TNC402- Narcissists get bored very easily. A bored narcissist can be very erratic

[@tranquility9325]

Since narcs tend to be adult toddlers, that explains the boredom.

[@MentalHealness]

😩😩

[@tranquility9325]

@@MentalHealness hey hey, you are in therapy which is an adult thing to do. The rest of them are not.

[@jenniferadderley2566]

💯 Facts I was dealing with one that was 51 years old. I wouldn't ever thought they act like toddlers at that age.. I guess is only a number🤷‍♀️

[@shenisenicole103]

Yes unfortunately around the development age of 2 or 3 emotionally. I’m not making excuses for them but that must be so painful . As a clinician I really desire to come up With better treatment. That’s a lot

[@tnt4648]

@@jenniferadderley2566 my ex is almost 76.... Just left him on Mothers Day. Age is definitely just a number!!!

[@SoigneWave]

Yessss. The boredom drove me crazy. I like peace, quiet, and relaxation and i always felt on edge with her because she constantly needed to be entertained. It was confusing dealing with an adult toddler.

[@msmellowmood84]

Omg this is such a good description of it.

[@highhonor106]

Perfect description

[@lexl3398]

Literally!!! I was comfortable with silences and he wasn’t. Had to talk to fill the silence & had to turn on tv or something 🥱🥱🥱

[@highhonor106]

@@lexl3398 omg the tv 🙄🙄. And it always had to be on full blast volume

[@LethalWeapon73]

@@highhonor106 Especially when you're trying to rest.

[@mzyotruthnlove8263]

You can't make a narcissist happy because they are not happy with themselves. They need to be healed and find peace within. They're bored with themselves because they don't know who they are. They don't have a core inner self.

[@megaexidor]

Exactly 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Truth🔥

[@hix9306]

I needed to hear this

[@GRACEABERDEAN01]

Well put!

[@tnt4648]

@@hix9306 Me too !!! 😢

[@hix9306]

@@tnt4648 how are you dealing with it ?

[@GhettoBank]

I never get bored being with me. I love solitude, my solitude.

[@lionatticus9743]

I was thinking the same thing. Like I’m trying to relate to the feeling, but it’s really hard.

[@MrDDUDLEY10]

Same.. it’s peaceful ❤️

[@theseeker1948]

They try to find happiness outside of themselves and most can’t sit with themselves. Totally makes sense.

[@MentalHealness]

💯💯

[@keejackson2121]

I can believe this. I remember always getting a sense of anxiety knowing that the relationship was becoming mundane and a sense that the person was beginning to lose interest. But I assured myself that it's not my responsibility to keep anyone interested or entertain. I am not a magician.

[@meagainsttheworld4749]

Lol my ex used to ask for sex by msging saying it’s been two weeks . Not even once he try lead me to the bedroom like any normal man. At times it made me wonder if he was gay 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@thisguy8224]

I can attest to this. The behavior I was used to was very similar to this. “You know we haven’t fought in a while…it feels weird….I feel like starting an argument to make it interesting again” Said with a smile. Blew my mind.

[@Neidytrozeski]

Rebuke it in Jesus name. They will flee from you!

[@cherieswanson7498]

Omg, I used to think and tell him, I think you start arguments out of border, I'm not sure if you noticed but it seems to be every 2 weeks. Then I was told that's stupid, why would I do that, I don't want to argue. But every 2 weeks or right before a scheduled date night. Covid did heighten his erratic actions.

[@keejackson2121]

Smh

[@louisleary7116]

Unbelievable…….smh

[@thisguy8224]

@@louisleary7116 I thought so too. But always felt like the crazy one. “Maybe I shouldn’t be content with consistent normalcy”. What a mess. Her dad called me tonight. Instant decline and block. Flying monkeys are real. 5 months no contact…tonight set me back a lottle

[@queensanchez4843]

Most Narcs are bored with themselves!!!

[@MentalHealness]

😩😩

[@Steph_1111]

My husband (24 years together) told me on more than one occasion that “Sometimes I feel like you keep me from my ultimate happiness.” He eventually walked out; he never defined what “happiness” meant to him. Your video is spot on as to how he acted throughout our marriage. I could only define him as “restless”. Being in a relationship with him was exhausting. Only until I was set free could I look back and reflect how awful it truly was.

[@samia6888]

“Happiness” means “multiple exciting partners with no commitment” to many of these people.

[@Steph_1111]

@@samia6888 Absolutely wouldn’t be surprised. :/

[@tazmania201]

@@samia6888 nail on THEE head!!!

[@iloveyoulawliet179]

@@samia6888 you mean "multiple exciting partners *who are 100% committed to me* with no commitment *from me*"

[@samia6888]

@@iloveyoulawliet179 absolutely what I meant.

[@staceyangers9839]

The narcissist causes the monotony. They rarely want to do different things. Guy I dated didn't and had every opportunity to switch it up but always took me to the same places. In a lot of ways, they create a lot of their own boredom.

[@daniellemorse6929]

This is so true. They complain about being bored and yet when we make suggestions to go to different places or do different activities, they just ignore us and then take us to the same places. And they wonder why they are so bored!

[@ichisany]

Totally agree, I may think they don't do it too becauase they don't want to see you happy

[@rolypolymom]

He was SO much fun the first 3 months, but after that I couldn't get him to do anything... he became so boring to be around, and if I was having fun by myself I got dirty looks.

[@MentalHealness]

that happens

[@rolypolymom]

@@MentalHealness do they hate to see you happy? I'm a happy person by nature and anytime I was he looked like it annoyed him.

[@AlannaI2502]

Same

[@msliberated3899]

@@rolypolymom Yes! It boils their blood!

[@hankhill3417]

They need chaos, drama, excitement. Being alone in a room is torture

[@dyoung2739]

The narc that I know was always bored even if we were traveling. To me, his was more impatience than boredom. Just about drove me nuts.

[@MentalHealness]

😵‍💫

[@highhonor106]

My narc’s father told me to make sure I keep his son busy and always have something to do to preoccupy his time if not he will find trouble. The narc is 40, I’m not running a day care 🙄

[@tranquility9325]

Amen!

[@keejackson2121]

Lmbo @ I'm not running a daycare. Seriously

[@jb-ze1yh]

Yup. Starting drama , cheating, manipulating. I’m happier away from the last toxic/narcissistic ( we share a child) person. I hate to say it, because I don’t even want our child to have a relationship with him. No accountability no inner peace. SMH ps I was happy with the quiet time, I spent most of 2020 pregnant and away from this person . It was a blessing in disguise. 🙏 And in my opinion narcissistic are boring… I was bored with my sons father and felt stuck with him. It was a blessing that I caught him sneaking around because it was a great reason to say “peace out”.

[@Mags765]

🙏🏼

[@syahusha7776]

Sounds like mine. That is a wolf he freaking have children with me and then told them that he didn't want to leave me because I was pregnant. My children is now 13 and 14 and they can't stand him. My daughter, the 13 year old told me dad don't love you. He cheated! Damn! His son, said dad doesn't even care about you! Damn. They don't wanna be around him because hes so overbearing and toxic. But he wants to tell the court that I am an unfit mother. He contests the divorce until now. He won't file the divorce paper. I will never take a cheater back. He tried to emotionally and mentally kill me and drain me of all the love hes supposed to give me by was to give me by giving me the silent treatment. It's been a strong 4 months of complete silence and I changed my phone number. I stopped talking to his narcissist family. It was hurting at 1st but then it makes so much sense that it gets better. I'm. I'm better without his demonic behavior. It gets better.

[@Kindnessisfree83]

This here I mean bored to death with them and they suck the fun outta everything.

[@mynameonly579]

😂😂😂😂me too, he even asked why I wasn't going to fight for the marriage 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Kindnessisfree83]

@@mynameonly579 like why fight to be in a funk. Go cast darkness somewhere else.

[@Nancy-yw1rr]

I think my ex narc also has ADHD. He got bored easily, and could never just relax. It was go, go, go every waking moment.

[@tnt4648]

Yes my ex narcissist also had adhd, is a sex addict and recovering alcoholic.... Fun fun fun huh??? 😭😢😥😢

[@Nancy-yw1rr]

@@tnt4648 Definitely not fun. My ex is into porn and is a binge drinker. They seem to be variations of a single person.

[@hix9306]

@@Nancy-yw1rr is he still into it or gave it up ?

[@hix9306]

@@tnt4648 describe sex addict ?

[@HaveFun-All]

Most narcissist don’t have adhd. They are just unhappy with their work ethic and search for explanation/stimulants in order to play victim/take meds. That allowes them to use adhd as an excuse for all life problems. That’s what we are thought in therapy school. They can easily fake the diagnosis in order to get what they want.

[@djmikey97]

Very accurate! The worst punishment is being alone with nothing to do for a Narc. I have been through 40 cars, many home improvements and homes, new hobbies/intersts and not just trying them out. When I found something, I liked, I went full throttle on implementing my newest discovery in any way possible. That hobby and interest died, and I moved on to the next. This could be women, new friends, pets, materialistic things and whatever I could find to take away the main issue of me not being happy in the end. I go through all types of phases of likes and new interests and want to compete to better than the person I just met. It’s crazy in the end, I am aware and cannot stop it however I have learned to control it with therapy and self-awareness. We are prisoners in our own mind, and nothing will make us happy full time. Only moments.

[@kellithomas9080]

I respect you for recognizing and being honest. My ex was the same way. I believe he wanted to do right, but couldn’t master the discipline portion of being in a committed relationship with only one person. He definitely got bored easily and kept his “friends” around and would get super angry at me for holding him accountable and telling him my issues with him. He perceived it as major criticism and a lot of the things he held onto was his way of surviving thru life. I get it now, but I’m done putting up with the toxicity. I hope one day he will master those demons within himself and find peace. Best of luck to you! Stay strong and keep being self aware and remain in therapy. Xoxo

[@hix9306]

Damn I can relate to this a lot ! I use to think it was maybe I grew up poor . Other kids had this and that and I didn’t so when I grew up I wanted these nice things . I didn’t want my kids to need for anything like I did . I’ve had some semi success/fame online , me and my wife have pretty good jobs . I can buy what I want my kids don’t go without. I have bought cars and regret it the same day or want to just get another. I ask myself why am I still chasing happiness? I have been disrespectful to my wife and kids . This whole time trying to be this perfect person and realizing I’m not ! It seems like I have it all but inside I feel empty

[@serena7726]

GOD will fill the void

[@MsNieshaBean]

​@@kellithomas9080 Thank you such for sharing your storiy/experience with us. You're story sounds exactly like mine. I believe he truly was happy and wanted to treat this relationship better but he couldn't master self discipline. He became violent and he blamed me for the very things he was doin.

[@margaretwince2748]

Having moments of happiness is normal. No one is happy all the time.

[@simoneni-kohl2115]

I went thru all this. I would always say to him I can’t be 10 different women for you. It was crazy how he tryed to change me smh

[@godsfavor6939]

Soooooooooooooo true!!! My daughter would always try to change things up to get and keep her narc boyfriend’s attention. It didn’t work so ladies stop trying. It’s a waste of time and effort. Save the efforts for someone who will actually appreciate and cherish it. 💜

[@Jo-em1fg]

Yep easily bored and then they say I need space I’m tired , I need to work on my career , I need to plan MY life, that’s when you realize that there was never a relation ship between two people it’s just about the narcissist They get bored and need to find new supply, cheat, Find a fantasy. That won’t last cos they will get bored with that too.

[@daniellemorse6929]

Boredom equates to trouble for narcs, unfortunately. It's a real shame that it is hard for them to find happiness without seeking supply or addictions.

[@Geny-dn5fv]

I think this recurrent cycle of searching "highs" really exhaust them as well and degrades their feeling of self and owned identity. I think deep down narcissist might envy people who are truly settled and at peace with who they are. What do you think?

[@brucefrasier1475]

Word!...They really know that they're not 'normal'! And the 'true' normalcy of life is only an 'unattainable' grasp out of their reach! Their arms are too short to 'grasp' what's 'REAL'! They don't know how to 'spell' or 'define' the word 'PEACE'!

[@Geny-dn5fv]

@@brucefrasier1475 Wow, that seems like torture to me, but its true, they're just build differently.

[@brucefrasier1475]

@@Geny-dn5fv True dat'! They're absolutely 'wired' differently 'within'👍🏽!

[@msliberated3899]

They are definitely jealous and envious of your peace, especially your peace of Mind because their mind is unstable and mentally deranged and chaotic, sorry but I’ve been married to one for 17 years and it’s a nightmare to be around which causes me great anxiety, I can’t wait to leave!

[@CassandraArtrice]

Yes, trying to keep him entertained and satisfied was exhausting I ran out of supply

[@useyourwings793]

Mine required me a lot of effort and attention in the relationship, never was enough. When we moved together (8 months of relationship, he insisted a lot in living together) he increased the demands, i tried my best, i tried to do all perfect to avoid his punishments and after all that effort one day in the kitchen he said to me "perfection is boring". So no peace for me: minimum "mistake" i would be punished; "perfection" then i would be considered boring. Once i left the relationship my status was exhausted.

[@Tokirus420]

When my ex took Adderall, it calmed him down. Prior he was super erratic, experimenting w multiple drugs- if he wasn’t doing something stupid he was sleep. It worked but he didn’t like the calm, so he didn’t take it for 2 days and ended up being arrested for assault.

[@Dansyoung]

Yet the narcissist themselves is usually boring. Relying on you constantly lol

[@collectivemindsunique7945]

Exactly lol

[@MentalHealness]

🙃🙃🥴🥴

[@judith5177]

Yes definitely. If I didn’t have a plan for the day he would go out drinking all day.

[@kellithomas9080]

Yes!!! My ex was so boring smh I kept trying to find the nice and happy guy I met in the beginning…only to find that he never existed smh a hard pill to swallow once you recognize it.

[@alexandrias8533]

Exactly!!

[@derricksimpson1105]

You hit it right on the head with covid and boredom with a narcissist. I went thru pure hell during it. My routine did not stop as far as working and tried 2 convince me 2 join the boredom and not provide the way that she wanted me 2. Thank God She left me!!!

[@missellz7630]

My sons dad got bored of me after 3 months and IV noticed it with other narcs too, 3 months is when you see the boredom. With you kicking in it’s true what lees saying💯

[@Missybella92227]

Ironically, they’re not amusing people themselves 😂

[@canadianbabe5970]

I just broke up with who I believe is a narcissist. He is undiagnosed, but shows all the signs. And he couldn't care less. He got caught in a lie... He "promised " Not to do this particular thing again... Got caught up.. And denied it, until his buddy told on him... And I left.. And he blamed me and told me I was trying to control him because I expected him to keep his word??? Wtf.. I'm mind fucked beyond belief

[@MentalHealness]

yea you gotta stay away from that

[@kellithomas9080]

Please don’t go back. My ex did the same thing to me over and over. I finally had enough after 11 years. I’ll never go back. Please stay strong. These people are evil and will suck the life outta you! Don’t let them.

[@LethalWeapon73]

@@kellithomas9080 My ex also of 28 yrs.

[@canadianbabe5970]

@@kellithomas9080 since my comment, he has begged and pleaded for me to take him back. Showed up at my work, crying, threatening suicide.. You name it . He feels like he can just move however and a theatrical apology will make things better. What would have made things better is if after the first time he messed up, he would have actually changed along with his apology. But this has just turned into a hamster wheel of continuous behavior.

[@Jo-em1fg]

Thank you for this video Lee

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@shericearchie8412]

I remember one time the power went out in our house and I got some candles out and got a book and it was so quiet and peaceful to just sit and read and relax but my toxic ex freaked out and could not handle the quiet

[@theseeker1948]

I have a lot of these traits when it comes to boredom but I have empathy. 🧐

[@nuninuninu]

This is a part of their arrested development. Much like a child needs to be entertained. Also the way some children will seek any attention even if its for being bad. I am hoping that everyone is either broken up with/divorced the narcissists. healing from the narcissist, know the red flags of narcissism, and living their best lives.

[@msliberated3899]

Almost there! ❤

[@pattiaden5946]

I left in September of 2019, and the pandemic hit in early March around my area and not long after that I heard about lots of domestic violence going on and I thought to myself I am so glad that I got out when I did!!! I shudder to think if I would have stayed what would have happened.

[@drebugsita]

My narc ex's best buddy commented that before me my ex always went through girlfriends because he got bored. Little did his buddy know that at that point my ex and I were basically over - rather than seeing it as the compliment that it was meant as I recognized it as another red flag. I was suffering the effects of my ex's boredom: the put downs, gaslighting, drama, etc. Not to mention he had "failed to getting off of" dating apps at the beginning because as he admitted he was "addicted" to them. He overtly led me on saying he had gotten off of the one we met on, conveniently leaving out the fact that he was still on others. It all made sense in hindsight

[@alyndria428]

This explains so much!

[@alicehonestymanson1798]

Yes, all that is true. However, for me anyway, I've grown really bored of trying to entertain someone who gives no input about what he does or doesn.t want. And has shared so little of himself that who the hell would know anyway?

[@brendaleverick3655]

Good to know. Thanks, Lee.

[@MentalHealness]

you got it

[@Robbie09]

I thank you, Lee, for your insight and validation. I’m not sure how long ago you began this channel, but I wish I had known between 2015-2019. It would have saved me and the kids a lot of pain.

[@LS-hk9vl]

Wow!!!!!!!! Our problems really escalated with Covid and this enforced boundary makes sense!!!!!!!!! Thank you!

[@blossom3468]

Bored, depressed and haunted!

[@HonestyIsAVirtue7]

When my ex narc husband discarded me, he told me he would be back when he gets bored.

[@flaco0526]

A narcs joy is destroying lives

[@MsJbetancur]

Fascinating. So my ex has many narcissistic traits and needed to be entertained 24/7 in *extreme*, expensive, spectacular, and thrill-seeking ways. The cost didn't matter, what I wanted or didnt want to do never mattered. He was never ever one to pick a fight (if anything i was). He more-so would just immerse himself in his hobbies and friends and fully neglect our marriage. Is the "picking a fight" piece needed to meet the qualifiers of a narcissist?

[@sallyg4544]

Well was he setting you up for a fight knowing you will get triggered by his “neglect” of the marriage? I mean you must have communicated to him 100 different ways your feelings and he must have just disregarded you to feel that way. So if that is the case, then who really instigated the fight? Pushing you to your limits by their passive aggressive behavior is them instigating a fight if you ask me.

[@buggijai1246]

They definitely can not focus

[@MentalHealness]

🙃🙃

[@stephlm79]

Different issue- Dr. Ramani explains that narcissists feel a constant threat from the outside/ their hyper vigilant nature takes up their processing faculties and then affects their focus.

[@Robbie09]

NPDs will never fully have true lasting happiness. Their “boredom” reason for finding that next high of what soothes their self-hatred (boredom) is similar to a baby incessantly crying until an outside source comes to soothe them. NPDs are unable to self-soothe their negative emotions and boredoms. They are also unable to just be in their quietness & peace because it forces them to think (NPDs worst nightmare--think about themselves).

[@skyinverted]

More truth from Mr. Hammock. 🙏

[@cindysmitg9699]

Never satisfied...

[@MentalHealness]

🎯

[@elbareyes2838]

Thanks for this info👏

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@CHRISTMARY-jl7lr]

Inside you have to look, create, create

[@MentalHealness]

😩😩

[@CHRISTMARY-jl7lr]

Meditation, love in all and heart chakras, let's recalls avatars, Mary, Christ, Shiva, Shakti, saints. Only they heal. You can contact me. We are spiritual being with a body

[@neojackson716]

Dude I literally just got out of a 2 week relationship because I was bored and now looking back at my older relationships it was for the same reason, but I'm never bored with myself

[@110311DONTWANTCHANNE]

Have you done anything on narcissistic amnesia/toxic memory/selective memory? This is one example. 2 years ago because of covid, my state only had absentee ballots. You could mail it in, drop it off at a special collection site at any time, or drop it off at a polling place the day of the election. My narc had a melt down over it. He demanded his right to vote in person on the day of the election using a voting machine. He insisted the absentee ballots were not secure. We spent a LONG time discussing where the special drop box was.....on the very next block.....walk down our block, make a right and a quick left...go half way down that block and the drop box was there....probably about a 3 minute walk. We went over it again and again. He couldn't understand where it was. 2 days later, he says to me----his buddy just told him about a special drop box for ballots and asked where it was for our town. He had no recollection (or so he says and acts) that we discussed it at length 2 days earlier...he really look confused like it was the 1st he heard of such a thing.... i know now that he is just blowing me off when we discuss things and can't be bothered to remember....there have been many other incidents....and then when i resorted to contacting his buddy/lawyer because he kept 'forgetting' something important...he went off saying it was the 1st and only time he forgot something. i was actually shocked tonight....he remembered something I needed him to do for our cats...now I am confused because that is unusual for him to remember....there were 2 other incidents recently regarding the cats when he forgot something they needed. also, for the longest time, i thought he had a legit hearing problem (he's about 60). he seems oblivious to things going on around him. he seems to be hyper focused on him and his interests (sports/finance)

[@bonniekeyes7863]

I totally understand everything you’re describing. Lived it!!! It’s enough to make you feel crazy. Just know…..the dumb act is just that, an act. These folks know what they’re doing, they know. And if they don’t know, they won’t take any steps to stop the pattern of behavior once it’s been pointed out.

[@110311DONTWANTCHANNE]

@@bonniekeyes7863 i really think he is so oppositional/disinterested that he does really forget a lot. While we are having the conversation about the ballots, he is thinking about his sports betting or how his investments are going....having a conversation with himself in his head and not really paying attention to our conversation. I really think he had no clue that we had the conversation 2 days later. He was so opposed to using a paper ballot he couldn't accept it and completely dismissed the conversation.

[@verjoe2001]

That use to happen to me all the time when I started dating a narc. When I notice he want to skip out I upgrade myself real quick in intimacy then I would throw him out before he discarded me. Then he be confused....

[@verjoe2001]

But narc do get bored quick. If they leave out let them go in reality

[@enlightenmentbarbie]

Knew one with a tattoo that said “bored.” Omg

[@angelas.3645]

But that’s not people problem, they have to learn to love themselves.

[@MentalHealness]

💯💯

[@EsotericOccultist]

Damn this is so accurate! I know someone just like this 😂

[@valenciawalker6498]

I’ve noticed.

[@MentalHealness]

😩

[@karenwiggins1120]

This is so true.! Boredom

[@donnashaw6890]

Mine likes to go to the store and spend money he don’t have. He cannot budget monkey anyways.

[@katiejean1288]

Mine just chose to stay unemployed for the past year. I refused to help financially and he withdrew $80k from his retirement...he only ever made $50k per year. There is nothing to show for it except a gaegae full of woodworking tools and now an exwife

[@ChevyC-jo9pw]

Is that why we always broke up in the 12 years we were together constantly off and on back and forth? Was because she was bored

[@MentalHealness]

quite possibly

[@kellithomas9080]

It’s so crazy!!!! Good luck to you!

[@newgotham8105]

You rock brother

[@hankhill3417]

How can you not have empathy for others? It’s so disgusting

[@MelaninQueen93]

My narc drinks heavy when he is bored then he will fall asleep wake up on edge and back to get more drink or messes with me by talking “playful” shit or would say “we haven’t fought in a while a fight is going to happen soon”

[@GantzGeo]

So they get bored of their marriage?

[@Nina-vv3ev]

Selfish & impulsive behavior for sure

[@hix9306]

How do you find that joy and stop chasing ?

[@MentalHealness]

im trying to figure that out as well

[@AshionistafyYourself]

@@MentalHealness stop seeking excitement and be bored and see how long you can be bored. Like atleast a year. I promise you wont be swept away into an abyss. 😊

[@MsFantasy18]

No wonder my husband finally decided to leave me he was bored he went got a new apartment I have no idea what his doing it hurt but now I’m so happy he left me

[@sunnybein1]

'Boredom' isn't the true problem...it's an NPDs inability to 'emotionally' connect to life and people thus inability to derive 'meaning' from what activity they are doing and from the people they share their lives with..Alexythmia is at the root of that (which an Interoception curriculum/course can help them to develop).Activities and people NEED emotional investment to derive 'depth of meaning' from...which is why if you don't invest that you don't get the 'satisfaction' the 'satiation' from...it's just an 'empty shallow pursuit' WHICH IS WHY they are 'disatisfied' not 'bored' and move from one person ...activity..and to the next and the next because they aren't 'connected' to their 'own feelings and emotions.' Interoception course can change and heal that.

[@LaKiaTheSeer]

It's the hair clips for me....my daughter has locs too. 🙂

[@packdog3212]

I tend to get bored of relationships and today i broke up with my girlfriend because of this reason what can i do to get help?

[@gottahavefaith2526]

Everything make narcs unhappy. Their just miserable beings. Simple as that.

[@danovangrinnell4479]

Her thing was let me c who else can i sleep with without me finding out

[@annesummers8612]

Omg ur from Greenville N.C. I'm living in Greenville now lol

[@MentalHealness]

Greensboro lol. I talk fast

[@danacooper3646]

@@MentalHealness I'm moving back to Kernersville in two months. I signed the sell of property yesterday. You'll be in my neck of the woods.

[@beautifulqueen3887]

My guy friend kept telling me he bored i didn't understand it, because he always seem busy to me😂😂😂 i think he was bored with me 🤦🤷

[@Tigereseye_and_toil]

It's funny you talked about ur wife leaving and coming back so casually. The yoyoing is the only way to be long term with a narcissist lol

[@RuAce22]

So he will be bored even more now. Apparently I triggered him and I am toxic so he left me and blocked me everywhere. Then I go to a friend's DJ set where he never wanted to go with me or take me, holy baby jesus he was there on time and didnt leave until I left. A friend told me he was looking for me.

[@chinarowe1585]

😂

[@rebeccaboyar7072]

Lee I have a question. After my first time relationship with a Narricist. Which is my X now. I feel our situation turned him on how to pray more easy on other woman who have a past. Single mother with children. Trying to make it. When before me his X was so head over heals questioned nothing. The love bombing made her so blinded to who he really was, she never figured it out before she left. With me I got side swipped too but I put the pieces together over time. Finally seeing what he really was. I wasn't love gaga over him and I questioned many things. I did have love for him but not the blind side. I questioned alot. Finally I figured it out. I was put in the discard faze and devaluing began. Can you touch down on how they hone their disorder so to speak. Like start to really learn how they can fool more people. Before a lot of work needed to be done to fool others. Now it seems as if they learned how to pray more better. Is this wrong to feel this way?

[@tranquility9325]

Nope they get better through practicing. Practice makes perfect. They also find out what your passions are so they can take them from you.

[@sharoncox6478]

I was literally told this, I get bored so I come up and seek you out. How can I get a conversation with you ?? 41 years, this is my 4th time moving out.

[@Ryl3925]

Yeah I'm sure my husband was extremely bored of me. I'm more of a homebody and only go out on occasions he would party every weekend in San Diego. Idk

[@donnashaw6890]

Borden can get you in trouble too.

[@Jordanlewis316]

My wife raged at me the entire pandemic drained me, now discarded me now that its over and wants to hit the club

[@elvirasmith5483]

When it came to sex he was boring!!! Wanted to control the bedroom!!!

[@whitecollarhater9727]

I used to say that about psychopaths but I was joking 🤣 I was right then they got nothing better to do.

[@chosennubiangoddessanunnak1391]

That’s y i give him a lil drama 🎭

[@뿡뿡이-d4q]

i had a dream last night him and his new supply broke up.... and the time was 111...he does seem bored shes clingy haha and i was at least fun around him he cant replace me wuth anyone haha. and y do i feel my intuitions tell me hes gonna reach out soon .....🤔

[@kristina.]

When lockdown started, he bacame physically violent. And I was pregnant at that time.

[@drebugsita]

Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry you went through that! I hope you got out and are safe now!

[@kristina.]

@@drebugsita I left him one year ago, after5,5 years ofmarriage. Thank you ❤️

[@asdwasd5823]

poster is good

[@harvey1547]

i love a bored narcissist these days. send 'em to me, or come to me for a strategy.

[@ladyluctama15]

Ummm hi , strategy seeker here 😭🤣

[@harvey1547]

@@ladyluctama15 here to help! what's your preferred mode of communication? instagram maybe if you want a conversation? i got strategies.. seriously.

[@hix9306]

What would you do just curious?

[@harvey1547]

@@hix9306 about what specifically? there are infinite ways narcs manifest their neediness.

[@hix9306]

@@harvey1547 just in general like give me a rundown on what you would do ?

[@kionnapayne3020]

My narc just told me this morning I ruined his Father’s Day! After asking him to put on one of those porn videos he has in his fone he be watching, lied said he doesn’t watch poem and hasn’t in month blah blah blah, I pull out his fone he ask me to show him the proof. Scrolled back to my birthday when I was at work and out of town earlier that day and boom! All meetup, back page, tender, u name it plus regular porn sites all down his timeline. Even with proof, I ruined HIS DAY??? 🤣🤣🤣🤣funny thing is I seriously just wanted him to share what turns him on with me, but nope, I get lies upon lies upon lies!

[@GrandAirTrineAstro]

Snap...narc gets phone call from new male fuel source (gym buddy: reminds him of his ideal younger self / son who cut him out) he turned to me: chop chop he wants breakfast let's go...we are still in bed and what I would like to do was irrelevant. That was the LAST straw. Told him enjoy your new supply it won't last long as he is a massive narcissist too and we both know narc on narc friendship don't last. They discussed me behind my back, young guy was jealous of him spending time with me, after he took offence at my realist response to question he asked (I'm a multiple BB champion and he asked how ready is he for a comp and I was honest that he had a long way to go - that was a narc injury to him). Told him to find himself a purpose. Started an autobiography: ghostwriter writes it, I was editing it - he did sweet FA. I have a purpose - my art, astrology and I am never bored but he simply doesn't understand the concept. His 'ex' would try to reinvent herself and stil failed to hold hist attention past a few weeks. They are thieves of joy. You suggest things that might help them but by default as it is me who suggested it he rejects it.

[@mathews0618]

This coulda been a 1 minute video. Holy crap

[@MentalHealness]

🤭

[@anncrosby6157]

Your just like a toy you play with it and then throw it away and look for a new one 🙄

[@MentalHealness]

sounds about right

[@jf8468]

Gods grace is sufficient.

[@doubleL99]

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

[@MentalHealness]

✨✨✨

[@Neidytrozeski]

That’s not boredom, that’s Satan and his demons using you!

[@insanehollow13]

Wow seriously!?

[@tranquility9325]

Yup

[@MentalHealness]

😩

[@verjoe2001]

Your forgiven for your boredom lol

[@MentalHealness]

😵😅