's the first step to working less hours.

[@yearginclarke]

@esor val You're speaking from experience I suppose.

[@kenny_boii]

The story of my life 39 my own house, no debt, fully paid off car. I guard my wealth as I had to climb up the slippery pole for years and lived on instant noodles and beans for years. Eh.

[@patluvsvettes]

I'm 43, single and never married with no kids. two college degrees, good job, own my own home, no debt, no crazy ex-wife or baby-mama. Women won't give me the time of the day! They're all too busy chasing the bad boys, then when they get used and dumped they sit home asking, "Why can't I find a good man?"

[@madcyborg]

It's not a litmus test for being fucked up, it's an IQ validation for not being a schmuck and caving into peer pressure...

[@BatBrakesBones]

God! This guy is my role model.

[@TH-uw9py]

@Rafee Kazi Spotted the 50 y/o woman who is 100k in debt and living off a government check

[@oceanhedonist265]

I was badgered endlessly about being 40 and single. "Why aren't you married?!" Me: "Married? Hell, i can't even afford to date today's woman, much less marry one!" End of discussion.

[@oceanhedonist265]

As an addendum to my previous comment 2 weeks ago, most of the people that asked about my love life were married or divorced women. Very few guys ever asked. They knew the drill very well. I lived from paycheck to paycheck for MANY years. As i said before, some of the stumbling blocks to my dating life were little things like mortgage payments, car payments(used cars), utility bills, insurance bills, income taxes, property taxes, food, home and car maintenance expenses, clothes (when on sale), etc. My reply to the no date/no marry questions was simple and honest. "I can't afford it!" Talk about slackjawed responses!

[@mtpatton1846]

Women with children will NEVER listen to what you have to say.

[@SM77785]

That's because they can't stand the truth. They will sacrifice anything to avoid the consequences of their actions.

[@ChroniclesofAJ]

exactly

[@BlaBla-jj6sh]

"She thinks she can do better" = She thinks she *deserves* better. All women do. They all want a 6'2" tall dark handsome man who's ripped, loaded, has a great career, house and car. But they never think about what in turn *she* will bring to the relation other than 'vagina'. Why the hell would a handsome lean tall intelligent guy, loaded and ripped as fuck go for some used up 40-year-old thot when he's bathing in far younger and higher quality pussy? But she probably did have a nice alpha male guy in her hey day 20 years ago and because of that now she can't settle for a nice guy. Because she deserves 'better', right? Let's hope she has some nice cats.

[@saltybatch29]

Thank you for making this video. I am 40 and never married, no kids, no debt, not putting up with any B.S. (outside of work) and very content and happy. Thank you again for speaking the truth!

[@ChampionofVardenfell]

YEEESSSS!!! THANK YOU!!! I am a 24 year old male and have understood ALL these concepts (and strived for them) since I was but a child. Women have a rude awakening coming around the age of 30-35 when they realize their sexual market value has evaporated and they have multiple children to take care of alone

[@KibaRanger_Kou]

Just ticking into my 30's now and I feel like I've been kissed on the arse by a fairy when I hear some of these horror stories. I'm not falling into a chocolate river. I'm not falling into this trap. Never gettin' married and never havin' kids. Oompa loompa.

[@flauze]

...i just shed a few tears watching this vid...you described me with 100% accuracy....brilliant video !!!!

[@lawv804]

These women see older successful men and think it's wrong their resources havent gone to pay bills for women and kids. It's just more female entitlement.

[@iateyursandwiches]

Hmm I'm trying to tell my brother he doesn't have to get married to his girlfriend just because they've been with each other for 6 years. Weddings are expensive and they each make 40,000 a year and still have crushing student loan debt for going to a private uni where they met. They also studied what they at least admit, were worthless degrees and the gf is a teacher. My bro still lives with a roommate for crying out loud... granted cost of living in the area is cheap. I just hope for their sakes she stays on birth control and they don't have kids anytime soon...if ever. The annoying part is now I'll have to waste time flying up to another state just to be at the wedding *sigh*

[@fastdogcobra]

I listen to this video once a day. It's motivation. These women are just choosing the wrong men, period. They will never change!

[@BlackMist123]

True I was raised by a single mom but my dad isn't a dead beat. I still talk to him a little.

[@flyerboy2594]

+Tu Chenz tuuuu cheeeenz... bang bang

[@antonionoctifero-digitalar4357]

Wow... really glad I found this. I'm 37, not married, never had a kid, pretty happy with my job making little over 39K a year, still a bit weary about the future, but... It doesn't look too grim. Taking all this advice very seriously, though. Awesome video.

[@anthonymendoza6210]

It can be a real pain sometimes being on ones own. On the other hand I've seen how miserable some people are married, and all the b.s. women bring with them. Everything comes with a price. Been on my own for 36 years now, for one reason or another. Just the way it is. Final Note: nothing you do in life matters imo, have fun, learn to live with yourself.