TikTok's New Toxic Insecurity

[@ngarcia103]

How to get "leggings legs": 1. Make sure you have legs. 2. Get a pair of leggings. 3. Put your legs in those leggings.

[@luchirimoya]

Reminds me of "summer body" all over again lol

[@bossjihyo2276]

​@@luchirimoyawhat's summer body?

[@noni4315]

Literally, when i weighed 80lbs due to starving myself and overexercising, i still didn't have a thigh gap because my hips are so narrow. Thigh gaps aren't attainable for most people even when they are underweight. My heart aches for all the young girls this will affect.

[@Squishyfl0wer]

damn tiktok is so toxic, why can’t we just accept our differences in appearances

[@tinysey]

That part😞

[@milliewilson5894]

The problem isn't the app the algorithm just shares the ideas

[@cremepuffle]

Because then there would be no way to climb the social ladder lol

[@harlequinheart3]

@@milliewilson5894You’re right, it’s not the app’s fault. It’s the user’s for participating and adding to it

[@maxisnoti]

girl i came here and looked down expecting you to have at LEAST 100k subs... 6.4k??? you deserve so much more, you're a natural at video commentary, new subscriber!

[@tinysey]

Thank you 🌸

[@ladybugloverrr]

So glad I deleted tiktok when I did 2 years ago...

[@tinysey]

Yes, you’re not missing much on tiktok 👌🏾

[@mariamart_0]

So glad I have friends that do not even use TikTok at all. That app is propaganda and propagating toxic content and challenges. Even to the point where it is dangerous and even…🩸

[@muphyna]

I dont understand why people just dont do the same as you. Its understandable if you are make your living off the app, but if you are just looking for entertainment and instead you are encountering more toxicity than fun/helpful information, the maybe its time to realize its just not worth it

[@bossjihyo2276]

Everyday I'm more grateful to not be on tiktok. My brain hurts because there is a new term / aesthetic / random trend that doesn't make any sense

[@annajac0bson]

this is so true tik tok ruins me with all the body trends / beauty trends. some others: Dark femme vs light femme, bunny vs fox vs frog pretty, kibbe body types…I need to get off it. it makes me so insecure

[@muphyna]

Idk how you do it. It’s exhausting. I dont use tt but everytime i watch a video of someone commenting on a new trend there Im like “here we go again”🙄🙄

[@nahiedlaila9601]

How do they even come up with this madness and endless trends it doesnt make any sense🤦‍♀️

[@Plohc7438]

I agree! And also, the visual weight thing doesn't works if you aren't stereotipically pretty. Usually those faces we deem as beautiful are very balanced. In a sense of, all the features kinda "work" together (everyone's festures work together, but I mean when that combination of features gives them the standar "pretty" look). So they have a single """"visual weight"""(? All throughout their face. Me and all other normal looking people can't actually put ourselves in a binary box of low or high visual weight, cause our features aren't all the same! For example, I have a roman nose and "siren" eyes which would be considered high weight. But my face structure is very soft and my lips and mouth are small. I was trying so hard to figure out my visual weight until I realized that I don't need to know lol

[@tinysey]

Yeah its just not worth the stress of it all.

[@heatherhaven1268]

Not that anyone other than the creator will care, but this is the video that got me to subscribe. I have seen this covered many times and you had great, nuanced, new points. Appreciated.

[@suus-arido393]

I never had body issues until someone mentioned hip dips. Now all I can see is the thing that looks "wrong".

[@53D0N4]

Thank you for sharing this into society! Hopefully it will help to correct the negativity we've allowed ourselves to perpetuate! Journaling is really great. Or my newest venture; voice memos!

[@ozi1578]

Thank fuck I’m not on tiktok and Instagram. Ever since social media came in the picture I have been affected negatively. I’ve always gone off taking breaks and quitting like Selena. Social media is NOT FOR ME!!!

[@muphyna]

Im the same. Its crazy how much more self-conscious I get when Im consuming too much content on social media. And its even crazier how better things get when I take a break from it. Like, I clearly remember wanting to get BBL during the pandemic! Never wanted one before in my life, never felt like I needed it. But literally 1 month after I deleted instagram from my phone I didn’t even think about it anymore, and soon enough I was no longer so unsatisfied with my body. I see social media now as a tool. I use it with specific purposes in mind instead of letting it use me.

[@michelle2367]

YESSS i wish everyone had the same mindset as you. sometimes i feel like i have such unpopular opinions i just don't agree with a lot that is said on tiktok

[@rebekahwestwood]

I’m so glad I don’t have TikTok 😅

[@nuggy9556]

Thank you for bringing empathy to you tube, thank you for just being you and giving us the scoop/tea on the stuff going on. ❤️🙌🏻

[@ffxfgxsfxxxg2419]

Is low or high visually weight even important in the long scheme like both look good on different people

[@destinyfritz9452]

Can we just keep thigh gap a term like it makes sense and legging legs don't

[@muphyna]

I dont get it. People are always talking about how toxic tiktok is but I dont see these same people leaving the app. Im sure there is positive content there too but no one talks about it, they are always only pointing out the toxic parts. Why stay in such a problematic social media then? Beauty standards are stupid but they also have been around ever since the beggining of times and each culture had its own, the difference is that now, with the internet, people are more exposed to them SPECIALLY if they use social media a lot. Leave the toxic environment if it cant be changed and you will see a great improvement in mental health.

[@blobfish-t1f]

visual weight is not a new thing calling it a trend is so funny

[@tinysey]

Whatever it is, its ridiculous

[@calypsofox6869]

@@suicideshy451idk but making up new trends/naming old concepts something new to make people obsessed with small aspects their appearance doesn’t sound good in any way. Even if it is just face shapes and other small stuff.

[@rey82rey82]

Line weight is a thing

[@Ms7sOo]

I do not understand thigh gaps ! I just can not see the hype

[@teruhashipleasenocrimefav5815]

Visual weight is not a beauty standart. Lais ribeiro adut akesh low visual small features soft face Adriana Lima high visual strong features. Is more about make-up and features.. Is more confortable than golden ratio beauty standart

[@SamBaker-z9h]

Why is it that when something is promoting being skinny people freak out, but when there's fat models out there promoting being obese (which causes a shit ton of health issues), everyone applauds them? why the hypocrisy?

[@clairegosteli8253]

boomer ass take lol

[@user-hc4yb9to5s]

Idk what area of the Internet ur on but I don’t think people applaud fat people for promoting obesity. I always see people critiquing and critiquing those who promote mindless eating and obesity and the cons of the body positivity movement. Two things can exist at once: promoting being dangerously skinny is as bad as promoting being dangerously overweight

[@ofukur.o]

Simply existing and not hating yourself for being fat is not 'promoting obesity'.

[@bibichillieblue]

Being naturally skinny has literally never been frowned upon. It’s just problematic if you’re trying to lose so much weight in a unnatural way and starving yourself because you have an ED, but then again, people with EDs are victims and help to be healthier. Obese people also have eating disorders, and they also need help to be healthier, but because being overweight is not something that usually happens in a conscious effort, and people usually blame obesity on being lazy, stupid, etc, sometimes it is easier for someone to start feeling comfortable in their overweight body so they can go on about their day. Nobody deserves to be treated like shit because they are struggling with their weight, skinny or not skinny, especially teenage girls who are still developing.

[@muphyna]

Well, I think there is a difference there, although I do get what you mean. Most obese people that do that are simply living and celebrating their bodies which is already considered “out of the standard” and basically no one that is considered healthy (and no, I dont believe in health at every size) would try to emulate it. You wont see, for example, celebrities intentionally getting bigger. Quite the opposite. So one trend has far more impact in a bigger number of people and will always be more normalized than another. So yeah, although there is for sure people in the fat acceptance community that will try to twist reality and say that obesity is not unhealthy and should be considered beautiful too by everyone, I tend to focus more on the people who are simply standing against the discrimination based on size, while not denying that they have a health condition. Like, fat people still deserve to live normal lives and shouldn’t have to face so much discrimination and dehumanization until they loose weight.

[@TruthTeller-ez7ev]

There's nothing wrong with body checking or wanting to look a certain way. The compulsive argument is null since it is a figment of the patient's imagination validated by a therapist who creates a problem to make money.