To be Woman

For Educational Purposes - Falmouth University
MORRIS_OLIVE-Editing&Post-production-FIL201_2023
vm.tiktok.com/ZGefYWYqY/
-
Film's in order of appearance...
-
I, Tonya
Black Swan
Gone Girl
Mamma Mia, Here we go again
Fleabag
Sidewalk
Midsommar
Thor
Star Wars, The Phantom Menace
Marriage Story
Oppenheimer
Barbie
Uptown Girls
Little Women
The Devil Wears Prada
Portrait of a Lady on Fire
Lady Bird
La La Land
Ready or Not
Little Miss Sunshine
Mamma Mia
Legally Blonde
Sister Rosetta Tharpe - Up Above My Head
Om Shanti Om
Birds Of Prey
Thor: Ragnarok
Wonder Woman
Euphoria
Everything Everywhere All at Once
Barbie of Swan Lake
Poor Things
Jo Jo Rabbit
The Help
Brave
Les Misérables
Promising Young Woman
Gentlemen Prefer Blondes
Captain Marvel
Pulp Fiction
12 Years a Slave
A League of Their Own
Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
Lilo & Stitch
Alien
The Hunchback of Notre Dame
Black Panther
The Boy in the Striped Pajamas
Frida
Avengers: Endgame
Hereditary
Hidden Figures
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
Kill Bill
Mad Max
Funny Face
Priscilla, Queen of the Desert
Joan of Arc
Jurassic Park
Amélie
-
Music:
Abbey - Mitski
Think Of Me Once In A While, Take Care - Take Care
-

[@typing6921]

To be a woman is to perform.

[@fadeath201]

this is not an experience unique to women.

[@Amy.Stewart]

​@@fadeath201 It is not unique but it is a constant in women

[@firstnamelastname9219]

uhhhh dismissing the male experience like that is pretty toxic lmao @@Amy.Stewart

[@AninaScharer]

@@firstnamelastname9219 you do realize this is a video about women and she did not in any way mention that men don't have to perform too or that it cannot be constant, this comment shows the point of this video even more

[@EmmyDawnbrooke]

oh boohoo the poor men. @@firstnamelastname9219

[@ameliap9442]

I feel so unbelievably understood right now

[@Totally-Not-Harp]

The feeling when ur putting on makeup and it’s not making u feel prettier is the worst feeling ever

[@MrPartyplopper]

ow how I envy women! be patient us men who are wise wish good health over beauty anyway. please don't perform, be the real you and it will inspire more to do too

[@FlorinD-pl1fs]

@@MrPartyplopperThank you for this. It really means the world to me to hear you say that, and I know it does for countless other women and girls, too! 😍😍😭😭🥹🥹🙏🙏

[@FlorinD-pl1fs]

@@Totally-Not-HarpLiterally. 😭😭💔💔

[@FlorinD-pl1fs]

@ameliap9442 Same! 😍😍😭😭🥹🥹🙏🙏

[@aya75203]

i wish i could listen to that barbie speech for the first time again

[@trixiematthews2408]

me too i swear to god it made me have a mental breakdown in the movies

[@noriakilerolerolerokakyoin591]

Fr, I didn't cry, but teared up as I exchanged knowing glances with my friends.

[@xButterfly_xxx]

i didnt like barbie movie because i felt like i was getting bullied when they were talking about celulite being bad and flat feet😭

[@aya75203]

@@xButterfly_xxx then u didnt get the point of the movie and that scene actually

[@lauraboyd5510]

I cried. It was everything

[@Mjane33]

Being a woman…is like the ballet,the aesthetic is so beautiful and the dancing is so perfect but the pain you feel in your feet ,the perfection on your talent is just …pain

[@Mars-eg9bg]

and even better, you can never complain or show that pain, and everyone has to compete for the same role

[@nyx6879]

Did you come up with that? Cos..... DAMN SON🤌🏻

[@hudycat]

Spot on analogy

[@editinq.nayvee]

ye

[@Penguinee.]

womp womp

[@grrrfield5660]

begging the men in the comments just for a second to not fucking feel attacked but to fucking *listen* to what we’re saying

[@notpostingx5035]

Thank you they’re all so fucking annoying they insert themselves into anything even into a place where women are empathising with eachother and supporting eachother

[@biggie395]

Sadly a lot more of them are quicker to defend than listen.

[@qube7590]

@@biggie395 I don‘t see what there is to defend; this video didn’t attack us. I‘m listening.

[@thewrathofdumbledore4867]

I am so mad about how normalized it is to attack women for expressing their struggles. yeah, we also have problems, but take that somewhere else from here. like how about in a male mental health video, a terf comments "white men crying about their struggles, while us cis women are always unfairly treated. It has happened yes, but let us just quit it, now. and be understanding and supporting towards one another.

[@Coastersnoot]

Yeah I feel attacked but who tf said we weren't listening

[@olafsomething]

The pain monologue from fleabag changed my life's trajectory

[@aubreyplazasuncle]

@@suburbanyute340 you are bitter and a little sad. how curious

[@guillaumeniel2737]

@@suburbanyute340imagine being angry and sad to the point where you have to be hateful under every single video about woman. You’re disgraceful.

[@gracecrxmb2642]

Why do you feel so threatened@@suburbanyute340

[@jessiemackinnon47]

​@@aubreyplazasuncle what??

[@aubreyplazasuncle]

@@jessiemackinnon47 a troll deleted their comment

[@tuoctran43]

Ladies, love each other. We’re all we have

[@running2348]

💙🤚🏻

[@BigBananaBus]

well... that and men looking after you since the dawn of time but sure

[@Ranger891]

You’re correct@@BigBananaBus

[@Maria-dn5df]

I understand where you're coming from and you may be right, but it no longer feels that way. Of course there are still many men that love and look out for our women but it no longer feels like that for the majority of women. What the original commenter was trying to say is that since women no longer feel that men are on their side, they now feel like they only have each other to rely on.

[@BigBananaBus]

I cant see my other reply so please let me know if you see it thank you :)@@Maria-dn5df

[@butterflyeffect6791]

Don't be skinny, don't be fat, don't be muscular to hurt the ego of others, don't be smart, don't be dumb, don't be a showoff, but don't be shy. Eat healthy, but allow yourself a burger, read books, be obsessed with video games and have knowledge about cars, but also be helpless so the man has something to do. Be strong, be weak, be a single mom while being a loving mother and wife. As a woman, you're told to be everything at once or you're nothing.

[@Chronischer_Innenbahn-Laeufer]

But why does it affect you what others simply tell you to do? Edit: And dont answer: "Because that is what is taught to us our whole life". I know that. My question is: what is STOPPING you, from stopping that now. You are a huge community, half the world actually, and do not owe anyone. Especially if you are grown up. Is it time to stop only commiserating yourself online? I do have empathy for you all, and your situation, and of course it is terrible that woman are pressed in these roles from a Young age. Now what do you Plan to do to work against it? The only thing you CAN do is ask yourself: Why am I even doing this, why am I obeying others, why do I want to please others? And then come to a realisation that will help you break free. I am not saying "you are weak if you dont start questioning and changing your behavior", I dont want to insult anyone, but someday you will have to Start questioning and changing your behavior, if you dont want to DEPEND on everyone else questioning and changing themselves. It is frustrating to see how many likes the comments get that basically say: "I already questioned myself, and reflected about our society, came to the conclusion what I have to do different, but I am not doing it because it is not easy because of blablabla" I know that that makes you feel understood, but how is that Mentality going to help? That is nothing other then accepting your fate and still whining about it. No strong Person would do that. And lastly I am not saying that men dont go through a similar process. Its just not the topic.

[@Nashleyism]

​@@Chronischer_Innenbahn-Laeufer Because it's around us, in our societies, in our environments. Which means we experience it since our childhoods, it's part of our development, so we can't just shrug it off. Many of us are taught and pressured to care about opinions of others and to forget about our own. So one thing is that it's with us from the beginning and there's also something else. Pressure of the group, if a group of people disagrees with us, it's normal to have doubts and to lean into their opinion. Especially when it happens from various sources and over time

[@Chronischer_Innenbahn-Laeufer]

@@Nashleyism But if you can reflect about it that well, you should be in control of your anxiety, and dont Listen to the pressure. I dont think the she conplained about normal group pressure that is the reason you shower, obey the law and feed your cat, but rather the kind that has unfullfillable expectations to you. It is too easy to Brush those off, especially when you recognized them as what they are like you two

[@Nashleyism]

@@Chronischer_Innenbahn-Laeufer Nope. Knowing something can make things easier but does not equal to instant change. Stuff like anxiety, beliefs etc need more work, they are written in our automatic reactions and subconscious thinking. And pressure is not always something we can just not listen to. Depends on who does it comes from, how often and how resilient we do are. Recognition of the problem does not equal to the solution. That's only the beginning of change. And it's hard to change in the environment that is unsafe.

[@Nashleyism]

To answer your original question it does affect us what other people tell us to do. We are social creatures and need to be accepted and to belong. And women are often taught how they should act, what they should do and think, there are societal, family and religion expectations put on them, lots of pressure from many sides and everyone acts like we are bad human being if we won't live to this impossible standards. The amount of pressure and sources of that pressure is not something anyone should deal with. And most of us deal with it since the childhood, we are taught we should be this and that the same way we are taught to brush our teeth. So many of us don't even realise, many can feel it but don't have words. And recognising that we can be who we want to be and that other people opinions are just that, is just the begining of the healing journey. There's a lot of work needed to internalise that. And it's much easier to do that work without dealing again with the same bullshit opinions again and again on a daily basis. Also many of us want a better future for the children. So they can grow without all of that pressure and opinions and expectations thrown at them all the time.

[@thethrowawaythatstayed7055]

I’m so glad America has been nominated. She killed this speech and it made me cry.

[@y2k-er]

SAME

[@osydysfooyfshk]

she lost. robbed 😔

[@MadeleineDixon]

It was, without a doubt, the most important and impactful part of the entire movie.

[@MarionRobbins]

The clip of the little girl looking at her body in the leotard hit so close to home for me it hurt. I was obsessed with perfecting my body since I was 5. And I’ve never stopped since

[@fadeath201]

this is not an experience unique to women.

[@c0nsume933]

@@fadeath201 She never said that it was only for women, but women have always been the most affected by this problem.

[@MarionRobbins]

I Never Said it was only for women. I said that it was something I, as a woman, relate to. Please READ the comment before your reply.

[@CedarViolets222]

@@fadeath201omg can you not make it about yourself for one second when you die nobody will remember you and your physical body will be torn apart by the maggots and nobody will care because we are all mounds of flesh that think we matter hurling through space on a tiny rock orbiting a star. Please stop being attention seeking.

[@nai1729]

@@fadeath201stop replying this on every comment with someone sharing their experience. no know thinks men have it perfect. stop making it about men. we’re simply talking about how women experience societal pressures.

[@buzz.undexd]

I hate being a woman because of this pain but I love it at the same time because it’s something all of us women are in together. It breaks my heart that girls bully others but yet we all go through it. Love you, gals.

[@Ara24_td]

Pain of what exactly, if you could mind elaberating. I'm not trying to argue or anything btw I'm just trying to underestand.

[@Renard-ks6hj]

@@Ara24_tdMenstruation and Pregnancy

[@mangolanguage.]

​@@Ara24_tddidn't you watched the full video??

[@Maria-dn5df]

The video explains it pretty well:>

[@fabolvaskarika7940]

Only not everyone go through it. Unfortunately some of us die. The girls have to face with social media beauty standards, the filters what makes them feel that they have to go under the knife and other plastic surgeries to risking their health and sometimes their lives… of course back in the time they had very unhealthy beauty processes, products from the too tight corset to poisoning powders, not too mention the lack of rights starting from child marriages and even queens were reduced to a baby factory to producing an heir, but the speed of recent changes in technology makes it so widespread that it’s really worrying. Add to it that misogynistic politicians turn back the time and would cancel what or mothers, grandmothers, and great grandmothers fought for, and the trad wifes happily would throw away! I don’t mind if someone a stay at home mum, or “just” a housewife, as long as it’s serves both parties and based on mutual respect, but not for a misinterpretated nostalgic nonsense and let themselves dominated by their husbands and being submissive. Being soft, doesn’t mean you have to throw away your dignity!

[@kapokikkodragneel1505]

I had an argument with my dad. He was talking about how women don't have any disadvantages anymore because legally we're not disadvantaged. And I had to disagree, we don't have any legal disadvantages anymore, but that doesn't mean we get treated equally all the time. He asked me to give an example. The thing I immediately thought about in that moment was how I felt like I wasn't taken seriously in the conservatory. He says "It's really easy to blame everything that goes wrong on being a woman". I never said that I failed because I'm a woman. And I couldn't really get out eh words to explain what I was trying to say. So I'd like to do it now. I never thought I failed because I'm a woman. But it did not help. I'm sure that if I wasn't as feminine or came across as serious and stern I wouldn't have faced the same judgements. I had been told straight to my face that I had to take myself seriously, but at the same time I apparently was taking myself too seriously when I'd defend my art or when I got completely blocked and couldn't even write anymore. So what exactly wasn't serious about me? The fact that I wore cute clothing? The fact that I wore makeup that made me look sweet? The fact that I come across as naive because of my bubbly personality and shyness? The fact that I don't tend to fight back? The things that I have learned I'm supposed to be as a woman? Luckily for me I don't dislike these traits. I tend to like being cute and feminine. Not so lucky for me that means that I have try very damn hard to be seen as serious and capable. And not so lucky for me I couldn't handle that and ended up completely breaking down. I didn't even realize how unfair this one specific teacher really was to me. He would give me bullshit criticism that meant absolutely nothing, I couldn't learn anything and he just made me feel like a silly little girl in the process. Too silly to understand all these grand philosophical things he was talking about. Liking hearing himself talk way too much to listen to try to understand what I was doing, what I wanted to do. Some other things. I can't walk alone at night through certain streets in my neighborhood without being spoken to, followed and getting scared out of my mind cuz I cannot defend myself if something were to happen. I feel more safe when going out with a guy in my group because it's so much easier if a guy can tell off guys for you. Which is so unfair. I get scared when I have to reject a guy because I'm afraid that I'll bruise his ego and if I'm really unlucky, he will make sure that I suffer more from that rejection than he did. Being seen as more than just a woman or a woman with a cool skill by men is kind of hard. Which sucks because this world is litterally run by men. So we also have to appeal to men in some capacity if we want to get stuff done. Or be a cool ass bitch that somehow demands so much authority that it doesn't even matter (tho I'm sure they also get their fair share of men being butthurt cause this woman is just walking all over them because... she's capable.) I used to be completely ignored by some guys in my scouting group because they didn't think I was pretty. And I still feel this to this day. To many guys I'm absolutely nothing if they don't deem me attractive. Ignored and pushed aside, worthless. So don't tell me that I shouldn't put much effort in my makeup and clothing because it sure as hell is important. Even to these snobs who look down on women for caring about their looks, don't sit there and tell me you aren't the first to complain about a woman wearing too much makeup or wearing skimpy clothing. Who's the one obsessed with looks and clothes now? (This is a bit of different thing I guess but I still want to mention it: I get hit on by guys and clearly feel how they're looking down on me. Arrogant assholes who mistake my sweetness for being dumb. Yet they still hit on me? And it just makes me feel horribly disgusting. Or you can feel a guy being interested in you... but it's not really you, even when you start talking a lot they really don't care about you at all. They're not getting to know you. I don't know what they're interested in but its not me. Makes me feel very icky and disgusting. ) So no, it's not just because I'm a woman. It just makes it pretty damn hard sometimes. And some women are strong enough to fight through all that and to fight for what they're worth and deserve. I'm not. I sit quietly because I'm not supposed to complain. I don't naturally push back and assume that when people blame me or tell me I'm doing something wrong... They're right. I don't have any of that naturally and I've never been taught to fight back. All I ever got was questioning. "You're not having mental difficulties, you just wanted to be lazy and your teacher dying was the perfect opportunity for that." "Maybe you're just misunderstanding what he's saying to you" This may be all over the place. I'm writing this on my phone so I don't have a good overview of what I just wrote. But it's 2am and I'm having a complete mental breakdown. So yee, this was fun lol.

[@100xfun5]

Heyyyy, just wanted too say thank you for writing all that out. I relate a lot to some of the parts you mentioned. Especially the part about being feminine or having a bubbly personality and being looked down on or weirdly sexualized by guys who are interested in you. You're brave for sharing your experiences💜 I hope opening up helped a bit with your mental breakdown and that you're feeling better now girlie💜💜💜

[@calliesnotcreative]

You are so brave and strong. Thank you for getting this off your chest, I really hope you're feeling better ♥ This world is completely against us as women, and even if you aren't fighting back, it takes a hell of a lot of effort to push through. I hope you have a wonderful day. I don't have much to say, but I admire you for saying this stuff. It resonates with me a lot. Thank you 💗

[@zzaryas]

thank you for sharing! honestly, i want to reread all of that again and again for some reason. maybe, because, we have the same problems and im very glad that someone is speaking up about the things i feel as well. i cant clearly explane my emotions, and seeing our problems is getting picked up is just like a blessing💘

[@BebbaDubbs]

Teach... Your father, well! ❤❤❤

[@starsurrounding]

This made me fucking cry, I feel you. Being a woman really is impossible and men can't even understand that or attempt to understand that. All they can say is that they also have their shit and they also feel bad sometimes. But it feels like they just want us to feel miserable so that they can keep controlling us. I don't hate the world, but it gets so damn difficult sometimes to be grateful when this is the constant state we women have to live in.

[@soc4wi616]

That barbie speech is wonderful. If we could just all as individual humans live with a peaceful and respectful mindset... But we cannot, because we are complex humans and we have ideas and opinions and emotions, ¿or can we? We don't know. And just Imagine all the people living life in peace.... how wonderful that would be, or at least that is what we think.

[@aminaaaa650]

i think we can never know we aren't perfect to make such world

[@glittergoat91]

thing is we humans are not built to be happy, but to survive. survival (however it comes across in certain situations) is paramount, happiness is not.

[@arnavsingh8840]

Also it's sad how it shows that half of the women problem comes from men

[@coolkid-kq7id]

I kinda feel like its really flat tho, it could be so much more and should be but its not

[@S.O.A_Zero]

​@@glittergoat91Happiness depends on the quality of life, so we could say that it is the secondary goal of our race

[@chiefkeefswife]

im a 15 year old girl and sobbing rn because this video is just exactly how i feel right how thank you so much for making this

[@mitskimyloveee]

Me too gang

[@chiefkeefswife]

@@mitskimyloveee MITSKI FAN 😨🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥

[@Khaosklown]

It will get better love I promise you are so extraordinary and even if you don’t think you have, you have done and will continue to do amazing things

[@chiefkeefswife]

@@Khaosklownaww thanks 😭🫶

[@nemix6493]

You have all your life ahead of you, you are strong and you will learn so much, never forget that we all are here together! It really gets better, i promise!

[@PrincepsFailed]

I remember that when I watched Barbie for the first time, every single man and woman in that movie hall applauded after that speech.

[@WAX117]

🧢

[@clauren9182]

i swear i felt so connected to everyone at that theatre everyone was applauding and cheering

[@PrincepsFailed]

@@WAX117 lol we have a skeptic

[@luisinaarocena8281]

Oh no, in the theater that i went some guys started laughing like it was a joke. I never wanted to hit someone so badly

[@szofiaa8683]

sameee

[@user-vh7gr6qg5w]

I don’t know what to say, I feel understood, sad, happy, pain, heart broken, hopeful, and just not okay.

[@fadeath201]

this is not an experience unique to women.

[@iwuvpiesgaming9164]

@@fadeath201​​⁠didn’t know men Experienced period pain boob pain birth pain being constantly sexualized (it happens more to women be honest) and I didn’t know they knew how it feels being a women in general thanks for the info. We know we have similarities but it’s not the same the experiences a man has vs a woman is different

[@Kaedya.-]

@@fadeath201 Yeah, we know, but this is a video about women.

[@Vedangi_]

We'll be okay❤

[@fallenflare07]

@@fadeath201 why do you feel the need to reply to every comment with this response? You do acknowledge that despite the fact that we are all in a strict, cruel and controlling society and yes men do face the horrors too, but we all experience it differently and I hate to have to tell you this but this feeling is unique to women, we have always been objects bought and sold by men, like broodmares, born to only be an incubator and a slave to husbands. I can guarantee that you have never feared that you could lose autonomy over your own body due to your own government recently, because each government seems to have come to the agreement to start taking rights away from women, the fucking people in charge and do you wanna know the main ones making the rules? Men, rich, white privileged men, I can give you a few names of men who have taken away women’s rights in the past 5 years, Greg Abbott, Brian Kemp, Ron DeSantis, John Roberts, Brett Kavanaugh and that’s only five men in the past five years, people who have never had a uterus in their lives, people who will never know the true agony of pregnancy, took away women’s rights to choose their lives over something that could’ve stolen their entire life, either literally or metaphorically. Just think about why you keep commenting this and if you don’t know then I can tell you why, you felt personally attacked by it, you felt victimised, you thought ‘hm this must be women’s ways of saying they hate me and all men’ but it’s not, we only hate the men who have wronged us, used us, abused us, if you think that we are attacking you personally, ask yourself why and consider the fact of who we really hate, do you fall under those categories? If you don’t then congratulations, we don’t hate you, we don’t want you gone from the earth, we don’t want you to feel like it’s all your fault because it isn’t, but if you do fall under those categories, why?

[@carolinagasparian9775]

I wish every girl sat in a theatre and watched this, we don’t realize how much we deserve and how much we give of ourselves.

[@pokiandi5228]

I'm not even an adult yet, and i feel all of this, like, pressure to be perfect, to be a people pleaser, to be straight, to be thin, to be healthy, to wear makeup, to not complain, and for what? Why do we women have to be all of that for others? Why not let us be who we are? Why not let us be women, real ones, not fake. Cause that is what we wish, to be real, to be ourselves, without needing to be what other people want us to be. And if all of that is written and felt by a 12 year old, i really think the world needs to be changed. Love, a girl who has had enough.

[@jiorno_jowana]

Damn, i didn't even think about my sexuality at 12 years old. Kids nowadays should be kids

[@itscherry5402]

​@jiorno_jowana true

[@zeearts9484]

You did not post this lmao​@@jiorno_jowana

[@Renard-ks6hj]

@@jiorno_jowana Early internet exposure my man

[@fadeath201]

this is not an experience unique to women. you are being manipulated into thinking that the pressure to be perfect is unique to women, and that men have it perfect, but we dont. its sad to see these ideas present in such a young woman.

[@klarafara5722]

I wonder how many men are going to comment on this asking about their version, that's totally not yet another issue

[@benjaminfranklinstyl]

I don't quite get the second part, what do you mean?

[@notpostingx5035]

They probably already have. Most men I’ve seen in this comment section are mad that women are gathering and supporting eachother

[@thewrathofdumbledore4867]

well it seems like people are quite respectful and passive here at least. I'm glad about that

[@thewrathofdumbledore4867]

@@notpostingx5035 wait really? I haven't seen any yet

[@notpostingx5035]

@@thewrathofdumbledore4867 scroll a bit more and look under comments where a woman is talking abt her struggles. You’ll find plenty

[@gingerbella4344]

I'm in my 60s now, and have lived through decades of change in the status of women. It's been a long journey for many of us. This video really nailed the struggle. Sending love and support to all my sisters around the world.

[@sxftkenxbi2577]

i remember my dad trying to comfort me when i bursted into tears during the speech in barbie when we watched it in theaters… it still hits hard TwT

[@lettuceboy4180]

I had the same thing happen. I think it was during the montage. He saw me crying and kept asking what’s wrong. I didn’t say anything and all i could think was what do you think

[@horseconfused]

This was a risky video to make, but holy shit i cried, i feel seen, thank you for making this.

[@turtelmaan148]

how is this risky?

[@mariaylllow]

@@turtelmaan148men ☕️

[@evanescentnecsenave]

@@turtelmaan148 ‼️ SOME ‼️ men are very sensitive and cannot fathom the fact that women are human beings who through stuff too and whenever we talk about what we go through ‼️ SOME ‼️ men get really angry because they cant accept the fact that not everything is about them :) (keyword: ‼️ SOME ‼️ if it dont apply, let it fly

[@hadlrr]

the elegant yet gruesome indescribable pain and beauty of being a women is something so indescribable

[@Remitherat_]

And god forbid you’re really sick… it’s obviously your period. This video actually brought me to tears.

[@MadeleineDixon]

Or "its all in your head" and you just need to "calm down and stop tensing up so much"

[@esartwork]

Beautiful editing, this is a powerful work of art.

[@CedarViolets222]

Gosh I’m not even an adult yet but I’ve already struggled with these things. I just don’t understand why we separate each other by gender so much. Everyone is different anyway, but we make such a big divide between men and women. It’s such a small thing to be mad about when you think about it. Yes, men and women do have big differences and different struggles, but lots of those struggles are created by us making such a large difference between us anyway! We can’t lump all people into tiny little boxes of personality just because of the differences in our bodies. Everyone is different but we can accept it and come together. Unfortunately, people just refuse to change their viewpoints, which is frustrating.

[@user-nu5kb1kz3y]

☝

[@updated_autopsy_report1]

that is such a nice viewpoint to have. all these struggles between genders is just us making a big deal out of those differences, and as a biologist, I've learned that different sexes balance each other out. If I have a certain weakness, I have something else that balances out that weakness. So in reality, we are not THAT different. I highly recommend a book called, "Sapiens" by Yuval Noah Harari. He, in his book, explains this issue much much better!

[@juliamcdonnell8611]

i started crying while watching this. i saw amy winehouse accepting her grammy while the barbie speech and “think of me once in a while, take care” started playing, and now the fake tan i had just put on is streaked down my face. this is 100% what girlhood is. thank you for this video. i feel so incredibly seen.

[@yaro_fortwenty]

1:36 that speech is so real some men forget that women are humans too and that women are also different you can't just categorize women in one thing and say women should do this women shouldn't do that, No, every women should follow her own passion in the thing that she want to do that will also help us and help the world we live in

[@itscherry5402]

Some women also forget that men are also human

[@yaro_fortwenty]

@@itscherry5402 exactly people should understand eachother more deeply

[@Coastersnoot]

​@@yaro_fortwentyreal

[@jhlvr]

Abbey is one of my favorite mitski songs I love that it’s getting recognition

[@AbbyJD]

This was just unbelievably beautiful and heartbreaking. My soul feels so heavy and yet so light knowing my struggles are felt by every other woman, but also my struggles are felt by every other woman, ya know?? 10/10 great job!

[@Ju_juestar]

As a woman this was truly healing to watch and hear

[@ameliajagielska]

Why is this so underrated, why so little people see this. Everybody should, women - to feel better and like they are not alone and men - to understand (they probably won't)

[@user-jx7lg5dw6g]

Your message was good before your last words

[@ameliajagielska]

@@user-jx7lg5dw6g sorry, but all the men I have ever known really don't understand. I don't mean everybody are like this, didn't mean to hurt anybody's feelings. This probably isn't true about everyone, just my personal experience and point of view. Sorry, it may not be clear enough

[@digital_blink]

@@user-jx7lg5dw6g do you think women will ever truly understand what being a man is like? if one is not something, it is never truly possible to understand the experience of being that thing

[@mokey9195]

@@ameliajagielskabecause most men are too scared to be insecure, so they hide it in various ways like “Toxic masculinity.” Women also don’t understand men either, it goes both ways. Just remember that we’re all human, and we all can go through the same things no matter gender or race.

[@Coastersnoot]

Exactly ​@@mokey9195

[@lilyrose_tpwk]

This touched me in a piece of my heart that’s never been touched.

[@imdead4073]

this is going to blow up

[@c.rvmance]

It better

[@ExistentialConfusion]

I don’t know why I got this but I’m glad I did

[@s_kuhl_er]

this touched me so much. As a man, i feel like every other man is so toxic and offended by what men have made women feel. I'm sorry.

[@Ellatinael]

Girls… I’m so grateful that you find the strength to talk about these feelings.. feelings I have too in myself as I struggle to understand what does it mean to live a life as a woman… so grateful to all of you. and so proud 🙏🏼

[@who-is-]

This was probably one of the most beautiful things ive seen my whole life

[@ashimataru]

criminally underrated. with videos like these clips are just thrown together without much thought or cohesion. The song flows, the voice overs the clips which flash by, they are all perfect. Not only is it clips from popular movies there is also the animations from disney or other animations. It’s just all so inclusive because they are all women. They just fit. They are perfectly synced. I got chills.

[@totallynotinsane]

It’s hard. Womanhood is the biggest challenge a girl can face. Whether you were born a woman, or born knowing you’re a woman, or born with anything in relation to feeling feminine. You just know. You know how hard it is. You know how we feel every single day. To everyone in this comment section, You are someone’s inspiration. Which means you don’t follow up to anyone’s expectations but the ones you’ve learned and made for yourself. You are so beautiful.

[@TomGhoulerie]

Beautiful words, thank you🥰🥰

[@totallynotinsane]

@@TomGhoulerie of course :)

[@jazminmendoza7471]

this made me cry ilysm thank you for saying this💓

[@sarah-dh7hq]

happy international women’s day pretty souls❤️❤️

[@loveydoveydoll4]

This is so beautiful and perfectly captures the experience of womanhood 💕

[@yakidpinky]

If you can, you NEED to submit this to the National High School Film Festival. this is beautiful.

[@chloefortier9716]

All men on earth should what this video. Thank you

[@stitch0880]

As a 15 year old girl... I really needed this, and i am crying so much right now. It sucks how this is the life of a woman.

[@SolangeAbri]

All these comments from men belittling us are only proving the point of the video

[@mireya1213]

Exactly

[@XxMilkxX14]

I cried watching this. The amount I could relate to us scary. I hate having to be perfect for my family. The stress, the standards. All to be some perfect little puppet to be thrown away when the son is born but giving them all the responsibility and stress. Neglect, ignoring me when I wanna talk about interests. It never ends. I'll never be good enough.

[@eughyuck]

I’m a bloke behind enemy lines. I have patches where I’m down - normally self induced from my erratic student life style and during these I think about how I took for granted the better times. As guys, we go through our own battles but they don’t really compare & are mostly due to us not treating each other with the same level of love that you all do. The thought of having hormonal swings routinely pre-planned is heartbreaking & I genuinely feel for you all. Stay lovely & strong & kind for one another

[@yeahok8259]

I was raised and socialized as a woman, so I will never, ever forget the struggle of living as one. I will never not stand up for my friends who are women, or even strangers who are. Girls rule.

[@arospec2712]

Girls do rule, and I strongly relate. Also, awesome profile picture

[@lovingsister3112]

That's it. Beautiful, stunning and truthful work.

[@ankitasingh8927]

I feel so incredibly understood this very moment!🌟

[@cosmicalsounds]

I'm deeply sorry to all the women out there who have to suffer for men's wrongs and being treated wrongly by men. All women are an ultimate human being far beyond what is trajected in our awfully built society. As a man who has a pool of empathy, this short film really gave me insight as to who women are, what a woman is, the good, the bad, and the ugly of all of being a woman. Thank you, truthfully....

[@TomGhoulerie]

Thank you, for being willing to actually listen.

[@veros.library]

I was 8 the first time I was cat called. I was 10 the first time a guy touched me inappropriately. I was 13 the first time a guy tried to look up my skirt. I am now 15 and these memories ,even though they are small compared to other women’s experiences, still haunt me. But maybe they are not small, maybe that is just what I’ve learned to be. To be small, to be quiet, to smile and look pretty. To never speak up and tell people what I’ve experienced because they won’t believe me anyways because I’m just a girl. But I don’t want to be small and I don’t want to be quiet and I want to smile for me and I want to feel pretty for me. But I don’t know how. I feel hopeless because I’m just a 15 year old girl and i don’t know how to change this. But I’m so tired of feeling hopeless. So I’m writing this here in a comment section full of strangers and women who are standing together because it feels like the safest place I can speak even if my voice shakes.

[@CicadaSpring14]

Why dont people listen to you? That was the most moving comment i think i’ve ever read, youre a very poetic person. Also i know a lot of girls that can relate to everything you said. Sure, (i’m almost certain) most women have been raped, but all women have been sexualized whether they know it or not. Your experience is something many people including me can relate to, and you commenting this speaks for all of us out here that dont know how to say it.

[@idontknow3305]

I just wish we had our own planet,maybe in the future,maybe my great great great grandaughters will live in a world where they can be themselves,where they're not scared to go outside or speak up,where they don't have to be quiet and pretty,where they can just live,live peacefully without the thing we call a man today

[@divinedove111]

MITSKI!? I KNEW THIS WAS GONNA BE A BANGER!!!!! Amazing work ! 💕🐞❤️

[@divinedove111]

OMG I GOT HIGHLIGHTED! YAYYY!!!!

[@coffebrake6757]

Да, это именно то, что я чувствую, будучи женщиной. Слишком много ожиданий от общества. Я всегда словно не принадлежу себе.

[@cheesecakeluvr]

❤

[@Maiasaur]

Вы очень достойны восхищения, и иметь смелость говорить о своих антипатиях, меня поражает, насколько сильны некоторые люди.

[@anninotfound8197]

I actually cried while watching Barbie and the boyfriend of my mother seriously said after the film ended : “Well, it was pretty boring I thought it would be a comedy film”

[@Do_a_flip57]

I’m 13 and still relate to this. Think about that

[@SoyunPark-xj1nl]

Being a woman/teenager always makes you feel like your every move is constantly being watched and it's like you're on stage with thousands of people staring at you to say the right line and do the right thing.

[@user-bb6xm6lx6t]

what sucks is that girls start to relate to this at such a young age. I'm only 13, and I started feeling like this when I was 10.

[@crentist960]

i’m a trans man, and i have….. i couldn’t describe to you how this makes me feel. there’s a part of me that feels guilty for leaving. it’s not as if i hated being a girl, i loved it so much and there are still things i miss dearly. i just want every woman out there to know that us trans dudes are in your corner. trans women, we have your back. cis women, we have your back. i found so much joy in being a little girl, but my truth lies here. i’m so glad other people can find joy and elation in femininity where i couldn’t, and i hope all of you have insanely happy lives. cry, laugh, eat good food, have good sex, make dear friends. never forget that being a woman is so difficult. being any person that isn’t a white cis straight able bodied man is so difficult. we’re in this together. don’t ever forget.

[@jesspavlichenko5745]

Don't feel guilty for living your truth. You haven't left, you became. ❤

[@yakidpinky]

You are so valid, and you are forever loved.

[@sunnyithink420]

As another trans guy, this comment and this video makes me feel not alone

[@Cassiterit3]

Uncovering every last facet of truth is how we live, love, and all grow together. You never left, and we have your back still, too. I'm not quite "woman," something like "girl," and for now that's enough for me.

[@vlogsbysally]

Don't feel guilty for leaving, that 'little girl' you once were, was still a boy in disguise, you owe to yourself and to him, to be yourself, and to set yourself free. You are still the same person, you did not leave anything behind, but you grew and found yourself, and for that you should be proud.

[@koiuyz]

to be a woman is truly special. thank you for all the entire woman.. here, and in this whole world, y'all are awesome, dazzling and really beautiful.

[@kerstinfontaine7941]

Putting on makeup through tears of deep devastation, or rage. Knowing I need to stop crying because I have to get to the bus stop or to work and no one likes an emotional woman. Or based on the practice that no one deserves my tears. I used to hold my trauma so close to my chest and literally protect it. I’ve stopped that and I’m never going back.

[@evadejong7853]

This is so beautiful

[@charlottecrane586]

4:22 is such a cool little clip. everything we do is watched by men. our whole livelihood is attached to what men in power think of us. we’re constantly performing. i’m 22 and i’ve been un-learning the urge to try to get men to like me or be impressed by me. every day is a performance. we live to be looked at- men do not.

[@fofa-k]

I understand all coments about the sense of video, but I wanted to say about the video... It's such a fascinating work... It took all my attention, I was really impressed. It's a wonderful work, thank you ❤

[@bris3516]

I wish I could go back to when I was a kid and hug myself and then come back to now and hug myself now. I need to see my worth.

[@elishahodgson1635]

From a purely statistical point of view, needing to be the best at something in order to gain a sense of identity is insanity... ...and yet that's what I strive for and how I've pushed myself to accomplish so much.

[@emmscriesforslash235]

i wish i could listen to that barbie speech for the first time again, i felt so understood

[@funkylilbaby]

If you see this, I love you. I share your pain, I lend my strength. You contain multitudes regardless of how you’ve been treated. My tears run with yours. You are, and I love you for that.

[@c.rvmance]

Right back at you, baby.

[@Valerie._.007]

Watching this on my 17th birthday, I think God brought me here to deliver a message to mark a new beginning in my life. I thank the Lord for delivering this message and to the person who created this, thank you ❤

[@carmenhere7195]

I had shivers running down my spine. To be a Woman is to be perfect, But no one is perfect.

[@sashaabramovich251]

to have it put into words and images.. . to be understood. wow

[@liar222]

the fact cassie was added to this says enough

[@Emma__Vlogs]

i wish that this video could be shown to every man out there, just to maybe slightly have them understand just a little bit how it really is to be a woman

[@hrelisha]

a lot of them never will understand. it's upsetting, but some will never understand until they have been in our shoes

[@lamoojamoo]

What I've learned from similar videos about men and ones like these about women is that we all suffer. The root of the pain may be vastly different, but it's all in an attempt to please society's norms. No man has the right to say that being a woman isn't hard, but no woman has the right to say that being a man isn't hard. Because you have no idea what It's like it be the other. We all struggle, we all suffer, and we all feel pain. It's impossible to be a woman, but it's also impossible to be a man, yet we all find a way. I'm proud of everyone who sees this, and I hope you can be proud of the others around you, too. Man or woman, everyone is living lives of desperation.

[@whosthis1330]

Just the comment I was looking for. Happy you formulated it so well.

[@W170]

Very well said. I like those types of videos but hate to see people bring other gender down just because life is hard to them. Life is hard for us all, just in different ways. Why is that so hard to accept for some people?

[@user-ie7ou5oj8f]

Beautifully said. You have a heart of gold

[@Dudewhoboxes]

I know right like its not a man or woman thing its just the cons that come with being a human living in a society 😂

[@TomGhoulerie]

Right. The patriarchy harms everyone at the end of the day.

[@Lo-FiChillVibes]

｡✧*.｡My life lesson｡✧*.｡:: I've stopped listening to music that have -too much words in-, and this have improved my life fr. Ppl don't really think about how much music actually impact our thoughts, like majority of the lyrics are negative and toxic. I hope this helps someone who’s stuck with toxic music. Peace and love.

[@guitarsolo.]

to all the men, and future men in these comments - please don't feel attacked or get butt hurt from this video. Ive seen countless examples of men in the comments to similar to videos trying to put in their two cents or tell us why its so hard being a man, or how being a woman isn't that hard anyway. everyone has their own struggles, but this space is not for you, I'm sorry but its true. this is a space for women to feel vulnerable in their struggles without men breathing down their necks about how they're supposed to act or what they're not supposed to say. if you come into this comment section ready to poke fun at someone or just spew nonsense because you're upset that other women can acknowledge the daily struggles we all face, just leave. it won't make you feel better about yourself in the long run, and it won't make anyone else feel better.

[@gazumcazum5250]

Unbelievably touching and true. Amazing edit. Thanks for making me cry before I go into work lol!!

[@miahartman1041]

This is seriously amazing and needs more views. Amazing, amazing job ❤❤❤

[@michaelhenderson4767]

I might be one of the only guys in these comments, I’m not a woman but I really liked this video

[@Hailey-xl6tn]

The fact that people still consider women "weak" is unbelievable. Even if the term "weak" is a reference to physical ability, women are not weak. In any way, shape or form, and yet we are overlooked. Women are so strong and not recognized for it.

[@debbruhh]

this is so beautiful in ways that i can’t describe. the editing is incredible, and i hope you keep creating things like this. i want to be an editor like you. i know that you will go on to do amazing things.

[@_rat_5758]

Wow. This is outstanding. I have so words

[@girlfromthevillage403]

I literally have chills. The whole video, seriously, chills. Also whats the saying? 'men react. Woman can only over react'

[@Theartofashanti]

As a black woman in America. This is only part of the rage.

[@TerriJoe4638]

I’m truly tired sis 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@OphelliaStarborn]

sobbing at 12 am because finally, i feel HEARD.

[@duolingo-owl]

im a teenager, im especially impressionable or whatever its called, and i never feel like enough. I grew up in an area where, most of my life, i was told i was too fat, id never get a boyfriend. I was too weird, i'll never have many friends. i was too out of shape, i would never have the perfect body. Where i am now, im in an area where people are more loving, not only to themselves but to other people, and i cant forget the pain i was put through, by other women, the people we were told we had to be like. im so insecure and i didnt realize until i moved somewhere where people told me i was worth love, because all my life i was told the opposite. if i had grown up somewhere like where i am now, it hurts to think i wouldnt have hidden myself for so long, and i wouldnt think all this about myself.

[@JarOfHeat100]

this was amazing!!! the fact that you haven't just stick to movies but took real life scenes!!! ugh!! that hit so right!

[@arielleighcicero4578]

This was gorgeous! You're a fabulous editor and you really paid due respect to all these films. Really effective and moving!

[@Sangitamishra-pp2iy]

I've never felt this understood before.

[@fishey_finley6557]

As a person who was born a woman but doesnt identify as one, its been hell, being a woman ment i got people catcalling me or whistling at me,even though im a minor, the constant pressure of needing to fit with social norms was overwhelming, then the guy i liked became interested in me, but when i told him i was non-binary, he dropped me, realising i was different was horrifying because you see all this homophobic stuff in the news and you think "god, being different is scary" but then you see all the horrible things done to women and you feel even more scared because no matter what you do, its never safe. You need to be perfect without showing off, you need to be pretty but not too pretty, you can never do anything without bejng judged, its a vicious cycle, thats called life, and it sucks big time

[@sophiasnowy6984]

"It is literally impossible to be a woman. You are so beautiful, and so smart, and it kills me that you don't think you're good enough. Like, we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we're always doing it wrong. You have to be thin, but not too thin. And you can never say you want to be thin. You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin. You have to have money, but you can't ask for money because that's crass. You have to be a boss, but you can't be mean. You have to lead, but you can't squash other people's ideas. You're supposed to love being a mother, but don't talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to be a career woman but also always be looking out for other people. You have to answer for men's bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you're accused of complaining. You're supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women because you're supposed to be a part of the sisterhood. But always stand out and always be grateful. But never forget that the system is rigged. So find a way to acknowledge that but also always be grateful. You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It's too hard! It's too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you! And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault. I'm just so tired of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us. And if all of that is also true for a doll just representing women, then I don't even know."

[@athenathenathenaaaaaa]

as a kid i was so happy that i was a girl, playing barbies, putting on my mamas makeup, and playing with the other girls. it’s completely changed now, i understand i have to grow up but now i hate being a woman, periods, needing to get married (forced by my family), needing to get pregnant because men can’t do that, getting different jewellery for my birthday that i need to wear for my wedding, and guess what i’m fucking 13. my family talks about marriage like it’s a year away, i don’t even want to get married, i want to enjoy life, not get married at 25. i am 13 and i have to worry about how i look everyday, if i’m eating enough or if i’m eating too much because i can’t be too skinny but i can’t be too chubby if i’m in between i feel like i need to get skinnier. so many ppl are saying this is slander to men, some of us don’t hate men, some of us hate how you treat us, some of us hate how we treat you with kindness and we don’t get the same treatment back, and i’m not saying that it’s only men it’s women too, but i can’t help but realise that men do it a lot more. i know people are gonna say i’m saying too much but so many women hate being the gender that they are and that’s fucked up, we shouldn’t hate what gender we are we should embrace it and im glad that some of us do. if someone read all of this then thanks i’m just taking all my thoughts out lmao.

[@Luckaspears]

I'm sorry for you, but are you 13? This is literally p3d0ph!le3

[@redique]

Despite being a man, I have honestly always realted to women so much more my entire life and have been usually felt isolated by a lot of male experiances. I think being gay already has made me feel like that but even then its not only because of that. This is such a wonderful video and I loved all that is says. Putting those clips together was just so good.

[@majatrtanj4280]

this is an amazing use of modern works to showcase the contradictory of femininity. really moving. great job

[@blwlmnswg]

I got the chills over and fking over And i was like dont cry dont cry.. i didnt idkw (internally screams)

[@not_little_E]

i am convinced, that every person should watch this at least once

[@karolina9977]

This is one of the best edits I saw on YT

[@bees.857]

Round of applause for all the men in the comments telling us we're doing everything wrong. You've proved the entire point of the message without even watching the video. Bravo.