This stunning absence... there's nothing more delicious (December 2023)

Meeting from December 31, 2023
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This stunning absence... there's nothing more delicious
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[@htc1144]

I love these meetings. Reminds me of being in group therapy for years. The mental health world finally drove me nuts, it’s kind of a joke. But these conversations people say are so taking me back. Like is anyone really healing in this world? 😂❤

[@LeftTheMatrix]

1:32 love this video and the “what wants to be genuinely expressed here” without thought of attainment. It’s noticed here that when the linear, goal-oriented mind imagines itself to be doing “good things” for the world, in fact what is happening is a strengthening of identity. Has also become clear that the mind’s limited perspective is literally incapable of seeing the total impact of even the tiniest bit of good that a Being has done. A small act of kindness of a stranger has had long-lasting impacts here that I was never able to thank them for. I even tried to find school teachers who massively impacted who this Being became in the relative world to thank them, but to no avail. The Universe does not keep the mind’s ledger. 😊 (Edit) Reminds me of this quote in the Bhagavad Gita: “Work done with anxiety about results is far inferior to work done without such anxiety, in the calm of self-surrender. Seek refuge in the knowledge of Brahma. They who work selfishly for results are miserable.”🎉😅

[@Consci0]

People usually confuse this with depression, and i can understand that.

[@jamil1418]

i don't have a stable situation in my life so i can have fearful thoughts and feelings about the future and anxiety but in another way i guess i just accept things as they are so these negative feelings always end up vanishing into deep acceptance and surrender i guess, and then it becomes peaceful again and it's really about the present moment. it's always the same mind mechanism at play each time painful feelings arise. worries are impermanent basically

[@Liselotteyes]

Lovely talk and conversations. I’m a fellow weirdo

[@macparker3549]

There is something so very comforting and accessible about these conversations. As though the impersonal nature of “this“ is being communicated in a deeply personal and intimate way. A lovely invitation to take it all in so naturally, so innocently… 🙏🏼🫥💙

[@jeffcox9787]

Love the new bright broadcast space-it appears happier all around. Thank you

[@LeftTheMatrix]

Case in point on my prior comment: the participants in this video may be surprised to know that their sharing brought me to deep tears of gratitude. The process of waking up to the Real feels less isolating when a worldwide sangha can be experienced. With a deep bow of gratitude to Suzanne and all who bravely shared. ❤🙏

[@stevegunn9971]

Well said! I share your same gratitude toward Suzanne and those who shared. They've truly made a difference!

[@brushstroke3733]

I want to escape family burdens as well. I feel guilt often about not doing enough, and that guilt just wears me down further. I also want to escape my unmet, unfulfilled sexual desires. My thoughts drive me nuts. I used to smoke a lot of weed, smoke a half a pack of cigarettes, and get drunk every day and that did seem to help me feel OK in my body. I stopped doing that because I thought those habits weren't good for me (or my finances.) I really want to escape with them again, but it kind of makes me feel sick and shameful when I do. Arrgghh! I'm so tired of myself! Thanks for the discussions - it's nice to empathize with others.

[@kbone8137]

It might be helpful to notice WHEN these kinds of urges manifest. Addictions are often the habits of escape. They form and happen at specific times. Simply put, they are often born of seeking of pleasurable experience in the heat of perceived negative/painful contexts. Psychologically, they express suffering. If only Truth sets one free, it is imperative to know that one must pass through the negative contexts, rather than simply escape them. Being a separate volitional person is merely a surface issue, with all its pain/suffering/problems/addictions and so forth.... a wave on the ocean that your mind believes you are (only). Penetrate into the structure of illusions that constitute a self, and you might gradually see these addictions/escapes fall away.

[@Ryan-Dempsey]

You could also just feel that shame. Is shame a "bad" thing?

[@kbone8137]

@@Ryan-Dempsey True, feeling can be seen as an honesty arising within consciousness. However, the mind must be conditioned in a way that gives rise to the shame, the negative emotion arising from one's action(s). Most have met people who are deemed as 'shameless', yes? Plus, a split mind, at battle with itself, can often 'override' the negative emotion with some concocted rationalization that enables it to bypass it. Eventually, after many such instances of not really being held to account, it can then rationalize that, "I can't stop. The addiction is beyond or out of my control", and often start blaming any number of factors as giving rise to the addiction (but never taking responsibility). If the belief in lack of power/responsibility' becomes strengthened, and one 'wants' to overcome it, the perceived need for a 'higher power' often arises. Notice how many will often pursue things outside themselves for that power, which basically just re-directs one's attention into another belief structure (and never resolves the responsibility). It may be 'less-bad' than the addiction, so that's good, but it is more aligned with self-help, not non-duality.

[@NevadaJamesMusic]

Suzanne, you rock. Thank you for sharing everything you do. So insightful!

[@facet44]

Thank you to the Bank Manager! Dear, I SO very much relate to the rage you describe. The expectations of family, and outright hatred of humanz! Keep on burning through those energies stored in the body! We all here have so much betrayal in our past. But yeah, it's in the body, the battery of abuse. We will get there, even tho there's no place to go. Thank you to all!!

[@trevorjones8737]

Thank you Suzanne. I know and experience what you mean. The blissful peace of emptiness is ineffable but I appreciate your attempts at articulating non-clinging, non-duality, and non-delighting.

[@timothyammons9011]

non~delighting feels cringe 😬 Paradoxically non~delighting in delighting… for who is tasting when there’s nothing but taste? 👅 👅👅👅👅👅👅👅👅👅

[@TychoHupperets]

so liberating to hear!

[@SylusFyynch]

Right there with you Suzanne. Feeling of needing to keep up with friends has completely gone away. It’s like I enjoy my own company more than anything else.

[@htc1144]

Same.

[@globalCreatorsstyle]

People who suck your energy actually depend on you getting angry so youll give in. They want you to rebel do they can judge you. You could flip the switch and dont respond and keep your distance emotionally too. Otherwise your anger becomes their reward. 😮

[@yasminel-hakim4348]

thanks Suzanne for sharing these wonderful people with us ❤️🙏

[@KimL101]

Yes. There is nothing more delicious than this and nothing else is needed or can compare

[@Tazka]

Well there's nothing else.

[@KimL101]

🎯❤️

[@MauricioCoghi]

Love the first 20 minutes.

[@Cheese-is-its-own-food-group]

I’m the same kind of weirdo who wants to be home. I also take care of my mom and I alone do this. I have a brother who gets a pass in taking care of her because of how much money he makes compared to me. I work at a women’s shelter and I will never get rich there. My brother is a radio personality and he makes 6 figures a year so he is excused from taking care of Mom. I feel sooooo angry about this but I’m supposed to just accept it because ‘that’s how it is.’

[@a1lyhall]

Hi lets talk as if we’re in a community, a community where we can talk and be understood

[@Tazka]

I can relate with the way you described the relationships. It's like the constant reactivity to conversations just doesn't seem to take place any more. It feels more natural to be silent most of the time. On the other hand, at the same time there's more intimacy with the friends. As it feels like just one thing happening, not separate from them.

[@globalCreatorsstyle]

Your talks give me a beautiful example of something i have longed to understand and what is referred to "pointing." I realize i was trying to subjectively listen to the "pointer" instead of listening to that which has been pointed to which includes and seemingly excudes the pointer. Thank you.❤

[@kbone8137]

"Relying upon a finger, we see the moon Relying upon the moon, we understand the finger. Moon and finger Are neither the same nor different. This expedient analogy is for guiding beginners. Having seen reality as it is, There is neither moon nor finger." Mind is an interesting emanation, a perfect expression of its conditioned state. It's not a bad thing per se, but just conditioned. However, it does/can make a wonderful tool when it's not the master, which is pretty much its goal from the age of 2-3, hehe. 🤣

[@globalCreatorsstyle]

Thank you ​@@kbone8137

[@premganga8822]

🌷

[@zatoichiable]

Yes imagination always taste good....

[@tom_see]

God i love how relatable she is and this is so damn refreshing just saying its okay to feel this way

[@blindguy...1275]

Hello❕

[@Seanamenra]

Most excellent

[@macparker3549]

Yes, Simon, I can so relate!

[@KT-bi1eogggg]

"Suzanne" is a concept, so is "non duality", but thank goodness they are part of life, and "she" is happening to "us"...

[@anneosullivan4107]

I totally hear Jaz. I've been there. I've managed to pull away quite a bit. I look after myself, my wants and needs now. I have not found it easy to put myself first but you quickly learn that the takers don't give back and if you're not doing it for them, they move on to find the next pleaser. Take care of you Jaz. 😘😘😘

[@shawn6306]

this video so resonate with me i competely agree with this because i also love being weird, lazy, weak, fear, love and shy i love to stand around doing nothing all day being lazy i also don't like being force to do things i don't wanna do that don't make me happy but my family and the majorityy always force most of us to do things most of us don't wanna do i disagree they always say we have to do things we don't wanna do ln life sometimes i'm also not ok with that either i hate the majoritiy that are not understanding that i don't like being told what to do force me and most of us to do things most of us don't wanna do because i always love to do what makes me happy i also don't like being told what to do and i also don't like that i can't feel that way because i think we have the right to feel how we wanna feel by standing up for ourselves if some of us don't like being told what to do being force to do things we don't wanna do i said the exact samething too just let us be and can we just be that it just is i competely agree nothing needs to change because that's exactly how i feel too i love the way i am i would never change improve and impress anyone because i know it won't make me happy at all and i also said the samething all i also want is peace freedom

[@SamarpanaYogananda6509]

10:26 🙏🧘🔥🤗

[@kwbenton4]

Tashi Deleg ~ E MA HO~ "We study the self to forget the self" ~Dogen :::been Coast-to-Coast, sitting w/ Tibetian lamas, peace walking w/ Zen Monks, serving the (utterly) destitute::: You weigh in HEAVY on the galactic scale of buddhism. w0w. many lifetimes, sister. THANK YOU. The space you hold w/ your speach is an inspiration...to the extent I want to share w/ you a brief aphorism fr. my travels: The Karmapa told 'my' lama: You don't need to paint anymore - you should just help people. ...it's like yah, I get it, I'm w/ you: 'we' happy few who really 'understand' "the Self" can practice contentment in solitutde for the rest of this lifetime & waves of future ones to come...Like painting, it is our gift (& dare I say, our collective dharma) to go out to "our friends" & share our inner vortex of peace & clarity w/ them in this world of fear & destitution. Big ups & cheers to meeting for lunch & dinner parties. OMMANIPADMEHUNG

[@anaavendano2557]

I appreciate your unique and different way of exposing non duality compared to Parsons or Newman. There is this outstanding sensitivity and understanding of behavior that allowed me to understand things I went through

[@brushstroke3733]

1:20:50 Ay, the Beast! Run!! 😂 (James McAvoy) Suzanne, were you trying to get him to admit he likes you?? 😍🥰

[@ItApproaches]

Phew this is a LONG one. Going to have to watch this one in sessions.

[@kbone8137]

The seeming "variety of stuff/things" is good for directing the attention to noticing the structure of one's mind. Fixing problems within the paradigm of thought is more akin to 'self'-help. Not bad per se, and even helpful, but not really non-duality or absence from which all things arising immediately begin to fall away. The layers of thought that seek cause-and-effect slowly and assuredly pull one back into the mind's dream. The value in meditation can be in giving space, less reactivity, and attachment to those rising thoughts, which are not fundamental as the ground of Existence. Naked.

[@ayahere5105]

I feel you> you are free .. I am free… words even doesn’t tell the actual thing. It is all an illusion it is alls so real it doesn’t matter … still it is fun but not so much yet good .. just witnessing THE ONE … whatever

[@cleestacy]

When people ask me “so what do yoU do?“ I dont know what to say. It changes everyday. Maybe there are patterns. And then it changes. And. It’s just this. I dunno. Hahah

[@OPTHolisticServices]

💗🍃🙏

[@Inquiring_Together]

😺

[@Liselotteyes]

Will I get in trouble for not existing as person me? Experiencing the dread and ‘unnatural’ness and horror that lies beneath te person, and feel i would be better off dead than in the me. It is scary though.

[@lennartp186]

I hate everybody 😂😂😂 I like that!

[@northernyogi]

1:18:15 beautiful point

[@kbone8137]

The absence, the Nothing, the Emptiness..... pure, unbounded potentiality in/from which Eureka moments arise. It's available, but mind is in the way, and most every seeker identifies with and tries to use their mind to find what is available prior to mind. It's a strange one.

[@TrojansFirst]

You can never experience directly what's prior to mind; only the afterglow of it; but that afterglow is plenty satisfying.. With greater focus and concentration cultivated from a meditation practice, one can catch more and more of the afterglow. It's within that afterglow that the experiential understanding of the non-dual state happens.

[@kbone8137]

​@@TrojansFirst The idea of such a 'you' is mind-made, so right, it cannot be present to what is prior to mind. But yes, there are flow states that go with the glow, and are indicative of 'less me', and such experiences are cool, no doubt. In hindsight, it's as if the actions were being done on their own, seemingly acausal. That's a glimpse and/or something of a wake up call. And yes, meditation is not causal to Realization, but such practices can make one prone to such absence. Most fear Nothingness, so meditation mats are a bit like a battle ground at times. 😍

[@TrojansFirst]

@@kbone8137 Non-duality is an experience that emanates from the glow. And just because it can be experienced doesn't mean it's ultimately true. It's a true experience but it's a mystery at the same time and who knows what the ultimate ontological status of it is. Just embrace the mystery and give up the need to know is good advice. But developing greater focus and concentration is a wise thing to do because we are experiencing these bodies and what are we going to do when the earthquake hits? Enlightenment is like a windown opening, but with further practice that window an be opened wider and wider allowing more of the glow to enter into our direct experience. An extreme example would be Thich Quang Duc who self immolated his body and maintained a perfect lotus pose throughout. That's why practice has merit.

[@kbone8137]

@@TrojansFirst If you'd like to define ND as such, that's your prerogative. All good. I'm just pointing beyond the mind, its memory/experience/states, etc. Paradoxes, too, always born of the mind and where the mind's logic twists in on itself. Mind, informed of its 'secondary' status as a tool for 'life of the world', knows when to let them go. Indeed, it functions better as a tool than as a master, so clarifying its limitations is auspicious. I wish you the best.

[@TrojansFirst]

@@kbone8137 but since we need a mind to perceive these "beyond the mind" states, we really don't know if non-duality is this ultimate truth. The grandest paradox of all might be that duality is every bit as true as non-duality..But no matter what we experience, we still have work to do if we can't set our body on fire and maintain a perfect lotus.

[@jtetteroo2919]

If there is no 'me', what is it that gains insight/knowledge?

[@Hermit-lo7bw]

Insight can appear within selfless awareness just like a cloud can appear within an empty sky. It is the belief that insight has to appear to a concrete, solid "me" that creates the difficulty.

[@jonasjonaitis2949]

Do you feel bliss ?

[@xenigmaification]

Yeah, earning money has been something always unnatural and fake for me, like a really fucking bad burden.Like I'd rather not eat and consume too much then to do extra work.

[@seshadrir2057]

Self realization is only for the privileged? how can poor, oppressed people get self realized?

[@FalseCogs]

As long as there is sufficient time and mental capacity for calm reflection, without being too distracted with immediate survival, then higher seeing should be possible. Even in a place that _is_ unsafe, higher seeing could still happen if the story of survival is let go of. But naturally such letting go may result in the body dropping. So that path is a matter of taste. Yet taste may arise of its own accord.

[@irislind5313]

You don't need friends, you are talking to 'us'. I recognice the not needing friends but i don't have a channel like 'you' Whatever..

[@Indigogingerkat11]

nice, but not needed...🙏🏻❤️

[@trashcanmucous5153]

possible autism

[@carlhammill5774]

The question for you is does this "absence" simply become something else that you tie yourself to that becomes habit. To be 100% transparent with you - when you fully reach emptiness there would be nothing to post or talk about anymore. I watch your channel not for what you say but to see when you finally stop posting videos...then I will know you are there.

[@macparker3549]

“There?” Where?

[@carlhammill5774]

@@macparker3549 aware. nothing more.

[@GiacomoJimmi]

@@macparker3549 My sentiments exactly.

[@brushstroke3733]

Yet you felt the need to make this comment. So does that mean you're not "there" yet?

[@GiacomoJimmi]

@@brushstroke3733 I know, right? Who died and made this MF the mayor of enlightenment?

[@fascistphilosophy5649]

jesus f christ is this really just 2 hours of drivel suzanne 'non-duality'