This Is NOT Love, It's A Trauma Bond (Watch Out These 8 Signs)

[@Elle-yt1gv]

but if i leave them like everyone else does, i’m afraid they’ll attempt suicide again…

[@Psych2go]

What would you guys do in this situation?

[@Homeless_Pigeon_History]

@@Psych2gongl I find it kinda weird that instead of offering advice or consolation you pose this question, as if you are simply trying to get replies and fishing for more comments for the algorithm… I could be getting the wrong message but that’s what it comes across as for me

[@MattressOnFloor]

Is that your problem?

[@elenamyers3821]

@@Psych2gohonestly tell the police/hospital. They need professional help and it’s not healthy for you to keep that to yourself

[@Holliswasthere]

@@Psych2go leave them, this is considered a sort of emotional abuse the more you stay in such relationships the more you will get roped in and unable to escape now being trapped in misery and anguish watching your every word and movement to make sure they don’t "try" again. Some peoples are unstable and it’s well known, but there is also some ready to go to great length and use menace to keep someone else at their side. Is it also important to consider your well being and leave a toxic situation such as what Elle said is it not their fault if they were to act there was a lot of case registered like that peoples threatening suicide just to keep them close while having no intend on doing so- if the situation is too drastic and there is clear message proof and threat such as that then the best scenario would be to contact their parents, authorities and get them help and leave it to them for your own mental health, and physical health as well.

[@NarcSurvivor]

The number one sign is that it HURTS and you feel confused, without answers or an explanation. Narcissists will trauma bond you. People who love and care for you will not.

[@NarcSurvivor]

@@crazyexbf That’s because teenagers are naturally narcissistic, but it’s relatively healthy and acceptable at that age.

[@JustAnInnocentLamb]

I'm a teenager and I'm not narcissistic, in fact i have low self esteem 💀​@@NarcSurvivorteens aren't "naturally" narcissistic. It's like saying pitbulls are naturally evil lmao

[@NarcSurvivor]

@@JustAnInnocentLamb Actually yes, children and teenagers are naturally narcissistic. They need to be, because at that age they can't fully meet their own needs.

[@nazzy101]

@@JustAnInnocentLambyou missed the whole point, not all teenagers are the same and i am sure you feel outcast and different because of your low self esteem and your peers are probably portraying very different actions etc. right now. that is because you all are still growing up and trying to figure out who you are. i know cause i was at your place a couple years back, don't worry it all comes around and you will feel much better and lighter

[@skvarty_dubz_and_wubz]

TIMESTAMPS: 0:57 1. The other person is outwardly charming; 1:31 2. They are emotionally unpredictable; 2:07 3. They tend to take their problems out on you; 2:30 4. They isolate you from your loved ones; 3:05 5. You deny or minimize their abusive behaviour; 3:43 6. You constantly make excuses for them; 4:14 7. You're becoming more and more emotionally numb; 4:51 8. You're hiding aspects of your relationship from others.

[@Rea_36]

Thanks à lot!❤

[@PelemusMcSoy]

This sounds uncomfortably close to the last girl I dated...

[@LastEarBender]

If it's only maybe 5 or 6 of these, I'm good, right? 🙃

[@jazzywazzy1998]

I went through all this in the past. I left him in 2021, was with him for 6 years. It's hard at first but it gets better and you have to rediscover who you are after an abusive relationship like that. I'm still depressed, but things have improved in my life drastically.

[@Raven-Rose_Goth584]

Sorry for you lost was he a sudent?

[@riblets1968]

As somebody who used to be in such relationships, this one hit home. My current, actually loving partner suffered the same in her past. It's never too late to rescue yourself unless you're dead or in prison. Don't let it get to that point.

[@BuddhismWisdoms]

The primary indicator is the presence of pain accompanied by a sense of confusion, lacking answers or a clear explanation.

[@AgengirMess]

One of the suckiest things not everyone talks about, is how hard healing is after that traumatic relationship. I’m still healing and it’s only been about a month. I’m still somewhat his friend but I think he hates me since we broke up. Sometimes you will miss the abxse you endured and that’s one of the worst parts. People have told me that it is normal and I just hope to heal from it fully one day.

[@ingrid5944]

I'm in the breakup phase right now. I'm alone in my room on a Saturday night, watching this! Videos like this makes me remind why I took the right decision to stay away. Actually, if he haven't said "i don't want this anymore" I think I would still keep trying with him, and when I realize this, I understand that I have a lot to heal from childhood trauma. I didn't learn how to be loved for who I am, but to be loved only when I did something to my mom or dad, then, I learned how to be a servant, basically... I want to experience REAL LOVE!!!! I want to love someone for who they are and I want them to love me back, for who I am, because they enjoy my company, my personality, my sense of humor, my ideas! I want to feel really loved and appreciated and understood! That relationship I had was bad as hell, but I think I learned really important things. It's better to be alone right now but at peace, knowing that I'm not being mistreated, lied to. I want someone honest, kind hearted, mature, a real gentleman! Thank you psych2go for helping me on my healing journey! ❤

[@lydia_popp1238]

Had a friend send this to me. I’ve been going through this exact situation for a while now, having lots of friends ask me “Are you sure you don’t want to leave?” And for the longest time, I’d say it was because “he makes me happy” but in all reality, He didn’t. I cried over the things he would do and say to me, all because when we started dating, it was never like that. I fell in love with who he was originally, and refused to realize who he had revealed himself to be. Forgetting about dates, not calling to say sorry or even explaining. Flirting with my friends and other girls during are relationship. Hitting me whenever he got angry. I started planning out what I could and could not say around him, because he would hurt me if he saw me weak. I never felt free to speak about anything that was important to me, good or bad. And anytime I addressed a problem within are relationship, he would say it wasn’t important or wasn’t real. He was great at saying what things he didn’t like about me though. Calling me names, saying he didn’t like that I never shared stuff with him. I did at first. Always. Communication is very important to me. But he would always react with violence, or not talk to me for days on end. Ashame too, he was my first boyfriend. When I finally got the strength to leave him today, he punched me, and said I’ll never find any better. Blood came out of my nose from him punching me. But for the first time ever, I stood up to him. I pushed him back, and said, “If you ever loved me, you would never of gone ur of your way to hurt me like you do. Whether you realize it or not, nobody deserves treatment such as this, and until you can work through your problems in a positive way, nobody can love you back”. I feel horrible. But, I think it was the right thing to do. Sorry for the rant, but thank you for helping me. Even if you probably don’t see this, You don’t know how much I appreciate it. It means the world. ❤

[@Sans01732]

Damn… and I thought I had it bad

[@Musicgeek475]

I totally understand any feelings of guilt . . . I went through that too, leaving someone. But good for you!! I know I’m a rando on the internet haha, but I hope it helps for me to say that you definitely made the right decision, and you’re right that if he really cared he wouldn’t hurt you like that. Some people are pretty messed up, so it’s possible he cared in his own way, but no, you did not deserve that treatment. I hope with time you’ve been able to heal some from all that 🙏🏼 You should be able to trust your boyfriend with your honesty without fearing a violent or negative response ❤

[@Hezenzhen]

After watching this I have realized that maybe I’m a trauma bond partner 😞 this is my sign to work on becoming a better person

[@DasHeino2010]

I believe in you!

[@Hezenzhen]

@@DasHeino2010 thank you so much 😊 it’s a little hard right now but I’ll get there for sure 💯

[@lmho0254]

I love comments like these. The self-growth is so touching to see

[@jazminolivari3734]

This video is incredibly on spot! Many of us have gone through almost all of these reflags.

[@danavixen6274]

A psychological punching bag.....well said. ❤

[@aurorag1710]

As someone who is trying to move on from a "relationship" with a narcissist, this video really is so relatable... I've been in absolute No Contact since december 30th but it's really hard... I need help... Hopefully starting therapy in the upcoming weeks 🤞💕

[@lmho0254]

I relate, but I guess I'm only a teenager (so you can take my little ordeal with a grain of salt) but I always had the person's anger and insecurities taken out of me, even when I didn't really do anything. I got stonewalled a lot (being left out, and not willing to be talked to) by the person, and it got to a point where they threatened "I'll beat your *ss, break those glasses (which had an actual prescription in them)... etc" and physically fought me (I turned out okay but I kicked the person in the eye). This all happened about four months ago (November 6th) and I still get anxiety/flashbacks/nightmares, etc. I went to the counselor and I'm doing fine. I'm so proud of you for signing up for therapy, it's hard to do. I hope it goes well, and you have a good therapist ❤👐

[@creamy_moon_x102]

YOU GAVE ME ALL THE ANSWERS AND REASONS TO break up with him... Again. ❤

[@mariandeleon7512]

Hope, instead of "again", it becomes a "definitely".

[@JustAnInnocentLamb]

Listen, I know you love him and you feel like he loves you, but he doesn't. He's probably manipulating you. Please don't let the cycle continue. It's killing your mental health, and you deserve better.

[@courtoons]

Thanks for sharing this!!! I’m currently dealing with getting past a previous relationship, but I was unable to leave due to this issue. This was very educational, and it’s helped me understand why it was so hard to leave 🙃

[@jackiecastillo2484]

Trauma bonds most definitely don't work. It's bettr to move on! No need for drama and toxic abusive relations.

[@SlinkAnims]

This actually helps for future reference of relationships for me, amazing video!

[@joyceottino1830]

I so related to this. Been married 50 years. But no know it wasn’t love that kept me, it was trauma bond. 😥

[@Leispada]

I've come to realize I was the toxic push-pull one in my previous relationship. I broke up because of it. I did not consciously treat her bad, but despite intentions, the insidious effect remains.. I find this knowledge devastating, and will strive to never let this happen again

[@dorisparker811]

Very cool that you recognized the toxicity in yourself, many toxic people don't see it. You're on your way to your own healing.

[@janiealexander9450]

One of the things that made it very hard for me to get out of an abusive relationship was how he charmed everyone with his lies (even the police!). No one believed me. Finally, I found the help I needed at a Women's Center in Phoenix AZ

[@justultrra3568]

I messed up, here is the correct list with corresponding time stamps. 0:57 - the other person is outwardly charming 1:31 - they are emotionally unpredictable 2:07 - they tend to take their problems out on you 2:31 - they isolate you from your loved ones 3:03 - you deny or minimize their abusive behavior 3:42 - you constantly make excuses for them 4:13 - you're becoming more and more emotionally numb 4:50 - you're hiding aspects of your relationship from others These videos do help at times and I have always seen time stamps to aid out, so it's my turn to provide them!

[@Luci_197]

Am I the only one whos watching this to make sure im not a bad partner?..and to make sure that I dont hurt my boyfriend on accident

[@joelheath2746]

I tend to think the reason we do is because we experienced abuse or worse.

[@Luci_197]

@@joelheath2746 yea makes sense

[@dreamyalora]

I was in a relationship like this, and honestly, I am so glad that it's over now. I feel so relieved, and although I was scared of losing them, I'm very glad I lost them. Because I always made excuses and denied having an “abusive” relationship when talking to my friends, I also lost one of my most loved friends. However, I am so happy that it's over and that now, I am finally learning how a non-abusive relationship is like with a person who really cares about me and my feelings. I don't regret leaving that emotionally abusive person at all, because now I can focus on the good sites of a relationship. The actual loving and comforting part of a relationship feels so much better.

[@snowwriting]

I'm just so happy to see the views number going up while watching the video because it feels like some people are out there in the world, right this moment, watching this same video and probably feeling similar feelings. It doesn't sound so impressive, true, but it's miraculous if you give attention to the little things. Remember that you are not alone.

[@rc2487]

Yes this video was very helpful, where were you when I needed help during my relationship with my narcissistic ex girlfriend. I really didn’t know how to seek help when this was happening because I didn’t know how to explain what was happening. Thank God she abandoned me without closure, it was a blessing in disguise. A big thank you to my female friend who coached me on how to play mind games with her. Now I am sucka free and I can spot the red flags when I’m being manipulated.

[@K1w1ko]

Your voice is so calming❤

[@lacyyyy]

wishin yall healin.

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). The other person is outwardly charming 0:56 2). They are emotionally unpredictable 1:30 3). They tend to take their problems out on you 2:06 4). They isolate you from your loved ones 2:29 5). You deny or minimize their abusive behaviour 3:01 6). You constantly make excuses for them 3:41 7). You're becoming more and more emotionally numb 4:13 8). You're hiding of your relationship from others 4:50 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@Absolhunter251]

Thank you for sharing this…I needed this.. 😢 I’ve been through this a lot.

[@kenzieplays890]

Yeah i think I've just got out of a trauma bond with a friend, he was never physically abusive but he would be blaming his actions on his ADHD, i have it as well and know not to act that way, i would be emotionally drained after going out for events, and would tell my parents about what happen and my dad saying to end it and my mom saying to be friends just don't go to places with him. but the breaking point was getting mad at a bad roll in a dnd game at get pissing with me until i said enough and ended it, now im getting feeling of sadness, and I want to talk to him but then realized what he did, it hurts yes but if people are toxic too you and bring you down it's not okay

[@zpaley5095]

DnD is an excellent tool for identifying toxic people in your life. Except now I never want to play DnD again...

[@flamegamer3424]

I needed to see this. I heard people who are or were having who were or are having these kind of relationships. The effect of this kind of pain would only get worse. So I don’t want that to happen to me ever.

[@lorettablakeman3335]

My daughter's tell me that I've completely changed.I was finally able to leave him,and I haven't dated anyone for years.I'm too scared of guys now,it's really sad...

[@JustAnInnocentLamb]

I'm so sorry this happened. I hope you eventually recover from this. I highly advise psychological help.

[@documenting.life.08]

I had experienced all the symptoms mentioned, i left that person but it leads to 8 months of therapy and isolation.I had resigned from my job and my career and dreams have stopped. I can't talk to friends anymore, sometimes I want to but mostly i am not able to so I have been living in isolation from past 6months. I am still currently under treatment but now I am little better than before. I am still scared of going outside and communicating with friends but atleast now I am able to be communicate with my family and living with them.I am not praying for a happy life or anything just want to have a normal life again.

[@lovelumity]

I don't know if I'm the bad or the good person anymore And it's starting to piss me off

[@cyannataylor1429]

Thank you for this I haven’t watched it but I know it will help

[@Snoozingbat]

I stayed like this for 3 years, she was suicidal and I felt like it was my responsibility but please if anyone related to this video, leave!! Prioritize your mental health! You matter! And it’s not just you!

[@Devilish_.]

I feel as though my 'bond' with my mother is a trauma bond, she has done wrong by me several times, verbally and mentally abusing me and so on although I feel like I can't leave her. I know I should due to how bad it gets but I when the time comes I choose to stay because I feel like she's doing it for a reason, y'know? like i promise myself that she'll stop but she never does

[@Luci_197]

Im also going through something similar rn..but its best if u leave her..she wont change no matter how many times u think she will....stay strong..things will get better for u dont worry!!

[@Devilish_.]

@@Luci_197 yeah, thank you. I hope your situation gets better aswell

[@michellebonagua2920]

​@@Devilish_. @McNeuvillette321 You two deserve a hug 🫂

[@cryptic_shock]

Don't leave her you only have one mother you can always communicate how she made you felt, she may have her own issues and imperfections but I'm sure she tried her best to raise you

[@Luci_197]

@@cryptic_shock not all mothers are good-

[@Broken_Clock_99]

Relatable. It was like you were talking about me all along

[@rowdent4971]

I had a trauma bond with someone who I thought was my friend in my childhood. My experience with them fit into all of these signs and it really changed me when I was younger, it altered my personality and self esteem for the worst and, as said in this video, I became numb to the point I was mute because of them. I was really happy when I graduated high school as id never see them again. Im doing a lot greater and I've met people who actually care. So it does get better once they're out of your life, I'm still healing, but I'm better.

[@chigooner7433]

This has been exactly my situation! Thank goodness my divorce went pack it all up thrashing it and also going no contact!

[@zlumi428]

I hope this video will be helpful for anyone who needs it right now.

[@sarahjanechien4044]

I have an amazing partner. I am 21 now and moved out when I was 18. Watching this made me realize… this sounds like my parents. Outwardly Charming, emotionally unpredictable, tend to take their problems out on you, isolate you from loved ones (friends, the outside world, denying and minimizing the behaviour is something I always did and I still do, I became emotionally numb as a teen, told myself I deserve this, they are not bad, I hid these aspects of my parents. Trauma bonding can happen with any kind of relationship, even with a boss and employee.

[@omegabkg]

This video clearly talks about me, with my cousin being the abuser. It was a struggle to get out of that situation and avoid suicidal attempts.

[@baileysharons.s3415]

I needed this topic video 4 years before. Now I'm in a trauma bond and I'm trying to get out of it.

[@ClintonFlinton]

Thanks

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for your extra support! ❤

[@marianaarrietaaguilar4574]

I've been on and off in this kind of relationship for almost 7 years, I'm 26 now and completely drained and exhausted, however I can't leave because I refuse to be alone cause I know there's nothing better out there

[@samH3646]

I just got out of a relationship with someone who treated me like this, except he would stonewall me when he was angry is the one difference. He would always turn every situation on me even though I did nothing wrong. He would always gaslight and emotionally manipulate me and love bomb me, but then he’d lie right to my face constantly. I never knew how he would react I to me expressing my feelings ( he called my anxiety, depression, and self harm sob stories which is ridiculous) and so I was always walking on eggshells. He did everyone of the things talked about in this video and I did tried to minimize his behavior or justify it because he always somehow had me so convinced I did something wrong. But my friends and even my mom after it ended kept telling me that I did nothing wrong. I kept begging for him back and that’s the worst part, because he knew I was vulnerable and that he could manipulate me since this was my first relationship. He broke up with me over a picture that was taken a month before we’d met and it was on my friends insta and I was next to my friend who is trans, female to male, and he said he just was too jealous and that it was him not me. I’m glad I’m out of it now though, because my mental health and physical health during the time we dated was not good at all. I was eventually just so emotionally drained. He also never wanted to take the compliments I gave him because he was like “I already know I don’t need you or anyone to tell me”. He always would not completely open up to me and communicate which was very frustrating because communication is huge for me. He didn’t want to ever meet my friends and he never wanted me to be around any guys like at all. Which I’m all for boundaries, but when it comes to coworkers and classmates, and the friends I have that are guys (I’m 18) like I feel like that’s a little much. Like I’m obviously not gonna be hanging out one on one with them and shit like that that would be cheating. But he also projected a lot on me and it was unfair, and he was still so stuck in his past relationships and always comparing me to his exes or saying like “just don’t do this like she did”. But healing is going to take so long for me because there was just so much he did and said, like trying to guilt trip me because I shut him out, saying he was crying and wanted to break up because I didn’t want to fight on the phone at 1 in the morning so I told him we could talk about it later that day when it was actually daytime. When the thing is I cried so many more times than he did. He was the one making me cry and then the only time he cried was when I told him bout my self harm or he cried when I called him crying because I was upset.

[@sohanarahaman8070]

This is really sad and true and a lot of cases 😢.

[@sohanarahaman8070]

Honestly, this is a pretty interesting 🤔 psychology, psycho analysis of relationships, and trauma bond.

[@Derrekkorh]

I did. Like almost everything you have said......but we don't talk anymore. I saw what was going on and was like I'm gonna break up and then when we did and I introduced them to a friend they stopped talking to me and using me for sex cause they had someone else. I know some would say that's good. But that was still 10 years of friendship and 7 relationship out of it. Just to be tossed aside and hurt.

[@ZombieliciousArt]

This video posted at the perfect time thank you. 😮‍💨

[@hennnerz]

This is 100% my mother’s relationship with my abusive dad… Split up 13 years ago are randomly back together!

[@misspillow3]

this made me cry. all of these apply to me, i didnt think it was this bad. i've been with him for 4 years and i've never managed to love someone else. i cant leave him or else i'll hurt worse, so i have to stay. i'll just keep hoping that things get better

[@x-0841]

you can survive the hurt from leaving him, i promise. you can only realise that upon leaving, yh it’ll hurt a lot at first but then it will hurt less and less. hoping things will change hasn’t really changed anything in the last years so why would it change in the near future? don’t live with false hope, u have to be brave enough to take care of yourself ❤

[@paddlinglotus9048]

I will make that change

[@crystaldance5731]

Thankyou for this video makes things clearer 👍🏻😊

[@numberoneappgames]

I got sad watching this. Love people. It's not that hard!!!

[@b4lec.4ce]

From Sept. 15 - Nov. 14, i was stuck in a trauma bond. I knew my mental health was spiraling, i just didnt know why. I eventuality developed smiling depression, which quickly turned into cvtting all the time in order to feel okay. I stopped only because a promise i made to someone, but then went numb. But the person i was with only used me for my body and i only realized that once it was the day before the break up. I hate how i know that i could relate to all 8 things, even the isolating. I had this one friend that he introduced me to and she would take me away to have fun (it was genuin fun, i was ecstatic if the rest of the day was alright), but the person i was with didnt like it.. so he literally held onto me everytime she even came near me. Im afraid that im in a trauma bond again though, so ima listen to it again

[@Psydaily]

A trauma bond is relatively common and sometimes very difficult to distinguish from real love. Especially when you are deep in it! Good luck and strength for everyone who is in this and is having a hard time

[@Ethxy_]

Thank you for making this video, it is very useful for all of us who have problems about it.. thank you very much

[@Amlyv]

100% facts and keep putting out this info

[@BloxyDancerGirl]

I'm in a situation just like this and for the longest time I was in denial but I realize now that it's time to let it go

[@Blatzzio]

WHY DOES A LOT OF THESE FIT IN MY REALITIONSHIP😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@tirthpatel6766]

But this raises two questions: 1. How is this different from the stockholm syndrome? Is it the next stage of the trauma bond? 2. What about actual bonds created over shared trauma? Are they healthy?

[@Holliswasthere]

Why is it saying that it’s was downloaded 36 secs ago, but there comment from five month ago? KZbin drank again. 😭

[@Tommy_Therian]

It probably is drunk again 😭

[@Luci_197]

Yes

[@dAfoodie101]

no, members of the channel can get access to videos early that’s probably it

[@cupcakxiia]

@@dAfoodie101 5 months is crazy

[@soulaanvon]

@@cupcakxiia fr

[@catsneeze]

i feel like i've done some things the abuser does, but like two, and not like constantly or in purpose. and i feel like ive gotten all or most of the effects or done most of the things the abused person does, but i dont think ive been abused, i think it's my fault for how i perceive things and that. it's not their fault. and they're not trying to or abusing me.

[@delreesejones1632]

I needed this. Thank you

[@faisalwani1239]

I love this channel 💝💖💝

[@AltQuinn]

Looks like I am in one... Because most of them is true except the physical abuse...

[@shanecox7942]

22 years and I finally realised she was BAD news, divorced and left

[@lilyvalley5389]

My friend was with bipolar man. Poor Susan. I hope she's free.

[@martinxayachack1019]

Worst connection to have. I mean seriously always on guard. Love is supposed to set you free from such things.

[@Killeryt-tk9vs]

Watching this at 6 AM with homework due tomorrow, feeling good

[@thisfrenchman]

last summer i met this incredibly attractive guy who i instantly caught feelings for, he was all i could ever ask for and at the time i kept telling myself « wow, i’m so lucky to have him in my life ». we never got in a relationship but i promised i wouldn’t see anyone else just to show him how committed i was. he didn’t. a couple months later i found out he was a cheater and a huge narcissist and i was being emotionally manipulated into depending on him. i wouldn’t say he was actually abusive, but more just manipulative. long story short, he kept manipulating me for 6 months until i cried every night because i couldn’t keep him for myself the same way he was keeping me for himself, i knew that he was doing the same thing to every girl he knew but i couldn’t just leave him like that even if it meant i would be better. i needed his daily validation to keep going and if i didn’t have it i would be down for a week straight. now, seven months after i met him, im almost fully done with him, i now know the difference between what i felt for him and love and im ready to confront him about everything he did to me.

[@MJBNBnSRQ]

This video hit it on the head 😅😢

[@PositiveVibesForever1847]

This was helpful

[@shunpillay]

I love the nod to Kiki’s Delivery Service at the end. 😉 😊 Always so much to find in your artwork.

[@SeniorCrude15]

I was in a situation similar to this. Yesterday was my bro's bday. I didn't really feel that happy. It was because of that fake friend i had. He said we were best bros. But he scolded me. Whenever i did something he didn't like. Whenever i tried to help with something. I didn't get the chance to explain myself. He over exaggerated things. Made me feel like there was something wrong with me. but i didn't know what. Today, he started kicking me for no reason. Said he was stronger than me. Not true, i gave someone a concussion. Said i was the fattest person in the world for no reason. He then mocked me for leaving because i wan'ted to go home. Then he said something. I don't remember it. It was the last straw. I hit him 2 times so hard i didn't know i could. I was in a fit of rage and hatred. He wan'ted it himself. He's not someone that should be in my life. Btw your voice is so beautiful and calming.

[@mukesh.dhimar]

My demonic ex would indeed take out everything she did on me. If she cheated on me, she would blame me for not being there. If she took drugs, she wouldn't even acknowledge how much damage it would cause her and our relationship. If I was out with friends (which happened less when I was with her), she would either keep calling me and messaging me saying another guy was at her house. She'd even send me screenshots of messages from other guys. She tried to tell me that some of my friends were bad. She then made lies up about me to some of my friends. She wrote a letter to my own mother. There were hundreds of other things. I did find myself emotionally numb. Broken. Lost myself. But the crazy thing is that now I'm not in that abusive, disgusting relationship anymore, I'm almost finding it MORE difficult because I'm not emotionally numb anymore, I'm actually living this emotions now like a post trauma.

[@kchann1223]

its like being called out on my last relationship 😅

[@gafer8808]

Nice video thank you

[@truhhhhhhhokIII3]

Its true. Guys watch out for 1: her being way too cool right away, gifts etc 2: the hot and cold and never seeming to have consistency 3: anytime you say: “hey i dont like this” they get mad. Or like they say “oh my ex made me mad so i ghosted you for 3 days bc i was overwhelmed” 4: sounds like “dont hang out with your friends hang with meeeee” 5: you are saying “ah maybe shes having a bad day and thats why i wont hear from her for days” 6: “maybe im being annoying for loving them?” 7: constant anxiety preceeds this 8: you only wanna talk about the good things she does every once in a while to your friends Def narc abuser tactics 101 Im not gonna drop names but if yall are in louisiana and meet someone named “*azmin” just run!

[@Minitayto]

Tysmm I needed this ☺

[@Poodleinacan]

I think I need someone that will respect me better 😢

[@K.O.R.L]

Realized both my last relationships were trauma bonds, both got really sick while we were together and were hospitalized and i nursed them back to health, thus we were bonded

[@blueaqua2122]

Question, are trauma bonds one sided or reciprocal?

[@chrisquedenbaum3972]

You always great messages ❤❤❤❤

[@austinjohnson2977]

2, 3, 5, 6 (sorta), 7, and 8- All these relate to my relationship with my dad 😢😭

[@shelleyisdreamin]

why do I relate to most of these videos, it's concerning.....

[@inoshishi8]

I've battled 7 the most with apathetic overload. I have PTSD. Ironically, I broke the ties bc I couldn't feel enough to care prior.

[@penguinnn5511]

Looking back I’ve realized just how many things I suppressed that he has done, because he forced me to forget things because “it’s in the past” even though it had a significant effect and was minutes ago. This includes having sex even if I didn’t want to, because if I said no, I’m not really in the mood or Im tired, he’d just lay down, have this weird expression on his face and cross his arms, and if I asked if he was alright, he’d just reply with “no, it’s fine.” And I would end up having to have sex, just to make him happy..and if I didn’t, he’d continue to be upset and passive aggressive, he wouldn’t even cuddle me to sleep, and he’d pull out the argument, that “anything could happen to him and then we couldn’t even have had sex for the last time” . Another thing I realized is how he forced me to get drunk and then exploit me for pictures..gosh, guys, how the hell did I stay 😭

[@stephaniesantiago9538]

Tbh, watching alot of these videos make me believe there's no such thing as love only

[@rufoisaiahbracamonte338]

I had a toxic relationship between my brother in 2022 who over critical of me for not wearing glasses and I wasnt able to enjoy those things around

[@pussiepoppins-jd3hm]

How would you advise someone who is the abuser to become a healthy person? What if they unconsciously do it?

[@Kaylibug]

3. My dad always takes his problems out on me I have adhd so at first I didn’t really understand so I thought I did something wrong. My dad would yell at me for somebody else’s wrongs, and sometimes even yell at me for being “too skinny” or “too light weighted” even tho I eat so much I should be a bit more chubby I am only 96.6 pounds and my waist is about 8 inches, I also get in trouble because of my art I haven’t been drawing for long but he always points out what I do wrong and sometimes it gets to the point where I don’t draw for a while, then he will ask me why I haven’t been drawing. Sometimes even I get yelled out to the point where I just zone out and he ask me if I heard anything of that and I say no sorry I zoned out and he’ll just yell. One time my cousin told me chuckies coming for you to me and so I thought “oh why not just say it at school!” And so I did- I was suspended for a week and had to talk to a police, they also said that if I say it again I’ll go to child jail. and one thing also.. I WAS ONLY 6 YEARS OLD. So I had NO clue what I did wrong.

[@Finding_Your_Way-z9y]

That's Carly and Freddie from iCarly

[@D_0_S]

My dad.... He used this as his biggest way to psychologically control me....

[@spy3603]

If it wasn't for therapy, I wouldn't have know that I was lowkey abused. Life goes on but half of me still thinks of them fondly and the other half had let them go. They don't know themselves well enough to grow from their trauma or improve during it all, but I wish em well.

[@inamabilis7423]

My ex was like this but it’s really hard to tell if she was actually manipulative or unintentionally toxic. Any case, she’s gone from my mind. Mostly. Well, maybe less in the future. I hope.

[@MersanaGhahremani]

tysm this really helped :)

[@huilin5570]

I love your vids