Things Not To Say To a Sex Worker

As a sex worker a lot of what you hear might be unrepeatable, but these nuggets they share raise eyebrows for a different reason.
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[@calianon7137]

"It's portrayed either very tragic or very glamorous, there's no realism." 100% Yes yes yes.

[@malizachicas6217]

This comment is SO on point ! that's why i took the initiative to create a channel talking about the reality of the industry, the good , the bad and the boring lol feel free to check me out !

[@kuggacouragegx6093]

True

[@petramullooly1010]

Maliza Chicas I’ve said forever we need a show that’s like the office but for strip clubs/sex work

[@ShaleeSheen]

I'd love to have the blonde one as an aunt that comes around every full moon and tells stories of her adventures.

[@jaimeerivera8217]

ShaleeGold - Only every full moon? I’d prefer to have her as a full time aunt, she isn’t a novelty and has feelings too 😘

[@jenniferclapham6539]

Jaime A. Ramos it was just part of her joke calm down

[@2wenty2wo41]

i'd like to her has an aunt as well but not for the same reason ;)

[@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed]

ShaleeGold SAME

[@liamdoes8580]

ShaleeGold Nah more like a step mom ;)

[@AAA-vf2qr]

"Do you do family discounts?"

[@justkittensbeingkittens5892]

XD

[@DelPiero-us7su]

Buy 1 get free haha 😂😂😂

[@jediael9906]

SWEEEET HOME ALABAMAAAAA

[@halfdeadminah5857]

Hell nah 😭👏

[@ayrmont]

Hahahahah xD

[@psychoooocat]

"I run my own f*cking business" yep, literally

[@jimshoe6699]

"Sex worker"....is this the 21st Century politically correct version of " Prostitute?"

[@Rat-ld8xu]

Jim Shoe and what about it?

[@dennisbarnes9317]

@@jimshoe6699 don't worry it's not going to last forever

[@GreyPunkWolf]

@@jimshoe6699 Sex worker is a more global term, that's why it's used. People don't really see the soft parts as sex work, like escort or domination, or even webcams. Because there's a lot of social stuff on top of the sex stuff, hence the confusion. Which is why sex worker is mostly used since people don't think prostitution when they hear these things, when it obviously is.

[@shanemcgruddy1744]

@@Rat-ld8xu saying gotagd she I'm in Hamiltonet .wknowwhere tocome

[@contradictortea6509]

The girl in the masquerade mask is really cute omg

[@Matt_Mosley1983]

only one

[@pennycampbell725]

She sounds like she has a French accent ^^

[@Charlzton]

I think it's Italian

[@des-astre]

Penny Campbell French accent is ugly ! :c L'accent français est laid !

[@des-astre]

thejewbirdsuperior Why ?

[@Metal_Dragon_]

I’m surprised they didn’t say “Do you have STDs?”

[@lemongrabloids3103]

0 0 actually sex workers are far cleaner than the average civvy on the street. If they are a reputable person they insist on condoms, which they provide for themselves EVERY SINGLE TIME and they get tested every 12 week’s compared to the average once a year of a non sex worker. Think about it, sex is their income, if they catch something that’s their income gone for at least the time it takes for an infection to clear and forever if it’s something incurable. Dumb ass

[@puptaort]

Suzie Peaches nice misconception 💕

[@puptaort]

Suzie Peaches how would you know? i dont think you’re educated enough on the matter to say what they do and do not have, in plus a lot/most of them use condoms anyways.

[@puptaort]

Suzie Peaches jesus, are you twelve?

[@puptaort]

Suzie Peaches dude please speak in with punctuations- its so hard to read what ur saying.

[@cindyayt]

For the next one could you do things not to say to someone with acne?

[@lerani002]

Cindy yes love that idea!

[@oliviah5651]

YES! That'd be so interesting. Great idea! x 👏

[@Kittysoccergirl]

Yes I was just thinking this!!

[@Gemma88marshmallow]

"All of your spots will go away if you drink more water" ERRNRHRHHGHGHGHGHHG NO

[@cindyayt]

"You should eat more healthily" I already do, "Stop eating chocolate" tried it for 2 months, does fuck all, "Go see the doctor" please, I'm already on my 5th trial of antibiotics and topical creams, "Stop wearing makeup" yeh sure, that will boost my confidence, "Your spots look painful" tell me something I don't know... There's so many things!! Acne is a lot more complex than they think, so most of the time the advice is useless or I've already tried it. Also what annoys me is when someone who doesn't suffer from acne gets a single spot and cry's about it.

[@redrosella]

I think next you should do 'Things Not To Say To Someone With OCD' because there are so many ridiculous stereotypes associated with it!

[@theoneanton]

Rugs Rule Like "OMG I am OCD too, I just hate having my cereal boxes not arranged properly"

[@redrosella]

And "Everyone is a little bit OCD" That one kills me.

[@michellepaige4005]

Rugs Rule "everyone is a little OCD"

[@katherinep3610]

It's when people use it as like a personality trait like 'I'm SO OCD' or 'This hurts my OCD' like it's not a bloody quirk.

[@joannagriffiths9405]

'Your house must be really tidy then'

[@platinum_noelle]

BDSM isn't abuse, telling a woman her choice isn't valid because of your opinion, and degrading her for it, is.

[@bonniemoon6790]

It is valid, but it's a valid mistake and shouldn't be encouraged.

[@raptorcharly8055]

This. I don't get why some people are so bothered by what other people are turned on by.

[@LP-ii3vy]

where the hell is Jack when you need him

[@SplatPaintz]

CONSENT

[@stephanieimboden7219]

Preach it for the people in the back 👏

[@NeepThePeep]

Comments here pissed me off. There's nothing wrong with paid sex or selling sex IF it's consensual. If someone wants to pay money to be spanked or flogged or tickled, let them, it's their choice. If you love sex why not turn it into a job? If it was decriminalized it'd be a lot less dangerous too.

[@TheeSarahI]

NeepThePeep So it's okay to be in the job of prostitution

[@NeepThePeep]

if that's what someone finds fulfilling, yes.

[@emmae9924]

Princess Pony Kitty Heart it's ok to be a sex worker, yes.

[@supersaiyanjay4504]

Princess Pony Kitty Heart Yes how is it not?

[@martinspelunker2994]

Well, the reason why people have such strong opinions about these subjects, is that it's literally illegal in a lot of countries. People will then ofc side with the law and adopt the thought that the thing is wrong.

[@sprousedoze]

do a social phobia/ social anxiety episode!!!

[@joeldope98thrashed52]

Renata Pedro self harm type

[@artski09]

get over it

[@greenone6209]

Renata Pedro I don't think people with social anxiety would take part in this 😂

[@sprousedoze]

Azaea I think it depends of the person and the environment. But yeah it makes sense, I would definitely not do it.

[@greenone6209]

Renata Pedro yeah I wouldn't lol

[@GeminiSucker]

Things Not To Say To A Stay At Home Mom

[@arancator6961]

Hi Uraraka, I agree

[@Ruzovy_]

Well when is the rest of the characters gonna come? We have uraraka and torodoki...

[@user-gc9pq7zg9i]

Or stay at home dads, less people expect that so the questions are more obscure

[@breannasosa-lopez2009]

@@user-gc9pq7zg9i ooooh thats a good one! Stay at home dads probably do get ANNOYING questions!

[@talamicastroud7151]

They really do. When my husband was a SAHD, even our families had a lot of negative things to say about it. But to be completely honest, he's way better at being the SAHP than I am.

[@psyckojoe]

Nothing says "I'm not ashamed" like wearing a mask to hide your identity.

[@izzy2201]

psyckojoe it's not being ashamed, it's to protect her identify from people who could use her career against her. Or she may not want people in her personal life (like her family) to know

[@romanpixie]

When people stop murdering us for our work then maybe we'll be more likely to be open about it.

[@slimboyfat9409]

Probably doesn't want some psycho Joe type recognising her.

[@scrubfiji4691]

Romany Latham well then don’t do it

[@ChickenTendere]

Oh you have 69 likes...if you dont get my joke well then

[@REAPER1818666]

Can't tell the difference between BBC 3 and BuzzFeed anymore

[@ohemdoublegee]

It's that copyright-free ukulele music for me lol!!

[@freckledandred]

I can't tell the difference between BBC 3 and BBW

[@BluntSpeaker]

😅😅

[@tomnotthomas8152]

BBC 3 is actually good

[@reedcollick4716]

BBC 3 is more structured

[@James-hf6cr]

Pikachu boy looking like a snack

[@lingo5552]

y'all remember that one vine nice pfp

[@smallworldslife4470]

An std riddled snacc but none he less a snacc

[@Chelsea-ny5yx]

An absolute snacc

[@andyzhang7890]

Oh. Thought that was a girl. Then I got to the part of the video where he speaks

[@1trillionviews516]

That's a dude? Damn!

[@dennisstaughton7474]

"All my men are great... unless they WANT to be losers, and then...." Love her.

[@ann6878]

@Robbie Amadeus Stoly Bruh you good? 🤣 It isn't that serious.

[@melissaalexandra9593]

I think sex work is ok if you're 18+, if there's consent, and if it's safe. I think this is a legitimate job. I can't even imagine the difficulty of being a female dominant. Think of the handicapped that want to get off, sex work is helpful! I wouldn't ever do it but it shouldn't be a dehumanizing job.

[@eggplant270]

Mel T the grass is green the sky is blue

[@flowergirl287]

^^^

[@sarahl3721]

I'd say it's a small minority of the handicapped that "need" a sex worker to get off...

[@marissaojeda7517]

Almost every job sucks. If your naturally someone with a high sex drive then sex work is a fun job.

[@sarahl3721]

Having a high sex drive does not mean you want to have sex with anyone who will pay for it!

[@kidbasic2330]

"Everybody should be doing this" Asexual umbrella group: Uhh...

[@flossiecarter5409]

Kid Basic I laughed so hard lmaoooo

[@renfort3925]

actually, asexuals just don't experience sexual attraction they can still want sex and enjoy it (obviously not all to but not all allosexuals want sex either). So in a way sex work is good for asexuals because the attraction is not necessary. Also some asexuals, myself included, are kind of disconnected from sex and don't see it as a big deal and so wouldn't have a problem with it.

[@unknown_bitch6734]

@@renfort3925 Im aro ace too... I agree with everything you said... Im not into sex and I don't ever plan on having it, but what you said is absolutely valid...

[@renfort3925]

@@unknown_bitch6734Definitely a lot of asexuals don't like sex. I was just pointing out that not all. I personally am, like i said, mostly indifferent to sex and sexual related things (partly from being asexual and party from being an artist i think). I'm aro ace too, maybe grey-a though not sure.

[@unknown_bitch6734]

@@renfort3925 Yea... I get it... Im personaly not into it... But many aces to have sex... Its different and confusing when you are looking at it from the perspective of an outsider I guess... Its hard to explain...

[@louisemclean2973]

Things not to say to someone with eczema

[@joeldope98thrashed52]

louise mclean or schizophrenia

[@reanne02]

louise mclean OMG YES I WOULD LOVE THIS

[@NancyDrewsClueCrew]

"Did you get sunburn on your arms?" No, they always look like this, thank you very much!

[@reanne02]

"What happened to your arm?!" gets old real quick ._.

[@kenzie9200]

louise mclean yes omg girl i was thinking the same thing like is that contagious

[@BMarie774]

My unpopular opinion is we should legalize it, and make it so it's a much safer environment. Regulate it. We could make it safe for both worker and client. But we choose not to.

[@MsBrendalina]

Legalizing it hasn't worked out that way. In countries with a generous social safety net (like Amsterdam and Germany) there aren't enough prostitutes to meet the demand because fewer women have to choose between being homeless/starving and selling their body. So most of the brothels in those countries traffic women in from Eastern Europe and Asia and force them into sexual slavery. Legalizing prostitution leads to increased demand. And if there aren't enough willing sex workers to meet that demand, than pimps will find a way to exploit vulnerable women (and children) in order to fill that gap.

[@meems4378]

MsBrendalina so what’s the solution? And I’m not patronizing here AT ALL. it seems like we have trafficking either way? Could we regulate better? Could we put more controls in place? opinions on that? (Seriously asking)

[@mitchjanssen8691]

@@MsBrendalina Amsterdam isn't a country, it's the Netherlands. We have more prostitutes than you would think, bus yeah, some of them are forced into it.

[@mollygrace3068]

Luckily in America, we still have plenty of poverty, so it shouldn’t be a problem.

[@SomeOne-lo9bt]

sex work is legal in my country unless you aren't a citizen.

[@Aron-ru5zk]

“I’m pretty much open to anything” “Well I’ve got a strap on over there” “Onnononononnon”

[@ryanhowe1681]

The blonde dude with the pink gloves is crazy cute.

[@thesilentangel8915]

Ryan Howe Find him and book a session. lol

[@Jadedgems]

Ryan Howe yeah call himm up ;))

[@coryssg4763]

I know

[@tahirahmajid5558]

Ryan Howe Yeah I know right

[@spookysoup9]

Ryan Howe I would totally pay him 😂😂

[@dragonsember]

golden rule: if you dont like prostitution, dont be a prostitute, dont hire a prostitute. they couldnt ever care less who does and doesnt approve of what they choose to do with their lives and their bodies, and anyone who does just needs to put it out of their mind and mind their own business.

[@romanr.301]

Yes! A lot of people also don't understand that a lot of sex workers are in fact advocates against forced prostitution and human trafficking. They want to take the sex industry out of the shadows-where a lot of the atrocities that are an unfortunate reality for many forced to work there are allowed to persist in the first place-and ensure workers have access to proper sex education, health care, legal protections, licensed brothels, and above all, the removal of stigma that does nothing to help sex workers or those forced to be, but only makes it worse.

[@snobbyt]

That is honestly the most ignorant thing i have ever read, this could be applied to so many other things of which im sure u would disapprove

[@dudexoxoxo6837]

if you don't like sexism/racism don't be sexist/racist, don't support sexism/racism just mind your own business. Misogynistic Racists couldn't care less who does and doesn't approve of what they think with their own minds.

[@rainbowflowerpower4464]

I totally agree with Dog Meat, I also believe that consented sex work is empowering for women, we have been shamed for our bodies for such a long time and we have been made to feel wrong for being proud of our curves and prowess, I women’s body is beautiful and if someone wants to work it than why not, to see these women unapologetic for being confident enough with their bodies to work in a field like that is inspiring

[@kittydollsxo189]

People can say what they want

[@luclaan8165]

Are you being forced is a good question because a lot of people are But still people won’t tell it anyway

[@FlashySolution]

“Are you being forced” is not an unreasonable question to ask.

[@runchrandaismydad4419]

I joke around all the time telling my friends that I’ll join sex work for the “easy” money. I feel like doing such an intimate activity for a career, working 7+ hours will ruin the moments when I’m doing those same, or similar activities with a romantic partner and take away that excitement. So... maybe not. Absolute 100% respect to these people.

[@pinkdiamonds9137]

OMG YES! Clients always say "I'm open to anything" then as soon as you suggest something mild like a strap on, it's all "oh no no." Hahah so real

[@TheB0sss]

PinkDiamonds I don't think a strap-on is mild, but they shouldn't say they're open to anything

[@rainbowflowerpower4464]

Maybe they said that they’re open to anything to imply that they want to be more adventurous but then at the time time they’re not sure how to go about it so when the strap on comes up that hesitant side comes out

[@Pond721]

A strap-on isn't even close to mild, it can actually be quite dangerous and is not what most guys consider when saying that.

[@lotusflower_]

Lmao im bi so i mean i would enjoy more than the standard boring dick in a vajajay.

[@EmperorOfChaos]

Maybe they are straight?

[@hannandersha]

This was great, and I never understood people looking down at sex workers. I mean it's a service, if it's not for you then just don't book a session

[@Matt_Mosley1983]

you have a great name :-D

[@roselily9036]

they fuck people for money and spread STD's great work

[@camluver414]

I'm a sex worker, its not always just sex , cam girls , strippers, topless massuses. and condoms do exsist

[@camluver414]

and lazy ass?. we do alottttt of work , stay up for hours on end. its really not lazy

[@papasephora2200]

Devan Rhodes We don't all spread our legs. I've worked as an escort, and I tell ya, it would be weird if a man, like me, spread their legs.

[@jupiter5821]

Some of these comments below are ignorant and disgusting. Sex work is the oldest profession, don't know why y'all acting so prudish. Fabulous ladies

[@RezPlease]

Agreed!

[@user-ev5gj8xe2b]

3,316 years! :3 Can't believe sex work is still SO taboo. >~

[@mirandaih0p]

Nicole Benvenuti, amore If anyone here lacks respect its you. You have no respect for other peoples independence and free will. You have no respect for other peoples privacy. You don't respect others enough to accept that they live and think differently than you do and to mind your own business. You don't have enough respect for others to not insult them simply for having a different outlook on sex work. You are the definition of disrespectful.

[@jupiter5821]

I have respect and value for myself, as do these ladies. How about you mind your own business

[@ilre4eva320]

So you wouldn't have absolutely not a problem if you children or partner/ husband was a sex worker, prostitute, porn star etc, right?

[@justing7490]

"Hey I'm a sex worker, but don't ask me anything about my profession" How is asking someone what they charge considered rude? My hvac guy doesn't get pissed when I ask what he charges...

[@malizachicas6217]

Yea i never understood that either lol ppl are sensitive when it comes to financial class or status iguess

[@maxyb3914]

I'm late but the thing is unless you want to buy from them you don't have to know, they're stigmatized enough already, wanting to know their rates just to get mockery or a judgemental response is a waste of time on their part

[@justing7490]

@@malizachicas6217 that is a concept that has been pushed by corporate management. They love having their employees ignorant of each other's salaries because it makes contract negotiations much easier if the employee doesn't have a number to compare their salary against.

[@Desimcd]

I bet because they charge different rates to different people

[@coena9377]

It’s worth noting your planning to pay your hvac guy. I’m sure they’re less defensive with people who are genuinely trying to solicit them and not just being judgemental.

[@mattdavis6732]

"Are you being forced" immediately jokes about people who are forced into prostitution "lol k guys but fr help those ppl"

[@sofia-bp9js]

I disagree with that women at 0:14 , she might not being forced into sex work but there's thousands of people who are!!

[@unoriginal_name4576]

I think people are misunderstanding the 'are you forced' question. They are being asked that personally, and are not downplaying or ignoring that it happens to other people. But it is rude for strangers to assume someone must be 'forcing' them to resort to such a career or that their must be some tragic reason behind their job. I don't think it's something that shouldn't be asked though as it does happen too often. But it must be annoying to get 'concerned' people acting like sex work is never consensual when they are open about their work.

[@wormywave2220]

🙌 preach

[@kuggacouragegx6093]

No they aint

[@deannskin]

Things not to say to someone with acne

[@KFC_Official_]

Deanna "You should try proactive" I hate that so much.

[@zaria6979]

Them-"Have you tried washing your face?" Me-"Yes(sigh)" Them-"More than once a day" Me- "Just stop"

[@alannas7702]

Yeah. I honestly think this is a great idea. It's like people don't understand that a lot people with acne have tried like a million different things. It just hurts when they're like "You need to wash your face," or "Do you pop them?" OMG that annoys me so much.

[@dipsheets]

Deanna d o ne

[@zom3g]

They've done one

[@paulaalvarez7334]

people, there is huge difference between sex work and prostitution, you should inform yourselves before talking

[@angelwood7729]

Paula Álvarez yeah I don't know much but I can tell

[@pooinsky]

umm ..no it's not a huge difference, prostitution is simply a form of sex work

[@boogiemeister9581]

Umm, how 'bout you explain it now sweetie.

[@paulaalvarez7334]

Magnificent Man basically, this people are not forced to do it and it is a personal choice, when in prostitution there have been a lot of cases of people that have been cheated and forced to work in prostitution against their will, it is my point of view, how I see it.

[@jeremyburch5251]

Paula Álvarez lol

[@leeleemerk7344]

bruh...this is fuckin wild. just cause they enjoy and have a fun time doesn’t mean that all sex workers are so liberated and having such a great experience.

[@joa5641]

"Sex works gives me time to go and make time to enjoy the countryside with my HUSBAND." What?

[@Cassxowary]

What? Some are in relationships, married, have kids...

[@Hippu95]

@Paul Gibbons why is it wrong? Porn actors can be married and have children, butchers can be married and have children, soldiers can be married and have children, teachers.... why would sex work be any different?

[@zizi9028]

@Paul Gibbons I agree actually.. Iam not so religious but I agree on this one..

[@Rat_Queen86]

Yeah, she has a husband. Why is that surprising?

[@joa5641]

@@Rat_Queen86 lmao four years later and i do sex work☠️

[@animeloverxxl]

amazing video. I don't know why everyone is tryna get all upset. I'm not a sex worker and I think it should still be legal

[@pennycampbell725]

Based on the comments, it's like consensual paid sex should be treated like murder. Hmyyyyyesss, clearly the same level of harm being done, folks.

[@animeloverxxl]

rape doesn't have the consent of both parties. You know what I meant, don't say dumb things just to be funny

[@jdoll8211]

OverLoad Issue then u should stop speaking

[@annahopper6411]

+OverLoad Issue it's not rape ya dumbass

[@furqueue9590]

That's because you don't understand what it really is, you don't understand sex trafficking, you don't understand what being beaten and raped until you are broken or forced to take heroin until you are addicted and will fuck strangers to get it is like. You don't understand what being fucked by 40 strangers a day is like. You don't understand that they target vulnerable girls and homeless women. If you understood this you might not be so quick to endorse a practise which ruins womens' lives

[@digitalg3nocide]

At the end of the day,they're not hurting anybody. If they want to do it,its their choice. It's for nobody to criticise.

[@user-od4zo1ow6d]

It spreads disease and it’s gross.

[@lg5872]

@@user-od4zo1ow6d if you dont like sex work, then dont go to a sex worker! easy as that!

[@ibraxiv-_-6653]

they're hurting their parents reputation and hurting what could potentially be their child

[@MariAnimates]

@@ibraxiv-_-6653 how do you know that? Do you know their parents? Do you know if they want kids? Do you know them?

[@trinitybourne658]

Wasn't the one with her face covered in the 'Things not to say to somebody who has been sexually assaulted' video?

[@jasmineramirez7526]

but fr, isn't that her?

[@greenbanana4518]

right??

[@eggplant270]

Trinity Bourne dont think shes trying to hide her identity

[@finbees]

Im thinking the mask is to stop you realizing that

[@b115-v9q]

yes she is 😞😑

[@swindle2345]

"With my husband"

[@averyemounicorn5567]

Well yeah, it's not like she's cheating. Sex work is still work, as in it's a job, and many sex workers have partners who understand and accept that. As long as her husband knows and is okay with her doing this, it's not cheating, and there's no problem with it :p

[@plocus3592]

That's just wrong

[@smallpotato5445]

Yes :) I mean it's rather encouraging that sex workers can get into relationships too

[@ARPat2000]

the level of beta radiating off that dude would be insane

[@Emma-ux8qg]

swindle2345 I read it while she said it

[@mustbeaweful2504]

The blond lady with the floral shirt at the end should write entries for: "Things not to say to someone struggling with their sexuality." I know this is all in a light spirit.

[@lis_mayakovsky]

the dude with the pikachu hoodie is too damn cute.

[@ferna2294]

I´d bang.

[@timopeters995]

He gay

[@MsVorpalBlade]

Lucky you.

[@ervinm.5065]

I though he was girl, I was so disappointed when I heard his voice

[@zawarudo7646]

Jack Archer lmao what

[@thatoneedgykid]

Here's a rundown of all the comments so you don't have to scroll: 1/2 of the comments are saying how the people in this video are either immoral, just bad people or stuff along those lines 1/4 are people encouraging it 1/4 are "OMG pikachu boi cute uwu"

[@emilywhittle1420]

As a sex worker I approve this message ✊

[@gabewright5571]

Some of these comments are amazing and supportive and I love it but some of them miss the point entirely 😓

[@carefull8365]

Ikr

[@gabewright5571]

@Bia L i posted this comment a year ago are you really gonna make me watch an entire video again to respond to you

[@corvidae2741]

@Bia L the point is that sex workers are human beings, and quite a few of them chose their career path because it was the best option for them. Alot of sex worker aren't even forced to resort to it, they genuinely enjoy it. The idea that sex work is vile or less legitimate than any other career comes from Puritan or Christian ideas that sex is terrible and people who enjoy it are bad. But sex workers are just people, not evil sinners, and they deserve equal protection and regulation. That's the point. Sex workers are people who often enjoy their job and don't want to have it stigmatized or punishable by law.

[@mothnightingale7004]

“you’ll never be in a relationship” i’m dating someone right now. she supports me and my work. thankfully i’m not in a position where my sex work is for survival, but it is almost where it could become so. we need to support survival sex workers just as much as we do high-class sex workers.

[@unknown_bitch6734]

👏👏👏 Im happy for you... I feel like everyone can have a partner if they want one and if they are in a relationships without lies...

[@randomsambero]

I’m a Proud sex worker who makes middle class wages. It’s a difficult job, it’s physically, emotionally and psychologically taxing. You often have to be very physical, and you have to deal with your customers emotions and feelings including some very manipulative people. Sex work allows me to pay my bills, pay for school and have time for school as well as having down time to be a young person and have fun. Sex work allows me to not only survive but to live and thrive. Help sex workers, tip your strippers, pay for your porn, but your dom a gift.

[@SageOfThunder]

Imagine thinking sex work is a legit occupation

[@tylergriffin6062]

The guy in the Pikachu jumper was adorable, I really wanna know where he got the jumper from tho 😂😂

[@sanibabie]

Some of this ain’t it because ppl are genuinely forced into sex work...and it’s a serious issue?

[@indianajosephine4881]

Exactly

[@ryzeup5654]

ppl always seem to skip over that part and forget abt it but then push this false empowerment over women selling sex to men to survive...only in western countries man loll

[@ajhaslam947]

They did mention that though.

[@ReplyGuy22345]

RyzeUp but they mentioned it

[@kristall5928]

People are more commonly forced into prostitution. Sex work is a very wide umbrella. Everything from porn stars, sugar babies, escorts, or people who sell nudes are all considered sex workers. So no. Most SEX WORKERS aren't forced. It's mainly a problem with prostitutes

[@Thehonestperson]

Sex Work/Prostitution in New Zealand is legal, and I'm happy about that. I don't see why people who are paid to give a service are imprisoned. So long as it's two consenting adults over 18 who aren't being forced into it, there's nothing wrong with it. Nurses, doctors, lawyers are paid to do a service and are imprisoned.

[@welcometoyourtape3961]

“Because I run a SEXesfull business” it’s affected his English I died

[@BaiZoo]

Surprised “BEGONE THOT!” wasn’t one of them.

[@JEWELANDREEA]

this is the oldest profession of the world and people still act like this so outrageous, it's night stands but you are paid, so many people are like this is disgusting and who'd do this and more bs.....they are seen worse than killers and rapists ???? it's their bodies so what does it matter to you?

[@ahhwe-any7434]

the way ppl r conditioned to believe...or rather behave... behind closed doors, most r hipercrits! I don't specifically mean always buying sex, I'm saying most are not even innocent. I guess don't hate the players, hate "the game..."

[@megan6017]

It is the oldest profession because for years we have lived in a patriarchal society where women did not have a choice so they had to sell their bodies to get money.... dumbass

[@leiaahlswede4485]

No it wasn't outrageous throughout history. Prostitutes used to be highly respected. Now theyre treated poorly weather they decide to go into the profession, ( which is really none of our business ) or are forced they get equal treatment. Hell, even pornstars are more respected. And that's a form of a sex worker.

[@lillybatty1553]

Andreea Jurju it matters cuz those people make it matter to them just cuz they want someone to hate on #HatersBeReal

[@_idekanymore1319]

Love hearing people from other countries saying "what a load of bollocks!" 😂

[@MiguelDLewis]

“How was your childhood?” They avoided the most important question for a reason...

[@mjzudba801]

It's likely they played kiss chase every single damn day

[@MiguelDLewis]

@@mjzudba801 And probably not voluntarily...

[@lustrousandlovely6847]

No because its such an insulting question to ask a sex worker. There are people with shit childhoods who never became a sex worker.

[@MiguelDLewis]

@@lustrousandlovely6847 It's not insulting to ask a doctor, firefighter, or plumber about their childhood.

[@lustrousandlovely6847]

@@MiguelDLewis No but it is insulting to just ASSUME a sex worker has a crap childhood just because shes a sex worker.

[@kstubbbss]

This is brilliant! I have so much respect for sex workers, everyone in this video seems beautifully independent and in love with their work. Keeping paid sex legal is so important as it creates a better working environment, people have been paying for sex for thousands of years! Criminalising the act wouldn't change the desire for it, only damage the safety of the workers.

[@trip2themoon]

They can lie to themselves and say they love it but they are so full of shit. I know a girl who used to have a profile on Adult Work, we used to buy hash and grass from the same person. She was 21 at the time and I doubt that she loved having balding, fat 50 somethings grunting, sweating and wriggling about on top her. Other than that yeah, amazing job and amazing punters.

[@kristenrose5775]

trip2themoon Just because you think that girl doesn't enjoy it doesn't mean all sex workers don't. It's like saying that I knew a gay guy that said he's okay with women but I'm judging that he's not.

[@trip2themoon]

LOL, what are you talking about? I know first hand the kind of dirty old men who frequent escorts, so unless dirty old men is what they are in to then they are full of shit.

[@emmae9924]

Kate lots don't love their job. I'm a sex worker by the way. Doesn't mean you shouldn't do a job you don't like.... cause that's most of the world.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

I wanna see the contrast in idea's & opinion's from ppl in the US ...😁😂...that's pretty much illegal out here...

[@leokolas3993]

"enjoy country side with husband"

[@Dank_Hill]

leO Koolas *WAIT*

[@yeet1296]

I'm assuming her husband is fully ok with this lmao

[@Matt-ve3ql]

“How’s your relationship with your father?”

[@oreos6539]

the girl the mask was also in another bbc video called "what not to say to someone who's been raped" yeah.

[@lyricbot8513]

Your point being...?

[@mekelreen9869]

Ted Jones that some people get into the business because of trauma and it’s not wrong to acknowledge that just because it upsets the ones that just want to get paid for having an orgasm?

[@godlessbtch3284]

@@mekelreen9869 you are assuming she went into sex work bc she was raped though....???....

[@misspopcoin2204]

She was likely raped after she became a sex worker. Men think that because a woman is a sex worker, that means they can do anything they want to her with or without consent & there would be no consequences.

[@mooka415]

Rachael Rixon98 you don’t know so just shut up

[@topazstars7734]

Tbh I respect these people. As long as people are happy with themselves then I support it.

[@dedman3815]

Not saying that these people are lying (they seem quite happy, and good on them for that), but would you support someone who says they are happy with themselves, when they really aren't?

[@lydiai7691]

see i would agree but i can’t help but think of the effect “pro-sex work” has on the majority. these women are a minority of sex workers who have a choice. the majority don’t.

[@connorsucksatgames2263]

"What is your relationship with your father like"

[@FQMoyo]

Things not to ask a sex worker: anything, aparrently.

[@hookercorvettetv2443]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@alimkale]

things you should not say to someone with Anxiety

[@wendyfan8071]

Yesss!!

[@wendyfan8071]

Dont think about it

[@noor-wb5kc]

It was a risky one deciding to watch this video with my door wide open and my mum in the next room

[@wendyfan8071]

😅 same i lowered it before pressing play

[@Lanatoohigh]

the boy was so cuteeeeeee 😂 I would totally go up and hug himmmm

[@freyjellytots]

Should do things not to say to people with Invisible conditions. Like fibro and CFS

[@thefriendlyaussie8167]

What are they?

[@alexjun6285]

YES. Especially EDS. Even doctors can be mean to people who have invisible illnesses...

[@morgandavies2302]

Y E S I have lupus and people just think I'm lazy

[@talacocheta9001]

+The friendly Aussie - Fibromyalgia is a nerve disease and CFS is chronic fatigue syndrome and they don't really know what causes it. (People with both should be properly tested for Lyme disease and toxoplasmosis. I had Lyme before I was diagnosed with fibro.) +Alex Jun - Ask your doctor to test your vitamin B12 level at least once a year to make sure that it's not low. Many people with EDS also have a "rare" autoimmune disease called pernicious anemia which causes low B12 and other things. It's similar to lupus, but many doctors don't take it seriously. Also those with Marfan's should watch B12 too. My sister almost died from pernicious anemia when she was a teenager because she wasn't diagnosed, and I have it, too. (Our grandfather died from Marfan's.)

[@alexjun6285]

Talacocheta I was actually refering to my brothers who have EDS but at different severities, and ever since they've gotten diagnosed, we've worked with a handful of doctors after at least a year; they thought the youngest was faking his pain because they supposedly couldn't understand the reason behind it. Considering he's really thin, it's terrible for him to even move about as he used to, so he has to do physio as well.

[@danielfoerster3416]

i love how the program is "BBC" and the topic is sex xD

[@thetinmaamfromozthemagicdragon]

Gargantuan, African-American set of male genitalia

[@rb8165]

“Get a real job”

[@xhellabentx]

One that last all night long all night

[@djsoundztv823]

is what they're doing even legal ? did I just hear the lady at 1:18 say she has a husband ?

[@pennycampbell725]

Wait, are your two questions linked? Because yes, sex workers are human beings with relationships.

[@musti1665]

...

[@djsoundztv823]

Penny Campbell So women are now selling their bodies during the day and hanging with their husbands during the night.. what has this world come to.. sorry Im just a little shocked

[@r_travel4306]

red ranger santos what has this world come to? It's been that way for hundreds if not thousands of years haha

[@Charlzton]

Adultery isn't illegal in the developed world... and many men are fine with their wives doing sex work. what has the world come to when a woman can't do what she wants with her own body without being judged by a patriarchal society?

[@toniniskillz6608]

“Is your dad dead or he just doesn’t talk to you anymore?” credit to IF PRES1DENTN1XON

[@matthewmassey1697]

Don't do that. Don't credit people there

[@ospreytalon8318]

4:34 Love the double meaning 😂

[@hasinaashraf9332]

"sex work gives me time to enjoy the countryside with my husband" very good.

[@alannas7702]

I'm not a sex worker, but, in my opinion, it would be awesome if this exchange occurred. Random Person: "Why don't you get a real job?" Sex Worker: "I just don't see why I should quit my CAREER."

[@missshady1760]

RsLeonardo1 I have plenty of options. I can be whatever I want to be. But I chose sex work! I get paid more than you do, my daily pay would be more than your fortnightly pay. So... yeah.

[@bonnie6493]

Alanna S yase

[@ontariohappenings]

I would say, "Well support my KZbin channels so I can make ad revenue along with everyone you know and share my videos. That will be my new career. Perhaps I will make enough to go to school and do something else too."

[@ninadegroot9819]

"I run my own fucking business' haha, nice one

[@Girl-101]

Nina de Groot it is a business and the tax man sure thinks so

[@caden926]

“YOU MUST DO SEX WORK!” Lmao 😂

[@kashidean6874]

I liked this video because it gives a more realistic insight on what it's like to be a sex worker. Plus, this proves that the only thing sex workers want is for their job to be decriminalized and that many people who choose it actually enjoy it, which is something that I have been debating with people who are against prostitution for a long time. All in all, a very fun and educational video.

[@boneswilson2121]

Things not to say to people with depression

[@eksquisite]

just be happy lmao

[@magnesiumoar9644]

@@eksquisite hahaha!

[@LectronCircuits]

How about, "During such an interlude, do you ever have really bad gas?" Cheers!

[@postit5725]

Things not to say to alcohol drinkers Things not to say to smokers

[@xyakori7909]

That smokers thing, do that

[@r_travel4306]

at the end of the day, smoking shouldn't still be happening. I don't really care if I offend you, you're killing yourself, that's not ok.

[@postit5725]

Leo Grace im not offended, i appreciate that everyone has their own opinion, that is what it is

[@r_travel4306]

Post it I'm really not the type of person to argue but is it really an opinion that smoking kills?

[@postit5725]

Leo Grace yep and im perfectly ok with what you think

[@jeanniceferrier3418]

*WHAT THE SCIENCE SAYS* : In college, we were taught in neuroscience classes. There are three ways to determine sex: - *genotypical sex* : determined by one's sex chromosomes. (XX= female, XY=male. However, any chromosomical abnormality in this pair will lead the individual to be identified as *intersex* . - *phenotypical sex* : determined by one's internal and external sex organs/functionning. - *psychological sex*: determined by behavioural displays of gender identity based on psychological and *social constructs* . It isn't necessarily correlated to the individual's hypothalamus' cyclic activity. This is the current scientific consensus in a nutshell : *biologicaly, there are male, female and intersex individuals. Gender indentity is only based on psychological and social constructs and is independant of one's body.* It's up to you to base your opinion (whatever it is) on this information or not. (ps: the gender we were assigned at birth was based on our genitalia's outter appearance. If ambiguous, children usually undergo sex reassignment surgery and are assigned with the sex their genitalia most ressembles. Genotype isn't usually investigated. In some cases, disorders only occure on an internal level and the genotypical abnormalities remain undiagnosed until noticable symptoms are displayed.)

[@laurak2971]

I don't understand why they portray it as silly and not a big deal. Ask any prostitute how many times they've been raped, or beat up or terrified. Then you might change your mind.

[@willcoleman2458]

This was really eye opening. I live in the US so since sex work is illegal here, I always thought of it as immoral. While I will never book a session, and it's still pretty weird for me, I don't see it as immoral or for losers anymore.

[@mayamorton3178]

William Coleman Prostitution is illegal not sex work there are many forms of sex work

[@soldyD]

I'm surprised they didn't ask "Did your dad leave you when you were a child??"

[@mirilondondrift]

"Sex work gives me time to enjoy with my husband" WHAT the actual FUCK

[@tristan4206]

"are you forced" all workers are forced to work. by capitalism ⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️⚒️

[@ginger6readspaceman]

Lmao I mean true 😂

[@crazycookie4645]

Well you could always become a freeloader.

[@pellabologna]

@@crazycookie4645 except you cant, because then you starve

[@CopperScott]

"Do you enjoy it?" THAT offends you!? NO ONE can ask if you enjoy your job? If you wanna be treated like a regular person then answer regular questions. Or better yet get an actual job.

[@romycartiere7088]

Which it is.

[@henrysawyer3051]

Something with a lower murder rate

[@henrysawyer3051]

And less chance of STDs

[@henrysawyer3051]

And less creepy clientele

[@kaydenhagg6924]

@@henrysawyer3051 well i guess women should be forbidden to work alltogether? (i'm a trans person btw)

[@nathanielturner2577]

Wasn’t that a hippie motto back in the ‘60’s ,” Make love , not war”?

[@sjgee9925]

Things not to say to an artist? I'm thinking like "can you draw me?" "Can you draw something for me? What? I have to pay you?"

[@Gabistruwwelliese]

I can see how this applies to richer countries and I understand how frustrating for sex workers it must be when you are doing it by choice. However, in developing countries, like mine, the reality is brutal and much different. In a cross-sectional study in 116 countries, researchers found that human trafficking increases with legalization of prostitution (Cho, Dreher, Neumayer 2013 in World Development). What it's observed in many developing countries, in my experience, is that legalization leads to massive influx of national and international sex tourism (usually white males of US /European origin), while the legal brothels operate at the cost of young women and other vulnerable groups (e.g., transgenders, children) that would not do it by choice but do it for lack of prospects due to massive social inequality (disclosure - I think research on that should be easy to find, but I'm not reporting data here). In my opinion, the (partially) Scandinavian/French model should in theory work best: NOT criminalizing sex workers but make it illegal to buy sex, thus discouraging sex tourism, institutionalization, and human trafficking (i.e., criminalize the buyer not the worker). The fact that being a sex worker is a choice by a privileged percentage of the world population (predominantly White, from Industrial, Westernized Societies) should not prevent us from assessing the societal impact of sex work worldwide. Even in developing countries, the choice for sex work is associated with comparatively more privileged groups (e.g., white people amid an ethnically diverse society). Consider also that sex initiation of middle-class/wealthy disabled people in those countries are mostly done by vulnerable groups (yet another imbalance). There is a power structure surrounding sex-work that would should not forget: (a) social class/family's economic background (b) ethnicity (white/people pf color) (c)richer/poorer countries (d) gender/age.I think taking a stand against legalization (e.g., making it illegal to buy sex) means having empathy for the majority of the world's vulnerable population that will fall prey to the human traffic associated with legal prostitution. Personally, I'm a white person of European/US ancestry in a developing country full of racial and social inequalities. To me, it's my job to look at my privileges and fight for the protection and equality of the minority social groups I don't belong. Because if my "freedom" to enjoy my privileges is harming others, I try as much as I can, to support laws and policies that strip away my privilege to make it all more equal for others. That's my two cents.

[@rosebudkeely8153]

Very well put. It's not as simple as "sex work is fine if its two consenting adults!"... in theory, yeah, and in an ideal world. But in reality, it is an incredibly exploitative industry and the sex workers we see on social media that are empowered by it are in the minority unfortunately.

[@skyelarmurray467]

If you’re being forced there’s services out there to help you... it’s time to get some non judgemental services out there that support those who aren’t forced

[@fjellyo3261]

How do I know who is doing it because they want to and who is forced?

[@webwolf404]

fjellyo32 Pimps can be one giveaway I think. All these people run their own business and represent themselves.

[@jasminelav.332]

If you had to use a go-between to set up the appointment. If they barely speak the language of the area you're in. If they have any obvious bruising or signs of abuse. If they're never left alone (someone brings them to the location and takes them away).

[@stargazer2042]

If if she drives herself, she can be told her family will be killed if she goes to the police or does not come back with the money. They police can make arrests, but proving anything is difficult if she is too scared to testify.

[@ryzeup5654]

women are forced by society .... its been like this for a longgg time.

[@malizachicas6217]

@@webwolf404 Not all pimps are how hollywood and media likes to paint them- their are some that are clever investors and actually build a team. so that they themselves succeed but also their workers-

[@theolinton9937]

I don't see the problem with there career and the lady is right people should try and enjoy life more with a shit ton of sex lol

[@BexMacFarlane]

Somebody give the blonde lady and the professional sub a show, I'd watch the hell out of that!

[@nk361]

"What's it like living without real love because of your own dumb choices?"

[@dontspikemydrink9382]

dunno, you tell me

[@RayYoWTF]

Pikachu boy giving the breakdown of what he would make at Starbucks vs what he does now for not even a third of that. SIGN. ME. UP. 😂👏🏻

[@batoujesus5964]

"Hi Mom!" should really be on this list or whatever that thing is

[@avatre1002]

Sex is becoming so much less of a "beautiful thing between 2 people who care about each other" and more of a "whatever I just want to orgasm or nut" that makes me sad. Thses people can do whatever they want but I'm never gonna say I agree with it.

[@churka5984]

It stopped being a form of intimacy and has instead become a jerking off session with another irrelevant human being. It's sad.

[@Purple9721.]

Sex was never intended to be a "beautiful thing between 2 people" the whole point in it from the beginning of mankind was literally to populate the species. That's all! Also humans were never made to be monogamous. It's not in our biology. Why do you think so many people are unfaithful in relationships and so many men have visited escorts for centuries (it's obviously in demand whether you like it or not). Marriage and monogamy was invented by the Christian church as yet another way of controlling the population and forcing the idea that we should be in pairs. It's a load of bullshit. Why do you think so many people are coming out as being in polyagomous relationships? Sex doesn't have to involve love at all. It's a basic human need and we have instincts that need to be fulfilled.

[@churka5984]

@@Purple9721. eating is also a basic human need, but we don't encourage people to stuff their faces with crap do we. Morality and healthy human psyche go hand in hand and to suggest otherwise is materialist propaganda. Christianity didn't 'invent' monogamy and it most certainly didn't invent moral standards when it comes to sex. Or course perfect monogamous relationships can hardly exist due to the flawed human nature, but eternal monogamous relationships between gods predate Christianity a couple of millennias. Egyptian mythology is the first that comes to mind and ancient Egypt was one of the most advanced ancient cultures we can find. Of course some mythologies represent polygamy as well, but that still doesn't negate the concept of romantic love. Ancient Greeks had Eros and Agape (passion and true love) and Plato spoke about the importance of having both. Sex wasn't 'intended' to be anything. It's a physical need that to us humans represents intimacy due to its nature since it requires connection and communication.

[@kirbyhatesincels917]

@@Purple9721. That's deluded. You are right to an extent, but we have things called morality and guilt.

[@pompouswindbag9956]

Amen to that! Even as someone who thinks that love is love, it's still... you know, love. To go around having sex with people you have no romantic interest in is absolutely disgusting to me, and I'll never be able to accept those who support it. It shakes me to my core, yeah? It feels wrong just talking about it.

[@flowerj.4714]

Actually I might get attacked because of this but you can't be a feminist and a sex worker at the same time it's just that putting a price of what men or women can reach of your body is totally not feminism