Relationships and Complex Trauma - Part 6/11 - What is Love?

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[@TheViolettowne]

I can't stop watching these lectures. I am not an addict but the child of one with lot's of trauma.I was never around the bible and I was never interested in it. He makes it so interesting and real that now I want to try it out.

[@LisaValentine1]

I feel the same, but I’m more fascinated by astrology now since I figured out the planets are in control of all these crazy energies and drama we’ve all been experiencing.

[@Kali08012]

Your an addict to these lectures…. 😂

[@Kali08012]

@@LisaValentine1I use to do astrological charts in my 20’s, I no longer participate in those practices. The creator came into my life and flipped my world upside down, but in a positive way, in a way astrology never could. The wandering stars is what the ancients use to call the planets, and everything is electromagnetic but the Almighty is the one in control not the “planets.” I say this with all ❤️

[@mistybabcock9548]

I am not an addict either but has been raised by a narcissist. I believe and love the Bible and what he is saying has helped give me a solid foundation to recover from trauma. God is love and he loves us more than we understand.

[@michaellegood9498]

@@LisaValentine1😮

[@xeniyashilina6212]

These videos are so healing. I really appreciate these lectures. We are so lucky to have such precious information available these days

[@lindacarlton3154]

My parents went above and beyond to provide and meet our physical needs. But would then use it to beat us up with comments like "look at all we've given you, look at what we do for you"...strings attached to their idea of love. Thank you for all of your videos!!

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

This teaching made me cry and experience the joy of my salvation all over again. I was that prodigal…and now I am home…now, I’m working on getting healthy. Thank u!❤

[@Jewgirl2911]

I’m glad you said, the healthier you get, the more love you can give. Right now, it’s hard cause I don’t want to love even though I know it’s right. Praying for the day when I want to love!

[@KR_11117]

❤❤

[@DonTwanX]

That was incredible. Never heard God’s love described like that. Tim you are a channel for his goodness. Thank you so much. I’m in tears.

[@BLESS2803]

What a blessing theses videos have been to me thank you for sharing!

[@lorrainemorsch760]

AMEN!

[@BetsyRebel]

You are changing my life Tim! I'm so grateful for you. ❤

[@cp-ek5rs]

I love the way you bring God and the Bible into your lectures.Understand more now and can apply it in daily life.Thank you ❤

[@markthomas4083]

Thirty two minutes mark stressed the importance of God and the recognition of God. Very important part of the video (that says a lot bc this entire video is loaded w important lessons and facts).

[@HappyHolyHealthyLife]

Excellent teaching 👏 👍

[@sally5256]

This is one of the most beautiful ones you’ve done! Thank you! 🙏 ❤

[@mariahdenee]

This guys is amazing. Love this series. Life changing.

[@SarahDale111]

I've been no contact with my parents for the past half a year while I try to untangle from the damage of childhood neglect. How on earth do you reconcile with people who (unintentionally) hurt you? It's hard to want to return when home never felt safe.

[@sukhmanicambridge]

It is very hard. I've just reunited with my abusive father after 30 years. It was very frightening to meet him even though he's now very old. I had been working on my traumas in the mean time, and of course I went with a trusted friend. My father also had a friend present so I guessed he needed support too. The meeting was relatively ordinary, after all the fear and dread of it happening. We didn't talk about anything uncomfortable, but I maintained my awareness of the reality of what had happened throughout, because it was important to me not to `pretend`; that was very key for me. Afterwards I had a backlash, that I'd `let him off the hook`. I sat with this for a few days then I had a realization which for me was very important and consisted of this; only he can do the work. I cannot do it for him, even if I talked about the abuse with him, confronting him. Its only him who can do the work. I Realized also that I had done the work on myself and that I was in that regard, free. I was healed. I found all the energy that was invested in keeping him away was now available and my health has definitely improved. We maintain a relationship which for me is honest. For him; I cannot know. What I do know is the abuse has stopped. It's not continuing, even on a subtle level, which was my fear. I wonder if this may be difficult for some to understand. I'm just sharing my own experience and not making suggestions for others. I should also say that for many years I had a good therapist and we worked consistently on trauma, shame, intimacy, boundaries and abuse.

[@SarahDale111]

@@sukhmanicambridge Thank you for sharing your experience. My parents are in their 70's, so I doubt I have 30 years to find my way back home. I think because of that, I am feeling pressured. My father sent a message saying I'd "better get over my hate and anger before the door I slammed shut never opens again." (This coming from one of the angriest people I have ever known.) The thing is, I didn't slam a door shut. I walked away quietly and left the door open a crack in case I can find my way back. I don't feel any hate or anger. I feel hurt and sad and disappointed, but mostly I feel relief and peace. The truth hurts, but it set me free! Either he really doesn't know me at all, or he is projecting his own hard feelings onto me. Maybe both. His message to me felt like HE was slamming the door shut. I've always been punished for standing up for myself, for being me. It's not a game I want to play anymore. Maybe saying "I quit" is just how it ends.

[@GoodDay-ox1el]

It is not easy, but extremely rewarding of letting go of all that baggage. They are spiritually ill people who did not know any better. There is a great movie “The shack” that helped me tremendously to understand and let go of resentment.

[@la3380]

Going through the same thing 😔

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

I’m in the same place. I removed myself, worked on my issues by journaling out painful memories and then received deliverance and counseling. I just called my mom after a two year estrangement. I needed to get healthier before I began engaging. Praying for God to heal you in all those tender places.❤

[@mathembibhengu9751]

Emotion of love and love are two different things

[@cbruman2]

These lessons have truly been a blessing to me. Thank you

[@Chris-yf2zs]

11:30 Childs emotional needs

[@mathembibhengu9751]

Love is more than an emotion, it is a verb, it is a right action with a right motive.

[@natalyorlova5690]

Brilliant. Thank you very much!

[@josefinemilo]

Thank you so much 🙏❤️

[@tayloradams6508]

Even when I thought I had a good grasp and understanding of this entire cycle by way of past four years, looking inward to stop the cycle of toxic relationships in my life starting with my parents. I have already shared this series of your videos on to friends of mine who could relate. It has further deepend, my understanding, and my own self growth as a continue on this journey of healing, now that I unders stand. Thank you so much and Bravo for exploring all aspects in such an easy, and understanding way which led me along the way to many sudden epiphanies ❤😊😊

[@lorrainebajzik2022]

Thank you again for explaining love.I appreciate your teaching and for helping me navigate cptsd.

[@blankearth5840]

In a nutshell, I come from a toxic and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my sense of worthiness, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing, I escaped that and went to go be with extended family that found me on the internet, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately what seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my mental and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, it’s just bloody unfair to me how my fully related brother that I never got to grow up with had what they called a ‘privileged life’ while my upbringing pretty much got robbed by my narcissist father and that it’s something no kid should ever have to have gone through. Yet, people on the internet tell me “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates saying “well they raised your brother and not you why do you think you deserve everything what he always gotten.” …but to me it’s just really unfair, my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid has families they can live with… except for me I guess…

[@mettacine]

I hear you. I struggle with life not being fair. It's not fair and the past is inescapable. Finding my peace in life feels difficult. I pray everyday and just try to surrender my life to God. Finding peace here and now is tough. And wondering where God is...I decided that God needs to put love in my heart.

[@gameaudioshaman]

So good.

[@grandiesgarden175]

❤ Thanks

[@susuleta]

I am addicted to his lectures, The way he explains is like magic and instant healing ❤️‍🩹

[@punyashloka4946]

Thats explain how I think about love sadly 😔

[@fruitypebbles803]

You forgot the most common scenario, where a guy says he’ll change but then he doesn’t. How long are you supposed to wait? How many chances are you supposed to give?

[@TracySwenson-pq9he]

Is there not a part 5?

[@cjennings6179]

What is COMPASSIONATE LOVE?

[@RangerRich]

Is it really wise to have unconditional love for any adult?

[@hawk4366]

It's a tough one

[@yamicanada]

💖💖💖

[@cjennings6179]

What is Friendship....& developing Love?

[@muhammada.7139]

i try to join the channel to have acces to the members only videos and it doesnt porceed .. any solution ?

[@Lemoncare]

Yes. Yes that’s Love. Thank you.

[@ladyj5682]

Beginning ro see alot of us grew up with alot of unmet emotional needs bc lur parents did as well. With African Americans its ten times bc of the racism and discrimination faces and the fallout from it all. Black people have to be some of rhe strongest people in this world. Normal challenfes bring people down not includding added lauers to deny, oppress, make u feel inferior etc. Same can b for those with disabilities that they didnt chose for themselves

[@leludallasmultipass]

Sounds to me you should work on taking off the victim mindset

[@jomr4249]

There seems to be a narcissism problem with American blacks… that causes others to reject. It’s not really racism… it’s issues with the culture.

[@jomr4249]

I think there’s a narcissism issue in that culture.. that is causing people to reject … not really anything to do with skin

[@princonsuella_]

Wow, what a foreign concept to me.

[@kevinbissinger]

baby don't hurt me.

[@kevinbissinger]

don't hurt me

[@kevinbissinger]

no more

[@ProfessorBorax]

Baby don't hurt meee

[@astroflyinsights]

The tropes about Arabs are disappointing. On another note, what is the observable difference today between the prodigal son and the golden child?

[@pearceowen3075]

patriarchy is based on the idea that men should be in charge. that's not a valid concept. consider that benevolent dictatorship is still dictatorship

[@rascallyrabbit]

hmmm. Why is it not a valid concept? patriarchy does not mean dictatorship. some sinners may have devolved it into that, but God calls us to reason and free choice.

[@artandculture5262]

Anyone being a jerk and abusing power is bad whether female or male. That social justice programming is bad for health.

[@aeioubfjpv7591]

That is why I love the Bible, it tells you what the real patriarchy is

[@johnslaymaker]

Your content is excellent but the constant yelling is unbearable.

[@Kemosabe_International]

Great information. It's nice the way he tries to make the Patriarchy sound, but I disagree. Very few men are capable of love let alone unconditional love. Women love in that way naturally. The bible was written by men for men.

[@aliciaragsdale3220]

The Bible is the inspired word of God (not men) written for ALL people for all time, for all places.