This Causes the Largest Wounding to the Narcissist

[@rubytroy7756]

No contact is the best revenge….. silence is golden…. ❤

[@carmenbrown3437]

Absolutely.

[@crystalclimenhage7159]

I don't think they always care

[@rahmasamir909]

​@@crystalclimenhage7159WE dont Care about them just leave them forever

[@tdang9528]

I think you are right. You just enter the spjder web lolzzz

[@sharonbland9061]

I left my husband after 20 years. He NEVER thought i would leave him. He went to work one morning and i left, with our 2 children who were 5 and 7 at the time. I basicalky made myself homeless. But, it was better than staying in the mental torture that i was living in. The feeling of freedom, was overwhelming. This was 23 years ago, 2 years of councilling to get my head back to some form mental normality. It was hard, but if i learned anything, i learned i am strong and a survivor, NEVER the victim, i am proud of where i am today, its a million miles away from where i was. I remarried 7 years ago to a man who loves and respects me.

[@AnOpdam]

❤

[@jackiefruge5884]

Blessings to you and your children, you are one strong woman

[@tabithamichellemawdsley6969]

No contact = Peace!

[@No-Name-f8p]

No contact is as golden as silence 💯🙌🏼

[@katelondon54]

I remember when I escaped from my narcissist. We had only been going out for maybe six weeks, weren’t even living together, and he just had a MELTDOWN. I was completely confused because he was acting like I had cut off his oxygen supply when we hadn’t even been dating for a whole summer. Turns out, that’s exactly the way he felt! Then I was doubly confused when I went to ask him when he was leaving our company because we worked together, and he coldly said, Why would I leave? We weren’t really that serious. And I was like, Didn’t you ask me to marry you? ( red flag after such a short relationship.) I remember thinking, Did I dream this or something. It was so odd, and I couldn’t figure it out.

[@Bob-zh6dw]

I left the narcissist 4 years ago and went No Contact. She married new supply within 4 months and our relationship lasted 11 years. She tried to Hoover me a few days ago through a social media platform. I didn't respond.

[@LolloLou]

Congratulations on 4 yrs freedom. Imagine. Just married and they are calling their ex for a 'chat'. So low. They think they are such players but when you step away you see how weak and pathetic they really are. Keep up the good work. Forever free. Zen.

[@dragonclaws9367]

You got me through the worst HG. I thought I was going to die without him. You helped me survive. The crushing abandonment, I couldn't even get out of bed. Now I try to live my own life. He walked out so I must go on. Nobody here but me. Have to pick up and move ahead.

[@suetownsend317]

Well done!👏👏👏👏

[@pinkkittyize]

Well done, you never need a narcissist in your life, peace is on the other side..😊

[@swinginga2136]

How fortunate, that the one solitary thing causing the largest wounding to the narcissist, also is the one thing giving us the largest amount of peace and freedom. We listen and learn from HG Tudor. And once we know we go, we get out and we stay out. We implement our total no contact regimen and we are rewarded with total peace and total freedom. Thank you HG 🥇

[@everetteborr]

Great observation! The best thing for the victim is to let go and peacefully move forward without the narcissist, and this ironically is the worst thing for the narcissist.

[@swinginga2136]

@@everetteborr exactly! Perfect combination! 😊

[@fiorenzaattanasio4796]

No contact best treatment plan indeed…..detachment forever best

[@KnockedupNout]

I'm not here for ammo, I'm here for wisdom... and that voice! ❤

[@etaokha4164]

Forgive me but I hate my baby daddy. Not only am i hurt, But our child is hurting too. I dropped him and went no contact. What a worthless animal

[@alisonj9533]

Don't feel bad at all you've saved the both of you far worse! I did the same 30 years ago, absolutely no regrets just a lot of healing to do, I was almost demented in a reasonably short amount of time. God bless you. I never talk about the father in a negative way, I just don't talk about him at all and as he spat in my face on telling him I was pregnant it was so confusing as I know he deliberately got me pregnant.. I'll spare you the details.

[@NMTDelightfulMusic]

Now you find a great guy a daddy for your child. That way he will not be traumatized.... Don't stay alone!

[@rahmasamir909]

Leave them forever 🎉

[@mimig365]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 exactly what I did, escaped each time…my empathy is intact since I also severed all ties, have had zero communication, and got on with my life…it cost far too much to stay with anyone narcissistic and even more to escape, but I am free and sooo much better off…ty for verifying 😏

[@southernborn1358]

Here’s the thing with our narcissist. I can try to move forward, grieve the loss of my oldest child, try to forget it all-but I can never, ever forgive her for everything she did to our oldest granddaughter. I’m raising her alone now, since my husband died suddenly 2 years ago. I’m beyond grateful to God for letting us take her out of that toxic, horrible home when the time presented itself. I’m ashamed of narcissistic daughter.

[@madcatter972]

This is actually very useful info on how NOT to poke the bear (in order to protect myself). Thanks H.G. 😊

[@manchitas3531]

What a start of the video! LOL... Yes, you can't manipulate me to feel guilt for wanting to know what wounds the narcissist. Although from what I have seen, he takes a break a few weeks then starts it up again. I just have to turn into that gray rock and not react. Hoping something happens that removes him from my life forever

[@andersdottir1111]

The biggest wound to a narcissist is the escape of the primary source of supply and the no contact put in place by the primary source. Gift these creatures your absence.

[@B-Nia]

👏👏👏👏

[@janemiller5298]

Disguising the escape into discard, living again, loving and marring a normal man , having children loving him

[@Lisa-t1n7l]

I'm not an empath, I'm normal. Time is taking care of him.

[@mireiacastello7041]

I see you've reached 200 thousand subscribers at last. Congratulations, HG!

[@nikkicarrington6619]

I escaped the narc ex 19 years ago, he works for the same company as me although I moved 200 miles so that I do not bump into him at work but people I work with do as we all move around a lot, he has not accepted that he got rejected and he still tells people that I want him to move in with me and that he does my housework, DIY, gardening, we go on holidays and he pays bills when he has actually never been to my house and I moved to avoid him. He never treated me bad, it was the opposite, overly helpful and 'nice' which was draining and creepy and I saw through his blame shifting and B/S. It wasn't till I found HG's amazing work that I found out what he was and he was not my first, I have been the one that ended them all though, it does make them very mad.

[@everetteborr]

Congratulations on not repeating your mistakes!

[@JeepersCreepers79]

Wow. This video put something that happened to me 20 yrs ago into clear perspective. I didn't see it for what it was until now. Thanks HG. I'm always learning from your wisdom. 👍

[@RaisetheVibe-123]

Nope. They lose out just by being their empty selves. They will always live a false self and that is a losing situation.

[@obiefuletochukwu2074]

Tudor you are very wonderful !!.......thanks for all your help, we are getting better. in all honesty I'm almost getting to that place where I even pray for her......from a distance though .

[@Kerry.moynihan.intellectual]

Thank you. You are the psychopathic superhero the world didn't know it needed, now, aren't you?!

[@rubytroy7756]

I first listened to this a least a year ago ….. l am in a much better place…. Thank you HG❤

[@SkylarK_x_bk_0]

Oooooohhhhh, yes !! So good to be reminded of this 🦘.

[@AnOpdam]

I escaped 🥳

[@DrimbleWedge]

As I nonchalantly sip my Tia Maria & Coke, (it’s still Sunday in Australia, don’t judge) I’m starting to realise that being born to a narcissist has primed and almost groomed me to be manipulated by them, in various settings, in a gamut of situations, by an endless series of narcissists. Most recently by my sister in law who managed to turn my brother’s three year (& recently lost) battle with cancer, into being all about her. Must admit, for a doormat, sorry, empath, who works in the counselling and helping field, I’ve slightly cracked the shits, and had enough. Gong to add HG’s book and a membership to my Xmas list which thus far consists of, well nothing. So that means that Santa should come through. I am seriously disavowing my previously empathic ‘well, you don’t know why people do things/behave as c you next Tuesdays, let’s try to embrace them, for a sterner, somewhat more enlightened approach. Perhaps HG gives lessons in how one might become a narcissist? In a Darwinian sense, it might increase my odds of survival.

[@Buffythenarcslayer]

My condolences for your loss and experience to the lead up of his passing with your SIL Paula also has a great channel Narc Con. Did you watch her vid about mothers? Give yourself plenty of time for healing your mind and grief .. you really wouldn’t want to be like them. Who cares about trying to understand them.. they can fuck right off out of your life.. that’s all you need to understand Take care 🇦🇺🦘

[@Vic-Meow]

Wow, I'm sorry about your brother and the crap you've had to deal with. You certainly sound like an interesting character. Your comment about the SIL also caught my attention. My sister's DIL did the same thing when my sister got cancer. Sis also passed on. The DIL came out of the woodwork, as if it would make her more popular being adjacent to the star patient. What a sick and devious monster she was and continues to be. I do wish us both the best 🍸Wish I could have a drink with you

[@MizJilly]

God bless you, and I'm so sorry for your loss. Your brother would be so proud of you for what you just realized. In his honor, march on. And if I may, perhaps give the counseling career a second thought. You may need to put some distance between yourself and the empath identity for a while.

[@simlinestudios7062]

Thanks HG

[@AngiesTeaNTarot]

Avenge vs Revenge. One happens naturally and the other with spite. When you leave it alone, they all get exposed.

[@karenconnolly7152]

Becoming the best version of yourself, confident and capable of restarting your life and pursuing your childhood dreams courageously overcoming the lie you were living with them absolutely the great escape in my experience

[@rubytroy7756]

In a sense it is already happened and happening ❤

[@sophiemurphy-d8w]

When its your dad you have to go no contact with well,its pretty unusual. Blood is thicker than water as folk told me.I never wanted revenge. Just peace. But an adult child isnt an IPPS. I only provided fuel at dinner parties 😂

[@Always_Thinking]

I understand some going no contact & that must be a good feeling & help restore some self-esteem & self-worth as the one to cut this off. My situation is different as he passed unexpectedly. I thought I would feel better but it has not worked that way!

[@BrendaBaBoom]

You also have closure.

[@MizJilly]

I just recognized someone as a narc a few weeks ago. You know how I got into our business relationship? "I can help her." That isn't your role in a relationship with another adult. Mama, papa, savior, helper - whatever you're thinking you are, get off your own high horse and keep it moving. I made this mistake.

[@loriloretta7639]

I guessed correctly!!!

[@gardeningnewearth3680]

I’m not here to find out…I’m here to see if I’ve already done it

[@michelleclark8099]

Indeed.

[@vesnatalevska9000]

You make me laugh HG! Your the best!

[@sharonbland9061]

HG this is music to jy ears 😂😂😂

[@TheHammerOfLogic]

Another Great Video HG Thank you

[@indiaandrews6996]

At the idea of learning what mortally wounds the narcissist, this empath rubs hands together and says, “Muahaha!”😅

[@thinkingman2020]

Myself and a bff went " no contact " with another bff. We realized she was a liar and manipulator (unlike anyone I've known) with her use of language and subtleties to make a person feel important (retired lawyer should have been my first clue) - It was astounding! She ultimately was disingenuos, had zero respect and used us. The three of us holidayed, had parties, and were in contact regularly etc. We cut her off cold turkey. There was an initial follow up e-mail by her and we didn't respond. 18 months later the narcissist e-mailed again...in her email her mask was removed in its entirety. She couldn't understand or imagine what she had done to deserve the silence among other statements. The email simply confirmed our decision to cold cock the ingrate and we unwittingly wounded her. It was wonderfully executed.

[@jeanettecook1088]

Really? I'm so glad to learn this. I escaped by solely acting on instinct, as not much was known about narcissism then. I simply knew he had a terrible problem he would not face or help me with in any way. I'm so relieved to know I wounded him so badly. Good! It was high time someone did. Now he can live with himself... no need for me to want to seek revenge (I did not and do not), since living with himself would certainly be punishing... enough? 🎉 😂

[@IreneRoach]

Holy Cow! 200K subscribers. When did you turn the corner?

[@suzeeq3704]

Helpful

[@undertheradar001]

I am an empath with a dose of the fleas.

[@MistyOne]

lol. Never claimed to be an empath HG. I was raised by one remember? Your best and most informative video yet 🤣

[@hankieski1549]

I clicked because I want to know if what’s going on is causing her to throw plates in Monteshitshow so I can laugh.

[@MRRS-ee1cd]

I have just started needlessly listening to this clip because I perfectly know the answer: NO CONTACT. But Mr HG, what can I do if I am enamoured of your voice? You are the one and only narcissist I can keep in touch with!

[@elizabethhyndman4]

Good ✔️

[@jans724]

I escaped, I guess that's why she's so incredibly obsessed and vindicative. The smear campaign, false allegations to police etc., continues even after 2 years. Even with no contact. Is there anyway to get that to stop?

[@NMTDelightfulMusic]

No

[@rubytroy7756]

Secret Narc 😂😂😂

[@rubytroy7756]

I escaped once…. so it can be done again… escape ❤

[@kahlabrate8954]

A trick ! Do you press the like button ??

[@zeldazonk5080]

How long does that wound lasts ? Is it the same amount of wounding if there is already a backup supply ready to be "promoted" as a primary source or if there isn't one (or not yet) ? If you escaped, are you free forever or do you have to keep your guard up (even if you're not "hooverable" ? Thank you very much for the hinsights HG

[@passion8princess261]

So what happens to the secondary sources that the Narcissist has steamed rolled over, do they get revenge by escaping too? Or does that not apply because the Narcissist has the Primary Source?

[@tarasteward3271]

As a former SS they don't think about you that much and freedom is great! Just never have contact even if they come up to you on the street (pretend you didn't see them or you don't know them) we have it good.PS suffers with stalking and trust me that is not a good living at all.

[@BrendaBaBoom]

They hate it when the secondary source bows out of the Narc’s triangle.

[@wahl44]

❤

[@tamara-g4r]

Does this wounding apply regardless of what stage of the roller coaster you’re in when you make your escape? What if you escape during the “Stranger Zone” phase, the lovebombing phase is over but the FIRST full-on devaluation has not yet begun?

[@roden70]

When 2 sisters are living together, can a sister be the intimate primary source for a narc?

[@rebeccaweil1]

Who’s said that I am empathic towards a narcissistic person

[@julieharris227]

😉

[@Bluesand10045]

I Came Here To Say, People Seeking This Information Should Probably Consider Self Reflection. The Video Is Informative Yes, But Why Do You Need This Information? What Drives You To Want More Pain Where There Is Already Pain? Is That Justification You Just Made In Your Head Reasonable If Held Up To Scrutiny?

[@tdang9528]

Revenge is seldom worth it has you often dont succeed, but if you do it is very rewarding and you can keep thinking how amazing a job you did on that guy...😂 This would be my no1 but i dont think a person often succeeds in this as revenge needs clever crafting and execution takes a lot of effort. One must also input energy into it an sustain it. Its not for everyone. You probably suffer more in the process...so cost/bemefit is not worth it.

[@kimberlywind2418]

Can there be two IPSS? Mother and wife?