This ONE Thing The Narcissist Cannot Do MUST WATCH

[@loriderewitz7213]

Once you finally get yourself away from the situation, you can stand back and look at the whole relationship objectively and you can truly see it for what it was and move forward.

[@loriderewitz7213]

@@ericjackson-nq4hp love you ❤️

[@loriderewitz7213]

@@ericjackson-nq4hp we’ve had a snow storm here this Friday and the last two. It’s pretty but I’m ready for warm and planting some flowers and vegetables on my deck to grow during summer. Have some friends here in my neighborhood looking forward to walking when the snow goes away. Getting about 5” every week. See you on Anoushka’s live on Tuesday. 💕

[@loriderewitz7213]

@@ericjackson-nq4hp exactly so. ❤️

[@hasansarhan9296]

True

[@reneeboehm558]

That’s what I’m doing now. I threw him out last March 12 so it’s been a year in three days.

[@christinagipperich2780]

I have worked in mental health for over 20 years. The general attitude when I was in college was that everyone, no matter what their issues, can be helped. That attitude was never one I could except, especially when we are dealing with personality disorders. It is so refreshing to hear MH professionals finally admit that some people are NOT able/willing to be helped. It’s also nice to see people in this profession get honest and tell the world some people are just evil and have no intention of changing their behavior.

[@fightingfiresusa2961]

Good hearted, loving compassionate people are like glistening beacons in the night to narcissists.

[@daniellemorse6929]

I just started watching this and wouldn't have guessed healing. This is so true. We take the time to heal while they just move on way too quickly because they cannot be alone. So very sad.

[@TheBluWitch2024]

At several points during the 'situationship' (I won't even call it a relationship any more) He literally TOLD me he was damaged, that he never could find actual, lasting love, and did not believe in happily ever after, and so on. I am working through the shame and blame that I 'should have' listened to my gut and put a stop to my deep and enduring empathy and love. I am trying to break the trauma bond with the clarity of 2 months No Contact now.

[@latinalife2458]

Be strong and love your self more I feel the same way, I should have listen to my gut feeling and year after year of fake love it does damage but never to late to consider your happiness with someone else who deserve your love .

[@rasmuswellejus]

She said the exact same things to me 🥴

[@nitesslimboo1560]

Same here! She did everything as you mentioned but I am lucky that I listened to my gut feeling! I went no contact! And After 4 months of no contact and she came hoovering back,I ain't going any contact with her! I am on self healing journey and I know my boundaries! I hope everyone get the strength like me to get over such toxic relationship!😊

[@josette_napoleon]

Thank you so much. It's liberating to know that the best revenge to all the abuses is being able to heal, move on and be happy.

[@golnazabaee599]

This gives me goosebumps because just how ACCURATE Anoushka is in describing my experience!

[@linda6987]

How sad to be trained to be this way. I cannot understand how you can live without empathy? To me it’s second nature. I wish they wouldn’t be the way they are, it’s so damaging. I really do feel sorry for them, not enough however to sacrifice myself. Thank you for the share! 💖

[@timetraveler-ci8nn]

I believe that you’re correct, Anoushka. The leading authority on NPD who invented the language of NPD has stated many times that there is no cure for it.

[@bonniemorgan7215]

Dr. Sam

[@sandracaezza7234]

This is so spot on 24 yrs repeated returns with the narc/addict. I’m away almost 90 days out. I am seeing this so clearly. When I made him leave he was still blaming his family.

[@FrankandBaggioTheCavalier]

They can’t live a normal life. They can’t experience true feelings like us empaths. They also want to drain us of energy but as my famous last words to the narcissus were: Not today, Satan!

[@AXA747]

I did that cycle 5 times and nearly became his friend after 4 months no contact he has new supply but lied about it I found out he’s blocked again stay out of my life and let me be happy because the 4 months without him I was happier than I’ve been in 3 years

[@katienicholls6355]

My mother is a Narcissist and is unable to give unconditional love and will never acknowledge that her own father is guilty of abuse on many levels and I will never know the truth of what happened to her as a child, she is past healing. My mother ridicules me - I have finally broken free from her. 🎉 This has to be about me yes. Thank you.

[@leticiamilo4387]

Thanks Anoushka!!♥️⚘ Your teachings are awesome and I am learning with them. The best to do is: focus on healing myself and take care self love.

[@life-rethought]

only thing I went through decades of this as a child and young adult. and the husband repeated it. only thing the gift.... he untangled the terrible script of my younger life. and I left him asap. and I am learning and healing.

[@jamesl2846]

In the case of my siblings who were abusing me when I was small and continue to behave the same way towards me as an adult I can say it was definitely me who was being traumatised, not them! I believe their collective narcissism was caused by the family dynamic which involved them being put on a pedestal by my parents. It was all very Cinderella. They abuse because they enjoy abusing unfortunately.

[@frederickcollins4534]

The choice to inflict evil on others is the pull of falseness to gain support or validity from sensationalist bullies that gang up, become flying monkeys, and outnumber the empaths who enjoy living l9v9ngly, even if its a l8fel9ng, depressing wuest to find it. The higher human mind needs openness to seek that of internal self l9ve that comes from connectedness to the biggwr picture. That of simplicity and freedom to walk away, heal and enjoy living. Challenging, and requiring a peaceful environment.

[@michaelhalbert3843]

25 years. That's how long I spent with my narcissist wife. I had NO IDEA what the hell was going on. It's been horrible. I'm finally on my way out! Real life ahead, or lot's more and intense abuse after the break up. We'll see. But either way it needs to be done. I went to a counselor. She has also seen my wife. She told me to go and not look back...pretty intense advise from a counselor. I was not expecting that.

[@evangelistmondo]

The Bible is what help me get through this 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@janicemurphy4373]

THIS IS A GREAT, GREAT, GREAT, VIDEO OF ALL VIDEOS, SO ON POINT SO ACCURATE SO SOOTHING TO MY SOUL, CAN’T BE REPLACED WITH NOTHING ELSE, THE TRUTH IS GOD SEND!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH ANOUSHKA!!!!!!❤😊😊😊

[@Freeminder-tj5us]

This is a brilliant video!! I can resonate with all the things you said. I lived with my stbx covert narc husband and his overt narc mother for over 20 years. Their pattern was the same, the family dynamic was soooo weird. I could see how my mil treat my husband and our daughter and my husband just did the same thing on our daughter. They can’t change cos they think it’s normal!

[@melodyslocum2311]

This is serious stuff!

[@rhododendrons_509]

This is so DEAD ON and something that I came to conclude on my own. It's just very very sad. I think we've all heard 'the abused become the abuser' I just didn't recognize it for what it was for so long. She told me her mom abused her. And in our relationship I always felt like something was off. At one point she even said to me "I think my mom might have a personality disorder." DUUUUUUHHHHH!

[@assplundah]

Spot on, very soothing to hear this.

[@badgrand]

I’ve been conditioned to take abuse in childhood and I feel I’m the one who’s stuck.. I also feel that I have to do the silent treatment to protect myself.

[@christopherrosado6053]

Once identified.. .these individuals l, I myself, have no mercy...I decide how, when, and matter of communication. I observe them...and just "smile" in their Insecurity, and " games they play"

[@danieljones2435]

Ther is no hope for narcs, destroy them, avoid, and be aware.

[@BLITZY261]

Worth thinking about, this one. A narcissist I recently despatched by going no contact with shared and gave away this beauty about his time with the lady he went to regarding councilling. I asked him why he had cut her off after about six months. His very words..."WHY WOULD I NEED HER...WHEN I HAVE YOU?....funnily enough she seemed more interested in you and your songwriting than me!!!!!". Mmmmmmmmmmmm.

[@sabaidee5587]

To everyone: please let me know your opinion- she never said she is an narcissist or a covert one but I saw this things: - she need distance sometimes, like no contact for a while.. (2-4 weeks) - she often cancel meetings. - she said she is afraid to loose control. - she said she is afraid to be alone. - she said she's from another planet. - she said she hate people. - she said often I misunderstanding her. - she said I'm too sensitive. - she's sometimes lovely and sometimes extremely cold. - the way she's thinking is very strange, really complicated. - she said often said " that pushed my ego" Would you say she's a covert narcissist ?

[@3RedHearts]

Yes

[@sauravdevnath8874]

Just broke up with my ex last month she was exactly same exactly 💯.

[@sabaidee5587]

@@sauravdevnath8874 exactly what I said?? Amazing. Stay strong.

[@sabaidee5587]

@3 Red Hearts thank you for your opinion.

[@Sonnyblack100]

100% mate , just been through all of the same

[@Klein101]

Wow, that makes so much sense, helps me in my healing

[@stacy7990]

My ex boyfriend told me once that his sister was narcissist. He also said he studied psychology due his mom's behavior when he was younger. I think he knows what he is, but also said he is too old to change. He is 55. He told me a lot about his childhood. Maybe that was him asking for help from me IDK. Sometimes I want to talk to him about this but I know it probably will not go well.

[@MHLivestreams]

My elder brother is so sick, he enjoys doing things others that he does not like being done to himself. That's a true sign of an abuser.. it's evil, we can call it 'this disorder' or 'that disorder,' it's just plain evil. Only one of the children of hell would do that. That's no brother of mine. I consider people in this community more like my brothers than him. (Sisters too! You're not excluded!♥️)

[@mariadiez7165]

Your own hurts is talking and I can see it. We all know by now all of these. We love you and you love yourself and thank you for being here 💕

[@msingh9634]

Omg this is spot on. So pathetic they act like this.

[@vodacoma1747]

Anushka.. you know exactly what are you talking about.. as we do.. we can do it narc can't.. I'm Scorpio and I believe "rise from the ashes"... fenix... still fighting... big hug THX 🌻

[@dr.marnihillfoderaro1064]

Anoushka, Great observations and information. You are helping so many victims of narcissistic abuse become survivors!💕🙏🏼😃📚

[@anoushkamarcin]

Thank you Marni 💜

[@bluedogfish2]

this video is why you 90 thousand subscribers . You served it up

[@freedomofspeech6095]

I always knew deep down my narc husband got such pleasure and a sense of well being from my tears. They love TEARS! When you stop crying and become indifferent to them even that’s ok. Because indifference is mirroring to them the way they were treated by their parents . They’ve given their souls away to satan for his protection. It’s a done deal. Their assignment is to destroy love! Deep down they just want to be hated. Don’t. give them back hate its the indifference that is much more potent! Don’t look them in the eye anymore. Look through them start there. Make them invisible if you have to live with them you can do this it’s so healing and freeing. Wish I knew that sooner.

[@Julesevangeline]

Totally familiar! His mother is exactly the same

[@mariadiez7165]

Obviously you have been very hurt. Take it easy, we love you

[@michelezeug5206]

Spot on video!!

[@inga_brook29]

His parents are so in love. Married for so many years they still hold hands and just so lovey dovey. How can this be? No way he was abused in his childhood. What else can cause this?

[@terranman4702]

My mother threw me away, she died feburary. Now I'm chasing a Woman with strong narcissistic tendencies who does the same way over and over again. Any time she finds someone else she is done with me. Answers like a chatbot to text messages. Shelving, right? She started this monday again after having focused on me. Guess some chat with someone went really well. When I confronted her bullshit Last week, she told me I should be happy she talks about her problems with me. She could told it anyone else. That was her argument. "You are replacable"

[@rasmuswellejus]

Narc’s cannot love for real! 🥴

[@raidenewalden4354]

I say no to NPD if the questions answer is no . Again , i didn’t know NPD exist , only now I know when I started listening to your podcast .

[@jenniferyates8100]

My husband got worse with his dementia. As a child he had a very abusive father, who was a womaniser , and abandoned him.

[@denalibby2773]

30 years on this horrible merry go round....finances keep me here with my adult brain injured son....I keep trying to find a way out....and keep getting sucked back in....I feel like I'm drowning!

[@jld75-75]

I think they can heal to an extent, but only...ONLY if they TRULY WANT TO and dedicate themselves to it and know it's going to be a lifelong dedication to the journey!! Very rare that one can and will! I hope the people I love afflicted with this will, because I've seen them truly try..because they do want to feel loved that way, but it's just so painful and hard to face things, again..they have truly tried to, but it's just so much easier to continue to do what they have come to know to do that will provide the temporary satisfaction they need when they need it! It will never last! They will never find true happiness this way!! It makes me so sad!!! I love them and will always love and care for them!! I just wish I could HOW I KNOW to! BREAKS MY HEART!!!!

[@latinalife2458]

Now he is 46 and complete silent when he speaks his mind it’s just evil . I can’t wait for the day that I wake up and he is gone forever . 18 years of marriage of lonliness abuse and depression

[@jmfewwfvhu]

Thanks

[@AsifSyed123]

Only animals won't be able to see their sinister evil plots. I bet some animals know them.

[@rhododendrons_509]

I gave unconditional love. I thought it was something she could grow out of. She couldn't and she didn't. In fact the abuse got worse and worse and worse and worse. I still love her; but I'm not certain the person I loved even ever existed. How fucked up is that? Yeah it's a mindfuck. Stay strong people. You're not the bad guy for having empathy for another person but it's long past time to break free, and focus on yourself. It's the only way. DON'T GASLIGHT YOURSELF.

[@moniquepettway-Mesapegasus]

I hit something here so the narcissist can't feel therefore they instill intense feelings of pain in their victims. Is this an attempt so that they can at least witness feeling from the outside? This is something to think about

[@jessparsons8515]

Well I got power now no contact

[@nytrocircus]

Wow, IMO you are bang-on. The futility of unconditional love was a hard learned lesson in my marriage to a destructive narcissist. The narcissist will not change because they are so overly confident, so the only hope is to develop tactics to deploy when forced to have interactions with the narcissist. Strictly business. Extra difficult when a child is in the mix oh my... fourth dimensional mind fuckery

[@steenkristensen6351]

Det ved jeg Anoushka de vil kun ha mig tilbage, men sådan går det ikke hos mig jeg har luret dem. Og god weekend 😉👍

[@AXA747]

I don’t think they can be fixed either of heal they can pretend to be healing to draw you in again is the only healing they can do

[@simsational...]

My covert wife can't forgive anyone, including herself. Forgiveness is how you heal.

[@ogbinvestments4361]

I am starting to think I am turning into a narcissist from dealing with one. I intentionally make her life SO flipping miserable during the week it is VERY hard to control. Once I figured out what type of animal I was dealing with I was able to adapt and change. I am not sure if I am wrong for becoming so strong and desensitized to her bullshit.

[@Tiimen]

I’d advice you to get out of this situation if you feel like you’re turning into one. I’ve done the same in the past, but ultimately you’ll want to grow past this batshit crazy situation and become the wholesome person you’re meant to be. In a way you’re still giving in to the narcissist’s behaviour by becoming one, even though it feels like you’re stronger than her. You got this, man.

[@czapik90]

Get out of this situation is a great advice. She is triggering you passively and this will not change too quick. More time will pass - the more on spectrum of narcisism you will define yourself. And the more time and healing would be necessery. Stop this madness

[@ogbinvestments4361]

I realized I am a super empathetic person (Super Empath). I am actually having fun with this derailed train wreck!

[@Tiimen]

@@ogbinvestments4361 Your choice, man. I'd consider myself a super empath as well, but it'll start to eat you from the inside out to the point where you don't even know yourself anymore. I wish you the best of luck.

[@jmfewwfvhu]

“Too many bumps to the head in rugby”😹😹😹😹🤮

[@rgch-raw729]

Anoushka, would be possible to make video about spoiled covert narcissists? Cause mine nqrc is in nice relationship with his mom, his father is separated, so … I was envy about his relationship with his mom before, but it was unhealthy relationship, I think, his mom is doing everything for her son. I see all traits of narcissistic traits there, but nice talking between them is confusing

[@AA-ct7cb]

Seems like there’s more narcs. than usual around lately. Thanks.

[@frankiemorgan8056]

I think trump started the craze

[@mariadiez7165]

Sorry but….ask you what???? Do you got the truth, somehow?? Get involved and don’t ask to ask to you. Love you though.💕

[@endpace]

you are so beautiful!❤❤❤❤❤ love me.😐

[@clarknawrocki9718]

They can't be honest