Toxic Self Love: Could Non-Negotiables Be the Reason Some People Are Single?

[@susieuniverse9321]

When you truly and deeply love yourself and enjoy your own company, being "lonely" or "dying alone" is not scary or even negative. Sounds like peace and my dream at the end tbh lol.

[@diasporanetworking4333]

I agree! Singleness is a beautiful thing. Marriage is not a necessity, contrary to what society wants us to believe. There is difference between loving yourself fully while being at peace with yourself / by yourself Vs just being “not in a relationship”. If you are just single because you are not in a relationship you’ll constantly feel lonely. It has to get to that point where you feel like, “I love my peace by myself so much, if I don’t have anyone in my life I’d be good”. And that feeling is so peaceful ❤️❤️

[@Msladyrae92]

yup. we ALL die alone in the end. Having a partner should not be validation of your worthiness of love.

[@baby_shii1263]

The older generation have this mentality singleness = something wrong with you or you miserable and Lonely. There is def a double standard because you never hear them ask a man why they ain’t got no woman. Little did they know you can have a man in your life and still be lonely.

[@susieuniverse9321]

@@baby_shii1263 right! They label men as bachelor's living their best lives when they are single....so weird.

[@veronica5080]

Funny because statistically its women that are happier when single and men that do the worst when they dont have women... very funny

[@CJ-wm4ij]

I feel like Loni is opening up more and it’s so nice to see her growth. This season has the best chemistry yet.

[@siphesihle_k1857]

I agree, I’ve fallen more inlove with her recently. Deadass crying everytime she does 🤣😩

[@doneecemcneil7826]

Hi edagdwg being yourself is a real gift from god sharing. Yourself is a real gift to feeling love to enjoy your life god bless you to take time to get to know people and learn lindaj. Peace

[@Oneakaell]

Sometimes when you step out of what you look for in a person you find the best things you never thought you’d love!

[@ruruvarela]

It be like like. I'm not with this guy anymore but if we would if continued is say he would be the one. We stopped for other reasons personal to ourselves and not because it had to do with the opposite person. But he has traits i traditionally would of been like nahhh. Lol. But in other area that were more important to me he checked all off. Too bad it was not meant to be. He still in my life just in a different way

[@TheLilly]

As long as those things you're stepping out of are not your values.

[@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460]

@@TheLilly Preach it, Lilly!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@syntychetolela8938]

True but why is it that this advice is only given to women? Men don’t lower their standards, or adjust… for a woman unless it’s an insecure man!

[@TheLilly]

@@syntychetolela8938 SAY THAT!!🗣👏🏾 The bar for men is in FREAKING HELL and Ion like that!!!!!

[@destineeallen88]

Can we accept the fact that not everybody is healing at the same time. So while you are going through your healing process please be gentle with the people who are not because at one point in your life you were there to. Have some grace. Vice versa when you see someone healing don’t look at them like they’re snarky their just healing. Show some grace.

[@sandersra9036]

Exactly. I'm indifferent about "The Real" after this litte segment. I'm going through this little weird schizophrenic, supernatural phase where I'm **noticing** that everything I'm interested in or talking about or running through my mind comes back to me through media or social media. I've been talking about self-love and stuff for a little minute on social media as my life has been a little chaotic. I'm not nitpicky nor do I have too high standards. God's little "Sims Game" he's got us running around in matches me up with people who are things that I don't prefer. And if I begin to prefer those things, it matches me up with things I preferred before but don't prefer anymore. People I'm CLEARLY not feeling. This algorithm is childish. My fate, ultimately, is in greater hands. #NotAtheist. Lol. Ladies came off as bullies this time to this guy whose paranoid part of his body swear they're talking to him and others who may be going through a similar spiritual thing.

[@janderson947]

@@sandersra9036 God isn't playing games but let's be honest people let culture make their lovestory instead of God like Adrienne and her husband or Jeannie and hers...

[@sandersra9036]

@@janderson947 Yeah, just like I said. God isn't playing games. The video game were living in that God created for us is playing games. That's how I look at reality in a cheeky way. Always sending me things I'm no longer interested or passionate in when I'm no longer interested and passionate. And then sending me the things I was formerly interested in when I moved on and decided to take a different route. Finding people in my life acting out bad behavior I demonstrated when I was like 4-years-old, as if every childish thing I did will always repeat itself in the people I encounter, no matter how much I change. And sending folks to comment sections to tell me that God isn't playing games when I didn't say God is playing games. 😜 Yeah, so like I said.

[@zonjavictoria4813]

I stopped watching the real daytime for a while because it just didn't feel genuine anymore. They are back to the content and ingenuity that I loved!! Garcelle has also been such a gracious addition to the team

[@cammiecam3032]

Adrienne is so animated and passionate about what she talks about. I love it. I love the chemistry between them 💜 I didn’t really watch the real but im loving it on youtube.

[@leticiasandoval5475]

Same here. That's where I watch it. Mainly for the chats tho.

[@nasiphinyathela6774]

I feel like Loni's opinions have changed since she has been in a relationship or serious relationship.

[@walterbrown9079]

Loni having a serious relationship she is not capable in her own words that wealthy black men doesn't want her because of her attitude then why would you want your boyfriend that you have to sign a NDA contract 📜 and you don't want to get married ? And you and your own words you are TOXIC AND DAMAGE I guess James will tolerate ! Celebrities like her can't live her own life ?

[@nasiphinyathela6774]

@@walterbrown9079 Sorry, what are you saying?

[@abni1013]

Adrienne brought out her inner Tamar with those hand movements 😂😂

[@Bishopmoni]

Take this advice ladies and you'll be in constant physical fights with insecure men who care more about their power over you then the supposed love they have for you

[@beautifulblessing3476]

THIS RIGHT HERE THOUGH!!!!!!

[@ReeOh59]

Garcelle’s outfit is lovely!

[@Fashionpreneurondemand]

Thats easy for adreinne to say bcus she married a man that was divorced with 4 children. I'm sorry but that's not everyone's cup of tea. Theirs risks in that . The whole package matters in my opinion. Great job/ career and self sufficiency and no kids and or baggage . Everyone doesn't want a mixed family.

[@cocopuff6810]

I'm sure Adrienne said that when she was younger but as you get older and still single the likelihood of meeting someone is null and void. I

[@Fashionpreneurondemand]

@@cocopuff6810 Yea u start settling for things you originally wouldn't. None of us know what age we will meet our soul mates

[@KristieBach]

True. Especially since his children are grown & not to mention he has money.

[@matyfortune5734]

And she's happy, life has no manual book so ppl do whatever makes you happy

[@alextroy9202]

I sure as hell don’t

[@lin-deehorne3143]

I love Adrienne's personality 😄😄😄

[@GypsyEyes]

False. The girls are confusing 2 different things: deserving vs. entitlement. Deserving comes from love, while entitlement comes from fear. 2 very different energies.

[@707tich]

This is true also

[@sandersra9036]

Very true. 🙏👌

[@HenryLee666]

Sometimes it's so hard to differentiate between what's a high and unrealistic expectation and what's a healthy standard that you shouldn't negotiate and settle for less 😔. I just broke up with this guy that gives me so much of what I've always wanted but also comes in a package that I was so not expecting. I'm so confused :(

[@lillywalden1542]

Absolutely love the real Jeannie she has blossomed into an amazing woman

[@andrewstaples8677]

Ever since she met Jeezy

[@KristieBach]

Don’t rush. Don’t settle

[@ajl2845]

Loni looks beautiful

[@toniwills4220]

She is killing it. The hair, makeup and dress are all on point. 👌👍.

[@HernameisSAFFA]

Discover yourself without hoping to fall in love with someone along the way...unknown

[@JaiClaire880]

Adrienne is killing it this season! Love ya girly!

[@simplytina5627]

I love all of these outfits! Y’all are really slaying this season

[@treasuret1500]

Great topic and sometimes me being like that it's just a comfort zone yes I know it's a bad habit. I'm suffering from self love because the past just got me to a point of moving on...all I want is to break through be happy 😂 .

[@theetravelingfoodie]

I loved that Loni touched on showing others grace💜

[@PureSparkles22]

Jeannie looks stunning

[@Yuhngcoco]

I use to give my all into relationships and now I'm traumatized and push ppl away bc I don't ever want to lose myself again

[@Msladyrae92]

No cause I'd rather be single than deal with being mistreated and/or treated less than I treat myself. I feel like ya'll missed the mark on this. They are not being picky about looks they being picky about the treatment they're getting and/or the disagreements in the relationship . They run "when the going gets tough". Yall are conflating two diff things here.

[@c2steph]

I love the shout out to Will Packer and FAMU at the end! 🐍🐍🐍🐍

[@arianareed4865]

I feel so attacked but this was much need to hear 😖 I’m super picky

[@mayloop123]

Damn they talking about me

[@ron3406]

Adrianne 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💛💛

[@sharzhay]

By yourself doesn't always equate to lonely. I enjoy my company man. But if you feel like you're lonely then change ..

[@zasembothobilemkhize3976]

Garcelle's outfit is stunning 😍❤🔥🤌🏽

[@MajesticMyronn]

Are we talking about those who happen to excude egotism & self-assertion?! Or we talking about people that love themselves so much they don’t need anybody else to love them ! Cuz I feel like there are people that like to be performative and be a bit self-serving & there is nothing wrong with showing love to yourself but the narcissistic undertones it’s like damn you can speak positively about yourself and say x, y , z but enough about you… I feel like there’s a point where it gets a bit like performative like what exactly are you trying to prove to those around you ?! You can be confident without being cocky and you can love yourself without deemimg yourself to be superior compared to others that may be in relationships and confident too !

[@noemizuniga-perez7601]

On point she’s right social media is ruining dating and relationships.

[@abigailorus2932]

I'm sorry but they are some non-negotiable that are in fact non-negotiable and I am not talking about looks, the way the person dresses or if he likes football/soccer or not and I would prefer to stay single than to let down of that non-negotiable things (that are vital for me and part of my whole identity and my value system) only to have a relationship that, probably, wouldn't last and not be good for me.

[@blaqmax]

Thank you Loni for the wonderful shout out to my alma mater, thee Florida A & M University.

[@AngelPerez-sh9wk]

I'm like that sometimes to be honest

[@DorGiftofGod]

I should have had more self love and I should have ran 1st red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩 I plan on having my list next time around. God's will! If that doesn't workout being single for the rest of my life sounds wonderful to me.. 🤗💖💕🤗💕💖🤗

[@javonicasapp1203]

And I dunno know about y'all but I love being single!!! Being single doesn't translate to being lonely!

[@suziejms]

This is wild to me because each of these women absolutely didn't settle and met the man of their dreams objectively late in life and are very happy, so to push onto other women the notion of just being with anybody regardless of their reservations because otherwise they're lonely is kinda hypocritical to me

[@ck1098]

True but on some level, they all settled based on what they've voiced previously. Adrienne and I suspect Jeannie as well did not want a man with kids (and both guys brought a lot of stuff to the table that these women might not have accepted when they were younger) but they had to let go of some filters to find their ultimate love so I guess they mean that 🤷🏽‍.

[@chinenyeorakwue6233]

AD just got me cracking 😁😁this girl spews out wisdom

[@anjacampbell645]

Funny cause they keep telling us to love ourselves and therefore not settle for less...

[@TheSunshinefee]

All the women are poppin' - they look so good

[@Mry140717]

Love you guys, so much wisdom in your mouths!!

[@cynthiatanah9572]

Wow this was sooooooo helpful and inspiring 🥰🥰

[@que6364]

We all have to compronise to an extent nobody is perfect

[@thelifeuchoose]

Well I'm debt free and child free. Not dating anyone with so much debt can't have any peace. I also don't want small children in my home. So if that makes me self love toxic I take it. Been married before wasn't all that great lol.

[@starknight1244]

Toxic self love is called selfishness and pridefulness

[@Carlyon100]

That damned filter has everybody messed up

[@dreamhunter5778]

oh dang no wonder I am single 😂😂😂😂😂

[@bdatadecoder]

Not Garcelle dropping such gems 😩

[@jeffrivera3612]

I love these women 😭😭😭

[@MegaDede1212]

It's me 🤣🤣🤣 I'm working thru it okay?!

[@naijalink5541]

I love Garcelles pant suits so much 😍

[@satelahthomas7675]

I definitely am a toxic self love type person🤣 I’m learning though🤣

[@AriVirtual]

So perfectly said, love these women

[@asmaali1641]

But if you're do not have confident and had truma you need to heal

[@thes5832]

Definitely!✋

[@KristieBach]

A is so Brooklyn 😂

[@doneecemcneil7826]

gm edagdwg being yourself is real but don't put people down because they don't have money to take care of you sad god bless his children to be real with yourself Linda j. Peace

[@Carousel5883]

I was that person Adrianne talked about.

[@yellagirl419]

Thats not self love thats called be Arrogant in my opinion I wrote my opinion before I heard Jeanie said

[@faredsharudden]

It be narcissistic baby! It screams self(ish) love!

[@danneyrodriguez4796]

YES LONI!!!

[@IndependentMindWoman]

Love the topics!

[@raquelm2352]

I loFe the 🗽 NYC-BX🙅🏼‍♀️ , I’m ADRIENNE🤣🤣🤣😂😃

[@raquelm2352]

NYC, in* Adrienne is everything 😄😄

[@saskia4reallg]

Loni looks BEAUTIFUL 👌👌🤩

[@cappygurl]

That's not self love, that is avoidance, its and excuse to leave others when things aren't the exact way you want it. Its emotional unavailability disguised as self love.

[@389wnttn74]

Marriage is a covenant with God! Man did not invent marriage! Until we start entering into a marriage partnership with God’s perspective in mind…it almost always does not work! God has a way of pairing opposing personalities in a marriage and the marriage still thrives…yes, it takes work, but mostly when it is entered into with God’s perspective in mind! The Bible states he who finds a wife, finds a good “thing”! The woman is the PRIZE! It takes the fear (reverence) of God for a marriage to thrive!

[@chrissydnor1602]

I GOT THAT 😂

[@maureendawkins9753]

Honestly, I am not going to lie, I know someone who lick the fork after he eats, that grosses me out, so I wouldn't go out with him again. Is that being picky?

[@madridista703usa3]

You can change how be dress ummmm no sorry

[@onneetsemoleta9758]

Jeanie Mai, we hear u laughing and snorting at the beginning

[@marcellacollins4697]

Who perfect

[@ebonymiller3545]

Garcelle stop blaming media for everything

[@cocoapuffs3893]

They are all talking to garcelle😂😂

[@thes5832]

Huh?

[@tashawilliams8093]

Loni was singing a different tone a few years ago. Come on now.

[@Bilalplays888]

I feel like they were secretly trying say garcelle

[@RODRODFLY]

Me too 😂🤷🏾‍♀️ she was quiet too 👀

[@glogler]

“Toxic Self Love” what’s with all these buzz words? It’s called being selfish and conceited.

[@LaDimplez91]

I know women like this. Like, girl you are NOT perfect so don't be so picky lmao most those females got hella issues

[@evek2572]

RHOA member

[@kashlynsmith5684]

DONT SAY THE LORD'S NAME IN VEIN! GOD BLESS!

[@Deactivatedbygoogle]

kim kardashian

[@JoslynJoy]

Hmm i feel Like. I already been through some things I just dont wanna accept or tolerate anything thAt doesnt serve me. I think this segment is about me. Dang. Especially when you live alone for a long time its vrry hard to let someone in. I definitely raised the bar super high because I didnt receive the things I deserved, before, so now I am reallly not wanting anything that seems less than. I worked so hard on myself there just aint no way I give someone a chance to come destroy that. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@CHH3.]

"You betta read that Corinthians!" 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@courtneypointer-lewis5275]

🤣

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂

[@Tojoj22]

🙌🏽

[@tiffanymatsvai1929]

Hadn’t watched the real in a while since Tam Tam left, that being said… I love the growth I see in Adrienne, I love the glow and joy in Jeannie’s eyes, Loni looks so at peace and more happy and omg Garcelle is a perfect addition to the group 🥰🥰🥰

[@HAUSOFAARON]

People also take “protecting my peace” to an extreme level. At the slightest inconvenience or disagreement people will end up avoiding resolve.

[@KL-nw9mi]

Agreed

[@leah2476]

I agree

[@dira2009]

omg yes

[@britbritnicole]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@JewelHephzibah]

Very true..

[@jjlovesgreentea]

Adrienne is so New York I love it i feel like only a New Yorker would truly understand the hand gestures and how fast she did it 😂😂

[@khaniyah1494]

NY stand up🥰🙌🏾

[@msJessica0916]

She was really passionate and popping off in this segment 😆 .

[@jackieBarnesjaylob]

yep that us

[@ruruvarela]

@@khaniyah1494 Latinos stand up. I'm from CA and from the hood also. Funny enough when i was in New York they thought I was a local just from how I carried myself

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@loveyb3347]

I feel like as blk women we arent picky enough. Lots of women looked over somethings and got chewed up in the long run.

[@jerlishacummings7808]

Amen!

[@beautifulblessing3476]

ABSOLUTELY!!!

[@blessedpepsimangena6455]

what grates me is when society assumes single people are too judgy. sometimes we are just not willing to settle.

[@mikelaw9317]

You shouldn't settle however there's big difference between having standards to the gods and you putting yourself so high that no one can reach you.

[@vante9588]

Keep it a buck. Most women's standard are standards that only fit like 1% of the population. Gotta make 100k, be 6ft, be funny, be interesting, be in shape, be an entrepreneur etc.. Men are like Look good Don't be rude Cook sometimes

[@mikelaw9317]

@@vante9588 not really, it seem that way but not really. I have heard women say the bar for men is in hell. Cause what they go after. It may seem that way cause the type women some men go after. At end women want a Man not a lil boy.

[@freudianslip2192]

No, most often that person would not date themselves.

[@jerlishacummings7808]

Exactly

[@cathytrevino1921]

I was trying to stay single and there was a guy that checked ALL of my “no”s so I thought I wouldn’t be interested anyway so we became friends. We got married in record time and I truly believe he’s my soulmate.

[@JennHerz-HTX92]

Wow. That's amazing. So you truly thought you wouldn't love him but ended up liking him after you initially thought you never would?

[@cathytrevino1921]

@@JennHerz-HTX92 I knew him already and liked him as a person but never thought he would be able to understand me enough for it to turn into love.

[@djm2985]

He may have just been what you needed vs what you wanted. 💚

[@Tan87ful]

Awww. That’s so romantic. Your love story sounds like a good premise for a Hallmark Channel movie. :))) 👏🏽💯

[@Nash0303]

What were the Nos ?

[@camillemitchell301]

I see both sides. No, you don't need to be married to live a happy and fulfilling life. At the same time, you don't need to put yourself on a pedestal so high that no one can reach it. Humility is key, because none of us are perfect. If you choose not to date/marry, it's because you prefer to live a single life, not because no one is good enough for you, because that's not true.

[@allieberrie9245]

Word

[@andrewstaples8677]

Facts

[@beautifulblessing3476]

ABSOLUTELY

[@TheLilly]

Nah. My non negotiables are exactly that. NON NEGOTIABLE!!! That is not the same as toxic.

[@TheLilly]

@M Muss HEAVYYYYYY!!! I was like wtf??? Boy ain't no way boy

[@ssmith6963]

We live in a very judgmental society..this is why there is so much depression and anxiety in this world. Keeping up with the Jones'. Get over yourself people. Facts are no one is perfect and life is short.

[@michaelamitchell1603]

I totally agree with this!!!

[@Zzucia]

exactly.

[@hustlemami8732]

Beautifully said

[@KL-nw9mi]

Agreed

[@lydiafischer9005]

Self love is not wrong in fact is important to knowing thyself. There are many single women whose lives of being happy are not dependent on being married and have fulfilling careers

[@Strawberryfearsforever]

I totally agree, but they're not talking about those women. They're talking about women that WANT to be married or in a partnership.

[@Abundantli]

@@Strawberryfearsforever even for the women who want to be in partnerships, if you have to compromise to a point where you are uncomfortable that relationship wont be fulfilling anyway. We all desire fulfilling relationships not just to have someone/anyone in your space

[@freudianslip2192]

That's true and there's plenty of data that shows the opposite.

[@winterwaffle16]

Who is anyone to tell someone else that they think too highly of themselves and that they'll end up lonely if they don't allow for some wiggle room in their standards?! SOOO many women have low self esteem and standards in the toilet, putting up with abysmal behavior from men! If some woman out there actually has standards and recognizes their worth, what is wrong with that?! Recognizing that their own company is better than the company of a man who's just not up to par with what they want. That is a great lesson many woman do not learn. Without some man holding you back, you have the time and money to do whatever you want! And this allows room in your life to find a man who actually meets your standards, since you didn't settle for Mr. Good Enough

[@rachelt723]

But for real, some women are not living in reality, they want a man that's this that not to say she shouldn't have standards but I know women who want a fairytale, they want a list but this is real life. Def don't settle for cheaters, emotional or physical abusive but also don't wait for a genie in a bottle created man, just don't be ridiculous

[@winterwaffle16]

@@rachelt723 Yeah I agree with that, but that's not what the laides here sounded like they were talking about, though they were reacting as if wanting a well dressed man IS like wanting a fairy tale man

[@beautifulblessing3476]

EXACTLY BECAUSE I'LL TELL A PERSON QUICK I'M A TOP NOTCH BOSS🎀🎀🥰🌹❤️AND I REFUSE TO LOWER MY STANDARDS BECAUSE THAT PERSON DOESN'T MEET THEM

[@beautifulblessing3476]

AWWW MANN YOU'RE PREACHING RIGHT NOW EVERYTHING YOU'RE SAYING IS SO TRUE🥰🥰🥰🥰... THESE WOMEN NOWADAYS PUT UP WITH INFIDELITY.... LYING.... ALL KINDS OF BS

[@beautifulblessing3476]

@Day OMFG YES!!!!!

[@olorunfemianthonia6319]

Everybody will die alone, no one will follow you to the grave..live life on your terms

[@britbritnicole]

Adrienne’s hand gestures 🤣🤣🤣 but she’s right tho. But what she said is so true. You will miss out on the love of your life because you didn’t like the packaging…wooow!

[@Fashionpreneurondemand]

I kinda agree and disagree at the same time because packaging matters. She married a man that was divorced and committed adultery and had 4 kids. . That's not every womans dream you know. I feel background history and past experiences matter .

[@britbritnicole]

@@Fashionpreneurondemand that’s his past, that doesn’t define him. Like she said nobody’s perfect and if we focused on who people were none of us would have love. She’s not perfect either.

[@Fashionpreneurondemand]

@@britbritnicole I understand that that's his past but some people can still carry on the same traits into a new marriage. That's a risk is what I'm saying.

[@britbritnicole]

@@Fashionpreneurondemand give people a chance before you assume that. Because if you did things I your first marriage that was wrong, would you want a man to not marry you because of it? No, you’d want him to love woman you are now.

[@Fashionpreneurondemand]

@@britbritnicole I understand what you're saying but that's still a personal preference at the end of the day. If that's the way the world worked people who have a criminal background would be given 2nd chances for bigger opportunities and not just everyday jobs. Your pass catches up with you. That's just the truth.

[@Koalatronic]

I'm about the self love. I enjoy living myself and not having to compromise for anyone. Im not against meeting someone, but I have no particular inclination to, so I decided they will have to be pretty special....not because I think I'm all that, but because im really happy in my single life and it will take something quite special for me to choose to sacrifice that.

[@AK-LU]

I literally say this all the time 😯

[@beautifulblessing3476]

PRETTY FREAKING SPECIAL 😍 DO YA HEAR ME LOL

[@Nique1986]

I luv Adrienne her growth from season one to now is so amazing and I agree it’s ok to love yourself but don’t forget we all have imperfections no one is perfect and when luv yourself becomes boastful it’s not good at all!!!

[@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460]

I used to be a "guy's girl" one of the ladies that always has majority male friends. And I can't tell you how many times they say they want a woman *Just Like Me* except it couldn't *BE me.* They want my talent, oratory, cooking, sports, intellectual and sexual skills but in a body that isn't fat. 🙄 While I get we all have SOME superficial aspects to our desires, we often cheat ourselves out of the greatest blessings because we feel our "self-love" means we look like a troll but want Halle Berry as a mate. gtfohwtbs

[@antoinettejohnson2188]

You hit it on the nail I feel this all the time from guys but low key am not enough beauty and body wise .

[@reneewashington4107]

And most of the time the men are over weight or out of shape 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@jillianetuk5189]

@@reneewashington4107 right they have no room to judge

[@maggiecos2892]

Omgggg I experienced the Troll part alot with men. Ugfff. They are in denial about how they look or something. But they want Barbies and ain't even 5% Ken. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@vante9588]

I mean that's how it works. A man can make 100k, be 6'5, funny, interesting, nice, ECT. But if he sneezes funny it's a WRAP. Men have to meet way more metrics than women have to meet. But the few metrics that women have to meet hold a lot of weight because there are very few metrics in the first place.