Why Your Life Is SO BORING... (How To Be MISERABLE For The Rest Of Your Life) | Robert Greene

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On Today's Episode:
Settling for your day to day routine is one of the best ways to ensure a boring unfulfilled life. When you feel unfulfilled and like everyday is filled with going through the motions, it becomes easy to turn to unhealthy, self-destructive habits. Without understanding why you feel this way, affairs, drugs, and other unhealthy addictions have the opportunity to creep in.
Robert Greene is well known for books that have shaped culture, challenged beliefs and p*ssed quite a few people off. The Daily Laws, Mastery and The 48 Laws of Power are just a few of his bestselling books.
Robert joins Tom in this epic conversation about how to look inward and uncover the root cause of the boredom that leaves you feeling like your just wasting life away. Fulfillment is key if you really want to change your life around. The path to fulfillment involves mastery and Robert breaks down our need for stress in order to get there.
Mentioned in this episode:
Monkey Fairness Experiment:
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SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Robert Greene
0:25 | Why Your Life Is So Boring
10:03 | Can’t Handle Change
23:40 | Admit You’re Out of Control
35:12 | Everyone Is Seeking Power
44:42 | This Is The Goal of Mastery
55:01 | Self-Absorption Kills Fulfillment
1:06:51 | Competing Ideas Can Both Be True
1:14:05 | Pain of Challenged Viewpoints
1:20:40 | This Will Transform Your Skills
QUOTES:
“...you choose things that aren’t right for you, and when you choose things that aren’t right for you, you’re not engaged emotionally and when you’re not engaged emotionally you get bored…” [2:14]
“The reason you can’t deal with change or you’re not looking at yourself is you have emotional blocks. You’re full of fear.” [12:10]
“What do you think social media is? It’s an engine of envy. It’s making you continually aware of what other people have and what you don’t have.” [27:10]
“Everything you do, everything you breathe in is a desire for power.” [39:20]
“Envy is a huge motivator of people’s behavior now. So the drive to pull other people down is really truly motivated by feelings of envy and inferiority that other people are better than you are.” [44:11]
“They want that fulfillment and I don’t care if they’re born poor and impoverished or they’re homeless, they still have that need and they have that capacity to become a master in what they do.” [49:24]
“What makes you miserable is your self-absorption in many ways.” [56:31]
“The worst form of therapy is to sit there and talk about your problems. The best form of therapy is to get outside of yourself.” [56:38]
“Craftsmanship is a high form of intellect in my viewpoint.” [1:19:58]
“Stress is good for you, [...] stress is great, stress is a wonderful drug if you know how to use it.” [1:25:19]
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[@TomBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@yooltube2022]

I am aware

[@johndiengdoh4332]

Thanks boss

[@domoworldwide2022]

When I click on the discipline link it goes to a self confidence link. I'm I doing something wrong? I genuinely want the discipline seminar.

[@JCImageInc.]

Dude, 5 minutes in and loving it. Robert's message is so important, thank you for bringing him to us (subscribers)! He's nail hitting: Internalized value is without limits and the inversion of our society comes from finding value in the exterior. Fackin A dude, thank you so much. On a side note, the audio of the promo insert blew my eardrums to kingdom come.

[@dr.squidwardburr7661]

But do they have a six pack? 😂😉

[@RobertGreeneOfficial]

Thank you for having me on Tom. Wonderful conversation!

[@kreativeminds8225]

You’re awesome. You’ve changed my life over the past couple years. Thank you Robert. Continued health for you and your family.

[@emeldamoreno]

I truly enjoy watching you both as you share your knowledge to help others. Thank you! 🌻

[@mikekaranja63]

@RobertGreene it's crazy I ws thinking exactly about what you were talking about...the pain involved in actually finding out who you are and pursuing own unique journey/path that one one must take.

[@coralialarios3275]

Thank you for sharing with us. 🙏🏼

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Thank you for sharing

[@HackingHollywood]

Your audio is super distracting to your content. The commercial is super loud and the content is relatively quiet. Please fix this. It’s been a trend that I’ve noticed in the last few videos and it’s taking me out of what’s being said every time.

[@aliakhter2185]

Agreed

[@sarahjane7285]

Agreed, blew my ears out cause I had my headphones in. Couldn't hear the interview without jacking the volume up to the max

[@lindyvandenbosch9539]

I was thinking exactly the same thing. I can't listen because I get scared to d3ath when adds go on. I have to turn the volume up too much

[@shadydelivery]

Yea shame cause content is great. FIX the audio no bueno!!

[@Mithrananand]

In solidarity.

[@valkyrie_357]

The quality of your recordings have always been top notch. The volume level of the main recording, in contrast to the commercials, even yours....terrifying difference. This one needs to come with a loud sound warning...

[@margaretbooth384]

You get all this amazing free information which should costs thousands and you complain about the volume of the commercials, speaks volumes about your mindset

[@valkyrie_357]

@@margaretbooth384 ...and yours.

[@margaretbooth384]

@@valkyrie_357 I am grateful 😇 not a fault finder and an o server of the human condition. Ribera Greene and Tom Bilyeu cant comment so I am replying for them. I hope you heal xx

[@valkyrie_357]

@@margaretbooth384 😆

[@TrevorShredder]

Robert looks so much healthier in this interview. It is absolutely amazing seeing how wonderfully he has been recovering.

[@catscratchfever9815]

Yeah he seems more “alive”

[@TrevorShredder]

@@catscratchfever9815 Absolutely agree ⚡️

[@therichbuddha3277]

What did/does he have?

[@TrevorShredder]

@@therichbuddha3277 In 2018 he suffered a stroke. It greatly affected his left side of his body I believe. If you go back & watch interviews shortly after that & compare them to now it is quite the recovery he’s done. Hopefully it continues to get better from here for him 🤘🏻

[@danielbrantley31]

I could listen to Robert Greene talk all day. And most of his books stay in my rotation no matter what else I’m reading .

[@chesscoachgerry4140]

Which of his books would you recommend the most?

[@annajacob7981]

@danielbrantley31 Please, which of Robert Greene's books do you most recommend reading? Thanks in advance.

[@danielbrantley31]

@@chesscoachgerry4140 my personal favorite is the 50th law with him and rapper 50 Cent. But I also love Mastery, and of course the 48 laws will never get old.

[@Uniformblvd]

Bro the ad at 29:00 nearly took my head off in AirPods 😂

[@jackiegerarde9938]

Omg me too

[@AlexandruPap]

Right. Same for me.. but good program tho..

[@Respect2theFallen]

Cuz his audio is terrible. I'm having to crank my audio up like 16 notches to still barely hear it. I think imma pass on this pod today

[@AustinWestbro]

I was watching/listening while driving and nearly crashed 😂. Scared tf outa me haha

[@ihavemetnate]

Same!!!

[@oliviaralston1]

You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in a meme coin from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaires.....

[@tracyholian2944]

You are right, to be a successful person in life require him or her of hard work and time

[@kelseyeadelmarr6109]

The thing about been successful is working toward it and not going the other way round

[@ramadhanipongela1360]

​@@betsyschwartz5575I totally agree with you it has been an eye-opening experience for a lot of people.

[@ademusiaka7198]

Investment is the key to achieving success with the current pandemic slowing down so many businesses aww

[@robertgeorge238]

Talking about been successful. I know I am blessed if not I wouldn't have met someone is as spectacular as Stacy Griffin

[@deaglefly4338]

Have Greene on a few dozen times, can’t get enough of you guys together

[@kyrstenbryant5135]

Robert Greene has profoundly changed the way I understand my own dark side and drive for power and also how to channel it into doing good,while not lying to myself about what it really is..still a drive for power. As a woman its a very challenging thing for people to accept because its viewed as a very masculine trait.. I find his work to be incredibly important on the path to self discovery both my own and other people’s motives. Acceptance of this fact almost exclusively has been the thing that has allowed me to first,break myself down and then to put myself back together differently.. Denying these parts of ourselves is extremely dangerous,but learning to live with both parts of ourselves the light and the darkness allows us to make different choices about how we move through the world..instead of manipulating situations to get what we want,we can learn to channel these parts of ourselves to help other people get what they need and that satiates my desire to go to war for the wrong reasons and instead use it for good.. Thank you Tom for engaging in conversations that aren’t always for the faint of heart..they are so necessary.

[@117Industries]

Lol- it’s not a masculine trait. It’s a trait of the living! Pseudo “men” are threatened by this life instinct in others. But some of us accept it as a necessary energy for living things to propagate themselves. Edit: that being said, I do think men tend to be the sex who manifest this in the greatest abundance.

[@GP-lg6np]

you have to understand that --inherently-most women do not understand the concepts of honor and integrity. I hope the book can help you find those traits

[@ashourinasada]

As always, these conversations are so enlightening and help to really step back and reflect deeper. I love it! Thank you to both of you!

[@thenaturalpetdoctor]

Love this interview - so important for people to hear this information. Thanks for always sharing helpful content!

[@kat9587]

One of your best interviews ever - thank you 🙏

[@BangkokVoiceCoach]

OMG, Tom you should interview Tom! I could listen to you all night, you are so open and honest.

[@charmainelumangyao]

As always, amazing interview and conversation! ❤️

[@luismendez3090]

one of the best interviews because it shows a vulnerable side to Robert Greene, a human side which is very emotional and introspective. So he is a true human being. Thanks

[@lilamnbdh967]

Amazing interview 🙏, thank you so much Tom.

[@ChemainesModelHealth]

My favorite episode yet! Thank you both 🙌🏻

[@ashleymichelle0713]

Feel like I need to watch this a few more times to fully grasp and reflect on everything. Amazing content thank you to both of you ❤

[@bunnylopez1808]

Amazing content. I mean Tom and Robert going back and forth about inner self work. 🤯🤯🤯 saving this gem for rewatching.

[@munchkinsophie]

this is one of my favorite episodes Tom. Thanks for all the value you provide. I liked your "rough formula" that leads to fulfillment it completely makes sense and it resonated with me

[@colinestephens2404]

I understand what you are saying, it breaks my heart to see that in this time of so call modern technology human has lost the ability to think or reason for themselves, in my humble opinion this is our down fall as human. We focus on ego and forget about love. One reason I enjoy your journey so much is because I see your passion to uplifting other in a time when tearing down our brothers and sisters is th he current trend 😢 Keep being your true self

[@djcrazygatl]

Hey there great content as always. Thank you for having Robert G. Back on your podcast. I do have to say though that commercial you have inserted in between certain segments it really loud I work with audio. I suggest a compressor on the final mix for you audio, let me know if can help. The visuals (video) set, lighting, camera switching is 🔥🔥🔥👏👏👏

[@LeandroDaRosaMarques]

We love Robert. Great stuff here. Thanks Tom.

[@matnelson541]

I get so much out of things when you guys team up. Every time you have Robert Greene on, and the back and forth of questions and answers that come out of it are so simplistically accurate and so effective. It definitely gives me a shit ton to chart my course as a better individual but also how to handle society better in these shifting times.

[@triciamedora9274]

Thank you so much, Tom and Lisa, for sharing your journey and what you have learned. Your success hasn't made you any less down-to-earth, and that's a great gift you share with the world 🌎! Your work among remarkable individuals, rather than simply donating to a charity, is transformational. You are setting an example of action, not just words. Your dedication is appreciated 🌈🧡

[@vmavpt74]

thanks again for bringing specialists and conducting great interviews.

[@pennyruth7678]

Woe admitting I am weak hit me to the heart. Itvis my biggest estate struggle is FEELING weak and TRYING so hard to look strong

[@mihaelaclaudiap..2]

Time well invested when I watch your videos Tom, you and your wife are amazing! Mr Greene is really good!

[@lindyvandenbosch9539]

I love his wife Lisa too

[@tjs6586]

i love robert greene....keep him coming

[@veekwriter]

the best interview with Mr. Greene so far yet across all the various different interviewers! Tom, you and Robert have such rapport and passion about the same things that finally I’m enjoying your podcast and interviews with Mr. Greene. I’m really impressed. Now I have to get his audiobooks. Thank you, both!

[@stephanieanderson8494]

This is so amazing and deep. This will help me in figure out why my life is unsatisfying but to look inward instead of finding some other distraction that helps temporarily. Thank you.

[@fullbellygod]

That was good - took the words right out of my mouth.

[@nissimrandall1535]

Thank you both for making so much sense. It really does help!

[@alexlimion2624]

I am so grateful for you Tom, so grateful to see Robert who I’ve deeply respected, frankly loved in a platonic sense , for many years

[@josecabrero26]

I I appreciate all your work Tom

[@alexpavlides2047]

One of my favourite Impact Theory sessions. Thanks!

[@mitsukosuki]

Great timing!! I needed this today!

[@user-eg5oz7dr3i]

❣️❣️❣️❣️

[@dawnmiller5263]

Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@samairasadia9086]

Thanks for the most valuable video

[@cryptoenthusiast4999]

My absolute favorite author.

[@mayurpatil5872]

My Favorite Author 💯

[@reneegoudreauaudio]

Thank you as always for helping me look inward. I really loved the topic of self absorption and the ugly energy in the zeitigest. I think we are all navigating the mirror or should we say “black mirror” and there’s a lot of different ways to interpret what we see and how it affects our identity.

[@user-eg5oz7dr3i]

📩📩📩🖕

[@parkerhousemedia]

Really enjoying the interview so far I wanted to let you know that the volume is pretty low. Anyway, thank you so much for doing this!!!!

[@dakine4238]

Would have .over to hear more from the guest. Appreciate Tom's input as well but would love to hear more from the guest.

[@apprenticedtopicbookcritic101i]

Yes great content Robert Greene

[@shaundenniscovington]

Agreed! Always great questions and deeper answers it’s insane how much i feel i learn from the two of you. Also also, yeah the audio is really not working. Some part of me feels like it has to be on purpose. Of all the the things that could be wrong, it’s the audio is going in and out? I don’t buy it lol. Anyway thanks again for posting Tom and the impact theory team.

[@marykellysantos8532]

Omg I love when he’s on the show

[@bryancappellettidesa]

Robert is genius. Great interview!

[@yaesmucho]

During Covid i had to leave the gym, lost more than 13kg since, I started running. 1km was way to much at the beginning, feet and muscles hurt. Today 10km is easy. But I haven't built started my idea, which is finally two days ago doable.

[@monicamarshall6930]

I'm going through a lot of changes this year loved one's passed, kids grown up and I decided to come out of retirement so I can be around people and feel like I have purpose.

[@triciamedora9274]

I wasn't prepared for this LOL I feel the same way. Good luck to you on this chapter. There is so much to enjoy.

[@psrsusana6091]

Is anyone going to tell Tim that his life’s work is learning to check his ego? It’s all over this interview, Robert does a great job trying to have him face the mirror.

[@luce6283]

Isn’t that all of us (except the majority never even know that they need too)

[@thatswhatisaidCA]

Uh, it's Tom not Tim... Don't know if it's ego; I think he's aware of himself and his achievements and accepts them and gains energy from it. I would say many or most people don't often work on this, so maybe we don't recognize the difference...? Just a thought.

[@cugir321]

@@thatswhatisaidCA Susana is projecting....she didn't listen to all the video.

[@msBeabeat]

No I agree. Dude seems to really love to hear himself talk about himself when the guest is the highlight.

[@NataliaAnayeli]

Such a fascinating interview

[@connielee3495]

This was wonderful!

[@danielbrown7657]

Agreed on audio. Fix the commercial volume

[@joeystarr4746]

53:00 brilliant. Everyone should listen to this part.

[@fullbellygod]

Thanks for that tip, Joey. If you keep watching from that point for a few minutes, there’s some stuff that can really have an effect.

[@brilliantmindsofficial]

one of my fav people in the world ROBERT GREENE.

[@princewet]

Thanks Tom you have inspired me to expand explore and to be legendary

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

This was an incredible episode. Thank you, Tom and Robert.🤍💫

[@IamGeeOne]

Fullfilment = continued growth (challenging) + gratitude + contributing positively to the community.

[@TheTruthAboutBitcoin]

I’m only 15 minutes in and this is by far the best interview with Robert on ALL platforms and i have probably seen around 20 or so interviews total. incredible!!!

[@MrPelikan500]

0:29 get to the *ROOT CAUSE* of your problems ... 1:55 we don't listen to our *IMPULSE VOICES* ... (thanks Robert ! ! !, learnt something new from AM) i can see how this is the Root Cause of *Akrasia* - Acting Against My Better Judgement ... we are "alienated" from who we are ... so we do things Against Our Impulse Voice ... intuition 53:00 Tom's Equation for Fulfillment ... nice to hear it again as reminder E.F. Schumacher has these 3 concepts of *GOOD WORK* - taken from Buddhism 1. provide Essential Goods & Services 2. work in groups to rid Ego 3. the work develops our Faculties 1:21:05 we need *PROGRESS* as a fundamental element of progress ... rememeber school, how every class we learnt something new, imagine repeating every class twice, that would be hell ! ! ! 😀 .

[@YaseenKhaliiq]

Great episode ! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@nathalieforest8497]

56:40 in the conversation. Art is done in the moment. GREAT ARTISTS are creating in the moment. VERY SOLITARY . The posterity of their work does not depend on their ambition but in their PERTINENCE ACROSS TIME, YEARS, CENTURIES even. Art is therapy allowing to get your shit out there no matter the result. It is very satisfying

[@jackiegerarde9938]

So great!

[@markdeffebach8112]

Love the content! Please optimize/maximize/compress volume of content to match the volume of ads. Thank you.

[@sesame7551]

Very interesting perspective!

[@johnostensen]

Social media is a mirror of human nature

[@lexhimself876]

Great content as usual, audio was low for me though

[@theowenssailingdiary5239]

Envy is a survival mechanism, and is how we learn and improve and derive motivation. Knowing you are envious and trying to tame it might not be such a good idea. Trying to go through life without making others envious can only mean you end up on the lowest of rungs, surely. I don't believe we can really make decisions different to those we are hard-wired to make... Not really anyway.

[@ndidgenous]

👍As a painter/musician you are soooo on point!! I had great moments of success , exhibits, sales etc but nothing equals the feeling of being alone with your work before it comes out and wandering if you made it , or discovering a new sound or texture and mastering a new instrument. Took me years to learn guitar/didgetidoo/ukulele etc and produce ....once you liberate yourself from the need to be valudated, you are saved!! Recognition is nice but can mess up with you if not prepared. Cheers 👌

[@MXF11]

Appreciate the quotes.

[@asbeautifulasasunset]

One of the things that I found most frustrating in dealing with a destructive, narcissistic sociopath who was my supervisor was seeking help from a psychological source. He talked to me on the phone and had never met me or seen me. When I tried to explain the work behaviors of the sociopath, he told me that I was upset because I was really seeing myself in the mirror when I was viewing and dealing with the sociopath who took pleasure in destroying others' careers for no other reason than she could do it and she got her jollies from it. I was not and I am not a destructive personality who intentionally hurts others in contrast to those who are and can and do choose to do so not only without any remorse but with enjoyment. It still makes me angry that psychologists (and others) tell people they are sociopaths or psychopaths when they are faced with the career destruction from dealing with one!!!

[@wkrphn2009]

tired of crazy people abusing you and then blaming you to be the problem and saying we are all crazy so it's okay.

[@rahabosornotorroella3755]

There are levels. There are people who only have pleasure in hurting others. Wey must be alert. But there are narcisist tendency in everyone because we all need power. Children who do not cry, are children who have given up on seeking power, and as grown ups can be dangerous. I think it is all about levels

[@Platos-Den]

Great episode

[@ivan_k_art]

I think Robert shines in the best possible way on Tom's interviews. There's an undeniable chemistry between the two of them. I'm really grateful for these conversations. But, damn! The amount of adds is off the charts!How much more money do you really need, man?..

[@michaelb1348]

The power argument also ties in with what Jordan Peterson preaches. It is about power and the best thing one can aspire to is to be powerful and capable of doing bad things but to voluntarily choose to use it for good.

[@CristianGarcia-zl6wy]

Jesus Christ Tom is all over the place 😅😂 Kudos to Robert for keeping up and keeping things in track and going back to the point

[@SD-vd1jv]

Yeah wtf lol. Couldn’t agree more and Robert was so patient with him.😇 Glad I’m not the only one who was frustrated by this… I don’t listen to Tom, so going to give him the benefit of the doubt that maybe it was just an off day but holy crap. 😅

[@ana2785]

When I saw that Robert is your guest again, it triggered my dopamine release!

[@catrina1026]

This channel is changing my life!

[@Anthony_Ponce]

Great episode as always. Audio is just a bit too low

[@tfm_patrick]

Yes let’s go!!!

[@himmat7399]

great interview please reupload w fixed audio

[@YuichiTamaki]

It blew my ears!

[@toniazampieri]

Love Robert Greene and this content. Mucho grateful but yeah the audio needs to be tweaked and the number of ads seems to have increased dramatically

[@Doralla1]

Brilliant!

[@user-eg5oz7dr3i]

📞📞📞📞

[@VAGENSTAMUSIC]

R.G. is the genius of our Era!

[@alliegee9985]

Best episode

[@SoloMotivation]

Start Now, Start Today! To win or become successful, you have to begin. Map out the circumstances you need to get ahead in your life, If you cannot find them, make them. Take initiative. So start now...

[@HB-xw6im]

Robert is so polite and patience with this interviewer. The intervier is such a narcissist, makes everything about himself and gives out his opinion bluntly without being asked for. Robert is such a gem 💎

[@lisaknudson4063]

Could you please increase the volume on this interview. I'm really looking forward to this one but can barely hear it as-is.

[@sajusidharthan3995]

This sitting arrangement is better than the previous studio setting.

[@craigdav9740]

Thanks men. Robert has reinvented and made my essence in a way I can’t describe. My English is not good enough to put the right words on it. I am solving my family issues with his books and the books of a French man that’s called Prof. Jean Michel Oughourlian….there are many others of course. Thanks again.

[@duranrussell9978]

Robert Green is most definitely a legend! The modern day Napoleon Hill! Hands down my favorite author. And it’s a honor to see him in this lifetime. I’m looking forward to the next book. His books helps me with the new chapters of my life. Thanks for having him Tom.

[@russkiy6ot]

Thank you, Danny Elfman

[@paulabachsnetnet]

I listen with and headset, and when your ad comes on, the volume is triple of the podcast volume and blows my ears off!

[@KB0W11]

Great podcast Tom! But can you turn the ad volume down.. if you were one of the unfortunate ones to have had headphones in you’d understand 😂 never have I reached for the volume button so fast lolol

[@Jonquilness]

Forever in love with Mr Greene ;)

[@kyrints]

Two things I need to highlight about this upload. 1. I subscribe to your channel because I already love your content and I also subscribe to KZbin because I vehemently dislike ads. 2. The ads in your videos are overpowering and sound is at a unmanageable volume. I also feel that they are a unnecessary evil to have so many times. Have them once in the beginning and then leave the audience to enjoy your creation.

[@VaillancourtLJ]

Great interview! My biggest struggle right now is that I really do not like the government in our country and province (I live in Ontario, Canada for reference). They take money from areas (education and health care) that I think we need it, and pocket more money to make the rich, richer and the poor, poorer. The middle class in Canada has been dissolving for years now. The government can use tax payer's money to go on private jets, expensive trips and fancy dinners and there is no accountability. And the part that frustrates me is that I feel powerless. Yes we can vote, but you are voting for mostly corrupt individuals who can say that they are going to do this, that and the other when they come into power, but if they don't do it once they're in power, there are no repercussions. I can email political officials about my concerns, but whenever I do, I just go an automated response. So again, my biggest struggle is that I feel powerless. I want to create change within our government system, but I don't know how. Any feedback, ideas?

[@orihoola]

How about starting a social group in your community with like-minded individuals?

[@pixledriven]

Tom referenced my favorite Chinese Curse :D!! Agreed, we are definitely living in "interesting times".

[@user-eg5oz7dr3i]

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[@theresecook-bright1757]

Ti listen while I'm driving and this video scares the heck out of me on the commercial breaks!!!! It's so loud I think it's close to blowing my speakers!!!