Things that Build Resilience in Kids

[@drdanielaowen]

We love one big prize in pass the parcel! "Lucky's dad's rules!" Great video, Maggie!

[@bernadetteP9999]

Hello, hope you still see this comment even though this is a older video.... I have a 4 year old. Any other tips for learning how to lose well. My little man is obsessed with winning. We created this beast as we realised he was motivated by competition and it would help get him to co-operate (morning rush, bedtime) and now he can't cope losing. Thanks

[@MaggieDentAuthor]

HI Bernadette, perhaps try some of Maggie's resources on her website, hopefully this can help www.maggiedent.com/blog/helping-kids-learn-lose-well/ - Team Maggie

[@TheNationalWellnessOrg]

Hi Maggie, thank you for creating this video for us clueless mum's!😆 My 4 year old has just started football and had a bad experience on his first day. Even though he really good at sports and he enjoyed the football side of things, he was quite down about some boys pushing him around in the goal area. I didnt know what to say about that or how to handle it as my mother always told me ignore bullies....I was actually bullied all the way through school because I had no idea how to deal with people. What would be the best way to advise him in this situation and for if he comes across bullies in the future? Thanks xx

[@MaggieDentAuthor]

Check out these articles on Maggie's website www.maggiedent.com/?s=bullies

[@evettedsouza5022]

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[@Kuzakistheone]

Great video ❤️

[@emilymcrae4527]

Oh my Miss 2.5 year old insists on carrying her own bag even though it is way to big for her!!

[@solmazbkh6439]

Thanks Maggie. Could you do a video on friends impacts. My son is 10 and his friends have started to talk about girlfriend and dating. I'm concerned and I really don't know how to guide him in this matter. To me it's too soon and it could get problematic.

[@MaggieDentAuthor]

Thanks for that. We will think about a future video around peer influence. Take a look here for some articles that may support you and your son: www.maggiedent.com/common-concerns/raising-boys/ Also...the latest podcast episode relates to your issue: www.abc.net.au/radio/programs/parental-as-anything-with-maggie-dent/how-to-help-your-child-make-friends/12016524

[@entitynightmare3686]

This type of parenting style is terrible. Video games may not be helpful for a child but during this pandemic its the only way for a child to talk to other children. And you should reward the child if they do something good cuz if u dont, they will think it wasnt good and sill stop doing it

[@cecilevanenter8664]

What she is saying is that rewarding your child for every small thing they do they will not develop lasting resilience and motivation. Children need to learn that sometimes things are hard work and you have to keep trying until you finish the task and then be rewarded. If you always get a reward for just showing up or trying, why would you even finish the task? And, video games are okay in small amounts and monitored by parents. A child's brain is still developing and video games are addictive and damaging to the brain long term

[@kizzy2874]

@@cecilevanenter8664 That's right. I tried a reward system with my son which is mostly taught as a good method. After a few weeks though he started saying if I do this what will I get? So I put a stop to the rewards. Now I tell him, 'some things you just have to do because they are good for you, your life and others, the satisfaction you'll get from your perseverance and achievement will be your reward'. Also not rescuing him from his mistakes, like letting him go to school without a note if he hasn't done his homework. This actually worked much better. He is much more conscientious now as he is learning his actions directly affect his life.

[@joeyree22]

@entity I'm not sure you completely recognise what she is trying to convey. As Cecile said " Children need to learn that sometimes things are hard work and you have to keep trying until you finish the task and then be rewarded." It's about encouraging persistence, and not just participation. Also, no one is going to deny that video games/TV are not a considerable part of children's lives these days; but instead, how about how about trying to advocate and promote other forms of communication(s)? Talking on the telephone or writing a letter may seem old fashion, but both are very important life skills for children learn. As a teacher I strongly believe adults should aid and support kids in learning new/ various forms of communication, not just chat via a video game.