Tom Bilyeu & His Wife EXPOSE Red Pill, What Women Desire & How To Become Irresistible | Lisa Bilyeu

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Traditional roles for men and women in both personal and professional contexts are rapidly changing, and if you want to play the dating game to win and find a mate, you need to understand what makes women tick and how to be authentic while also desirable and irresistible.
In today’s episode of Impact Theory, I’m joined by my wife Lisa Bilyeu for a super deep, insightful conversation around what women actually desire in a guy and WHY; how to become irresistible to the opposite sex; and the complexities of personal choices in the context of societal expectations, gender roles, and personal fulfillment.
Lisa Bilyeu is an entrepreneur, producer, best-selling author, public speaker, and host inspiring and empowering women (and men!) to build their confidence and change their life. Lisa co-founded the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition, is co-founder and president of Impact Theory Studios, and she has built a global audience while creating an impressive slate of content that has been viewed over half a billion times.
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We are digging deep into:
- the intricacies of deciding NOT to have children in your relationship
- effects of societal pressures on individual decisions
- dynamics of a healthy relationship
- the struggles and fulfillment that come with ANY decision
- impacts of birth control on relationship dynamics
- shifting perceptions of relationships in modern times
- platforms like OnlyFans and their role in changing the dynamics of sexuality and personal expression
- the concept of "hypergamy" and societal views on relationships
- need for self-awareness and courage to pursue your ideal life
- the importance of communication and mutual respect in relationships
Lisa and I also go head to head as we explore how platforms like OnlyFans can be both empowering and exploitative, the most effective the decision-making processes you can use when it comes to big decisions, and the importance of making your own choices without fear of external criticism.
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Chapter Markers:
[0:00] Challenges in finding love
[18:06] Hypergamy and women's choices
[43:53] Dynamics and expectations in relationships
[1:14:51] Consequences of promiscuity
[1:40:46] Human vs robot connection
[2:02:21] Balancing work, family, and potential regrets
[3:05:32] Beliefs aligned with evolution
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Themes: Mindset, Finance, World Affairs, Health & Productivity, Future & Tech, Simulation Theory & Physics, Dating & Relationships

[@TomBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@henrythegreatamerican8136]

You and her eyebrows say it all. You have those sad looking puppy dog eyebrows during this interview and hers look like an evil movie villain.

[@AlfonzoBonzo32]

Tom divorce this weed smoking alien!! Lisa phone home!!

[@ryanviningtube]

Please spend some time reconsidering your decision to not have children.

[@Flex4LX]

Tom is making it out the matrix 🌐 soon!

[@shad0weagle78]

Bro, I'm 55min in and I wanted to give my perspective on what you are talking about between the lines at least 3 times... Just turned 26and I'm going to bed. Hope all is well! Cheers!

[@charlesdexterward7781]

This video is indeed telling me something about the Red Pill, but I don't think it's what Tom & wife expect it to be telling me...

[@caribguy2007]

This is a strange episode, his wife but yet seems like she isnt. Even started weird.

[@jjhosseiny]

This explains everything about this dude. You people have no idea what your talking about

[@Ralph_Kreutzberger-Blumenfeld]

You can see how big of a simp Tom is and that his wife wears the pants in the relationship. It's her way or the highway.

[@Mili-bedili]

Disgruntled red pill incel alert!

[@sardonumspa8113]

@@Ralph_Kreutzberger-BlumenfeldHe spreads his legs for her! 😂

[@Edpilani]

How does this translate to a working class couple with kids? The reality of childcare while living paycheck to paycheck is completely ignored by these two. This is the truth for the average family in America right now

[@jzen1455]

I agree. Not every man can be exceptional and the average guy is screwed.

[@ChandlerSavage]

I agree. The information in this is useful if you have the privilege of financial independence, but 70% of Americans live paycheck-to-paycheck and the emotional struggle of this reality is not appreciated.

[@D-Gen-onenine]

Yeah if u listen to women advice online I got to the conclusion that I am a loser even if I am an electrician with my own company. People nowadays have gotten delusional, women and men

[@therearenoshortcuts9868]

what does woman desire in a guy? *dr evil face: "1 billion dollars..." LOL jk

[@roland1912]

Yeah, most of the podcasts with several million+ subscribers are essentially a multi-millionaire host interviewing a multi-millionaire guest, and their problems and suggestions are exaggerations of the average person's problems, and the solutions are impossible due to having to live FAR below the means of the millionaire host / guest.

[@JanetAFL]

Ambition of a partner is a personal preference. To each their own. I value faith, kindness, individuality, self sufficiency. I have the same traits.

[@dumbdonny4824]

Ambition carries most of those. If someone says they have faith but do nothing of action to their faith would you admire that? Or would you admire they have ambition IN the categories you mentioned. Ambition is the way we apply ourselves in the things we do not the things we do specifically. I hope I can offer a different perspective of the word ambition and how it doesn't negate anything else you said ❤

[@goodhuman3338]

This comment section is surprising. Do you all know that they are married and there is a reason they have been for 20+ years? Two different people with two different opinions on issues. Shocker. You all should get over your feelings, you will be fine.

[@lynnsalee8645]

Like hello preach

[@pxlarquitectos]

its like a child conversation with an adult, feminism has just infiltrated everyone u_u

[@kevinbrowne3089]

It’s over. He just doesn’t know it yet.

[@therearenoshortcuts9868]

50 shades of overness :p

[@JeffDuhon]

Trueeee

[@gary_beniford]

Tom is such a weird guy. He didn't want a kid with Lisa because he was too worried about losing some percentage of her attention to HIS OWN CHILD. Lisa has Tom addicted to her in an unhealthy way and the result is an extreme form of selfishness/narcissism from the two of them. "They're codependent!!!"

[@scottk1525]

Chuckled when she referred to Tom as "hyper masculine." Bro dresses like a 15 year old boy.

[@mwilliamson4198]

I'm guessing she's referring to his motivation / energy. Not how he dresses

[@lisar.2549]

So true, but he loves that style. And she dresses like a teenage rapper.

[@vrcatlady7227]

Men who wear brand name stylish clothes but are broke are not masculine 😂

[@lisar.2549]

@@vrcatlady7227 also true? But irrelevant to what we’re talking about.

[@fine_gold]

he is hyper masculine tho

[@bobbyritter2062]

parenting is a blessing not a chore . Children are the jewels in your crown of life .

[@uprightmovement]

She’s not Awesome, she’s playing a Persona in the Status Game of the Wasteland of the Modern World.

[@BTx933]

Seriously, so many people today seem so insanely fake. So tiresome.

[@sabrielluv]

This is the BEST COMMENT! Hahaha yes it’s beyond crazy this episode

[@lisar.2549]

“Wasteland of the Modern World”, so true.

[@saladboy1465]

is that a wonderwoman necklace? that is so cringe holy cow

[@dustinguinta5108]

I love Tom. I wanted to love this conversation but something felt weirdly pretentious and arrogant about it. Its like how a billionaire would tell the working to just work harder and be smarter. Also, defending the choice for women to do Onlyfans like it's a good life choice and then blaming men for perpetuating it is morally repugnant.

[@prifrd9958]

Jesus…

[@lisar.2549]

Lmao 😂

[@JohnJohnCrusher]

Right?!

[@saminsomerset]

I’m exhausted just listening to her for a few minutes 😂She seems like the kind of girl who wants her husband to fight to the death if someone calls her a bad word

[@ASMRBarbie]

If someone looked at her funny 😄

[@Medietos]

I know and agree, - she has sensitivity and does not have health balance though, which is hard to have for anyone today. I appreciate her distinct pronunciation of words, even when she doesn't speak the King's English. i don't know how much she is all herself though, and how much she talks with her own (modern, younger female) audience in mind.

[@Ralph_Kreutzberger-Blumenfeld]

Tom is one of the biggest simps ever!

[@bliss4383]

@@Ralph_Kreutzberger-Blumenfeld Is this the egocentric Manosphere corner? He’s happy. She’s happy. You’re not. Sniff.

[@saminsomerset]

I’m wonderfully happy and married for many years with a beautiful chilled wife & daughter.. after living and working in the financial district for decades I now live in the countryside and can’t abide that type of hyper-vigilant personality and those that gravitate to it.. but nice try 😂

[@rocketmaniscool]

Oh look, Will and Jada. 👀

[@TheRealMissingLink]

😭

[@lisar.2549]

No way, those psychos are a nightmare!

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

😂

[@villaespesa1]

I don't think so. Lisa seems very invested emotionally in Tom. However, I can see how you came to that conclusion . Her alpha female demeanor has some of that vibe.

[@lisar.2549]

@@villaespesa1 no, I meant WILL and JADA are psychos! Tom and Lisa are cool.

[@kushalraj2822]

The problem with high body count is that the urge to sleep with others won't stop even after getting in relationship or marriage. Might have worked out for you guys but for majority it doesn't.

[@yeahyeahyeahyeah1111]

Soul ties are forever

[@RuneValken]

My main reaction to Lisa's decision to not have kids so she can focus her love on her husband is, love isn't a null sum game. Having kids doesn't make you love spouse less, seeing them as a parent can help you love them more. I wonder if her negative experience as a stay at home wife is giving a negative taste to the idea of another traditional female role, as a mom. It was a neat episode.

[@damienthibodeau7612]

Body count is not necessarily about insecurities, sometimes it's about values. If intimacy is sacred for someone and the other sees it as a mean to an end, there is a clash in values and the two may just not be compatible. If someone is yearning for a real connection but is sharing their body with hundreds of people, words are not matching the actions, at least the execution is wrong. In my opinion, it's a mindset and value indicator.

[@sajanpatel7285]

Exactly

[@rodnee2340]

Is that his wife! She's like a mini female Andrew Tate. Some of what she says is correct. But it's not profound and she seems hard to live with.

[@jarvanwildrift8056]

Tom works 100 hour weeks this fits him someone who can demand some attention

[@saladboy1465]

She sounds like every other woman that has been on Fresh and Fit, literally word for word in some instances. Ambition is tied to money, that's why she said the guy working at McDonald's has to be working towards owning it. She wants to operate in grey areas so she can't be held accountable to any standard, but has a list of things men need to be.

[@Mili-bedili]

Ambition was the point! No one, not a man, not a woman, and certainly not a person with self respect, wants a whiny self defeated unambitious partner!

[@saladboy1465]

@@Mili-bedili men constantly marry unambitious women. I don't know why you jump to extremes, just because someone isn't ambitious doesn't mean they are whiny and self defeated. Ambition = money. It's that simple, if you weren't able to pick that up you aren't too bright.

[@mayrobintamang]

10 mins in and I am already making my judgement.......You Guys are living in LA LA LAND..........Away from reality.........

[@JeffDuhon]

Don’t judge. Tell me your feelings

[@andyyhimself]

Beta!

[@RiseofMasculine]

I lost my Job in 2023 and Started this KZbin channel to move forward in life. Hope I will Make it and Wish me good luck brothers ❤️

[@HerMan.Vx6]

All the best and blessings on your way brother!

[@Edpilani]

You should do a response to this video.

[@MrHDProd]

good luck bro

[@typosbro_]

I just subscribed 🫡

[@user-tb1jy7rr9e]

Shut down your channel

[@xiongbenjamin]

Tom, your wife is either going to be the demise of your reputation or you will succumb to her ignorance. Your channel has steered a different path. A lot of click bait titles and now this? After 8 years of listening to your amazing podcast, it has come to my realization that you have lost your mission with this channel. I’m officially unsubscribed. Not that it matters.

[@jzen1455]

I'm tempted to say something but will listen to the entire video before I respond.

[@kelsey4521]

Someone sounds bitter

[@TS-qs7jx]

Bitter much

[@fredwinslow744]

Why unsubscribe What is the path difference ? Or is it just this episode ?

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

Plenty of people are unsubscribing. 2/3’s of the comments are negative.

[@isabeller6227]

People calling Tom a beta are missing the entire point of this episode. Its his show, his job is to hear the guests' viewpoint and have a discussion in a way that is not confrontational. He doesnt agree with her but he is trying to understand....as good interviewers do. Him talking over her and expressing his displeasure for what she's saying will not move the dialogue along. She's trying to explain things from a womans point of view in an attempt to generalize the concepts that Tom is bringing up. Shes not doing only fans shes explaining why someone might. The fact that people are triggered by them having a tough and vulnerable discussion infront of yall is crazy. They are in a happy and healthy relationship that obviously works for both. You're not in it. At the end of the day, he's rich, and is happily married. Professionally he's built a platform that we all learn from. What you should be taking away from this conversation is how to communicate with your partner. How to listen to understand instead of to fight. They both are hearing each other and that's a beautiful thing.

[@deliap.8456]

Well said 😊

[@dumbdonny4824]

First sane comment I've read lol thank you

[@360camera]

That's his wife not a guest 😂

[@isabeller6227]

@360camera obviously his wife but it's on a platform where he has guests on. It's not that hard of a concept to grasp. It's called professionalism but whatever

[@Mili-bedili]

💯💯💯👏👏👏

[@hederabull]

All women are different. This is one females opinion

[@csquad5071]

When it comes to what they fundamentally want and desire no they’re not and they only people who think they’re so complex or different are the people are the ones who don’t have much experience with them or are in denial about women because they don’t want to accept that the woman they’re currently with fits right in with many of the unflattering things about women.

[@rayrwyr]

Women are much more similar than different. Men are much more similar than different. But women and men are very different but in a complementary way. Women and men must work together and not compete with each other.

[@hederabull]

@@rayrwyr agree. Tell that to all feminists

[@spencerfitz957]

I hear a lot of “Me”, “my feelings”, and “right now”. That’s behavior that is intuitive in children and a good parent teaches their children to think outside of themselves to their surroundings and their future. Also, seems to be a theme in the feminism movement. Also, I don’t know exactly the best approach here, but something that is often missing from these conversations is not all women in careers are the same and not every “Stay at Home Mom” purpose and existence is the same. It’s often spoken about that if you stay at home with the children that there are only one set of results that are not as “personally fulfilling”. Maybe that’s why they discussed that they don’t recommend one way for anyone. Update: I wrote this before Tom said people might hear what she said and think she’s a “selfish child” who hasn’t grown up 😅

[@Mcouey2]

Wow, mansplain more to me how I'm allowed to exist in the United States as a woman. Please Daddy, tell me what I'm allowed to say. 🙄

[@c.christopher6115]

This is just a weird conversation between a married couple. I see no chemistry, attraction or adoration. It's like they just met today for this interview.

[@mikehopemar]

Only profits, loss (especially from her side). So sad. Like a second category man.

[@alexconstantine192]

It’s because they both want to be the husband.

[@360camera]

Sad to see. I imagined her differently since he always talked about her in a positive manner... she doesn't know the subject, she clearly dominates him, she is just a modern woman spitting venom. Saying OF is ok... nothing to add to make her image worse

[@sardonumspa8113]

That’s his wife? As you say this I stopped the video at 2:24 min. Do it and look at her face. It explains everything! 😂

[@dustinwyland6234]

This episode made me feel a little depressed and anxious about Tom’s future.

[@ListenGRASSHOPPER]

2 minutes in and I know who wears the pants

[@Flex4LX]

Damnnnn.... 🤣

[@lisar.2549]

Haha, all women are crazy, but at least she values discipline. 😅

[@bliss4383]

Manosnear….

[@JohnJohnCrusher]

Hey, who can overpower that kind of dominance? Too much.

[@timO67799]

And the jockstrap

[@J.James-Bowkey2830]

In this episode, Tom has a conversation with a fish-- on how to catch a fish.

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

Sorta loss some respect for Tom. Very unfortunate.

[@GavinTownsend]

So if you’re an ambitious 5ft 1 guy working at McDonald’s you’re going to love this video. 😂

[@bliss4383]

*****5ft 3. She self-corrected, adding she was 5ft 1.

[@tristanvanberkom]

5ft 5. Still, totally lame feminist episode, tuning out after 20min.

[@brianmeen2158]

@@tristanvanberkom I really don’t think Tom’s wife understands how it looks when she rolls out her list of what she wants in a man.. funny but not too funny - stoic but not too stoic - tough but not a caveman - able to read her emotions and know exactly what she needs at that time etc etc.. oh man I was getting tired just listening to her speak

[@villaespesa1]

​@@brianmeen2158 The mental gymnastics were of Olympian proportions 😅 Gold medal for sure Lol

[@crushinnihilism]

​@@brianmeen2158have you ever met a real women? They all talk like that

[@JeffDuhon]

She is the most masculine woman I’ve ever heard. Spokesperson who “I think I’m saying something.”

[@havebadday7850]

I just started listening, will have to pause for now and leave it for later. But I dint see anything so far of note. She uses a lot of her personal life (so anecdotal) and nothing about large sets of data or trends to make arguments.

[@nalsomtrik6341]

I noticed that too! One of the things I appreciate from both of them is that when Tom provides a stat/data, she listens intently, doesn't fight him when he's contrary or correcting, and then the conversation moves on.

[@ChristopherHayles]

I can't think of two people less qualified to talk about "the red pill." Maybe The View? Talk to Rollo, Tom.

[@ledsuitcase3073]

From Vikings!

[@rudolfst3367]

Anyone is qualified to talk about "the red pill", same with any idiotic concept.

[@Goldminks]

thank you, yet somehow Tom is dodging the obvious people qualified to talk about it, instead he bought on "Destiny"

[@lisar.2549]

No idea what they mean when they are referring to “the red pill”, yet they don’t explain it. To me and my friends it means something totally different I think.

[@Goldminks]

@@lisar.2549 what does it mean to you and your friends?

[@surita4376]

C'mon Lisa, selling sex online in any form is a problem and not helping men or women in any way. Money is not everything and selling your body is not empowering to women. It just creates more psychological and emotional problems for both the person creating sexual content and the person consuming it. There are less damaging ways to make money. People made money well before onlyfans existed

[@Ninja4hire110]

Here you go folks: A purely humanistic materialistic worldview = moral relativism and confusion... Shocking how bad his wife's advice is

[@thesnodgrasschannel6782]

Most of her advice was terrible. I had to stop watching.

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

It’s like a soft version of Jada vs Will Smith

[@thesnodgrasschannel6782]

@@BaileyWiggebutt facts

[@RickMcCargar]

High value men don't drive high mileage cars.

[@thesnodgrasschannel6782]

She couldn't articulate her defense of poor female behavior. So many excuses.

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

That’s 100% true. Unfortunately many high value men take a spin in high mileage cars thinking it’s a cheap thrill and doesn’t cost much. We know how that ends.

[@lisar.2549]

@@thesnodgrasschannel6782I agree on this!

[@Mmmmkaaay]

How would YOU know?

[@indiegogogirl2662]

Jeff Bezos?

[@v9b23j]

I believe that one reason some women judge young, beautiful girls who pursue (wealthy) older men is because, subconsciously, they recognize that men, irrespective of age, are often drawn to youth and beauty. This notion finds support in Professor David Buss's renowned study, "Sex Differences in Human Mate Preferences: Evolutionary Hypotheses Tested in 37 Cultures," conducted at the Department of Psychology, University of Texas. The study highlights men's inclination towards relative youth and physical attractiveness in potential partners, as these traits signal women's health and fertility. In an interview on Impact Theory with Tom, Buss's student, William Costello, relayed the professor's observation that "Men are cursed as they get older to be attracted to women that are never going to desire them."

[@Mili-bedili]

"Men are cursed as they get older to be attracted to women that are never going to desire them." This! Let that sink in, fellas! Most young chicks aren't into old dudes! The few who are are rarely mentally healthy. Usually daddy issues or gold diggers. There are a few cases of legit healthy relationships between young women and old men (and vice versa), but most of the time it's a fling or fetish. Most women want someone close to their age and maybe a few years older, but certainly not someone old enough to be her dad or grandfather!

[@bigvic950]

Tom would’ve loved to have kids. I see why he doesn’t now

[@daalmightpanda]

I would never be ok with being with someone who is ok with sharing themselves on Onlyfans. Imagine going out to eat or going to an event with a woman and over hearing a guy or guys talking about your women’s nudes. I as a guy would be very embarrassed.

[@crushinnihilism]

Absolutely agree. We have to stop telling women that this is acceptable.

[@uprightmovement]

Zero Substance

[@OAlem]

"A submissive woman that doesn't have an Instagram page, that doesn't sleep with other guys..." LOL

[@gary_beniford]

Crazy. If she wants a relationship why is she sleeping with other guys!!!!

[@encyclotubia6689]

TOM.... I like you as a brother.... but you got lots of red flags there......I was just like you.... but now Im paying a huge price....

[@donnalynnk38]

They’re both just catering to one another’s egos. No positive takes from this one, sorry

[@sherajr]

I've spent all my god damn life trying to be the person a women would like. Never been more alone. Fuck that..

[@aleks71438]

How? Why?

[@sherajr]

@@aleks71438 By taking note of what women say they want and trying to be that. Basically, it's probably because my Mom was my primary care giver growing up and my Dad worked a lot. So my early life was trying to keep Mom happy so I could get love. That turned into me really craving the love of a woman and always tried to be someone they wanted me to be so I can get that love. But that doesn't work apparently, at least it's not sustainable. Best thing to be is as much of yourself as possible and discovering who you are. Then the girl loves you for you and it's a lot better 🙏

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

Be you brother. Like yourself first by getting into sports, make good friends, and be close with your family.

[@slaveofAllahAlAzeezAlHakeem]

Be a person you can respect and the right woman will like you for it.

[@TSDamiano]

​@@aleks71438 Nice guys dont get dates ( harsh reality)

[@concernedblackman1913]

This episode starts off with her saying what’s “sexy as hell” in a man but when men say what we want in a woman we’re assholes, misogynist etc. i haven’t reached a minute yet and already know this is episode is gonna be on some bs. I’m interested in Tom’s response. I’ve had these talks with my wife and I was able to get her to see the logic. Let see if this woman is sensible and can do the sameZ

[@douglastibbitts364]

Tom .... Tom ..... Tom

[@NeopardusApollo]

Honestly, the amount of diverse feelings this is getting is indeed a red pill moment.

[@McInerneyEoin]

She embodies everything about why modern women are just for fun. I couldn't put up with someone like this being in my day to day life.

[@brianmeen2158]

You couldn’t pay me to hang out with someone like her .

[@Medietos]

YEs, but did you hear they have been married fir 21 years and she was a virgin?

[@Mmmmkaaay]

Why? Because she's not cowering in the corner and letting the men talk, like it's 1950? 🙄🙄🙄

[@Mili-bedili]

​@@MmmmkaaayBecause they're not masculine enough for her. 😂 It's the same sore loser attitude that little kids have when they've lost a game they were playing with other kids, "Well, I don't care about this stupid game anyway! 😤"

[@wookongninja7461]

Geez Tom No wonder you've been keeping her from us! She's a gem.

[@bryanh1830]

🎉

[@meowmix1569]

These comments are brutal and I suspect he's reading most of them lol

[@Mindfeels]

"After a 100 guys I'm the best she's ever had, yaaay"..😒🙄🤪 This lady must be a comedian.

[@crushinnihilism]

Comparison is the theif of joy.

[@villaespesa1]

I could see in Tom's face a little bit of disappointment with Lisa being OK with OnlyFans. He is a romantic at heart, and he would have preferred to see her take a stand against debauchery. She comes from a family with old school, traditional values. I think he wanted to see that.

[@crushinnihilism]

That would require judging women for their behavior and we cant possibly do that.

[@villaespesa1]

@crushinnihilism Women used to hold each other accountable. My grandmother did not stay quiet whenever she saw other women behaving unlady like.

[@crushinnihilism]

@@villaespesa1 as the world ought to be. We need to bring back religions.

[@diamondgarcia9409]

You're all gross af

[@SilverLumberjack]

Tom absolutely checkmated Lisa when he asked what do you think most women will be happier with having a family or being a boss babe. And she replied family. Then why is she is boss babe. Exceptions don’t make the rule.

[@jasmineh8482]

She's telling the truth, her eyes look hella depressed so she's probably realizing money and material things don't bring as much deep fulfilment as family but it's too late now

[@chayap.199]

​@@jasmineh8482 she wanted kids. Because of him, they didnt have.

[@ardznails]

“Ambitious women need an even more ambitious man” Chasing men ahead of you along the masculinity scale doesn’t allow you to say you’ve remained feminine in that process. Just because you have the masculine traits of confidence and ambition doesn’t make you more feminine just because they’re way further along the scale. If you’ve moved along the masculinity scale, you’ve become more masculine by definition. Those top men you’re chasing are looking past you at the truly feminine women at the start of the scale who never ventured along their scale into their territory in the first place. And that start point leads off in the exact opposite direction for women- along the femininity scale. Men have no interest at all in the comparative level of ambition and confidence in women just behind them on a scale they shouldn’t even be on. They’re interest is in absolute femininity, in looking after a kind, loving, loyal and feminine companion. That’s why they’re looking way beyond you back past the start point and along the scale in the opposite direction where the small population of truly feminine women are. They have precisely zero interest in her status or income because it’s their duty and ambition to provide that for her. No ambitious women has ever set out to conquer the business world and become a top earner because she has a constant and abiding vision that it’s all pursuant to eventually looking after her future husband! That would be preposterous. Yet for men that is their evolutionarily imprinted driving force. This is why for ambitious women, it’s all about feminism, breaking boundaries, competition with men, the “patriarchy” and not one jot about providing for her weaker husband. This is why men have no interest in these women or their ambitions. They neither need nor want their resources because their own instincts dictate that they should be the provider. The female confidence that comes with it is a problem too because it’s a proxy for this selfish pursuit of resources instead of the innate, dutiful drive a man has to prepare for and execute the serious task of supporting a family. The last thing he needs is the woman he would be looking after and bearing his kids, chasing him along the masculinity scale, treating it as a competition and throwing away her most fertile years in the process. This is why dating, marriage and divorce have been transformed beyond all recognition, and for the worse, in the last 30 years. And it’s all down to governments implementing policies based on arch feminism and wokery, that led to women being coerced into the workplace: into mainly soft, unnecessary non-jobs that are nevertheless highly paid because they involve a soft, unnecessary degree that no man would ever contemplate embarking on.

[@lisar.2549]

I wish I didn’t think this were absolutely true.

[@Angelicnorth]

Too much hurting my head, poor Tom

[@snizzypoosexcellentspooner2468]

I don't want a high mileage woman because I want someone who won't cheat on me. A sexuality promiscuous person is much more likely to cheat and a much harder time staying in a forever monogamous relationship. They don't pair bond as well.

[@skywing2525]

What a wild take on body count and only fans. “Why would my husband not be ok with me selling my body online” Just crazy

[@JeffDuhon]

She is hard core pampering the female side while acting like a man

[@gmaxh4549]

Maybe is because is her body ...

[@digitaluniversity2153]

Bro erase this video, not a good sight mate, just saw 2 mins of it, more than enough

[@jefferyjeffery1707]

OMG....poor, Tom!! She rules....and kicks Tom's-ass all the way to the finishline. Even if it kills him!! She's all about...ME...ME...ME!!!

[@Edpilani]

He doesn't see it though.. run Tom!!!

[@MosaidNEJAR]

Absolutely! Poor man

[@jefferyjeffery1707]

@@Edpilani 😅😂Wahaha!!😅😂 Run Tommy, RUN.....faster Tommy, faster!!😅😂

[@lisar.2549]

Nah, he doesn’t let her control him. He likes a little crazy is all. 😂

[@jarvanwildrift8056]

Tom works 90 hour weeks he needs someone to slap him back to a normal life sometimes 😂

[@scottk1525]

I have a hard time putting much faith in anything this woman says. Seems like she's all intuition and anecdotes, and not particularly knowledgable in anything. Tom is just doing her a favor.

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

She wants her own channel for sure!

[@veloran]

that's all she talks on her podcast, she can't get enough of it.

[@bobby8630]

That’s why nobody watches her podcast

[@jarvanwildrift8056]

​@@bobby8630A lot do though most of us can dream of 50k views per episode

[@digvijaypurty8160]

Man fuck this episode bro these married and old people don't know about today's dating market

[@lisar.2549]

Very true. Their generation and circle are radically different from a typical young person.

[@johnnygrube]

Do you know about dating? Ain't hard to get women if you're a strong man. Ain't hard to get a man if you're feminine woman. Too many men are feminine trying to be strong being angry they're weak. So if a man is failing it's because he is seen as weak by women.

[@TheMadMonk9]

If Tom was smart.....and hes not, he'd cut bait and call it a day.

[@Ralph_Kreutzberger-Blumenfeld]

Will Smith & Jada...

[@jsmooth6049]

Hammer hand💯💯💯

[@JohnJohnCrusher]

Absolutely. Poor guy.

[@chaddy-me-boy8299]

I have not listened to the podcast. Although talk about taking a risk with your podcast with your wife? Being vulnerable is good and honest, but these comments would affect me, maybe to personal bc it’s a female and a wife that myself being an alpha male would want to defend my wife. However the point of some of these posts is that Tom has become “beta”, with her. hmmm. Not good.

[@Mcouey2]

Go read about David Mech.

[@thk929]

They should have had children. For real.

[@thehardieway]

This poor woman is in denial. She desperately wants to have kids and is trying to compensate for that giant hole missing from their marriage. Two selfish people.

[@Icarianbrother]

I agree, but not Tom's kids.

[@Moshm4n]

Do you just type random, angry things unrelated to the video in strings of three seemingly disconnected statements into comment sections, or do you really think all of that is somehow connected and relevant?

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

I agree. Look at the other comments. People with emotional intelligence can see the cracks here.

[@fredwinslow744]

She thinks she is an alpha female. Very extroverted and confident.. She is not maternal And if she had kids she would likely be the same in her temperament … lots of male energy . Bec she admits to identifying the reality of hypergamy she is both saying she can appreciate effort but will also acknowledge her self centred approach ultimately ( hypergamy ). This may be entirely whatntom wants and does very well With If he is happy and prefers this to a highly maternal quiete woman that may very well be because he and her may only be able to direct good energy to each other and their ambitious pursuits ….

[@Bella34544]

Wow I'm impressed with your psychic abilities at knowing exactly what a woman wants....you got us we're all desperately unhappy unless we're providing free reproductive and parenting labour and serving a man if that helps you feel more like a man ok dude you do you 🤣🤣

[@stevengibson2286]

You’re a lucky man, Tom. That is a smart, healthy, and happy wife who clearly loves you. Some people here can’t see how that’s a blessing.

[@JackTheStrippa]

Dont listen to MARRIED PEOPLE talking abiut dating as a single person. How long have these two been in the single dating game over the past few years? She doesn't have a clue what she's talking about honestly. Can just hear the feminism ooz

[@Moshm4n]

Did you watch the video? I know you didn't.

[@seriouscash]

Tom is a smart guy but hes also a cuck

[@ShortMonster420]

That's funny because I'm 2min in and as a woman she's nailing it...men are so oblivious to what we want that you just throw up your hands and call it all bullshit. Get off your high horse and try it before you start dismissing a married person's opinion.

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

Look at the rest of the comments… 2/3’s are very negative.

[@JoeBlobA]

@@ShortMonster420 You ever think maybe we do know what you want and we just aren't willing to compromise?

[@battlepug3122]

Unsubscribed.

[@supersonice4]

😂 that’s too far bro. It’s just one episode. This was bad indeed though.

[@zombiechris4813]

Finally 😮‍💨

[@albertopazos6581]

Jajaja Im about to

[@brianmeen2158]

@@supersonice4I just find that we have talked this topic to death at this point.

[@badboygoodgirl]

what’s the point of announcing this? lol

[@user-ke8vq1ug7s]

I never realized just how much of a Simp he was. What a garbage episode and it really makes me rethink how I view past episodes aa future if I watch them at all. Garbage episode garbage message

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

Yup like Jada & Will Smith

[@chaddy-me-boy8299]

I really feel bad for Tom with these comments. What I think your saying is that if he couldn’t see how his wife would come off on a podcast, why would he do it? Risks don’t always work out. Then your asking yourself what other blind spots does he have. I don’t even want to watch it after 5 mins with these comments.

[@lisar.2549]

I don’t think he lets her get away with as much as you think.

[@jarvanwildrift8056]

Its an episode, Tom basically works 1 90-100 hour weeks he should prob be more of a simp

[@_______6398]

She does not think probabilistically

[@jzen1455]

And what women say vs how they act often don't coincide with each other. Watch their words. Listen to their actions.

[@Mr_Penguins_Pet_Human]

You are lucky to have found such a clearly intelligent and driven woman who values you and the relationship alongside her life goals.

[@bryanh1830]

😂

[@aquious953]

High body count is proven to greatly increase women committing divorce. Case closed. PS: Men dont want masculine women. Not intimidated.

[@cryptoguruguy8965]

Pair bonding stops

[@Mmmmkaaay]

Define "high".

[@Mr360king22]

Jada and will 😂😂😂...... her neckless.... hair .... wonder woman neckless screams 1 thing ....feminist ..... Zena warrior princess 😂

[@Adeliaanne836]

Great points Lisa. I love your point about other industries exploiting people too. I love both of you so much and have learned so much from listening to both of you and your guests

[@EKCSEVEN]

Self counseling

[@juliciahernandez3566]

All of this Opinions and hypothetical b.s she's not dating anybody at MCD. Just by Definitions younger singles are still lost to who they are or want this is not based on the average joe and mary..... only you average girls its ok to date a mcd guy who is driven and has a plan to own. So out of touch. And Her feeling she was dimmed was as she said her fault. And Any husband who Really loves his Wife would Never stop her from growing and changing.

[@MosaidNEJAR]

The worst episode of your show so far! You are a beta Tom!

[@Paula-fd6lj]

Are you seriously mocking the successful guy with a healthy relationship?? 😅

[@MosaidNEJAR]

@Paula-fd6lj wish him more success, but still a beta. If she want to ruin his life she can do it in a matter of seconds.

[@Paula-fd6lj]

@@MosaidNEJAR that label "Beta" has to be the most toxic creation invented for men by men who have no idea how to properly navigate the opposite sex. She is a tough cookie, so she may not be everyone's cup of tea but she is far from destroying his life when she helped him create the empire they have now, they've been together 20+ yrs together, and when they both speak of eachother, they only do so positively. Maybe be more open minded, there is much to learn from successful couples in business and in marriage.

[@Ralph_Kreutzberger-Blumenfeld]

@@Paula-fd6lj what's healthy about Will and Jada's relationship? 🤔

[@Paula-fd6lj]

@@Ralph_Kreutzberger-Blumenfeld Nothing, when a woman cheats and the man stays, she loses respect for him and more importantly, he loses respect for himself. What is worse, they made her transgression public. This is not the situation with the Bilyeus.

[@johnnyvue2716]

I feel sorry for Tom marriage now haha

[@MaxBelousovGG]

Seen plenty of cocky couples go seperate ways, nobody is imune

[@chesteredgewater3951]

"Why did women enter the workforce? " War

[@pxlarquitectos]

Tom getting red pilled by his own wife

[@Mandysews2]

Some people really needed to hear this so if it helps people awesome! Take what you want from what anyone says and live your best life! I believe this channel is all about growth right?

[@lukavukalovic1223]

What is happening with comment section !? Omg I can't see where Tom is actually " beta " . ?

[@base840]

Im super confused too 🤣

[@DuaneSmelser]

Thank you Tom and Lisa for sharing yourselves so authentically and courageously. From the comments it seems many people struggled to appreciate the gift you both gave humanity.

[@snookywilliams]

It's probably the worst video youve done Tom.. look at all the comments G.

[@_mayankr]

Thank you for having this conversation! Very interesting to hear the perspectives!

[@dvdmon]

Thing is this is ONE person's opinion (or two if you take Tom's into account). Don't be fooled into thinking there is ONE set of qualities, personalities, behaviors that are most attractive to all or even most women (or men). People vary wildly. Find a person you are attracted to that is also attracted to who you are, not about some pre-defined set of qualities that you have to achieve or change yourself to become, because, well, that's not you, that would be a facade simply in order to "get" a woman, and under such pretenses, it's ultimately going to feel pretty hollow if you know they only are attracted to you for something that you are pretending to be/have.

[@lisar.2549]

True, but having standards is a start, speaking up for yourself, etc. like some of the things she’s talking about. She is more driven than most though, in probably any arena she is in.

[@dvdmon]

@@lisar.2549 sure, I have no problem with improving yourself to the point where you aren't taken advantage of (that goes for any gender). Being able to express clear bounderies, wishes, etc., and not just caving to what society tells you you should do or want is important. To be fair, I only watched the beginning clip of this because, well, I've grown sick of the whole selling point of "do X in order to get woman (or man, but usually it's woman)"

[@lisar.2549]

@@dvdmon It’s usually advice from women for men because women don’t take advice that well! Hahaha Women should listen to what men want, not because she has to change or lessen herself, but so that she can actually understand and get what she wants. We rarely do. Men will sometimes listen because they are truly baffled about women. I think it’s better to know how women are wired rather than what they say they want. It is true that women are often delusional, so listening to what they think they want is pointless. But in the same way that men are generally wired a certain way no matter which man you are, so are women.

[@bahpapajarmjackson]

"If I can sit down with him..." so tell him what to do.

[@jessicajensen1976]

I get the impression that this marriage is not going to last. She is exhausting. She bought into 2nd wave feminism...women have found out late that it was a lie.

[@jblue3163]

I didn’t make it past the intro unfortunately. Why is it important that she not have a high body count? It must be because your intimidated and insecure. And then goes on to say that women view certain ambitious high achieving men as a prize. Well men view women who have withheld their most important choice as a prize as a conquest as something worth having. The opposite is something that everyone else has already had. It’d be like bragging about having an iPhone 1.

[@atheplummer]

A key that unlocks many locks, is a valuable key. Any lock that is unlocked by many keys has little value.... This isn't about locks or keys.

[@yeahyeahyeahyeah1111]

Soul ties ,we can pick up energies from the past partners

[@elvysmolina5936]

I sensed way more chemistry between him and cody sanchez. This is just weird 😂

[@kelsey4521]

I dont know why everyone is hating. Like this is where they are in their journey. They are the the point of reflection and can articulate that reflection. Like being mad at a rapper cuz they dont have to rap about the stuggle anymore. Nd all things human relate to all things human. Just because you are broke paycheck to paycheck does not make u a different breed of human. If u cant take something away from anyone talking be it good or bad then thats exactly why u will always be a victim of your own shit. If u dont like it move on. Same reason ur broke is the same reason u take ur time to make sure u say negative shit about a video u probably didnt even finnish.

[@BaileyWiggebutt]

TL;DR

[@victorhankinson1530]

@@BaileyWiggebutttf did you even bother typing that?

[@Bobby_101]

Wow when I saw his wife, I felt so sorry for him. Such a high quality man, in this kind of marriage...