To Have Kids or Not To Have Kids? - Ep 17 - Big Mood

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[@nahex2]

Gina with her backgrounds is me whenever convos get too deep 😂

[@nahex2]

I know Jess doesn’t want kids, but for some reason if it were to happen, I imagine her being a really good mom. She’s been through so much and it’s made her strong and given her the ability to make a better life for herself than what she witnessed growing up. A lot of women who go through those types of things end up being very good mothers.

[@JennyDolma]

nahe __ so true. Wanting to be a mother usually kicks in when you’re in a loving relationship. She’s single right now and enjoying her me time, which she should. 💙

[@TheJProducti0ns]

I agree. She would be a very caring and loving mother!

[@rubyc3757]

Tiff is so cute talking about being a mum she's a great mum

[@Gimmekiss-ix1hh]

Can you Girls sing we are siamese if you please? Lol from the Disney movie!

[@jessica8739]

Lol mum

[@youiloves1242]

She already has a so lol

[@Vanessa-co4rp]

The tuna mayo corn thing is a very common mexican go to snack lol with some hot sauce😋

[@jodi_leigh5246]

Vanessa I’m from South Africa, we add some pasta and eat it as a cold salad 😋

[@shhshhannon]

A little bit of Valentina 🤭

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

She is the 2nd Mexican American say that this week..lol..I was wondering if that was common.

[@nydiarevuelta562]

My fam uses canned chicken instead (or fresh if we’re feeling fancy) and put jalapeños in it

[@Vanessa-co4rp]

nydia revuelta yeah same tastes better than tuna lol

[@jazzyc1894]

wanted to hear the rest of Tiffany's hospital story :( i hate it when she gets interrupted for something else thats so stupid!

[@imrankazzy9076]

Happens a little too much

[@hillmidget1326]

We gottah ask her to make a vid on her chanel! ❤️

[@ECSIERRA1]

Yeap, it's rude and disrespectful.

[@liljovessky]

I agree. She always speaks so less. Because everyone speaks over her. :/ I love everyone but please let tiff express

[@sayjaibao01188]

They wont let our girl Tiff speak!

[@looloo960]

Everytime Tiff cries, I cry

[@Moody_momsta]

Jess should just be the rich aunt to everyone else’s kids and she travels and has a bunch of men that she rotates

[@katherinep708]

that sounds lonely, but if she loves being alone it would be awesome

[@sayjaibao01188]

wtf? rotate men??

[@JustANumber0123]

She belongs to the streets!

[@FoxxyMoxxy13]

The way tiff describes having those moments with Isaac as a baby, is how I feel towards my pets 😂 My pets are my babies and that’s all I need

[@raulsoccer1]

Karina Reyes 🤦‍♂️

[@jrmy198523]

I can promise and guarantee that it’s not the same feeling.

[@LeilaHolley]

jrmy198523 I can promise and guarantee that’s true and that people still might not want kids. It’s not in the cards for everyone.

[@bananehanna]

dude, tiff looks so young. very beautiful!

[@taoist32]

bananaCake She is young. 30 is not old.

[@acchanoshi630]

She looks SUPER young, she can pass as a teen/young twenties.

[@jadoreO1]

I cried with you Tiff. Becoming a mother is nothing anyone can describe. It's like trying to describe a beautiful beaming aura of colours to someone who has been blind their whole life. A love beyond all loves that you didn't know existed until you experience it for yourself. That being said, becoming a parent is not for everyone and no one should EVER be judged for not having kids. People need to stop perpetuating the idea that you are less of a person if you do not procreate. Plus our earth is way over populated lol

[@jrmy198523]

cxiong I agree. There shouldn’t be judgement. But I just think it’s part of the human experience. Everyone should experience what it’s like to create life. It doesn’t have to be a problem for over population. If every couple had only one child then the population would be cut into almost half.

[@danielevergreen1133]

As a person who already experiences strong love, it's hard for me to imagine why would somebody want to experience even stronger love towards somebody, moreover, somebody who solely depends on you. I can experience love to the point where I can cry when I think about that person. But then the idea of them suffering or dying is gut wrenching. And with love you get both. You get the pleasant feeling of empathy, but you also get the worry that something will happen to that person, or you feel like your soul is getting crushed, if that person is suffering and you can't really help them. So you can very well experience love and suffering at the same time. They are not mutually exclusive emotions. Sometimes love and suffering come together too. In any case, science shows that people with children are less happy, so-called happiness parenting gap, so clearly either, after some point, feeling more love doesn't make you happier, or there are a lot of parents who don't particularly experience that strong love that some parents do experience. Having had people close to me die and I had to watch them slowly die over several months in pain, I perfectly can imagine how you can experience both extreme love and extreme mental suffering, and sometimes suffering is only enchancned because you love somebody. It's not like feeling stronger love towards somebody is guaranteed to make you happier. If they start to die from cancer, you'll wish that you loved them less. Lastly, a lot of people can experience psychodelic levels of empathy and love by taking something like MDMA and doing love meditation, before they decide to have children for those types of experiences.

[@katherinecorbett7580]

I think Geo should have come on this episode or another mom to balance the equation out on this topic.

[@KAYELLEK]

I agree. Especially since she had her first kid later in life. I would like to know why they decided to wait and if they always wanted kids

[@luisaguilon7101]

Joe got to her, “Chuck E. Cheese for my birthday”

[@alexdominguez3810]

Nikki!!! 😫 please PLEASE try to be more conscious and considerate of those who are talking! It is a bit frustrating when these other lovely women are interrupted so much 🥺😭😭 love you all

[@delightmushore8757]

i love jess’s savage dark humour i can vibe to it 😂

[@mistyimaginer1734]

Gina and Jess where a whole mood this podcast lmaoo

[@ezamona]

fr, also Gina's background had me rolling lol

[@jrmy198523]

Well said Tiff. I was crying with you.

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

As Tiff was saying of the way that sometimes Isaac talks to her as a peer and there is a fine line..I dont think it really stems from her having him young, I think it stems from her perception of not being heard by her mom when she was growing up. I had my first kid at 30 and I also have that fine line where they tell me that sometimes they forget I'm their mom and treat me like a peer but sometimes you have to play the mom card..I do it because my mom was controlling and my perception was that I also wasnt heard.

[@FULLMETAL5.0]

I'm scared of loving something so much and being able to lose it. Like loving something so much that you would do anything to keep them safe and they love you just as much. Thats why I'll probably never have kids.

[@jadoreO1]

It's true. Becoming a parent is an amazing indescribable thing BUT is also the scariest thing in the world.

[@724kdr]

All of you ladies look so fresh and pretty with and without makeup.

[@Sarina_1112]

3 years ago I was jess, now I'm tiff. 😂😂😂😂 it's different when you have your own kid. Your heart grows so big yet 10x more protective and you just want everything to be perfect for your little human ❤.

[@benschonhorn9561]

Any of the big moods: tries to have a genuine moment Gina: *changes her background*

[@randa1579]

Jess has such a funny personality! You ladies brighten my day!

[@iloveyou202]

TIFF is the best momma and her relationship with issac is so cunnie 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@StarbaseAce]

The tuna Mayo and corn that Tiff mentioned is my go to “I don’t want to cook” meal to make at college. But I use 1 can of tuna with half a can of corn so it’s just enough without leftovers and I eat it with tortilla chips 🤤

[@snezanaivanisevic9043]

Jess seems like she is a great listener 😊 Such a beautiful quality in a friend 😄

[@april00026000]

Nikki love you girl, but please stop interrupting Tiff

[@marilynb4696]

Nikki let Tiffany finish her sentences please 😤

[@aJxxw]

You guys, I've been having seasonal depression cuz it started raining and it dropped 18C ... but this is really cheering me up right now. Just what I needed. Xxx

[@bbymoon]

I love these ladies so much 😢 im feeling lonely and down and they just bring me up

[@junine5501]

for a future podcast, i’d like to hear u guys talk about like, how u guys keep long term relationships. what’s ur secret or something, what you could do to have a long term relationship. or say for married couples that are married for like 60+ years, how do you think they’ve been married for that long and the love still remains?

[@Violit132435]

It's so nice to see the childfree lifestyle discussed! Even if someone's fence sitter I really appreciate the fact that people I look up to are open to the idea 👏

[@looloo960]

Jess needs to drop that skincare routine!! She doesn’t look a day over 25

[@ImiJimmy9]

moni beyou That is so crazy to hear, cause in my eyes she looks 35 lol 😂 I feel that way about Gina or Tiffany 😴

[@looloo960]

Imasha ok maybe it’s the light 😂

[@Barbievel]

Jessica is gorgeous but don’t gas her up like that cause she definitely looks her age. Lol

[@MIMIKU03]

I was dying at Gina the entire time but I LOST IT when she got syrum in her eye 😂😂😂

[@Vanessa-co4rp]

I do NOT want kids I’m exactly like Jess all the kids in my family I avoid I just feel awkward idk how to interact with kids and I’m very impatient, even I hated being a kid lol but oddly enough I have names picked just in case

[@AnimazeBlack]

Vanessa first of all your beautiful, alot of girls these days feel the same way everybody i know under 30 says they want to travel and relax and live stressfree. This is everywhere and even worse in Asia. You gotta remember when you are older they say you will regret it cause you will have nobody to take care of you, nobody to see on holidays eating every meal alone, schedule is work home and occasional meeting friends who are all married and busy etc. Not everybody exactly ofcourse but ive heard this alot. Your parents raised you well and put up with all the love nothings better than cherishing your own creation. Remember theres many who are praying to have a baby or regret waiting and now it's too late. If everybody didn't want children life would stop lol. But i know what u mean

[@shhshhannon]

@@AnimazeBlack having children is not about having someone to take care of you when you older, that's wrong.

[@ryopi23]

I am the same as you ever since I was younger I was awkward with kids and babies. I am now 29 going on 30 still no kids in a healthy 4-year relationship and he does not want kids either. I don't think I ever will. If you don't you don't.

[@jrmy198523]

Its a biological thing. You will never love another thing in this world more than you will your own creation. There is not one feeling of regret after bringing life into this world. It feels as though it is a part of the human experience. I’ve realized that religion is a reflection of the father and son relationship. The unconditional and all-forgiving love that you have for your child is exactly how Gods’s Love is expressed in religion. The relationship between God and Man is exactly the relationship between a Man and his child. I can only imagine, that the experience of being a mother is like the relationship between Earth and it’s inhabitants. That is my best way to explain the unexplainable.

[@shhshhannon]

@@ryopi23 💯 respect

[@halleyheideveld3927]

Gina pulling down her green screen pointing at her furniture and then yanking it back up is a big mood.

[@camillew.christenson3451]

YESSSS. Love Jess and Gina. It's a growing number of people who realize having kids is an option, and people are actually contemplating whether they have a real interest in wanting kids. Society is a baby-centric community where too many people have kids without any or too much thought; just because everyone does it, don't realize they have an option not to, or they themselves or other people convince them with false reality that they'll go into this blissful, unconditional, kids are the best attitude. And, what should be true to everyone, if you don't or do have an interest in anything, being with or not a significant other should not change or create an interest since interests come from the self. I have already been dismissed, written off, and not listened to. I didn't want kids when i was single, and still strongly do not want kids in a relationship. otherwise, i if i had a kid, i know i'd regret it. Hopes to get sterilzed while having my current work health insurance.

[@jacquelinepayne4737]

The beauty is in the details..... All of these gorgeous ladies comes from a completely different background and yet are very supportive and encouraging to each other. I’d love for them to be tracked in a lifetime study to see how their friendships evolve over their lifetime.

[@ezamona]

ily! i'm seriously loving these quarantine podcasts.

[@daiishi_kinyoubi]

it went really deep 😊 loved this episode

[@chibisaraface]

Tuna, mayo, and rice is sooo good too. I love the tuna mayo Japanese riceballs.

[@jayveexiong]

They're all so close, they're not even phased by Gina's weird background changes. Lol

[@xXxSaBakkaxXX10]

Omg already one of my fav episodes just for the spa theme 😂😭❤️❤️

[@gerberadaisyluver]

I have never wanted kids, and I'm in my mid 30s. I don't feel less of a woman, and it doesn't make you less. Don't ever have kids, because of societal pressure because then you WILL regret having kids, and I think that is worse than having the regret of not having them. I commend parents though for all the patience they need to have to raise children.

[@mariko45]

Never really gravitated to watching big mood but I'm glad I clicked on this one! Jess and Gina...LOVE!

[@isodragonentertainment291]

Gina look like that you Asian lady from mulan the one that had tea spills on her

[@cheekydelinqwent9080]

Jess has feelings she'd like to express. Gina is hilarious. Tiff is the godsend of mothers. Nikki is the radio voice at the moment. I love all of your interactions. Y'all interchange and aren't afraid to be vulnerable. Dope show! I miss boze 💛

[@juliamarie9781]

Tiff! You made me cry too 🥺💗

[@tiffanyhuerta9637]

Gina I just want to say that you freaking crack me up! Your jokes are always hilarious

[@eaz54]

23:05 Jess's reaction to Tiff's moment 😂

[@franchescamanygoats2738]

Love the theme. 💆‍♀️

[@dropalot1449]

Omg jess I have used that honey sleeping pack It just melts into ma skin

[@margauxhutchins]

I love them talking about food. It's like when I talk to my homegirls about eating!

[@jeanettekakareka]

I'm listening to the audio version while I make food/commute on my bike but I'm glad KZbin suggested the video to me so I can visual what is going on during this episode 😂😂😂

[@ivonned4849]

Yes girl Mexican snack.. Tuna and corn!!! As to what Nikki said, the hospital here in Phoenix, Az allow one person with you. My older sister is currently in labor and the only one person with her is her husband. Once she was admitted her husband CAN NOT leave he has to stay with her.

[@ailerios2630]

This was awesome, I did a face mask while watching and it felt like great girl time!!

[@gracie4042]

I love this set up. I think you guys should keep it even after the quarantine is over. It is much more funny

[@Cosmeticsbychailai]

I swear Gina is always making these videos funny as hell

[@mxxxn]

Just finished listening to the audio & had to come back to watch the video lol

[@princess_sonianevermind]

I like listening to y’all....

[@rachel.doremi6974]

Y’all should premiere this and jump into the chat rms! But like release it at 7(edit: PM) so Gina can be awake too

[@jessicah2o123]

Aww Tiff is making me cry

[@carrierider5700]

I’m like Jess. My niece doesn’t give a crap about me cuz idk how to interact with kids. She’s attached to her other aunts who love kids even though they have none.

[@antoinettetruss1991]

Hate to say it but babys are the best judge of character. If a baby doesn't like you reevaluate the energy you put out because they pick up on energy that adults miss

[@itslauraxox]

Tiff talking about that tuna, corn, mayo with those saltines- flashback to a true savory Mexican American snack haha. I love how Jess was like um what, not even I.

[@AntonioLopez-mb9jj]

😍🤩 you girls looks so cute in the beginning and beautiful like always even with no makeup

[@BETO00]

i relate to jess so much on the whole kid stuff😂

[@AntonioLopez-mb9jj]

4:35 I think some medications and some locations are too and not sure places they make them to the headquarters of the pharmacy company or department of the store and I do know individual locations had issues. There a medication I ran out and for a few days was with out I use a HEB location (Jess you know HEB the grocery store chan in Texas and few other places in the USA and Mexico so tell the others) then I was told by that location they haven't gotten it ,but other location has it. I was surprised they already didn't do that ,but I guess ether store policy or by law to fill one location to a other.

[@homaralexanderxg]

Hey guys i love this show. I love Geo, Tiff, Jess, Gina, Boze, Nikki, and i love everyone from JKNEWS

[@lauraannrp1]

Jess is fckn hilarious 🤣

[@kene4151]

Gina gives me life

[@twofacedconker4900]

I don't have kids of my own have had GF s with kids it's super fun teaching them things and seeing them get a little smarter everyday

[@cherryrawson6909]

Also Tuna, sweetcorn and Mayo with pasta is pretty popular in the UK I'd say

[@Joe.D.Sheppard]

One of the few things I am certain of in this life is that I will never (intentionally/willingly) have kids. I can't stand children in the slightest.

[@Tywder]

this theme made me go and finally open the clay mask that I never had the time to try

[@radicalxrose]

My favorite episode! Too funny xD

[@JCamcrew]

It must be a Mexican thing for tuna and corn! I had a coworker show me that and I made that like a month ago! My brother thought it was weird lol it’s not that bad though!

[@gerberadaisyluver]

Add green onions and it's even better.

[@Jay_jay265]

It's delicious! Add some lemon and hot sauce and boom makes a difference

[@peacelife]

Jess- it is best to mix your clay mask with honey and lemon. The honey will help with everything from healing, moisture, soften and repair your skin. The lemon will help with whitening. Gina- what would we do without u haha the background. Niki- my friend went into labor recently and her husband was in the room with her and after so mayb ur is diff each state. Also, Niki haha that nightmares that your kid may kill you after listened to their bf. There actually some real crimes like that happen. For the topic today, it is true for women reach 30's age range . It made us think more about family and kids. But it takes such a toll on our body, mental and physical stress. It is even more stress if there arent a special person out there. Financial and family pressure especially in Asian culture. But there are also lots of positive experiences to have a baby as well.

[@thiccboi4886]

4:55 As a Thiccboi I highly recommend adding a sweeter honey mustard, cilantro, onions and a lil bit of lime . That is heaven

[@paramores3]

I am with Tiff with the tuna corn it’s a thing in England (other places I’m sure)I had it there the first time and it’s good.

[@JaCubanito]

Watching this turned my stressed out day around...at least for an hour.

[@marianadenoronha]

You girls should learn how to make Brigadeiro. It's a brazillian desert and you can eat it with a spoon while its still warm right out of the pan. It's the best!

[@mytinyworkshop1213]

Gina is on point with that sandwich. I usually do mayo, peanut butter and cucumber.

[@od410]

Yayyyy missed you gals 😛🥰

[@mayvidz463]

love nikki's friendly roasts she should be on wild n out!

[@sirdirte1855]

I eat tuna and saltines all the time, I'll have to try the corn combo!

[@anthonyzabala2093]

I have thought about it

[@daryllepedrosa692]

We really love and appreciate you all, so please let Tiff finish her story

[@TheReMorseCode]

everyone's skin is so clear?! glowwwwing

[@edgystyle7351]

If you all are bored start streaming on Twitch. There is called just chatting on Twitch. Their some interesting streamers on Twitch. Also, the community on there seem wholesome. You guys can make a little bit of money through subscriptions, adds and gifting. I love you all ladies like sisters. Big Mood is fun. Good luck!

[@acultural_]

1:20 lmaoo im already dead

[@alohaitshennessy28]

i was like what is gina doing 41:46 but then she took out her green screen lol love her

[@prttymama6]

Tuna and Mayo is a Mexican thing lol except we never put corn in it we put tomato and onion 😋

[@lumimi6591]

I love how Gina goes from geisha to Iron Man this episode lmao

[@Misanthr6py]

We need a everyone gets drunk podcast that’d be so fun to watch lol

[@JCamcrew]

Oh! Tiff I love your headband!!! Where did you get it?

[@kimberly5295]

Tiff should try Tuna,corn mayo and Pasta!

[@ChocolateL0ver]

WHy is no one commenting on the fact that GINA was fucking HILARIOUS in this video?

[@Renata_Knight]

Does anyone know where Nikki and Tiff got their robes? 😍😍😍

[@Babayaga.50]

Gina's sandwich combo is legit. Im here for it.

[@AntonioLopez-mb9jj]

4:09 Niki that how I felt when due to being sick I couldn't go to the GYM and at the doctor's appointment I told I lost weight . Like I do cardio especially with one with a TV keeps my attention and due to my flat feet it has to be a type of elliptical ,but I do put recisdents and if it like the Precore EFX machines 835 (I looked up now) it has both residents and slop settings too I done that machine both at 20 both residents and slop. Then I do weights too and it hard because you get lean weight on and since I don't look like a bodybuilder or powerlifter doctors see that you still have fluffiness at the my doctors they are lose weight though I felt leaner ,but thicker due to lean muscle mass . Then I worked out less due to bad luck getting sick from my breathing problems and other stuff popping up. I was told you lost some weight. I wonder onece they figure out a vaccine and/or medications that for sure work next in person visit to my doctors offices will say oh you lost a few pounds even though I feel fluffier. Though Nikki trust Steve , me and other fans you look great. Your cute personality also brightens Steve life ; your family ; your friends ; and your fans . Same with the rest of you saying you too you look great and we all like your personalitys you brighten up life everyone too.