Choosing Our Labels: Bisexual, Lesbian and Demisexual | LGBTQ+ Relationship

Sadie talks about how she knew she was Lesbian and not Bisexual; Hannah about how she knew she was Bisexual and not Lesbian. We finish with covering what Demisexuality feels like for each of us. Watch till the end for the outtakes of all the times Sadie restarts her sentences.
Relationship Series:
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Part Four: How It Started • How It Started | LGBTQ...
Part Five: Q&A • Q&A | LGBTQ+ Relations...

[@sarahnatclare6468]

Hello ladies, loved this video, very thought provoking, and it hit a note for me. I was married for 32 years until he died 3 years ago, I loved him very much and I was with him since I was 18 years old. As you can imagine this time has been really hard for me to adjust, but on reflection about my life, I have discovered that I am gay ... yes it was a surprise to me as well. I too believe that their are little people or sections inside your body that deal with different parts😁 the section that deals with sexuality must have lost the memo when I was 18, and has now found it when I’m 53😁. On thinking back All the signs were there before I met my husband, and now all the signs are back again. So this is definitely a new chapter in my life. I think your videos are fantastic and you are both true inspiration to me. Keep up the great work. Sending you both big hugs from England ❤️❤️xx🌈

[@suvashreedutta6589]

It's never too late to discover or rather rediscover yourself, we all are constantly evolving. All the best in this new chapter of your life :)

[@sarahnatclare6468]

Suvashree Dutta, Thank you so much for your kind words. It is so appreciated ❤️x

[@husseytdh5743]

Self discovery is an on going thing, and you never too old to learn new things about yourself, the world... Maybe this time the little people in you will win 😉... And sorry for your loss... Take care. Much love. 💕

[@sarahnatclare6468]

Hussey Tdh, Thank you very much, so thoughtful and lovely of you. Yes the little people in me will win. I have never fancied men except my husband, and on reflection thinking about movies over the years, it has always been the woman that I was attracted to, and truly I never gave it a minutes notice, until about a year ago. So the saying goes one door closes and a window opens. So thank you again for taking the time to reply, and with such kind words. ❤️x

[@husseytdh5743]

@@sarahnatclare6468 Anytime.. I found myself later in life, and found myself not as sexually attracted to my partner as I should be... Rediscovering myself in a daily basis, and learning new things... These two lovely ladies content are also making me question myself more, and become braver in facing myself and being honest with myself and others...💕

[@melaniesunstorm]

I like the whole concept of peacefully talking out stuff rather than being loud or just skimming over the answers. Being in the asexual spectrum, it is also fun to see how other people in the spectrum think about stuff.

[@HannahSadie]

Thanks Melanie! We’ve discovered all these nuances so recently, so I think it’s good for us!

[@dnevsrachel]

I can always get some peace and calm by just watching and listening to you guys. it's like listening to old friends just casually chit-chatting but always had you to sink in deeper and eventually to explore of an inner self❤️❤️❤️

[@HannahSadie]

💕💕Thank you Rachel!!

[@GermanRainbow]

I am a Demi-lesbian too. I could never do physical stuff without an emotional connection. I never understood friends who could find someone attractive and immediately make out with them, which made me think for a while whether I was asexual.

[@noahhellsten6118]

me too sort of :)

[@veronicafavaro6323]

I find hilarious Hannah's theory about little men who live in different part of our body. I think that my brain buddies are still waiting for me to figure it out 😂😂 I love your videos, I appreciate that you are able to talk about things so deeply and be so funny at the same time. A kiss form Italy 😘 See you next time! 💕

[@HannahSadie]

Haha yesss the little buddies!! Thank you so much for watching and for your comment! Sending hugs to you in Italy💕

[@m3l0d1cg]

💗love this, thanks for sharing. long form videos/podcast style are my fav! Such soothing conversations to listen to.

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you so much for listening to them! 💕

[@suvashreedutta6589]

It is honestly soo cool to see that after all of your self realisations (thanks to the little guys in your brains :D) and little "eureka" moments, you both strived to be authentic to yourselves and your feelings even when it was difficult and uncomfortable to do so. That isn't easy, and also shows how in touch with your own person you both are. Thanks for being and sharing your most authentic self

[@HannahSadie]

🥰🥰 thank you!! Your comment is so kind- you get it:) and thank you for watching💕

[@kimberlydidia39]

So, I just read through a bunch of comments and, as expected, your content and delivery as being fresh and... important while being entertaining is enjoyed by all! Another great video, ladies!

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you Kimberly!!

[@Comps102285]

I just started watching you two a couple of weeks ago! I’ve really enjoyed this video. It is making me really think about what my label really is. I think you’ve cleared up questions that I’ve had about my own identity because of what I thought others would think or say. Thanks ladies for continuing to put out such content for people to watch. You rock!

[@HannahSadie]

Oh wow thank you for watching! It makes us so happy to hear that our videos could help in any way. So thank you! Sending hugs💕

[@kc_1997]

I love how honest and comfortable y'all are discussing topics in deeper ways that so many others generally avoid. I find it super refreshing and really appreciate the both of you for it! I also feel like I'm demisexual and high key relate to y'alls thoughts on that

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you so much Katie! Yesss cheers to demisexuality! We’re still learning so much about it but thanks for hangin with us😂

[@tweetran271]

Great discussions/explanations. Totally make sense. Thank you for sharing.

[@HannahSadie]

Thanks for watching Twee!

[@azucena315]

Thank you for talking about all of this in more detail! My first two sexual relationships were with women, but, as it turned out, they both identified more as men, and one of them found out they were born intersex while we were together, which was quite a journey for both of us. My family never seemed homophobic, so I didn't feel the need to "come out" to them when I started dating--I just liked whomever I liked!--but I was surprised by how difficult it actually was to be in a queer relationship. I didn't identify as a lesbian, nor did I identify as straight, and yet suddenly I was being asked to place myself in a category and give myself a label, and I didn't know what to do. My partners also pressed me for a firm answer about my identity, in large part (they later said) based on their insecurities about their own gender identity issues, but I didn't know what to say. At the time, being bisexual was considered a joke, so either I was a lesbian (I wasn't), or I was straight (I wasn't), and I felt completely at a loss. I remember getting questions from family and friends like, "If she sees herself as a man, then doesn't that make you straight?" My partners asked me similar questions. At 19, I had no way to answer them. I didn't have the self-confidence or enough of an education about sexuality to know how to navigate such complicated terrain. Anyway, this is getting too long, but the point is, this can be a scary and overwhelming process to go through, and I hope people can find comfort in these videos and in the community forming with this channel. May all of you be safe and well in these uncertain times. Peace 🌸

[@HannahSadie]

Lilli- first of all thank you so much for being willing to share your story here. I can’t imagine what it must’ve felt like to be asked such big questions at the age of 19. I hardly have any answers now, and even those are still evolving! But the discussion is so important, as is the visibility of all these different stories, so thank you. 💕💕

[@lucybush5993]

Your videos get better and better, this one is so awesome 💙 Very honest and open love it

[@HannahSadie]

🤩🥰 wow thank you Lucy! That means so much!

[@happygee]

So excited to see your videos!! You two are goals

[@HannahSadie]

🥰🥰Thank you Emm!

[@MariaFernanda-bh8cy]

So I started to watching this, and I'm definitely going to do a marathon, you're soo cute and funny ❤ I'm a fan already

[@HannahSadie]

Aww thank you Maria!! That means so much to us!

[@markellis8621]

You both really suite each other. You both look amazing, really down to earth and honest. ❤️

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you Mark!

[@izzydizzy937]

Wow 😯 this is great! Love the contents, it’s new from the others.. keep it up girls totally like both of u gals! ☺️

[@HannahSadie]

🥰🥰 Thank you Izzy!!

[@hmmcms1]

Great explanations😊 hope yall are staying well!

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you Sarah you too!

[@husseytdh5743]

Hey ladies, ahhh thanks for the vid.. I relate in so many ways to what you discussed, especially Sadie.. I grew up in a society where the only relationship that was acceptable was between a man and woman... Then on a night out one of my female friends kissed me.. And I was like I didn't mind that.. Actually I really liked that... And like Sadie said I felt like I was living a lie, not being honest with the people around me about how I felt, and not standing up to a society that deems it wrong... But also to Sadie, the internal fight (u vs the little ppl running ur body) must have been difficult.... Demi sexual is a new term for me too... I often find people attractive, but not necessarily attracted to them.. But getting to know them, find some actually unattractive and some even more attractive as I get to know them... Sorry for the long note.. Once again honest and relatable video.. Dankie dames 💕🌼🇿🇦 Ps. Brother bear is safe at home..

[@HannahSadie]

Thanks for watching🥰🥰 and wow I don’t know what I would’ve done if a female friend kissed me out of the blue like that! Yes we feel like there’s more for us to learn every day about labels and terms. Sometimes I wish I had the time to sit down and hear stories from everyone along every spectrum so I could learn and pinpoint exactly where I’m at😂 and PS- so happy to hear your brother is home safe!

[@sharadaramachandran7428]

I am just grateful to have found you guys.. ❤️🥰

[@HannahSadie]

🥰🥰❤️

[@user-gd5rt5mn7t]

Hi Hannah and Sadie, I love your channel. Your energy is so calming and your videos give me hope that I can one day having a supportive, loving relationship like yours

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you so much!! And yes- I've heard that definition as well; thank you for sharing! And Ana Luisa: this is why I wanted to be careful about how I defined it for me. It's definitely a personal thing, and I'm sure a little different for everyone💕

[@rubythread]

Hello! I actually had to stop this video halfway through to comment...and I'm usually just a lurker :) Sadie, when you talked about that moment when you realized that you definitely didn't want to be with a man I nearly cried. I have been with the same man since 18, married for 23 years, and I am just now waking up to the possibility that I am gay. What I have been questioning is how can I be gay if I don't want to run out and sleep with a woman? All I know for sure is that I, most definitely, don't want to ever have sex with a man again. Any man. You helped me realize that just wanting to have a relationship with a woman, regardless of physical desire, means that I can be gay. It is such a freeing feeling and I don't feel so much like a fraud :) I have always despised my sex life and this explains so much. Thank you for helping me to have clarity

[@ruddyrude6466]

Hi, H&S! really like your video. I find its very brave to talk about your passed emotions really helps me a lot. Cause I were in dilemma or denial. Just subscribed your channel, so keeps doing what your are doing. See your around.

[@HannahSadie]

Thanks for sharing, and for subscribing!

[@suev5786]

You too are great , I watch every video you have both posted. Love the content , keep it up xx

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you so much Sue! More to come💕💕

[@suev5786]

Hannah & Sadie made my night ,Nearly bedtime in the uk , keep safe 💖

[@309sarahc]

I love this video. I love how you both explained how your own feelings and experiences helped you to understand who and how you love someone. Love your videos, legitimately all of them, but I really love the ones where you talk about your relationship and how you came together as a couple. You both are incredible and give me something to look forward to. Stay safe and healthy.

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you Sara!! You are too kind for watching and commenting! It’s definitely your pleasure to make these, and your support has been awesome💕

[@309sarahc]

I hope it's not annoying. My comments that is. I just truly enjoy the videos you make.

[@HannahSadie]

Sara not at all!!! Seriously- we love reading them💕

[@R_B_Ali]

@@HannahSadieit's really sweet of you to read and respond to all comments to be honest. I kinda feel Sara with her questioning if she's annoying with her comments...cuz man my comments are big as hell nothing really interesting to read about. But you guys still doooo 😭❤️

[@HannahSadie]

Rabeya B. Ali The comments are always so kind! We don’t always have time for every last one but they really do mean a lot to us😭

[@MyAdventures-MyRescue2023]

I look forward to your videos. You’re both intelligent and open with each other. Sadie I’m so glad you realized you fell for Hannah and wanted to be with her before your marriage. You put alot of thought into it before choosing. That’s admirable. I’m curious though what your arguments were about in the beginning.

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you so much! And yes- it was definitely a big decision but I’m so grateful it brought us here. Good question- maybe we should do a future video on that!

[@MyAdventures-MyRescue2023]

Hannah & Sadie yes please.

[@megansmith40]

Highlight of my day ❤️❤️

[@HannahSadie]

😭🥰 Thank you Megan!!

[@noordinaryadventure4609]

Seconding the majority of the comments on here. Your story is resonating with so many others and the community is grateful you are on this platform sharing your story in the way that you are presenting it. On a different note, a few viewers have noticed the ‘Hannah love look’ but Sadie’s looks are just as endearing 18.25. Also I’m with Hannah with the knuckle cracking. That neck crack at 18.03 🤢😂

[@HannahSadie]

Haha!! Yes I know that cracking isn’t necessarily bad for anyone, but I don’t know how it can be so loud! And thank you so much for your comment- I’ve always loved the way Sadie looks at me too❤️

[@AroaceChicken]

I know I'm a demisexual but other than that I'm still figuring myself out

[@daydreamer7579]

Love you guys

[@tearagallinger2853]

Aww another great video u guys give good advice

[@HannahSadie]

Thanks Teara!!

[@Tomatoinpajamas]

We often have difficulty in figuring out about ourselves, don't we? What's my passion? What's my dream job? What's my sexuality? and stuff. Whereas the outsiders just simply see our potential and sometimes just...see us through! Sadie - did your friends make explicit the idea of knowing you're not straight? What signs did they see? Great to have such a friendly thought provoking content. Watched this vid twice already! Thanks Hannah & Sadie ❤

[@HannahSadie]

Yes! There sometimes seems to be a blind spot when it comes to our own identities. And yeah- her friends only indicated that they knew after she told them. And thank you for watching🥰

[@Tomatoinpajamas]

@@HannahSadie will keep watching! 😁 wonder if you could share what the big arguments you two had back then? And how did you get over them?

[@greggoett]

Sadie, prior to Hanna, in your previous relationship did you wonder if maybe you were straight but asexual? You loved your male partner but when it came to sexy time it was not a great desire? Once you opened to the possibility of being a Lesbian or Hannaian you found your satisfaction and desire skyrocket? Hannah, this would make you a Sadian. :) As a 90/10 ish hetro male.. I personally don't really understand why the female population in not more like 80-90% lesbian. The rough beard, rough hands, and somewhat juvenile behavior of a lot of men.

[@HannahSadie]

I have never thought of myself as asexual. To your comment about most women being lesbians- 😂😂🙌🏻

[@greggoett]

@@HannahSadie asexual is a new term to me. Had to think it thru.. years ago I'd have said low libido. Some of those other men would have said fridgid. :-( No comment on being a Hannaian? I thought that was the funny bit. From your previous conversations, terms lesbian, monogomous fit... but looking at your interactions... it's all about Hannah.. others need not apply.

[@justburnerratically]

Regarding your "little guys" theory - Hannah, there's this French children cartoon called "Once Upon a Time... Life" - you should check it out :)

[@spaceforthesoul6286]

Enjoying watching you two, such a light loving connection! I identify as a lesbian right now. Even though I find it still hard to say out loud. I am 38 and did not have a relationship for 4 years or so. I did not know why I felt so uninterested by man anymore. Before that I dated guys. Also had a long relationship with a man. I thought to identify as lesbian it means I should find my lesbian friends attractive. Or their lesbian friends. But that was not the case...I think I blocked it in my feelings. Rationally I always said it's a gliding scale. After I processed severe childhood trauma....something opened... I feel lesbian right now! It could end up bisexual but I feel now lesbian ❤ Looking back I see many many signs....also my artist crushes are many bi/L. I wish for 2021 a wonderful honest relationship with a woman and also close lesbian friends to share more about this. Lots of love to you!

[@purplebutterflikisses]

Another great video!! Do you guys think labels help or hurt?

[@HannahSadie]

Thank you!! And that’s an awesome question... I would have to say it’s both. Sometimes labels can be validating and help people connect, but other times they make us feel alone🤦🏻‍♀️

[@purplebutterflikisses]

Hannah & Sadie I feel the same way!! I just had someone ask me what am I.Right now I can’t answer that question. I do know which label I fall more into but not ready to say. This video has really made me think. Thank you

[@rkardo]

@ 07:20 minions, I saw minions... Hi, thanks for another great one, Sadie have you noticed Hannah's face at 04:54 you are a lucky b. :)

[@HannahSadie]

Minions!!! Yes great point. And hahah nahhh I’m the lucky one🥰

[@rosecaron9905]

Thank you so much for making this video and sharing so honestly. I identify as bisexual but I know I’m gay. I’ve jumped from label to label because I’ve honestly been really confused and also scared to accept I like other women. I’m sorry for how that creates more bi erasure. It just feels safer saying I like men. Which I do, I just don’t want to be with them or marry one. Here’s the tricky thing. I’ve fallen in love with a man but I feel like if I tell him, I’ll be betraying my own truth. I feel like I have to choose between my heart and my sexuality. It’s hard because I would end up grieving one. I guess it’s better to be honest though. I just know that being with a man, there would always be something missing. Anyways thank you for listening. Hope you’re staying safe and healthy at this time 💗

[@HannahSadie]

We totally get how it can be intimidating and scary to talk out loud about sexuality. Those are really valid emotions!! Yes, honesty is the best, in any relationship. Have you tried talking to him about any of this? We send all our love to you. Keep following your truth and listening to your heart. Stay safe

[@rosecaron9905]

Hannah & Sadie thank you so much. I actually did end up talking to him about it all. It felt right to be honest. I think I was (and still am) so afraid to accept my truth. Its really scary. Thank you again. 💜

[@jimmadden6406]

@@rosecaron9905 what happened

[@JoyceLee394]

So important question, what kind of tea y’all drinking? My personal fav is earl grey.

[@HannahSadie]

Ha! We end up drinking all kinds of tea, but come back to ‘bedtime tea’ pretty often:)

[@Martinha]

I love your videos so much!! ❤️ Another awesome, mature, insightful conversation between two people who clearly ADORE each other and are so keen to listen to one another as well, which I absolutely love!! 😍 Ps: I always “like” your videos before I watch them! 😂 Is that weird? I just know I’ll love them, why delay the inevitable!? 😂 also the UK is finally listening to the rest of the world, schools are closing on Friday and social distancing is now fully in place, so it’s home time for me. My partner, however, is a doctor so it’s “fight time” for her 💪🏼 much love girls 💕

[@HannahSadie]

It’s so so kind of you to like and comment! We’re glad the UK is moving forward with that! We’ll be sending creative energy and hugs your way. Hang in there, and cheers to your partner for all her critically important work during this time💕

[@LawsonLawson-wp1qe]

Sadie - do you feel/believe that Hannah being so open and honest with herself and to you made you feel more “safe” or comfortable coming out? Hope that makes sense.

[@jeanineswift1199]

Have you heard of the Am I a Lesbian? Masterdoc? I think it would be cool if you guys did a review of it

[@HannahSadie]

We hadn’t heard of it- thanks for the idea!

[@RaeLarz]

I used to think I was demisexual (when I thought I was pansexual)... but since I've realized I'm a lesbian, I know I'm not demisexual because I could totally be with certain women without being attracted to their personality. Of course, the attraction is far increased if I'm also attracted to their personality.

[@saraxadam3659]

same. would love to know how you went from thinking you were pansexual to just gay, because same as well.

[@RaeLarz]

@@saraxadam3659 Omg awesome! It was a journey for sure - but it came down to several realizations. 1) I kept repeating to myself "Why would I ever date a man when I could just date a woman?" 2) I objectively looked at men, and at women, and never found a guy I wanted to sleep with. But found so many women I'd want to sleep with. 3) I knew I was like 80 / 20 on the spectrum, liking girls way more... but I realized that I don't want to be with men. I don't like them in that way. Which leads me to: 4) I realized the last time I had sex with a dude, was the first night I had sex with a woman (threesome, lol) and I haven't had sex with a man since. These are just some generalized things - so many complexities went into this. Compulsory heterosexuality is so ingrained. So glad to be where I am now. I would love to know your journey of discovering this as well!

[@saraxadam3659]

@@RaeLarz "Compulsory heterosexuality" wow yes completely. I mean ditto to a lot of the things you said, but where I got over the hump of thinking that I was simply bi with a preference for women is that women give me butterflies & men don't??? & never have??

[@spaceforthesoul6286]

Thanks for sharing! I did not have sex with a woman, but I am in a similar proces. I realise more and more...I do not want to be with a man anymore at all. But definitely woman. 2021 ❤

[@georgiewalker6191]

I have a question, one that I'm asking a lot of people in my life recently: how do you know that you're attracted to someone? Like, what are the physical feelings? I recently read the Lesbian Masterdoc, and so compulsory heterosexuality has been on my mind.

[@R_B_Ali]

How is it every time I am here there's this one dislike...Corona virus really isnt happy with us enjoying your videos during quarantine huh..

[@HannahSadie]

Haha hey if there weren’t a couple haters we’d be doing something wrong right?

[@R_B_Ali]

@@HannahSadie Well I made I a meme out of that dislike XD (with a SS lol) Haters gonna hate, potatoes gonna potate :3 Hope you don't mind that and also I hope that isn't a breach copyright law XD So far it has been only shared to my close friends group xD

[@lindsydiannetan2005]

❤️💕

[@stephanielejeune5897]

Me 5 five minutes ago : "Chic ! Les Filles ont posté une vidéo !". 😉🖐🏻

[@HannahSadie]

🥰🥰🥰🤩

[@ikesr5010]

Which one is more comfortable mele or famale?

[@tonyhoughton6857]

So true I am a Demi sexual and its a long time after I meet someone when I start to fall for them and to me love is love and gender is just another label

[@pawlakar]

I don't like labels...Why there should be any...Who cares about them...If you love someone doesn't matter what their gander is...As long the other person feels same 😊💓👩‍❤️‍👨👩‍❤️‍👩

[@dk3xyz]

Hannah, you played all your brain team members in the rainbow games while Sadie, it looks like your gay brain members sat on the bench for a minute. But they certainly brought their L game when they finally got on the field. You ended up scoring big time!!! Btw, since both of you are demisexual would you consider discussing in another video the demiromanticism component of yourselves? As you know we are on the Asexual spectrum and are only capable of secondary romantic attraction. Sadie's personality trait precursor would be, in my view, a primary attraction. Thus, it's all about the emotional connection which is critical to our relationships. #demidiscussion

[@HannahSadie]

Hahah Danby I loved the action narrative! Yess the rainbow games since age 18😂 and we would definitely consider doing a video on the romantic components. I think we’re still learning about all the intricacies, so it would be interesting to open up that specific discussion with everyone.

[@ikesr5010]

My commet why did not replay🙄

[@R_B_Ali]

19 and trynna figure out ☠️ or not...idk.. as of now i think I m bisexual. I know I am attracted to woman and man since a while now. But like..idk..is it possible for Bis to be attracted to one of the genders more?...somehow all my big celebcrushes all these years have been woman (I am diehard fan kinda person) Though I feel like the admiration towards woman is more cuz of the fact that being a female I feel more relatable to their lives and struggles and that makes me admire them more in a sense.

[@R_B_Ali]

@Lusi Angraini haha thanks 💖

[@ikesr5010]

@Lusi Angraini send me your Instagram Lusi just add friends

[@R_B_Ali]

I am sorry I didn't really understand what you meant :3? I think there was a typo maybe 😅😅😅

[@HannahSadie]

It’s definitely possible for Bis to fall somewhere closer to one gender than the other!! I totally relate to your ideas about admiring women more because you understand their lives. So cheers to that🥰

[@Olivia-ny6nl]

that resonated a lot with me

[@mimisinger4073]

Hope u all doing well with being home bound

[@HannahSadie]

Thanks Mimi! We hope you’re healthy and safe💕

[@dottiehowell5891]

[@poeppiesnoeppie]

I was 30 that a New to be bi sexuele

[@jimmadden6406]

i noticed something missing in the coments and your post. a total lack of M E V.(moral ethical value what do say something to think about(

[@oliviarowland6495]

What?