Is It CHEATING If… | Micro-Cheating, Emotional Cheating, & Their EX | Dating & Relationship Advice

[@sarafonfria]

Thank you Susan for another great video. Everything that you say is always so helpful and you have helped me so much throughout my relationship with myself and others. I thank you very much for everything that you do. As always, you look gorgeous ☺

[@SusanWinter]

Aww. Thank you @Sarafonfria. I really appreciate reading this. Thank you so much for watching the show and joining in if you saw it live.

[@zenmaiden1]

Betrayal of the trust bonds is one of the most painful things to experience. Makes the relationship harder to navigate without trust.

[@SusanWinter]

Hello dear Zen maiden. so great to hear from you, and especially to see the photos of you so happy with your partner. Yes, betrayal erodes the bond of trust. We can no longer feel safe and secure with our mate.

[@imwatching2960]

"It isn't harmless if you're being harmed" THIS!!!!!

[@SusanWinter]

It’s a simple outburst on my part, but I think it’s relevant. Always pay attention to your feelings. They’re not coming to you to bother you or to be insignificant in any manner. It is your inner self trying desperately to communicate with you to tell you that something is wrong.

[@imwatching2960]

@@SusanWinter thank you Susan for your wisdom and kindness. It seems simple but took me many years to be able to understand, then openly tell that I'm being harmed in relationships and in some cases more years to move on.

[@ChrisLT]

If you gotta stop and ask, then probably! Grew up thinking cheating just meant sex, until I experienced emotional cheating and that was even more harmful in some ways. Anyway, nice to see the show come back!

[@SusanWinter]

Hi Chris, and thanks for your comment. That’s why I titled the show as I did. We all understand physical cheating. And you, unfortunately, have had to experience emotional cheating. That detour of vital information and emotions that should be shared with the partner yet given to another is very painful. It feels as though you are excluded, because you have been. So it’s unfair to be in a primary position yet treated as second position.

[@debbiewitthoft5339]

Glad your show is back!

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you, Debbie

[@Kitsune_Kits]

Thank you so much Susan! Your videos always come at the perfect timing 🙏🏻🌷✨️

[@SusanWinter]

I really appreciate you watching the video and for your commentary.❤❤

[@rijd2304]

For me, I had to remove a lot of inner guilt and shame, and start setting strong boundaries and sticking to them. It was hard, super hard, but worth it. I like that mindfulness book called 30 Days to Overcome Guilt by Harper Daniels.

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for the share.

[@SimplyNobel]

Was looking forward to this one... almost Emailed in myself! Haven't yet watched it but will do now 🙂

[@SusanWinter]

I wanted to cover the "gray areas" of cheating because that breaks the boundary of trust, safety, and security. Often times a partner will try to escape responsibility by claiming that we are insecure, reactive, or jealous. So to differentiate between feeling uncomfortable because that is our default, as opposed to "oh no, I know that something is up" is the task at hand. Looking forward to hearing your response after you watched the live show.

[@Malithi-P]

Hi Susan!!

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you for chiming in. I had a horrible problem with no audio. This is a pick up video, but we were able to answer everybody's questions. The tech Gods had their own agenda on the first attempt.

[@jeanp.1303]

Nikka is cheating on me? 😮 😂 … Hugs to you both 🤗 🐾

[@SusanWinter]

Oh no, Jean, she would never cheat on you. On Mulligan, maybe. On Cane, yes. Remember, Cane left her waiting in the park for an hour. And certainly she would cheat with glee on Pierre. He's a prissy little poodle with a superiority complex-but NEVER EVER on Jean P!!!!

[@jeanp.1303]

@@SusanWinter Hilarious 😆

[@mint_soup9743]

He didn't care to make me feel welcome (consistently), safe and secure. I suffered greatly from a half hearted commitment with a wishy washy man. Never again.

[@SusanWinter]

Mint soup. I am sorry to hear this. It sounds like you are on the other side of the pain and clearly aware of what you will not tolerate in the future. Congratulations on knowing your boundaries.

[@karostrand]

Sorry but where do we get to the point maybe time stamps would be good..

[@grandmabetty1]

Is seeing a sexworker cheating?

[@SusanWinter]

Did your partner speak to you about this first? Have you discussed if either one of you goes outside the relationship-How would it be done? this is a conversation I would prefer to have via a consultation. There are some couples who make allowances for a professional sex worker. It would be occasional, and it would be agreed-upon by both parties. The reason for using a professional is that there should be no emotional involvement and it is a separate physical act only. I’m not saying that this is a directive for you to follow. I am just telling you what some options are. You need to discuss the parameters of what makes you feel safe and comfortable with your partner.