This Is Why So Many Women Are Single

[@CourtneyRyan]

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[@the_townleys]

Never Ever Chase....Always attract.....in every big situation... the right people will present themselves😁

[@clonecommando-cn6bo]

NO. dating apps and sites are keeping the problem still happen since the moment it went haywire. And everything perpetuating the crisis is mostly from glorifying the wrong people and listening to people who are creating a negative influence. It’s not a relationship anymore if someone has to work harder than the other…It’s clear that no one is interested so I said fuck it

[@JOHNNYCHICAGO8]

​@@the_townleys amen

[@sybellhernandez9654]

I'm glad I found your channel. Although I know majority of things are targeted towards guys. I started watching and subscribed to get a better understanding not only on my parts as a female/woman but of man as well. It helps me look more within myself and work on things I might be doing wrong or incorrect, as well as look at different points of views. I enjoy your videos and the information you share with everyone.

[@PuffAdder8565]

women have it so easy they ask men for free cars. the thing is that they're not worth it to most men until society's attitudes change from both directions.

[@lifesIronyboard]

I was with my wife for 30 years when she died. As an older gentleman, who had a relationship that went longer than many of you have lived, I will give you a story. I was in a luxury mall with my wife. She saw this cool looking handbag and I told her if she wanted it I would get it for her. Her answer was to angrily tell me there was no way she wanted to waste our money on something like that. She told me many times how stressful she thought our careers were and she knew having savings reduced that stress. We didn't live a luxury life and we accepted each other fully, flaws and all and I wouldn't trade a second of those 30 years. Now that I am widowed, I know life is a lot better with a good, kind, caring partner than alone.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this with us 🤍 hugs!

[@angelacosta466]

Great point! It’s about living a healthy and fulfilling life with your partner. Being able to fight through hard times together and be each other’s support.

[@donaldmackerer9032]

@@angelacosta466 absolutely not only fighting together through hard times because sooner or later some will happen, also not abandon ship when the first sign of of difficulties appear. If a couple can face these times together and have each other's back then the bond between them grows ever stronger. Nothing cements a relationship like having to face a crisis together and getting through it.

[@Bennysol]

@@donaldmackerer9032 modern broads always jump ship.

[@ultimaetsolder]

If you have the money it's not wasting it. No one's fault you don't have the money. Same as you declining to buy a $20k Rolex Daytona.

[@theonlykalonji]

"if you are so quick to write someone off over miniscule things that truly don't matter at all, that signals to me that you're actually emotionally unavailable and no where near mentally ready or capable of a healthy relationship." just this. so much this.

[@Metalgear222]

nah fam. The little things matter. Remember Sherlock Holmes? It's the little details that end up revealing the biggest evidence in the case. Prove me wrong. This is known in the redpill community as Trickle Truth. What you see in the beginning will be amplified when her guard wears off and she can no longer act 100%.

[@seanhoude]

Far too many women today, demand the authority of a Man, the privilege of a Woman, and the accountability of a Child, all while claiming victimhood status under the Patriarchy. So as a guy that identifies with all the men out there that have checked out on all this nonsense, it's so refreshing to hear that examples of sensible women actually exist. Thank you, Courtney.

[@luketimewalker]

wow! Masterful definition

[@markknivila8383]

Well said, Sean! Well said!

[@playthegame7445]

And when they say all men are trash, the reason that phrase came about is cos 80% of them chase the same 10% of guys, and those guys wont commit to any of them, and those guys dont give an f about these women, they just do pump and dump, and these woman think that if the f with these guys then they will commit to them which obviously wont happen. On top of that these women are pumped and dumped to teh point of no return and they expect to still find a high value guy to commit to them, the delusion is on another scale. I dont agree with a lot of statements that this women says. 1st off, there are good women but very very few that you need to search with a microscope to find one, majority of them have been contaminated with feminism, even though they say they haven't u can tell from her mannerisms. And MGTOW was formed by the good guys that were used and abused by these so called good women. Lets face it women are group thinkers thats why they are mimicking the behavior of other women

[@seanhoude]

@@eazymethod01 And they certainly don't recognize their inherent privilege either.

[@mjkittredge]

Sensible, reasonable women do exist, but they come off the dating market REALLY fast! I've had the good luck of meeting a number of them over the years, and the difference between them and the entitled superficial brats is night and day. It truly puts the whole dating scene into perspective when you've seen both sides.

[@adamp7958]

As a man in his 40s who has been dating the last 1.5 years, I can tell you exactly why women are single. I'll just say, I am over 6 feet tall, I have a six pack, I make well into six figures, own a home, former model, etc., etc., etc. With all that, I struggle horribly to get a date with anyone. To date, I've been using the apps for the most part (Hinge, Bumble and Tinder), but I'm trying to move away from them. Most women use the apps and apps are what's doing it. I have dozens upon dozens of matches in Hinge (hundreds, really), and 98% all end the same way. We match, I text, maybe she answers once, I text again, she vanishes. Rinse and repeat. Even when I get far enough to set up a date, 90% of the time she will flake, usually the day before. One wrong text, they're gone forever. We live in such a throw-away society that women will drop a guy for the slightest thing at any time, and actively LOOK for disqualifiers constantly, and thanks to the apps they believe there will always be 1000 men behind the one she just dropped that she can choose from. This is so painfully obvious. I see the same women on these apps that were there almost two years ago, still swiping, still ghosting, still believing the perfect guy is the next swipe. Unrealistic standards, zero tolerance for imperfection, choice paralysis and delusion are the reason women are still single. And it gets worse as they get older. By far, BY FAR the worst offenders are women in their mid-late 30s and 40s. They are the most picky, most entitled, most unpleasant and hardest to tolerate. I don't say any of this out of pleasure, I'm just stating my experience, which I'm sure is shared by the vast majority of men out there. It's almost an unwinnable situation.

[@daryanaah]

I feel you. I never ever used dating apps! For so many reasons! I'm sure if you go in real life you will get the perfect match!! I feel sorry about those entitled women that are wasting your time and give bad rep to us, the real ones. Speaking ab me I only have 2 ex, 2 long term relationships, don't do hookup culture/casual sex, and I'm confident that all those “great” prospects weren't that great at all as they want to try the opposite and I trust my values and wont feel good doing the other way. I'm sure a lot of good men will appreciate it and have same values and will show up. I think it's a good thing those wonen dissapeared as they clearly have something bad emotionaly going on, actually you were lucky and the message is go real life.❤️

[@Just_a_Lad]

Delete those apps man, don't waste your time and energy.

[@divebomb99]

Man oh man, SPOT ON EXACT. You just typed exactly my experience too. You hit the nail on the head that they are proactively looking for disqualifiers. It's sickening and it's toxic. Barrier after barrier and nothing is ever good enough for them.

[@Just_a_Lad]

@The 44 Year Old Incel and long time ago these women would have been mothers already with 10-15y old kids. Such a difference right?

[@Vortex_ICEcold]

I wish I earned six figures

[@michaeluphoff4749]

THANK YOU. Say it louder for the people in the back about unrealistic expectations, Courtney. Most modern women want perfection without being anything close to perfection themselves, and they lack accountability and the ability to accept the consequences of their decisions. It's mind-boggling.

[@jasonzacharias2150]

Bee careful... She's a deep state gatekeeper in some ways..

[@LRF49]

Women have this elaborate checklist for a man, but if a man does a checklist on a woman. He's seen as an asshole. Crazy

[@pandemicneetbux2110]

@@LRF49 There's a whole host of things I'm glad I've not had to deal with in ages, even before checking out. One of these is the stupid youngirl shit you get from public school white girls, the testing, and the lists. I think most women did this who went to a public high school, not sure about other races, but yeah. It somehow morphed into this monstrous amount of selfishness, entitlement, people just being vapid assholes, and frankly it wouldn't surprise me most of the worst behavior is being condoned by men somehow. Like the women that tried to liqour me up to get me to sleep with them (this was actually a really asshole thing to do in retrospect, and women have pulled shit like this a lot whereas I've known other people who are actually respectful) is something I could tell men did to them. Likewise it wouldn't surprise me if I did something that a woman could tell I picked up from a previous relationship. So I see the entire toxic cesspool of tinder as being literally undateable people now. Tiktok, onlyfns, I will have none of it. One of the things about dating young is the immaturity which is why 25 is such a hard cutoff for me. Below that you still get really immature and frankly trashy behaving women that do testing. I might be forgiving the first time if I am really into someone but the second I see testing happen again it's time to cut somebody loose. Someone relying on a checklist is another big no. And that's the other problem with online dating, is you can just tell these women turned it into shopping for a handbag, like they literally aren't looking at you as a person, but as a list. Ladies, men can tell when you are doing this. The last person I said no because I flatly read her, it wasn't even the looks, or being a single mom (I found out about that later) it was the fact she exuded a wanting to get something from me vibe. As much as women can tell a man wants to get sex out of them? We have that intuition too and we hate gold diggers with a passion. They're basically female pigs. So having a checklist is almost tantamount to being a gold digger. Like imagine if a guy was checking off your waist size. Hence I think you'd need to be a fool to stay with a woman that is still using an actual checklist.

[@mikey92362]

It doesn't help to be perfect. I'm close to it, and they still think the grass is greener. They get to 21 at the blackjack table and STILL keep telling the dealer to hit. Bezos, Elon, and Tom Brady weren't enough for their woman. That should tell you something right there.

[@pandemicneetbux2110]

@@mikey92362 It tells me that money can't buy happiness and marrying somebody not because you felt it in your soul but because "this is the best I'm gonna get" is going to leave you lonely and unhappy later on in life. You know, thinking about it I bet Kevin Samuels didn't really die a happy man. It's not just about the tax writeoffs. There's an underlying emotional and spiritual reason the ultra rich do philanthropy too. I saw an interesting article by this woman who was a Disney heiress, and they literally had a custom passenger jet with a bedroom and fullsize bed on it they flew around everywhere, and even in all that opulent wealth that woman wasn't happy. So I guess what I'm saying you can't use money as a replacement for character and personality, and if you can't make a woman happy she's going to leave you no matter how much money you make. Guys seeming to think all their money is a replacement for being an actually great guy come home to find their wives fucking the UPS driver.

[@75egcg]

This channel helps me feel a little more validated as a man. It’s been really important to me

[@CourtneyRyan]

You have no idea how much it means to me to read this. I’m so glad you’re here!

[@75egcg]

@@CourtneyRyan thank you for your hard work. It definitely helps a lot of people.

[@Andreas0705]

I've somehow always ended up here when I'm frustrated with women I'm dating. Makes me feel less wrong and that it isn't just me. I don't wanna sound bitter, I'm just frustrated on the whole thing.

[@ajl278]

She’s been a big factor for me remaining optimistic about dating. Keep growing and goods things will happen.

[@ricky5538]

@@CourtneyRyan Yes thanks Courtney for giving us hope and showing us there are Sensible and beautiful ladies out there that we can hope to get. Even if they were only half as pretty as you, but still sensible, that would be enough for me ! We see a lot of crazy ladies with unrealistic expectations !

[@Telltalesign]

As one of those women who work and manage my business at home, I kinda end up getting stuck inside the house in front of my PC or Laptop most days of the year. I think she's right on that part where women do not put themselves in the position of meeting new people, preventing themselves from finding a suitable candidate. I remember this one tiktok saying: Bruh, you think your soulmate will just barge into your house? If he did, that's not your soulmate; that's probably a robber. 😅 Still find that joke funny.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I totally get it! I work from home now too and will sometimes realize I haven’t left my house in days 😵‍💫 lol too funny, and so true! 😂

[@intjbro]

Who knows, the robber might steal her heart...

[@Just_a_Lad]

With the small difference that you can register in a dating app and within a few days you'll get 50 options to choose from. So you can still get something super easy even if you stay at home and don't go out. Men don't have this luxery

[@Telltalesign]

@@Just_a_Lad Well, if I want to simply get laid, that's an option, but if I want a long term partner, then I say it might be easier for me to win a lottery than find an ideal husband in dating apps.

[@Just_a_Lad]

@@Telltalesign believe it or not there are guys there who are not only into hookups but into serious relatiobships. Meaning that you still have a better chance mathematically to find such a guy. Out of these 50 there is a chance that there might be 5 guys who want something serious. It's up to you to filter them out. My brother found his wife on a dating app, it started as casual but then they decided to make it serious.

[@mimicotom]

I'm 65, Courtney. And I have seen women reject men for the simplest excuses, going back 40 years. This is nothing new, but it seems to be more amplified now, than it was when I was a young man. I blame social media for this. Women (and men) have to compromise. Not change your wants in a mate, but be forgiving if he/she does not meet your standards 100%.

[@TheFockerizer]

its moments like these it better for a man to ignore women and go his own way that way he would find his inner peace

[@jwg9338]

Social media did them in

[@trublgrl]

​@The 44 Year Old Incel As a woman who has gone from fat to thin over and over, I can tell you it's true for guys, too. If you aren't attractive, you become invisible. But you can improve yourself. For men, looking attractive is about fitness, style and character. The things that hold you back are fungible, you can even change your face! Have you seen these videos about how you can change your facial anatomy with exercise? Don't let the way some mean girls treated you as a kid make you a turtle for the next thirty years. If you feel like a loser, you will be perceived as a loser, but you are not a loser. We can lose every day and not be a loser until we stop trying. I know this is mean, telling you to "fix yourself," but you have to really ask if a relationship is what you want, and how hard are you willing to fight to get it? A boxer trains alone for a year before he steps in the ring. I am working my tail off right now to fix MY flaws so I can try again. Don't give up, Get Hard.

[@TomNook.]

The issue with this approach is that the woman will monkey branch if she finds someone "better"

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Mmm, but women have choice now. They don't have to marry Jim Bob down the road who is disgusting and an abuser. I don't believe you need to suck up bad behaviour anymore, and I also think dating strategies have to change as it doesn't fall in your lap so easily.

[@tsietsiramakatsa7429]

I really loved the point about viewing dating as another career. I'm an introvert as well, and much more into staying at home vs going out, but something a pastor once said spoke to this and gave me clarity that spurred me forward to being more active: "you say - Pastor, 'I'm looking for a life-partner', but you have no life! What life are you inviting them to?" And living life to the full is not merely about looking to meet someone, its about learning to be fulfilled as an individual as well, so as to approach relationships in a healthy manner.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

[@RobertMorgan]

I'm worried if I get any more improved, I'll stop needing anyone else entirely and just date myself. No one else will ever impress me, and hell no can I ever trust anyone.

[@Annayasha]

Thats a great quote from your pastor. So true🎉

[@darrenthompson7995]

I do believe social media has ruined us all. Yes it’s great to keep in contact with others but it’s set so much of a bar that if your not living the perfect life in someone else’s eyes you have no chance.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

Misandry does not solve misogyny. Oftentimes, it makes it worse.

[@CourtneyRyan]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@garygreen3638]

It's literally two sides of the same coin, and one will cause to other to activate

[@headshot217]

Thats why I'm a misanthrope i hate both

[@MrCjchamp]

A lot of these videos revolve around damaged people. They speak only their truth. There are incredible men and women out there. That’s truth.

[@sonofthesOUth77]

The vast majority of “misogyny” these days is not really misogyny. More like men having standards, expectations and boundaries

[@lawrence31415]

Here are a couple of reasons that may have not been addressed: 1) Dissappointment with previous romantic partners 2) Refuses to make fair and appropriate compromises 3) Wants to avoid men who will only use them (this one is fair)

[@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115]

the lasto one... than women should stop mating with thugs.

[@Straga_Severa]

> 3) Wants to avoid men who will only use them (this one is fair) Let's rephrase: "Inability to reject only guys who are clearly looking for a hookup while still accepting normal guys".

[@raymondmasullo3386]

Good points. I always run into the first one. It sometimes feels like I'm being punished for another guy's misdeeds ("You don't know what I've been through!"). I would never blame another woman for the horrible things my ex-wife did to me and my kid, but women often find it ok to hold me accountable for what a previous boyfriend or husband did.

[@Blackcrowcaw]

@@Straga_Severa sometimes people are really good about lying about their intentions. I’ve had that happen to me before. He went out of his way to make it seem like he actually wanted to date me and then a few months in I found out that I was the side chick.

[@Straga_Severa]

@@Blackcrowcaw Yes, but most times they don't. Let's be real, the guys on dating apps that receive hundreds of likes per day are walking red flags, and women still get burned on them ;-)

[@michaelsantangelo7997]

Every woman has multiple good men in her friend zone.

[@zerpblerd5966]

I have a lot of women friends and almost none of them I'd be interested in a relationship with the truth is 98% of people aren't suitable for a serious relationship!

[@vd1657]

This statement annoys me so much. If she isn’t feeling it with them, is she just suppose to force herself? I personally think that’s worse for both parties. Just like I wouldn’t want a man to ‘settle’ for me because he feels like he has too.

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

@@vd1657 but WHY isn’t she feeling it? Is it some patriarchal nonsense like “he isn’t tall enough”?

[@zerpblerd5966]

@@vd1657 nah, you misunderstand, there's a closedness to even consideration, it's not about forcing, it's about being open rather than expectant/assumptive

[@zerpblerd5966]

@@vd1657 I've been friends with people and over time, chemistry developed and it became more than friends, I think people thikn 'chemistry' or 'attraction' needs to be there immediately without realizing how to actually connect with people - it's all confused, dating is not a good method to get to know someone

[@kingofkings852]

The moment a girl requires me to “fly her out” or buy her a car or designer bag, she drops down to a 2 to me doesn’t matter how fine she is. When things become monetary, gentleman, you’re just dealing with a transaction.

[@devilsadvocacy]

I would take it one step further and call it part of what has become a multimillion dollar per year “industry”: A romance scam

[@Eth3realwarrior]

​@@daniellehotsky1776-2

[@Vortex_ICEcold]

My guy most women are insecure about their dating history. They act like they gotta build it up like a credit score 💀. That gives them value in their minds. It’s a reassuring thing for them to have to walk with confidence. Men have their problems too. They commit to these sluts with multiple body counts on them. I’m a dude and I wouldn’t befriend a guy who wants to drive a used up car over a new one. That’s a weak man who will settle for less. No person wants to be around a guy like that.

[@toddjohnson271]

It has always been a transaction...and it always will be.

[@jibberism9910]

@@toddjohnson271 I'd be careful with such cynicism. Harsh reality is much more harsh than it's getting credited for. The essence of life is not acceptance, but overcoming. Oneself, or someone else if need be.

[@donaldmackerer9032]

Two important things she failed to mention to women who are still single, work on your personality and character more. If you have a bad personality or practically none at all, hardly anybody will be attracted to you. If you don't have a strong sense of integrity, and you keep breaking promises or making promises that you have no intention of keeping how do you expect a decent man to trust you? If you don't have a strong sense of fair play and right and wrong, then how do you expect a man of quality to respect you? All the makeup and nice clothes in the world won't overcome these flaws 4 man with high standards. In fact too much makeup sometimes can make you look like a clown or a little tacky

[@LightCheck70]

There was two women I completely turned down cause of make up. I want a smiles that shine like the sun, whenever she sees me because I treat her right. I don’t want a cardi b look a like that wants to act out like a child.

[@angelacosta466]

I think relationships are about leaving your selfish interests behind and coming together as a team. Building a life together can be difficult, but the hard times is what will make or break the relationship. But if your willing to put the work in for each other it will lead to a much happier and fulfilling marriage. Social media just defines a good man as someone who has a lot of money and can provide a luxury lifestyle.

[@ccpenthusiast4683]

True

[@thrilla72]

It's not social media, it's life, women in general who define it as that. These are things we observed growing up but didn't realise were so commonplace

[@pandemicneetbux2110]

That's exactly why, people are unwilling to self sacrifice or compromise on anything. It's an expression of the same money worshiping materialistic crap at all levels of the society. But the added problem is the trivialized, childish existence of so many of these people, to the extent that the modern woman literally just sees a man's income as her ticket to leading a fast life and luxury goods. *That is why we hate gold diggers so passionately* it's because a man's money IS FOR OUR KIDS. Literally, the entire point of a man's self worth and his income is based around providing a good, stable life with all the advantages to his own children, and that is what being a good father means, to provide for and protect your KIDS and giving your KIDS a future. The usual modern woman wants to basically be the child in this arrangement. That's why they often end up being treated as fuckgirls basically, because they show no self awareness of the duties and responsibilities of a wife, but rather show all the immaturity of an alleged grown woman who's all of 15 years old mentally and expects being flown around the world. Like they don't even stop to think "what can I get my kid instead of this Gucci handbag?" That's why they're unfit to be mothers. Ironically and quite sadly some do finally figure this out as single moms, which sucks, because by the time they realize it's about the kids, they wasted their time hooking up to get free shit, and now that a man knows you're another woman's man, he's not going to want to provide for another man's child, when in all probability all he's going to get in return from the kid is "you're not my dad!" This is why traditional relationships are so important and really it makes me feel so much more hatred and loathing for these boomers in what they and their toxic crap did to the world. If you really dig into sexual lib and all the things they were doing it becomes obvious it was never about "free love" it was them selfishly getting high and callously using other people for sex, and then these terrible nihilistic attitudes got passed down to their children with "polyamory." I know people that might as well be married, but for various stupid reasons are not married to the dad or are too afraid of committments or to call it that. So all these evil lies got perpetuated among my generation who was too helpless and didn't have a voice to fight back against it, and it ruined many many people who weren't wise enough to ignore everything the boomers said. This is saddest for the women, because they don't have time. Like I can still in theory try and bounce back. They don't. A 35 or 40 year old woman is basically done. At age 40 she's simply not going to find a husband and wife. It's like the problem with Sorceresses from The Witcher series that I think subtly implies that situation, you can grasp for political power and conspiring but you lose the ability to be a mother. And it's super sad, and I think these women get duped into pursuing the "get rich or die trying" ideology of the Americans, not knowing how utterly soulless, sociopathic, nihilistic and narcissistic that dominant paradigm truly is and how miserable they'll all be when they're older and the party ends.

[@rbfarrell1]

In the U.S. guys are the door mat and ATM and women are the princess. If you want that life go ahead and get married.

[@MrBlue3rd]

This channel is the only exposure i need to TikTok.

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂😂 I am on there strictly for content so I get it. It’s rough

[@MrBlue3rd]

@Courtney Ryan It's a gold mine for content for your channel. 🤣

[@zerpblerd5966]

it hurts my brain and I actually have on my online profile (which I only have 1 of and do not use for 'dating' but only for meeting interesting people) 'you don't communicate in gifs and memes and tiktok is barely part of your world if at all' - I only discovered its existence in the past year and was like 'wtf is this awfulness?'

[@MrBlue3rd]

@@zerpblerd5966 I refuse to get on it since i don't want any of my personal data to be accessed by the Chinese Government.

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

I’m just waiting for it to get banned

[@positive_vibes_2427]

I’m 32 and never been in a relationship. I’ve been told by many that I’m a great guy. Definitely living proof that they’re are great men out there. Hoping that “single” status changes for me

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

The people who say “you’re a great guy” are despicable. If they believed it, they’d be dating you. Anyone who says that is just virtue signaling.

[@positive_vibes_2427]

@@AlexanderSkinnerVids on my end, the only thing I could really do is focus on what I can control, which is to be the best man I can be. It’s been a lonely journey for the most part tbh….which is probably why I’m so welcoming when it comes to compliments

[@LAWSON08]

You might be "too nice." Possible people pleaser. Most women aren't interested in that

[@mjkittredge]

it's very stressful, especially when you've been single a while. You worry about losing them and then are emotionally devastated when it inevitably ends.

[@Bennysol]

@@LAWSON08 yes sir. They want chaos and drama. I finally learned this at 28 years old. Im 32 now and the past 4 years have been awesome. Latest broad I've been with on and off for the past 16 months snagged my phone a couple weeks ago and saw I've been hanging out with and banging other girls. She pretended to be mad about it at first but then later that night rode me better than she ever had in 16 months. Now she's competing against the other girls I'm with. Every man should have 3-4 girls in his rotation

[@-Hercules-]

I love the perspective that you give both men and women. You are very humble, kind and realistic in the way you approach the situation. I wish more women would listen to your words and adopt your way of thinking. Social media is definitely a big reason why both women and men are against each other. We should be working together to understand each other not blame and judge each other. Look for the good in each other but not the other way around. It will only lead to good rather than bad. We aren't separate, together we are one.

[@CourtneyRyan]

You’re so kind, thank you 🥹

[@Saltpork305]

I think you nailed it on the why. It's unrealistic expectations and also something I call the princess mindset: 'One day a prince will come and save me from everything wrong with my life including me' is a deeply ingrained belief some women have from childhood and those who don't grow out of it don't realize just how toxic it is. No one can fix you but you. No one will fall from the sky and be your perfect match. It always takes effort and in long term relationships compromise. People, even those who click, will have friction. It's just the nature of being with people. tl;dr - Don't expect anyone to save you. Get off your ass and try.

[@user-mq1wy8if3i]

Jeez everything that first lady said were true for all of us. Made me realize that I need to work hard on relationships like a full time job.

[@lvl5charmander]

she’s saying this cause she’s older. don’t date someone like her imo.

[@pyroseed13]

The idea that you would need to go on dates with 200 people to find someone you are "compatible" with is hilarious to me. Most people are not that complex.

[@BattlesuitExcalibur]

People think this because they haven't sat down with themselves to figure out what tf it is they actually want. If you go to the grocery store not knowing what you're looking for, you'll just wander the aisles picking up shit you see (and probably don't need) and you'l waste a ton of time.

[@megalodon1726]

She wouldn't have gone on 200 dates if she was paying for those dates. It's easy for women to keep saying NEXT when they didn't pay for the last date and won't be paying for the next one.

[@AK47HEAVYMETAL83]

Ehhh…I went a few hundred dates after I divorced my first mistake 😅😂😂😂 it took a lot to find my wife. Finding a car is easy, finding a bad ass job is easy…finding a good wife that’ll give you peace of mind is the hardest thing you could ever do.

[@Hieroglyphics87]

​@@megalodon1726 facts woman today are not traditional chances are she's dating multiple guys at the same time and statistically sleeping with another guy while talking to you. Men need to stop paying for dates. This is a sure way to see who is really interested in you if they want a second date.

[@player34536]

200 is a pretty low number for women. Nowadays I hear of men doing over 1000 first dates. I can only imagine how many women can do.

[@zerpblerd5966]

she looks totally different pre-full makeup and post full-makeup narcissism, vanity, obsession with looks, fashion, trends that have nothing to do with meaningful things on top of that: not willing to do the work and thinking everything needs to feel good always or it's 'not right' - fear and trauma issues, which is why I say most people aren't emotionally mature enough to be in serious relationships, which is why most are single or in failing or unhealthy relationships wendigo

[@toddjohnson271]

While she spouts that the average guy is not attractive enough.

[@jonathanbuck2564]

I believe society today has a strange problem with obsession. People invest too much into one activity and become unappealing. A well rounded person with diverse interests and perspectives is always a 10/10 in my book.

[@Cee_Eff]

I would also add women's obsession with swag/charisma, instant chemistry and sparks over compatibility values etc

[@jazzyjake99]

For me, I feel like a lot of women don’t give me a decent chance. Most of the women I see don’t last more than two dates, and it’s really hard to want to keep dating when I feel like no one really wants to give you an honest chance.

[@dgwaters]

That’s me too! I never got past the second date with a woman. Lately, I haven’t been able to get a first date.

[@michaelespeland]

Its the instant gratification generation.

[@noobsmoke79]

This right here. We feel like we’re one of the “200 first dates” she mentions. Yeah sure meeting more men is great for women, but it means more men getting rejected. I’ll also add that “meeting more women” is not a luxury most men have. 200 first dates? Shit I’m lucky if I can get a first date (that goes nowhere) every 200 days.

[@TomNook.]

They have too much choice

[@SamSteeles]

@@TomNook. Bring on the plasic sex bots!

[@kostasplaneart]

Once more..social media in general have destroyed human emotions and relations in general!!! Of course there is no perfect man or woman..and that;s the magic of it...through a commitment in a relatioship all matters can be solve when open mind is present!!! Great video!!!!!

[@DaBeast0809]

Great video, a lot of fair points. I was in a 16 year relationship and I was in a bad mental state due to childhood trauma. I took my ex girlfriend for granted without wanting to and I refused to seek professional help. She finally left and I’m surprised she held on so long. Of course I’m hurting, I love her but she no longer loves me and I understand. I have been seeking professional help for a year now and I’m doing much better mentally but, I was too late to her love. So, for now. I’m just better alone. I don’t want to hurt another woman and I don’t want o hurt like this again. It really sucks. I had to pay a the ultimate price to finally work on myself. Plus we have two kids together so I will still have to see her for the rest of my life but, without me. I guess I say all of this to say that, if you are dealing with mental health issues, please seek professional help, you have to love yourself in order to love someone else.

[@christianpervert525]

Ok lady. 😅

[@BigGamingBossMan]

I can’t help but feel like the difficulties people have with dating would not really affect people like me all that much. Mainly because I know why I’m single…. Because I don’t have my sh*t together and cannot reasonably expect a woman to be interested in me long term until I start to really improve myself. Then after that it just a matter of dating around until I find a relationship that is good for me Ghosting? Unrealistic expectations? Shallowness? I can’t control what people decide to think or prioritize. I cannot change the current dating landscape and I certainly cannot complain about it if im not making an effort to fix it or leverage it. All I can control is my own efforts in my life because you get out what you put in. If I know I’m putting in my all, that is all that matters

[@brett6239]

I agree that it is really important in life to put out the effort to find someone. People are just too lazy to find and maintain a relationship. It's just so easy to walk away and go back to social media, videogames, junk food, etc. But it doesn't take long for loneliness to creep back in again.

[@ajtaylor8750]

*"Above all, maybe you're still single because deep down you want a partner but don't believe you deserve the one you want."* This is the gem of her entire video. Most people self sabotage without even knowing it because while they do want a relationship with their ideal partner, something in them tells them they're not worthy of it because they're not perfect and they avoid being with someone who they would be happy with just because of that poor thinking. As someone who thought that way in the past, it only hinders you from being in a great relationship with someone who would like you despite your imperfections.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thanks for sharing this. Great points.

[@TomNook.]

Except she's not spot on. That last point is essentially never settle until you get the man you want. Except the man you want will always have options.

[@andersnielsen6044]

@@TomNook. And so does the women... Options are a part of the package so to speak.

[@scartissuefilms]

What she means is what all modern women mean, she wants a top 1% guy and will never stop trying to get one, even though she knows she's not top 1% herself.

[@lightnihilus]

Ever considered being single can be a good thing, or not being single can also be a good thing. It's a choice! Their both good choices. Because Their both lessions and are both win wins either way. You shouldn't talk down on someone. Who is single and you also shouldn't talk down on someone who is not Single. In truth It's actually better to admit the truth instead of hiding the truth from inside. Because the truth can set someone free. While breaking the chains of not being afraid. She or he has his or her own personal reasons. It's also not good to try and magnify someone else's personal flaws because 1. You could underestimate 2. You could overestimate 3. You could be assuming without realizing it. 4. You could be right and wrong unexpectedly. 5. Intentionally trying to understand someone. 6. You don't know the full side of where she or he is coming from. About her or his views it's like mirroring the personality of someone else or the individual of itself while being a reflection of yourself when you do that. It shows alot by the way how you show it. Especially when getting attention.

[@erniet]

Great analysis Courtney!! These points applies to both sex. Set standards and keep to them. Reciprocity and respect are top of my lists. It's the first things that shows you how your relationship is going to progress. What you can never gain back is time. Peace ✌

[@inconnu4961]

Why must you virtue signal by saying it applies to both genders? We KNOW these things because we visit Courtney's site and many other sites looking for tips & tricks. So Courtney posts a video directed at women for a change, and not the Virtue Signalers must say 'its good for both'! LOL Nope, this video is directed at women, and should stay directed at women!

[@erniet]

@@inconnu4961 So you want to tell me that you will never have learned anything like this if you had not been frequently visiting Courtney’s site. That’s really sad. I’m in my 50’s and have been around the block a few times. I love Courtney’s site because she’s honest, sincere and knowledgeable for a woman of her age. What’s about respect and reciprocity that only applies to women and not men when it comes to relationships??? I find you to be very disingenuous.

[@Harikejn]

Thank you very much for this support Courtney. It means a lot. Important things: 5:02 You have to put an effort to be a good person (at least be to yourself good, but not in the selfish way; meaning to take care of yourself); 5:34 Change tactics (not just going to the bars, and clubs; you can go to library, or you can go to model meeting for example); 6:03 Sad but it's true about the dating apps. for men; 6:35 Make your priorities, and among them include the dating as well; 8:49 So true about the harsh reality; 9:38 Wasting the time on perfect person (either is a man, or either is a woman); 11:18 Focus on standards that will help the relationship; 11:37 Unrealistic expectations (that goes for either men, and either women); 15:20 That's very excellent told there (don't be hateful, and bitter, cause it's bad for your health). Some of these tips what you have told might be also used in some other life situations: maybe at work, spending times with friends, partners, etc. The problem of the lonely human did not arise yesterday. It is a problem that has existed since the beginning of the world, and also of the beginning of the human race, with the fact that the thing (or problem, or subject, call it whatever you want) was not approached, and analyzed as it is today analyzed. I have seen some few years ago two quotes that I saw them, and I even mentioned them on some of your videos. And they go like this: 1. Robin Williams once told this: "Being alone is not the worst thing in life. The worst thing is when you are in the society that makes you feel lonely." 2. Vladeta Jerotić once told this: "Those people who love solitude are those people who have paid dearly for someone's presence in society." I also have told once one thing in some of your videos what my mom told me long time ago when I was wondering when will I ever find a girlfriend. She told me this: "Son, when you solve your obligations, only then will girls want to be with you." If we are going to summarize all the told here that would be these things (that can be for either men, and either women): 1. Organize yourself; 2. Meet up with your priorities; 3. Work on yourself (and who knows, in that way of working, you might meet up some new people, or maybe a partner, or maybe a soulmate that can be a big support to you); 4. Change your plans, or habits to achieve in your goals; and 5. Don't give up on your goals. You never know who you might inspire. These things will eventually pay off one day, and it will be very thankful when you don't give up on them.

[@pmaitrasm]

The message from your mother is golden. Thank you for sharing.

[@Harikejn]

@@pmaitrasm Thank you very much. It means a lot 🤝🤝. Greetings from Vrbas / Novi Sad. You guess which country is it 🙃🙂.

[@pmaitrasm]

@@Harikejn, I suppose it is the land of the Southern Slavs. 🙂

[@Harikejn]

@@pmaitrasm Yes it is the Southern Slavs. 🙂

[@pmaitrasm]

@@Harikejn, Югославия 🙂

[@mazaroth7]

What did it for me was dating multiple girls who told me I'm relationship material and they don't want that. Then years later they come crawling back. I'm sorry but I have too much self respect than to put up with that kind of behavior. We have a huge problem with men and women. The difference is there is no societal push to get women to improve. But I am told everyday through media how as a man I'm an oppressor, predator, or not good enough. Why should I be part of something that's hates me?

[@michaelsix9684]

thank you

[@LindsayBallif]

Hi! Silly woman here. (Also if I come off as pick me I apologize,😂) So I agree 100% with this video. I follow your channel to get out of my own head, so I don’t assume “all men are trash” cos my ex hurt me so bad, I feel like I’m not alone! Most of our exes hurt us SO BAD! And that’s another reason why we are all single is we’re bitter at how someone could end something so cruelly and we don’t want to trust another that deeply again. That’s something we all must overcome! I’m working hard on doing that, cos i made the mistake of dating a guy younger than me (he was 20 and I was 23) and we were not right for each other but what I learned from this was I settled for every guy that chased me. I gave everything I had-because growing up o was not attractive and I became attractive in my late teens/now. I realized I settled for guys who weren’t very masculine and honestly I don’t care about their height, I don’t care about their money (as long as you make more than me which is VERY EASY! I am an actress 😂/waitress.) I just care that he helps me be soft. I have yet to find a man to help me lean into my soft feminine energy and that’s been mostly my fault as i let other things become my priority. So yeah, all this to say: guys we exist. We are not all evil, just like you are not all evil. Just know we’re just as angry and sad as you are in this dating pool!

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

If you see men being younger than you as a “mistake” in terms of dating, you aren’t emotionally available yet.

[@luckgjjkk2997]

Waitresses make more than 70 percent of men.

[@truthseeker8139]

I dated an actress for 5 years. It was hell and heaven at the same time. Guys gotta learn to read sides and deal with post audition moments.

[@jragon9215]

Oh yea guys should take the risk and believe that you won’t place them on divorce, alimony, and child support in the future because you got bored, no it’s time for men to be smart about all this.

[@mariecoheng]

@@jragon9215 she’s making very valid, respectful points while being self aware. If you don’t want the possibilities of child support or marriage then don’t have sex and don’t marry. Good luck with that. If you think all women in the world want to find a partner to mess up their lives then I suggest dating a man since we are not “worth the risk”. Problem solved.

[@cereal_killah]

I think that a lot of women just don't accept things as they are. Then they talk about how it should be or what they deserve and then don't improve things for themselves.

[@BattlesuitExcalibur]

And they sit and noodle with their friends for weeks to months about why the guy they are seeing isnt perfect, and convince themselves that they should hold him at arms length while looking for better.

[@perg5671]

I guess you could say I'm the realm cheerleader, being I am so far outside this mess. I find I am obsessed watching the relationship dynamics being played out through KZbinrs and PROD casters daily. At 52 and in a 15 year relationship, I have no skin in the game but still cheering on all participants to find what they truly desire. Courtney, I have special pom-poms for you. Your content and views are so refreshing and add great value to my hopes for the human race. You are intelligent, wise, kind, beautiful, and so much more. Keep those shoulders back, and keep emitting that aura of hope and desire to your followers. I have the best of hope for you and your fiancé to crush the norms of failed relationships and remain a beacon of possibility.

[@jobrakai9395]

Her first two points are why I’m single. I can’t even see myself getting 200 dates in my lifetime

[@g1sk8terz]

Imagine 200 first dates LMAO 💀💀💀

[@Justsomenerd69]

Right? I haven't even been able to talk a girl into a single date in 7 years. I feel that I am fairly good looking but I'm not very interesting so they just lose all interest.

[@drdauger]

1 per week times 4 years = 208 dates

[@Justsomenerd69]

@@drdauger I would love to see someone that can pull a date every week. I don’t personally know a single guy that can get more than one per year with how much most women expect from a guy before they are even willing to talk to him.

[@zakosist]

I imagine that takes a lot of traveling as well, which is a lot of both time and money spent on transport. I had no idea people had that many dates, at least if its supposed to be normal

[@LeeEverett1]

It's interesting how we keep hearing that so many women are single, yet every woman apparently has a boyfriend 😂

[@andersnielsen6044]

Boyfriend? Nah they all have a bunch of validation-toys.

[@touchofgrace3217]

Having a boyfriend just means being single in a short term casual relationship but it is still single.

[@savvysirivie]

These are unproductive attitudes. It seems like none of you genuinely *like* women… It’s clear that you don’t understand the impact that you are likely having which is causing the very dynamics that are frustrating you.

[@aaronburdon221]

@@savvysirivie I love women, but I know a good chunk of them are insane. You don't put your D in crazy, and you don't validate it by putting a ring on it.

[@eoinMB3949]

​@Savvy Sirivie I think I get your point.....that a lot of men have antagonism towards women (borne from frustrating experiences with women, to be fair). And so they carry these attitudes around with them and its these very attitudes that put women off. Is that what you're saying? It's a valid point and I've also noticed it's true for women in that a lot of women carry negative experiences with past relationships, which results in them not actually liking men, but at the same time, wanting a boyfriend. It's an interesting paradox, wanting someone but at the same time being antagonist towards those people. I guess the solution is to take everyone you meet for who they are and not see them through the lense of past experiences. Take each person as they Come so to speak.

[@SouthernJaeger]

In my experience, too many women have unrealistic expectations, they can’t make up their mind, they demand too much and it’s hard to get a read on them at times. One day things are fine, you’re a great and awesome dude, then BAM they change their mind and they either ghost you or give you a BS reason why y’all aren’t talking anymore then you end up seeing them on social media with another dude. My question: when are these people gonna be content? It seems like today you have to be a code breaker to understand what it’s gonna take to make a woman happy.

[@dgwaters]

I definitely agree with you about how hard it is to get a read on women. There were a lot of women who I thought I had a connection with but I was totally wrong. I know a lot of guys are thinking this but I just wish I had a clear cut sign of what women I have a chance with. That way I don’t waste my breathe or time, and it would save a ton of embarrassment.

[@icarusthefly5458]

Indeed. Women showing 'hints'. How is touching a fork a sign that you are not wanted? Women can have the most weird hints. "I looked, he should get the hint". Luckily i have a beautifull wife with a more masculine mentallity. Direct and logical but still is feminine.

[@SouthernJaeger]

@@icarusthefly5458 straight to the point without messing around. I like that. I’d prefer the bitterness of truth than the sweetness of lies

[@Vortex_ICEcold]

Boomers have created hypersexualized society in which women thrive. So now every women thinks theyre top shit because their born with a pair of tits. Because they know men will bow down and get on their leash, they continue to exploit this tactic.

[@jeycee32]

For your video on why men are single…many of the points made in the TikTok apply to men as well. I am confident that the primary reason I am still single is because I don’t leave my house. I work from home and outside of that only go to the gym or go to church. I’m 39 so many of the women at my church that are in my age range are already married, but there are a few my age that are attractive and seem wholesome and marriageable. So for me the next issue is fear of approaching women. For the most part, I don’t approach women because I don’t have much going on in my life to talk about, so I don’t believe I’m interesting enough or have good reason to approach a woman and talk to them. Deep down, with hesitancy to gloat on myself, I know I have much to offer in a relationship and that I am an attractive man. I know this because the women in my life that I am close to tell me so. But I cannot seem to let go of the scarcity mindset and belief that I am not good enough. For instance, there is a woman who goes to my church. She’s 36, single, beautiful and has no children. To me, she is way out of my league. I believe I don’t deserve her, even knowing she is human and not perfect and shouldn’t be put on a pedestal. I’ve been through a great deal of therapy but cannot seem to let go of the belief that I am not good enough, no matter how much work I do on myself. I think there are likely many men in this position, who deeply believe they just aren’t good enough and don’t deserve a good relationship.

[@daryanaah]

Hey🙏🏻 if you decide to practice for real your faith and religion, you wouldn't be making those harsh statements on you! Stop saying that you are not good enough. In your church they don't teach you the Bible? What you speak you create, the tongue rules your thoughts and what you create. You are also contradicting a lot of the Bible statements and teachings doubting yourself. God believes in you and you don't? Please stop saying all those statements. Don't ever repeat or write that you are not enough or that you think that. Only you are creating those thoughts repeating and go over them again and again. If you need like scientific proof or medical scientific approach, I recommend you to read The Biology Of The Belief (Dr Lipton). Do you read? You must cultivate yourself and what reading gives the person don't give any other form of getting education. Reading gives you confidence and you don't need to talk about your life or what's going on in your life. A simple or normal life is not an obstacle. A simple mind is. You better talk about ideas if you want to make connection and impress a good and caring woman that will admire you. I've got tons of books I can recommend, the one I've mentioned is in audio here in youtube, but again, read make different connections in your brain, you mark and study ideas; and I believe in pay for books, counseling, etc. You can begin today with the audio (3 hrs) then read the book :) by tonight you will be a different person with a different mindset. I recommend traditional masculinity account on ig. It has tons of info and phylosophy. This is all with love and I'm confident you and orher guys in your situation that get this comment will succeed!! You are more than enough and that's why you work on yourself and cultivated you. ❤ “Small minds talk about people. Average minds talk about situations. Great minds talk about ideas.”✨ I also recommend you to rewrite all you have in your comment in the opossite way and desired way for you. All of it. Like a story but change the narrative and the supposed facts to the opposite like I like that woman and of course we are on the same page and she is in my league, no matter what I always think I'm good enough and of couse I'm. She is delighted and fascinated with me. I'm happy that I'm in a deep real commitment relationship. It was so easy for me. Etc etc. And be grateful and give thaks as you already have it. The Bible says: give thanks as you already recieved and The Lord will give it to you. ❤️

[@richman7833]

You have bought into the ‘take what you can get’ mantra. Anything or anyone that comes your way is ‘good enough’ for you, and everything else is ‘ not good enough’ for you. Your fear only causes this cycle to continue. Start with a small success and build on that. Just smile and say hi, then build off of that with other statements/questions Stay strong!✊

[@quirin5061]

makes me think of that famous Henry Ford quote: "whether you think you can or you think you can't - you're right" i think this applies to finding a good partner aswell (among many many other things) no matter if you're a guy or girl sure you need to meet your own standards, meet enough pot. partners... but its an attainable goal

[@Vergil14]

I think there are some common things that men and women do that contribute to this mess. The biggest is communication. Men and women aren’t meeting each other halfway with communication. Now where women go wrong is being told they deserve the absolute best with material things as well as not being told the truth. Men on the other hand, we’re told ri accept whatever we can take because that’s all we’re worth. And the sad part is this: for women, they’re being lied to and told they’re entitled to these things and these men are live a luxury lifestyle and refuse to change when they’re being told they’ve been lied to. Men, when we do try to change for the positive, it leads to gaslighting and being emotionally manipulated.

[@ProfessorLycan]

I’ve never met a woman who has made her intentions clear ever.

[@mohammadbakhash1587]

The main point here, your voice is so sweet in ears, soft, deep, natural, feminie and crispy. I love your voice ❤

[@varniitpro]

I constantly see women from my age and above (like 40) and young girls who are above 18, all crying same of not finding a guy of their dreams. I mean if you are dreaming then you aren't going to get. Get up and get out, a lot of guys around you who care about you, genuinely talk to you, build or trying to build a deeper connection with you, are waiting for you to accept them in your life. Not as a second option or options but as first and foremost. But teaching good to females, is just finding a grain of salt in sand, the latter I still can do without doubt.

[@Thedrickx]

The reason we are here is because each side has reduced the other to a single quality. For women it is finances, for men it is sex. The problem is people provide more than just these 2 traits and it is those nuanced things we realized we have missed as we age. No Bugatti has a seat warmer setting of "the arms of someone that loves you" and no amount of one night stands adds up to one life partner.

[@JohnM-sw4sc]

Honestly I don’t really notice this at all. Either way. I just notice extreme pickiness. Like a single unattractive trait or habit being a game over.

[@Jibbzz]

I'm single since the last relationship I was in has left me with a lot of trauma i'm still healing from. I also have a good nest egg of savings and no debt but said trauma has lead me to being distracted in my jobs, and has kept me in job limbo. This has lead me to a lot of volunteer work and doing a masters, both of which mean I don't have a huge amount of money coming in, just a bit more than the bills. All this leads me to believe I have nothing to offer aside from love, support, and kindness which doesn't really seem to be worth anything coming from a man, so I'm just... waiting a few years I guess.

[@Eszz2384]

I think for a lot of people, anything worth having will have some maintenance associated. If you're a gamer, it could be grinding games to retain skills. For home ownership, making sure the interior and exterior are both functional and practical. Relationships between people (not just romantic,) also have continous costs associated with them. Ignoring these will only lead to decay. Sometimes, it means doing things that may make you uncomfortable (back to the house analogy, getting a new roof.) There are short and long term continuous costs with these relationships. Where it becomes less analgous to a house is a bit more obscured, but generally speaking, these are things the participants in the relationship have subconciously believed they have agreed to. Figuring out what these costs are and being able to realistically meet these needs are one of the most important things in any relationship between people (romantic or aromantic)

[@Jeff-ng5ig]

It's nice to hear you just say things straight up without mincing words. Thank you.

[@jleao5]

I am a 27 yo woman and yes, I have given up finding a good man years ago. I haven’t been on any dates in years because I just don’t see the point after a couple failed situationships that were horrible for my mental health.

[@mrzackattack261]

There are plenty of good men out there. Are you turning them down because they aren't psychically attractive?

[@andersnielsen6044]

@@mrzackattack261 No. What she is saying is that she does not need a man, no matter if he is good or bad. I can say as a guy - I am the exact same place.

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

I am 54. Over the past decades . I have seen the decline of forever in relationships and marriage. Modern marriages last about 5 to 8 yrs. After seeing that . I knew that's something I did not want . Being still single . Viewing the fallout of marriages from the outside in . I am happy I never got involved in marriage .

[@BattlesuitExcalibur]

Situationships happen i think because one or both of you were indecisive. Like most women, you probably sat too long, non commitally investing in someone but not being an adult about it, and eventually you encounter decision fatigue. At some point you need to say "I've spent enough time noodling about this person, I need to make a decision so we aren't wasting each other's time, and accept the consequences". But no. You would rather continue to take time and energy from someone that you aren't exclusive with, to make it feel like you have options. Now you've paid for it.

[@Raf7yo]

That's the reality of today's standards. Less is more and quality over quantity. It's better late than never as many wise people have come to terms.

[@stevenw7623]

I remember one time three women in their late 20’s at my office put together a list of minimum requirements for the msn they would marry. The final list was so unrealistic that I couldn’t think of anyone I knew who met their description. They were all good-looking women (6-7 out of 10) with nice careers, but nowhere near the kind of women who Chad Chaddington was going to take seriously.

[@krassimirpetrov7131]

Haha Chad Chaddington doesn’t care about women’s careers , but of course they’d never accept that fact

[@RobertMorgan]

If they're not in chads radar, they're not 6-7s...

[@studleyjb3172]

It's about time Chad got a last name.

[@ted1045]

The best book I've run across on the topic are What Women Want Men to Know. Either way this is an era of great confusion and difficulty when it comes to dating and seeking a spouse on both sides. I'm not sure as to the exact cause or reasons for everything with regard to why so many people are single, but unrealistic expectations do come to mind on both sides and that seems like one of the primary reasons. As a guy knowing that men have been villified to a fair amount tends to make one want to stay out of the whole dating game.

[@qb4428]

As a man, I can say that the reason why I am single (and not trying to change that) is simply because the risks outweigh the rewards for most men. The entire marriage/family law system is designed to harm me, so I checked out. It doesn't help that my dad's divorce ended with him having to live out of his minivan and eventually hanging himself after years of state-sponsored torture.

[@mowtivatedmechanic1172]

My condolences brother. And with you.

[@timbattle4035]

God bless you and your family for your loss... ❤🕊 I got jammed too. Starting over as we speak, for the last ten years😊. This is a problem that needs to be addressed or things will only get worst. Women have made marriage useless to men. MDW should be proud to defend and provide for themselves. 💪💃👛, 💄👠💅 They've earned it. 🤷🏽‍♂️😏

[@sophieruby5893]

Divorced women are more likely than divorced men to end up on poverty.

[@aaronburdon221]

@@sophieruby5893 There's a reason for that. There is a safety net for women. Men go to jail if they don't make child support payments so they're required to get a job (usually multiple ones). There are consequences for men who don't have a job and there is sympathy for women who don't.

[@sophieruby5893]

@@aaronburdon221 It's against the law to WILLFULLY fail to pay child support. Stop acting like deadbeat dads are so innocent.

[@ryanmills892]

What she said about getting out of the house is exactly right, to tell the truth i really dislike going out to bars and pubs, but recently i put that aside and went out, while standing at a table with a non-alcoholic drink in-hand a woman approached me! she's thought I had gone to the same school as her which i had not but we still had a conversation, after she went back to her friends and i turned to leave i felt that i should approach her too, and i did and i offered her my phone number of which she accepted and gave me a hug for coming back to talk to her again.

[@beefstew867]

I've been at a loss of where to meet women. I don't drink, so bars and clubs aren't an option. I don't feel comfortable dating co-workers (not that my sober/religious lifestyle makes me compatible with any of them anyway). I don't meet anybody my age at church. I never meet anybody at the gym, because it's mainly dudes, and the few women that are there usually have on earbuds and are focused on their workouts, so I just feel intrusive trying to strike up a conversation. More or less the same at coffee shops: a bunch of people engrossed in their own worlds, whether they are on their devices, or talking with friends. I have a few friends, but we don't really go out because they don't drink much or at all either. Any club or organization or extracurricular activity I have tried never has any women my age that I can talk to. And dating apps are a wash, because even when I do get a match, trying to get a conversation going is like skateboarding on carpet, so "matches" go nowhere fast. That all being said, I understand the idea that you have to put in effort to find someone, but I just don't see any possible place for me to do that. It's like being told to try to do pull-ups when you have no arms.

[@szilardszabo313]

partner/salsa dancing. yoga. art classes. Its hard dont get me wrong.

[@DuaLeaD]

Modern women in their... 20s: "Don't talk to me!" 30s: "He talked to me?" 40s: "Hey! I'm talking to you!" 50s: "Here kitty-kitty..."

[@larrychoiceman]

A large part of this isn't so much a problem with unrealistic expectations (though those certainly are a problem), but a lack of self-awareness of one's expectations and an unwillingness to communicate clearly. Many women I know didn't have a problem getting *into* relationships (this was in their 20s and 30s), but once they're in, they began to get resentful that their partner wasn't willing to meet the expectations *which the women never communicated in the first place.* And then the relationships ended acrimoniously, or they just stumbled along with mutual resentment. Just say what you want and expect and then let people choose to meet those expectations or NOT meet those expectations. If they don't, don't get angry and crappy to the partner, just wish them well and try to find someone who will. And if you find that no one will meet those demands, adjust your demands downward because the dating market isn't buying what you're selling. The reason why people (in this context, women) don't ask for what they actually need in a relationship is because if no one is willing to meet those expectations, it's a slap in the face of the expectation-haver, because it's basically saying, "You aren't worth me doing all of this for you." And that really bruises the ego. I had a friend who did a really brave thing and basically set out all of her expectations, upfront, to prospective dates and she VERY quickly started sacrificing the things that didn't matter in order to get the things that did. Because she wasn't bringing enough to the table to get everything that she wanted originally. Essentially, she reality-checked herself. I get why you (men and women) wouldn't cast a wide net at first; you are trying to optimize. So, narrow the options ruthlessly, set your expectations as high as you like, be as specific as you want. Give it six months to a year (if you're serious about settling down); if you find that no one is meeting your expectations, you have three options: A) lower your expectations in order to get a relationship, B) work on yourself so that you can get what you want while keeping your expectations high, C) keep the expectations high and hope that the market conditions will change. In general, you'll feel more empowered (albeit reconciled to disappointment) with A. Most people aren't willing to put in the work for B. C will keep your ego unbruised, but eventually most people realize that having an intact (and increasingly brittle) ego is cold comfort in comparison having a companion. (If they want a companion, which not everyone does, and that's fine too.)

[@JonA-ih5he]

Great advice. Really. And my own advice (I have two teenage kids, a boy and a girl) is to quit with the social media. Or at least be extremely selective about what you watch. So much is toxic and poisonous.

[@Roman-bg8zb]

Courtney...let's just admit the truth! There are way too few women that are appreciating a man for what he is than for what he earns and we are talking below 20%! From those 20% a good majority are already in a relationship with a guy/girl and from the small percentage of women that are single(less than 4%), most of them are hiding and not ready to go past their recent drama! So you can see, the chances to meet a woman who will care about me, about us, and not my financial status is less than 1% so how many women do I have to date to meet that girl? Hundreds?!! I simply do not have time, I have a job and a house to keep! Therefore I go alone...

[@g1sk8terz]

One big reason guys are single - time. There's no time pressure. Might be biased by social media, but some guys have the sense that they can always date younger and there'll always be options. In addition to all the other great points in your videos and people's comments.

[@restingsmirkface]

For me, I felt no time pressure at all. Then at 34 I became debt-free, and by 36 I realized a relationship with both vetting and child(ren) would mean re-immersing myself in debt until the day I retire. Men may not have a biological clock, but there is a logistical clock. Had I realized that 5 years earlier, I may have made different choices.

[@g1sk8terz]

@The 44 Year Old Incel I hear where you're coming from and the majority of women choices. Makes sense to feel the time pressure then.

[@g1sk8terz]

@@restingsmirkface Makes sense. Children are debt machines. I don't know how some people have 3, 4 or 5 and have normal jobs (or lack thereof).

[@nhearts]

Needed to see this. My life is too hectic right now so dating has not been a priority, but i still want to find someone. One of my best friends has told me several times dating apps are a waste of time and there is no one of substance on those apps. I disagree as well and once life settles down for me i will begin to prioritize dating again. Thank you

[@FragranceFraternity]

“Maybe you’re not approaching that person because deep down you don’t believe you deserve them” … I felt that in my soul. Got me motivated to make more approaches thanks Courtney.

[@thomashenshallhydraxis]

I will be 40 this year; and I seriously just don’t care to approach or care about (dating) a women. Once I start liking someone they want to leave; because their bored or whatever.

[@FragranceFraternity]

@@thomashenshallhydraxis I’ve told myself that for a long time as an excuse. Eventually the lack of making any effort or attempt will mess with your self confidence. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. Im not saying you have to date them but you can’t seriously be happy without ever being with a woman again…

[@RobertMorgan]

Yes is way scarier than rejection. Rejection requires nothing, a yes takes actual work, shit, now I have to DO stuff. It's like a dog chasing a car, I didn't expect to actually catch it

[@benhagstrom2185]

I think the "I don't want that" can be the other way around too. If you want something, but find that time and time again you don't want to put forth the effort to get it, coming to the conclusion that you may not actually want it all that bad isn't "lying to yourself" it's being honest about your priorities.

[@KMHeinz31]

Man 2014-2018 was a tough time. Women really pushed back and dominated, channels like this didn't exist and now to see more women speaking like this, it's refreshing. If you don't need men or women and go your own way, don't fret, you have an AI bot waiting for you if you think they are better than the opposite sex and basic touch and physical real intimacy.

[@PRdude]

So of course there are still good men out there. We just don't hear about them enough. So I'm still just sorry that more women aren't as fortunate to have met enough of them.

[@Shah-of-the-Shinebox]

The good men got friendzoned

[@Bennysol]

Broads always playing the victim. 65% of men aged 18-35 are single while at the same time only 28% of women of this same age are single. "This is why so many women are single." SMH, what a false victim hood entitled title

[@tivasthegamer9817]

​@@Shah-of-the-Shinebox that, and got tired of drama.

[@SlickZero1028]

Good men don’t need to advertise that they’re good men.

[@Justsomenerd69]

A lot of good men are out enjoying their passions while bad men are out ruining womens idea of what men are like.

[@EJIMANnenaNgozi]

This is a great video. I personally think alot of ppl are single due to our isolated lifestyles. Meeting ppl requires effort. I also think ppl think they are missing out when they “settle” for a partner so want to get the best person possible.

[@Mr_Fu_Manchu]

Most young women never realize or find out too late that looking for the "right" partner it is stupid and a waste of time. There is no such thing. The right partner is the one to whom you can have a relation based on respect and understanding, period.

[@TheFockerizer]

actually there is no such thing as right person - only the person that evolves over time

[@Mr_Fu_Manchu]

@@TheFockerizer My point exactly.

[@ChrisW1019]

I'm in the process of trying to be as realistic as possible in regard to what I want and do not want in a relationship. Maybe I'm overthinking, and that's why I'm single. I still hope to find a gem.

[@zerpblerd5966]

it's about priorities you can't have it all, but you also shouldn't settle for things you aren't good with

[@danielk.802]

First of all, i want to say thank you Coutney for yet another great and interesting video, pls keep it up like this! Second, i agree with you on the fact, that there ARE good women out there, no doupt. The real problem is, they are an exception, not the norm. Maybe one out of fifty. And the fact, that these "good women" are so rare makes them even harder to find, since they are highly(!) sought after by basically every normal man. I really don´t want to be too negativ here, but that is sadly a fact, even here in Germany. We are following the same trends, slowly but surely, in the same direction.

[@jacobtani9785]

I’m womens’ worst nightmare: a virgin, never had a girlfriend or even my first kiss yet, 5’6, make enough money to make ends meet for only myself, introverted, home body, not really sociable (especially with my generation because I can’t relate to them and they are the root to the modern dating problems). I’m very mature for being in my early 20s and a lot of women don’t seem to like that around my age. I have a lot of self-respect, responsibility, and accountability, which all are pretty hard to find as basic standards in women nowadays and even men. My main focuses are work, working out, and trying to get into my career job as a law enforcement officer. The #1 thing that is sad is that women like to wait at the finish line to find their “perfect man” rather than actually helping each other get there.

[@kenyanicholas6809]

The thing is, when women do help him get there, he dumps the starter wife for a fresh new thing, after using up her youthful energy and fertile years. Could you blame women for not wanting to take that gamble?

[@jacobtani9785]

@@kenyanicholas6809 yes because it can go vice versa. Us men don’t care about money and status when it comes to finding an SO. We only care about respect, loyalty, and support from a loving woman. Those men that u described act just like most modern woman and so there isn’t much of those men to come by. Women don’t take risks or gamble in their mind but they actually do. They are just too delusional to realize that. Us men do because it’s hard to understand a woman’s true intentions nowadays. Women only want men with status, money, over 6ft, and good looking. Do u know how hard it is to find a man with all those traits? They are gambling or taking risks at finding 1 to 5% of the world’s population. Us “average” men only want what I said above in a woman and that’s it.

[@parrotshootist3004]

@@kenyanicholas6809 'help him get there', unpacking that, he was always going to be a short term project, toy for validation.

[@dgwaters]

Unfortunately, I too have been around too many women waiting at the finish line for their “perfect man”, especially where I used to work. I remember years ago, I was working AND going to college so that I could get a better paying job and get out of my parents house. Now you would think being able to do both would impress the girls, but no. A lot of them didn’t want to wait, they wanted a guy who already made it. Some of these girls just graduated from high school and already they were looking for a guy to latch onto. There was one girl I liked that I thought liked me, but when I told her I was still living at home she just lost interest. I told her I was going to college but it didn’t matter. She ended up mailing me a breakup letter.

[@gepagan]

@@kenyanicholas6809 You’re factually wrong, this is not what usually happens. I’m not saying that it Never happens, but it’s an extremely small percentage. Women initiate the vast majority of breakups and divorces, 80-90%. To make an argument that a man is going to leave is really so stupid… at this point it’s annoying when women make that argument. Women are scared of something that is much less likely to happen, just so they can have something to complain about... If you’re that afraid of something that has a ~10% chance of happening, don’t you dare tell a man that he should not be wary of something that has a 90% chance of happening.

[@nitrobeno5]

intro: Im a 29 year old guy living in London, I have never had a date in the Uk ever in my life. why most girls would ask? well for us men approaching a girl traveling to work in the morning or on her way back from work and asking her hey how are you, *compliment* "i was wondering if you are single?" if you do this as a man you will get publicly shamed by said women she will literally shout and curse at you loudly and throw a fit like a 9 year old girl and she will name "sexual harassment" "creep" "misogynist". this is the attitude most young women have and have been groomed into having through social media and modern politics and revolving it around "toxic masculinity" "misogyny". so as you can understand walking up to young women in public to ask if they are single and interested in sharing contacts and going out somewhere nice another time, isn't exactly an option for us men. so that leaves dating apps as the only option, and we know all know all too well what is going on there (extreme hyper gamy) enforced by all these female guru's, dating coaches, ex-porn stars, female celebs, tic toc influencer's, ig influencer's etc. Basically very stupid women given the platform and voice to reach hundreds of thousands of young girls and give theme extremely detrimental advice leading to the absolute dystopia we face today. i will name 1! singular point to explain the complete dystopian delusional fantasy land most young girls have been groomed and brainwashed into thinking and feeling by extremely petty and toxic feminist women who's only agenda is to make life miserable for men as a "revenge tactic" for either being divorced themselves, or what ever negative experiences they've had themselves. 1 of the strongest points from my 29 years of living that i have experienced myself and the point that has ruined my life or the opportunity to even have a relationship of my own and build a family is???...... literally the absolute embodiment of what the Asian women showed in the clip right before your eyes. I point it out this way because its what (every single) women does today, sure some are intelligent and aren't completely delusional about it but the mas majority are trust me. they wake up in the morning, sit in front of the mirror, literally open like 10 different "beauty products" and get to work creating their "master piece" on their face..... then they go out and about their day somehow delude themselves into thinking they are this person they have just fabricated with all those beauty products and that they are "gorgeous" and perfect and a "goddess" let me make it a little more clear. so im a 29 year old guy and im actually really fit and muscular, i have the looks of a 7/10 and well groomed (not my opinion) have asked many friends to rate me realistically. and you know whats funny its the women like that Asian women on the clip that completely ignore men like me on dating apps and never give me a like or reply a message. that Asian women to me is literally a 2/10 (naturally) (as men are "naturally) she does all of that make-up and foundation and puts those ridiculous almost cartoon sized eye lashes and barely makes herself a 6/10 and yet she still thinks she is leagues more ahead of me interns of "attractiveness". this is the mindset young girls have and makeup is one of the most detrimental things to young girls today. i think a lot of women need to have this discussion with young girls and discuss this sensibly and actually point out, that NO! you are not the person you appear to be with that ridiculous amount of makeup on your face, that's not how you truly look and that's not how you were truly born. setting your standards to finding a guy who looks as (magically gorgeous) as you make your self to be with a pound of makeup on your face is not reality its complete delusion and is impossible. look at yourself in the mirror without any makeup (no eye liner included) make a fair assessment of your looks, then seek out a guy with a similar score to what you determine by your true self. believe it or not we men are actually quite intelligent, especially the older we get the better we get at discerning how a girl looks without her makeup on. we can tell.... it never actually fools us, its just men are modest and desperate and make compromises. sorry for the long text but its really hard to fully explain these issues without going into good details and providing examples.

[@BlueMercury84]

You've hit the nail on the head Cortney. I wrote a piece of the website called Girl Ask Guy (GAG) which I feel sums up greatly why I believe many women (and men) are single and have trouble finding their significant other. I didn't want to write the whole thing again so I copied and paste it. My writing was a bit aggressive but I feel that many people, particularly women need to read it. Singledom: Choice and lack of responsibility: So I've been a member of GaG for a few months now and I've seen PLENTY of women who are single and (dare I say it) miserable who post questions on this site to have their own confirmation biases sated; which is usually some variation of how "men suck." It is truly baffling to me how these women can be so out of touch with reality, which is why I decided to write this take. Disclaimer: This take DOES NOT apply to all women but rather the women who are very verbal about being single and unhappy about it. Also most of what is written could also be applied to men as well. Who is responsible for your life? I will start by asking you, the reader, one simple question. Who is responsible for your life? The answer of course is YOU. The only person that you have control over is yourself. It is on you and only you to make sure that you are safe, healthy and content. It is up to you to determine what it is that you want in life and how you are going to achieve it. And this is where I believe a lot people fail, particularly women. It's great that many of you know that you want a long term relationship/ marriage with someone, but you've got to put in the work to make this desire a reality. And the reality is that many of you women don't put in the work and are therefore single because you choose to be. It is up to you to recognise and seize opportunities. Whether you know it or not, there are plenty of opportunities that you could have seized upon, but for whatever reason, you failed to notice those opportunities or were to proud or afraid to act upon them. To help you better understand where I am coming from, I will use myself as an example. I currently have a subscription with the online dating site Plenty of Fish. As of late, my profile has been getting a lot of attention. The problem is though, most of that attention is coming from single mothers. Now, I want to say for the record that I've got nothing against single mothers, however I would never date one for the simple reason that I don't like children. As it stands though, I have many opportunities here. I could have given any of these single mothers a chance and sent them a message(s). And who knows what could have happened. Right now I could be in a relationship with one of these single mothers but I'm not because the choice to not compromise on my standard to not date single mothers, was just that. MY CHOICE. Therefore I am currently single because I choose to be. I have heard/ read far too many times of women complaining how they can't find a good man. Even though many of these women have acknowledged that many men have shown interest in them, however these men were deemed unsuitable for various reasons. Height seems to be the common reason. Now, I am not going to judge women for having these preferences, it is your life and you are entitled to want what ever you desire. But you need to understand that many of those opportunities could have developed into something amazing. But you chose not to give those short blokes a chance. Like me with the single mothers, you chose not to compromise on your preferences. Therefore you are single by choice, so take responsibility for that choice. Refusal to grow and adapt. I cannot tell you how many times I've read women sharing their sob stories over how they've, on multiple occasions, have had their heart broken by the players and f@ckboys. I and many men have heard the same story over and over and it's kind of getting ridiculous. Look I am sorry that you got screwed over by one of these A holes. Now maybe (I say maybe) the first two encounters with such an A hole could be chalked up to bad luck. But come the third encounter, suddenly a pattern emerges where YOU are the common denominator. But instead of recognising this pattern, you do the same thing over and over again hoping for a different result. What's the definition of insanity again? As a result, the pattern/ cycle repeats. The harsh reality is that you choose to perpetuate this pattern as you refuse to look inwards and reflect on YOUR actions/ failures and therefore grow as a person. Like I said before, the only person that you have control over is yourself. It is pointless to blame others for your problems or expect other people to change. Therefore, it is incumbent on YOU to change and adapt your approach. Example: Are you meeting all of these f@ckboys at bars, night clubs or any place that basically promotes hook up culture? If so, a possible solution is to stop trying to find men at such places. Instead, join a club of some sort: Example, do you like tennis? If so, join a tennis club where you'll have the opportunity to meet many men who have the same interest. The point here is that there are plenty of things that you can do to up your chances of finding Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right Now. Excuses, excuses, excuses. There is no nice way to say this, so I'll just go ahead and say it. Most of you women are single and miserable because you are lazy. And that is pretty much all there is to it. Despite it being being the 21st Century many women still cling to outdated notions like "Chivalry" and/or "Tradition" as an excuse to avoid putting in any real effort and going out side of their comfort zone. Many women still claim that it is the "man's job" to do the chasing. Sorry but this is a cop out, as you refuse to act like adults and be proactive because, again you are lazy and also, dare I say it, gutless. In addition to this you want men to pretty much pay your way as if you’re nothing more than little children. You selfishly place the majority (if not most) of the burden of responsibility on men which has resulted in many men coming to the conclusion that you are simply not worth the effort. But this is a topic for another take, another time. Again it is your life, and if you want to follow the traditional script of being submissive/ lazy then go for it. But if and when this tactic fails just remember it was YOU that chose that path. From the sound of it though, this approach is not working very well for many women so maybe as per my previous paragraph you should consider changing and adapting your approach. I could go on, but I think that I've made my point. So now I will end this take by asking you, the reader, two simple questions. Are you single and miserable? If so, what are YOU going to do about it?

[@supernotnatural]

I've served military time and was in a building with 700 guys. After serving my duty, I learned that there are bad apples yes but there are also many good men that you call brothers. Men you see plenty that helps animals etc. You say if my crush loved that guy, I would be OK with it.

[@robertharrold4976]

Courtney I’d like to point out how easy she made it seem to go on 200 first dates. For me to get dates, I’d have to do cold approach and spam dating apps for a long time to get 200 dates. I personally think I’m a great catch. Good looking, tall, financially stable, christian….. My current ratio to getting dates are roughly 2/10. Talk to 10 women, get 1-2 dates. The amount of effort I put into dating only to get mediocre results is WILD. To get 200 dates I need to talk to 2,000 women 💀

[@ADifferentVibe]

I actually don't believe her 200 dates thing. No receipts, no proof. Plus, investing that much to get married shows she really doesn't have anything else of value, calling or passion to contribute to society.

[@megalodon1726]

@@ADifferentVibe She said 200 dates in her twenties. That's 20 per year, which is easy for most women.

[@elisee9935]

Welcome to the reality of the dating life as a man. No worries, keep being consistent and you'll eventually get there!

[@rg2613]

then you better start chatting with more woman😆

[@Vortex_ICEcold]

@@ADifferentVibe well when you are wearing makeup and the market is full of low quality dogs. Yes…. It’s VERY possible. But the end result is she’s not happy so 🤣🤡

[@notarealyoutubeaccount799]

I’m a data guy, so for data validation purposes Courtney this is me letting you know the 30% discount with the level 1 in the first 3 minutes got me interested enough to purchase 😂 And you bet your ass I put in your name in the influencer box at the end 🤘🏻 Love what you’re doing with the channel!

[@CourtneyRyan]

You are so incredibly kind! Thank you 🥹 I appreciate the support. You’ll love the products - great time to start now that summer is here!

[@notarealyoutubeaccount799]

For sure! Honestly it’s just a cheaper alternative to what I already have, and it all comes in one package which was a huge win for me, instead of having to manage the life cycle of each product manually with it all in one package it does it for me! You could even mention something like that in the ad - might convert more leads 🤷‍♂️

[@markantonelli53]

I’ll admit that I’ve been entirely unsure about what I would want from a relationship. I’m also afraid that I wouldn’t be very good in a relationship. Add this to how, when I tried dating sites (and I tried a lot of them), I felt judged by the women who looked at my profile. I thought that, by the time I got to the age that I am (39), that women would see me as financially stable and with a good head on my shoulders. The fact that I’m single tells me that women don’t care about those things like I thought they did. You could say that my lack of relationship stems from my not putting myself out there, and you would be right. But you say that like it’s such an easy thing to do, which couldn’t be further from the truth, especially from someone who has never been comfortable talking to women. I was also under the impression that we live in an era when a woman could approach a man.

[@CoachSteveJandS]

Could doesn't mean that they will.

[@markantonelli53]

@@CoachSteveJandS yes of this I am well aware

[@onethree123d]

Don't ever count on a women approaching most women will think you don't actually want them if you didn't approach and/or had experience with men that wanted to be chased which is a turn off so they just don't bother.

[@markantonelli53]

@@onethree123d I’ve reached the point where I need to be 150% certain that a woman would want me to approach her and would receive such an action in a positive way. Since I know that I will never have that level of certainty, it’s unlikely that I would ever attempt. It also doesn’t help matters that I don’t now, nor have I probably ever, felt worthy of a woman’s time. Since having a woman in my life is something that will never happen for me, I don’t really see the point in putting myself out there

[@onethree123d]

@@markantonelli53 I really don't understand why you think this way some people are way less than you but still are confident your mentality doesn't help you. You definitely shouldn't be dating that I'll agree on I think you need to date yourself some more to see what's worthy in you, to understand why you think that another human being is would make you think you aren't worthy of them. That's something to unpack there. No person is better than you even if they own most in the world their worth inherently isn't more than you. Healthy minded people love themselves more and think the opposite. You seem like a good person I really hope you figure out what I'm trying to say because it'll be step one before other things that will really help you get what will make you happy will line up.

[@Corthos10]

I've put the pursuit of a relationship on pause. I have some personal goals that will be easier to accomplish without looking for someone. I am at the "I dont care stage". I'm just not interested in the people around me and I dont have any good ideas on how to change that. I'd rather focus on what I love to do instead of focusing on what I have to be to attract someone.

[@Andreas0705]

The amount of women I've dated or written with who stops it because they "realize" they want to focus on work or school. I cannot comprehend why you are on a dating app but is all over the place on what they want or sometimes don't have time to date suddenly. How much energy does it really take to go out on a date few hours. Bet they waste hours on tiktok anyway. Don't let a guy hanging around if you don't want to date him. This make you as a man feel as useful as a coathanger. I'm done with that.

[@inconnu4961]

Fantasy gives them dopamine rushes. reality often doesnt! They are addicted to the rush!!

[@lanerathwell]

You give me hope to keep on trying, Courtney!

[@cerescop]

Women should make their standards realistic. Women should look at their list at least once a year and remove two things from their list of standards not add to them. Oh, and the answer to the question of what they bring to the table is NOT they are the table. Women have taken themselves off the, "I am the prize' standard. Those that still believe that should look around. If they were the prize they would be chased. We are not chasing any more.

[@christopherbrubaker2070]

I’m a man and I don’t have to protect and provide. It’s my choice. Secondly, both men and woman are the prize. Men are a prize to woman obviously, for their help. Woman are the prize to men obviously, for their soft and respectful ways. Love can flourish if both stay in their lanes.

[@aboutdoorsman4695]

I’m single because I decided to focus on improving myself physically, financially, and emotionally and dating would just distract me from that. Every dollar that would I spend on a woman is a dollar that won’t go to paying of my debt. I am months away from being debt free then I will have lots of options on how to proceed.

[@mikeb3539]

Yup, she’s right. I just gave up on online dating this morning. A year ago women would at least go on a date. This year they won’t even talk on the phone! WTF? Another great guy checking out of this garbage.

[@chzzyg2698]

Right. I gave up on online dating years ago. I was spending $80 a month to get maybe one temporary GF a year that would use me for money and likely be cheating on me with another guy doing the same thing. Being single is way more peaceful than having a whiny, money grubbing, STD ridden girl under your roof.

[@ThePopbanks007]

​@The 44 Year Old Incel lol, false.

[@ProfWho-ut5he]

Nah... 1.) There are (almost) no attractive women on dating apps. 2.) There are awesome women out there, true, BUT, they are always taken and not on the dating market.

[@andersnielsen6044]

In 2023 a woman is on the dating market - always.

[@ProfWho-ut5he]

@@andersnielsen6044 Nonsense

[@airynod]

The dating dynamic and the way how people social is changed compared to the old days, people sometimes try to avoid interaction in person. I always find a bad sisterhood is a big reason why some women struggle to find good men or have a good relationship. Lack of female friends or communication with girls is more common for men. Also, Cosmopolitan is full of creepy toxic advice that damages everyone.

[@mastersword3688]

Your mind is a very powerful thing. What you focus on is what your decisions are. I have seen so many people leave relationships because of refusing to accept people for how they are, and it is just sickening to me. Modern-day society has brainwashed people to have unrealistic expectations and other things that are out of reach for some people. People should focus on what they believe in and spiritual things rather than designer cars or other fancy objects that symbolize that you're rich. Relationships last longer than anything else in life. Your friends and family are what matters most. Your current/future spouse matters. Society needs to pull their head out of their butt and realize that life isn't perfect. Nobody is perfect, period. I realize money has a factor into this, but does it need to be the sole reason for everything? No, but do people take it to extremes? Yes, they do.

[@johnbyerlein6682]

Courtney, I am single for many reasons - dominant 1 is that I never believed in myself and that I never believed that anyone would ever love me for me. I am a man with autism - diagnosed at 60 - after many years of misdiagnosis and unfocused therapy. Even though I have made tremendous strides in my personal growth, I have many negative views/experiences with therapy and am uninterested/unwilling to do the work necessary to find a special someone. I believe there are few quality people out there for healthy relationships as many focus on externals without developing solid internal character.

[@wastelanddrifter7685]

My two cents as a 33 year old single male. One reason males are single more now is because many, myself included, simply don't approach out of fear of being labelled a creep or being publicly shammed by women BECAUSE there are so many women that have a negative attitude towards men and think many of us are trash. I think females are single more because they rarely ever make the first move and do not approach. They want us to pick up hints and signals which is a form of psychology most of us are simply not trained in therefore going right over our heads. I'd love for Courtney to make a video about why women don't change with the changing times and approach first as I feel it would solve a lot of issues.

[@Judiacator]

Dating apps provide women as a whole so much validation that it completely throws off their calibration for what they need to do to make it worthwhile for a man they want, to stick around. Many women have lost their humility because they can log into a tinder/bumble/x and get hundreds of matches and thus they can shrug their shoulders and simply say "next".

[@andersnielsen6044]

It has been like that for women for decades man. It is not something new because of apps or any other modern social media.

[@sally.g.]

It's true. I'm single because I don't go outside much. I usually blame it on my looks, or the fact that I'm too lame, but the fact is, I could get a guy if I did go outside here and there and actually talk to men. And I think that is true for many other people. Lack of effort.

[@andersnielsen6044]

To women it is just a matter of saying yes instead of no.

[@sally.g.]

@@andersnielsen6044 That's true. But I also think that men have this false perception that if you are a woman you get asked out all the time. For lots of us that is not the case. Guys are a bit more hesitant to approach these days.

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

@@sally.g. I just assume that most women I see are in a relationship so I don't ask.

[@sally.g.]

@@Snake369 I get it. It´s so frustrating.

[@Ryan66437]

Always great to hear some positive commentary. Recently moved closer to the mountains and downtown where I live so I can get out more. Trying to make meeting someone a priority, introverted or not. On the indecission bit though, I've found actually moving in any significant fashion towards a serious relationship even if it's only as a great friend makes many people run these days. So I wind up having to waffle or chase people off.

[@EugeneAtViaTyping]

Thank you Courtney! I find so much value in your videos, that’s awesome!

[@viz2790]

…women just need to approach men…It’s that simple. Confidence isn’t just a guy thing. If being single as a women doesn’t work for you, then approach men and say “Hi”. It’s really that simple, the mind makes it more complicated than it has to be.❤❤ Cheers 😊

[@Blackcrowcaw]

I can tell you as a woman who hasn’t been shy about approaching men that is certainly not the case.

[@viz2790]

@@Blackcrowcaw What was your rejection number? Most people, men and women, stop after 2 rejections. I recommend you read Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang. =)

[@Blackcrowcaw]

@@viz2790 lol it’s certainly more than 2

[@-Clarence-]

@@daniellehotsky1776 she’ll protect that number like her body count

[@michaelwestacott7698]

I actually think that Women should be the ones to approach Men the most, since Women are a bit more intuitive and Men a little more kinder on average when rejecting a Woman that a Woman is when rejecting a Man.

[@michaelwheeler3782]

The other day I was talking to a woman about hee boyfriend and she said to me " I almost have him trained" she said that and I said" does he heel? Does he fetch? Does he obey I could see she was embarrassed and upset with me. To me this is a deal breaker and an automatic pink slip for any woman I might be dating. Women are always trying to change or train their man. Cut it out ladies

[@WHU448]

I’m pretty sure there are endless of “Good Men” in stock in mostly every women’s Friend Zone’s inventory! (🤣)

[@jafet9331]

Thank you for your perspective point I've been single since 2018 and sometimes I feel a little lonely I haven't tried to be in a relationship because all the women I've met were bad with me and just wanted me to buy them things or doing their tasks something good is that I recognized those bad treatments I walked away from them and I hope that God can send me an incredible partner

[@alistaircorstorphine7469]

I was with my wife for 11 months ( in that 11 months I contemplated suicide, but luckily she cheated on me ) I filed for divorce ( and won ) and I’ve been happily divorced since 2011 , :) never looking to date again ( never want to feel like that again )

[@cardinalsfan9610]

I heard "guys suck" when I was 15. FIFTEEN! "Boys just want sex" is something I also heard as a teenager. That did a lot of damage to my young psyche. By 20, I pretty much threw in the towel, because I had seen so much of the same things. When I gave up, it was 2012, and it was popular around that time to hear that women wanted hookups in college because a relationship was too much when trying to help out their own future. It's sad to see that, in the time since, women becoming extremely superficial has become a popular-enough norm. I've been rejected countless times, and it's now getting to a point in-person that I feel the energy of women scoffing at me simply for existing. I was never someone who tried pickup lines or anything of the sort. I actually bought into the "be friendly first" thing that was a part of unintended self-sabotage. Nowadays, I'm fine being single, for pretty much the first time in my life. It does disappoint me that the same issues I had a decade ago still feel as relevant now as ever. I feel like I'm getting older, but that's about the only thing that's changed. Like someone in the comments said, finding a good, caring, kind woman is a good goal. But so many ladies are lost in the sauce that finding a good woman is worse than finding a needle in a haystack. ETA: I think young women need to be told something like "you can change a good guy to a bad boy, not the other way around". A lot of women think they can change the bad boys, keep getting hurt, yet repeat the pattern with so many guys.