Engagements - How Long Is Too Long?

How long is too long to be engaged? “The Real” ladies chat it up about long engagements in this juicy Girl Chat session.

[@Steph_Heart]

I agree with Tamar and Tamera. Don't ask me if you're not really ready.

[@melissaherndon3211]

Exactly! Children and marriage are decisions that should not be taken lightly.

[@MsSonnencreme]

It’s fine if you know you still need some time even though you’re sure about the person But then don’t propose

[@gab5072]

Stephanie K. congrats 💗🍾🍾

[@latoyajohnson8695]

Stephanie K. I’m with Tam and Tamar DO NOT ask me if you’re not ready because homeboy will run the risk of getting embarrassed 😳

[@denisheabates6922]

Do NOT ask if you are not ready

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

I know one thing, my future man better not do a public proposal. I hate that whole concept.

[@kayecee5970]

gigglyfitzgirl im running away

[@yatirayau824]

Ikr

[@Ice_48]

I feel you on that. I’m proposing to my girl next month and she told me a while ago she doesn’t like public proposals. What’s the reason why you don’t like that concept?

[@NMDPKR]

Ice48 omg congratulations! Most girls don’t like the attention they get from the audience. I wouldn’t want a public proposal as well. I believe having a proposal in a private area makes it more intimate/special and more about you two, whereas public proposals make it more about the public. I hope that helps!

[@elinamokae-yeboah3929]

@@Ice_48 Congratulations!

[@yesimhere1110]

I still love these old clips with Tamar

[@IamMarisaChrista]

Yes! Same here

[@Zzucia]

Yeah. She made the show so lively and the whole vibe seemed happier when she was on most of the time.

[@nduh2232]

Me too

[@kamomothusi]

Me too. I watch old clips with Tamar. I am back here in 2020

[@ednajay5724]

@@kamomothusi I consciously went to seek out old clips with Tamar. They're just so much better

[@rara7805]

My husband and I planned our wedding the day of our engagement. We got married 3 months after. We have now been married for 13 years.

[@Parisroam]

Whats the secret to a happy marriage?

[@amarelogan7081]

@@Parisroam focusing on YOUR marriage cause YOUR marriage will be different from EVERYONE else's marriage 🤷‍♂️

[@prico3358]

I always say to make it easier.. Engage and get merried the same date as boyfriend and girlfriend anyversary.. You are already keeping track of that..

[@rara7805]

First thing, we put God first. We pray together, we go to church together. You gotta have that trust. When we disagree about something, we talk it out instead of arguing, and we come to an agreement. Everybody marriage is different, and everyone are going to have different problems. whatever problem you have, never go to bed angry with each other. Pray about it and talk it out. Arguing doesn't get you anywhere. We spend time together, but we also give each other space. My husband parents have been married for 63 years, now that's a blessing 😊.

[@rara7805]

I pray that God will bless my husband and I to continue to have a long and happy, healthy marriage

[@TigerLily0384]

Yup. I was engaged for two years. My fiancé at the time got mad at me when I asked when we would set a date AND I was never excited or started planning. I ended up breaking up with him and married my husband after dating for 6 months. He proposed and a month later we were married. When you know; you know!!

[@peggyoneal325]

KiKiCheeks, what a beautiful story! Many Blessings on your marriage!

[@eb7608]

That’s amazing!

[@strawberriesncandii]

Amen! Girl you did that!

[@amirareadschannel]

Yeah I can’t wait for marriage

[@candacehall4776]

I totally believe that.

[@ashketchum1377]

I think they forgot to mention that many people get engaged but dont have enough money for the wedding so they hold off until they have enough

[@loreah2794]

true cos these ladies actually have the money lol

[@itszbebabaybee]

I think in that case the man should wait to propose until the finances are ok

[@qliphaus]

Thank you.

[@stephaniei.3424]

don't propose then

[@brittany.381]

+Stefany Brown lol straight no chaser

[@janinepillay5554]

Update 2022: Adrienne is happily married, Grammy nominated, and trying to have children. Loni is in a lovely relationship with a man named James Jeannie is married!! And has a daughter named Monaco. Tamera is a lifetime movie queen with a winery and has left the show Tamar is still Tamar. Causing drama and singing her lil heart out. The Real is canceled. Thank you for this amazing and unique show, the first all woman of color talk show 😭

[@tgc228]

You ain't have to do Tamar like that now 😅 she seems happy with her man and booked and busy 😂

[@valleyofthedawlz]

Them removing Tamar was what got this show cancelled

[@mariaduvnjak236]

When did they cancel and whyyyy

[@taz22196]

@@tgc228 THANK YOU!

[@taz22196]

Get OFF my girl Tamar 🙄🙄 You just don’t like her because she is REAL 💯

[@gissjohan8773]

"If you put a ring on it that mean you are ready for commitment, let's do this" YEAP! Say it louuuuuder🤚🏼💍 *Getting married on march 28 of 2020*

[@megan5445]

Yay! I hope it goes well

[@shantell4847]

Congratulation

[@jaxx2449]

Congrats☺️

[@thekahleahkaior]

congrats 😝 !

[@NissaTheGamer]

Giselle Johan congrats!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@ivyville]

I'm pretty sure a Nigerian came up with that statement. #witchcraft

[@vnchezor]

Lol yes true nigerian

[@s.1340]

Lmao I thought so too. #yorubademons

[@RenieNostalgic]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@africanmindedwoman]

Exactly. I originally saw that a few years ago on a Nigerian Facebook page or group.

[@oluwatonimakinde7944]

me too😂😂😂

[@okand5138]

Tamar looks amazing!!

[@crowned_in_beauty]

totally agree

[@Aurora-skiess]

looks like a muppet

[@tater4442]

+Sana Rose when you make comments like that make sure you put your picture next to it so we can't tell you what you look like ✌✌✌✌✌✌✌

[@eshaa8192]

YAASSSS style on fleek

[@jennakaufman4471]

Mara Thebaddie that’s not true don’t be so rude because she’s gorgeous

[@069220]

That ring has an expiry date of one year! After that it’s just a gift.

[@radwahussein669]

Ashley Monique I think when it hits 1 year and you don’t have a plan, then it’s just a gift. But if you are planning and it’s over a year then that’s fine.

[@writerspen010]

@Jenna P nope, not necessarily. Especially if you're getting married during peak season, when a lot of dates have been snatched up. If you're doing the whole scha-bang, the wedding dress alone takes a minimum of 6-8 months to prepare. Plus, weddings are expensive. It's not unreasonable to take over a year if it takes you that long to have the money saved up for the various deposits you'll make over time.

[@Rooted_Locs]

If you propose to somebody, you should be ready to marry them the next damn day! People these days focus way too much on the wedding ceremony and not enough Fucus on the actual marriage. Get married in court, plan your grand ceremonies later.

[@mrstrellbrown23]

yep the wedding aint gon make your marriage work, we got married a few months after proposal and i accepted ehen he didnt have a ring. all about the love

[@loverofallthingsbeautiful2]

yessssss

[@olgarodionova27]

miniimufin exactly. We spent more on our honeymoon. We were high school sweethearts. I knew him for 10 years. We were officially together for 8 months before he proposed. Got married 3 months later. Have been together for over 3 years and even though we've gone through rough patches, marriage is work. You don't just quit when life gets hard. When you're going through some issues, it's to test your commitment.

[@aaliyahgriffin781]

Exactly

[@colormyworld249]

same thing if you say yes

[@mindofzena8447]

Watching these old episodes I see clearly that Jeanie and Freddie were not meant for each other..hindsight is 20/20.

[@katherinea.3103]

Adrienne's makeup is always slaying

[@vivianb5325]

yesss 😍😍😍

[@sarasalone3060]

Who’s her makeup artist ?

[@guppiemitch]

I love how Tamar keeps it real. Lol! “You don’t have to rush into it right away.” “Why come?? YOU wasn’t ready.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@icourtneyy]

It's segments like this where I think how can they get rid of Tamar. I feel like sometimes she's the only one who really gives good motivational advice while the others just tell personal experiences. Tamar does both she speaks from her past & motivates your future.

[@saffs001]

so damn true!

[@kingtoyab69]

Ikr

[@acharich]

Mmm.. 💭

[@nickaylah.671]

I have to disagree. Tamar was very REAL about the advice she gave from her personal opinion but her delivery was not always necessary and it was her way or the highway during discussion. It is segments like this, that show me she was a little rude. Why she lookin like that when Jeannie had something to say? Discretion was necessary for Tamar to continue.

[@gospeldva]

Nickayla H. I agree she's very dominant in her opinion

[@clarke4400]

I believe Lenny propose to Adrienne to shut her up

[@77deerose]

lol

[@amandamatana5712]

omg lol

[@CoCoGemel]

lmfao

[@santriciajones2579]

her and everybody else

[@ashasheera8441]

When Adrienne says "My friends", we all know she's actually talking about herself and her own experience.

[@BAZINGA_715]

I really don't think Tamar is as bad as everyone makes her seem. I don't think Tamera would be friends with her if she was that much of a diva behind the scenes. I will miss her TONS, I don't know how the show will be after her, but I still want to support the other four women.

[@dreamycalm]

Hm or pretend to like her and be friends with her just for the shows sake?

[@jolufsen7847]

+msjuicy naaaaa that's bs

[@1perle]

I find her rude at times, but didn't wish her to be fired.

[@grintsgirl051]

Exactly!!!

[@littleprincesszz]

Preach!

[@loaloa2020]

Tamar is the kind of friend who will give you the truth even if it hurts you but it will set you free....I like all her advises and life lessons she give on the show , they really have huge gap to fill after her and 100% the show won't be the same without her. btw I only learned about Tamar through this show then I started watching her reality shows 😥😥😥

[@loaloa2020]

Dorian Black well i do feel like Loni is next

[@tylalynn9726]

nana blue They won an Emmy and Tamar is still bitter and talking ☕️👀

[@CeliniacForLife]

Wait until you hear her music. She’s a four-time Grammy nominated R&B songstress. Her best album is Calling All Lovers. I suggest you listen to that one first.

[@Lighxx]

I got engaged in March and our wedding is 5 months later. 12 days from today! He was ready and so was I. We have been together 15 months. We both felt the “ the one” feeling from day 1 💕💍

[@elora179]

If I got married, we’d just go to Vegas over the weekend. Cheap and cheerful 😂

[@puppymonkeybaby9599]

My boyfriend and I have been together since I was 16 and he was 17. We'll make 6 years this summer! We plan on being engaged later this year, and getting married late next year. :') So happy to be in a healthy, loving relationship!

[@lilipurr]

Congrats!!!

[@eveevolution1607]

Are u still together today?

[@autumnhayesart6084]

How did it go . Are you married yet?

[@francis2339]

They split smh🤣

[@realityclips6052]

Did you get married?

[@venapayne6090]

I agree with Adrienne what she said. If your getting engaged in teens or early 20s you should probably have a longer engagement be your young and you want to make sure your not naive. This is a life time thing so yes I agree.

[@ebonyeverything2751]

No teens should be getting engaged. Their brains aren't even finished developing. They are not the people they're actually going to be.

[@guzmacmomof4]

My husband proposed to me a year after we started dating, and we were married 6 months later. We are 8 years married and happy as can be expecting our 4th baby

[@avocado1182]

If you don't have money for the wedding, hold that ring. Propose when you have the money

[@plutostarr8605]

Exactly

[@makeupmonkey123]

"Why come"? I laughed so hard when Tamar said that 😂

[@thisanonymous5956]

My husband and I were engaged for two years before we got married. We wanted to save up money so we could have our dream destination wedding. Some people have a good reason for a longer engagement.

[@larajensen1821]

I agree

[@mieshaburley2433]

I MISS TAMAR. She added soooo much to the show!

[@SimplyyLizzie]

My sisters engagement lasted two years. The first year was her last year finishing nursing school. The moment she walked across the stage they started to plan the wedding haha She even told my brother in law don’t you dare propose to me while in finishing nursing school. I guess he couldn’t wait 😂

[@theresajeffrey5708]

Chileeee, I thought I read “Entanglement” I never clicked so fast thinking they were back talking about will & jada! 😂

[@neyyy352]

not entanglement 😭😭🤣🤣

[@Ndeka]

Me and you both sis😂

[@sinosakambana]

Ma’am 🤣🤣😭

[@cathkails]

I was 22 when I got engaged, 4 months shy of 23. We got married when I was 25 (2 months after my birthday). So the engagement was about 2.5 years long. But, we lived in different states until 8 months before the wedding. Once we lived in the same location, planning went into over drive. Money was partially a factor. We paid for our own wedding out of pocket, without going into debt. I did all the cooking and decorating and everything. I even did my own wedding photos (hello timer and tripod)...and they turned out great, btw. Sometimes there are legitimately reasons for a longer engagement. For me, I just wanted some sense of commitment since we had already been dating at the point for close to 5 years when he proposed.

[@MeleenGames]

Thats amazing!

[@annelyceyawingu6678]

Are you still married?❤

[@cathkails]

​@@annelyceyawingu6678Yes, I am. Been together for 20 years this April and married for 13 years this May. Have 3 beautiful children together and our fourth is due at the beginning of February.❤

[@teenatheist5251]

I’ve been with my fiancé for a little over four years. We got engaged on our four year anniversary and we plan to get married on our 6 year anniversary. We decided on a long engagement to have time to plan and to save up (we’re both 21). Two years may seem like a long engagement to some, but we both felt that it was the right amount of time. Even though it’s still a year and eight months away, we talk about the wedding daily and are saving up. I think your engagement can be as long as you feel works for you, as long as both parties are in agreement. Plus, the engaged part of a relationship is super fun and I’m just enjoying all that goes along with it. 💕

[@blairf7118]

Ppl just have to do what's right for them and their relationship...there is no standard or required blueprint and timeframe

[@carmenblk440]

Are yall married?

[@palesakgabanyane887]

Are y'all married now ?

[@simonag2312]

Me n my bf just celebrated our 4th dating anniversary, I was hoping for a ring :( I'm tired of waiting and even when he'll get me the ring ik he'll keep me waiting for the actual marriage. Why do I feel so upset

[@selfloveandcoffee2914]

he is just comfortable with you girl! He knows you are not going to leave and wait around for him. LEAVE NOW. You want someone who is excited and cant wait to marry you@@simonag2312

[@joannjohnson2780]

My spouse and I dated for 5 yrs, engaged for 2 yrs, been married for 3 yrs. We are in our early 30's now and I wouldn't change a thing. I married my best friend and the love of my life. I think it is different for everyone. You move at your own pace and if it's meant to be it will be.

[@menat8100]

Everybody hating on Tamar but I am actually gonna miss her! :( Especially her being next to Tamera and them cracking jokes!

[@odesza7327]

I'm going I miss her too .but she cracked way too many jokes for alot people's liking.

[@hopethepope9541]

Yeah still cant believe this has happend!!

[@jennakaufman4471]

Mena T me too I like her You Tried It segments

[@GabriellaLascano]

I was engaged for almost 4 years :) just got married September 21 on the day we made NINE years together. 😬😬😬

[@zeynand4039]

Can I ask why it tool 4 years? were you in college for example and you wanted to wait after graduation?

[@Thollis1987]

That’s just weird...we’re y’all trying to save for a big wedding and honeymoon ?

[@candacehall4776]

Were yal together for those 4 years? Or was there breakups and makeups in those 4 years.

[@Curlsl]

It's ok I don't get why people want to get married so quickly ? It's the same anyway if you live together. At least you know each other well enough to get married. You should know each other for at least 3 or 4 years before getting married. I don't get it.

[@pitbullscrookedjiyong6269]

Looool

[@ana-xp7qd]

My fiancé proposed last week, and we decided to marry this May :) he’s so involved in the wedding planning process 😇 we can’t wait !

[@olaraay]

jeannie was not ready and was never ready for freddie

[@lauracouture3394]

I WISH WE KNEW WHAT EXACTLY HAPPENED!........

[@jackitzatziki]

Loni just put up a video. Go watch it!!!

[@jchidi]

Its none of our business.

[@SallyandPaul]

where???

[@LisaIrby]

Here's Loni's video kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJimXnirptSmeMU

[@dianaramirez4401]

I know!! I hope it wasnt any of the other hosts. but i will be hard to watch without her :(

[@lisakinsale7761]

I miss this dynamic with the five of them

[@lisakinsale7761]

#Tamar

[@queno803]

If your engaged for longer than a year... It's called a "shut up ring"... You know the rest... ... and I'm not having it! No thanks!!!

[@shutit4024]

Does age play a roll?

[@yellaymb]

jennie KNEW she ain’t wanna marry that man 🙄

[@vlo4829]

Finances can also dictate wedding plans though. Even if you're both ready for it, even a small wedding costs money. I think the proposal should come with a rough timeline, though, and concerns like paying for the wedding should all be mentioned early if not at the same time. Some people do have long engagements because they're saving up for the wedding rather than because someone isn't ready.

[@coppersulphate002]

Exacty!

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

Amen! This is a big reason why I'm waiting. Weddings are expensive. Finances are a huge factor and I wish they would've talked about this.

[@elisharoze455]

Get married in a court and have your ceremony later. A wedding is just a big party in the grand scheme of things

[@nmoomoo]

Elisha Roze culturally weddings are really important so some people may save that reason

[@MsSassydiva12]

That part!!

[@moisblissed]

I got engaged at 19 & got married when I turned 21 because I at least wanted to drink. I agree with Adrienne on the young engagements

[@sarahleecharles4974]

Watching these old clips it's crazy how the script flipped for Jeannie and she's found a love that she was ready for and it was ready for her and she's the happiest she's ever been👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@CMHism]

Some men propose to to get their women to be quiet.

[@TT.3123]

But if they want quiet they could just leave the woman and be in peace and solidarity?

[@penelopek9645]

I'm 35 in may 36,dating since nearly two years with my boyfriend. If he does not propose soon after 2 years I'm out, too many people asking me out ,and I am not getting any younger.

[@01peaceprincess]

What's the point of getting engaged to someone to shut them up? That clearly means you do not want it to happen, so why not just break up with them and not waste their time!!

[@tormentorchick1755]

They want to keep the woman around without the commitment. He can have her and have no ties for an easy exit once he finds what he really wants.

[@shutit4024]

@@tormentorchick1755 smh that’s f**ked up but I remember my dad took 3 years to marry my mom and they ended the marriage with in 10 months smh he was cheating the whole time

[@tentrickspony8925]

Never pressurise you partner to marry. You both have to want it and you both have to agree on the terms and conditions of your relationship. And please as women you have to take accountability for your part in your relationship. And remember, If it's not working, Guy has every right to walk away as much as you do😉

[@sarickacampbell2642]

Jeannie never wanted to marry Freddy. She was never in love with him the things that she said on the show like she wasn’t ready. She wasn’t excited 😆. Things you would say out of context like marriage is hard marriage is so hard like it’s obvious it wasn’t meant to be. I’m pretty sure it’s not supposed to be that hard. Not to mention the awkward moment when Freddy told everybody that Jeannie is not sexually attracted to him.

[@alexandramateo4444]

After 5 years that’s a stfu ring 😂🤣

[@connor2669]

My wife and I actually planned our wedding before we were “engaged” I couldn’t find the ring she deserved and so I wanted to wait to make it official until then but we planned everything. The colors the flowers the venue she went dress shopping everything. Then I bought the ring and proposed and we got married 6 months later because everything was planned and it was just about getting everything paid for and set up. Buying the decorations and the invitations and all that but if it had been up to her we would’ve gotten everything set up gotten engaged and then gotten married the next day. But I told her we needed to give other people time to situate themselves and plan if they were coming or not and buy wedding gifts and all that.

[@ebonyeverything2751]

Damn, so there was no surprise or romance in it for her?

[@natalienicolaides8427]

Aidrienne just looks amazingggggg all the damn time her style team is amazing 👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@crystaldixon4530]

Engagements is testing the waters. I was engaged until my fiance died in the military. I am newly engaged. However , I agree with Jeanie mai when she said not to rush. I explained to my fiance what came with friends , boyfriend/girlfriend , fiance , and marriage. Theirs levels and steps you have to take to being engaged to be married.

[@Sagesmoke]

Sorry for your loss

[@heyheyhey40]

What’s more important? The wedding? Or the marriage? They talked about the wedding here and didn’t focus on the actual Marriage at all.

[@jessica8471]

I was engaged for 3 years but that’s because life hit hard, my mom got sick, we knew we were absolutely ready for each other’s commitment but we had to push things back. 8 years strong so it just depends

[@KingBoss2015]

I dated my hubby for 3 months, got engaged at 19, married 5 months later at 20 and had my baby at 20 (the day before I was 21) going on 3 years of marriage, going on strong, loving my life, husband and son and I do t regret it one bit. However, I’m also LDS 😂

[@Anonymous-xm7rf]

Well, I see it as a case by case basis. For me personally, I’m engaged at 23. Yet my fiancée and I agreed to finish college together first and then get married in Europe. Smaller party, but the experience will be worth it. Plus having the college memories together is a plus. We get to grow together too. It just depends on circumstances.

[@aaronb2246]

So what happens to the "You Tried It" and "Lies You Tell" segments? Do they give Tamar back all her intellectual properties? Do they keep using her lingo as titles on KZbin videos, Instagram posts and Facebook statuses? Her creativeness made up roughly a nice portion of the show, and lets be honest, they capitalized off it.

[@zora99ny]

Tamar should trademark her catchphrases.

[@umar609040]

She owned those trademarks way before this show.

[@ImJerkBoii]

A lot of gay mannerisms come from black women though. Slang phrases like "You tried it," "Lies," and "Shade" and all that comes from gay culture. But tongue smacking and what a lot of people call "acting ghetto" come from black women.

[@ImJerkBoii]

***** I did not say ghetto behavior comes from black women. I said behavior that people consider "ghetto" come from black women. Slight - yet important - distinction. Ghetto only has a negative connotation when it is given one. I was simply using it to indicate the behavior in a way that most could understand. What I should have said to not confuse - and am saying now - is that Tamar (and effeminate gay men) act in the typical fashion of SOME black women who are typically from the hood, who act in an "exaggerated" manner. Think Sheneneh from Martin. Gay men (and Tamar by extension) portray a caricature of the "ghetto black woman." That caricature includes a lot of tongue smacking, eye and neck rolling, snapping, etc.

[@brittany.381]

I was just going to ask

[@pcompton83]

I was engaged for 2.5 years bcuz I had a single woman goal I wanted to have before I got married, which was getting my bachelors degree. I graduated in may 2017, we got married that September.

[@kaylabell7863]

These clips will never get old

[@KingGemiinii]

LONNIE!!!!!!!! "you'ved lived your life adrienne baillon" 😂😂😂😂

[@Canadianbrunnette]

I'm getting married in 5 days! My engagement was 2 and a half months long. I loved the short engagement! 😊

[@missmindyourbusiness3975]

I love what tamera said about her mother “there’s a season for everything. Enjoy.....”

[@CeCeTyshay]

I'm going to miss Tamar's energy and input, every one of them is important. But yeah, I agree with them, I'm not waiting forever, within a year, let's go.

[@pixigirl999]

Ya'll went so hard at Tamar in the comment section. You scrutinized and picked apart everything she did or said. You put on your capes for Jeannie "dark meat on the side" Mai and I warned you all last year to chill because the level of vitriol some of you were putting out there would have consequences. Well you got what you wanted and this show will now be as dry as The Talk. Love her or hate her Tamar was an important component to the show. And you deserve the white woman their probably going to replace her with. I heard their considering Ice T's wife...lmao

[@cnwodo]

Tamar referred to Jeannie as a 'Tiger Heifer' though so she's really not any better herself

[@cassandratype4]

what's "Tiger Heifer"?

[@fannsmusic8112]

@pixigirl999 Coco???!! oh no. ..I like her and all but she's ditzy...is the ice t and coco talk show still on?

[@clarke4400]

I agree with you 1000000000000000000% they made it look like no one should look at Jeannie, disagree with her, just to name a few? Even Jeannie said Tamar is the only that keeps it real with me off camera and these ppl they still find things to say.

[@clarke4400]

And thats why I prayed for Jeannie to leave the show. Her fans Calling Tamar out of her name etc. I am so glad the tamartians trolled her ass on social media.The Maiticks fans have been doing it from season 1, so her being dragged on social media, it served her flat ass right ‼️‼️

[@rhodagyepi-garbrah5445]

Who's still watching these Tamar videos in 2020🙋‍♀️

[@jmeiahb2608]

🙋🏾‍♀️

[@maliksomers19]

Still do in 2021

[@saysbeza]

Going to miss Tamar's adlibs, lip smacking, finger snapping and commentary!!! Segments won't feel the same

[@nmoomoo]

saysBEZA I really found her to be entertaining. I miss her

[@magu9841]

That was disgusting!!!! 🤢 I’m glad she’s gone!

[@BecomingViola]

we got engaged after 3 months togeather didnt get married till almost 5 years after. we needed that time

[@ldmaze517]

Ladies take it from a man point of view, if you are in a relationship for 2 to 3 years and he is still trying to figure it out, he is not the one. He is only there for the Cookie, "Why Buy The Milk When The Cow Is Free" Do you understand ladies, I can see if you are taking time to save money for the marriage, but it doesn't take 3 years to do so ladies. We as men know and it's not going to take 5 years, we will definitely know within 2 years.

[@blackbutterfly233ify]

Ldmaze that's absolutely not true.

[@lang-ed3bk]

Interesting take from a man

[@m.h6858]

So true!!! My husband was with his ex for 7 years and was engaged to her for 4 of those years, they broke up, he met me months later and after 9 months of us dating we talked about marriage and did so 3 months later and had a baby the next year! So your right, a man knows when and who he wants to marry, when he waits so long he's holding out to see if something better comes along!

[@anthoneyferrell3756]

CAN I JUST SAY THIS IS A DOUBLE STANDARD! Women- say yes even if your not sure. Men- You better be sure.

[@vickss9306]

Anthoney Ferrell and she too is dumb, why say yes if you’re unsure? The planning of the wedding is the engagement. The courtship is when you decide if you see longevity

[@tormentorchick1755]

This is the first time I'm hearing women doing that, so it's probably rare, but I don't know. Men tend to propose just because they want her to shut up about it and want to keep her around without the commitment but women tend to be more serious about it.

[@loreah2794]

People are sayin' Lenny proposed to shut A up. But he proposed to shut those heiffers up lol

[@positivevibes8516]

Welp

[@javiruiz4405]

And know A married a cheater fat ass

[@blackcdnguy]

they need all 5 women for real. they balance each other. btw anyone else check this producer Rachel Miskowiec's credits?? flop after flop after cancelled TV flop-show. I'm like THIS is the producer that fired Tamar?

[@sp1c3w0lf8]

1-2 years max is how long an engagement should last

[@xAaeiynx]

Once again, I agree with Jeannie. I wish she would've expressed my feelings on Weddings, in general. Y'all know how expensive Weddings are? I understand I can have a small Wedding, but I want the people I love there. I've been engaged for three years, now and still not in a hurry. IK he ain't leaving me, and the term "husband" is merely a title, anyway. The contract just legally binds us, together. Besides, my relationship is my business, anyway. We're happy and share the same feelings. When we get married, we get married. I'm in no hurry to rush to get there.

[@marier1542]

its true if youre certain in your relationship there's no need to rush. i think ppl rush to get married after the engagement bcus theyre afraid the other person might change their mind or go astray, but thats not a good sign either! the only thing is , if something happened to the person (like death) i guess the partner's biggest regret would be that they never got the chance to get married.

[@xAaeiynx]

marie R I agree to an extent. I've never been good with handling the aftermath of death, anyway.

[@xAaeiynx]

@@marier1542 It's been a few years, now, and I happen to come back to this comment. I'm married, now ^_^

[@brittneystewart723]

I’ve been engaged for 4 years and I’m getting married in another week . So happy we are finally walking the isle. We went through a flood and a lot of hard times so it just was put on a back burner

[@naturalblessing3334]

The only people who know the truth is the people involved in the situation

[@mrstrellbrown23]

say that again loud

[@ritaguerrero3489]

This makes me sad watching this because I genuinely love the show and it WILL NOT be the same without Tamar! I just lover her so much and she is the person I can relate to the most. She will be missed 100 percent!

[@FaithJoelle55]

I love Tamera's look and I love that top knot,simple yet elegant!

[@NRBlnktd]

Can I just say that when Tamar was out because of health issues, the show was NOT the same. I was there when Tamar returned and you can feel the genuine love from the audience. She is an important part of the show and I think it's fucked up to just fire her out of the blue. I just want you guys to know that if ratings spiked during that time, it was not because she was gone but because we were all worried about her health and hoping for updates. #BringTamarBack

[@ellafacebooktruecrimecases3644]

agree

[@jeromainemarlo1285]

agree

[@sadepayne]

I agree, I won't be watching

[@finurra3905]

I am addicted to these little talk show segments!! Loves it!!!

[@magicpower1858]

Enjoy every moment. I have a cousin who got married and got pregnant the same week. No planning, nothing ! Don't rush into serious things people. Some mistakes cannot be repaired.

[@MasonPerry7]

I don't like to plan too much, things never work out, We can set a date, but the actual planning, we should take it a step at a time.

[@umar609040]

Same, I let my mom and sister plan my wedding.

[@cassandratype4]

But if you let 1 year pass and never address it nor plan, it means you are not ready..

[@VHale-yz7hc]

If you can't plan a wedding how are u going to plan a life with someone

[@MasonPerry7]

From my experience, I am more successful, when I just wing it. Because when I plan, I tend to set high/borderline unachievable standards. I have ideas, and goals, but I always change my mind, or a better idea, or a new goal replaces what I originally had.

[@grintsgirl051]

I agree. It should be within months like a year. Engagement means you are ready to get married but need a little to prepare for the celebration.

[@nette9836]

I was engaged by 23 and married that year...I was also with my boyfriend for 5 years beforehand so...my husband and I have been married for four years and together for 9. Whoohoo!

[@snirks8635]

Glad for the changes the producers made, kudos for going forward in a positive direction. Business is business... and...thank you for keeping it "REAL".

[@jamesbryson8927]

We don't know what happens behind the scenes so everyone needs to stop assuming things that they don't know are true or not. My issue is that we finally had a show that placed intelligent, talented and fun women of colour in the forefront and the show was gaining a lot of success. In this industry in order to stay successful people, especially people of colour, can't afford to experience controversy. This is a unique show in terms its diversity, I would just hate for it to be over because of the recent controversy.

[@smilechynwa]

^^^^^^^ Thank You!! we might be one of the few people on the internet with a brain.

[@yazminfrances]

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3605507/On-set-tantrums-p-ing-sponsors-aggressive-eye-rolling-mouth-smacking-indicative-behavior-African-American-women-worked-years-overcome-REAL-reasons-Tamar-Braxton-fired.html

[@PinkLaptop]

@@yazminfrances thank you for the article. It really does clarify alot of my questions about her leaving. Speaking as a black women in America the article was right about her stereotypical behavior that many black women try to stray away from. She was also very insecure in my opinion and for some reason did not favor anything that Jeannie Mai had to say. Always trying to bring an old style of black women that just didnt fit.

[@Quit3Cut3]

I’m recently engaged... you also have to remember people have longer engagements because weddings aren’t cheap!! Plus not to mention venues book years in advance. 3 years or more way too long. But I think up to 3 years is reasonable.

[@joshuaotuko4560]

Oh my sister Tamera,those pieces from Mama are a thing to hold and cherish in your day today life.Thanks for sharing

[@MakebyJen]

Evelyn Lozada still engaged after 2years later...and Lala was engaged for 5 years 😂😂

[@sadepayne]

That's right! Noticed LaLa man wasn't ready

[@jojoc326]

And both women ended up divorced.

[@anaadventures7669]

we had an 18 month engagement bc we wanted to have a nice wedding fully paid for to go into our marriage debt free.

[@RoyalMasterpiece]

This is the Tamar I'm going to miss. She has a lot of wisdom and is very funny. SHAME ON YOU THE REAL PRODUCERS FOR FIRING HER!!!! YOU NEED TO BRING HER BACK!!! I believe Season 3 will be the last.

[@egalehashi1578]

yaaaaaaaaaaaaaas girl how is they going to fire her like!!!!! they HAVE TRIED IT😂😂😂😂😂😒😒😒

[@peachlife5118]

Sooooo true, as crazy as she can be, she is full of so much wisdom. Probably the wisest and realest on the panel :(

[@abigailj2485]

we never know what goes on behind the scenes. Tamar has a big personality and from her reality show I've SEEN how she acts with even her family. So the rumors about her being hard to work with & them being fed up are not shocking.

[@justtlyric6589]

RoyalMasterpiece This was Tamar last esipode?

[@justtlyric6589]

I don't even like Jeannie(all can throw shade I don't care). She has more segments on this show then all the girls combined (including Tamar) .Whenever she has a hat on and something funny happens she always takes it off and swings it around. Did she ever think about hitting munchkin before she moved by tamera. I have more 2 say but I don't have time for grown people to be in the feelings. I always listen to Tamar music just so I can feel better about Tamar leaving TheReal. &That's #TheReal. Like if your a #Tamartion.

[@MsMonaeFlower]

I am in my late 20's and got engaged a year ago. I wanted to enjoy my engagement. I personally was in shock because my fiancé proposed to me after we dated for 9 months. We have been friends for over 10 years and he's my best friend. Our wedding is in 6 months. When we got engaged I waited a few months before I even started planning. We are a long distance couple and it is hard but we are making it work and coming together.

[@shelbbyte]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. We’ve been taking about engagement. For us financially, it makes sense to be engaged for about 2 years (still setting a date and planning) but that way we’re able to save up enough for our dream wedding and ensure all our friends and family can come ❤

[@TT.3123]

See that’s still different because your bf does fully have a plan, even if it’s still some time away! Btw..congratulations!!

[@LaythWazir]

Never Trust your Co- workers, they are just Co workers not friends! Tamar learned it the hard way!

[@JonnieDavis]

Her Co- workers had nothing to do with it

[@dori9090]

Stop with the rumors they didn't have anything to do with it Tamar is mad at lo I cuz she took and hour to reply to here, so stop with the rumors

[@reecemarshall7322]

Silly man bitch

[@LaythWazir]

+Reece Marshall "silly man Bitch" Who?me?

[@taybri458]

+pizzaholic She's not mad at loni

[@RashonWill]

I agree, the least he could do besides propose to let me know he's really ready is set the date!

[@pablopedro8598]

My fiancé and I have been engaged going on two years but we haven’t had much money and kept waiting to be able to have a wedding. Well now we are just tempted to get eloped because a wedding just isn’t justifiable with how expensive things have gotten. I sometimes feel embarrassed because we haven’t gotten married but weddings are hard so we just going to elope or maybe a small get together

[@SWEETLILLY2]

Gonna miss you TayTay especially for segments like these... I don't know how the producers could just sit in a conference room, discuss the upcoming season three and decide that Tamar was the one they wanted to eliminate immediately... Especially when she's the life of the show! I loved watching because it was different from all the other boring talk shows I've seen. These women helped me get through a break up during the pilot season... Helped me learn to love myself again during the first season and since then I have been following these women and watching this show. I am not a Tamartian but I like Tamar and respect her opinions a lot. Yes she may have an 'out there' personality but that's what I love about her. She doesn't conform to what society thinks she should be. She's herself and if she has to get fired for being herself on the show then The Real wasn't real after all. Love you TayTay and I wish you all the best pumpkin schmunkin xoxo ☺

[@JRob594]

out of all the comments I've read yours was the realest

[@SWEETLILLY2]

Thank you dj_oldskool​ ☺ I like to keep it 💯... No time for fakeness in this already fake 🌍... Peace and love!

[@SWEETLILLY2]

+Breaking News says you!!!... Have a nice day ☺

[@jameswolf8588]

Loni, please continue to act the way you did in this specific discussion. You added your own opinion and even added a thought provoking question to the ladies. It's nice seeing a REAL discussion going on without you cracking a brown liquor or bacon joke.

[@ciexjae]

Everybody love Tamar now cus she leaving!?🙄

[@chanyisme]

I loved her before she was on the real. Such a sweet, real person.

[@butyoucancallmesam]

right!

[@AgnesM]

She was always loved 🙃

[@mariedorneval2780]

These episodes were prerecorded

[@ciexjae]

+Gabrielle I'm not being condescending when I ask this, what does that have to do w my comment?

[@tamaralogan]

I missed this dynamic!

[@ButterCookie1984]

I don't want a "stand-by" ring.