✨🎀 Finding Your Own Style 🎀✨

[@hermenegildakociubinska6665]

How refreshing it is to hear someone talking about how to find clothes that make you happy and comfortable instead of how to dress to look sexy.

[@ginger_mcale9708]

When u want to look like 🌲🌻⭐🐸 but also 🌷🌈🦄🐇 but also 🕷️⛓️🔮🌙 but also 🔥🖤👟🎸 but ur just 🧑

[@lillyvalladares-macias]

Omg for real!

[@sucre4301]

Mood

[@xxratsrcutexx3494]

Lol same

[@ginger_mcale9708]

@YeeYeeJuice lmao

[@graced2701]

@@ginger_mcale9708 Be you Unus or Annus?

[@Jeremy-vu3ef]

my problem is honestly that i just really enjoy so many different styles and types of clothing and aesthetics? I'm very into the more kawaii side of fashion but also really into more vintage and earth-toned style, but i also really love more dark fashion and it feels impossible to really blend any of those together

[@lisaparamonova3664]

I have the same problem as you :( I also find that I jump between wanting to look more masculine or more feminine on different days, so my wardrobe sort of makes a spectrum between the two. I found this video interesting but not really applicable to me (I am open to advice! It just seems that way to me). Personally, I find that I go through my wardrobe, and if I can think of several outfits I want-and can make-combining the item with other items, then I keep it. I do the same thing when shopping. This way I don't buy stuff that I like but can't really use, even if they're nice.

[@ANME1rocker]

Pastels and black go so well together. Try mixing and matching your kawaii and dark fashion out. Maybe have some kawaii and dark color palettes in a vintage silhouette? As for the earth-toned style I'm not sure. I'm stuck on what to do with a dress that I love how it fits, but does not really match any other style in my closet.

[@-toriizaka46]

maybe larme kei??

[@arekoleo6598]

If its an earthy and cute style with also some dark colours, maybe try mori style? Its a mix of mori girl, which is kind of like village girl aesthetic with nature elements on it, so its usually earthy browns and greens. They also uses a lot of lace around if you like that. They have dark earthy tones too, so you're not always bright and peppy.

[@tasy4229]

I have the same problem and everything I heard from others is that you just have to 'sacrafice' some styles and accept that you can't have different aesthetics. I actually sacrificed most of my bright colored vintage clothes but I also kept some vintage things because I enjoy them so much. In my past I made the mistake to completely get rid of my 'girly' things which I really miss now for some mori girl inspired outfits. I think it's okay now to own different wardrobes and not be able to connect everything into one style. It makes you unique anyway:))

[@LexiLadonna]

I don't think dressing for your fantasy self is bad, it's the buying of clothes for a fantasy self that don't get worn that's the problem

[@collapsingnewpunkie]

This is the best and most in-depth video I've found on this topic..... and yet I still can't figure it out rrrr

[@martak2737]

@punkie my first steps were Anuschka Rees’ blog about this very topic!

[@Orange47474]

Me neither it's especially hard when your parents don't approve of the clothing you wear

[@Orange47474]

Or want to wear

[@senioracademia1947]

Literal

[@senioracademia1947]

@@Orange47474 literal

[@synimrumel5668]

“If you only want to wear 5 colours” *only wears black, white, and a specific shade of sage green* uh oh No seriously, excellent video, 10/10, very helpful :)

[@Nostalgiafairy]

At the beginning of 2019 I was so into lazy oaf and convinced that that was my true aesthetic but I’ve finally realized I’m just a vintage girl, specifically 60s-80s and I have an affinity for pastels. I’m still keeping some lazy oaf (like my bear front dress and puppy party dress) but only the stuff that fits my vintage look. I’ve had a vintage aesthetic since middle school but I always felt like I had to normalize it somehow or make it more “alt” and I’m so glad now I’m just sticking with what I actually wear! This video was great help as I’m currently going through my wardrobe so thank you for making this!

[@TheStitchess]

I love 60s and 80s pastel vintage looks 😍 but I get feeling that need to make your style more alt. It’s like even though we’re outside the norm we still feel like we need to fit in somewhere? I feel like lazy oaf was (and still is) like this “it girl” brand and a lot of us were drawn to them because it’s almost like a status symbol to have lazy oaf clothing in your closet... I’m glad you’ve managed to find a style that works for you and feels more personal!

[@storytellermillermiller1931]

I love vintage clothes

[@loeandbehold4808]

My style is supposed to represent me; someone who has given up on labels and gender and is just being true to themself and is dressing in what they like. The general themes of my clothing is yellow, nature, and comfortable clothing that isnt form fitting. The base line for my style really is showing who i am on the inside on the outside. I dont fit a category of people, im not an outsider like people think i am, im just me!

[@feathersoffancy8988]

That sounds!! So cool!! I hope you embrace that style bc that sounds amazing, but ofc do what makes you feel comfy... but that sounds so cool seriously

[@ingridw6150]

my underlying aesthetic is vintage eclectic 5 year old boy - coloured denim, bright graphic shirts, patterned button ups and windbreakers - lots of 80s and 90s pieces with lots of clashing patterns and colours but then i make them really cutesy with cute n colourful accessories. i also have a soft spot for any vintage neons - my sister just got me an 80s neon schoolkid backpack from Italy! anyway so yeah idk if my aesthetic is a real thing other than in my head hahahaha

[@ingridw6150]

vintage eclectic 5 year old boy meets club kid >____< or something

[@TheStitchess]

Vintage eclectic 5 year old boy meets club kid sure sounds interesting tho!

[@kurvavkasakkvister]

I haven’t even seen a picture but this sounds like it looks sooo cute! I’m not a person for bright or soft colors but I loooove seeing people in them like decora kei or pastel goth. I hope you stick with it and if not, you find what you want. Okay, I’ll shut up now.

[@unexpectedspider]

i also dress like this, but switch out the jeans for coloured checkered and plaid pants - i love clashing colours so much, especially if they're all one colour in an outfit and clash real bad. once of my favourites is wearing very different clashing pinks, so i have a pale burgundy baggy jeans and then a salmon pink jumper that my grandma knitted and the clash is just perfect

[@foggychurch]

i actually think my rapidly changing/unpredictable style (?) DOES represent me considering i recently got diagnosed with DID lmaooo but i like it, it suits us and changes depending on the day

[@ordinarysam1826]

I'm not a system, but I have seen a couple different systems that have different pieces for each alter ! maybe you guys could do something like that and figure out if you have any style preferences in common, so you don't have to buy as much?

[@Snowy_Weather]

I think that's a very good point about dressing for who your are and not who you want to be. Like I think fairy kei as well as lolita are super cool, cute styles that I would love to pull off.... but at the moment I'm just not comfortable enough to go full out in something like that. So I'm gravitating towards still really cute garments that are a little more...tame? And lots of pink, lol. XD I love soft pink. I'm coming out of a completely gothic phase because black suddenly made me really uncomfortable. I'm pretty excited to change my style, but from this video I immediately saw I might be going a bit too fast. XD In other words, really good video, I feel like I've gotten some excellent tips. Here's to hoping I figure out my own style soon. ^^

[@enchantedluna111]

Avoiding big expensive flashy clothes is a thing I'm doing xD Since my style is so eclectic and I'm experimenting what fits and colors I like from each style I'm sticking to lucky thrift finds >.> Amazing advices as always ^^

[@TheStitchess]

Thrifting is SO helpful when it comes to budget

[@willow_dearest08]

I’m actually creating my own aesthetic. It’s basically light academia x Royal core, but with more edge to it, and lots of gold and eccentric accessories.

[@recon441]

Dang I wish I had this advice years ago 😂 All I bought for a while were statement pieces and I could never settle on a style. I've loved Lolita, fairy kei, midori, yamikawaii, menhera. In recent years I've tried turning my whole wardrobe into casual cosplays of sorts, outfits based off of what I see characters wearing in anime. Now I realize that what I actually wear on a regular basis are one piece dresses and sandals, because it's hot around here and I'm lazy 😋

[@chanytell]

I have really struggled to find just one style I like I tend to have 2-3 that I really enjoy but that has caused a bunch of chaos for me when it comes to spending since I do have a bit more disposable income. So this will help me I feel thank you.

[@TheStitchess]

Been there! Maybe try to blend the styles together into something more cohesive?

[@bills1968]

Part of me forgot that I can have my own style. I’ve always tried to find my place in the alt community, but I didn’t think I fit any of them, now I know I can be myself without fitting in a criteria. Thanks

[@kaylaBreitinger]

My boyfriend said something to me that really stuck and I agreed with it so easily. Sometimes your niche is not having one. XD

[@babettewagener1859]

Drawing up a whole graph rn omg thanks I’ve been sooo lost

[@nikkiboucher8972]

I feel like as a plus sized girl I can’t really afford to look for what I like, because it’s so hard just to find anything that even fits :/ Even within plus sizes I’m big (5x) so I don’t even fit into stores like Torrid

[@theRealKira591]

Could you do a video just on basics? I always gear about them but I have no idea what they are and how I find the ones that best suit my style. Are they always plain colors? What should I look for in a basic? Is it just something that goes with a lot of outfits?

[@GeeseAreJustBastardizedSwans]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/rqK3kKWcotVgm68 this might help 💗. What i understand is that they're pieces that work well with everything and are pretty simple

[@fuchsfarben]

That's right, basics are pieces that can be combined with a lot of other garments, just like pizza dough that you can slap all kinds of toppings onto. Basics don't have to be a single color, for example: you have a shirt with a print on it that includes the colours pink, mint and yellow. You can combine it with a dress/skirt/pants that can be either pink, mint or yellow :) Basics are supposed to be versatile which often includes them being colourful as well. Single coloured garments lend themselves to be used with more "statement-y" pieces since they are considered more simple (f.e. a white blouse, black top). You can play with contrast as well, basic pieces really depend on your style. In my case: I like darker jewel tones and dark greens for tops, since I have really fair skin and those colors go great with my hair color and skin undertones. A good basic pair of pants therefore should be something that goes well dark reds, blues and greens; and to make the outfit a bit more interesting by adding contrast; should be a lighter tone = a light to medium grey (for making cooler toned outfits with the dark blues and reds) OR a light brown (to bring out warmth with the greens and reds). Since I'm not that much of a fan of patterns and colourful prints, I choose to make outfits more interesting through contrast/light+dark. I have a lot of washed out light jeans, so a good basic to show them off is a dark top. SinceI have a few black tops with interesting sleeve- and collar cuts I can switch the light jeans to being a basic item as well! (I'm a pretty basic bitch lol) I hope this helped you a bit :')

[@GeeseAreJustBastardizedSwans]

@@fuchsfarben I love my basics too honestly the cut of the clothes matter more to me than the minute details. I think the most statement like piece i want is a cropped hoodie with could shoulders but with ribbons laced where the shoulders are and tiny cat ears on the hood. Then some plaid and gingham for some middle ground.

[@theRealKira591]

@@fuchsfarben woahhhh that was really ensightful! Thank you so much! Im still a newbie in this part of life so I need all the help I can get ^^ also yeah that sugestion about lighter pants with darker tops now that I realise it, probablyyyy was why I loved my light grey jeans so much! (Also Im a hoe for highwaisted) Also could you elaborate on the colors that suit each skin tone better? Is there like a sience to it? Anyways thank you for the reply ;)

[@theRealKira591]

@@GeeseAreJustBastardizedSwans ooo yeah that sounds like an awesome piece have you found it anywhere or is it just from your 🌈imagination🌈?

[@ApoptosisNecrosis]

I'm kind of in a big transition period right now wardrobe-wise, I graduated college last year and started an office job several months ago so pretty quickly I discovered that I needed to donate a lot of jeans and t shirts and buy more business casual wear. I've found that some crossover between cottagecore and dark academia is a style that makes me happy and is also appropriate for my work where I am 5 days a week.

[@flamewhisker]

I've tried so hard to figure out what I want but i'm still super stuck. I've spent so long in just jeans/shorts and graphic t-shirts. I was slightly chubby and held most of my weight on my belly back when it seemed everything was very clingy. Now i've lost the weight and i'm super happy with my body, everything in the stores seems baggy and loose, which looks awful on me now. Plus, a lot of fashion out there in stores just looks so awful imo! I had a friend who says shes into fashion and she took me shopping and there wasn't a single thing she picked out that I liked. There wasn't really anything on the shelves that I liked. It's not even a "I don't like how this looks on me because i'm not use to it" no, its straight up "I think that looks like a sack of garbage on the hanger" My biggest struggle though is shoes. I could probably figure out something clothes wise, but I need to have the shoes to go with it. I live in running shoes or converse and the addition of black boots for some of the winter. I'm not a fan of sandals because barefoot, my feet just stick to them or dirt gets in them and they're just not comfortable. Slide-style sandals are okay, but the ones I find comfortable look like they belong in my mom's closet. I don't like any kind of skinny heel, i'll do a low block heel on a pair of boots and that's pretty much it (like what is on actual riding boots, not 'fashion' riding boots). Ballet flats give me a blister and plus, I think they look kinda ugly anyway. They make feet look really weird. And honestly, I hate the look of 'fashion' sneakers. So I just feel like i've eliminated every shoe option besides what I already wear. And I live in the south, so the boots are only good for a small portion of the year. Having worn my below-the-knee high, lace up leather boots (that I adore so very much) for a cosplay in august.... yeah, they are not meant for summer! If I could just hide my feet, I think I could figure out a new wardrobe. Butttttt I've gotta wear shoes.

[@rhythmandblues_alibi]

Have you considered Oxfords/brogues? I used to live in either my riding boots or sneakers and as I've gotten older I've found these type of flat shoes with a small heel to bridge the gap quite nicely and I have thoroughly adopted them as a key aspect of my personal style. They are also super comfy but better for your feet than sneakers. You can also get them with laser cut-outs for airflow in summer! Highly recommend 👌

[@chanelmsp98]

wait how do you only have 1k subscribers? your videos are 100k worthy

[@supernova622]

Closing in!

[@chanelmsp98]

@@supernova622 dude thats crazy I can’t believe how much she’s grown

[@talithacrow7530]

My style is just does it remind me of a witch? Then yes please, I need

[@shenenigans2037]

Another thing to bear in mind is what you need your clothes to do. Do you have safety rules to abide by for work? Do you have practicality things your clothes have to do? Do they need to be stretchy, or easy to wash, or accessible for any health issues? Watch out for clothes that Fantasy You would wear, but Real You wouldn't. For example! I'd love to wear more stiff blouses. Fantasy Eni rocks blouses all the time. Real-World Eni has much too active a life for that. I have to lift my arms over my head, run, carry heavy things, and get dirty for work. I can't wear stiff, tight blouses without ripping and/or staining them. Plus I have sensory issues and chronic illness things that make them hard to wear some days. So the one or two I own mostly stay in the closet. I've recently started finding some blouses that are softer, sturdier, and more flexible, so I can work in them. Anyway. That's my one added point. I really love this video, I come back to watch it as a reminder every so often. I feel pretty settled in my style at the moment, but that took me several years to do. I still appreciate reevaluating my style and how it's changed, and whether my closet actually reflects it.

[@Strangeness_coven]

My style- best parts of all alt fashion. At least, it will be when I get the clothes lol The style I wear bc I can't afford the fashion I want yet and I do still like a little- cute high fashoin or graphic shirts, leggings, maybe a skirt and always bright sneakers

[@eggmon420]

Record what you’re wearing Monday-Friday. Me: A uniform 🧍‍♀️

[@1DHHfan]

My style is very eclectic lol 😂 it’s also difficult because I have a bit of a dress code where I work and that doesn’t always work with my style. I have a bit of emo/goth/punk, boho, and vintage mixed into my wardrobe 😂 Also, I love thrifting in stores and on Depop since I’m a college student and it’s a lot better on my wallet lol

[@taylormylittleponylifeandm807]

Your style is definitely nostalgia😊💖

[@torivincent2961]

I'm somewhere between like, a pastel or Nymphette, and like southern gothic grunge? I'm very into the whole "dollcore aesthetic". Idk. I love gothic or punk accessories, with vintage and pretty, feminine outfits. Like a white ghostly dress with black platform boots kinda deal. It's super difficult to explain lmao.

[@elle7322]

maybe try looking into larme kei x)

[@Lure420]

it’s not that difficult you probably just love tumblr or pinterest

[@miaalmeida4787]

@@Lure420 i think the person meant that its difficult to find these clothes.

[@kiyomisnake8271]

Most of the time I just want to dress as a middle class victorian/edwardian lady, but I can't really buy such clothing in my state, so I have to sew it myself. I still don't have enough such clothing, but I'm working on it 😊😁 It is really nice to see someone encouraging others to be themselves, not the people society wants them to be ❤

[@sekar_exe]

Don't mind me I just wanna write about my aesthetic changes :] I went through some fashion aesthetic changes, from kawaii gyaru (and kinda goth) (2011-2015), to 80's/90's (2016-2020), and now I'm changing to the 30's-50's. The gyaru (and goth) were so unique! I got to meet people with similar liking, girls and boys! I used to do cosplay too during that time :3 My role models were Popteen and Ageha magazine's models, I got huge inspo from anime, vocaloid, and cosplayers. Honestly the goth thing was that I mixed the kawaii in clothing and accessories and goth in my hair and make up (THICK eyeliner lmao) so Idk whether to separate it or not lol I did both the same time. I had straight long (sometimes I cut it medium length) shaggy hair with thick bangs that ends on my eyelashes. I went to college in 2016. I moved to a pretty conservative city far away from my hometown alone. So I felt a huge pressure to fit in. But I don't want to look like anyone else. I've always been the tiniest among my family and friends, so I got a lot of used clothing from them that are good quality but too small for them. Many of them were bright colored shirts and floral (still vibrant bright colored) dresses, my dad even gave me his old baggy jeans. So I said, "vintage-inspired fashion it is!" My role models were Matilda from Leon The Professional, Pinterest pics, and cute girls on Instagram whose photos were not credited by the reposters... I had blunt bob with chopped bangs, and in 2019 I had pixie cut (and I still wore eyeliner lol but less thick) During that time, I learned that I love dressing vintage-inspired (despite the pressure to fit in because of culture and I'm an adult now so I had to look ✨professional✨ to the people's standard)! I've got people telling me I looked like [insert local 80's/90's celebrities name], which made me feel like what I've been doing was legit lol. But I want a slight change to that. I've been watching a bunch of vintage fashion KZbinrs, and I decided to try either 30's, 40's, or 50's fashion (or combination of those!). I find those era fit my traditional feminine personality in fashion, and quite easy to find the clothes to fit the era. I'm currently collecting the clothes for that now :] I'm glad I got some dresses from my grandma, and some of my 80's/90's clothes could pass as 30's-50's inspired with some little touch (really though, the newer clothes had big armholes that no matter what I do, I'd still be looking modern unless I smaller the armholes). I enjoyed it all so much. Such a rollercoaster for me but I love all of the aesthetics that I did and do. It's making me proud of how I'm still managed to be myself even under the pressure of the society. Some of my friends even tried to find their own aesthetic after seeing me being proud of what I wear :3 Thank you for making this video. Back then I used to wear whatever available in terms of color and size, and sometimes it really messes up the aesthetic. You really helped people who are still trying to figure out their aesthetic! (I can feel my 13 y.o. self squealing at your aesthetic! So cute!) And for those who are into aesthetic of a certain era, I highly recommend to research what fabric were used, the structure of the clothing, and the undergarments! Because it changes your silhouette a lot! Also the hairstyles! (I hope I can do cosplay again when I get on track with my life, lol.)

[@lilliecowan3797]

Finally found a guide to dress alternative! Thank you! (I like fairy kei fashion!)

[@sleeplessnight4738]

My family are kind of old fashioned especially with genders. Most of my stuff were bought or controlled by my mother, which make me usually by my own stuff when I'm out with my friends. My mom usually bought girly or soft clothes that's really not my style. Yes I like soft styles but every time I choose, my mom said I'm weird. I'm a genderfluid, leaning toward he/they more so I usually bought male clothes. I was berate by my mother and brothers because I shouldn't do that. I also have certain styles which were not accepted by my mother. I don't really know what to do urggh

[@Strangeness_coven]

Screw what everyone things, do what you feel is right and wear what you like!

[@Strangeness_coven]

*thinks

[@yeaesthetics3195]

my mother are like that too but i don't care i've been wearing hardcore goth for the past 2-3 years and even lolita now i think my family get over it already

[@liddellsoul3344]

Dude, this was so helpful! Thank you so much!

[@notjamin]

The problem though is that I feel just as much like me when I look like an emo kid as I do when I look like a unicorn vomited on me so like... I can't settle

[@mattyangelz]

scene or pastel goth is a combo of that!!

[@notjamin]

@@mattyangelz it is, and it's super cool, but it's not what I want! I feel more comfortable in either extreme than I do in any combination

[@probablyjustanotherhuman8714]

thats a whole ass mood, I like pastel kawaii vibes, goth, retro vintage and lolita - I've accepted that my warbrobe is just always going to be in completey separate parts. depop and charity shops are a saviour for my bank account lmao

[@yeaesthetics3195]

i knoww rightt im a goth but im into lolita aswell so yea, u can tell 😂💗

[@badgebunny87]

You’re amazing. I Love to sew, have lots of patterns and can sew up a pattern in no time. But the reason I wanted to learn wasn’t to copy patterns, it was to make things that my high school self wasn’t allowed to wear or couldn’t afford. Finding your channel has been very valuable. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@sydneycottrell6742]

just bought a notebook and am looking forward to doing that closet planner idea

[@lovesport4123]

i like your top its really nice and suites you

[@shrooms219]

This really helps, thanks! I don't know much about clothes and/or style, but I believe I wear more goth clothes. I want to move over to a watered-down decora kei I think!

[@beccab2151]

What I want to wear and what I actually wear are very different because I feel like I don't have the body or whatever to dress how I want.

[@magickaldust1213]

Loved this, so helpful for those who don't know where to start!

[@BG_NC]

This video made me realize why all of my attempts at changing what I wear have failed. I wear tshirts and shorts or yoga pants or sweats or skirts in super soft, smooth fabrics because of sensory issues and because they're easy to put on when depressed. I keep buying things that i like but take a lot of energy to put on, or feel awful on my skin, so I barely touch them. I need to focus more on the way the clothes feel in order to find the aesthetic I like!

[@MiniNymph]

Outfits I wear regularly: pyjamas. Is retail therapy not a valid way to treat my depression?

[@Zinetha]

Very helpful! Maybe I'll finally be able to determine my style, now that I don't have to name it..

[@adamsransom]

When I got my current job, I bought so many new pieces of clothing for the person I was hoping I would turn into. Now I'm working on identifying what I found so exciting about them (nice fabrics! Coordinates! Look polished!), and how I can apply that to clothes I'm more comfortable wearing.

[@yeaesthetics3195]

i've been a goth for the past 2-3 years now, but these days i felt like wearing cute outfit, but im afraid of changing because it would be too drastic ._. any suggestion? n is it normal for a very dark aesthetic person to change into cute-ish all of the sudden? i felt weird with myself but i like soo many cute things these days weirdly

[@RogersJimmy-n4q]

I'm a guy, I'm into men's 80's trad goth which is not a Japanese fashion. But lately, I've been getting into fairy kei boy style. I really cute things, and pastel colors like light purple. I just have to figure out how to mix the two. There is pastel goth, but IDK about it. I find it very ironic that even though they are completely different, both fashions are centered around 80s fashion.

[@chaotickreg7024]

I want to look kinda wizardy or witchy but it's hard because all the old druid clothes were draped and impractical for me. Going to the store looking like Merlin is just too much. I guess I just have to slowly gather up bits and pieces and let it all come together naturally.

[@floralfancy7814]

You seem like my type of gal. I love your style and personality! I feel like we have a lot of similarities.

[@blaisegirl420]

I feel so seen with the polly pocket comment - like literally my dream wardrobe is fail-proof 😂

[@spookiestgecko]

My issue is that "my style" is many conflicting different styles soo idk I'm still lost .. sometimes I look like a grandma/first grade teacher, some days I'm the Disney girl, sometimes I'm goth, and commonly I like obnoxious clothes and idk any better way to express that, for ex I have a b/w stripped shirt with a dripping rainbow that I'll wear with a neon green smiley choker and purple leggings and white combat boots 🙃

[@Active0Bserver]

Your videos are a lifesaver! Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us ;u;

[@breathe4778]

This video is soo wholesome that it only has 1 dislike. ICONIC

[@daemonskycloak6818]

-I wear jeans and t shirts -I don’t like just wearing jeans and t shirts -As a man I’m not sure what else I can wear on a daily basis. -I like button up sweaters but it’s only cold for part of the year. -I guess I like comfortable and nice looking clothing -I don’t like suits or button up shirts or polos -Lately I’ve been putting together a male witchy Pinterest aesthetic board but it’s very erratic as that doesn’t really exist without getting goth or punk looking. -I think that’s the style I want to wear though if it exists. -I’m always jealous that women get so many style options while men get jeans and t shirts. That’s not saying I want to wear feminine clothing either I just wish something else existed that was masculine but different.

[@greenteaismydestiny1887]

I've always felt like that too. While women have lots of options men seems to have waaaaaay less. I guess you can play with fun sweaters, with different shapes, investigate the style you like and find stores that seem to reflect it most. Good luck, I don't know if I was even helpful XD.

[@lunasees7580]

You can look up K-fashion / J-fashion for men cuz boi, there are a lot of them. Oh, also, recent J-fashion (that I know, at least) is leaning into a more unisex approach cuz they love baggy outfits.

[@yeaesthetics3195]

maybe u should look up to what male kpop idols use (?) because their fashion is so diverse and still look masculine in my opinion

[@talithacrow7530]

I got kicked out, so most of my clothing is unfortunately gone, but thankfully I left some of my clothes at my partner's which is where I live now. I also have a very specific style I wear, which is basically a mix of dark mori and 90s romantic goth. I need several long black skirts in different patterns and textures.

[@princess1salima853]

This video is helpful I’m trying build a Kawaii wardrobe it will build up maybe have to order it✨

[@senioracademia1947]

I looove your video. I just want to ask, what do you mean by the two selfs part, I mean, this kawaii style, surely this isn't "who you are" ? It is just what you love and want to be or maybe even just what you love and want to look like. I am just confused, it is normal to not dress to show who you are, but to appear valid and appropriate and this changes to every place. It would really help to tell me how your style resembles who you are? And if it doesn't what the idea is ? Thank you ❤️❤️

[@KarolaTea]

Ok, wearing lots of different styles is difficult, but any tips on how to make it work without needing a wardrobe that's too huge? I tend to flip flop between grunge-ish (t-shirts, hoodies, jeans, baggy style) and victorian inspired-ish (long skirts, ironed button up shirts). I love both styles, ideally I'd have items that work for both, but they seem so opposing to me, in colour (aside from black lol), silhouette, and texture. Anybody any tips? Great video though, thanks! :D

[@blackwing97]

what if you added details of one style to the other when you wear them? like a small grunge accessory with a vintage outfit or vice versa. if you mix the styles, then you can re-use more of what you have. you also have a more cohesive, unique style.

[@KarolaTea]

Yeah, that might work in some cases, and mixing styles is certainly something I do haha. But I also quite like to have "pure" outfits of one style, esp when it comes to elegant vintage. Accessories are easy enough to switch out, and don't take up much physical wardrobe space so I'm less concerned about them. But like, the basics? A nice ironed vintage button down shirt (let alone one with poofy sleeves/fancy collar) is kinda the opposite of the baggy/chill style. Or at least I don't know how I'd work that in, or which basic garnments could fit in both styles. I'm less concerned about having a unique, cohesive style, I'm neither unique nor cohesive myself after all ^_^

[@rhythmandblues_alibi]

Okay now I want to see the starched Victorian shirt and skirt with bustle, with a flannel shirt tied around the waist 😅👌

[@KarolaTea]

flannel shirt apron? :D (tho tbf flannel shirts are one of the things that I think works both for nice vintage and a more casual modern style ^^ )

[@rhythmandblues_alibi]

@@KarolaTea yes pls! Love me a flanno 🙌

[@atr0phaneura726]

i don't know if ths works with goths, since we only usually wear black... maybe some purple red green orange here and there, or white... but I guess it could be cool to focus on textures instead of colors in this case?

[@storytellermillermiller1931]

What do you think of a cute nerd style? With occasional lolita things thrown into accessorize? I love vintage but I'm not able to go full lolita because while I like vintage the skirts of lolita just isnt me.

[@lunasees7580]

So basically "cute, vintage, librarian look?" Sounds p neat.

[@storytellermillermiller1931]

@@lunasees7580 not exactly

[@seanelmlinger1198]

For better advice, that is very correct.

[@Guiltttrippp]

Very helpful. Thank you 💕

[@camilla79]

This is really helpful!! Thank you so much!

[@kurvavkasakkvister]

I haven’t finished the video but I responded to some one then realized I have a really big problem; I love black, blood red, and dark purple everything (Victorian Era for bonus points) but I also find Decora Kei accessories to be the most adorable things. I’m not into bright colors but Decora Kei takes it to a new level especially with the mainly homemade accessories and I’m here for it. What do I do?

[@kurvavkasakkvister]

This doesn’t seem important to add but I’m kinda caught in emo music because I can’t find any goth music. I love goth music but I don’t know what to listen to. This is easy to infer but I very much enjoy dark classical music as well. I understand I am most definitely alternative but I don’t know how to go for that style I want.

[@lilpumpkin3772]

My style is a cute and lazy girl in a cozy sweaters, that meets a sexy stripper lol Actually, im very cute at fall and winter (maybe with some sexy details), but when summer comes i go from "yes, ma'am" to "your son calls me mommy too" in a moment and it confuses people around me Upd: also, I wish I was more edgy-looking in a punk/goth side with some neon on my black clothes, but I don't want to give up all the interesting colours and solutions I love and usually end up buying casual clothes, but with some edgy accessories in it.

[@rowanh2699]

That was an adventure to read, I’m not complianing

[@eslle7481]

In winter/autumn I wear my favourite dark/soft goth clothes but when summer comes on I can't wear it and I look like everyone else :((((

[@ciarancooper394]

Here's something I struggle with: I could do this if summer didn't exist. But I HATE the way I look in summer clothes. I'm a bit bottom heavy and soft and my body doesnt look very masculine unless I layer. So I look horrible in the summer and that wardrobe is entirely different from what I wear the rest of the year. The other main thing I struggle with is fit. I'm just NOT shaped like how the fashion industry expects me to be as a man. It makes it especially hard to thrift. Any tips for overcoming these challenges? I know it's probably outside your realm of expertise because of gender.

[@Essfffssfff]

I'm still don't sure which style I want to wear. On some time I prefer nu goth. On other days I feel more forthright (if that's the right vocab) and like to wear grunge. On other days I feel more girly and lively and wear cute pastel clothes.

[@djterry1218]

I want pastel cozy w/big boots

[@shio5234]

This is most helpful video I’ve found but my issue is most of my time I am at work and the styles I like are good with accessories and it’s too inconvenient or the dress code is too strict. So I have some really good outfits and a few basics but as I change with time they can only sit in my closet :(

[@maralenah3825]

What do you do when you feel like wearing a different style every day and can’t decide which to commit to

[@sta._rina]

Have a few basic pieces that can go with your many styles, and then keep a couple of statement pieces in the other styles you like/wear. :)

[@miaalmeida4787]

make an outfit for each style u love

[@kurvavkasakkvister]

Me, comfortably dressing like fucking Jojo from Horton Hears A Who: Also me, *looks at Victorian Era inspired, Dracula-esk clothes*: Damn, I wish I wore that. *{𝚃𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚊 𝚌𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚑𝚎𝚕𝚙}*

[@JennyLeigh2001]

I just finished having kids (3 within 22 months each), and now that I’m out of my “breeding” phase I really want to get back into “me”. Right now I’m stuck in the Leggings and Baggy TShirt phase. 😬 Just need my baby to get out of the “smearing food all over me” phase 🙆‍♀️

[@dagmarmedabrejlova8825]

i think im done with this phase of trying what i like, but like combining different cuts and accessorizing and putting everything together each time is difficult and exhausting, because i have a creative and not so simple wardrobe

[@pan_you_respect_me9015]

My closet is mostly sweaters- I think I can spare to buy some more clothes

[@leannabeale9227]

I'm a hotel housekeeper so I wear a uniform but I wear a large bow in my hair bc I'm like a schoolgirl lolita.

[@jimmyvictus7305]

My aesthetic is bisexual girl who likes every single style so i wear them all mixed in with basic cuffed jeans and vans

[@neredan1182]

well what do i usually wear.... jogging pants and basic shirt. 😅

[@daemonskycloak6818]

Anyone know where to find men’s t shirts that aren’t plain or striped or graphic tees. I just want to find some dang patterned t shirts but it’s like they don’t exist.

[@oliviawa1000]

But if I keep buying statement pieces eventually I will only have statement pieces and I will achieve my true goal of looking like an insane person on a daily basis

[@shae3361]

I'm wearing these clothes because I'm in quarantine not into them

[@ubime2333]

Tmw u wanna dress visual kei but all you have in your closet is lego t-shirts, leggings and one (1) frisk sweater from 5th grade ;w;

[@DasOmen02]

I disagree with this video, though I also vastly detest the fashion culture since it always felt a bit snobbish and wank BUT I thought it'd be interesting to take a look into a culture that I don't like to try to understand it! I clearly don't feel any different about it, but you seem like you really know what you're talking about, so good video! Just not my thing :D

[@tilolikesratz]

Literally the best dislike ratio ever no joke

[@insertgoodusername6981]

I've wanted to wear a lolita style but I cut my hair boy short and I feel like people will think its just weird or it clashes styles. 😢

[@insertgoodusername6981]

Could some one help?

[@talithacrow7530]

Lots of lolitas wear wigs, or you could go for a more punk Lolita style, or I know a lot of goths like to mix Lolita one piece dresses with gothic makeup, hair and shoes

[@insertgoodusername6981]

I would wear a wig but my mom doesn't want me wearing wigs especially not to school 😢😅

[@talithacrow7530]

@@insertgoodusername6981 Lolita generally isn’t meant for every day

[@talithacrow7530]

@@insertgoodusername6981 I would not wear it to school, also you could just start growing your hair if you want

[@Estelle9405]

Think about the style you wear day to day Me: haha- uhhhh bad joke t shirts and an unhealthy amount of shorts……… Most of my clothes are hand me downs, mainly from my dad, hence the bad joke shirts

[@savannahmcginnis787]

3:40

[@chille3744]

I wanna look like 🔪💀😈🥀💕 lmfao anyone else??

[@emilypeterson8817]

Are you an INFJ? 🤔