They’re ‘not ready’ for you (but are for someone else)

[@xiaonanz9411]

A best friend of mine just told me recently that when she went on dates if the guy says he is not ready for a relationship or just wants to go with the flow, she just picked up her phone and re-download the dating app in front of him lol! Now I literally hate the phrase "not ready" in all aspects of my life, including myself whenever I feel not ready for something... So unattractive...

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

whatsAzpp him ☝️..

[@davidsisson2026]

I recently told a woman I was not ready and I was not. Even with a nice woman. I would be doing both a disservice.

[@cooltoonist]

Here's how I spin this narrative. You were simply not broken enough to stay with that partner. If you were healed in your personal boundaries, you would have no temptation to stay. You wouldn't tolerate it. That means the next person they're dating is broken enough for that jumper. You will be ok. I'm sorry that person monkey-branched, but now they have a new victim. It's not a "better" situation since that jumper has not healed their relationship honesty issues. They found someone whos too enabling of their relationship honesty issues.

[@insyiwinsyi]

oh my

[@marynorth235]

When a guy says he's not ready for a relationship, it means he's not ready for a relationship WITH YOU. He will be Friends With Benefits with you though, until he finds the one that he really wants.

[@Larissa-of3qt]

i f a man is freaked out of a relationship its a huge turn off for me as i am attracted to BRAVE men! Freaking out means fear. If a person can't even deal and rise above their fear, it's a huge turn off for most women! Women like strong men!

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

whatsAzpp him ☝️..

[@GJ-pj4mj]

"why setting yourself up for hurting?" this hits hard AF. I used to do that... but I discovered a new me this last year, where I after sensing the real intentions of two different men I decided to step back. Tho, was hard and painful... I felt relieved.

[@k.w.1459]

“Suddenly” is synonym for secrets and details that you weren’t aware of

[@nancydrew1835]

Ive been through this, learn from my mistakes, LET THEM GO and dont let me them come back if it doesnt work out with the other person!

[@SusanWinter]

🤗

[@janefaceinthewind6260]

Susan, your subjects are SO different from all the other dating specialists, and they are all so, so important!! Love it to pieces! So creative and deep and wise, and so incredibly inspiring! Thank you

[@SusanWinter]

Hello there! Jane, thank you so much for your sweet words! If there is any topic in particular you want me to speak on, let me know!

[@noellabella05]

@@SusanWinter what about the “he’s just not that into you” subject. (When they use words to reel you in, but don’t want more than physical and I see the women gaining these deep feelings now. As they believe all the words). Seeing this extremely much, today.

[@s0ulquarius]

Something like this happened to me a few years ago. It still stings when I think about it. In my past situation, I walked away from them after he disclosed how he really felt. I never heard from him again. Susan, you’re spot on. My past person had someone else and I think they were always there, but he finally made it official with the other person once I ended the relationship with them

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

whatsAzpp him ☝️

[@lisellesloan3191]

Susan, could you do a video about how to talk about defining your relationship, and setting boundaries with your partner--without sounding overbearing, risking scaring them off?

[@SusanWinter]

Have you searched my channel for boundary videos? I have quite a few!

[@SkedgySky]

This lady keeps it real. 💯 Unbelievable content and truth.

[@SusanH4626]

Awe that poor woman, how heartbreaking 💔. He was planning his depart and cheating.

[@SusanWinter]

I agree with you. I don’t think it happened “suddenly.”. I think he was planning on leaving the entire time and finally found the opportunity to feel safe with the new woman

[@jartotable]

Yep. I finally worked through karmically what I needed to learn from my ex and now it's the next girlfriends opportunity to learn hers with him. 😂

[@SusanWinter]

Wow, brilliant, so happy for you. Thanks for your comment

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

whatsAzpp him ☝️..

[@roxie7453]

She is not just rich as the new one. Sad truth

[@sammielisabeth4928]

I have just been through a situation where I was the tool to make my partner's ex jealous (unbeknownst to me) and it worked. This guy absolutely lovebombed me when I was in a vulnerable stage in my life and roped me in. As soon as his ex caught wind that he was in a "relationship" with me, they came crawling back and I got dumped. Yikes. Still licking my wounds from that experience.

[@dmalina3]

The most painful experience 😥 I know, it's ego, but still

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

whatsAzpp him ☝️

[@mochiwaffles]

When he started to pull away about one month in (texting less frequently, not initiating dates), I told him I wanted to break things off because I want more than he can offer but then he said he didn't want to end things he just "feels pressured" and wanted to take things slow instead, I agreed to give him space but I doubt if this is going anywhere...

[@thisgustin]

26:46, reminder. Well said SW. Invokes self reflection for me here. "Don't want the other person MORE than what YOU want." 38:23-38:57, this is what seems like what happened.

[@cherbug1197]

Topic is spot on to what recently happened to me, my mind won’t let it/ him go. 🙁

[@kyamitchell7620]

Susan, I ended the relationship (open relationship initiated by my partner) with my partner. I'm a bit sad, but I feel like I released a lot of stress I was feeling during the relationship. Thx for the advice.

[@josenavas9968]

Ms Susan; Howdy. Pretty much got to that point and I agree with her. So I told her "go ahead only the best for you" It was way better than to argue and plead..

[@adriennesamantha]

I think he obviously liked the other woman more, he wasn't interested enough in the first woman

[@dangfd551]

33:40 wow wow wow! Susan this is great, so validating to hear this

[@Mememememe2024]

Missed this one. Will see it tomorrow! Wishing you the best of the best in 2022 dearest Susan!

[@SusanWinter]

Hope you enjoy it! Happy 2022!

[@alexflips393]

So how & when do you define the relationship. I think that could be a talk all of it's own. Happy New Year Susan.

[@womenwhodate7643]

This is my favorite channel. I especially like it when you explain everything so nicely ❤️ I wish you a lot of success with the channel and happy life.

[@SusanWinter]

The same to you!!! May you have a delightful and blessed 2022!

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@mlantieri]

Happy New Year Susan !!!! I am ready this new year for someone who is ready for me. No more frogs, just princesses like you!

[@tinishawashington9110]

I am totally convinced that this woman is an angel who asked God for the opportunity to come down to earth and help people I believe he wiped her memory allowed her to suffer because he knew she would teach I'm so thankful for her

[@SusanH4626]

Great advise! You really are the best, if I end up in a relationship will definitely be calling you for help!

[@SusanWinter]

Hopefully, you won’t need my help!

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

whatsAzpp him ☝️..

[@dfamzdsign2495]

Cant thank you enough for helping me see clearly. Exactly the advice i desperately needed to hear the most at this very moment.🙏🏼🙏🏼😭😭

[@Sarafara7]

The more I watch your videos, the more I realize I do have a fear of being clear with what I want. I’m not sure why, I’ll ask my therapist haha. I learn so much about myself watching your videos and lives. Thank you so much for all you do 🙏🏼

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@satyapersaud1488]

I greatly appreciate your insight and advice on the importance of communication. This is key to so many things and all forms of relationships. Bad or simply lack of communication lead such negatives and avoidable issues. Thank you so much as always!! ❣🙏

[@janefaceinthewind6260]

This feeling of loving someone but not having the spark is something I experience right now. It is heart-breaking, but it just can't work if there is no spark, no passion, no electricity. I'd rather be alone than constantly being reminded of the passion of my previous relationship because this current situation is so muted in comparison. It's just not right. I feel like an empty balloon in this relationship, the entire feeling of being in love and elation is literally not there. The problem is, I told him and he won't have it and tries to talk me into "undoing my mental block" because he thinks I am feeling all these great things deep down but just don't have access to them. It comes across as controlling. Susan, that is the "new guy" I wasn't attracted to for your information, you once gave me great advice with regard to this and I am so grateful! I am trapped and stuck with him, he won't let me go. I just want to run because I can't breathe...! I need to be strong and put the foot down. 😢

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@janefaceinthewind6260]

Happy new year, dear Susan, you are amazing and I wish you love, health and happiness for 2022! Much, much love

[@SusanWinter]

Hello dear Jane. Thank you so much and wishing you a fabulous 2022

[@catlue7006]

I love you, Susan❣️🙏🏻✨🌞 Thank you so much for all your advice and wisdom.

[@arbitrarylib]

I think thats what some of my past partners should have said, moving too fast or too slow.

[@StellaPastLife]

for Nicole Huron. The fact he said it was weight shows what a low grade human he is. Also to ask you to be his girlfriend and then uturn shows he is not in touch with his emotions. He doesn't know who he is and what he wants. Also don't be afraid to say" Shame because I love every inch of my gorgeous body and you're not getting any! I moved to italy from the UK I'm a size 16-18 uk size. I'm 56. And had a 10 year younger italian lover very quickly. In italy overweight doesn't exist, it really really doesn't. It's very very cultural concept of beauty. I've had nothing but compliments in italy, stopping traffic, people asking for my number from the age of 27 to 90. In the UK no -one looked at me. Here, I realised my true beauty. Size doesn't exist.

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@lunanera23]

I love you and your wisdom Susan! ❤🙏🏻

[@tinishawashington9110]

For anybody reading the comments trying to figure out if this video is worth watching I don't get paid to tell you yes and to click the subscribe button!!!!!!!

[@zenmaiden1]

Happy New Year Susan! Much love and thanks for all your sound thinking you bring to light so many things! Never stop learning ! Clearly expressing your rules or boundaries is so key.

[@SusanWinter]

Zen Maiden! Great to hear from you and happy new year. I feel so very lucky to have you in this wonderful KZbin family. Thank you for your ongoing support and your warmth

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@BryanPablo6270]

Belated Happy 2022 Susan, if ever you come to Australia I would be interested for a consult in person. Thank you again for your wonderful insight for all of us♥️🙏 always learning something from you

[@jaana944]

Happy new year Susan!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for everything you do ❤️

[@SusanWinter]

You’re very welcome, my dear! Have a wonderful New Year!

[@dmalina3]

Great topic and awfull situation

[@SusanWinter]

I hope you found it helpful!

[@lovetodaylisa3967]

I never want to fall in love again

[@tinishawashington9110]

You should totally watch more of her videos because that's how I felt but now I do want to fall in love again I just want to be smarter about the choice of man that I pick I also want to take more time and I don't want to be such a settler it's okay to settle on some things that aren't big to me but I had to make a list of things I do and I don't accept now dating is easier because when you do the things on my list I simply tell you that you're not my type and it's been fun dating again

[@avaj2825]

I hate jerks like that. Why don't their reputations take the "shame hit" Like the woman that was lied to sexually assuuted (false pretenses) and abandoned. Humilliatin and emotional abuse,at the very least. Why do they have to be a psychic

[@ab.-]

One of your best vids, gz Susan

[@elizabeth-ty3he]

Bangs are great on you

[@zeezyu]

YOURE ALWAYS ON POINT OMGG

[@avaj2825]

These Men make me sick!!!

[@ronbittel1367]

"Crawl over glass" ? No one is worth that.

[@SusanWinter]

💯

[@brit4632]

Can you make a video on why men want to take it slow and what to look for in determining the remark it will be official one day. 🤔

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@cherylross393]

He found the woman he wanted.

[@irenerouse3163]

Can hear everything

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for this. I’m not sure what happened there Irene. It wasn’t until I saw people starting to say that they couldn’t hear me but I realize there was a problem. Then thankfully it was resolved

[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@olayemi02abayomi62]

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[@pamelav.5699]

Maybe someone else paid for everything!

[@طريقنوراللهومحمد]

Bonjour je suis Yousri de Tunisie bien ✌️👌👍

[@SusanWinter]

Hello there!

[@cosmoskittyeleven8017]

He was cheating on her the whole time she was his side chick

[@catlue7006]

💖

[@adriennesamantha]

The other woman was more exciting 🤷‍♀️

[@valerie6834]

💜💕💙🧡