Things Strangers Say To Us | Comments On Our Lesbian & Bisexual Relationship

Strangers say the darndest things! Really though, some of the comments we get are hilarious. As a general rule: if you wouldn't say it to a straight couple, don't say it to us!
If you want to hear more about people's reactions, check out our coming out stories.
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[@caryldineen9051]

I liked the answer someone said when asked, “ Who’s the man in the relationship?” The answer back was, “ When you use chopsticks, which one is the fork?”🥢🍴👭😂

[@HannahSadie]

Oh my gosh that is EXCELLENT!!!

[@caryldineen9051]

Hannah & Sadie Feel free to use that line in future run ins aka ‘stupid questions’🤔😂PS. Just found your channel and am really enjoying your story.

[@sherrietaha8377]

I've been an out lesbian for 40+ years (time flies), heard virtually all that you mentioned and more & yet, the comments always come as such a surprise. The real indicator that we are integrated into the larger culture will be when the comments don't happen. I think that's a few more decades from now. But, what really prompted me to comment about is gaydar. My two daughters, both conceived and raised in lesbian households, have the best gaydar of anyone I've ever run across. They're both straight & about your same ages now, but, even in grade school, years before their peers had any conscious recognition of their LGBTQ identities my girls would come home from school and talk about one or another classmate who was gay. It would often take some conversations before I could figure out if the child in question was talking about themselves or just my daughters speculating/knowing. I felt like I was continuously reminding them to let their peers come out in their own time (often years later), that my daughters should just wait to be overt, supportive, allies for their friends only after the LGBTQ kids were ready. Over the years, I can't think of a single example of when their gaydar was wrong. We, LGBTQ people, see the world differently (and therefore behave differently), can't always pin down exactly how but, from the time we were born the signs are there.... we're special!

[@HannahSadie]

Woah I love this comment so much! That is such an excellent scenario for people to grow up with superior gaydar😍 I can only imagine what those parenting moments were like... "hey, you're definitely right about your classmates, but they might not even know yet!" 😂

[@blipbluppy89]

I asked a friend why when he 1st saw me and my gf holding hands, he said are you guys twin? He said in his head it was a 50/50 decision on what to say and both might comes out rude. He was sure that i'm gay due to the hand hold but he didnt want to ask. So he asked a safe questions (are you guys twins) in hoping that I would give him the answer to justify his assumption in head without him coming out as rude or oblivious.

[@HannahSadie]

Thanks for this story! It's interesting that some people would think of assuming somebody is gay as rude.

[@nidesvp]

"things strangers say walking by" -How do they dare to judge you or even say anything??? Those people are rude, uneducated and ignorant. Your testimony is enlightening.

[@roof30]

I'm a twin (have a sister), and my brother and sister are also twins - none of us has ever held hands!

[@marilynmuckle6256]

Omg I love this video lmao.. People ask some crazy questions.. There's no certain way a person has to look. I've been with my wife for 12 years and married 11 yrs. She is bi and Im lesbian, we both have long hair and we don't look any different than anyone else. My family was great with my coming out ( my mom said it's about time you came out I knew it for years lmao).. My wife's family weren't happy but it's her choice to make.. You love who you love!! So thank you for this great video, can't wait to see what the next ones about!! Have a great day ladies..☺☺☺

[@HannahSadie]

Ayyyyy cheers to being in a long-haired-relationship!! Thanks so much for watching♥♥

[@marilynmuckle6256]

@@HannahSadie yvw

[@thebestwillow]

"you don't look gay" "and you don't look ignorant, until you start talking".

[@katiepeterson8967]

My wife and I have 2.5 year old quadruplets. My favorite comment ever has been... “OMG. I have never seen this before in my life....Twins pushing twins!!!” A man literally shouted this across Orvis one day.

[@HannahSadie]

This is so so incredible...

[@jazzjewel1]

On a vacation in Mexico as my platonic girl friend and I walked through the airport, we kept getting asked ( by men 🤨 ) if we were married. Then at the grocery store back at home, my wife and I get asked by strangers if we're sisters, or the best one was, if my wife is my mother...I'm 3 years older than my wife and we look nothing alike. 😖

[@ginapeterson2901]

JW Had that happen s million times. My partner was 11 yrs older. They would say Your mother would look good in that. They would assume!

[@ginapeterson2901]

Glad you brought these issues up!

[@HannahSadie]

Oh that is so interesting!! I would love to hear more about the differences in cultural assumptions😮

[@AdamFlanagan]

I'm glad you two are happy to hold hands in public. We need more of this PDA from all couples not just same sex. Show your love 💛💙❤️♥️🧡💜🖤💚💗💖🏳️‍🌈

[@HannahSadie]

Yes that is such a great point- we are actually going to talk about that more specifically this week in our PDA episode!

[@katherinechambers3921]

I’m a twin, we are very close...... but no, we don’t hold hands 😳 great video ladies. Thank you for sharing. Xxx

[@HannahSadie]

Oh nice!!! So interesting... and thank you for watching😊

[@thebestwillow]

I have a cousin who I grew up with as if we were siblings. She was a twin, but not my twin. She never held hands with her twin brother even when they were tiny, although sometimes she and I would hold hands until we were nine, and then it started to feel weird, so we stopped doing it, except when one of us was very scared or sad or something. For what it's worth, I never held hands with her twin either.

[@anadelalama1733]

I'm a twin and I do hold my sister's hand sometimes :) Buy I'm mexican and we tend to be very affectionate with family members, maybe it's less common in other countries

[@HannahSadie]

Ooo such a good point to bring up! Thank you so much for sharing! We should have been more specific about referencing the culture in the USA.

[@Martinha]

Another great video girls! Some of these are hilarious (and absurd!!) 🙈 I was once refused entry to a gay club in London because I didn't look "gay" enough! *sigh* The "are you sisters?" is a classic, me and my girlfriend have gotten a fair share of those! Gotta love it when people insist on telling you how similar you both look when newsflash....you look nothing alike!!!! 😂🙈 ps: loved Sadie's "yes there are a lot of emotions but we do that on purpose" 😂 damn right we do!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@HannahSadie]

WHAT!? You were refused entry for not "looking" gay!? Woof. Yesssss I loved that line from her as well🙌🙌

[@vietnamesepatient]

Thanks for all the vids. Makes my day. You’re so natural and organic with each other. Watched this twice over consecutively already. Keep up with the amazing work. Greatly appreciated.

[@HannahSadie]

Wow thank you so much for watching!!

[@anissarobinson7955]

I'm a twin but I dont go around holding my sister's hand even though out of the two of us, I'm the lesbian

[@HannahSadie]

Oh nice! So interesting...

[@sarahnatclare6468]

Hi ladies, another very interesting video, but you have been spoiling us with 30 minutes of content, my routine when I get notification is to have a break and have a nice cup of tea and listen to you both😁 Always great content and always very interesting and thought provoking. Keep up the great work. Sending you both big hugs from England. Ps I watched your video twice. ❤️❤️xx

[@HannahSadie]

Oh my gosh thank you Sarah! Your support is so nice💕💕 and we send hugs to you in England!!

[@haileys6018]

Another great video! I honestly can't believe some of the things people say, sometimes it really just doesn't make sense. I love watching your videos, can't wait to see what's coming next!

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you so much Hailey!!

[@rachelconnett3115]

I can’t believe some of these people! Seriously?! This is a great video... very entertaining and enlightening:)

[@HannahSadie]

Right!? 🤷‍♀️ and thank you!

[@J_Themborn]

Why would the woman walking across the street even ask that to total strangers? That’s so nosy.

[@HannahSadie]

Agreed🙌

[@oliviarowe9305]

Recently, my girlfriend and I were out walking outside her apartment complex (masks on) and this guy asked if we were twins. we were taken aback, said no, and then he was like...it must be the glasses (we look nothing alike, and our glasses look nothing alike). eyerolllll

[@tearagallinger2853]

I have my coffee ready so when I guys post another great video I can watch all your videos u post happy pride

[@HannahSadie]

Aww thank you Teara!!

[@joannequan4132]

Hi guys! I stumbled across your videos in the beginning by accident and as I have watched you guys over time I find it as a privilege that you share your stories of friendship, love and life. I love how you both respect each other and in turn have taught us “the viewers” how to respect you guys as healthy educated individuals that so happened to be with one another. I am a very private person so this is a big deal for me to post my thoughts, however, I am moved by what I have seen and along with so many others wanted to show my gratitude and appreciation. Thinking back to your past post you brushed a little on your first kiss, but what was it like after you made love? I don’t want sexual details. I would love to hear your individual thoughts of that first experience on one of your future vlog. For example, after my first time with a woman I thought the “Rapture “ actually came and left me behind because the sun was bright orange that day and the world seemed to stood still in silence. It was the most powerful day of my life and at the same time scary because I realized I had the strength to choose my chosen destiny. Goodness that’s a little dramatic....lol...but that was my experience. Btw, I read one of the other comments and I love the chopstick analogy on which one of you guys is the man in the relationship! Take good care and continue to be an inspiration to each other! Mahalo🤙

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you so much for commenting Joanne! What a beautiful story of what it was like your first time! Maybe we will come back around to that topic sometime, but either way, we're glad you had such a beautiful experience!! Yessss the chopstick analogy was so perfect. Take care😊😊

[@rkardo]

❤❤❤ Another great video. thanks...

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you for watching Ricardo!

[@husseytdh5743]

Ahhh my favs on a Sunday... Good way to end the week.... Some rather absurd questions that get asked.... Lol... It's funny how people always "know it" after the fact... People cheat whether they Bi, Gay, straight... Whatever.. Down to the people involved and their relationship... Besides me being Bi, my one brother is Gay, and he also became Vegan.. He was asked is it because you Gay... Hmmm.. Anyway ladies loved this video, love you girls.. Dankie dames 💕🌼🇿🇦... AND on a good note!! Awesome game USWNT 🇺🇸... Love CP23.. My fav player... Tonights (later today for you) Spain game is going to be a goodie... Holding thumbs.. 🇺🇸

[@HannahSadie]

Oh my gosh YES the correlation between being gay and vegan continues! We definitely have some information bias...😂 and yessss to USWNT🙌 Anyway we hope your week is going well!

[@celiaedwards93]

I love the song in your intro.

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you!! We like it too

[@blairfinley5211]

I am a twin. My twin and I are very close so yes we do walk around holding hands... though my twin is disabled and has mobility issues so... most of us holding hands is me making sure she doesn't trip and fall...

[@whome7181]

Fellow Seattle-ite! randomly popped across your video!That twin comment though 🤦‍♀️ Perhaps was referencin.. twin flame? 🤔 I know.. I know.. stretcchhhh. But are people really that freaking ignorant? 🤣 hope you guys are able to still work with this corona virus madness!

[@HannahSadie]

Hayyy Seattle! And hahah twin flames... love it. Sending good vibes and health to you!

[@kodathebear]

I’m a twin and I don’t go around holding hands with my sister. By the way love the videos :)

[@HannahSadie]

Right?? I realized after we posted that we have our cultural biases, but it's still interesting to hear about! And thank you:)

[@sharadaramachandran7428]

Superlative content guys. ❤️

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you😊😊

[@hmmcms1]

Love the positive ending😊

[@HannahSadie]

😊😊

[@claddagh143]

Strangely, I've been treated poorly at a bar/restaurant when I was out with my sister (who I am NOT physically affectionate with at all), they assumed we were girlfriends. It was obvious without them saying so, the waiter and 2 other tables of people kept giving us disaproving/dirty looks (anyone not straight from a conservative town knows THAT look), and the service at our table was slower than at the others who had the same waiter. But when I go out with my best friend, who I am super affectionate with (my mom even thought we were dating for a really long time), nobody has ever treated us with such disdain as that one time I was out with my sister. So weird. Still can't quite figure that out. I think it's maybe because my best friend's personality has a much larger presence and people know instinctively they're going to get an earful if she thinks they need to be put in their place. 😂

[@copyandpastethetwins7498]

We do not hold hands, no. That would be weird :)

[@dottiehowell5891]

Oh my gosh! This is so FREAKING FUNNY ✌️❤️🤣🤣

[@HannahSadie]

😂😂yesss Dottie thanks for watching!

[@LawsonLawson-wp1qe]

My now wife and I met in high school. I was my basketball coaches teacher aid and she was in his English class. She was crying about something so when I walked passed I put a note on her desk attempting to comfort her. We talked on the phone and hung out for about 3 months. I was dating a boy. One night she kissed me at a stop sign when I was taking her home. Heart racing but panicking I sorta separated myself from her for about 2 years on and off as I was leaving for college. Found myself a bit more dated 2 girls and then when home for spring break. She was also in town lived right up the road from me. Left a note on my car to call her. We have been together now 13 years and reconnected at 19. There’s more intermittent details obviously laid in there but this is the shortest version. I love our love story. I proposed to her far before marriage was legal - and we have lived together since we were 20. 😃

[@HannahSadie]

Wow that's such an incredible story- thank you for sharing!! 13 years is amazing. Cheers to you two!!

[@purplebutterflikisses]

Hello, I’m a twin and no we don’t hold hands. Lol we barely even give each other a hug. Wow things people say. How are you suppose to know every gay person? This was another Great video

[@sc-rq7zy]

I see my sister, she’s couple years younger then me, only all 3 to 4 years. And every time at least one think she’s my girlfriend. I can feel you 😂😂

[@kencoleman5007]

I was called the d-word back in middle school (I think that it was 7th grade, and imagine a 14 year old, asking what that word means). The friend was dealing with his own closet issues, and posssssibly confused at the time. As I explore my gender identity more deeply, it seems oddly on the nose. He's now got a husband (to the best of my knowledge, at least half of that friend group ended up coming out), and it seems like such a random thing to ask about it.

[@HannahSadie]

Oh wow.... so interesting! I don't think I had ever even heard of the word until college!

[@annevankessel3611]

I am gay my Identical twin sister is not, but we certainly not hold hands. However me and my girlfriend do get the question if were are sisters, wich sometimes leads to a very awkward conversation.

[@monicamascardo4233]

I have a twin sister a very identical one.. But we never hold hands and we barely hug maybe occasionally. 😂 😂 😂. We are not that close enough to the point we just surprised each other on the events in our lives.. People sometimes our not sensitive enough towards someone's feelings.. They're just talked like stray bullets not knowing if its good or bad.. They just dont care.. Unsolicited as they say.. But good thing you're able to handle everything in most positive, easy, calm as you can.. Hardwork to ignore though.. As long as you were both happy.. That's all that matter.. As the saying goes, i am not care bear family anymore... 😂 😂 😂

[@HannahSadie]

Oh nice Monica! Yesss exactly- some people don't have much of a filter, but it's all good indeed. 😊😊

[@actsenna]

I never understand why people assume we adopted our children, while we have double wombs

[@HannahSadie]

Ha!!! That's such a great point...

[@JB3235]

Fair play to them coming out as a Lesbian couple. In life if you are a gay man or lesbian women. Not everyone is going to be jumping over the rainbow with joy. Obviously it's great that the world is changing and becoming more accepting of the gay and lesbian community. But at the end of the day lovers will be lovers and hatters will be hatters. That's life for you. I wish them all the best with their relationship. They should just enjoy life have fun with each other. Don't pay any attention to the negative people.

[@kgboyid66]

Kevin bacon and kyra sedgwick are distant cousins. If you do dna testing ... You could be distant cousins! Lol

[@OhSoEvi]

The day went from Amazing to Awsomeness , first my girl surprised me even for a few hours and then you girls posted , so Sunday was the best day

[@HannahSadie]

YES my gosh it's funny to talk about birth control in an all-female relationship too😂

[@OhSoEvi]

​@@HannahSadie Omg haha 😂 xoxo

[@mrlarson19]

I'm a twin. I haven't held his hand since we were little. Like maybe 8 years old little.

[@bobjanson7548]

What equipment do you use to recird?

[@opalcorsa]

Well done girls defend yourselves no matter what i am a straight man and in my view you have as much right to be gay on this planet as us heteros have to be straight. Keep up the good work peace and love to you both

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you!! Peace and love back😊

[@Nothingstutube]

My twin and i do not hold hands.

[@HannahSadie]

😂 Good to know!

[@R_B_Ali]

My sister and I hold hands (she's 2 and a half years younger) so that's her childhood habit and it's more of a protective nature in crowd. We are kinda very closy too. BUT THERE'S CERTAINLY A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A sister holding hands and romantic partner holding hands ☠️ But I still don't see how do people find you two like twins :/

[@HannahSadie]

Aww that's such a sweet gesture for sisters! Totally agree though- we don't look all that much alike🤷‍♀️

[@R_B_Ali]

@@HannahSadie oh and I saw another comment mention their country...I am from Bangladesh... which is actually a moderately conservative south asian nation..to a point where most people aren't even aware of the LGBTQ+ community (mostly elders) and also are mostly homophobic. So I think in our culture the idea of homosexual relation doesn't come across people's mind usually. In fact... though I hate to admit it...during 2013/14 (i was 12/13) I used to be partly homophobic myself. But as I grew up my thoughts and realization changed. My sister believed she's asexual biromantic (she's young and still isn't sure about her sexuality so thats how she terms it that she feels she is so) and i feel I am bi. So definitely we are kinda different from our society's usual culture but that doesn't affect us on how we show affection to each others as sisters 😇 P.s This turned out to be a long reply xD But I felt like I should clear the atmosphere in context to our actions for better understanding of the matter. And it's kinda really sweet of you guys to go through almost all of the comments and try to reply to them 😇

[@meganemt7474]

Go to the lesbian side of TikTok you will see what people think lesbians look like.

[@HannahSadie]

Ahhh good point...

[@Jasmine-zi2qh]

How can we DM you guys directly??

[@HannahSadie]

Hi Jasmine! You can email us-our email is [e-mail]

[@mirtafratnik7012]

here in italy gay marriage isn't even called marriage but "civil union" and it doesn't contemplate fidelity nor collaboration in raising a family. So, let alone call my spouse wife one day. This is not equality

[@lassam333]

Most of these assumptions come from the hetero-normative education we get. You are being taught that a relationship is always between a man and a woman, so there always has to be a man in every realationship, even if it's between 2 women. Have you ever asked yourself if the person who says (s)he knew you were gay might not be straight and used gaydar?

[@dnevsrachel]

Two girls holding hands not necessary to be assumed as a couple due to cultural differences in some countries but as a part of the community, it will automatically trigger me to make assumption even I am terribly lack of gaydar myself😂😂😂

[@HannahSadie]

Yes- good point that cultural differences have a huge impact here. It's always a fun challenge for us to try to test our gaydar!

[@vernonwright2838]

I think her "are y'all twins" was her ignorant attempt at trying to embarrass the two of you for your PDA I could be wrong. Sadie nailed it except I wouldn't call it thinly veiled I would say it was a blatant insult, however I would also say it was shining example of his ignorance.

[@greggoett]

If I saw you on the street, and I reccognized you (being in the wrong context, not on a tiny screen).. I'll ask "which one is Jim?" But it be from about 30 ft past where we crossed.. cause it'd take that long for me to process.. and yeah, both are Jim, like.

[@Algo1]

Yes, straight people do have a gaydar. Although...

[@farzenlran6409]

We are a fan of you 😍😍👍😍😊💖💖💖💖⚘⚘⚘🌈🌈👭💕😘😘😘🇮🇷

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you!! 💖💖💖

[@thebestwillow]

My girlfriend gets weepy when I am on my period.

[@TmTLovesYou]

Well you guys both have eyes and noses, sooo twins I guess?!

[@HannahSadie]

😂😂exactly!!