Why You Need to Stop Saying What People Want to Hear | Kyle Cease on Impact Theory

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Former standup comic turned transformation expert, Kyle Cease helps people evolve through ditching their “old story”. He started performing stand up comedy at the age of 12 and was headlining by the time he was 18 making him one of the youngest headlining acts in the country. He is the author of the bestselling book “I Hope I Screw This Up” and on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, you’re going to see how the story you tell yourself may be the wrong one.
SHOW NOTES:
Why Kyle doesn’t prepare or plan [2:20]
The difference between goals and intentions [5:09]
How to get rid of your past story [8:00]
How to break out of the process of repeating your old stories [11:45]
The 2 voices you have that decide your life [14:56]
The building blocks of a healthy self-story [18:11]
The story of Kyle’s mother passing away just 6 weeks before the birth of his daughter [19:23]
The story of how Kyle personally had to release an old story [21:37]
QUOTES:
“I feel like if I planned ahead you wouldn’t be hearing me, you’d be hearing something I prepared.” [2:24]
“We live in a world where we don’t say what we’re thinking. We say what people want to hear.” [3:21]
“Life can mirror what your intention is” [5:26]
“If you undo yourself from the old story, you can change really fast.” [7:38]
“Society’s kind of crazy.” [7:38]
“I really believe that no person has ever broken your heart, but they break your expectations. And by breaking your expectations, they get you closer to your heart.“ [21:56]
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BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
I Hope I Screw This Up - a.co/d/cSJfQXn
The Illusion of Money: Why Chasing Money Is Stopping You From Receiving It
PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Deepak Chopra - / deepakchopra
Tony Robbins - / tonyrobbins
Jim Carrey - / jimcarrey
Eckhart Tolle - / eckharttolle
Oprah - / oprah
Donald Trump - / realdonaldtrump
TV SHOWS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Comedy Central Laugh Riots Competition
Comedy Central Stand up Showdown
Jimmy Kimmel Live
Chelsey Lately
MOVIES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
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Not Another Teen Movie - a.co/d/cPR5RkC
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[@karlmhlanga]

"When you're feeling lost, you're just addicted to seeing the old story." WOW!

[@benzysmommy]

Karl Mhlanga yes!! Wow!! :)

[@MrMike1451]

Yes. The human condition is mostly run from the subconscious mind and the subconscious is habitual on what is known to work and safe but faulty when needing to make positive changes in one's life. The law of attraction works but you need to know how to tweek your subconscious mind to change habitual behavior. I hope I was good with my grammar, but if not I apologize.

[@4thedriven86]

Hit home that comment !

[@gemini6433]

So much truth to that!..

[@alignedmindbodysoul]

YAS

[@clareshirleen6502]

When he said, " If your mind comes up with a justification, that means you don't want it..."- I felt that.

[@aadimanchekar1032]

Can someone explain me its meaning actually I'm getting confuse and I cant relate it properly. Pls can anyone convey it

[@menikersantos236]

I felt it too and will pay much attention to it from now on

[@aadimanchekar1032]

@@menikersantos236 can u please explain it to me ? I cant relate it properly. Please😁

[@watherby29]

I would go further. If you think you need to "fix" yourself, feel incomplete and think you need something "external" to complete you, you don't know who you are. There is nothing to fix. Find yourself and forget everything else. Whatever needs to be "fixed" is not real. You will not lose anything, just stop seeing things that were not there in the first place.

[@demonstration3662]

Mike Dias It would feel nice but you just don’t care that much. That’s why people don’t do whatever it is they are “supposed “ to do.

[@mansiveer3231]

Kyle is an amazing healer. literally felt my body releasing lot of pressure when he said, "Whenever you let go of something scary, you are scared only because your mind can measure what you'll loose !!! but what it cannot see is what you'll gain. "

[@miriamstjohn3410]

I loved that idea too. It is so true.

[@kelley0404]

Holy guacamole ! That thought of changing the story is what will move me forward -right along with 7 billion people.

[@Mastermo121]

Currently going through a divorce and this quote is so true.

[@chrismeredith5605]

Same; very compelling quote--

[@360.Tapestry]

loss aversion

[@browngypsy5741]

When he spoke of the death of his mother really resonated with me. When I stood over her body before they locked her coffin I looked at her and asked, "What am I supposed to do now?" I lived to make her proud and with my other siblings having children and families I always tried to stand out in her heart. Now I'm still trying to figure out what I want for my life 3 years later. Thank you for your content Tom.

[@kcpdx]

❤️

[@shellbell1139]

Loves sent I watched my mum die after taking her out of hospital we are both spiritually blessed , nobody wants to die in hospital do they ? Home or hospitals crowd or just one trusted person ? I was that trusted person the one she picked to be by her side to watch my mother die in front of my eyes , I know I’m. Blessed to of been picked but I can’t express how it’s effected me, 4 months on no cause of death & hospitals told her could only be 2-3 days she died on my dads anniversary 11 years b4 I watched my dad die but in hospital I have 2 special angels now but I’m struggling to find somebody to help me process what’s happened? Getting spiritual downloads via dreams & my mum was the biggest hippy out I was but I’ve become lost because I’m lost in confusion loneliness & heartbreak ❤️‍🩹 Maybe once I get a cause of death I can go down to the water & let my emotions out & speak to the universe 🌌

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

Trying to please other people is the death of happiness.

[@honestlee9921]

fuck connor mcgreggor

[@honestlee9921]

@@halcyon-cg2eb right? He couldn't even beat khabib

[@lexiemaep7930]

UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS Helping others is the true path to happiness.

[@argileaustralia3854]

Thank you for this! How easy - I have tried so hard to please others and it has caused me awful pain. This is right on the money! Thanks again!!!

[@sarah29880]

I literally think I learned more from this interview than anything else I have ever watched here on KZbin. I feel like this guy really gets it, the point of life and why we are here. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@novastariha8043]

@Tatjana J me too !! Wait me3 !

[@maria_lara111]

🎉🎉

[@marthahorton5350]

“The part of me that was seeking her approval died too” that hit me!

[@Elle_M717]

Martha Horton Me too. I lost both my parents in my 40’s and something just changed. I noticed it when my dad passed (he died after my mom passed) because there was no more parental influence in my life.

[@ebbyc1817]

When my dad died, a man whom I'd never really known, I realised that hoped to know him someday, the little girl, had died too. It was never going to happen. Because he had died. And with that, I was free.

[@marthahorton5350]

My parents are still alive. But they are far away and not really part of my everyday life. But what Kyle said really hit me because you parents are such a strong and meaningful influence in your life. Yet your desire to please them can literally keep you from growing up and becoming your own person.

[@SiimLand]

To change your life change the story your telling yourself

[@Curiousnessify]

dont tell me what to do

[@ahStarwok]

you're*

[@digitalsamurai42]

What is the story you tell yourself?

[@garysimone4977]

His message is one that can be understood by all

[@freyjawired8488]

Or blame your deceased for holding you back to liberate one's sense of pain, and fully accept and step into new responsibility...

[@Xscapeplan01]

"No person has ever broken you're heart, but they broke your expectations"

[@freyjawired8488]

This form of negating the mind body connection is regressive. Broken expectations can cause physical heart ache. www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/broken-heart-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20354617

[@sinedladla1955]

Actually that's not a very smart thing to say.. The heart as Colloquially known... As feelings.. Expectations... So actually crap wat he said in that statement.. But the world is full of needy souls who will cling onto rubbish for hope.

[@freyjawired8488]

Interesting, noticed my comment has modified (nearly deleted) yet i hadn't edited it.

[@NoFapKing]

Look up broken heart syndrome

[@atwilliams8]

Think it went over their head bro... It was profound to me but it's not his quote..

[@shiftthatmatters7046]

I got goosebumps listening to this episode. The best part I liked was when he talks about your mind trying to justify something is a sign you don't want it. Wow, that is profound!

[@bonsummers2657]

But, that's not true. Justifying is giving more reasoning.

[@gu5589]

so powerful, his consciousness is on another level

[@Natanyah28]

Love this interview..thank u so much.. I mom was my best friend too...I resonate with this and many of you others.. Glad I came across this person.. through your interview.. I have been wearing so many hats and now rebranding myself...I dont need to rebrand my self... but..Omg my son was born May 31.. My son was her pride and joy.... Thanks, the universe is speaking to me through.....

[@ExiledMango]

I have a feeling that his messages will elude a lot of people, but this guy is next level

[@thewayoflovepodcast]

Yes...i heard some of the most profound ideas in this interview

[@bphifer]

ExiledMango yeah it went over my head haha.

[@joanowens7941]

ExiledMango- Wow. He is saying everything my Buddhist meditation teacher says. Wow.

[@miriamllamas224]

This guy is Amazing!!!. I've followed him for a while. Please listen to his channel. ❤️💘💘❤️

[@yardsale09]

@@joanowens7941 I'm glad im not the only one getting budhist overtones with this.

[@michaels-meditations]

Being authentic is so important. You may get short satisfaction and compliance from the other person but you break integrity with yourself, that is not good in the long term.

[@laurab9867]

... I totally agree. However... it takes courage to be authentic.

[@dominiquesanchez513]

"They didn't break your heart, they broke your expectations." Wow.

[@KiranSidhu]

That line at the start though.. We move as if we have forever. Whoa

[@jesusperalta2335]

I know, uh? Short but with such a great impact 😮

[@KiranSidhu]

@@jesusperalta2335 totally🙏🏽.. sometimes it's that one simple line that just hits you

[@seeking_the_sun]

Brings to mind the oft-misattributed quote by Buddha, which goes as: we think we have time

[@jesusperalta2335]

@@KiranSidhu, yeah, and sometimes that line can chance your whole life.

[@KiranSidhu]

@@seeking_the_sun yes, and isn't that just the case🙏🏽

[@lh1581]

"When you say I'm nervous... And I love it, you free yourself... The problem isn't the thought it's your RESISTANCE to the thought" ...Yep. Letting that set in now... Mahalo.

[@ricardogamboa577]

I love his answer to the final question. Woohoo! I love that he wore a shirt that says patience... Not complacency or complicity but real patience...Tom, I love that you invite guests who push you to find a better answer REAL BALLS

[@JeffMiller81]

I wonder if Tom showed him his personal shirt that say "F" Patience...lol

[@suzanneyoung1729]

I like the guests, but not the host as much. He tries too hard. There's more, but no use, bec it's the concepts & insights that matter...

[@mellevandenwildenberg2736]

People cannot really break your heart. They broke that expectations that you had of them. This makes so much sense

[@rachelharris3931]

"When your mind comes up with a justification, that means you don't want it".... that was really powerful!!!! :o

[@AShorewalker]

When letting go of a bad feeling I simply say, "this too shall pass"! I don't set a time line just let go.

[@charity7773]

Bless you both in everyway.

[@MsCaterific]

It may pass like a kidney stone but it will pass.

[@chimom5635]

Me too👍

[@theliberatedplanet]

Yes, that is a "softening" phrase.

[@dentonet2]

I like to feel my pain to the fullest. That ysually causes me to change.

[@melissarose6901]

Every time I watch one of these videos I say “this is the best one yet” and then the next episode is somehow even better. Thank you Tom and Kyle!

[@TiffanyHallmark]

This video really spoke to where I am in life right now. I need to stop telling myself the stories and to stop saying what I think people want to hear. I have been very guilty of using all empty talk and taking no action or control of myself. Thank you so much for sharing this. I need to take some time to really evaluate myself.

[@ggteew]

I am gonna watch this everyday for a week. I want to soak up as much as possible

[@gemini6433]

I was thinking the same thing. You never really get taught this sort of wisdom in schools or anywhere else so you want to take in as much if it as possible till it becomes ingrained.

[@ClareceLeona]

Tom is literally a master interviewer! He really is in tune and good at guiding the discussion to find a resolve ! He is a discussion guide! thank you for being YOU Tom and answering the call on your life!

[@HumanHealthLink]

This is THE most powerful, self-empowering session (or video) on this or any other platform! I've always thought these thoughts Kyle described but didn't actually start living them until a year ago. This will incite me to be uncompromisingly ME! I don't need the validation but I LOVE the sentiment.

[@NEELAMEHAN]

Agree with you buddy. Liberating when you know how we self screw ourselves.

[@k1w1fruitz]

Agree!!

[@gemini6433]

@@NEELAMEHAN Yep!! Self screwing ourselves...good way to put it & sadly you don't see how much you miss out on the good things in life because we really do a good job of it..😆😂

[@StartAndGrowShow]

I love this. I especially like the technique of adding "and I love this" after a challenging thought like "I'm nervous to go on stage". Great mindset hack. Thanks

[@Mushroom321-]

YEAH!!, 😃

[@stockholmsbakverkse]

The best speech I've ever heard, if you think in this way you feel wonderful, first you won't be afraid if you break people's expectations because you know that won't kill you

[@rachellebasset4671]

Tom, thanks for doing what you do. You're making the world better with your influence.

[@ImWORTHITINC]

I oh my God!! He is SO RIGHT!! I held onto guilt for SO LONG because of society’s judgements!! I’m so thankful I came to this realization since moving to LA a year & a half ago!! So thankful to finally hear someone else say this aloud! I found Kyle last year through my boy Lewis Howes last year!! Thanks Tom & Kyle!! I’m finally gonna start my Confidence Coaching business TODAY because of you guys!! Love you guys! Thanks so much!

[@albi7024]

Just say what you're feeling in the moment so that you can connect with people better. "Everything you're thinking right now, the biggest goal you can see for yourself, still brings in your past story. If you undo yourself from the old story, then you can change really fast." Intentions are goals in the moment. My intention is to learn, grow, etc. Then you're not as tied to the results... which you often can't control. "Whenever you let go of something scary, you're only scared because your mind can measure what you will lose, but it can't see what you will gain. So when you feel lost you're just in a problem of, you're just addicted to seeing the old story." "All of your emotions are temporary (the good and the bad). They're passing things. But there is this thing in this moment right now that I feel is permanent. This thing that you can feel. Just this silence, this space. I've had so many things that have shown up and left, that I once thought were my reality, that it feels like parts of me continue to die, and I allow them to die. Most of our pain comes from believing that we should keep holding on to these things that are really heavy in our lives." "The problem isn't the thought, it's your resistance to the thought." I love that. "No person has ever broken your heart, they've broken your expectations. You had a belief that you were supposed to be with that person forever. We move as if we have forever. And we forget to live." Appreciate the moment you're in. "Every person is capable of changing the world by changing themselves." Also, I cried during the mom part. Also, that's a cool watch, Kyle. What is it?

[@natalywithaY]

So kind and cute of you to write all those quotes!

[@the1stime]

...and I love that

[@athenaapatheia9319]

I love that.. thank you!

[@jhanetloredo113006]

I can't explain the way I understand this message but I totally understand it. I felt it.

[@UdaySingh-bu1mc]

Ditto👍🏼.

[@challo8067]

This is known as a “Feeling understanding”, as coined by Rupert Spira.

[@ajohonly3721]

Jhanet Chavez that’s the most important 👌🏿

[@qhealthandwellnes]

thank you Tom. I been watching your channel for a few weeks now. I quit booze, Im back at gym. You bring life.... May you be greatly blessed

[@sheilaregan5382]

Incredible

[@freyjawired8488]

WONDERFUL! keep finding what inspires!!

[@twonrichpo1126]

Congratulations!!!🎉🎉✊🏾

[@challo8067]

Appearing now, chester ryan, proving once again, that Transformation Happens! May all beings bless each Holy Moment with the greatest awareness of all that is, allow for all of what is, and of Be grateful! Well done, Chester Ryan!

[@qhealthandwellnes]

thank you so....i really feel that. 101 days sober

[@rationalmystic5]

Tom is such a good listener .he really gets interested and keeps the guest talking till they want to stop. Love tom's style. Thanks.

[@sakkiekibido1665]

"No one can break your heart they broke your expectation" Currently in awe.

[@djamilamonteiro8951]

thanks to this man, ive changed my life so freaking much the past 3 months. i mean, i was in the bottom until i stumbled upon one of his live vids. i wrote notes and it helped me so much, not dwelling with your past and inner noise. im so grateful for how he articulates "nowness "and the point of meditating.

[@MarkusJunnikkala]

I recently made a video on the idea of having 'One You'; one version of yourself. Up until the age of 20 or so, I found myself being vague, undefined, formless, and I'd adapt to external parameters just to fit in, without even understanding why. Not to a great degree since I was always an introverted lonely wolf, but enough to bother me and make me notice. It never sat right with me, I always felt like I violated myself by doing so, and I could sense that I was not only weakening my character but also steering further and further away from who I wanted to become. I fully agree with Kyle, it's vital to learn how to embrace being yourself, letting go of obsessive mindsets, and learning the value of authenticity. It's a radical mindset shift that changes the way you see everything. It doesn't mean you shouldn't develop yourself, get your shit together, or fix what's broken, but it means you learn to face the world in a truthful, authentic, forthright manner, and by doing so you can free yourself from the perceptional prison that you've built for yourself. It might not always give you what you want or expect but ultimately it will teach you how the world really is in a non-bitter or resentful way, and leads to a life that looks and feels like you.

[@MarkusJunnikkala]

Ryan Lorance you’re most welcome Ryan

[@miriamllamas224]

Please share link to your video. It could be very helpful to others 😍😍

[@scoobyjava9360]

The front of the shirts says "everything is my fault" the back of the shirt should say "and I love that!"

[@NoName-de1fn]

Maybe it does!

[@tubevalve8366]

Kyle Cease was the best guest on IT so far. Truly clever guy and all makes lot of sense.

[@seyfun1452]

1. “When you’re feeling lost you’re just addicted to seeing the old story” and unwilling to see the new possibilities in front of you. That’s an amazing explanation. 2. Add “I love that” after anxious, fearful statements to shift your perspective and give back power to yourself versus the situation having power over you. 3. When you’re going through low times you think it’ll last forever. The same applies to the high times. Pain comes from holding onto heavy things you shouldn’t keep. 4. If you come up with justifications for something it means you don’t truly want it. 5. Everyone has 2 voices. The first instinctual, inspirational voice wanting to jump off to the next workplace. We train ourselves to ignore this voice. The second voice is the practical, responsible voice that’s influenced from society which isn’t that healthy or successful anyway. 6. Building blocks of a healthy story- accepting where you are now and not feeling guilty about what you should’ve done or said. 7. No person has ever broken your heart, they have broken your expectations 8. The impact on the world is a byproduct of living your highest self because the biggest impact you see from here is probably nothing comparing to what we’re capable of

[@michaelhuerta9389]

this episode really hit me emotionally when he spoke about how his mom died 6 weeks before his daughter was born. it got me thinking about death and how everyone in my family has to die as well as myself at some point between now and who knows when... i dont want to die, it terrifies me to my core, but it also puts everything into perspective and I'm able to really appreciate those I care for and the moments we share and have yet to share.

[@EvaMariposa]

If I may ask, what terrifies you about death?

[@marketingomar]

IMPACT THEORY MY FAVOURITE SHOW

[@clayclay95]

I was so "in flow" watching this video that I didn't realize 30 min had gone by. It is such a powerful feeling to "let the past go" and live "in the moment."

[@DrSRanjanMBBSAcupuncturist]

22:10 no one can break your heart, they have broken your expectation and, by breaking your expectation they have pushed you closer to yourself

[@williamsolis1]

This was like a minefield of mind explosions. I watched this before my meditation and it just felt right

[@chully99]

This guy is so fucking smart. That's the thought i have halfway through listening to every guest.

[@jenniferzimmer709]

Profound, life changing material. Especially “when she died, the part of me that was seeking her approval died too”. So good.

[@grahamtrave1709]

I get everything this guy says. Just being so authentic and truthful helps. I too suffered greatly when my mum died in my arms.... and everything I did was to seek her approval and to get her love. When my mum died I get what he said ... a part of me died. I really loved what he said and how he said it. Thanks Tom for making this freely available.

[@asant1223]

I love the energy he’s putting into the world and the way he explains how we, as humans can’t see reality or can’t put into perspective the real meaning of what we go through in life.

[@Tyegnass]

Arleny Santana well said 👌🏼

[@chasvonplatten1298]

I'm trying to think of what to say to you. ;-)

[@raymonddenar619]

I haven't heard something this powerful and profound in a very long time. To put it, in such a brief segment, with such an precision and accuracy while describing it all so well-connected is truly mesmerizing. However, I personally believe that with his messages being drawn to us with such a force we might get blinded to see this perspective he's speaking of with a critically eye. What Kyle Cease is essentially saying is to let go of your feelings/memories history. The only feelings that matters are those which happens at the moment. His method requires an erase of your history. Which, yes, will give you an objective perspective on things but you loose, you. If you keep applying this method and just erase your past. Who are you? I believe that you must keep the past and also release it, but not to erase it. Instead, you acknowledge and accept your past for what it is but at the same time you still use this perspective. Your past is a source and fundamental part of you which is contained with memories and feeling but also functions as an inspirational force in different ways. Also, I don't agree with the part where he rejects the "second-thought" completely and suggests that you should also go on your "first thought" or intuition is not quite waterproof. Sometimes, and very crucial times, that "second-thought" could help you to prevent to enter something dangerous or negative which your "first thought" missed because of the impulsive process. The only common thing in this universe is balance, I believe. Therefore balance is the key. See it from all perspective while knowing how much weight you give to each respective. This is once again, my take on his speech which I otherwise genuinely loved. It was seriously eye-opening and refreshing.

[@XOXOX4242]

I love kyle cease so much. He reeeally helped me to get thru & grow thru this past year, which was a real doozy. Humor & wisdom are a fabulous combination, and his helped inspire me when I was VERY confused & overwhelmed.

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

he is on another LEVEL

[@raybankes7668]

Thank you for being a super interviewer sir. you did not interrupt your guest's thought process. you make body indications that you were engaged in listening, and did not interject your own stuff. Thanks.

[@jonathangubisch-createyour2666]

Thank you so much tom and team for all the amazing people you introduced me to! ! You really changed my life, I love the concept of IT, clear message and goal, and I knew it was gonna blow up! You consistently inspire me and give me the tools that keep me pushing with my own channel about personal development, trying to reach my first 1000 subs! Lots of love to you and y'all!

[@shinyuchen8227]

Love what you do and keep what you're doing!!👍👍👍👍

[@dig1272]

I have spent years involved with transformation training and Kyle manages to make it "feel" like one can step into that space NOW...no, "I need to be in more seminars" or "I need to coach others in at least two more programs", (before I "get it" or "get there."). No, he knows how to make it digestable and usable NOW for people! ❤

[@nevilleking3492]

This is a very wise man. This is what life is about perhaps. Thank you for this.

[@gloriamariadc7757]

This guy's a lovely bubbly version of Ekart Tole.. LOL🤓

[@bazosmarek7981]

and Dr Joe Dispenza sometimes

[@delightful5165]

Thank you Tom for bringing Kyle into our lives. He is so talented and I can listen to him all day.

[@deepsfernandes]

Kyle Cease, I just want to give you a hug. Thanks for this lovely , subtle interview, it was perfect, actually beyond perfect ..

[@RiotMonster]

Wow. This is incredibly profound. I got chills when he talked about releasing the pain from his mother's death and finding a lesson in it. That takes so much self mastery to do that. Just wow, so inspiring and eye opening.

[@sn6328]

beautiful soul with a beautiful, positively life-altering message. Thank you.

[@FearlessMorningShow]

I've only made it to minute 2.35 and he had said something that I've only said to myself... the thought that by preparing... your not getting the real me... your getting the me that I think you might want to hear!!! Now I don't feel so weird !!! Ok.. l will finish watching now...

[@essentiallythis9249]

*you're*

[@monicaleon2601]

Lol, same here.

[@enerleaf7178]

So touched by this interview. Thank you Tom for holding such space for Kyle and allowing incredible messages I needed to hear today in 2022.

[@alinatarkhanian]

I've watched so many of Tom's interviews. I'm 10 minutes in and this guy has completely blown my mind. life changing... Wow...

[@marvlsp71]

You had me at the word expectation from the very start!!!! I preach this everyday and most do not want to hear it...

[@brandonsterlingon6130]

Keep preaching bro!

[@polmargury4199]

Then when they break you expectations , you just forget !! I don’t think is that simple !! Can a love one break you heart I believe Is not expectation is your heart ‘!! Do you mean that in a relationship I love someone I expect them to love me back ? Isn’t that a normal thing between two people ! Iam lost preacher

[@MonicaSancio]

Genius interview, must watch again, because there is soo much wisdom here! Thank you Tom for bringing Kyle to share the painful transformation of losing his Mom when he actually had the grandchild girl she had been expecting for so long... Wow, such maturity, and I believe your Mom is super proud of you, wherever she is at the next level... At the same time that you told us you processed it by feeling the grief, the mourning... and becoming your highest self, best protector, connected and powerful father that you are. Cheers 🎉💖

[@wellonengomaneleader2796]

wow... i am not done watching this episode but i can already see it changing my life. thank you Tom and the whole of the impact theory team for making this possible.

[@patriotpie2637]

22:00 everyone needs to hear this. Life changing. Thank you.

[@1greatcoach]

My goodness, this was PHENOMENAL! I found so many a-ha moments and tremendous revelations from this fantastic conversation.

[@chrissiem8881]

Really enjoyed this one. There is something genuine and authentic about Kyle Cease. Sometimes people we get lost in all that we want to accomplish that we forgot to just be. This concept of everything being temporary and just letting go of the past is something I have been trying to implement in my life. Once read the book Conversations with God and really understood the concept of our life being an experience, and it being our choice to choose what that experience is going to be like which is very similar to what Kyle was saying about setting intentions instead of goals. Its so hard changing your life and I have been struggling for the past 3 years since I made that decision that I wanted to be better, but one of the things that I have learnt is that accepting who you are at that current moment is imperative. True love is unconditional and if you are to learn to love then there shouldnt conditions and stipulations of when you will be happy with yourself and then start to love yourself.

[@Froglet1968]

So authentic, especially the relationship with your Mum and the release enabling you to be an authentic you and father...

[@Bethaniji]

As always, so inspiring (and I've been being inspired for 50 years). Kyle opens my heart wide open, to tears, all over again

[@jackreacher4297]

Man what a nice fresh perspective on timeless motifs

[@bnsgokugreat]

Update guys!!! Completed reading another book! Book count: 24

[@samarthsingh8735]

That is so cool man, I hope you get through to your goal book count and beyond And what are your favourite books till this count ? I wanna get started with hardcore reading too, tips pls ?

[@bnsgokugreat]

Hey man! Thanks for the support. Majority of the books that I have read are from Tom's show. The books I highly recommend to people are 3 to start with. They are 1) How to make Diseases Disappear by Dr. Rangan Chatterjee 2) Mindset by Carol S.Dweck 3) Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson. These books are very very worthy to read and you will gain a lot of information. By the way, I have completed reading another book yesterday! Book count: 25. Feel free to ask me any questions related to book reading if you wanna know!@@samarthsingh8735

[@samarthsingh8735]

@@bnsgokugreat I don't really wanna waste your time and I just wanna ask you one thing, two actually, are you happy and what is the reason for the happiness if you are Oh an I'll throw in another one since you seem like a pretty good guy to me, if you could give a piece(s) of advice to your 16 year old self, what would it be ?

[@bnsgokugreat]

Samarth Singh 1Q)why am I happy? 1A)I am happy because I’m progressing everyday and I definitely know that I will be helping millions of people very soon. 2Q) advice to my 16 year old 2A) Jot down all the habits and skills I wanna acquire and set deadlines to achieve them. For example: read 5 pages everyday, Watch 1 lesson of Japanese everyday, use all the body language tricks you read on your friends etc. Samarth, I hope you will message me here when you read your next book!

[@samarthsingh8735]

@@bnsgokugreatYou are the kind of person everybody needs in their life man, please please stay this way forever and remind the people around you how lucky they might be for having you! And yes I surely will leave a reply here when I finish my next book, and tbh your method of quantifying progress is really good, I'm gonna incorporate that as well. Thanks and have a cheerful day PS- If you get some free time, watch "About Time" , it change my perspective on a few many things.

[@richardharringtonofficial]

What a beautiful transition from acting to philosophy 🙏🏽

[@ioanap.b.7770]

Kyle speaks with such serenity!

[@littlegreendust]

I've been following Kyle Cease as of the last few months, listening to his youtube videos etc. Tom Bilyeu always does an outstanding interview, and this one was very moving and powerful. As always, thank you.

[@kingofcelts]

I never heard of this man, but he's quite inspirational and makes you think about your assumptions...

[@MirandaBond]

One of the most powerful interviews I've ever watched. I've never seen Kyle before but this really spoke to me and gave me a profound breakthrough.

[@novanewstories1487]

“Addicted to see the old story “ 💥. Love that . Get cool 😎 guy. Thanks Tom for this great interview

[@AshtonColby]

I liked when my parents showed me all those old kinds of things from their past. Sure, I’d like to have their presence but I like to see that kind of thing.

[@emh8861]

Me too.

[@Miki91nis]

Is it me or is Tom subconsciously attracting people in the interview that have more of a spiritual side to them, and that is impacting the side of his he hasn't spend much time on?

[@GMD0602]

Indeed. I have noticed this too

[@kahunanate5507]

I agree. You can tell in this video he’s really paying attention and trying to grasp what Kyle is saying. Trying to raise his vibration. It’s dope af.

[@Miki91nis]

@@kahunanate5507 Looks like you want him to bring JP as much as I do ^^

[@barbieg7718]

Miodrag Milenkovic yes

[@Elle_M717]

Yes. The spiritual side of him has a void so he’s attracting people to help him fill that void.

[@jazlyn2159]

Whewww this interview. Thank you Tom! He is so himself it’s refreshing to see this and hear him talk. He’s aligned with who he is.

[@susanoyoque877]

This talk was so real. It touched my soul. Thank you!

[@bastianrivero]

His self awareness is incredible

[@guitarsz]

This is SOOOOO good! Thanks Tommy!

[@AlwaysBeTheCurious1]

Tom, Your channel is nothing short of a priceless service ...for every dedicated member of the public ...who wants to contribute ...to the creation of a better tomorrow ...through actions done today. Thank you. Massively. Thank you.

[@meekainc]

WOW!!!! Wasn’t expecting this. Powerful!!! Listening to it again.

[@raimahossain2174]

Okay. I. Am. In. Awe. Of. His. Thoughts. And. Ideas. I used to have thoughts so much alike that I’ve tried sharing with people until I was shut down because they sound “uninteresting” or “irrelevant”. Thank you for this.

[@shabchique7149]

Sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and your family.

[@freyjawired8488]

Most real comment on here. 💓💌

[@ChassieNix]

Wow, love the awareness being created from this interview. Thanks Tom and Kyle

[@ImWORTHITINC]

I love that too, Tom! And I’m always telling people “I used to try to change people but then I realized the only way I change the world is by changing myself & when I’m true to myself that will give me freedom & my very presence will liberate others”

[@EmbraceDiscomfort]

Yesssss!!!! FINALLY!!!! KYLE CEASE ON IMPACT THEORY. Earbuds are in and I am listening at work because I CANNOT wait for this interview. Also guys, do yourselves a HUGE favor and subscribe to Kyles KZbin channel, and sign up for his program. Its a goldmine!

[@whatdoyoulivefor735]

God bless this man.

[@maryperalfonso4159]

Beautiful as always, Kyle!! Thank you Tom and Kyle

[@greenghost3672]

How do you not have a million subscribers yet? This is in the top 5 channels on motivation and self improvement in my opinion. Thanks for everything Tom! I have been watching your channel for years

[@MsBaruschka]

Damn it I've NEVER stopped video this many times hahaha... so many AHA moments here my brain is violently shaking, breathing into paper bag while hugging a pillow hahah NEXT LEVEL!!

[@ALIS_ARTIST_CHANNEL]

hhaha did the exact same you have to watch those moments like 3 times

[@marvlsp71]

This guys just explained my total philosophy on life!!!!

[@challo8067]

Stephan Pendarvis I’m curious, just exactly how is this perceived among your circle of humans at home, work, and play, that is, where is the most reception or rejection?

[@TheOther9519]

Wow. What an interview. Possibly the best I have seen on this channel. Thank you Tom for your service in introducing us to this. 🙏😄

[@pitaflowers12]

This interview was everything in this moment. Thank you Tom for always having the best guests and also being a channel for others.

[@2minutecarnivore]

This was everything I needed to hear in this season of life.