This is WHY men won’t tell you their feelings…

[@Kwevin6659]

That "you can tell me" felt like a huge trap, like when your parents say you won't get in trouble.

[@shifter3769]

She looks like mother Gothel and sounds just as fake

[@sheer_1]

What she meant is "you can tell me. That way I can immediately turn it around and make it about how if you loved me, you wouldn't feel that way"

[@annahatori2779]

Took the words right out of my mouth. Yea right, he can tell her, so she can use it to humiliate him.

[@jalene150]

Ngl that kinda lead to trust issues for me. I’ll tell my mom something, she would promise not to tell my dad, and then she tells him anyway… so I stopped telling them certain things and kept it to myself. Fast forward to adult years and I still keep stuff to myself. It’s hard to undo that habit. Thankfully my partner understands. I love her so much I just wish I could show it more

[@troublemakerbros4267]

Then they beat your ass saying "I lied"

[@cpfs936]

I am literally CERTAIN this is one of the LAST women you'd want to share your feelings with. The condescension in her voice is palpable.

[@misterwilhite9211]

Palpable, and her body language shrieks of a death trap. Am not telling nothing to someone like that, I value my sanity

[@misterwilhite9211]

Nightmare stuff. Right there. Freddie is a friendly company to picnic with compared to this lady

[@Warpded]

She probably thinks there are no good men with emotional intelligence. No one will date her unless one likes being talked down to. And finally, the blame will be placed on us

[@SpidermanandJeny]

She is awful. She's the problem.

[@titusjames4912]

It's in the eyes... look at her eyes!!!

[@gunmonkey1185]

Her Eyes said it all.

[@godfreypeters6653]

You said ALL!

[@shanaiaJj]

As a woman. Majority of my friends and confidants are women. And that’s who has screwed me, shamed and belittled me. So, I can honestly say, when someone says tell me in that tone it’s a trap.

[@OriginalPuro]

"As a woman." Yes. As a man.

[@Patrick-pv9pe]

Never listen to a woman, they give terrible adivce, to both men and women,

[@oldman-zr2ru]

Never try to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other. Al Bundy

[@crosion5]

That girl seems crazy. Don't tell her anything. Just run away.

[@jamesborg8622]

Very egotistical and concreted. That what looks like from women

[@thewallsspeaktome3507]

Guarantee she's psychotic can tell just from her face and how she looks at the camera

[@samuraitadpole5459]

She had the crazy eyes as well

[@critamine]

Yup I left a comment saying the exact same shit.

[@moosehead4497]

Who would trust her

[@cmill8999]

And don't talk down to me like a condescending, self-righteous, smug kindergarten teacher.

[@TreVotheJoke]

RIGHT!? Like da f?

[@bandaidsandshoes]

No shit. The smugness and condescension gave me a physical feel of revulsion.

[@christopherhammond9467]

nah what you are hearing here is shock and despair, not condescension. sounds similiar but the desperation in her voice tells me she probably just got dumped and realized her actions had consequences delayed or not.

[@X3R0D3D]

@@bandaidsandshoes i came here to say this, this chick gave me instant "ick" feeling, like no matter what i say next, i'm gonna be gaslit.

[@SamTheMan55555]

@@christopherhammond9467I think it had both. It was desperate but also condescending at the same time.

[@marinosipod]

We do. But most women don’t listen or think it’s not important and dismiss our feelings.

[@aguynamednathan]

Opening up to a woman is like giving ammo to your enemies

[@rokker333]

😂 true

[@johnsorenson9534]

exactly

[@brucefleming1359]

Love it!!!

[@abbaexteriors3546]

“You can tell me” Right up there with “We’re the Government and we’re here to help”.

[@viking_wolf]

Or you can trust me, I'll never betray you.

[@nerdock4747]

You gotta love how she also quite literally told on all women with that next part about "not saying anything, leaving and spiraling".

[@MikeEWard]

Exactly. Ill deal with it myself.

[@case6189]

“How much have you had to drink tonight?” Perfect reason you should never even say one 😐

[@alterego157]

"Trust me"

[@jodi2847]

Because her tone really smacks of compassion and understanding.

[@mikeexits]

It honestly feels more threatening than anything. Like, psychologically threatening. Her delivery screams "I'm saying all this to make it easier to manipulate you" except it's even worse than that, it's more like "I'm doing this so more and more men become easier to manipulate for insidious and broken women like myself"

[@tgatt5759]

The condescension in her body language is immense

[@siunami6432]

her inflection screams, "IDGAF"

[@innertubez]

LOL fr. Combination of contempt and sarcasm. Great.

[@Skwerll]

And her eyes are so trustworthy

[@messengerofgrace1336]

Absolutely!! She brought something up that was very personal and painful to me. And she used it to hurt me with it..

[@michaelbadillo5520]

I'm always so impressed with how intune you are with men's feelings and what we are put through.

[@dirtbeard108]

we have the right to remain silent. anything we say can and WILL be used against us.

[@skyhime]

I was trying to remember this quote to post! Muranda rights. Use for all ocations!

[@DavidFrost9992]

It's sad that we live with half of the Miranda rights, but have to provide our own attorney or get taken to the cleaners when she leaves.

[@yourbeekeeper]

My friend is an attorney and he always says this in the modified form : "you have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be taken out of context and used against you."

[@pebcak]

And 20 years later she will still bring it up. That was my experience with my ex wife.

[@davidcadman4468]

Ditto bro... They have a memory bank like a steel trap... @@pebcak

[@gamershadow8]

that woman's tone and attitude is EXACTLY why men won't tell tjeir feelings because she sounds lile the exact type of woman who would use your feelings and insecurities in a fight.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

200% this. She has those crazy eyes that wanna use your emotions against you

[@stevenwilson5556]

"you know you guys can tell me a bunch of vulnerable things about you that I can use against you to manipulate and abuse. you for my amusement or profit, riight"

[@Dan-ji4db]

1000% she sounds like a maniac

[@TorquemadaTwist]

I'm pretty sure I saw something like this in a Tom & Jerry cartoon. Do not hand her that bat.

[@KainaX122]

Exactly what I was thinking. All that came to mind for me was “🎶Ammunition!!🎶”

[@footprintsinamericanhistory]

I usually shut down when I feel like I can't 100% trust that person. If I've lost that confidence, don't expect me to give a straight answer unless I've become angry.

[@frankier3075]

I am lucky. I really really am lucky. I have someone who I can be honest with. I found someone who I can be honest with and be vulnerable with. It's scary but it's really nice. She is an angel

[@the98themperoroftheholybri33]

The smirk while she said "you can just say it, you can tell me", screams the type of woman who will save that vulnerable moment for an argument

[@franksizzllemann5628]

She will stew about it every day, "so that's what you think, eh?" deciding whether this is the best time to START to use it in arguments.

[@5Demona5]

Yup "Are you gonna start crying like when you told me this very delicate and personal thing?"

[@animal0mother]

"We're all friends here." -undercover FBI agent

[@theoverunderthinker]

that smirk tells you to keep it to yourself. it says "I need dirt to use on you later"!

[@stanley1976]

Precisely! :::mic drop:::

[@jeffvonbergen291]

Every time I talk about my feelings I'm either gaslit, ridiculed, and/or abandoned. Never again.

[@NotQuiteEpic]

I know, her video was patronizing AF.

[@claudeyaz]

It is a good test though you can weed out the women that you shouldn't trust with marriage vows quite easily if they do that to you

[@dmen6810]

Disregarded...that feeling when you can't share and no longer expect a possible different logical point of view...

[@ugh635]

I recently told my 24yr old son to choose his words wisely when he mentioned that he needed to talk to his gf about how certain things she did affected him. I said "I wish I could give you better advice, but if I was good with women I wouldn't be single. " We laughed it off, but you cannot share any vulnerable feelings with women because they will 1. Use it against you in the future. 2. Lose respect in you. 3. Both. It's a shitty place for men because they say they want us to do that, but they really don't.

[@chriswilson7211]

They're wanting you to talk like a woman so that they can lie and manipulate like they would do with another woman. They don't want to share information, they want to share feelings so that they can muddy them. That's how women "feel better". They throw a blanket over shit. Let's say our thoughts and feelings are like pudding. She is talking vanilla, you're talking chocolate. She says your pudding is too dark, tastes funny, and is stupid. She wants to throw a dollop of HER bullshit in there and stir it up, and while it isn't perfect, she can at LEAST tell herself that it isn't chocolate. Now, eventually, she stirs enough nonsense together that it's all vomit anyway. This is where they lock themselves in the bathroom and blame the whole world for cursing her and ONLY her for having a bowl of stirred up liquid shit, and why does HER life suck!?... Despite the fact that she is the one unhappy with EVERYTHING and causing her own issues.

[@jessemilne5789]

So I'm 39 years old and have been married, divorced and have had and in long serious relationships. This is dead on. I don't often bring up anything that's bothering me or share how I'm feeling. From my experience unless I'm feeling happy and in a good mood they don't really seem to want to hear about it. Or I share then months later during a fight or something it's shot back at me for the sole purpose of hurting me. Unfortunately that has been a majority of my experience since I was like 15 or 16. I recently lost my mother and an aunt who was like a second mother and the only spot I felt safe enough to cry was locked in the bathroom alone. Not because my girlfriend now has ever done anything to make me feel this way but because of my experiences up to this point. I watch your videos and am so shocked to hear a woman say things you say because it's always seemed so simple to me. I only want a couple things out of a relationship. The first is wanting to be wanted and respected. And for that I will give everything I have and am able to give to her. It is refreshing to hear a woman say this and share it with other women. As simple as it seems to myself and probably so many other men it seem like too many women take this information it gets filtered through their thought process and comes out way different and over complicated for most of us to get. When for the most part all I want and probably a lot of men want is to feel wanted, receive physical affection and once in a while hear that you're appreciated. Back to talking about feelings for a second. How sad is it to hear yourself say to the woman who you love more than anything and would happily lay your life down for that " I just want you to want me." I apologize if the comment is a bit hard to follow. I was dictating the comment while driving. Thank you for your videos.

[@stevehill934]

that smirk.......seems very trusting

[@shawnbowie8935]

“You can tell me,” with a fake smile and a really good set of crazy eyes staring at you while she says it. 😂

[@cyclesaviorn2700]

I can tell her what im feeling right now. "Get out of my face" its a feeling because she gives it to me

[@Exodus199]

Oh yea something ain't right with that one. The Eyes...

[@fixer1140]

​@@Exodus199"Tell us your feelings and gives us the precious"

[@ParasiteEvel]

Manson lamps O.O

[@AutitsicDysexlia]

"NGL. RN I feel like winding up a backhand."

[@MatthewFronsoe]

She's throwing up enough red flags to be banned from the league; I ain't telling her nothin'

[@Candi_Clown]

What are the red flags?

[@MatthewFronsoe]

@@Candi_Clown Condescending tone and verbiage denoting a clear lack of respect for the listener, clear self-hatred as she assumes everyone will break up with her before they do, narcissistic tendencies as she blames those breakups on a lack of communication on the partner's part and not the fact that she acts like a Karen bringing thunder down on a Walmart employee.

[@39mack23]

@@MatthewFronsoe😂😂😂 spoke all facts But women rarely understand tone

[@eltooyo2]

@@39mack23 You hear a LOT of talk about "mansplaining" but men are all too familiar with this rarely examined but often employed type of "womansplaining" and all of the emotional traps that come with it.

[@majordanger2380]

1.Making public videos 2.implying that men lack confidence to ask for help. 3. She also has these single vibes too, like she’s not getting what she wants for some reason, and blaming it on men. 4. In conclusion she’s saying men should be going out of there way for her instead of her just asking them what is bothering them and respecting their privacy.

[@presleyobannon5950]

My girlfriend used to pull that on me. She would ask me about my feelings and, as soon as I started to speak, she would shut me down and change the subject. That would piss me off to no end. Needless to say, we are no longer together.

[@drairirae3741]

Good thing you left broda

[@juliusperseus8612]

damn... she's a Narcissistic psychopath to say the least.

[@teejaynumber13]

"Make sure to show me your weakness early so I can break up with you sooner". Is what I hear.

[@TheOfficialPatriarchy]

The condescending tone reveals this to be a prelude to her gaslighting you for having the "wrong" feelings.

[@RancidAim]

or... using said feelings as a weapon against you later on.

[@mattjack3983]

Exactly 💯

[@michaelryan1620]

She needs to be far far away from whomever that lucky guy is. Lol

[@jefferydraper4019]

Chances are you brought it up to her many times and she just cared about her own.

[@mikelund327]

Exactly

[@shannonjones8877]

I love how she manages to say this in a way that doesn't make it feel reassuring or comforting in the slightest.

[@T3n50r]

It's almost like she wants you to feel stupid for not saying how you feel as if it'd fix things, but you best believe that once you do she'll have some answers for that, too. Probably a reason her ex didn't open to her. There's no right or wrong time to talk about feelings, it happens when it happens. Usually most men have extremely bad experiences with opening up to women, and it sure as hell ain't going to be with someone you can't see yourself having a future with.

[@briankeith2205]

Yea she's luring you in to say how your feeling and then use it as a weapon later in the relationship

[@hunterdowney3101]

No, we can't

[@Rhaspun]

It sounds like she's the good cop in a good cop back cop interrogation.

[@ryutou-ki4dl]

its actually terrifying like shes about to break at any moment, picking at her fingers like that too haha

[@johnsjourney4978]

If you are emotional..you are a 'friend'!

[@DONTCALLMETHAT]

Her grin is giving joker vibes... "Oh c'mon you can open up to me 😈"

[@aegonsand8054]

The look in her eyes say no he can't.

[@MrBenjaminhaines]

Yep she got them crazy eyes

[@BoMwarriorVlog]

It wasn't the eyes for me, it was the crazy psycho smile *_with_* crazy psycho eyes. 😬 It's like she's holding back from ripping the camera apart. 🪦

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

@@BoMwarriorVlog No, it's actually her holding back from crying. The voice cracking is the tell there.

[@BoMwarriorVlog]

@@saintejeannedarc9460 🤔 I can see that, but she should be okay crying on camera if she's preaching that guys should open up. 🤷 And honestly, while I agree with her I'll probably never have a girlfriend because of doing like she's asking. 😕

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

@@BoMwarriorVlog "And honestly, while I agree with her I'll probably never have a girlfriend because of doing like she's asking." Not quite sure what you're saying there? I don't think her crying on a camera is a good idea, because men, esp. the men in here, will just shut down on a woman crying. They would say they were crocodile tears, that she's manipulating, or that she's too emotional. I get the feeling that she made that video to the guy who dumped her, but didn't open up before hand.

[@Azr4el]

That "You can tell me" gave me the creeps, like a witch offering you candy.

[@Grungypunkrockhalloween]

It made my skin crawl like she's trying to groom someone

[@haraldisdead]

It's giving "3..2..1.. good boy! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻"

[@JB4375]

OMG.... 😂😂😂😂😂

[@chechuzolocazo7943]

And also how the half second lip up and the macabre smile

[@mguerra79]

Emily, 100% true!

[@buckleymordecai9605]

Spot on! Yes! Thank you!

[@jacksonlsu]

Did you see that crazy smile every few seconds when she was telling you that? Ain't no way I'm trusting her with my feelings

[@jackreisewitz6632]

Damn straight !!! I'd never trust a woman that acts and/or talks like her.

[@theaharper5528]

LoL was thinking the exact same thing. Shes got that look, "Tell me so I have something on you"

[@SuperNomega]

Extremely condescending. To the point it feels on purpose.

[@redbaron07]

I learned it's called "Duper's Delight" and it's an involuntary tell that "Now I've got you/fooled you".

[@ImagineINMontana]

Like she is talking to a 5 year old...

[@ThatGuyNamedMatthew]

The way she whispered "you can just say it, you can tell me" gave me very direct and specific flashbacks of all the times I heard those words, and I did say it, and I found out later that I shouldn't have.

[@geoffreyokrongly916]

I’m sorry that no one told you the truth about women. They are narcissists and liars. The girls who comfort you into sharing your feelings are specifically doing so to get more ammunition against you. She is planning on doing something evil, and she needs dirt to shut you down when you find out.

[@CYellowan]

All of these countless cases, prove to me, that women are overall just more emotional. Enotional intelligence have zero effect on the world/people if they keep blundering like this. I will never forget the last fight i ever had, where i just quit the crap and calmed down to maximum calm and said that we need to chill and go over this properly. I had out-grown the narcissist monater that messed with me. It's VERY sad to now realize that i am and became more calm than many of these women. Strange.

[@jaydavis4752]

To The Guy Named Mathew I can relate to that 😂😂😂😂. I feel what you're saying 😂😂😂😂

[@VroodenTheGreat]

That definitely gave me psycho vibes too.

[@engmed4400]

I kept waiting for her to finish up with, "So I can mock you and dump you."

[@joelcathey]

Happy to tell this girl what I’m feeling right now

[@donaldgrump3343]

Exactly true...don't tell these women feelings because they will use it against you.

[@RickRodGaming]

Her delivery felt more like a threat than a suggestion lmao

[@philippbrogli779]

The emotions in her voice switched up so many times, she either has to be acting or she is crazier than any person I met in my entire life.

[@Anarchy-Is-Liberty]

It was!! Her next career?... police woman!!

[@chechuzolocazo7943]

@@philippbrogli779 And also how the half second lip up and the macabre smile

[@philippbrogli779]

@@chechuzolocazo7943 I don't actively pay attention to such body language.

[@Jean-Denis_R_R_Loret]

She was more like "Tell us your feelings, or else..."

[@JohnDoe-tf5my]

I've had a woman tell me my feelings weren't relevant because women suffer more.

[@brianbarrett8739]

No, your feelings aren't relevant because most of them can never understand that they do anything wrong.

[@brianclark4040]

Fun story…I was chatting with my lovely wife about minutiae going on. She brought up my annual physical I just had at my doctor’s office. While mentioning things that came up I just noted that I was glad that I did not have to do the prostate exam this year. I am middle aged. This minor, throwaway sentence ended up setting her off. I got a whole grilling about whether I knew what happens in the gynecology exams and how she’s had to endure those since she was 13. And I got a lot of sneering about men and how we are so squeamish compared to what women endure. Yeah. That’s the last time I tell her anything about my medical issues unless there is an urgent need to know! I am sympathetic about things that my wife faces as a woman. But it’s rarely a good look for someone to mention a hardship for them and then you have to one up them. Geez! Exhausted. And my wife wonders why I don’t say much sometimes.

[@marcus813]

@@brianclark4040 I couldn't be in a relationship with a woman who treated me like that when I tell her about a problem I'm having. After going through that mess, I don't blame you for clamming up sometimes.

[@brianbarrett8739]

@@brianclark4040 it would have been acceptable if she would have said something along the lines of, "yeah, gynecologist exams suck also." You know, as a way of commiserating. Or, sharing a personal experience that shows she knows where you are coming from/how you feel. However, brow beating and degrading your experiences and how you feel about them, well that is definitely a woman showing that they are NOT the fairer sex.

[@jackcurl2005]

Not 100% but in *GENERAL*, men are the rational creature, and women are the rationaiizing creature

[@kennethmassa6682]

That one part- apologizing for how your feelings make them feel. That's what got me, this is the first time I've heard someone verbalize it.

[@joshuagundlach8606]

You are so right on this topic

[@hariman7727]

The woman in the criticized video set off ALL my "CRAZY WOMAN RUN AWAY!" alarm bells. "It's your fault I didn't listen!"

[@seaweedbrain2933]

Exactly. Every instinct of mine tells me to head in the opposite direction of her. Would never want to meet her in person

[@dandavis5533]

"Hey, do men realize they can give women ammunition that they will ABSOLUTLEY use to hurt them or belittle them in front of friends and family?" No thanks.

[@superfreakmusic7681]

ouch!! I dont get why someone would want to do that to the person they love!!! (or maybe they dont love them)

[@RedMan-zy3kz]

In fact 9/10 times they WAIT for friends and family because they know you'd rather fold than make a scene in front of them

[@KungFuPanda254]

​@superfreakmusic7681 or maybe they're like 1000's of adults out there

[@jessiepottersiv6465]

Precisely!!!

[@petert3355]

@@superfreakmusic7681 That is EXACTLY the point. They DON'T love YOU, they love your WALLET, nothing more.

[@LarsonFamilyFarm-LLC]

Perfect answer....men are open book, tell all, until we can't take it anymore....being used as ammunition- disrespected.

[@TJ-kh2jz]

Its true, I've spoken quite a few times about how i felt with certain situations, it was ignored or else was used against me .

[@steviestorm425]

Her face straight up says that she'll immediately start a fight

[@willcresson8776]

Never date people in the tribe.

[@engmed4400]

@@willcresson8776 which tribe might that be?

[@SigIsJunk-sj7ds]

​@engmed4400 the SBC. The SBC is the Scandless Bitch Club. Good luck 99.999999999% of women are in that club.

[@DavidTMSN]

​@@engmed4400 The tribe of Gossip...from the region of Gossipina in the Andromeda galaxy.

[@engmed4400]

@@DavidTMSN somehow, I get the feeling that isn't what other dude meant.

[@joecox8909]

The fact that she had to give this talk in a totally condensing way tells you exactly why we can tell you our feelings. The man broke up with you because that was the nicest way out dealing with the actual problem… you.

[@deanfirnatine7814]

Condescending, demeaning, sarcastic etc Ya A guy would feel comfortable opening to a woman like that.

[@whotakesallmynames]

The fact that miss blondie and the rest of you fools can blindly throw around blame in a situation ya'll know painfully little about tells me that yall very likely aren't doing any better than what's coming out of your mouth.

[@cbigg81]

This, this right here!

[@andrewbrendan1579]

Bingo. So condescending and disrespectful. Some women say "Men don't get it". The young woman in the video clearly doesn't "get it" herself.

[@criticalchai]

He probably began moving his things out and finding an undisclosed location before ending things. Or if he is like most men wrote it all off and just escaped. Because it is very likely he did say all those things and she just ignored it or blamed him

[@blindsquirrel7802]

Telling a woman your feelings is a hurt trap for the future. When I tried to tell my wife about things that she was doing that really hurt our relationship she said, " We'll talk when you aren't feeling so sorry for yourself."

[@thomashogan9196]

Nothing destroys a relationship faster than 10 minutes of total, complte honesty.

[@Notme-tq4xs]

man giving feelings? they will be used against us

[@thomashogan9196]

@@Notme-tq4xs All women should be required to give a Miranda warning. Even the ones who aren't named Miranda.

[@bignapolean3068]

That's why you have to be completely honest upfront.

[@thomashogan9196]

@@bignapolean3068 No. The Average American woman lives on pure emotional fiction. See how they vote. Can you allow 3 billion of the world's poorest people in your country and still have that Louis Vuitton purse? Can you "Defund the Police" and still have a safe community? Can my boyfriend cry in my arms, be vulnerable and still have my respect? The honest answer to every one of these questions is a solid NO! But tell it to your lady love and you're going to need a new girl. So get used to it or order out.

[@CinemaSermons]

Dang

[@hrayz]

"Anything you say will be held against you and used in the court of..."

[@RoderickEtheria]

"Public opinion", "her feelings", "a random argument".

[@shieldwolf65]

​@@RoderickEtheria A tribunal of her friends. The findings will often be reported back once they prove you're in the wrong

[@blurrcs15]

I had a friend/girlfriend (we were only together for 4 days so I really don’t know what to call that interaction with her) who would do this exact thing. She would say things that might’ve seemed polite on the surface, but deep down was extremely manipulative. I finally had enough after we broke up, and even though we’re still at the same college, I severed all ties with her. She clearly didn’t take it well and is upset that I didn’t come back to her like I used to, but I finally had enough of her taking advantage of my empathy and kindness. Whenever she sees me, she keeps giving me these hateful glances, but I try my best to ignore them, as I know that giving her any kind of attention will convince her to continue to try to approach me.

[@wilmuny2616]

Yup. I once told a woman that her actions are hurtful to me and her response was that my feelings were not her responsibility.

[@Lightflames85]

Women can be so mean and they are even worse to each other. I do believe men have more empathy then most women do.

[@robertc49]

Yup, I've heard "It's a you problem"

[@Nashvillain10SE]

She's right though. No person is "responsible" for another person's feelings.

[@Lightflames85]

@@Nashvillain10SE no but being a dick about it is not helping either. Also your a dick if you ignore how others are feeling about something you do.

[@ronallens6204]

At least she let you know where you stood

[@ADEpoch]

Yep. Told a lady that the way she was treating me was poor and that if she continued we'd likely break up. I think she thought I was bluffing, treated me worse. A year later when I broke it off she asked why I wasn't crying too. I simply said I've already cried enough over the last two years, I've got nothing left to cry.

[@viking_wolf]

Very similar thing happened to me. I told her if she keeps behaving this way I will end things within 6 months... She didn't believe me, 6 months later I ended it. She begged me to give her one more chance (like an idiot) I did but told her she has weeks, not months to show me I shouldn't kick her to curb. She didn't make any effort, two weeks later I ended it. Told her the reward isn't worth the effort with her.

[@jackcurl2005]

if only you'd been able to rely on her "ten"-ness.

[@nineplusfriend4239]

I can even imagine how she reacted to that.

[@viking_wolf]

@@nineplusfriend4239 she looked at me like she couldn't comprehend how her being and woman and gracing me with her presence wasn't good enough for me to bend over backwards for her.

[@fastlane1568]

I feel ya , cried all the tears to myself alone

[@duke1281]

Her entire face screams 'I'm a lunatic!' RUN!!

[@riddick27nh]

Spot on, they get used against us or thrown back at us or just invalidated or we get that we are jealous and paranoid when it is simply a concern that we have

[@SimonKHoak-ec6cc]

Who in the hell in their right mind would tell that woman anything .

[@Number1Butter]

Right? Because she clearly is not in her right mind herself, total look of psychopathy on her face

[@bch5513]

A simp that "f'ed up and found out" about 10 seconds later he shouldn't do that ... ESPECIALLY to a crazy arse person like that. Just looking for ammo.

[@tjallingdalheuvel126]

Yep. Met that. Trying to hurt my feelings. Did not have the desired effect. Then my bed performance was attacked. Just smile and point out what they are doing and what it tells about her. And bye bye bird.

[@CSCINF]

So she could use it against him til his last breath

[@kauffrau6764]

My feeling exactly.

[@nobillismccaw7450]

“You could tell me” and then it would be used against you for the rest of your life.

[@pavementstoneguy]

"You could tell me..." unsaid part, "So that I can wait until your perfect moment of weakness, preferably in front of friends or family, to bring it back up. Also, I will MAKE SURE to not let you off the subject until everyone has formed their own opinion about our personal matters."

[@johnfisher9238]

Everyday of your life like blackmail

[@sjbict]

Oh yes

[@CoachClyde]

100%

[@philipadriance8974]

Spot on!

[@Cybeldar]

That child will totally make a TikTok video making fun of anything you tell her. Not only will her family and friends know, but everyone on TikTok as well.

[@gorillaschlumpf]

My exact quote is....."if you punish the truth, your asking for a lie..." food for thought ladies......

[@iTzic21]

.....................................

[@Unknown-qp9ur]

Yep. Women do something that hurts a man, he tells her, she gets mad or cries, he feels bad and shuts the f up next time.

[@iTzic21]

@@Unknown-qp9ur idk i feel like you peeps deal with children, or there never was a good basis of communication to begin with. People are retarded and contradicting themselves all the time. When someone has your best interest in mind you should be able to talk about the behaviour that violated your boundaries. Even when that throws them off and confuses them, you should be able to talk through shit. In a calm and civilized manner. If that has been tried multiple times and it doesn't work then you guys might not have your priorities aligned

[@chronic_hatred2k22]

Geez that's a good quote

[@justwingingit8110]

Sometimes the truth deserves to be punished, lies just make it worse

[@LordShockwave9]

The "you can tell me anything!" Led to her telling me how it was my fault for being wrong about my feelings, and then I said to her "I rest my case." 😂

[@Sleepingbear2222]

I think as a guy, we just don’t always feel like sharing are “inner-most” feelings. We just don’t feel the desire to express ourselves. This is a certainty a broad view of men. However, for me it’s true. We’re just wired different than women. It is what it is.

[@robertflanagan6168]

Having your feelings dismissed once or twice is one thing but realizing they never mattered is a different thing

[@FriedPi-mc5yt]

The only time women care about a man’s feelings is when she can use it to her advantage.

[@Seccsi]

This is exactly why I am getting a divorce right now.

[@theeclectic2919]

@@Seccsi And one of the many reasons I got a divorce five months ago.

[@AlphaSideQuest]

@@Seccsi Sorry man, that's rough. Stay strong 💪

[@AlphaSideQuest]

@@Seccsi Totally understandable. Good luck minimizing the financial damage, we're at a steep disadvantage.

[@jordancross9030]

Every single time I've been upset, my partner will get upset that I'm upset and then it becomes about them. This has happened every time with every girl.

[@case6189]

Facts then if you don’t apologize it never goes away

[@rezizaky9342]

Damn me too! Before and after married with my wife i can't even show a sad or stressed look in front of her, cause its gonna make her mad and i have to apologize (now i realize i used to be a SIMP). But now i'm glad that i take control of my life and my relationship, no more bullshit argument since a year ago hahaha😂

[@johnfirth6541]

yep! if i showed anything other than a happy face and a happy voice, I was immediately confronted with "why are you mad at me?". Made me consider MGTOW.

[@sourisvoleur4854]

This is 100% my first wife. Everything was about her, and my feelings mattered less than yesterday's shit.

[@hoppinglark]

I was saying the same thing for 14 years. Then when I said it during a marriage counseling session, my wife responded with: “I never knew that!” Maybe we are telling them our feelings and we are ignored.

[@bobbyswain1983]

Too many females need to listen to this young lady's dating/relationship advice.

[@Crimea_River]

The crazy in her eyes tells me I can't tell her a thing.

[@MrBilld75]

Hehehehe, it's amazing how much she affected everyone that way, lol. It was the second time she said "you can tell me" wasn't it? I was done after that, I had major red flags popping, lol.

[@stuart2006rats]

Agree.

[@ZhangYuehan]

Yes having my words weaponized is the reason why I don't waste my time

[@jimmy64224]

Apologizing for how "his feeling hurt your feelings" hits hard. So many times I was forced to apologize because of her actions.

[@SuperZippyzippy]

Last time I told anyone my feelings. They laughed and told everyone. Stay stoic, men. It isn't worth trusting ppl

[@screamingmeanie]

You can look at her and tell she went crazy negative the first time he actually shared his feelings.

[@shearin21]

Women don't want to hear our feelings at all and you're absolutely right, it does get used against us every time.

[@deanfirnatine7814]

EVERY TIME

[@texican512]

Ever noticed she goes to her phone after you tell her? She tells it to her friends, social media, and calls a possible side dude to come pick her up 🤣

[@pepsiman990]

EVERY DAMN TIIME

[@bradr9879]

That is true they tell ya they want you to be open until you’re open then your an asshole for feeling a certain way

[@ronbrewer2721]

Everything you say can & will be used against you

[@dereksyverson7738]

Thank you for saying that facts 💯

[@brianbushman592]

To quote boondock saints, "Because, it's none of your f@$king concern.".

[@docadious6948]

I love how she just described what covert narcissism is without realizing it.

[@BijahD]

💯

[@Dredd2042]

This is the type of woman that would tell her friends right away.

[@andrewcarlson2178]

Or it will end up on TikTok

[@Anarchy-Is-Liberty]

...and blame you for it!

[@mattjack3983]

Or try to gaslight you and tell you how your having the wrong feelings. Then turn it into a weapon against you at some point in the future.

[@antisemantic]

I love my wife, and she is one of the most empathetic people I've ever known. She makes an effort to show her love for me and she is good at taking care of me and our kids. She cares so much about our children and how they feel, and it makes her a better parent, and makes me a better parent where I fall short in understanding where the kids are at, emotionally...buuut...I don't have big emotional swings, but I do have moments (usually in grieving or stressful periods) where I am trying to deal with my own intense emotions and she completely turns off her empathy and seems to exacerbate the problem, instead of helping me through. To the point where I will always resent her reaction and regret revealing my emotions. I have only ever had a few of these instances, but I really needed her support and I was rejected, with force. I don't think I'll ever feel comfortable with my negative emotions around her because of this... But I am always the cool cuke with her emotional insecurities and break downs and hangry moments. I'll just keep my bottle handy for stuffing my emotions down until I can talk to a friend about it.

[@davidwhite206]

It's the eyes Chico. They never lie...

[@sherpajones]

right on point. I would never share my feelings with someone who expresses such a condescending attitude towards men.

[@SpartanForces117]

That women is literally the type of women which will abuse you using what you shared with her in private

[@waynehewett4017]

All women do They can't help gaslighting or kicking you in the balls when they think they have something over you To women it's not a relationship or marriage , it's a bloody war and you never know when they will stab the guy in the back

[@cowboylikeG13]

That’s a very bold statement to make considering you don’t know that woman at all

[@gregwatruba4541]

All women do that.

[@winterwulf1995]

​@@cowboylikeG13easy statement to make after every single woman in that guys life has probably done that exact same thing to him. I lived that, he lived that, all of us men have experienced it at some point probably several times over

[@einjharrelraca]

@@cowboylikeG13 99% of you do it. ill take the 1/100 gamble that she is until she proves she wont. I learned my fucking lesson. my only regret was needing the lesson twice.

[@natewilhelm6959]

The fact that she says "SPIRAL" shows her lack of empathy for the man. She actually does NOT care about his feelings, she's just angry she didn't get her feelings reassured. Never, I repeat NEVER admit your feelings to this woman, she will use it against you every time.

[@chonkytemmi4652]

That “you can tell me” feels like a threat, it seems to be only men who understand that where men physically abuse, women abuse emotionally, and when you’ve been emotionally abused, a “you can tell me” sounds like “you shouldn’t have made me mad”

[@deezznuts5396]

Her condescending tone and clear resentment in her voice really conveys her point

[@jwdyss]

Telling any woman your feelings is THE KISS OF DEATH.

[@helmanticus8624]

😆

[@HenrySimmons1225]

Why?

[@gatorssbm]

​@@HenrySimmons1225 Because some flee the second you try, demean you for it to or label you as needy. But imo its not a bad thing, emotionally availability and vulnerability are essential for relationships to survive, so a bullet was dodged.

[@linuxtuxvolds5917]

incel alert.

[@DolphinWithIgloo-fg3ow]

A mistake I kept repeating. I’m sure there are women that will listen, I’ve never ran into one. Women just want to be lead by strength, even the “strong and independent” ones.

[@TedBronson1918]

Emily - A bigger point is that the woman doesn't know how to keep that private conversation PRIVATE. It immediately becomes a subject for conversation, discussion and analysis with her friends, which is an immense violation of trust and confidentiality to a man. Any talk, discussion and analysis should only be between him and her - they are the married/involved people. Women have to understand exactly what the hell "private" means and start learning to accomodate privacy for others if they want a successful relationship.

[@cryptomancer2927]

Unfortunately, in my experience it has been the women in my life that have cared the least about my feelings. Not all of them. But my feelings have been used against me. That shit is toxic.

[@not-a-raccoon]

"You can tell me" is usually code for "tell me something vulnerable so I can use it as ammunition."

[@chriskola3822]

And they will save it up for YEARS then bring it up when it is convenient for them.

[@believeit1234]

Or better yet "Tell me how sad you feel so I can tell my mother later on when you're not around."

[@MrEvldreamr]

@@believeit1234 theres nothing wrong woth telling your mother. Now you ppl just sound petty

[@believeit1234]

@@MrEvldreamr Telling her mother with empathy or telling her mother to mock what she was told are two different things. Now you man-hating feminists are just sounding uncaring. (no surprise there)

[@ptonpc]

@@believeit1234 "And all my friends and co workers. We find it funny"

[@varasano]

Best line "Apologize for how his feelings hurt her feelings". 💯

[@darreldorigatti862]

After about the 30th time doing that...yeah, men will shut off.

[@bend3rbot]

​@@darreldorigatti862Does the apologist for your inability to connect meaningfully make you feel better?!?! That's good!!! Why are you still dwelling, then?

[@jacejan3128]

You hit it spot on.

[@chris122380]

Women do this too. It's not just a man problem. Holding in your feelings and waiting to explode is not good in any relationship.

[@kevinrodriguez1466]

Flip it. Man: "What's wrong?" Woman: "Nothing." Man: "What's wrong?" Woman: "If you don't know, I'm not going to tell you."

[@pumpkinhead8593]

And that's how you know you're dating a toddler

[@hellstromcarbunkle8857]

Followed by "You're right, it's not worth the bother"

[@elvisravinskis7558]

Last time someone told me "you can tell me", I became a problem and it got weaponized against me and I was expected to apologise at the end. Fuck that!

[@timempson2146]

Absolutely nailed it Emily!

[@ronbzoom8531]

Thank you!

[@michaelsong9307]

I learned a long time ago that if anyone ever talks to you in a condescending way like that you should NEVER share ANYTHING with them. They will only use it to hurt you. I think she's just mad that he dumped her before she could dump him.

[@jonomakim4310]

That’s a great tell and when I think about it, yep, it’s definitely the arrogant ones that will come back to you with it later on.

[@inthetrenches7315]

Don't ever say sh*t dudes

[@foxxinc.7837]

BET

[@bmellis1984]

Your a dude and saying sh*t is what we do. For example: I wonder what smells worse a chicken fart or a beef fart after dinner?

[@ELEFTHERIOS88]

1000000%

[@miahdavis8331]

💯

[@naomigwolfe8112]

As a woman who genuinely cares about the guys in my life.. I would much rather hear about something, so I can avoid it.. even if it hurts me in the moment. Rather than let the pain continue because of fear or untrusting relationship...

[@jorgeliceaga7460]

I tell my feelings to other men in my circles. If a woman uses my feelings against, we part ways instantly, but only after I tell her how unsafe she is.

[@jeffhedrich3551]

In the moment, the man should say, and if you ever bring this up again, I’m gone. Because that’s what he truly feels.

[@stephenteichroeb7816]

You got that right. I got scolded weeping at my Father's funeral. We hold back from then on.

[@pyromanaic21]

Damn bro.

[@nikkisigmon8090]

Scolded by a female? I hope it wasnt your mother! But even scolded by anyone that's just messed up!

[@nikkisigmon8090]

Sorry for your loss mate. Good dads are priceless.

[@iizra86]

Feel tht bro salute 🫡 carry the name push the mission ahead grieve in good company remember the good times repeat 👣♻️ unfortunately it seems to happen to us all but we Fortunate enough to know that type of love some never may

[@codytrawick5981]

Dude what the fuck

[@KnaGGelMan]

Never tell a woman how you feel... It will backfire sooner or later.

[@natehill8069]

or both

[@samuelanders7597]

Telling women about your feelings, especially anything that makes you vulnerable or betrays a weakness WILL come back out the next time she gets mad. There is absolutely no incentive for men to be honest about their feelings