IF You Are Starting to THINK Your EX WILL NEVER Come Back, Then YOU MUST Not Do This

IF You Are Starting to THINK Your EX WILL NEVER Come Back, Then YOU MUST Not Do This
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[@pinkydey83]

My advice is, it takes a lot of hard work to continue no contact, heal your heart and move on.. Don't go back to them. Whether you find someone or not, you have to live for yourself.. Get busy, that's the best way to forget. Hope it helps.

[@MJordangame6]

❤

[@depressing_reap969]

"Don't go back to them" Is extremely unexplained. It's often heard that the break-up can make relationships stronger. I know I have changed a lot within my mistakes and she wasn't perfect. I'm not gonna exactly welcome her in like nothing happened but I'll treat her like I never knew her. I wanna find those red flags to see if she's changed. If she has, she isn't the same person that broke up with you.

[@nv4752]

@@depressing_reap969if this person left you … because this person thought could do it better and this person imagined his life without you and left you behind and probably started tinder a few days later after the relationship went to trash and after that this person were playing games as you didn’t had a heart ❤️… and didn’t care to hurt you … why are you gonna be after that person ? I made that mistake !!!! After the guy blocked me and I realize wait a minute .. I’m unforgettable and I’m beaut and smart … why in after someone back who doesn’t want me ? Where is my self worth ? This guy didn’t even respected my grief time and blocked me … so he can unblock me and do whatever he wants with his life ! I continue because the time I’ll spend on this guy will never comes back

[@jaydub7386]

Very helpful. I read your post just when I needed it. Thank you.

[@jessicafrancis2596]

Thank YOU for this! It helped remind me how much value I bring to the table…I needed to be reminded of that❤

[@FrankiesFire]

Mum always said you should give your used toys to the less fortunate.

[@mariefricchione437]

Oh I like that!!

[@pradnyadeshpande5395]

This means you are also someone's "used toy".

[@mjsocks5929]

My Ego Died. I met myself. Move on.

[@plusone8015]

Dig it 👌 😎 🙌

[@bettyloves3072]

3 months of no contact. I last spoke to him 24th December last year (2023) it's taken lots of prayers and discipline to never look behind coz that man put me through so much. Am grateful i have healed and still healing.

[@kenton93627]

Pedestal You should make a video about why dumpers get angry and play the victim

[@slowmo7219]

My ex did this. It’s because they’re so used to you allowing them to disrespect you, once you show them you have a sense of self respect they have no choice but to feel angry about it

[@lungilezama6448]

May I reply as a dumper. Sometimes we dump to be heard When we dont get our way we start explaining why we did that and so on Sometimes we are trying to see if you can leave without us. We use it as a measuring tool to see if we matter to you No ill intents I don't know about others Thank you

[@undead600]

Avoidants are pure toxic, avoid them at all cost

[@hopelessromantic1763]

Omg...just happened to me last week while on vacation. He called me every name under the sun. Called it off with me because I left. Now he's playing the victim. Ignoring my calls. I'm hurting bad

[@esmArt_]

I don't want him to come back, I just want to heal..

[@hyperion752]

How long your`s since no contact?

[@esmArt_]

@@hyperion752 hi👋🏻 we saw each other in October and he kept texting me time to time since. Last time, he reached 10 days ago. But I know that he doesn't changed at all.. so I'm trying to move on. I just want to say to people who's in no contact stage, your ex DEFINITELY will turn back! BUT it doesn't mean that he/she CHANGED.. unfortunately.😔 So don't get high hopes.. JUST MOVE ON with your life! 🫡🤍 Love. x 🌸

[@esmArt_]

@@hyperion752 hi👋🏻 we saw each other in October. And he wanted to see me about a month ago.. but i don't want to see him because i don't think he's changed.. I just wanna say something...your ex will DEFİNİTELY turn back!..BUT it doesn't mean he/she changed.. don't get high hopes. Just take care of yourself mentally and physically 🌸💖🙏🏻

[@hyperion752]

@@esmArt_ Me and my ex-GF broke up on new years eve it was so bad that my friends and her friends got involved 🙈 no contact since a week after that terrible night,i still miss her but don`t want get back together it hurts🤧💔

[@millwallfan06]

Honestly, that’s a great position to be in 👍

[@andyrips834]

I remember watching your videos and wanting her to come back to me but it's been 8 months and life has been better. So time really makes the difference, when I thought it would be no way I could move on, but you do.

[@Usernameblankslate]

Preach

[@jackberholme]

Same it's been 7 months or 8. I think the first 2, 3 months were quite difficult but time was passing by and now I think we won't get back together I almost move on but if I look back at my past I think is rhe best

[@tonymorph3672]

I’m at 6 months. It’s difficult because we have a two year old together so I still have to see her. She monkey branched to a long term “friend” who she always said wasn’t her type etc! They are living together now since January and I have heard they have checked each others phones behind each others backs etc so doesn’t sound great already. She also tries to text me when it’s not about our daughter and I just give short plain responses. I wouldn’t ever have her back now and feel much better about life. The first three months were torture and I think my daughter saved me from doing anything stupid to myself. Time is the greatest healer plus don’t drink or do drugs. Get yourself fit and healthy.

[@jackberholme]

@tonymorph3672 I feel you my ex justified that she needs to be in touch with an ex friend with benefit .... Do you know what's the biggest red flag? A woman that talks to a guy and doesn't acknowledge that the guy she talks to wants to sleep with her while she is in a relationship... let then be you lost few years with that person imagine if it was 20 or 30 be better one day somone will come along

[@Ivy89261]

​​@@tonymorph3672 im in the same boat but as a women. We have a 4 year old child and he monkey branched with an old female friend of his....its now almost a year since the breakup. I life pretty peacefull, his realtionship did not work out from what i heard. I dont think much about him anymore but sometimes the wish for him to come back lingers even if im not sure if i would even want him back by now

[@MJordangame6]

I did forget how much value I added to his life … ❤

[@lindawells9328]

Some of the ex's moved on the minute they jumped into a rebound relationship and they didn't care about nobody else's feelings and them being happy but them . People do make mistakes but we cannot read another person's mind , They may never come back that's why people shouldn't be waiting on them to come back . What you are saying is so true . Be blessed and safe . Miss . Linda ❤🙏🏽❤

[@MeineMausi1]

In most cases exes do NOT come back! What does that tell us? STOP trying to use no-contact as a strategy to get them back. Use it as a powerful tool to regain your stability, mindset and personal goals...THAT is the biggest prize!

[@loveforall5257]

I think we can argue that "come back" is subjective. I just had a breakup which is why I'm here. I will say that the majority of my exes have contacted me at least once after the breakup. The more intense ones have done so within days. So NC can help a person achieve both outcomes. But the latter should be one's focus

[@MeineMausi1]

@@loveforall5257 ok agreed, but being contacted by an ex, and an ex coming back are two different pairs of shoes

[@lenabozzi6631]

The exes allways carne Back…

[@WhatsTrendingWithTrenton]

100% of my exes came back

[@NK-ek3kt]

My ex will always come back

[@gotnwrx]

Today is 3 months NC and it's not easy. I have my good days and have my bad days. I'm just trying to be patient and tell myself to trust the process

[@hunorberei1409]

It's been 3 months for me now, as my fiance cheated on me after 10 year relationship! It's hard, but the no contact helps a lot! Be patient, and the time gonna do it's job. I know what u mean, your feelings are like a roller coaster.... once up, once down. And u fell like u cannot control it... be strong, and just move one, step by step. Every day you get a step forward, and get a bit easier. It's like a strong magnet, the closer to the magnet is harder to move away, need more effort to make any step. But the far you get the easier.

[@gotnwrx]

@@hunorberei1409 🙏

[@narendrabajnath]

It's 359 days for me 😢

[@gotnwrx]

@narendrabajnath so just over 5 months and she reach out wondering how I was doing saying she was having dreams about me. Guys honestly they always reach out especially if you were good to them. Which I was. When she wanted to end things I said ok and didn't fight or beg. You need to let them see if the grass is greener. Which it's probably not. I always hit the gym but now I got my diet on point, started boxing, started reading the Bible more, and started working on my track car. Guys forget about them and work on being the best Verizon of yourself. I also met a great girl at the gym and now it's going to be hard for my ex to get me back. Not sure if I even want her. I thought my ex was the one and thought we'd get married. Forget your ex if you want them back and that's what I did. Trust the process and stay in no contact. When I had bad days just sit and let it soak in but after that keep pushing Guys. God bless those struggling but know after the storm it's clears skies. God is great and has a plan for everyone but it's on his time not yours. 🙏

[@jrodbeme]

The is channel and a couple others were what kept me sane after my last breakup. It’s been 5 months since the break up and about 4.5 months of no contact. This videos helped me heal, and move on. I’ve found a great girl in the last few weeks and wouldn’t even consider going back to the past. Stay focused out there. Blue skies are ahead!

[@blacademic]

Love it man. Good luck!

[@lungilezama6448]

Your videos heal a lot of us. Im happy to say that after blocking my partner in all social platforms he woke and came back home Thank you The most I like about you is that you have enhanced my faith in God without mentioning God. Letting go and letting God is Faith.

[@aeb8799]

Love this video! “Hate them just a little bit “ Helps

[@garyjones2781]

You reinforce what my believes are. It’s really helping me. Rumination is an issue but I have the discipline now to just keep it moving

[@jacquelynboyd1511]

We had a good thing. But he wouldn't compromise. When i put my foot down and told him how it makes me feel that he says he going to work with me on something and then doesnt... im the bad guy. Everyone is devastated. All our friends and family. They said i wasn't in the wrong, and he changed a lot while we were together for the better and looked happy. He broke up with me because he can't compromise or communicate. We never yelled, screamed, or called each other names. But he said there was nothing to talk about and he isn't going to waste my time. Just wow. I seen him 2 times since we broke up in the grocery store and he looks sad.

[@jacquelynboyd1511]

And when i asked so you dont love me he said i didnt say that. So i immediately started moving my stuff out and he acted mad about it. Said you dont have to get it all out now...i told him while crying you dont get to break my heart and then prolong my healing process. And i asked him to help me get my shit out. Couple days later he said you dont have to get it all now. And i said i told you i was coming ypu didnt have to be here. When do i have to have my safe out. He said it can stay as long as you need it. Then said if your not going to stay here all your shit needs to go??? Wtf

[@Handeugurlu]

I am over him and can see he was the wrong man in mylife. Anyway your videos helped me a lot , i watched your videos to calm down myself and by time i realised that i worth more than how he sees me . I am not his type of girl its fine , by time i understand that he cant fit in my loyal life so he has to go back to his shitty life ( from one woman to another ) . ❤️

[@pinkydey83]

Isint it surprising that later when we stay in no contact we realize they weren't good for us..

[@Handeugurlu]

@@pinkydey83 i am blessed 😇

[@DJZensei]

I just went through the same thing. In the beginning she was pursuing me. After a month I couldn't control my emotions and wanted more. But she tried to set boundaries which made me dump her. She was the most beautiful woman I was ever with. I wish i could have her back, but she made do things I'd never do and made me feel like I wasn't good enough. Because she was so beautiful. Next time I will not second guess myself. I will hit the gym and get myself into even better shape than I'm in now and I will get another woman. Thanks Coach Blac! I love the content/advise.

[@PeeWeeDaOg]

Coach My name is Najee. I have been watching your videos non stop for the past 4-5 days. I have struggled with self love and confidence ALL MY LIFE. IT SHOWED IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP. This relationship that drove me to your videos has been the most important one to me and my insecurities etc self doubt has showrd up in a major way. I have loved her through things that would show lack of confidence in 1 self. Not just cuz o was scared to leave I WAS SCARED TO HAVE TO BE ALONE. SUNDAY I WENT INTO NO CONTACT AND WATCHING YOU HAS IMPOWERED ME IN WAYS NOTHING HAS IN 30 YEARS IN JUST A FEW DAYS. APPRECIATE KING 💯 I PRAY NC WORKS FOE PUR RELATIONSHIP BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY ITS WORKING 4 ME AND MY LIFE

[@denisselee6544]

I did the exercise and it is definitely his loss 😊 thank you coach for reminding me my worth

[@peggymoore7008]

I enjoy your videos PEDESTAL 😊 thanks for bringing back to my memory how much value I did bring into his life for him and his children, he used everything about me. I’m proud of myself having almost 2 months of NO contact. 🎉

[@sheenacarol265]

❤Thank You Coach Blac. God bless you for Helping us through Our hard times. We have been good to these ppl and they took is for Granted....❤

[@robinebneth1946]

Great job again. Well done, Sir🤗

[@edwynstuart6795]

" Pedestal" thanks coach! I actually found a woman and are in the exact same situation as you described early in the vid. A mentor of mine said, "Calm down. If it's meant for you, it will be there." You just confirmed this statement. Thank you for easing my nerves!

[@blacademic]

Hang in there bro

[@nompumelelomthombeni6132]

Hey Coach thank you for sharing your story its encouraging to know that you have been through what some of us are going through like i said before you dont come across as anxiously attached i suppose you did some work on yourself its good to know that you were not always like this.

[@carolshapiro2594]

Thank you Coach Blac ,I so needed this today ❤ so grateful for your words

[@blacademic]

Thanks for watching!

[@Mayank_bhonsle]

Brother, thankyou from India. After being in no contact for 9 months. I got breadcrumbs in mean time. But now I'm starting to move forward in my life. I'm at peace now, even I don't like the idea of getting along with her again. Seriously your videos helped me in that tough time. Thanks a lot. Now it doesn't matter much if I get back together with her or not. I accept god's plan is better than anything ❤️❤️ Thankyou so much ❤

[@Hb093]

Good video, coach, you deserve to be placed to a pedestal ;) have a nice day

[@nishawadebeauty2527]

Your framework works!!!!!! And fast !!!

[@ninad4life]

Pedestal Coach as always thanks for your words of advice. You have definitely helped me on my journey. I watch to move forward.

[@blacademic]

Thank you so much for watching and commenting! I wish you amazing success on your journey

[@blubayou4654]

love how calm yet intelligent you are

[@isgc1384]

it's the way you act ✨

[@bipbop7231]

Hello Coach. It’s hard to believe this chick let you slip through her hands. It’s crazy to think about. Thank you for sharing your personal stories. Love that about you. Have a great day.✨

[@sherryp3411]

Pedestal.... thank you for the work you do. It helps me a lot !

[@joycejosey6679]

Pedestal your videos heals ❤ thanks

[@heematara27]

Such an important video! Such an important video!

[@suzgrav2397]

I definitely need your advice on my situation. You are on point. Pedestal

[@nettekeste]

This clear my mind . Thank you God. and after I wrote 15 things . He did. I put my values down. Going back to his so many times. Don’t need him. I am child of God ❤and thank lots for your words . God bless you dearly.

[@jenlt5125]

Nice outfit coach blac 🎉 you're awesome 👌

[@jorgetremel3614]

Pedestal thank you i got nice thoughts from the video, i had the same history, she was excited the first time we went out, and she had me on a pedestal but later because of my attitude and my anxiety I put her on the pedestal, later she dumped without even trying to solve things when i was really depressed and anxious just wanting her to listen me out; now i realized I'm the one who won in this situation, she showed who she really was and that im worth more than that

[@blacademic]

You learn in these situations. You get better and attract better opportunities

[@DavidSmith-jq4pp]

They don't come back unless they find better than you

[@jasminaloulova9202]

Even if they come back, why should we take them back. Once the trust is broke, that's it.

[@priyankamarriapm5282]

M so confused he suddenly back off like i don't exit anymore

[@user-dv9xx3yy8v]

You think there's someone better than you? Babanamantinginmosasarilimo

[@gregmoser4874]

Great info-(pedestal)

[@pandorapink1227]

Pedestal. It was a good video. I enjoyed the story of Janet, how you guys met on an app, that she was beautiful, a 15. Good vid

[@S.Randolph-hu5oh]

Pedestal…. Coach I have been listening to your videos for several months now. Yes no contact works my ex has come back around twice but as you stated in this video I didn’t quite practice putting myself on a pedestal so we aren’t back together. I guess I’m a slow learner the light bulb finally went on. He doesn’t deserve me lol. I don’t really have a question I just wanted to say “Thank You” for your messages.

[@bhc5496]

Agree 100% coach

[@cindyphilippe8687]

Hi coach.. after 3 mths of no contact my ex called me at 2am..we spoke for about an hour it was a good conversation. But im still watching ur videos to make sure im making the right moves. We're suppose to meet up and hang out 😊

[@deborahbaxcruz]

Careful, the 2am, 1hr long conversations, can quickly lead to cold shoulder. But perhaps it's your schedule. Happy for you. Just tread slowwwly, remember ur the prize.🎉

[@cindyphilippe8687]

@@deborahbaxcruz thank u!.. most definitely but just to let u no it's both of our schedules..we work late hours. And thanks for being concerned

[@MJordangame6]

Celebrating your success!!! I’m so happy for you ❤❤❤😢😢 sad for me though

[@deborahbaxcruz]

​@cindyphilippe8687 I figured that. Again, very happy for you. 🎉

[@rikmang]

After 3 months is it really worth it? I mean it's like she dabbled then settled. I would keep it moving

[@phronee99]

I love your videos, i learn alot . thanks coach

[@c.m.9572]

Putting myself on a PEDESTAL has been pretty rough some days.. 4 months NC.. Recently I've been thinking I should reach out to see what's up but then remember I've gotta respect myself not to do it.. my feelings are lingering from time to time.. but I feel like it's a temp check to see and maybe it'll help me move forward.. haha I most likely won't do it but.. what's your thoughts on it Coach?

[@karlov13]

Pedestal, coach you should make a video on how to work on your inner self.

[@gtamaster4517]

Pedestal: oh lord your experience with Janet resonated with me. I see my error and am now in no contact trying to work on myself. I'm a lady, btw.

[@Ifyzion3344]

Thanks for this video

[@mssoiree67]

Pedestal. Thanks coach, your advice is very grounding. I haven't had contact for 2 weeks and my attraction for him has gone down. I've been doing me and feel so good.

[@jasminaloulova9202]

Same situation. I am putting myself on pedestal. It is his loss. I don't want him back.

[@robicelus]

It's no wonder why so many of you modern women are single and lonely “by choice” these days. You ladies should always put a good man on a pedestal. Men build everything, including that electronic leash you use every minute (your phone). Respect him and try the best you can to make him happy. That's how you keep a good man.

[@ehiemobigoziem767]

I always felt I wasn't in the same pedestal with my ex .

[@misscooks601]

I put myself back on the pedestal 😅❤

[@ehiemobigoziem767]

Pedestal..it's been 1month and almost 2 months of no contact been following your videos, of late it's as tho the fear increased again I begged at the initial of the break up but after following your videos I have stopped completely and it's almost a month and I feel as tho his moved on and doesn't care been so cared ,my birthday is coming up and I feel anxious 😢

[@Mew2Win]

I have an interesting situation where we had a very intense +6 week long relationship, I was the first guy who she saw for like 3 or more times, and she came back (unblocking me) on Feb 25 after 48 days of NC. She’s an avoidant with low self esteem, and depression that waited too long bc I longed really badly for the first 4 weeks. *I‘m just surprised she reached out after so long bc I thought she’d completely move on* “Hi” isn’t anything encouraging enough to believe it isn’t for egoic reasons

[@beautifyraineydayy8206]

I feel like I’m in the same scenario as you at this moment. Recently went no contact. It definitely is not a game but I know what I bring and it’s not being reciprocated. The silence will definitely reveal if it was genuinely mutual.

[@deborahbaxcruz]

Pedestal! Thank you so much. You saved me from myself many times. I have kept the details private , so i really have no one to talk to about this. I've cried many nights from I guess the embarrassment and shame of him leaving. So four years meant 0.00. I begged but unlike the normal when i sent a message he responds right back. I am sure i helped him heal and grew his ego with my messages . But been NC for 3 weeks , hes making fake profiles , breadcrumbing thru others, yet no word to me. He owes me so much more than this, his arrogance and disrespect for our relationship is jarring to say the least. So my question is,.I miss my n laws and want to visit them in June, do you think that makes him feel that he still has me? I only leave voice recordings to them now because I dont want to talk about the relationship with them

[@romo3418]

Pedestal. Thanks for another good one. Just over a month NC…again. Broken up for 4 months. This past month she’s been blocking and unblocking on socials multiple times. At this point I want to cave soon. Im done with the games she wants to play. I think she’s too stubborn to even attempt to reach out though. Almost feel ready for a Hail Mary.

[@romo3418]

⁠@@BlackScreen-nb7txI completely agree with that. I know that I’m not quite there yet. At this point I find the little games laughable and sad. Unfortunately they still give me a bit of hope. I at least haven’t shown any signs of playing in to this behavior. Months ago idk if I would’ve been able to say the same. Thanks for your response!

[@dontaethompson6431]

​@@romo3418 the games are signs that you still have her. Don't cave

[@Luvagirl1971]

PEDESTAL: Coach I Just Love You And Your Content So Can you Start Doing Videos On How To Keep Your Relationship? 🥰

[@blacademic]

Thanks for the feed back. I absolutely will. Stay tuned in the coming months you will see more videos like this

[@vernondelancy6281]

I approve this message . Great job coach

[@ManyWeidman]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

[@user-rh3dp4pk1e]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@ManyWeidman]

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@user-rh3dp4pk1e]

this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

[@mflowzmusic]

Pedestal! My ex saw each other for a year, I helped her move to another city. We last spoke in Oct 23’ I did what you Coach called the Hail Mary, never reached out since, don’t have each other on social media, no mutuals. When did we speak last she said she wanted to see me, but I made a promise after being disrespected, that I wouldn’t step foot in her flat and she must come to me. She stated 3 hours travel is too much on transport. I’m dating other women now, but a part of me feels business is unfinished. Thoughts and advice coach?

[@jaydub7386]

Excellent

[@hunorberei1409]

Hy Blac, I've benn watching now your channel for couple of mouths, and really helped me a lot! Literally I'm going to sleep with your videos, as right now I'm going through a hard period of my life. This is the 3 months that my fiance just cheated on me and dating with an other guy! The thing what's make mor difficult the situation, is the fact that we are still leaving together! So ai literally know when she's stay outside longer as I know when she supposed to finish with the work, and so one. Simple makes way harder when u are still leaving together. Now I would have 2 questions to you. First of all probably I haven't see all all of your videos, but I seen a lot, and all of them are great and helpful. However I miss a video about how you treat your ex if u are still leaving together in the same accommodation, same house. Because let's be honest, could happen that u need to say with your ex at least for a while, even for a year in the same house, for many reasons. So how could u treat? How to talk, how often to talk, what especially think to talk with them. What is a nice gesture to do for her, and what is too much, and look like u are too kind, which Is not good. For example u have the same car, but she doesn't have driving license, you can go to sopping, but what about a day off when she has a day off as well? And she would like to go to shopping with u... you should act her like a stranger? Act like u are busy and u have nothing to do in the shop right now, so u are not willing to go out with her? And things like that... as obviously when u are still leaving together the no contact is became kind of limited no contact. But what is that limit? For example she's watching a movie in the leaving room, can I join to her but don't talk just watch? Or I need to escape and go up to my room and act as I'm busy and have no time for watching movies with her? So if u would be so kind to make a video even about this situation I would highly appreciate that, and I'm sure even many of us. Thanks indeed again and highly appreciated your hard work. It's mean a lot!

[@mht4908]

I don’t want him to come back, I’ve found my happiness again, and I will only be thankful that he was in my life while it lasted

[@ramonadixon8597]

It was only for a season

[@cinnamongyrl7253]

PEDESTAL!!!! My only comment is I wish you'd put out this video 3 weeks ago!!! Dammit man!!!🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@mikemaresca4999]

If she left you once, she'll do it again. Move on.

[@alejandroleon4540]

People like you are weird, people don’t want to move on, they want their ex back, why are you even watching this if you don’t care, you move on, stop watching these videos.

[@nieczerwony]

Coach Black, what books you recommend in topics of female psychology, dating, masculine energy and dating? It would be gr8 to have some other resources to read/listen to in free time.

[@blacademic]

I like Corey Wayne how to be a 3% man, I like GS Youngblood The Masculine in Relationships, and David Deida Waynof the Superior man

[@user-gw1qy7pw4g]

Gorgeous suit

[@MrTheomighty1]

My SP is the 1 missing out, I know my worth and value and what I can bring to the table and if she thinks it’s time to start dating again then go try beautiful because those who come after me won’t give you what you are looking for and you’ll always be comparing !! and you’ll be saying to yourself what did I do by letting you go.

[@timahawk3220]

Thanks for all you do ❤

[@TruckerGlass]

I think I was to good and kind to my friend we never had the conversation about boundaries or expectations for becoming a couple and the first time we have a disagreement and I back up not cutoff communications she turns around and cut me all the way off. I think her pride and ego will keep her from reaching out. The argument was that if you want to date other people, it's fine, but you won't have access to me, and I won't invest in you in that way. I told her this from the beginning two months in, and she acts like it's the first time I said it, then told my brother, who introduced us. I broke up with her 3 times. How can I break up with you if we didn't have that conversation?

[@CarlosMartinez-lg8fw]

Pedestal. She reached out 3 weeks after no contact even though she has already moved on. My aunt passed away and she reached out to tell me. She was sorry about my aunt passing and to let her know if there is anything she can do and that me and my family are in her prayers. 3 weeks ago she told me she didn’t want me anymore and that she didn’t like who I was and to move on with my life then blocked me on everything. I waited a day after Che contacted me and said. “Thank you. It’s nice to hear from you. Hope you are doing well. Then I went back into no contact. Can

[@marlonramos2170]

I don’t even care anymore yall can have her

[@benitocarlos7240]

Coach , I’m the dumper ! Do you have videos regarding this matter! I have to cut her off because i wasn’t getting or having my needs meet, she was there always to take not to give or reciprocate. Thank you, I watch all your content.

[@annsumrall2593]

Thank you. I have been Basically in nc for a month but i did try to ask him to explain his actions from asking me to marry him within a weeks time he said we are done. Now wont talk or text. Stupid me cried in front of him and said I will always love you and walked away. Gave him the swell head he wanted. I will never contact him again yet have to see him everyday at work it is devastating to have had a very intimate relationship now he acts like he doesn't even know me and is angry . I did nothing but give to him. How sad

[@randalchandler2366]

Pedestal..Yeah I saw this video just in time. I've actually reached the point that I find myself quite tired of my ex and was about to send a message to tie up a loose end or 2. However I checked myself and accepted that it was all just an emotional response and why should I continue to feed her ego with my interest.

[@ehiemobigoziem767]

I feel like sending a voice note and crying out my eyes , my heart is so broken, it's been a month and and not even a word from him , God am I that easy to forget I saw him.this night and I feel so broken

[@Ivy89261]

So sorry to hear that. But you have to be strong and focus on other things. The first months are the worst but it will get better ❤

[@plusone8015]

Dude... I totally imagine the worst psycho/anti-social behavior of my exes when down looks like up to me. Then I think of my departed golden retriever and how the worst of him was better than the best of them 🐕

[@christopherknudsen1125]

How does she feel this when she’s already in a relationship. No point in waiting for her. Her loss. I’m just in pain of how she threw me away like garbage

[@jeffreypeterson4351]

Ty coach. Pedestal.

[@nieczerwony]

Pedestal: Can you make a video on NC not working on women. Some other coaches say this for example Dan Bacon. I also heard opinion from few different women that this is true, and NC will help them to move on.

[@countdowntorevolution9986]

it absolutely does work on women.....more so IMO because firstly some men who dump are just players who will never have any emotional connection........and secondly because it hurts a woman's ego more if she thinks an ex isn't too bothered about her.

[@MF25192]

Pedestal Hey Coach, so when my ex broke up with me, she didnt offer friendship, but said she was open to something in the future. Does this mean anything? Havent directly reached out in 2 months but hearted one of her stories about 3 weeks ago to test the waters. Thank you 😊

[@elroho24]

I used to put my ex on a pedestal when we were together. She fell out of love and we broke up 4 months ago. I'm doing no contact very well, however, I've lost hope; don't think she's coming back.

[@hayleylewis1062]

Pedestal: I think when I heard the words “ I don’t miss you” and he said he couldn’t say them back it cut me so deep as only 48 hours earlier we had had the best day ever , and he openly confessed when we were on and off he wasnt good with relationships… it’s been over a month and I expected him to call and tell me he missed me but this time … after so many times … he hasn’t yet … I fell so hard and it’s been so hard to move forward as I felt so much for him and still do, thinking of the past is hard

[@MerleL.Cathey]

Cool video , My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@MerleL.Cathey]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach her?

[@MerleL.Cathey]

Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up online. impressive

[@akforthinker2404]

There are many people on this planet, once bbroken considered end. Meet new people, God give you wisdom from past experience and find a new experience and feel how God Love and Compassion With new relationship. Forget and forgive and move on.

[@gagecannon4365]

@Coach Blac- Blacademic. I broke up with my ex back in August and we stop talking for 6 months. At the end of January she added me back and we started talking again and was working on and taking this relationship slow. But recently she started growing feelings for another guy and just wanted to be friends and I told her I wanted more than that. So I unadded her and said maybe someday we can date again and be happy. I told her to be open Abt it and she said she will and maybe. This happen a couple days ago and I put her into the no contact. What should I do to get out the friend zone with her?

[@kgalaletsompofu9072]

Pedestal. I'm really struggling with NC. Every single day. I am also overcome with shame and embarassment. The last time I broke NC about a month ago, I went crazy on him and sent endless paragraphs. I guess he has lost all respect he had remaining, for me. I miss him so much. 😢

[@ehiemobigoziem767]

Am so sorry

[@blacademic]

I’m sorry you are going through that. You have to not live in the past or in the mistakes you have made. Keep taking things one day at a time

[@jimmycash3171]

No contact is good if you want to move on, but to get your ex back? The sad truth is , whiles you are in no contact, they are sleeping around having fun, till they get rejected or get treated bad, that's when they think of going back, is not gonna be easy knowing that, they slept around and you didn't, will take some hard work to let go so, if you want your ex back then don't go no contact for too long cos they'll be sleeping around. Most of them either female or male.

[@user-dv9xx3yy8v]

Kawawa ka naman anoh

[@josephfowler8681]

What’s up Coach Blac, thanks for the advice! Me and my Ex didn’t really break up or exchange any words about it be she went cold on Me so I enforced NO CONTACT but I still see her at work everyday.. So she has a Birthday coming up this Saturday and my question to you is, should I send her a Shoutout or NO? #Pedestal

[@JoseAguilar-kn6ii]

No

[@user-dq2os3un5c]

It has been 10+ I don't want him to come back in my life but I still have feelings for him. Iam confused coach blac

[@GloryMariki-ng6gf]

Pedestal... I only wants to move on but i just don't know how.. the pein is so deep and I don't seem to forget about him... if time heals i wish to be healed quickly because it's almost a month and this time around I don't think he will come back He hurted me badly and i know he doesn't deserve me despite of my shortcoming

[@bobstoner8152]

its been 5 months and i still feel that for some reason.

[@cf6096]

What’s the difference between putting them up on a pedestal and just being a good person trying to help them… I didn’t put her needs over mine,but I definitely tried to help her. Why is this crap such a game

[@ytchi1]

My ex actually reached out to me the other day after we had been in no contact for about a little over a month i didnt respond i may have made a mistake by not responding for some reason i feel like she is just testing the waters to see how serious this is but as of right now im focusing on self improvement

[@GrantAllen-oo9yp]

Pedestal. It’s tough because I work with my ex and it’s a restaurant, I broke no contact this weekend but I’m going back into it going forward and checking new opportunities elsewhere. I want her back but it will be easier to work on my mental without seeing her.

[@Lincoln_707]

I know exactly how you feel, I also work in the same place as my ex and I have to see her almost daily, it’s very very tough and I feel I can not heal, however I know if I quit or throw in the towel, than how can I look myself in the mirror, please keep your head up! Don’t let nothing get you down! You are not alone.

[@GrantAllen-oo9yp]

@@Lincoln_707 I agree, I was thinking of quitting before the break up but this fuels it more, we’ll see how it goes

[@nishawadebeauty2527]

Baby my ex came right on back and we are better friends then ever he told me he’s better person when he’s around me in which I know. I don’t care to be in a relationship with him but I feel like he finds me more attractive because of that. Also I continued to live my life while he was gone he said he was watching me.

[@nateg.4488]

Don’t be friends with someone who betrayed you.. it’s only a matter of time before it happens again.

[@Ivy89261]

Dont be friends with your ex if you want them back. It is just a way of controle for them, like you said he is watching you. It means he is stupid and doesn't want a relationship but freedom but also want you in his backpocket just in case. Dont fall for that

[@Made_man_underGod]

No such thimgs as friends with a woman if uour a straight man lol 😂

[@Croy617]

We have a 8 month old daughter, and we were the best of friends, and we were sup in love, got married, and she kicked e out and barely speaks to me. I heart broken, and I know the real her, and this is someone I don’t know. I’m afraid if I move on then she’ll be gone for good. But she’s my daughters mother, my wife. I get sad some days, thinking of my family, and wanting them, while I sleep at my office or my mothers, it’s depressing

[@Mountolive619]

Pedestal. Thank you for your videos which I’m learning a lot. I decided to do no contact as of last week and it’s going on five days. The last time I spoke to my ex he stated that he wants to go to counseling with me. This is one on one counseling not couples therapy. Should I allow him to come with me? I do realize that’s he’s very angry with me for cheating on me etc. maybe he has hope in us coming back together one day. I’m clueless

[@kittykaysworld]

girl he was angry with you for cheating on you?????????