Michelle's Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Recovery Story | The CFS Health Podcast (Episode 33)

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[@CFSHealth]

Comment your biggest takeaway from Michelle’s story! A big thank you to her for sharing it!

[@kathbond45]

This has been the most insightful video for me so far. Thank you Michelle for sharing your story. I realised very early on in my condition that there were huge psychological barriers to my recovery. I knew I didn’t want to go back to being the person I was before, yet I was constantly comparing myself to my old self. Realising that was the first step forward. Then I had to turn off my ‘drive’ button because like you Michelle I feel little joy and the joy I got was through achievement and gratitude from others. I have found it desperate to rest and even while off sick I quite without trying created a business from a hobby. I was at CFS stage 3 when I didn’t even have a baseline. It’s really scary to turn the drive button off and I resisted it strongly. I’m in the early process of doing that now - and the little me is petrified. But I’m starting to see the bennefits. I’ve learnt to do meditation properly and am becoming more focused and more accepting of myself. The two light bulb moments for me today were that I think I have blamed my partner and have thought I’d get better without the demands of a relationship. I’ve realised that is self sabotage and I can learn to be different within our relationship. Until today - this seems crazy now - but I never equated my baseline with shifts in beliefs and psychology. I’ve seen it as I can do that and can’t do that and if I do that too much I crash. I now understand why I was stuck. And, on that note I’ve used the word stuck in terms of my baseline or not ever having had a base line for years! Yes - it’s been a prison. But my learning recently is that I am labelling myself stuck - I am deciding and believing that. I was asked by someone recently ‘Is it acceptable to you to be stuck?’ Of course the answer was no! Then something in me shifted and I thought of my of my opposite construct to stuck and it was FREE. This for me has been liberating as for the first time I was able to see that right now and from every day forward I can create a happier more healthy and at ease me. I know it’s going to take time but I can feel the shift. Today I felt tired really truly tired and I think it’s a sign that my body and mind is finally being given what it deserves. Brilliant interview - so brilliant - thank you both 😊 imprisoned and ‘stuck’, thinking of others weren’t around that you would be better joy achievement the base line

[@user-re1td9ep3u]

I'm so hopeful in my recovery. CFS health has been the only answer I've seen so far there are the answers you guys been looking . Join the programme you won't regret it .I have been there for 1 month I wish I had the finances to do this for 1 year .my God its worth it. Please if you can afford it join the programme and give others like me a reason for living 😢

[@jasminemccracken8156]

Reminds me of a term I have heard “unhooking from praise and criticism”

[@biancathomas7934]

Thanks once again for this video. So many great people coming through to show us all, there is success and light at the end of the tunnel. I'm a mum, the guilt and responsibilities are so real. Before my head trauma and following diagnosis of ME/CFS I was a mum who worked full time, sometimes working 60 hr weeks. I pushed the limits even after suffering a nervous breakdown and not facing the issues in full. I realised I had to release this guilt. Its easier said than done. I think I'm doing well for the most part at standing up for myself and stating what I need in order to function for my own positive outcome while supporting my child (understanding my boundaries) It's tough because I still have to deal with people in my life who think they are understanding but at the same time question my choices. I just had a wake up to this energy this weekend (energy vampire). I'm currently in a low period (still not as low as last year which is great that i'm fighting to stay afloat) but this eye opening experience is a game changer. It's what I do with that knowledge now that makes the difference.😊 Thank you Toby and Michelle 💫

[@heathergreenhalgh2289]

🌊 A fly on the KZbin wall . . .as I'm not a FaceBooker Fan. Gratitude to you, and Toby, (for creating this Uplifting resting SPACE/ platform) and Michelle for sharing their details and stories. We all seem to feel a vulnerability in connecting these crazy life dots. It is a profound relief, to not feel like we have to hide our truths & reverberate similar experiences and find good common ground. I am currently reading Michelle Obama's book "The Light We Carry." She also expresses this personal value in belonging "In opening my vault and shining some light on the times when I'd felt most vulnerable or out of control, I'd end up discovering more community than I'd ever known." You GET IT, because Your Energy Flow had been Slapped down. It is so encouraging to recognize that others are changing for the better.🙏 I SEE the Light in You. .. even through the screen! 🌈🌈

[@aboutthed00r]

Absolutely wonderful! Thank you both. Toby, you love a mentor... well you and team are mine. These videos continue to help keep me on track. So much to take away from what Michelle said. Too many nuggets of wisdom to pick one. Listen if you can folks!

[@CFSHealth]

Our pleasure Dru!

[@maryannemcardy7764]

What a heartwarming and truly inspirational interview. Thanks so much, Toby and Michelle, for your honesty. So refreshing when people aren't afraid to be real ❤

[@elainemartin9654]

This time….those whispering voices in my head..,,stood out to me….and the pressure of living how others think…,rather then figuring out what l personally need…..It’s almost beyond my imagination that a person is actually allowed to do that…,with no guilt????And its seeing Michelle was able to turn that around….that keeps giving me a little hope that maybe l can too…Thankyou so much….

[@elainemartin9654]

Guilt on top of sadness…..Thankyou Michelle, for having courage to talk about the raw emotions that so many of us struggle with….

[@danielascott5309]

This was amazing. Thank you Michelle and Toby! I related to almost every word Michelle spoke. Such a valuable interview❤

[@CFSHealth]

You're so welcome!

[@faytalbot9817]

Absolutely fantastic WOW Wonderful LUV IT thanks so much for sharing your story - hugely beneficial 💖💖💖

[@CFSHealth]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@kendraweech4253]

Yeah, there was so much that I could take and use from this recovery story. I related so much to the invoices and who are they coming from where they coming for me or somebody else or what does it look like for me to let go and loosen the grip. There’s so much good stuff and I am really looking forward to trying the program. 52:31 Thank you both so much for sharing ❤🙌🙏

[@Miaoen68]

Thanks for a really great recovery story!! The first story I have heard that counts in the internal struggles and the transformation of life and personality this program offers to address. This helped me make my decision to join clearer ❤

[@CFSHealth]

Thanks for sharing Mia! Glad it was helpful!

[@aprililes8355]

Thankyou so much for this video!! I could relate to so much Michelle said!!

[@aprililes8355]

Tears were streaming down my face. Losing your identity at 58 yrs old and not being able to function fully both physically and mentally would be extremely depressing for anyone!! Very real!! I'm not crazy and it's just not in my head! Thankgod for you guys to validate that!!🙏❤

[@CFSHealth]

You are so welcome! Thanks for sharing April!

[@neemathebest]

Great story very authentic thank you. Guilt and pressure....working mum it's a journey but if you made it I shall make it.

[@CFSHealth]

Love it!

[@elainemartin9654]

Thankyou so much Michelle and Toby…..While l am not a Mom, a lot of Michelle s internal issues sound exactly like what l struggle with right now…

[@CFSHealth]

So glad it resonated

[@carolynskittrall2383]

Thanks Michelle and Toby, I could relate to much of that.

[@CFSHealth]

Our pleasure!

[@johnkaeck2498]

Thanks once again, these recovery stories are inspiring. Thanks to your free videos I have hope! I have been working on my baseline and it is so mystifying sometimes. But every time I see a new video of yours I renewed inspiration. Thank you! John

[@CFSHealth]

Our pleasure John! Keep going!

[@sassi7966]

Omg I went through this too! Lost my kids to evil ex who drove me crazy. While I was also battling cfs, energy down to 25%. Now I'm battling voices in head from mum. I'm at the stage where I'm starting to realise I actually think the opposite to much of what she thinks of / for me! 47 years old and u realise your mum has been surreptitiously manipulating your emotions, self esteem, choices, confidence and life! I'm kindof angry 😠 at her and me..

[@mycreativeheart4159]

Hi Sassi...🙋‍♀️. I know I've responded to you before (so sorry if I've mentioned any of this before.) The way you describe your mom, sounds just like mine. It took me till 55 (or so) to figure out that my mom was/is a narcissistic. Once I started doing some research... she fit so many of the descriptors and had treated me in typical narcissistic ways. With outside some help, I was able to understand that her behaviour had absolutely nothing to do with me. It was all about her fears and insecurities, her need for control, her inability to admit wrong doings or appear vulnerable. It was all about appearances, what people thought about her, how what I said and did reflected on other peoples perception of her. In a way... knowing these things helped to break my emotional ties to her. Now I honestly don't care what she says about me or the ways she tries to tear me down... because I know that I'm a good, caring, compassionate, sensitive human being.... and that I deserve respect and kindness. I also no longer try to correct her, validate my hurt feelings, or fix that relationship at all. Because of the way her brain works, her type of personality, her experiences in life... she will never understand how much she has hurt me, how much she damaged me, or how wrong she was. So there's no point in wasting my energy trying to convince her. I'm basically now indifferent in that situation. Don't be angry at yourself.... you developed coping mechanisms that helped you navigate and survive a childhood under that type of mental and emotional abuse. Be grateful that you have seen this and are aware ....that you are nothing like she says you are. Know that nothing you say will ever change her mind of you. You know in your heart what a kind and caring person you are. Take strength in that. You can now begin to step away, emotionally, and start to heal your heart. Start nurturing yourself the way you wish "a real mother" would have treated you. It took me a while to realize that all my inner child wanted... was to be believed, to feel like she was enough as she is, to be accepted, and to be loved unconditionally. Sending you love always.❤❤❤

[@majahorvat7294]

Good information, thanks

[@CFSHealth]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lynnlasak4089]

Yup and ppd!

[@lyonsclairee.676]

Guilt aspect of the stories about being there for ur kids and then grandkids when ur just tired but still u push

[@harmonie2soi]

Bonjour, Merci infiniment pour le partage de cet interview. Le programme que vous proposez existe t il en français svp ? Merci pour votre retour

[@suzannax]

Letting go of self imposed expectation to be "perfect"

[@chrismcdermott1864]

Is there a web site for the supplements to get rid of Chronic Fatigue

[@libbyashby6405]

Stop trying to please the un-pleaseable. Make known your boundaries.

[@111vdv]

Hi can I ask if you also had hyperalgesia? All your symptoms I have plus chronic pain [ hyperalgesia] diagnosed as fibromyalgia will your programme work for me ?

[@kimnichols5972]

Hi I got diagnosed with fibromyalgia and suffer from daily chronic pain and fatigue, etc. What is the difference with fibromyalgia and fibroalgesia? Thank you.

[@privateperson5769]

I love the sound of this course but ...if you have not been working for 1O+ years because of CFS ...how can u afford it :( It sounds weird too, but I'd like to hear from people who did the course and did not get better as I have done a 3 day course in my country based on NLP for CFS and she has people with success stories but it did nt have lasting effect on me and I did not stay better even tho I felt better after the 3 days. it is easy to show all the success stories but the reality is u for CFS and assoc chronic symptoms, can go from course to course just as you go from Dr to Dr looking for the answer to fix you. ps Great convo Michelle. TY.

[@esthercave8111]

Is it just me or dies it sound like she didnt have cfs. Keeps talking about feelings not symptoms. If it was me talking i would talk about my hellish symptoms my immune system not working, shingkes every infection,insomnia, constant sinusitis. Crippling fatigue, vertigo,pots,my husband had to give uo work and look after me and my son. I just dont hear symptoms just how she felt about being a new mum and trapped. Doesn't sound like cfs.