Healthy Supports - Part 7/9 - Functional vs Dysfunctional Family

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What does it "dysfunctional family" mean? There is a lot of confusion about this subject. Tim explains the many ways in which dysfunction can happen and how it can be expressed in a family.
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When we don't learn function at home, we need to go somewhere for guidance! I found the book that explained a lot of what was missing for me, starting with a work conflict situation I could not resolve. I was 25 yrs old the first time I picked up my children's Bible and just flipped open and read the first line my eyes fell to..proverbs ...if you attempt to relate to a wicked person you will incur abuse and hatred, if you attempt to correct a righteous person they will love you This convinced me there was value in this book that I needed and I have never forgotten this first time where I got an answer that deeply satisfied me as being true Have to search out the best translations and the original meaning in the original language but this book as a guide has never let me down or steered me wrong

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This was really informative and I really needed to hear the Bible part. I wish someone had explained this to me when I was in school struggling with relationships! I had to learn the hard way and experience so much dysfunction. Take notes young ones this man is speaking great Truth and Discernment.

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thank you for helping me to be more of a healthy parent my son needs

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Hope everyone is in a good place tonight, mentally!

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Tim is really good at this. He helps understand what happened and what the long term effects are. This one should be named "Family life with Dr. Charles E. Main". My father was always so quick to throw me or anybody else under the bus to save his own ego. It was always about him. Anyone that ever questioned him got a violent reaction. He kept our family dysfunctional with violent threats and actions.

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Both of my parents were very disengaged. Both workaholics, gym rats and imagine obsessed. Lots of yelling and I cried almost daily as a kid, violence, drug use, sexually inappropriate. Witnessed sex acts and masterbation many times. I remember thoughts of suicide as young as 10..shocking. I’m mostly healthy now but when you finally realize how messed up things were it’s heartbreaking..

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This video helped me identify I grew up in 8 of the 9 dysfunctional family types in my family of origin & Catholic school.

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THANK YOU for a perfect description of where I grew up. The only part you missed was the DENIAL of it and the one who is blamed for all of it, which is the SCAPEGOAT.

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A scapegoat isn't just blamed they also have to absorb the shame of the rest of the family so it's like your family sacrificing you

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@@leahflower9924 I was the scapegoat. God it hurt being so alone. Today I’ve cut them all off, except for my older bro who sexually abused me-he’s getting a court case next year. I’ve also achieved a lot in life. I wonder if I wasn’t the scapegoat would I still have done all this.

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[@KiKi-te9yd]

At 26mins. I'm so grateful for this validation. When words aren't real (because of lies), actions become truth. And you live in a very unsafe place because you can't trust people. I spent a lot of time hiding in my bed, feeling hopeless over the last year since leaving this guy who made the family utterly dysfunctional, with no resolution, full of lies, power games and cheating. Think I'm finally starting to see some light again. I had a moody perfectionist for a mother who enjoyed her silent treatment, and a father controlling and disinterested in anything I liked. Managed to fall head over heels in love with a guy who managed to replicate both those things. I never felt good enough. Starting to see how deeply ingrained in me this is.

[@DonTwanX]

I feel so fucked up somedays. I look back at my teenage rebellion and wonder if I made my own misery and messed up my own life by making bad choices (smoked some pot, got straight A’s, most people thought I was a great kid, mom and stepdad said I tore the family apart…scapegoat! They blamed their fighting on me smoking a bowl). Writing this puts it into perspective. I had no support, no one to coach me through life. I was raised by wolves. Still trying to figure things out. I feel like I can’t bond with healthy people because my world view is so different. I feel utterly alone but I’m getting used to it. I feel like a bad person for believing what I believe and valuing what I value. One thing is certain, I did not get my needs met as a child/teen. I expected myself to achieve great things but it has been failure after failure. A tiny part of me still believes in myself. I don’t even know what success is but I know I want to have a self sustaining compound, an off grid oasis. I think the world is going to become unsafe and that most people will be on their own. Maybe this is just my trauma. I feel like any day the powers that be could shut down the food and turn off the electricity and we’d all be left to try to survive without industrial society. Maybe it’s just my trauma or maybe the people in power are as selfish and dysfunctional as my parents were! LOLOL

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I really relate to Tim Fletcher videos. I can only be willing to get better myself. I still interact with my very wounded family. It is very hard to do that for very long! Especially the one that insists every one else has problems. She doesn’t need any help. I wish there was a short cut to heal. An instant fix. A magic pill! I could help others get over it. Sadly, unwilling to look behind the curtain, live in misery and self pity. I’m don’t want that anymore. I want freedom. So I’ll keep plugging away. Thank you for continuing this work and posting this amazing content.

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Alanon since 1980 helped me too

[@mariacasabona4847]

Maybe you should add a Combo Dysfunctional family. I can I put my family in all those families descriptions.

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You have such an incredible grasp and command of this. Thank you.

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Wow! Amazingly detailed and comprehensive information!

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Those descriptions in this series are for everyone

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Thank you for what you do.. this is amazing.. all parents are perfectly imperfect and thats ok.. its how you talk about problems that matter..

[@Merzui-kg8ds]

Here's a variety of dysfunction: there are different standards of behavior for boys versus girls. Also, one child is forgiven for misbehavior and others are punished.

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Wow! A very powerful presentation.

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Perfect description. Thank you

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Well said, Tim. Thank you

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This was excellent

[@jajdude]

What was that famous quote from Tolstoy about unhappy families being unhappy in their own way? Was distracted thinking of that when he went into types of dysfunctional families.

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I don't see it that way... all dysfunction and misery are a pattern, not really unhappy in your own original way, but quite predictably so, the same as happy..

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l came from dysfunctional family where l was mistreated and abused. Tired of it l left at 17. They are despicable reptiles

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What if your family of origin has aspects from all of the 9 dysfunctional types? Mine does!!!!

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