Three Stages of Healing

Here is a link to Debbie's books, guided meditations, and calming music cd: debbiemirza.com/

[@mariesc5996]

I have been watching some of your videos in the last 2 days. Thank you so much. I left my husband after 31 years, last fall. A pillar of society :). I believe I am now getting closer to stage three and have to say that stages 1 and two were very much like you describe. The first time a therapist mentionned the word 'narcissist' to looking up many videos until I found the expression "covert narcissist". I am now trying to work on myself and will start repeating 'I am worthy of love" and hopefully you are right, I will believe it in spite of my shortcomings. Until then, may I say you have a wonderful way of explaining covert narcissism and what a relief to hear someone say that nobody understands (not even many therapists) the damage, the anxious feelings, the knowing that something is just not right even if there are no overt insults. The discard was passive-agressive too. He chose my birthday to email me and thank me for the courage to leave: he is happy now. Because, of course, that's what matters.

[@karagraham9764]

Marie SC Look for a trauma informed therapist and switch. You can search for one on psychologytoday.com for your area.

[@lauratheexplorer6390]

"I'm thinking of listing a pillar of the community as a fuckin red flag!" - Richie Grannon

[@mariegracebrabandt8028]

I'm in the third stage right now. And you explained everything the way my journey has been for a year. I'm ready for the third stage and to move on and have joy. Thank you for sharing. I hope you have your joy since you posted this.🕊🙏

[@mariegracebrabandt8028]

Thank you Deb! I figured out what covert narsicist was over a year ago. I have been through stages 1 and 2 like you explained. My husband died in January. And now I'm in stage 3 where I want to live forward, heal, thrive and have joy. It helps so much to have others explain what we were involved in and how it affects us. Every relationship I have been in was with a narcissist of verring degrees, whether physical, covert, overt, since I was born. I want so desperately to get to the 3rd stage and beyond. Thank you 😘❣

[@karent3004]

I'm just loving these videos Debbie. Thank you so much for soft and gentle encouragement. You are a joy to watch and listen to. Hugs...🤗

[@odette8905]

Thank you for this wonderful video Debbie. It hits the nail on the head. Absolutely. You are such an expert in this unseen and much-misunderstood field. Gratitude to you.

[@fionacarroll5562]

Thank you Debbie. xx

[@LedgerAndLace]

Awesome! Am reading Supernatural now. Have been to some of his workshops and do his meditations. LOVE Dr. Joe!

[@debbiemirza1744]

Oh wow! That's so great! Would love to go to one of his workshops. Which meditations do you do? I'm loving the Blessing the energy centers one.

[@LedgerAndLace]

I do that one a lot! There are some others he teaches in the Progressive workshop (now only online). Also, he has an app for morning and evening meditation. Good stuff and I appreciate the science behind what he does. You can't argue with brain scans! He's got some AMAZING testimonials coming out on his YT channel lately. Also, he's going to be presenting with Bruce Lipton & Gregg Braden next month, which is ALWAYS AWESOME! :-)

[@bandieboo8102]

I love your videos. But it is a real strain to hear you even at full volume. Your messages are so valuable please see if something can be done to increase sound. Thank you.

[@lisahutton3754]

I read your book The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist. It made me cry, finally someone who gets it. I have two grown daughters that seem to be fed up with the way I'm healing, in their words not healing. They want me to get over it. It's become hard to be around them. It feels abusive. Im very confused. Am I stuck in victim hood or am I processing things as fast as I can. He discarded me two years ago and I filed for divorce. Which he fought to take everything. It was final last summer. How fast should I heal? Are my children correct? I know they don't like seeing me feeling weak, but I am. Any advice?

[@lisahutton3754]

I also ordered Supernatural, waiting on it. Am now reading Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself.

[@debbiemirza1744]

Oh fabulous Lisa! Let me know what you think of the book! :-)

[@debbiemirza1744]

Hi Lisa! I just posted a video for you today. It's called, How Long Does it Take to Heal. In it I also give advice for people who have older kids and are experiencing what you are because it's very common. I hope that helps. My heart is with you. I know how difficult all of this is. I'm so glad my book helped too! Thank you for your comment. xx

[@massielcalenzani2805]

Lisa Hutton wow, my ex husband left me with nothing after 12 years of marriage. He was wonderful! Loving! Charming! ALL the time. Yet he was cheating until he got caught! He left me with nothing! And share custody😥. Narcissist are easy to manage if you are well established in your identity which is G-d and His purpose and what He things of you. So it is easy to deal with the narcissist, but a covert narcissist like my ex husband is...then that is a whole another story. But healing is on the way. I hear you!

[@sues3218]

I think I may be in stage 3, or at least transitioning between 2 and 3.

[@Julian2Sounds]

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